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- Hurt by Yourself or Others? Dr. Peterson's Guide to Forgiveness
Feeling the weight of past mistakes? Struggling to forgive someone who wronged you? Dr. Jordan Peterson offers a powerful 6-step framework to heal and move forward in this bite-sized video!
In these 5 minutes, you'll learn:
✅ Step 1: Identify the Error: Uncover the root of the issue. What went wrong?
✅ Step 2: Atonement, Not Punishment: ⚖️ Take responsibility & show genuine remorse.
✅ Step 3: Explain Your Actions: ️ Communicate honestly why you did what you did.
✅ Step 4: The Ideal Path: ✨ Imagine the best course of action you could've taken.
✅ Step 5: Apologize & Commit: Offer a sincere apology & vow to do better.
✅ Step 6: Break the Cycle: Learn from your mistakes & choose differently next time.
This video is for you if:
You're carrying the burden of guilt or resentment.
You're seeking guidance on forgiving yourself or others.
You want to create healthier relationships and personal growth.
Ready to unlock forgiveness and move forward? Watch now! ▶️
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P.S. Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below!
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P.P.P.S. This video is for informational purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Please seek help from a qualified professional if needed.
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I was alcoholic from the day i first drank, 19. I carried on untill i got married, 28. One night my wife and i, went out for a drink and ended up in a Nightclub. When we got home, i couldn't make love to my wife, and blamed her. The next evening when i came home from work, my wife had left a note saying, "good riddens, i should have left you a week after we were married." I went to a doctor, and detailed, warts and all, of my 9 years marrige. "You've got a drinking problem. Sort yourself out, or u will end-up, in a flat, a bitter old man." And gave me a number to ring. I haven't drank in 35 years. My first wife, didn't know, she saved me. I hope her life turned out as happy as mine.
Wow, that’s a harrowing story. Not many people make it out you know? You sound like someone who found peace through it all. I commend you.
I hope you told her.
I like you’re attitude towards your ex wife I hope you both are content wherever you may be
Im glad you turned inward to yourself, thats a step most don't do. You should be very proud of your sobriety :)
@@beverleyreid7572 I don't know where she lives, as she went abroad. But that you for your kind suggestion.
I like how "forgive yourself" is mentioned first. "If I am not the problem, there can be no solution."
Thanks for sharing. You are appreciated👏. ❤️
@@Daily-Elevation I think you meant appreciated? :D Thanks for the clip, I appreciate it ;)
@steve17bf2 Thanks for that.
You are appropriated 😊
@@Daily-Elevation That's hilarious :D
If you don't forgive your parents for turning you into them and making you hate them you can never forget anything. You first have to return to the Father then he will give you love
I think self forgiveness is not a one and done deal. Especially if we mess up really badly. It's a daily practice. We have to forgive ourselves every single day, because some things haunt us for a long time. And for minds that love to torment themselves, forgiveness is that thing that the tormented mind avoids doing.
That's beautifully put. 😍
Thanks for sharing 👍
This is well said and very much true for me. Although, I believe their are cases where some human beings have major revelations that can change certain patterns instantly. Bless you friend! 🙏
Title: The Church of Silent Self-Forgiveness
Introduction:
The Church of Silent Self-Forgiveness is a sanctuary of inner peace and personal growth, offering individuals a path toward self-forgiveness and liberation. Despite its name, it operates without membership or formal structure, providing a philosophical framework for individuals seeking solace and absolution within themselves.
Core Tenets:
1. Solitude: The Church of Silent Self-Forgiveness honors solitude as a sacred space for introspection and self-discovery. Individuals are encouraged to embrace moments of quiet contemplation, allowing them to understand their past mistakes and find inner peace.
2. Internal Reflection: The philosophy emphasizes internal reflection as the primary means of addressing past mistakes. Without external expressions of regret or guilt, individuals delve into their inner selves to acknowledge, understand, and then let go of their burdens.
3. Self-Liberation: Central to the Church's teachings is the belief in self-liberation from the weight of past mistakes. Through forgiveness and self-compassion, individuals learn to free themselves from the burden of regret and guilt, enabling them to embrace a future filled with possibility.
4. Compassionate Release: The Church promotes compassionate release of past mistakes, emphasizing understanding and kindness toward oneself. Rather than dwelling on the past, individuals acknowledge their imperfections, understand them, and then consciously choose to let them go.
5. Personal Growth: The philosophy values continual personal growth and self-improvement. Individuals are encouraged to use internal reflection as a tool for positive change, fostering resilience, and embracing opportunities for growth.
Practices and Reflections:
1. Silent Contemplation: Followers of the Church engage in solitary periods of deep contemplation, immersing themselves in the tranquility of silence. Through silent reflection, individuals seek to understand their inner struggles and find resolution within themselves.
2. Mindfulness Practice: Practitioners of the Church cultivate mindfulness and present-moment awareness, grounding themselves in the here and now. Mindfulness enables individuals to let go of past regrets and future anxieties, finding peace in the present moment.
3. Inner Release: Followers participate in the process of inner release, symbolizing the letting go of past mistakes. This process is entirely internal, devoid of external rituals or gestures. It involves acknowledging the past, understanding it, and then consciously choosing to release it, enabling individuals to move forward unencumbered.
Conclusion:
The Church of Silent Self-Forgiveness offers individuals a sanctuary of inner peace and personal growth. Through solitude, internal reflection, and compassionate release, followers find liberation from the weight of their past mistakes, embracing a future filled with hope and renewal within the quiet sanctuary of their own hearts and minds.
Becoming aware of the trauma and deficiency that drives "bad or offensive behavior is the key first step in self forgiveness." I was blind to the many forgotten traumas and socialized deficiencies I have.
All of them work in concert to form low self-esteem and lack confidence and conspire to generate a sense of lack.
From there, many shadows were formed. And a list of imbalanced behaviors I always felt bad about but never confronted. The embarrassment, which was connected to having no parents and childhood teasing, then generated a nice guy syndrome but other secretive behaviors that weren't so nice.
Once I began to confront that shit the flood gates opened.
This process is hard and painful.
I read that forgiveness is often a lengthy process that finally carries us to acceptance.
And acceptance helps us to deal in reality and not the fantasy of bargaining with ideas like; if I forgive them, they won't do it again."
So what he's saying is that to be able to forgive yourself you need to figure out what you did wrong and why, *exactly.* Basically, knowing the truth will set you free.
I love the way you put it.
Thanks for sharing 👍
So...what you mean is....😂
💯❤️🏴
Loved this!
What if u didn't do anything wrong?
I can forgive people but I do not wanna interact with them again.
Some do not merit that you do .
Yes, I have learned not try hard w friends, try hard with me, and 2 so called friends I have said enough I'm going to give Myself all the friendship I no longer give them.
Forgiveness is supposed to mean it's as if something never happened.
His care in describing the landscape of the issue and the correct way to think about it shows his deep concern for humanity - to the extent that he places the correct weight on every single word that leaves his mouth in pursuit of truth. Hard work borne from deep empathy for others wellbeing.
I gave up drinking almost nine years ago
It's taken time to forgive myself for selfish behaviour back then
I hurt myself and my family
Thankfully, our relationships have healed
I've been my hardest judge
Having more empathy and compassion. But returning to being something "you are not" is hard once the heart and mind are in a different place. Kindness needs to be improved as well. I forgive myself, but I also forgive others. Plus, I do not always have to be in a state of anger or resentment; that is for people who are sick and can't figure out why they are always sad, resentful, or angry. Not my problem. I can let go and put it to rest by recalculating my mind and changing my thinking. The best part is to let go of my feelings and thoughts. You can restructure your mind like driving a car automatically to change your thinking. We are not living in a circumference of cycles; we can ignore the cycle of negativity and stupidity and generate a new cycle of positivity where your mind and heart are at peace all the time, there is no need to upset any organs in your body due to a person, it is not worth it, at the end everything will balance out and life fixes itself, even when we get involve or not.
I find it easy to forgive but it's much harder to forget.
Thanks for sharing.
I don't think forgetting is the point. I think the point is to not be hurt by the memory.
You're appreciated 👏
You don't have to forget. Anyway it's not possible.
That’s the truth.
@@Daily-Elevationdr. Peterson I had a friend (we were both evangelical Christian’s) who I was best friends with for 35 years. I decided to convert to traditional Latin Catholicism (without her permission) and she went absolutely ballistic, told me I was going straight to hell, and many other terrible things. I mean she called me awful names and said terrible things you’d never expect to come from a Christian. So I cut her out of my life so I could be at peace. I stay as far away from toxicity as possible. Then one day I got an email from her through linked-in, of all places, because I had her blocked everywhere else. So I let her talk and she sort of apologized and I forgave her, as we are to do as Christian’s. Darned if about six months ago she started in on the same behavior again. So I’m done. No more. I am not going to have a heart attack because some chick enjoys drama. My son asked if I would forgive her again if she asked for forgiveness. My answer was yes, but I can’t be friends with her. I’ll never trust her again. And we are elderly. Broken friendships don’t heal easily when one is old. So there’s my two cents.
Never will I forget but always forgive ❤❤❤❤you must
I forgive myself for having a big heart. I repent every good deed I've ever done and every life I've ever saved, I framed myself to others as a fool. I've changed, I can watch someone perish and suffer and not do a thing. They need to learn from their mistakes, right? Live and let die...I will stick to taking care of critters!
Learn… grow… never repeat.. never look back.. never forget.. change for the greater.. never stop learning and changing and growing.
Thank you Dr Peterson.Althogh they cancel your licence, I still believe that you are a legitimate Doctor.
this is the best "how to" ive ever heard regarding forgiveness!
Thanks for sharing 👍.
You are appreciated 👏 💐
Grateful, very grateful for this. It's the missing link to finding self compassion for myself. Incredible, the defence lawyer in me, has balanced the scales. Powerful message ❤ Thank you
For all the warriors in the comment section
Shoutsout 👏
I violated a friend's privacy and when she was angry I doubled down and called her crazy. I had never done anything that wrong before, so I didn't understand conflict well. What I have learned is to find out what someone's "no ways" are, by asking questions about them and not just keep it all safe, and to really pay attention to them. I still so regret it 18 years later
"You have to rake yourself over the calls until you learn but not more than that because after that is counterproductive, what you have to foster is improvement" "Atonement is possible and forgiveness appropriate when you've learned your lesson"
Thanks. You're appreciated 👏
Coals*
Some people don't deserve forgiveness but they deserve the right to forgive themselves and move forward
All deserve forgiveness in the eyes of God
Forgiveness is not something you give to a person. It's something you make aware of yourself of that person. It means you no longer hold it against that person but you're going to keep your eyes on that person and hold them accountable in the future.
As an alcoholic in recovery who lives with the consequences of my mistakes daily, I find forgiveness of self and of the person who helped break me a damn near impossible thing to achieve at the present moment. I am in a 12 step program and I know that in time the truth will reveal itself more completely, and I do have a great deal of awareness and honesty about the situation and myself. I keep thinking that distance and days of sobriety added up will take me further from my past self and thereby help me heal and forgive myself and this other person. I want it more than anything because it really is a torturous cycle and as an addict that kind of thinking can pull me right back into that hole I don't know how I fell into. I pray for the ability to forgive and I am trying to be gentle with myself but it's just not coming to me like I had hoped. I dont know if it's something I have to chip away at little by little or what, but as usual JP has given me alot to think about and I hope and pray that I will let us both off the hook one day and finally feel at peace. I know the past doesn't exist and all we have is right now, but right now I feel haunted by someone who's nearly dead but on life support within me. Please pray for me 🙏❤️
My thought is that you have a good level of self awareness and that bodes well for future and for your finding peace, Don't think about how long you remain sober . Never mind sober/ not sober. Focus on letting God guide your life and also let God work out the situation you have to iron out with anyone. Above all - be patient. This takes time. One small practical piece of advice. Often times when I'm convinced that I need "a drink" I just drink some juice or something and the urge goes away. You don't need a drink. When I was 26 I heard a voice . It said "acquiesce". Surrender . Hand your life over to me. I will take care of these situations. God Bless you.
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JP is the therapist I needed. So grateful to be able to watch this
Very helpful man.
Thanks for sharing 👍
Where has this message been all my life? Thank you!
Ive been whipping myself about the past for so long, it does not hurt anymore.
Glad to hear that you are moving in the right direction. Thank you very much for sharing your story.
You're appreciated 👏 💐
😢 me too but it still hurts
@@skyblue-df2od actually mine hurts too. Comes and goes.
I just had a self reflection thinking on what I have done wrong over the course of my life. I can't believe I got this at the very moment when I was criticizing myself. That's why I look up to Jordan Peterson. He's always there to guide you exactly where you'll mess up.
You are right. This man's wisdom is so powerful and practical.
Thanks for sharing your story. You are truly appreciated ❤️
this video found me at the moment I needed it the most.
Thanks for sharing 👍 😊.
I only try to be better than yesterday & keep my conscience clear ❤
Hi I met a young man on train regular guy struggling going to Manchester every day he looked tired I sat next to him me an old white lady and touched his sleeve he looked at me a large black lad and we just smiled I told him listen to Jordan Patterson weeks later I saw him smiling standing tall going off to Spain for job all down to YOU our hero Christine xx
That's beautiful. Thanks for sharing 👍 😊
3:09 Yup, that’s me after an unlikely act of forgiveness ‘Yes, humankind I forgive you. Now fuck off. I don’t want to be anywhere near you. EVER AGAIN’.
You're not alone buddy, we all make this mistake.
@How_to_Peaceoffical like a grown up
I've been there.
Thanks😮
Great. You show character .
I am 73. When I was 19 I made a terrible mistake and through my lack of knowledge of how to act, or where to go to for help, I really harmed someone. I have asked for forgiveness from God, but I can’t forgive myself.
Thanks for sharing. Hope you get help.
Maybe you’re prayer to God shouldn’t be for forgiveness but for the strength and courage to forgive yourself…
you made a mistake . now what do you do every day that you have not forgiven yourself? . you keep harming everybody around you . ah, don’t take my word for it - consult your own deep wisdom . the thing to consider is: is it violence to harbour non-forgiveness?
I took comfort from Christ forgiving those alongside Him on the Cross
Beautiful 😍
Thanks.
Thank you ❤I’ve made terrible mistakes with friends and had a great relationship and went into self destruction mode I’ve asked for forgiveness from God and from myself and I will move forward ❤️
Thank you.
I hope you find all that is meant for you.
I truly appreciate you. 🙏
This is the most helpful video on forgiveness I’ve seen. He breaks it down on what to do and how to tell when you are ready to forgive and engage with the world once more. Thank you for this clip!
This has helped me a lot.
Thanks for sharing your insights and breaking it down. 🙏
You're appreciated 👏
Jordan is like a father figure in a way, to me anyway. I had a dream my dad was giving me a caring empathetic hug, & it turned out to be Jordan. I’m always turning to his advice even if ain’t in person
I do not want beating myself up for the past to stop me from. Doing the good I could do today
That's the best way forward.
Thanks for sharing 👍
Mr.Jordan - from the bottom of my heart! Thank you! Love your talks - 💜🙏🏻💜
Thanks for sharing 👍 😊
5:06 Oh, there you go. What was I just said? Self- awareness has a hefty price, Peterson, I am not surprised people actively avoid it.
Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts 🙏
They cant avoid it...they just dont want to hear it often that they are bad and most are.
@@JoanVliegen Nonsense. Self- awareness requires a minimal cognitive ability to reflect. As the saying goes, being stupid is like being dead i.e. unaware of their condition. Add to that unwillingness and, voilà, there you have it. The wonderful human species.
People avoid self awareness because they're pretty sure they're going to find some things about themselves that they don't like.
@@bellavia5 I don’t blame them. The moral categorical imperative has been replaced by the ‘know thyself’ which betrays the arrogance of the intellect. Even if someone could put the content of the ocean of the unconscious in buckets by carrying its content with the sieves of reason, then, what? How can a person be integrated in a chaotic society that promotes chaos as not only normal, but desirable in the name of a forever elusive ‘build back better’? Listen. Crosses have always been raised by sadistic executioners posing as wise people; the ideologies they bark whilst nailing people are irrelevant.
This has helped a lot! I used the transcript to follow the recommendations for something negative that’s happened recently.
There should be an end to our suffering as quickly
As possible after we fail so we can learn from our missteps and prevent a repeat.
We should all learn this early on!
This has helped me also.
Thanks for sharing 👍
Easy to find fault in anyone...
Very easy.
I was the problem. The problem for me, and therefore the problem to others.
I'm going to therapy now and I'm getting better. Thank you Dr Peterson for being a mentor and a help to my life. For myself, for my family, and for my beloved; that I hurt the deepest by my being my own problem.
God Bless you Dr Peterson from the bottom of my heart
Thanks for sharing.
You are appreciated 👏 💐
THANK YOU ❤❤❤❤❤
AND SO IT IS ❤❤❤❤❤
Yes my compasss is direct by God. I have more decernment today. I enjoy ur program.
감사합니다.
매우 감사합니다.
당신은 큰 변화를 만들었습니다.
Thank you...this helps
I'm glad it helped you. It helped me a lot also.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts 🙏
Excellent delivery of such a challenging habitual stigma - always a pleasure to investigate your perspective
Thank you very much.
Forgiveness can thoroughly come only because God said it was possible and His greatest desire for us, and then to be one with Him. We either believe it because of Him, or we don't. Anything else is trying to atone via shame or our own way to pay for it. Forgiveness just doesn't work that way. Peterson's details are right on, but not without first being founded on the truth of real forgiveness from God.
Thanks!
Thank you very much. Glad to be at your service.
You are making a huge difference
I think it's good to reflect on one's past mistakes to determine the reason why we made them. We don't need to bash ourselves but it's important to know the why - to learn the lesson. Personally this approach helped me especially since I was a single parent for so long and made a ton of stupid mistakes trusting people I shouldn't hsve. I've changed that in my life as I realized I placed myself last. I made mistakes and was quite hard on my kids bsvk then but loved them dearly and was afraid they'd go into the wrong track. We all want our kids to do well, be accepted by society and we want them to be disciplined, happy and successful. I took it too far. Today I feel such remorse about that and am working on that so that I can forgive myself. 😊
Forgiving yourself often involves forgiving others (not that you shouldn’t move on etc etc) but sometimes it just involves you and you alone which when thought about in both scenarios, it does .
There is no forgiveness, only understanding. No one can judge you, but you.
You're right ✅️ 😌.
Thanks for sharing 👍
Don't agree with you. You can judge yourself incorrectly whether too strictly or to passively. Only the King can judge you. You aren't yours. Not yelling at you, may you rest in His embrace forever.
Jordan is a very intellectually sharp man!
This man is a perfect role model 👌.
Thanks for sharing 👍
Ok. This is my new favorite video on youtube. Wow.
Thank you very much 😊
Excellent analysis and advice. Thanks Dr Peterson
Thanks for sharing 👍 😊
Thank you.
Thank you 😊
There are no others. And it is the illusion that we are separate that is the cause of all human strife.
Gold..
Thanks for sharing 👍 😊
Kudos to Jocko for making this interview
This is a beautiful way to describe forgiveness. Helps me alot
Thanks ♥️.
It helps me also
Brilliant man. Smart. Brilliant.
Thanks for sharing 👍 😊
I learned early in life that I had power. When the moment came for forgiveness all I said was that they didn't do anything wrong. They looked like they wanted to curse, and beat me up like they always did when I was little. It wasn't my obligation to forgive anyone after so much damage had been caused. I never forgave them, and won't forgive anyone ever.
I think you definitely have the right and power to do that. If they idea serves you,there is no point in changing it.
Thank you very much for sharing ❤️
I think ultimately you become the problem when you internalize everyone else’s crap a lot. So really it’s about sorting& sifting the burdens. Like you can be a victim& not victimized. You can stay in an abusive situation until you start to become a problem yourself. And that dynamic, though it’s unfair, still holds some accountability on your part. So regardless of what others say or how they judge you, you have to fairly place the mistakes& also recognize that even where you allowed yourself to be hurt and be taken down, that still deserves self forgiveness& compassion.
I think also you have to recognize where you’re own holding onto of traumas is still coloring your current world view or making you hold onto toxic situations in an attempt to make amends with it. You’ve gotta “cleanse” your brain everyday, it’s a REAL TASK just to stay in the present moment but it’s one worth fighting for until you’re the beautiful being, a big marvelous SHIP able to weather storms like a graceful ballerina.
Thanks for sharing 👍 😊
Excellent, I needed this. Thank you so much for sharing.
That's beautiful.
Thanks for sharing 👍 😊
Ship able to weather storm like a graceful ballerina is so beautifully written
This is Brilliant
Thanks for sharing your thoughts 🙏
It is a lot of words. 😊 Let go. If we struggle with letting go, we will struggle with the feeling forgiveness towards one self and others. ♥️✌🏻
Thanks for sharing
Love love love your channel your advice is brilliant when you said rake yourself over the calls it’s coals I am from Scotland and we use this phrase all the time Thanks
Thank you
JP at his best. Beautiful.
This man is doing great work 👏.
Thanks for sharing 👍 😊
I think this is one of his best.
Fascinating
Thanks for sharing 👍
This seems wise. Some of JP's stuff is hard to get behind, but I appreciated this perspective as someone struggling with these types of issues.
Thanks. This has helped me a lot also.
Did I love this man's mind
Thanks for sharing 👍.
You're appreciated 👏
Well said.
Thanks for sharing 👍 😊
Absolutely love yourself ❤it takes a minute to do this I know 💯😘💯😘
Thanks for sharing 👍.
Thank you for this video...
It's really hard to forgive myself.for making those mistakes...
It's Killing me.
I almost lost the will to go on.
Thank you for this video.
Thank you very much
What kind of mistakes are you refering to? Money loss, job issues, famíly issues?
Excellent video - thank you Dr. Peterson. But why the English subtitles for one of the most clearly well-spoken articulate men on the planet?
I AM WITH THE MIND OF GOD ❤❤❤❤❤
Nice tone of voice
Nice explanation!
Great man.
Thanks for sharing 👍 😊 😀
Hey, thank you, just amazing are you,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts 🙏.
You are appreciated 👏 💐
It's called "get back". And we've all done it. Some to more drastic degrees than others.
Amazing 👏.
Thanks for sharing 👍
I FORGIVE ALL FAMILY MEMBERS WHO HAVE STABBED ME IN THE BACK ❤❤❤❤❤
GOD KNOWS WHO THEY ARE ❤❤❤❤❤❤
That’s greate content.
Thanks ♥️
Great clip but the color grading on it is criminal 😂
Thanks for sharing 👍 😊
WOW! Talk about mental gymnastics...! We can keep this really simple; Forgiveness is about "LOVE". When we forgive someone else for their transgressions towards us, we are not letting them off the hook, we are getting out of own way to Love ourselves. Any anger, hatred, or resentment type emotional reactions is our own personal responsibility. Disengage blaming! (egoist agenda). How do we do this? By developing a "self-injury" practice to discern when our old paradigm, cultural conditioning, egoist crap is present (reactions), and instead consciously choose instead to "respond" from our HEART space where Love resides.... We all have "free will". Choose wisely.....
Tbh there are some malevolent people out there, continually forgiving them is exactly what they feed off, it allows them to keep coming back for more.
You're right. That's the opposite of what he's talking about.
Well, that was one of his requirements to move on - to take accountability and reorient yourself to the highest likelihood of not doing it again.
Repeat offenders can't and won't do that.
yeah, the lesson for me there is to set clear boundaries...
HI. I made the these recent mistakes and foolish decisions... They had destroyed me! And ruined my life. ... i suffer now with depression. Living is suffering. ... can't forgive myself. Can't live with the consequences... its over for me.
May i ask the source of this video?, i feel as if it would help me moving forward.
I love lamp
Thanks for sharing 👍
Please discontinue the music background…it is so distracting and annoying.
Jordan’s words are enough.
Thank you
Thank you. You're amazing 👏 🤩
How do you forgive people you no longer have access to? For example, how can I forgive childhood bullies? At best, I can only entertain conditionals, such as "if they've changed for the good, I'm no longer angry at them". But what would be a better approach to people we no longer have access to?
I think you'd have to forgive yourself for the part you played. Even if you were powerless. You could have tortured yourself less about the past.
Then, decide what is the best way to have dealt with it. Maybe you should have told someone, for example. Maybe you could have fought back.
Then, make a plan for how you will react to bullies in the future.
Most importantly,start standing up for yourself and the people you love.
Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
You are appreciated 👏
With contents reaching deep i consider it very healthy not to have backgroundsounds. I concentrate much better and do not feel manipulatet!!
Am I the only person who does not like these subtle sounds in unhealthy frequencies???
Thanks for sharing your thoughts 🙏.
Book Called to Forgive by Reverend Anthony B. Thompson.
Thanks for sharing 👍 😊
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I easily forgive others even the most evil person but i can not forgive myself. It is so hard for me even if it is a trivial mistake. I dont know the reason
Same .My last relationship my partner asked me why I felt i couldn't make mistakes without having a meltdown. I grew up with alcoholic parents who divorced and was a little girl who couldn't do anything right .Now I'm a 60 yr old wounded child by myself with PTSD .
@@Opticaldelusionist so sorry to hear that. My family was disaster as well... i always try so hard to be nice to people because i wanted not to be someone like my father who was verbal abusive and decreased my self esteem. I have tried my best to be a decent person and not hurt anybody. The problem is i can not forgive myself if i do some little thing wrong.
Thank you for sharing. I hope this video helps. It has helped me a lot with the same problem.
Thank you
I'm sorry about your childhood 😢.
Sorry to hear that.
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John 5:22, John 5:27, John 8:15 says it all. There is NO JUDGEMENT during the period of Grace. Judgement will come... Judgment belongs to God alone. Because of original sin, we are judges constant, to our own detriment. Forgiveness is the act of passing back the administration of judgment to The Almighty God. This pleases Him. The Bible is clear that civil problems should not be brought before magistrates and solicitors. They are "of the world" and we are not. amen The original sin, I would rename to the original panoply of sins, because they were MANY. A fundamental one was 'judgment' (knowing good and evil) which is the purview of The Almighty Father and Son alone. Even Michael, when arguing about Moses' body with a fallen being who blasphemed God, checked himself with "The Lord rebuke you!" (thank you, Michael!) All this to say: avoid the world's court system as much as possible (remember the admonition to "settle with your adversary, even on the way to the judge") and 'judge not, lest ye be judged by the same standard'. The act of forgiveness will do two things. (it does NOT let them off the hook) The two things are: 1) releases you from the weight of and bondage to "the offense(s)", 2) with forgiveness, we release ALL responsibility to God as Judge, He "buys the contract" so to speak. In so doing, He WILL re-imburse your 'loss'. The Almighty Father of us is very pleased with these acts of faith. He then will preside over the complaint and take action! You may live to see the result, you may not. It's not important because faith is the operative here, not sight. I can tell you (from experience) that The Majesty Creator creates wonderful solutions to behold! Often a win/win outcome with willing participants. Remember that the universe is at His feet and your complaint is a wee bitty thing in comparison. So, faithful one, get onboard and get "rejoicing with exultant expectation"! Our Master has great plans for YOU! Amen
PARIDISE ❤
Yes. Paradise.
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Forgiveness does nothing except make the perpetrator feel better.
I didn't make a mistake thé story was greater than m'y mind .
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Forgive me for being superficial - this is a great clip - but I think Jordan is looking very elegant and handsome here
Very handsome.
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I also noticed that he takes a good deal of care with his appearance.I figure that he has his own troubles (of self esteem) and that taking pride of his appearance helps him with that.
SAITH 😮
WIND 😮
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I prefer Asking God to Bless them. 😊❤
Better.
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Love love love love love this. Jp is soooooo amazing 😭🤍
He's so amazing 👏