How we survived our Long Distance Relationship | Q&A
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- čas přidán 17. 05. 2024
- These are our experiences of being in a long distance relationship for more than 3 years. Hope it helps if you are in the same boat!
Video about how we met: • How we met (Story time)
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Hi, I'm Uyen Ninh but please just call me Uyen!
I moved from Vietnam to Germany 3 years ago for studying. I make silly videos about how Germany looks like through the eyes of a Vietnamese student - on my way to be your favourite Ausländer! :D - Zábava
"There are creeps out there. Be careful ladies. I was just lucky" I appreciate the note for your more impressionable audience. I also love your personality. Chào from a vietnamese American!
Of course she can. My grandparents are from Turkey and emigrated to Germany in the 60s. Guess what: i‘m a fully turkish-german.
Let us people with a migration background decide for ourselves as what we feel like.
How would you feel about it, if someone told you that you aren‘t the person you feel like?
You're not fully turkish-greman. You are german. Not even your parents are turkish.
@@maigloeckchen1303well said :p
@@aviamonixI was born in Korea and adopted made a naturalized citizen. What would I be. Lol
@@aviamonixI was born in Ireland and grew up in the United States please let me know what I am. I never knew I couldn't be both, oh what am I PLEASE HELP ME
After being in toxic relationships, it is very healing to see a healthy couple who support each other, share their burdens, and respect their needs. And have fun together!
Yes, agree! Uyen & GermanFinacé please be happy together forever ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
@@beckapick1343 💖💖 Uyen & German BF Forever ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
It's much better than 90 Day Fiance! 🙏🤣😭🥰🙏
I couldn't agree more!
I want to tell Uyen & German BF that I traveled to Mannheim to stay with an exchange student friend one summer! It was a beautiful city and I loved going downtown to eat, shop, & taking the public transit! My heritage is from Austria, Switzerland, Poland, & Luxembourg. Europe is so wonderful for travel! I also visited Vietnam and I loved it! Vietnamese food & coffee are my favorites. You two combined the best cultures. ❤️💖💖❤️
Whenever you talk about your relationship, the most beautiful thing to me is that it sounds like your partner gave you a lot of confidence and helped you accept yourself the way you are. That is very special in my opinion.
I wish I can have a honet woman by my side,who will love me for who I am😢
@@MichealphelpPhelps of course. Just be the difference you want to see, know your worth and then manifest the right person to be with you ;)
@@user-ik8wd9vm7r where are you from
yes!!!
Amen!
It is a relief that your boyfriend turned out to be such a nice and sweet person. It is quite difficult to actually trust someone whom none of your friends or family know and who also lives miles and miles away. He's a keeper.
Oh boy. I met my German boyfriend in 1994 while he was in the US. He moved back to Germany in 1996. So we were long distance until 2000 when I moved to Germany. There was no FaceTime, no real email…..we faxed each other letters.😮 It was so hard. We got married in 2000 and now have two children almost done with school. Life is crazy!
Crazy and beautiful
Did you settle in the US or in Germany? Respect for those lo g distance relationships before Internet became so massive 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@@liiishh5393 Germany!
Ich HABE echt Respekt vor sowas.
(Für Peter, der sich sonst in den Schlaf weinen muss. Bitteschön)
@@thedreamer4761 Dieser Satz leider kein Verb. ;)
Uyen, I just wanted to say how much my wife and I enjoy your content. I am American and my wife is Korean. 25 years ago we went through similar distance and cross cultural struggles. We love hearing your stories that remind us of the fun things that have happened in our past. Further more, last year we moved to Vietnam for my work, and your content explaining Vietnamese culture has really helped up settle in.
How did you guys manage the time zone difference? I'm dealing with a 12 hour time zone difference rn 😅
@@commentbot9510twelve hour is not that bad actually, it's easier. They get off work at 7 pm, you're heading to work at 7 am and call one another. It's harder with a seven-hour time difference.
@@mxmxmxnanana yeah... We were dealing with it by having me stay up till 2am every night. Sometimes we would hang out in the mornings and nights for less time.
My wife and I survived our long distance relationship and it brings back a lot of memories hearing you talk about all the little details. Timezone differences (4-5hrs), sending each other gifts, sharing photos from our day. We both had android watches and could set the background of the others watch, I remember that feature being removed (classic Google) so being an engineer I just built that feature myself.
"so being an engineer I just built that feature myself."
Classical engineer, awesome man. I am very glad you and your wife had a nice time during your LDR!
as a german i can proudly and with confidence give your bf the seal of "proper german"! may others join his footsteps to make this world a happier place!
❤
Yes, absolutely! 😂😊
"Be careful ladies, creeps are everywhere. I was just lucky" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'M DYING, I CAN'T BREATHE 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
My parents met in South Africa over 50 years ago while my mom was visiting a friend there. They ended up doing long distance by snail mail before both moved to Canada, where my siblings, and I were born. I can't imagine doing it by letter only! But I admire their patience and perseverance. These stories are so magical 🥰
Patience and perseverance is a important ingredient in a relationship
I'm in a long distance relationship and this video not only cheered me up from seeing the two of you so happy together, but it also gave me hope that the relationship I'm in can also work out!
I'm from the northern part of Sweden and my boyfriend is from California in the US. We've been together for almost 1 and half years now and we met for the first time last summer.
Pretty much every single person I've talked to who's been in a long distance relationship has told me to break up and move on before I get to attached/involved... I can understand their point, they obviously care and they understand that this kind of relationship comes with a lot challenges and IT IS difficult.
My love language is all about cuddles, hugs, playing videogames on the couch together, reading a book on the bed while he programs, honestly anything that involves seeing the other person and being close to them. He's very much the same, some of our best times during out first time meeting last years was spent just cuddling or going out on walks with my dog(at the time puppy). Making food together and laughing our asses of when I was trying to have him pronounce different groceries in Swedish. Little things, everyday things, those are the moments that me and him talk about the most when we're apart.
He's coming back to Sweden this summer, in almost 10 weeks exactly and I can't wait to experience all of those things all over again.
Thank you once again for the super sweet video and I wish the two of you the absolute best
Va kul!! Är också i ett långdistansförhållande dock bor vi båda i Sverige, bara vardera ände av sverige.... Vi firar 1 år tsm i juni. Önskar dig och din pojkvän all lycka 🥰
Long distance relationships can definitely work! You just both have to have the right mindset and patience to do it. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8,5 years, 7 of which was long distance and we are living happily together now. He is from Japan and I am from the Netherlands. Sure, it wasn’t always easy and it still sometimes isn’t, especially because of the cultural differences but patience and determination goes a long way.
Luckily we had a lot of support from people around us and I am surrounded by many people with successful LDR stories.
My father is Dutch and my mom is from USSR Russia. When they met in the early 80’s in Moscow, my father immediately fell in love with her and even though their love was illegal and had no future, my father was very persistent so when the soviet union fell apart she immediately moved to the Netherlands and they lived happily ever after until my dad passed away. They have always supported our relationship and because of their story, I had a great example of how it could work successfully. When I felt negative about our relationship, they always told me to look at it from a different perspective instead of just talking along with me and telling me to break up. That is not always what you need to hear and it can destroy your relationship because it plants a negative seed in your mind.
I am so happy for you that you will see your boyfriend soon and wish you all the best😊
@@claudiavanbragt7487 That is an amazing story, thank you so much for sharing it!
(I rarely check my CZcams notifications but I'm glad I did this time!) Hearing about other people's experiences is oddly comforting. Thank you once again for sharing, reading this genuinely made my day better ❤
@@maja1674 Oh vad kul! Vi önskar er båda två all lycka!😊
It will work out since both of you are committed to it 😊 Ldr crushed when one have short patience and short resolve for your relationships. Me and my bf also are Ldr so i also hide it at first from my family and friends coz they always so many opinions that sometimes just make me confused so i just told them when he finally comes and visit 😅 its like surprised even his mom was surprised coz we posted our pictures together 😅 and til now were Ldr and still stronger
i love your content ❤
edit: i think it’s incredibly real and important that you mentioned how you felt like you had to keep your relationship secret due to the dynamic with your parents. people don’t understand what it’s like when your parent is from a rural village in a foreign country, things are so different. you cant just tell your mom “im an adult mind your own business” in that way. and when you’re a baby adult, it’s difficult and scary to manage the transition from dependent to independent. thank you for mentioning that.
also, i think german bf is completely correct about keeping your day to day lives involved despite the distance. that’s the first connection that’s severed when you’re LD, your daily lives are totally separate and many people begin drifting from there. but by making an effort in small
moments, even land and oceans cant separate love.
"Baby adult" 🥺
Well said
I've been watching your videos for quite some time and I have to say, its lovely to see you both in such an amazing relationship
Aww thank youuu ❤
I agree with not telling your parents when you're still new and starting a relationship! The stress and pressure Vietnamese families put on you is UNREAL. I am a Australian born Viet and my husband is from Vietnam and my parents knew about our relationship from DAY 1 and it is something both my husband and I regret cause there were so many times they would tell us to break-up/ tell us what we should do/ how we should live/ how things should be etc. It was so stressful and at the same time so hard to ignore your family's opinion at the same time! It wasn't until we married and moved out that they finally saw me as an adult who can make their own decision. My husband is also my first love, and also I haven't had my heart broken either! >.< But it was a lot of hard work (like visa paperwork, maintaining contact) to make our relationship work but worth it in the end! We also did the same thing as you guys where we texted/ called for HOURS and would send pictures of what we were eating, going out, and basically everything that was happening in our daily lives to make it feel like we were always together and we were never sick of it! >.< Sending love and blessings to you both!
My husband and I are both from the US but we lived in different states when we first started dating. We were 1600 miles away from each other and you are SO spot on when you said that the pain of separating after a visit gets worse! I ended up moving out to his state and it was nerve wracking. As you said, there is no guarantee it will work out but it was worth the risk! Happily married for 4 year this autumn ❤️
Aww it's so cute, and am happy to hear u r together and r married for four years. I am sure am younger than because u r married and am just 15. But i hope u will be together forever. Plus i also hope i fine someone for myself. I really don't want to get arrange married, i want a love marriage and live with it someone i truly love.
It's so tough.. I'm in the Netherlands and my bf is Danish, but it's 'only' 700 km 😅
Still requires a plane or big drives it's not great
@@sintara8442 yeah its more than just the mileage (kilometerage?) distance that makes an LDR hard, but also things like international borders, language/culture, and time zone. My fiance and i were on opposite sides of the US and the time zone difference was difficult. Basically i'd be getting off work when he was getting ready for bed. But im grateful we had no border to cross.
My partner and I were long distance relationship for 4 years before we lived together. It was difficult, but with love and determination, we made it work.
Lucky for you I was in a long distance relationship for 4 years with a narcissist.
@@maryempire1104 Oh no. That never ends well. I hope you're happier without that person.
@@ivylovesrunning I'm happier yes but still suffering from PTSD and anxiety thanks to the all narcissistic abuse that I received from him.
@@maryempire1104 I understand. It is difficult, though it can get better with therapy, time, love from family and friends, and sonetimes medication.
@Kaelan K I am sorry that happened to you. Ghosting should only be used when trying to escape an abuser. You deserve better.
We talked almost every day. If we couldn't talk due to time difference, work, and school, we would email one another. We spent summers together as I was a college student. It was difficult leaving and being away from one another for a year, but it was worth it in the end. We both had to put in the effort. Cards, letters, and gifts help with feeling connected and loved.
My husband and I have a similar long distance love story, but ours was Scotland - USA. The things you’re saying about others being worried about him staying faithful or seeing couples walking around, I can really sympathize with that. Spending tons of time on our phone schedule, it’s lovely to see the similarities. I’m happy for you guys and that you managed to combine your lives too❤
How’d you guys meet?
Wait!
Which of the two of you is Scottish?
Absolutely thankful for that filter it allows German boyfriend to be part of it and helps him still maintain his anonymity like he wants to
I had a long distance relationship with my hubby too! He was in USA and I was in China. We spent 3 yrs of long distance before I permanently move to the US. We did pretty much the same like what both of you did! And I would never changed this long distance relationship to anything else. It's such a rewarding testament! We wish both of you lifetime of happiness together 💕
I discovered and subscribed to your shorts a few months ago and as a British/European who married a German European who has also lived on 3 continents I had to admit every single one of your shorts is spot on! Viva la Difference!!
Our 1 year long distance relationship was long enough for me. It was a very emotional time. You cry while being appart because you miss each other, and you cry when together because you don't want to leave each other again. I am German and he is a Kiwi. In the end it was worth it, LDR really strenghtened our relationship. Now we live together in New Zealand since 2018 and we are so so happy and greatful that we met. But it is hard to live far away from family, and it probably will get harder the older my family gets.
i’m currently in a long distance relationship with my german bf for over a year! i live in australia, but i’m filipino so i can relate to u a lot as an asian with a german bf who is in an ldr… i love you guys i’m so happy it worked out in the end! i hope my relationship can work out too like yours has❤
Im in australia as well and I'm having LDR with irish bf as well...bless both of our relationship with our partner andro!
also an aussie here in an LDR with a norwegian bf, i hope both of your relationships go well !
@@snac8258 hey snac, I would love to learn more about your relationship and would like to share mine as well cuz I need some advice ..can we keep in touch?
@@snac8258 I followed you but not sure whether is it correct :D
me mexican going soon to live in Prague with my czech boyfriend from over4 years of LDR already I'm so nervous and excited haahah
As an american girl who is in a long distance relationship with a man in Sicily, across the world, this really helps me gain the confidence to believe we too can get here some day! I love how you really lay down what made it work and how dedicated you both were throughout the years. I love your content and how down to earth you are. Thank you Uyen!
It was the most wholesome video I've watched in a while. Didn't want it to end. I have a ldr partner and we're about to move in together in a year and I'm terrified and so happy about it!! Cheers to all ldr peeps out there!
As someone who is in a LDR myself (but within Germany, only a couple of hours apart), I can relate to many of the points you mentioned. The way you guys speak about each other and help each other grow is SO precious! That's what a good relationship is all about! Big hug to both of you!
This is absolutely couples goals. You two really seem like soulmates. It just shows that when you meet the right person, no obstacle is too great.
As someone who is currently doing long distance (I'm in Japan and he's in Canada), this is so wonderful and hopeful. I can attest that daily video calls are extremely important! ❤
Had a 10 year LDR with my hubby between US to Singapore before we got married.
We met pretty young as teens via the internet and saw each other in person only 4 times ‘cos we were still students for most of our dating years. After the wedding, he lives in Singapore with me now in our own house and he is now a permanent resident. ❤
My sister had a long distance relationship with her now husband. He lived in Georgia USA and she lived in Brussels Belgium, they'd met once at a party and instantly clicked, love at first sight. Then they reconnected online and talked to each other for 5 years! He started projects of returning to Central America where he's from, where he built a house. He proposed to her and their entire engagement was spent online. In the end my dad and my other sister went to her wedding and it's now been 10 years of marriage, they have a little girl who is bright like the sun. I'm so happy stories like yours and hers happen!
It's good to see relationships work out. Long distance won't stop couples who are serious about their relationship and decide they won't be defeated by inconvenience. Thank you for sharing your story!
You might miss this comment but let me say that I’ve always stumble across your shorts on youtube and I find it is refreshing to see someone that is proud of being themselves in a natural raw way. You just gain a new subscriber and a fan! And I adore your love story! ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Love from Malaysia
Hello from Finland! 🇫🇮 Our whole family loves your channel! ❤️ Thank you for making content that makes us smile! 😍😘
Been in long distance with my Japanese girlfriend for a year now, me living in France, and I feel very good watching this video, I can really identify, and I now fear less having to be separated for longer, in the end I know we will end up together and live together!
Great story from the both of you, stay happy
I’m so glad that you and German Boyfriend toughed it out through that time. The fact that you two stayed together for three years long distance speaks volumes for how good your relationship is! I also had a long distance relationship for a year before I moved to be with him. And now it’s been 25 years since we got together. 😊 I wish you and German Boyfriend many many many years of happiness!
Long distance relationships are definitely challenging and can take a mental toll on you when they are not physically there with you. After all the trials and tribulations, seeing you share your life, your experiences, and your story with your German boyfriend is absolutely wonderful. THANK YOU.
Soon you will have 1 million followers.
Hopefully!!!!!! 😆😆😆😆
Oh wow I've never been this early! Just wanted to say I love the fact that both you and your BF wear clothes like the daisy sweater, pink robe and green hoodie that are instantly recognizable in your videos! You two wearing their favourite clothes all the time is so relatable!
i did long distance with my wife for 4 years. this was extended by covid restrictions, which meant we couldn't even travel to see each other! I can say we are happily married now. However, it was so difficult during that time. Massive respect for going through it. I know, it's not easy.
I recognize so much of your video. We went through almost all of this.
Thanks Uyen, both for showing us how a ldr works and reminding us what a healthy relationship is like! I've had few examples of that in my life, and seeing two people care so deeply for each other is simply heartwarming. Everybody could learn from it, even those of us who are not in a ldr!
Love from Italy 🇮🇹💙
I also had a LDR with my ex and it’s not about distance or lack of physical touch. I was so happy even with just a text from him. We shared things we do, news we read and food we eat every day. The problem is that we are not compatible for each other. I was trying so hard to keep that relationship but not received the same energy from him. 😢
I share a similar story. I am sorry that it happen to you, but I hope you can find peace and happiness soon! Hang in there💜
Same with me! I ended my 3 year long LDR :(
You can think of it as a blessing that your ex showed you their true colors fairly early on in the relationship! It’s way better than moving and getting married to them.
I’m still so sorry to you and everyone else who’ve been in similar situations.
@@MeMe-pj8ve as someone who was in a long term LDR, and moved in with the guy, and is the process of moving out and back to my home state: yea glad you jumped ship sooner than me!
this isnt to scare anyone tho, we just weren't compatible.
😢
You are the only straight couple I follow on CZcams despite not being straight myself. You have probably the healthiest relationships I've ever seen among straight couples and I've seen a lot
I really like your balanced approach- on the surface it might seem like your story is a fairytale but it shows that such lovely stories are only possible when the people involved are balanced, pragmatic and respectful of each other. You moving to Germany was clearly a carefully considered decision with both arriving at a sensible conclusion. Best wishes!!
You guys are just so wholesome ☺️
Eta, I could listen to the stories of you and German Boyfriend for hours. You both sound like amazing people to hang out with. Caring and considerate.
Me( from South East Asia) and my boyfriend (from Switzerland) are in the same situation. We have been together for almost 3 years and it is difficult for us to meet because of covid and political situation in my country. But I will be moving to Germany (not Switzerland LOL) in a few months to study so we can be closer and see each other every now and then. There're many struggles like cultural difference and time difference, we are still going strong and hopeful for our future together. ❤️
Hey good luck and if you want to learn German it is so much easier than in Switzerland!!
There are universities here in Switzerland that provide very good English education, I recommend you to research them with your boyfriend. Good luck❤
the way you describe your own changes toward loving yourself more and more because of his support is exactly what a good healthy relationship is like. I remember that happening with my husband too, i dont wear make up or perfume whatsoever anymore and i embrace my little light leg hairs eithout razoring them and so on. We are beautiful humans and dont need that anxiety. if people dress/make up/shave/ etc because it makes them happy, cool! but if it is just because one is afraid to look themselves in the eye in the mirror...then it is not good.
You never had your heart broken... you are one lucky woman. :)
This filled my heart all the way up. I received something so precious here. I got to see what „staying power“ looks like. And I agree, you were meant to be. Thank you for sharing this with us. ❤
You guys give us HOPE! ⚓️ Watching you on a regular base makes my neurons create new connections in believing in truthful love and POSETIVITY again. It’s like a therapy homework 😅. Love it and thank you for your content ❤. All the best for you!
Currently 2 years into a long distance relationship with a German boyfriend of my own :3
Your videos have definitely a big source of comfort and inspiration for me, and I absolutely love watching them all!
You keep yourself so genuine that’s what I love about you the most. We grew up in a very similar cultural background, so everything you said I can feel it from the bottom of my heart. ❤ Love you guys
Hello beautiful lady 😍❤️
This made me very happy to listen to :-) Especially the part when you explained that your boyfriend helped you overcome your insecurities about your appearance by telling you you are beautiful no matter what -- with or without make-up. I was in a relationship in which my partner would refuse to call me pretty or beautiful, but insisted I was cute instead. I never really cared for my appearance that much, so anyone telling me this wouldn't have affected me as much, but somehow as my partner, I thought he at least should see me as beautiful -- if not, who else? Especially since he was generally praised for being good-looking (by me and others!). So it really affected me and lessened my (already ver low) self confidence. I hope to be in a situation where I find myself beautiful without the help of anyone :-) And if I do date someone, that this person will find me beautiful no matter what! And I wish the same for everyone else too!
You are beautiful inside and out, never forget that! You deserve someone who will remind you this everyday! ❤
@@trafficcontroldance 🥲 thank you, same to you too 🌿
Maybe he did not love you? When I was younger I was in a relationship for one month because I was confused about how feelings worked etc, and I never called her beautiful or anything like that because I didn't find her attractive and I thought maybe it'll come with time.
@@wolfzmusic9706 That's a rabbit hole I don't really want to go down tbh haha but you might very well be right. There was definitely a lack of maturity in the relationship anyway, our first serious one even though we weren't that young. I think there were times when he did love me, but the majority of the time it was more of a convenience thing. I guess I'll never know! If someone can't support their partner and don't see them as beautiful, they definitely do not love them in a healthy way anyway.
Omg. You are genuinely making me wonder if we have dated the same guy. The accuracy is scary. In which part of the world do you live? 😅
Coming from a short long distance relationship and quick decision with a fast „fix“ which cost me a lot professionally and emotionally during my lifetime, I am incredibly happy for you both. I admire you both and with you very happy and healthy 70-80 years anniversaries together.
It's quite funny how many parallels I see between your long-distance relationship and mine. Even if it's "only" 500 km with us, we do pretty much the same thing you did. Telephone in the morning before work and in the evening after work, write to us about everything we do in everyday life and have never regretted it and very spontaneously after our first meeting to decide on the long-distance relationship. It's only been 1.5 years for us, but listening to you like this makes me even more optimistic that things can go just as well for us as for you, thank you for that ❤
OMG I feel this video. Thank you for sharing your story! My boyfriend and I have also been doing long distance for over two years now. Luckily it is a "not so long distance"-relationship from Germany to Switzerland, with me living in Bavaria and him close to the Swiss-Austrian-German border region, but sometimes it is harddd. Especially not being able to experience nice things together on a daily basis or missing the cuddles. Hearing positive stories like yours always lifts my spirits
I love how you shared such practical stories of you experience with your fiancé! It demonstrated how long distance is A LOT of work and it must be balanced from both sides. Wish you both all the best!!!
The relationship you & German BF have makes me feel pure, simple joy in my heart. You don't even know me, but you've given me that gift. From my heart, thank you!! Many blessings to you both!
Lucky girl. From 21 until now 27 I had my heart broken thousand of times
Thanks for sharing all of these to us. I'm just very happy for you both, and look forward to whatever experiences you share to us in the future ❤
Your long form content makes me feel calm and peaceful. Thank you!
Your advice is spot on! I was in an online relationship for over seven years. We met online when I was 14 and he was 12. We shared almost everything together. We finally met when I was 22 and engaged a year later. Now its been a total of 15 years and I wouldn't have it any other way.
I LOVE your relationship and I am so glad you guys made it through the long distance!! You are both so genuine and sweet. So happy you found each other!
I'm so happy to hear these types of stories :) my boyfriend lives an hour away but I couldn't imagine two different countries
I had a smile THROUGHOUT this video. My boyfriend and I are in a LDR right now and it’s difficult, but we love your videos because it reaffirms what we believe about love. Thank you for sharing your life with us 😊❤
you just made me realize: "you just have to find the right guy."
I have done so many of these things - sending someone long distance nice presents, trying to stay in contact every day and involve them in your everyday life, try to meet up - but if the other person is not putting in the effort/ is not 100% honest about what this is for him/ is just avoidant/cheating/lying, then really there's nothing I could have done differently. Thanks for showing me that there really is nothing wrong with me, but rather I just *have to find the right guy to give all of my love to* .
I once heard "imagine you could give that much love to the wrong guy - imagine how much more you can give to the right guy and how great that will be". Seeing you together just verifies that.
Love that you've found each other and German boyfriend really is a keeper!! Glad for you two!
Kind regards from Austria
ps. this really made me question my taste in men now and my own traumas which kinda seem to make me choose weird men who are not kind and nice
(I was always told that I am making people miserable by having bad days and that I can never expect someone to be there for me or even share that I'm afraid/unwell/.. with, because then I would just be a burden for them any annoying them. so thanks for giving me a non-toxic-view on this topic
I really enjoyed reading that, I have been in a 2 disappointing relationships where I have given so much and received but after moving in together the dynamic completely changed to me being the only one giving. Really hope there is someone for me cause I have much love to give, it's just the wrong people for me.
Also from Austria 😊
I love watching your videos, they have an old 2010s CZcams feeling. They don't have anything flashy going on, no elaborate setting, editing, loud music etc. Just a person showing their life on camera, like you showing your apartment or telling us a story. I feel like I am chatting with a friend and your videos have a cozy feeling. It is like a fresh breath of air, thank you for that! (also, may I say your conversational English improved sooo much!)
This is so adorable! I loved hearing more of your story, you two crack me up with the humor and teasing in your normal content and to see that deep foundation behind it makes it even better.
I’m going to have to make a joke to my boyfriend that we weren’t long distance but long time, we met as teenagers and were friends but it took us over a decade to notice each other that way and how well we fit together.
I'm in a long distance relationship rn, and your video gives me so much hope for the best, I hope mine will work out as well as yours did. I'm rewatching this video every time it gets hard, just to remind myself that our dream will eventually come true. You, guys, are absolutely amazing, I wish you all the best and super happy life ever after!
I like that moment where you look in the camera and are like "BE CAREFUL. These creeps are everywhere, I was just lucky" because sadly, yes... but also, when we are in our 20s and hungry for love, we definitely do some reckless stuff XD
But also: when you find a sweet, gentle, unconditionally supportive guy like that, GRRL, you sink in those claws and you DON'T LET GO
So glad to hear your guy’s LDR story is basically a success story! ❤Seeing your story and your content in general makes me really happy! 😊I’m also in a LDR with my partner, and I can’t relate to the struggles.. in fact when you mentioned how hard it when seeing other couples all the time, or how sad you would feel even when you would spend time together because you knew you would have to be apart again.. it kinda made me tear up 😢 I think it’s really brave you made the decision and moved on with being the one to relocate. Immigration is not easy at all 😢
What a great realistic story! Thank you for sharing. I love the experiences you share especially about Germany bc when I moved there I had similar experiences!
I was so touched by the descriptions of how he looks out for you, including your mental/emotional well being! He loves you! ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful love story! I am in tears because of how amazing your love for each other is. I admire how each of you is so considerate and thoughtful of the other’s feelings and desires. It’s obvious that you cherish and adore one another. I’m excited to be able to witness more of your love story unfold. Sending you both so much love and joy! ❤🐼🐻
Aww. So glad it worked out so well for the two of you! Too many more happy years together🎉
Me and my boyfriend started dating 6 months ago and now I moved back from Korea to Germany last Sunday. Seeing this video really gives me hope that we can actually do 3 years of long distance as well. I'm very happy it worked out for you that well!
Thanks for allowing us glimpses into your real life!!! I have been watching you for a while now and you are my absolute favorite channel!! You're so down to earth and so funny!!! It makes my day whenever you put something new out.
I came across your channel a few months ago. I love your shorts and longer videos! You both seem so kind and fun to be around. Thank for your being so genuine! It’s so refreshing to watch 😊 I wish you both all the best! Greetings from Belgium
thank you so much for this content! I'm about to go for a at least 2 year long distance relationship due to work. Listening to you talking about this, and reading the comments, gives me so much strength! I know my partner and I will be just fine. :)
What a wonderful, and up-lifting story. Thank you so much for sharing this!
I'm also in ldr and i know it will work. We both are watching your videos and it gives us boost. Even it still hurts not having your other half next to you. We are so happy to see that it's not impossible. Thank you. ❤
Also for all who are in ldr. It's tough, but it's possible and totally worth it. ❤ Don't give up.
I just gotta say that I really enjoy your videos and it makes my day a tad better everytime. Also, congratulations to german boyfriend for having the courage to appear in your videos and tell us a little bit about his perspective of things as well . ♥
Kudos to you two. Long distance relationships are extremely hard. I did a year and a half of long distance marriage with my wife and it was brutally difficult.
That's a great story, and I'm glad you found someone who loves you for your genuine self. ❤
My wife and I were in a 19 year LDR. We were very patience. Her son was still young, so we waited until he graduated college. Also it took awhile for me to be able to afford the costs. The American embassy never had anyone do a LDR that long. We are so happy we're married now. We started emailing in 2000. Then chat. She didn't have internet at the house, and had to travel to an internet café. When Facebook started messenger we chatted twice a day. When video chat came, it was video chats. We sent cards to each other, I'd sent Valentine roses.
You 2 are a great couple.
Thank you for sharing this chi Uyen! I was in a LDR with my German bf too for a year, and I resonated so much with everything you said in this video!
It takes a lot of effort and commitment, but when both people put in the efforts, it will work out!
You both made my day brighter, thank you so much
This video gives me such hope since me and my boyfriend are also living in separate countries, not as far apart as Germany and Vietnam but still. It’s nice to hear that it actually can work out and turn out super well in the end!
Great video! Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤ I can't imagine how hard it must have been to adapt to a new country and culture. I am so happy for you both that it all worked out 😊
You’re such a delight to watch and listen to. And what a story! I’m in a 10 year long distance relationship myself, we’ve been married for the past two. Anyhow, I watched some of your videos and found them very interesting, the stories, they are fascinating. I love hearing about how other people experience life in different cultures :) thank you for sharing!
You DONT understand how much this hits close to home for me too that i have tears in my eyes 🥺🥺 I'm also in a long-distance relationship with my bf for 3 years since 2020 but he and I live separately, and i really feel your struggles of wanting & longing for physical closeness and the constant doubts from your friends thinking it'd be impossible. The most worrying part of mine was the family, because i live in southeast asia next to Vietnam too, and ALL of my family members are traditional. To this day, I still don't know how I'll ever tell my parents that I had a 3 years long-distance relationship with my bf.
Can you please please make a video about how you confronted your parents about your whole relationship when you returned to VN to introduce him?
Well I am so glad that you finally have accepted and realized what he said that you are beautiful with no makeup because you are! I remember the first time I saw you on CZcams I was like look at her or just on the internet with no makeup and so confident just being herself and then I told myself will of course she can do that she's so naturally beautiful ❤️ your guys love story is so inspiring it's amazing how you guys met your true soul mates even though you lived in completely different countries you are like so good and healthy for one another you are the perfect example of a relationship ❤ goals🎉
It's so lovely to witness your LDR story. It's super heart warming
Love your video! Very genuine! My husband and I were in a long distance relationship for 2 years before we got married and I understand how difficult it is. We always tried to text or talk to each other every day and shared about our day when we were halfway around the world. I guess the secret to a successful long distance relationship is your love, your being faithful to each other and how you really want to make it work. And also don't forget to be creative since you can't have normal dates like other couples and.... lots of sexy talks hehe 😁
Going on four years of Europe/Asia LDR here too, including 2 years of not being able to meet in person thanks to covid. It's definitely not for everyone but I agree, if you both can handle it it's 1000% worth it 😊
I'd even dare to say the pandemic made it easier because we've learned to cope with being able to be far from each other without being too miserable and actually focus on getting our lives together to actually be together.
I can also confirm the ugly crying at the airport everytime one of us has to get back home. There's no stopping it, but oh well.
So sweet ❤ Your story is very empowering for everyone, who also tries to keep up with long distance... thanks for sharing 🤗🤗
Thanks for showing us it's possible ❣️ with constant communication, love, respect, efforts, kindness ! It's so hard to feel alone in this situation while your friends don't believe it can last without him cheating on you (as if men can't control themselves! Not everyone is interested in casual relationships, some of them actually have values and respect the relationship). You look good for each other, I wish you the best
I love how you interact with each other and how you are with one and other . I wish for you both that you continue to have a very happy relationship !
I aspire for my relationship to reach the point yours has 🥰 we've been long distance for over a year now and our dynamic is similar to yours. I am hopeful things will continue going as well as they have. Thank you for sharing!
I also met my German bf in 2016 when he was working in my country. We thought it would only last for 6 months and things will end when he had to go back to Germany. But we decided to give it a shot at long distance and have been doing this for 7 years and still going strong. We have also been visiting each other at least twice a year. Visiting him in a few days to celebrate Christmas and the new year together ❤
This is so sweet and uplifting to watch! Thank you for sharing!
im in a long distance relationship too ^.^ and he's also from Deutschland. we are together for almost 2 years now, and I can't wait to move and live with him. I did learn B2 Deutsch and found a job, but im still waiting for Visa (in my country people can wait for visa like 3-6 months sometimes) it's really hard, but we are patient. Thank you guys, you don't even know how much you inspire me!!
Ahw thank you for sharing this part of your relationship as well! I am touched. So beautiful. ❤