Sadhguru - How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You [ An Insight on Forgiveness ]
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- If you are having difficulties at forgiving someone, Or you have a feeling of resentment and hositlity towards someone who has hurt you in the past. This video is definetly going to help you.
This video will gives you a deeper understanding of forgiveness. In this video Sadhguru has given an insight on forgiveness and how it hurt us more than the other person.
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"Forgiving you is my gift to you.
Moving on is my gift to myself. " 😊
Yes.. you can always forgive but you must never forget . Let them go.. leave them to be themselves .. Being the bigger person does not mean to forgive the wrong doer's and exist as before .. forgive them and leave them.. is what I think is best !
Actually is not , when you forgive you only heal yourself the other Person May not care about your forgivness, compassion is the Key, forgivness Is a weakness, if you are compassionate you Will be like a Stone Who's unaffected by others negative emotions and you don't Need to forgive anyone because you don't judge anyone and they don't affect your emotions, Sad guru is right, be like a Stone and you don't Need to forgive
I was so angry before this video and after 5 minutes I am in peace. “don’t drink poison expecting the other person to die”
No way, I just have seen the video of sahdguru saying that
Well I don’t want other person to die no matter how terrible they’ve been to me, but I definitely want them to get punished for what they’ve done.
Let the universe itself decide , cause it knows everything better than we do!
But one thing I know for sure - I deserve peace.. just because others are horrible people, I don’t deserve to live in hatred or misery, cause it’s not my fault or responsibility and I’m not guilty for doing those things.
@@What___ever i am legit going thru this omg
Doesn't mean the stupid son of a bitch that pissed you off the first time is ever going to learn is going to continue to torment you. This video offers no help for the people who continue to wrong you. It only tells you you're wrong for feeling that way and fix it internally. It will not fix the shit bag in front of you doing shit bag things.
When we forgive someone the heart feels peaceful
But talking to the same person feels like poison being forced upon you
Yes.. you can always forgive but you must never forget . Let them go.. leave them to be themselves .. Being the bigger person does not mean to forgive the wrong doer's and exist as before .. forgive them and leave them.. is what I think is best !
My family forgive what ever we do accidentally
mistake unknowingly how to ask forgive
Very true.
People hurt us because they would have been hurt in some other way. And there is something weird about being hurt, we tend to pass it onto someone else. Be someone who breaks the cycle. In the end what matters is how compassionate, and peaceful we want to become.
Do some meditation or serve anything on nature may it be a plant, a puppy or a homeless person on the street, then you will start loving yourself more, and naturally become joyful. And when you do you will not only be able to forgive them, but wish them the very best. Life is short don't waste it holding grudges, instead seek what lies within you, and that is everything you need in life.
Not always. People keep saying I’m ugly and that is just the harsch truth. But it makes me so hurt and want to commit suicide but I am ugly and not as pretty as my sister so
The point is when you r with your toxic family for holidays and they have atoxic behavior towards you how can you not feel resentment????
What you have written is simple, but beautiful.
@@stefaniakonstantinidou981 Hope you are doing great. I think forgiveness does not mean we tolerate what someone does to us. if we truly love ourselves we must not allow someone to treat us wrong. we can try compassion first to make them understand, if that does not work, distance. We must speak and act for ourselves as needed "consciously" (respond don't react). But in the end we can always forgive them for the imperfect being that they are (also we) and let them go gracefully.
if we bear grudges to anyone in life it's like drinking poison by ourselves and expecting the other person to die. take it slowly it will be hard to forgive others for the wrong that they do. but ultimately forgiveness drops a heavy lift from us (and them), and we can treat them like just another human being without much negative emotion rising within us, even if the other person doesn't change or forgive us. start slowly see if you can forgive for small things first.. see it yourself bringing a sense of peace within you.. if it doesn't, take a little more time to forgive keeping in mind the beauty of acceptance and letting go. ultimately forgiveness ensures that nothing external has the power to tamper what happens within us. Hope this works for you, else discard. thankyou :)
Thank you.
“It’s up to you if you wanna make a mess of yourself”…damn. That’s a fact right there
“If possible, as far as it depends on you, be peaceable with all men”
When I was a school boy, a teacher used to pull our side hair if we failed to answer the question related to the page from book which he gave us to study. I told a joke to my classmate "He pulls our hair painfully because he thinks we would study by doing so. In order to make his mission failure, instate of studying to avoid his punishment, lets train ourselves and get used to not feeling misery even if we feel the pain when he pulls our hair."
Spirituality is same. Instate to avoiding suffering, lets get used to the suffering without suffering. There is no other hope. Shits has been happening & it will always continue to happen no matter how much we avoid it.
Captain so after getting your degree, you search for a job, then wife, then joy. And you realize it’s not easy to remain happy, so you started hearing sadguru and cycle goes on.. unless you learn some day how to control your shit.😜😜😜
Well said
I've been watching this video and others, looking for way to which to forgive my father, because, as Sadhguru said, anger is literal poison to our system. I went more and more, till I eventually got bored and started procrastinating. I was then happy, then it hit me, a small epiphany. Without knowing, I was letting my anger run its course whilst doing other stuff, like looking through CZcams in how to forgive and watching clips from a show I like, I was still somewhat angry, but it lessened to the point where I don't feel anger no more. Time. Nothing is permanent, not even anger, unless if you invest in your energy to it.
Im american and i vibe with this dude forreal love his insight and how wise he is
No judgement here ..just want to know if being american and vibing with this kind of teaching is something unusual there in america ? Since you mentioned you re from there
Miss Barbie no. Nationality does not make us any different on the inside. You know this.
love him too, from california
You can’t rate his intelligence by the sound of his accent bud, time to read a book!
@@inspiredchange5573 I’m Americans and I would say the disconnect would be in American philosophy and values. It’s vastly different than what he explains and how he explains. I’m a black American so I’m sure some people In America would disconnect based on his nationality or race or something else surface level
I thought that I was so stupid to want to talk to the person that hurt me again. But I still went and did it because I felt like it was a way for me to finally let go. And then we did, spent a few minutes together and talked about what happened to us. When I went home I cried because it felt to good to finally let go of the bitterness that was poisoning my body.
Glad you were able to finally let go.
Yeah I hadda admit my wrongs and really felt the pain of the other side I cried knowing I said sum that could’ve got someone hurt as in me it’s always good to come and think about the situation you put yourself in and others that you hurt by mistake if you are dealing with self pain it’s good to meditate and heal from the pass that hurt you to cause anything on anyone.
This guy really makes you think twice... Thanks Sadhguru
Now i feel that we should make everyone scold us everyday and get used to it ,till we learn to ignore and be happy
That's already happening to me the scolding... 😁😁
deepika v3 said I feel that we should make everyone scold us everyday and get used to it, till we learn to ignore and be happy
lol No, my friend, that is a fallacy. It's a crutch which serves only to numb and to repress. Alcohol does the same thing (serves to numb and repress) but it cannot remove the memories which raise up their ugly heads again once the alcohol has worn off. Nothing can erase memories and nor should they. We need to deal with the hurt the memories bring so that the memories stand in our memory, not as a source of pain but as a source of learning. Hurt people hurt because they have not yet dealt with the issues underpinning the hurt, and have not yet learned from them.
I am here because people are too much hurtful in my life and want to find solution... happy to share some load if anyone interested 🥴🥴
You made my day deepika😁 😂😂
@@HornOkay Hi! i am sorry it's 10 months late... You doing okay now?
I forgive just to find my inner peace not for them but i can never forgot the pain i felt cause of them and how they made me suffring i still have scars in my heart and soul
What exactly happened to you?
I'm interested in your story
I feel also same😑.how you could forgive them?
@@sheheemshehi4715 Forgiveness is not real. How come religion teach forgiveness and hellfire for the unforgiven in the same breath?
You can never forget the pain. But, The pain shouldn't haunt you. It should motivate you to learn more ways of dealing with such people, and help more such victims who have been hurt the same way, forgive in your heart, not in your mind... Because deep down you know that something has happened
They have taken you for granted and do not know your true value. Nobody knows you 100% better than yourself. There's a saying "Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional". You're the one who chooses to suffer. You would've taken such people personally. They weren't meant for you, or weren't interested in you, or lacked something they needed from you. This is my understanding
I remember watching a video of Thich Nhat Hanh, he is a monk, and it gives me another side of the story that I have never thought of. The person who hurts us could probably suffer by themselves. It's easy to live in hatred but when you decide to stop the loop, break the circle of anger and hostility, this world will become a better place and you'll relize that you can become friend with your enemies. And besides, we have caused pains for others, too, we are not perfect and still there're people who forgive us and choose to help us to become a better version of ourselves. If we see things like that, we will feel graceful, peaceful and forgiving others will be much easier. Hope you guys will have a nice day!❤
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I used your kind words in my topic for Speaking skills
Thank you for the help💝
Thanks 😌🍀
Forgiveness is imperative, especially forgiving ourselves. Forgiveness is for our own soul, not the soul of the person who wronged us. Just as being sincerely sorry is for the soul of the wrongdoer. We must let go of anger, hate, guilt. Negative emotions come from fear. Fear is an acquired state. It's learned. Pure Love is our natural state. We are Divine sparks of Love, Created from the Infinite Eternal Divine Love. Try not to think of Eternity in terms of time. The Eternal just IS. The Eternal Love, Light, Divine, Creator. The Hebrew Word for "God" in the Old Testament is YHWH which means "I AM". How simple, yet profound, on so many levels! Namaste. Love & Blessings to everyone.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Very well said
It’s so haaaaaaard 😫
Thank you Shaun. Really helps. 🍀
It's Better not to be in a state where you need to forgive, it's Better be like Stones who are unaffected by others negative Energy.
Fear is innate. There’s a reason half of our nervous system exists
Forgiveness does not change the past but it does change the future. - Paul Lewis Boese, 1967 The Weekly Digest
We all make mistakes, it is part of being human. We all have wanted forgiveness from others. 💯
Sadhguru - you helped me understand that forgiveness does not mean I have to forget. I no longer feel resentment, and I am free of guilt. TY.
"let that shit go"
Forgiving people who deceived us is a challenge indeed
@A Hanif its not easy to believe this . Real world is harsh ! Inhuman people enjoy life and good people suffer !
When one has a lot of anger forgiveness can sometimes be fading away. To forgive and love is key
I'm forgiving every hurts I faced in the past but cant forget,
“It’s up to you if you want to make a mess out of yourself”. Hits very hard.
The best Sadhguru video I have seen so far. Just hit me to the core. I had a sudden shift in perspective.
That’s answered my question on letting things in the past go then. Amazing person. I always assumed by holding hate your winning but it’s other way around in reality.
I looked up “HOW to forgive someone” because I desperately want and need to. Obviously ‘coz I know it’s therapeutic for me.
I’m a fan Sadhguru. And I did NOT get the answer I was looking for.
The tittle turned out to be a clickbait for me.
I need to know HOW and I’ll keep looking for practical ways to really do what I am already convinced I must, FORGIVE.
Thank you anyway, Sadhguru for your soothing presence.
What’s bothering you? Who do you need to forgive?
He partly gave the answer: "they hurt you because that was all they knew"
Start accepting what happened to you. Say to yourself that it's okay what happened and you wish the person who hurt you the best.
It's hard but remember that you do it for you not for them
@@felixfussel8573well said!
Shipra Singh Hi... you can think of it this way. Most people who hurt others do it out of ignorance and deep pain of their own. They are already hurting inside and inflict harm onto others instead of stopping the cycle of hurt and harm onto others. It is easy just to hurt someone and continue the negative cycle than to work on one self. To be honest, those people need compassion which you can send from far away instead of anger and resentment reflected back. It requires level of awareness. I have people hurt me but when I think of them, I realize they are in great misery already. We don’t have to wish them bad or anything. Life is taking care of them. You just need to take care of you and your energies. Having compassion for yourself is important and with more compassion, it will spread to others even those that have hurt or harm you knowing or unknowingly. Hope this helps!! 😊
True. Not that we don’t want to forgive. I’m trying too. 😊😊
Sounds simple enough. Yet releasing the person who offends you can sometimes be a process.
As a child abuse survivor I am finally ready to release my abuser from my consciousness and be at peace.
Thank you.
Wow that message he gave was good! Holy
First time I hear this wise man speak and I’m enthralled. Instant fan, in America
❤️🙏🏾
I understand anger and resentment only harm us. But it's not like we choose to be angry. Isn't it an involuntary response to the wrong doings someone has inflicted upon us. How can we choose to not be angry and how can we get rid of resentment.
Please make a video answering the question.
Milton sadhguru always give the whole concept. And us to decide. I think from this explanation I concluded that forgiveness is necessary because you do it for yourself. Because it's no point hold grudge for other person. Angry is natural but stay angry is a choice
No one can affect how you react to a situation, no reaction is involuntary it's your mind and your choice. No one can take peace from you, you give it away. That's a hard truth but it is, wish you the best
Idk how to choose to not be angry. I feel like you said that anger is an involuntary response to the wrong doings someone has inflicted upon us' Somoene had the nerve to say 'anxiety is simply a choice'!! thats bs! Maybe for tiny matters but I have an extreme anxiety disorder which has ruined my life and I should have told that person so if youre in a serious car wreck that anxiety its caused* is simply a choice? Its called fight or flight response thats wired inside a person. Anger is sometimes a protective emotion that covers wounds but unfortunately it doesnt heal them.
see I was in the same situation and the way I reacted to it still makes me feel terrible. I got bullied in my college. So that was probably the reaction was out of anger. But now when I think about it I don't feel good because after that my reputation became of an angry girl which I'm not. So I will say don't react, try to explain first and if it doesn't work out then just walk away don't react. You will always find people who gonna love you for who you are. You belong to them. Always believe that.
The reason that anger and resentment happen is because we create an concrete boundary towards and event, thing, happening and relates them to me, myself and that boundary that we should behave as what we expected. The act of create solid boundary and set rigid expectation is the problem by its own. If you perform this, two type emotion which unavoidable come along which is happy and hatred. We happy because the boundary that we set work according to what we expect and we automatically hatred when it work against us. The more intense you relates the boundary towards you or the more intense you have the expectation on it, the more intense feeling you will have. The act of create boundary and set expectation is like creating imaginary wound at your body, when you not handle with care, it bring you pain. And you complain pain is not good and ask how to eliminate pain with the open wound that not making sense.
Thank you for sharing this. It was wonderfully and beautifully put!
Thaaank you..
Mch needed dose..
🙏🙏
Forgive your brother's as you will be forgiven from our father in heaven 🙏🏾
Guruji is far better than my relatives
I'm learning to just let it go forgive peace & love
Thank you!!
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I have a sister who used to wrong me a lot as a kid. Even how much I notice things I let it go. No one except me noticed how bad she actually is. She is practically wearing a mask even infront of our own family. I know this because she has openly hurt me a lot so I used to observe her a lot. But when we got older , bad stuff she did for me was hard for me to take in and forgive. It is mainly because or only because somethings she did made a not fixable damage to mine and my mothers connection. Because of things she did I still suffer with how mom is far from me than she used to be when we were small. I used to be her priority, sometimes I used to be all her cared. I never put an effort it came naturally, I always thought it is because I am purely good person. Even as a kid my sister made so many attempts to win my mom over, most of them were about shitting on my head so she can sparkle, fake enough. But when we got older she did more. I had a bf same time she had faked her life and gathered some crowd for her she felt high and mighty about the crowd she has but I knew it was all just her drama. But I only watched and watched away… oneday out of the blue she makes my mom call my bf saying that I am jealous of her blah blah,,, when growing up she tried to make my family believe that she is a big shot, which she isn’t she exaggerated everything, even if she works in a small company she talks like she is working for queen elizabeth and she is a great deal, whereas I was actually working in a reputed big company as a big shot worker truly admired by all my seniors, compared to me she was nothing but when she exaggerated her small life so big I wouldn’t say anything I let her have fun actually all the time I let things slide because I felt pity for her trying to win life through bad stuff. So I didn’t mind her at all. But then oneday she persuade mom to say blah blah stuff to my bf out of the blue. Both of us have no idea why sis said that. I cried a lot, because i had never done anything to hurt her even in my mind compared to millions of things she did. So after that I had the most fierce argument I ever had at home. I was scolding her, mom had believed her, I scold at mom too It was the worst of all fights I ever had. How much I screamed telling mom she is lying all she does is lying and that she has no idea how much I have gone through because of things she does, but when I say them in anger mom had no time or no evident enough to believe me. Because I was talking about a history since we are kid, that day my words hurt her a lot too I was far way hurt, Since my words hurt mom , sis used that also as a turning card for her and made mom away from me, she is manipulative in ways you can’t imagine. My mind goes nuts I am the beautiful girl in my family, i had a bf, i had so many friends who cares and respect for me, i even tried to set her up with my goody good friends non of them liked her, they were like is she looks like you? She doesn’t look a bit like me. I had no single reason to be jealous at her all she had was a better hair than me and a fake crowd she tangled my tricky fakeness. I only pity people like that. I can set aside everything else, but her actions created a cannot fix gap between me and my mother, it started 10years ago until today she used to implant bad stuff in her mind making me more unreachable to mom, making mom’s believe in me zero percent. She won it😢. I can bear anything else she won mom. In all shitty ways she can. Now when I talk to mom about things I can see clearly she listens to them like i am lying or saying something useless even if it is a great deal. Thats where she and I are now… all I want is my mom to believe me. Because I am the good one here. Sis is acting it all she is manipulating her. I know for a fact she is gonna use mom to the best she can as long as she has some use of her. For one or two years she tried to make mom sell a land in my name mom bought it under my name, but mom didn’t proceed with that she asked my idea I said don’t because it has a long family history and it was sold to us by one of our relatives. Sis tried to buy a land for her if she cud sell my land then she make mom use that money to buy a land for her. Time to time when I remember how badly she ruined mom and me, those 10years, it ripped my soul apart without mom I was alone even in family I became a loner no one believes, no one to take my side. It changed me drastically that pain that anger of seeing her change mom. It was too much for me to handle, it changed who I am , it stole cheerfulness, happy no stress kid I used to be. I used to be a type of person who would stay with happiness even sky is on my head. But all that changed after mom and I started to have distanced. Karma has worked a lot on my sis for so many things she did. She also know bad things she did she also know what she was paying for. But she kept going making sure that mom and I don’t get close. I know how fake she is, i also know because mom loves so much they can’t see through their children’s deception. But I know oneday she is gonna hurt mom a lot it pains me that mom won’t even know who pained her she would never understand it is her. It pains me to know she did all this and she is leaving mom with me with wounds that won’t get cured. She got a bf finally from a proposal. He kind of changed her into good a bit but my sis is a serpent that won’t change. I need advice how do I go back to mom and I who used to love me a lot believed in me a lot, how do I get my that mom back. How do I expose my sister to mom before she hurt her,,, because all my sis does is use people as opportunities fits for her… if she feels like she doesn’t want mom anymore depending on her shitty capabilities I can’t imagine how far she would go. I want mom to see through her deception and realize all I cried and asked to believe was 100% true. That I am not the bad guy in our story. I want everyone know who she is behind that mask. I don’t wanna hurt to make her hit rock bottom but I want her to be exposed thats the only way she can’t do drama anymore. It pains me a lot if she didn’t involve mom and involved someone else I would be at this state suffering. I am very sensitive to every little detail. In my family i was the easy to break type, i get shocked at things when others stay like rocks, I need some advice. Because of mine and moms gap, I don’t feel like I wanna forgive her anymore. I disgust her most of all I hate her a lot, I don’t like it I can’t even take it, but I do hate sis a lot. Sometime it scares me angers me to think she will get away with every bad shit she has done without getting exposed. That really angers me, I can’t even control my anger. What can I do to make peace with me.
I have read the whole text you have typed.I don't know what to say.'cause to me your words look matured and strong.I can't even imagine how you survived those 10years .I was like probing through comment section because I was suffering some thing similar.When compared to your lose and pain mine is nothing .My grandma always say that God thrive bad people with good life and prosper.I do believe that .But as a great observer I believe that you will be rewarded for what you have done whether good or bad.Sometimes our succes may not be our enemy's fall.There was a man in our locality .He used to be a very bad man with mouth and deeds .He had hurting a lot of people since decades .He grew and grew just with the money from his small shop .
This was the instant when my grandma mentioned that statement.When he was 70 that happy rich man was beaten all way down by the act of karma for just 3s .All those years he grew and grew by killing others hearts .but the destiny neede just 3s of all his life to destroy him .His one and only son died in an accident.His 3 children and jobless wife became orphans.Now when you look at those people you can see those watery eyes whole day .That man's wife 's eyes were all filled with tears when she come to church .He works so hard day and night to pay loans of their huge house .So my dear friend that's it .
Ur sister is so mean. I can understand what u went through bcz i went through almost same situations. I would advise u to cut off from them. Go live ur life far from them. U will b happier
The question he asked was how to draw the line between establishing accountability and forgiveness. He answered why we should learn to forgive for our own sake, but not how.
That is the point. No one can tell you how. Its something you have to realise yourself and act on it. People can only tell you why and that should be enough if you really want to get ahead.
@@cuttostah 'No-one can' is a belief. If one has forgiven, one can tell how from experience. Also, I can sense condescension in your tone. I hope I am wrong.
@@weenietherescuedog9584 Sorry if I sounded arrogant. Didn't mean to. One can share their experience but not everyone has the same thing going on. To forgive, you must realize why. How is someone supposed to tell you 'how'? It is you who forgives and only you truly know if you have let it go. If it had been that easy people might not roam around seeking these answers. And about the 'belief' part if you believe someone can tell you how to forgive then that's good. Personally I feel people can only guide, it's me myself that will figure out and find the true solutions within me.
Hope you have a good day/night😊
I'm trying to answer similar questions myself.. In the meantime I suppose you'll find this video proper czcams.com/video/rKuBJUSRNHc/video.html
@@cuttostah my friend, you still sound patronising. You have no compassion towards what I am going through. You made it about yourself, what you personally feel. 'How is someone supposed to tell you how?' Learn the art of communication by Thich. For anyone unable to find forgiveness in them, it's okay, I see you. ♥️ I have been reading on the being app, and it's helped me find forgiveness for my abusers.
I love you Sadhguru
Thank you so much for this message. I forgive him.
Thank you,🙏
This is a very good speech...
Thank you 🙏🏽
Wise! Thank you sir!
i love you sadhguru
Thanks
Thank you
😭 thanks a lot
Totally agree to your wise words , thank you Sadhguru ❤️ 🙏
I appreciate this
So, acceptance is a part of forgiveness; accepting the lack of humanity brought to your life by immorality. Then dealing with it how you are able, by the Law you invest your faith in. Forgiveness is not accepting wrongs, just accepting what reality is... Then living with the insights, to be free. To be successful, as this mentor has informed us.
lots of information on the problem but very light on a concrete solution to stop habitual negative thinking
I really understand... sometimes i really difficult to control emotions when we face that kind of situation
there is a root to everything
I felt disappointment also at 2:00 . Thank you for increasing the wisdom in the world.
I am a believer of the teachings of Jesus Christ, God's son who died on the cross so we can all be forgiven. Therefore, I forgive others so that I can be forgiven. For Jesus did not die on the cross for nothing and I want to live a life that he died on the cross for me to live. So I forgive. God bless everyone 🙏♥️
It's perfect. Never thought about it that way. By trying to avenge, we are actually poisoning ourselves
This lovely talk is about WHY we should forgive, but it is not about HOW we can learn to forgive.
Perfect
Once in my life, I hugged my MIL even though I felt angry and disappointed in her because of how she treated me. I hug her because despite what she did to me and what I feel about her, I choose not to do bad things but the pain is still in my heart until now because I left them they are my family I left.
Interesting 😃
I love his unique body language
When there is negative emotion, it is a sign that we are not in tune with reality. Our perception is distorted, and we need to examine our fundamental beliefs that are causing such pain. A lot of the time anger is simply a symptom of a much larger problem. I think it's important that we understand what these emotions mean in order to transcend them. You can just say "just stop being angry" and then you're cured. There is a fundamental misunderstanding about ourselves and the world that is causing this pain. We need resolution to transcend. If you look up Bryon Katie, she actually has a process that allows people to address the beliefs that are causing pain.
Yes!
Anger blocks spiritual enlightenment, you must strive to have a pure bright aura full of positive energy
I ate my roommates last burrito when he wasn’t looking. So, I cut off my pinky finger to offer him as a sign that I was truly remorseful for what I did to his Mexican dinner. It turns out eating that burrito ate me up inside more than I ate that damn burrito. He graciously accepted my digit and then threw it in the trash. It worked like a charm, we are still friends to this very day ❤❤❤
But very difficult to forget the hurting
What if the offense hurts us even AFTER forgiveness? Like if someone beat me and I can’t have kids, how can you forgive and live onward without the ability to conceive. It’s that type of forgiveness I have trouble with. Forgiving something emotional is one thing, but when your actual life has been altered AND the person who altered it doesn’t care, it hurts
This is a forgiveness I doubt many would ever have to deal with. I am so sorry and so sad to hear this has happened to you. It may be a matter of You trying to just find peace for yourself and avoid ever thinking of this person ever....so no more poison for you and your body caused by this other person. Fill your body and blood with love and peace for yourself... May God Bless You.
@@lizaddison5751 thank you. This was just an example, not something that happened to be personally. Thins “like” this, meaning it’s actual damage beyond just feelings. Like if the offense physically altered you, destroyed things you worked for, hindered your ability to grow, something real beyond emotional pain
"Anger, hatred, jealousy are the poisons. If you drink them and expect the other person to suffer. That doesn't make sense. You drink them and you die"
- That understanding hit me...
1000000% facts
1:53 I needed that
What if you forgive and they wrong you again? And again? Do you just continuously forgive?
U forgive for yourself but don't go near them or talk them that's all
God said you have to forgive 70*7
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great
Ironic that he's not a sad guru at all, rather quite a pleasant guru
'sadh' in Hindi means good
I love you
Didnt Really answer the guy's question but shared some interesting things
To forgive someone else is to forgive yourself
In life everyone used to do mistke no one is born fr nt dng any mistke😃n no one stys clean fr whle life without dng any mistke ....bcz its human nature☺️so everyone should undrstnd tht
Pleaseee could you put subtitles thankss🙏🙏
This hit me so hard
Are you okay, did it hurt
Joyce meyer said the exact thing 😮
It would be great if closed captioned could be offered for this video. I, like many others, need them due to profound hearing loss. Thanks.
.....its so hard.
The question that i had wanted to ask shadguru😇😇
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I looked this up today because I had a fight with a friend and we both said hurtful things to each other. I apologized sincerely but they didn’t and I don’t know how to feel about that. I don’t know if to let it go and move on or do otherwise.
OMG that's me rn :(
The hardest person to forgive is yourself because you cannot get away from yourself.
My journey of everyday...I hate everything 😭😡...I love you sadguru 😭❤️...I love everything ❤️😌
And I do not want to love in a cyclic process...want to love in a eternal and infinite way😭❤️
Try viewing the world in a postive way, you no longer will hate everything.
Came here after my Gf broke up with me 2 days before a vacation we had planned for months and then the next day slept with my good friend.....in case your wondering we went on the vacation bc we had other people involved and I found out on the flight here she slept with him and I'm stuck on this vacation for 3 more days trying not to kill everyone. Also we share an apartment and will have to continue living together for 7 more months bc neither of us can afford another place till the lease is up. And I have finals in 2 weeks.....just ranting but this felt good.
Resentment is not necessarily to hurt the other person. I never ever wished the other person to be hurt, but I have a hard time letting it go and being as before.
for most people right now that cannot choose to not drink the poison, you just need to throw the poison literally/physically to your object of resentment.
he/she will surely understand that you are still learning about making choice 100% yours under sadhguru's teaching
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I really need to forgive my mother for all the abuse she put my family through. I really don’t want to share my story here but she completely ruined my life.
I would say security or safety instead of success.
Listen. The good guy speaks calmly. The questioner speaks with an intonation of aggression.
It's easy to say, don't get borhered by outside environment cause u cannot control the outside things but u can control your thoughts.. but in reality it's not possible.
For instance, if your mom is not eating, u will definitely be worried abt that.. it will be not like she is not eating and she is an outside thing so i won't care.
Or if she is bringing u something, u will definitely feel happy abt that..
Now if u say don't get angry when she is shouting on u because your inner peace depends upon you, that is quite silly.. cause if a person is has emotions, he should have either all of the above( worry, sadnese, happyness and anger) or none of them.and he will act upon each and every emotions.. it's not possible to control only anger and show other emotions!
Same happens in case of other people also, if some1 is making u smile u r smilling and if the same person is making u angry, u won't react! How this is possible?
GOD"S power is the only answer, guru's are full of it.
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How do you do that when the person keeps ruining your life ? (And you can’t remove them because they’re family)