Seven Things I Badly Want To Tell Women | Kingsley Okonkwo
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- Ever wondered how the very smart, sophisticated, talented and well-educated woman who is a high flyer in her career, leads a vast team including top ranking men at the work place and is a major decision maker in her industry can make terrible mistakes and decisions when it comes to relationship and marriage, all in the name of love?
Join Kinglsey Okonkwo as he shares 'Seven Things I Badly Want To Tell Women' .
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I was on a relationship going well, we speak daily and every night and then. We were distanced. 4 months into our proper relationship, I asked him a question - 'only him waka come, let me know your people?' . That night, I spoke to his family. Apparently they have been noticing the change and attention he gives on his phone and his nephew already snitches him to the rest of the family. Few months later, he told me his parents in Nigeria wants to meet me and all is history. We are happily married with 2 wonderful kids. Set standards - I didn't set standards in 2 past r/ships. I got home crying after seeing all the red flags and back into their arms. I turned to God and my husband located me miraculously and boom a true man with a heart of God and gold. I pray that yours locate you and that you enjoy your relationship and marriage in Jesus name 🙏
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1. Have standards 6:50
2. You are a beautiful masterpiece 26:20
3. You are better off alone than in a bad relationship. Dead weight and baggage will hold you back from your destiny and purpose 33:13
4. Learn more about men just attracting them. Learn how to relate and how they think 39:00
5. You have to grow spiritually 57:36
6. Make your own money 1:07:51
7. Develop yourself. Invest in improving yourself. 1:25:00
You are God-sent
I could have known you earlier than this time, your message is noting but the truth thanks.
Thank you for titling the time stamps !! 🙏🏾
Thank you❤️
Waw I am blessed with this message. But is there no solutions for some of us who missed it? I mean some of us that didn't hear dis message on time.
As a single woman I was invested in the Godly way, followed all of these inspite of the mockery for being "stubborn" about this.....I thank God today that didn't discourage me. Today, married to a noble man who waited for me & with me. God honored His word & blessed me with the best man ever, as we work together to build the best marriage God has purposed for US. This video gets me emotional. Ladies, this is the Truth...don't change. City girl movement is not glamorous at all. idc what society tries to paint.
Take the embarrassing jokes, reverse-psychology labels, name-calling or pressures with grace. Take it like a warrior because God is with you like Esther, like Joseph, like Daniel & like Jesus on the cross. If I perish I perish ruggedness. You will get the last laugh. Thank you Pst K.
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I agree with what you’re saying but what does what he’s teaching I’ve to do with zodiac signs ?
I need your counseling regarding my marriage decision am confused about it i need your help lady am from india
Amen! Thank you for sharing your testimony. 🙏
After watching this video, I had to pray for you. You will do 60, 70,100 years on earth. You will live to fulfill your days sir. You are a John the Baptist of marriage. God is really using you for our generation and we pray he will keep you longer for us. Much love to you and your family.
Amen...and God will continually keep their marriage. Amen!
Amen and Amen 🙏🙏🙏
Amen 🙏🏾
Amen 💝
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Don't marry a man with television but a man with a vision, because the vision will put you on television 🤗😍
True story
Yeah...or under it 😒
Wow there's so much gems this guy was sharing about men, and women are still not listening! Lol this guy shared real secrets!! Some I already knew of cause I have brothers and male friends, and they keep it real with me 😂 but I still learnt more from this guy.
Some men will leave when you have standards. Sometimes you will have to walk away when you have standards. It's a good loss.
Love this!!
Both of you weren't in it
@@loudit8670 that's not even it.
I almost ruined my marriage, untill I came across pastor K and Pastor M message. I'm grateful to God for making me locate this amazing couple.
8:00 This is true! Men love to impress! I recently complimented one of my male colleague's looks last week. It's been two days in sharp suits and he now passes by my office every 2-3 hours just to say hi. This morning, he comes to my desk and asks, "How's my suit today?" Lol!
Hahaha!!😂, Best example 😅
You know😂
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Ladies, if he is not teachable, if he does not enjoy conversation and communication either run or accept him... RUN. Nobody is perfect but everyone should be teachable and open to learning. I hope there are more lessons training men how to be good husbands. Otherwise divorce will continue to increase. Women learn and apply what they learn, however it takes the man to make effort as well for the union to hold.
I'm gonna have to agree. Most teachings are so focused on how women are to equip themselves to ensure that their men are pleased and happy. Would like to see more of such teachings directed to men so we don't have proud men that are not willing to compromise inorder to make their relationships/marriages work.
@@pulechamah3759 same. It's like they prepare women for marriage but men
@@pulechamah3759 Entitled men... and it starts from cradle👌🏽
Sadly, so true 😔
"Am convinced that a woman cannot have a successful marriage without having this kind of knowledge. That is why Jesus said, my children perish due to lack of knowledge." From Zambia.
true. Its nice to see a number of people like me following from Zambia.
@@namysparkle Thank you.
Us the Zambians
@@esthermwila7830 Am proud of you Ms Mwila Esther to listen to pastor Kingsley Okonkwo teachings from Nigeria while we are living in Zambia. Which part of Zambia are you from?
@@ernestmulenga3890 I live in Lusaka, Kabanana Site and Service. Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo is my mentor in the area of relationships. My best friend and I listen to him alot
I love nice bags and shoes having worked in the UK for over 30 years. I can't imagine asking my husband to give me money to buy that expensive bag. I have them in different colours and one day my husband said "You are still buying"? I said "Yes" l worked for it and it's time to enjoy. Please make your own MONEY 💰
This revealed to me how unprepared I am for marriage. Chinke God I commit myself to wisdom dear Abba father. Help me Lord.
Amen
I just discovered this man of God yesterday, and I’ve been marathon listening since!
Me too just discovered him this week
It's hard not to binge watch this content. It's a very timely message.
Money only impresses lazy women when you work hard your spouse money will only be a bonus and not a ladder
Not all men are clear about what they want….. most have decided to lie instead
Halleluyah! Thank you so much brother for rightly dividing the word of truth. Having being married for almost 30 years l can satisfy that this is a true word of God. I married as a virgin and my husband waited for me for almost 8 years as he was ready but l was not ready. I love what l heard here today, if a man has self control now, it won't be an issue when you marry. Make your own MONEY 💰 Do not marry for money. We are called to be a Proverbs 31 woman. Halleluyah! For every woman reading this, pray that God should reveal his plans for your life to you... Women! Go back to school. Keep learning!
God bless you abundantly
Amen God Blessed you!This happened to me I was dating this man whom we are now married after 16yrs of of knowing eachother.We both had gotten out bad relationship.We stayed in touch through out the years and stayed really good friends.We dated for a short time but decided at time wasn’t the right time.We are now together and stronger than ever.When I left my unhealthy relationship I asked god to send me the right man in my life .I ask god to allow my heart to heal from my past and forgive and move on so I can love again.I am with the man that when I first seen I told my family and friends that’s my husband.Now after 16yrs we are together 🙏🏿🙌🏾❤️God definitely heard my prayers I couldn’t be more happy with anyone else.God fearing ,family man and loves me and my boys unconditionally.Allow god to guide your footsteps and he will give the man you need not what you want!Stay blessed my friend god bless you and your marriage 🙏🏿🙌🏾❤️
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Hearing some of this point so late. Mistakes has been made already and I’m trying not to dwell on my mistakes. God help me.
1. Please have high standards
Be clear about what you want.
Be clear about your standards.
Give the guy guidelines.
Once you talk to WOMEN, you have simultaneously talked to we MEN ❤️
Sure
Would The Husband Help With The Children And Taking Care Of The House Work ????
You didn't Encourage That !!!!!
If you leave a man to his own devices, he has a high chance of self-destruction and as a woman, you are his regulator if not the family goes down and you are included.
Somebody tell me, where is the lie in this matter? We have learned the hard way.
Cy, In fact the Bible in Proverbs refers to wisdom as "she." No accident. Women were made in the image of God, not just men, and whereas men can be great warriors and leaders, women have wisdom and the fruit of the Spirit - love, joy, kindness, patience, etc - and we care for, raise, and love on the children. We are the women referred in the expression ("behind every good man is a good woman."
A man I work with said he used to date worldly women. His mother told kept urging him to meet a woman of substance. He listened. He met a good woman at his former job. He said he can't imagine his life without her. They travel, have a nice house, a baby...he said she made him a better man!
Holy spirit, direct me, lead me and take me to my better half, help me to be miss right to Mr right help me to be the place he calls home, help me lord , help me 😥😭
One thing that trills me about PK is his honesty, calling spade spade, and talking to humans unlike some pastors that talk as though they live in space. You quote the bible and bring it home with things we see daily, that way, stories of the bible has meaning to our daily lives.
May Jehovah hold you strong to keep doing what you are called to do and heal our youth.
31.00 That is very correct. My husband is never attracted to a fair lady. Imagine if i had bleached my skin, maybe I wouldn't be enjoying the peace and bliss I have been enjoying for 8 years now. Maybe I would have ended up in wrong hands.
Men don't talk to you about a problem because they dont see you as a/the solution.
I must say this, I have never seen a CZcams clip for over an hour, if I did that means I skipped some scenes.
Thank you PK for this teaching. God bless you
I'm only 37 mins into this video, and I'm wondering what I've been doing with my life these few years...
Glad, I can still incorporate this beautiful teachings.
God bless you sir
Great teaching. I've shared with my younger sisters this invaluable information. There are so many things which I will be reinforcing or putting into practice. Pastor K ,keep on teaching and encouraging women everywhere.
I am just 19mins into this video , and I am already seeing all my mistakes
Here I was thinking this guy isn’t into me when I refused to set the standards
Within me I didn’t even ask where’s this going to and I was walking away already without saying what I want !!
You are on this platform and the message is touching you please don't ignore ,there is a grace that comes with timely message as opposed to I wish I learnt this before I made that choice ,this is the Lord showing you his salvation ............
It's my opinion about it too, ladies, make your own money to pay for what you want to have, both need to work today, cause it is so expensive to have a decent life together 👍👌🤗
Once I start listening to pastor Kingsley.I cant stop till i reach the end . His teachings are just so pure and inspiring. I thank God for this💖
OH! Lord help me to locate my own man and not another woman's man.
Pastor K I knew about you so late. I have made a blunder of my life because I wasn't empowered with the right knowledge. God bless you sir.
Pastor K, I no gree oh! Men can be cagey about their intentions and manipulative. I really like that you encourage women to be proactive about what they want. A lot about culture tells women to do the opposite.
It's refreshing to hear a pastor advise women to invest in their own calling. Sometimes people make submission seem like self erasure because of marriage.
You're so right, but thank God you and I will not settle for those kind cagey ones
@@maidenhackman7100 yes. By their fruits they are found out 🤣🤣🤣
@@KiRetteCouture yes o
"A man chases a woman until she catches him". My father was a brilliant powerful but gentle man!
Married 14 years he is 💯 % right ✅️
I'm wowed! I have been married for 21 years now and I have learnt a lot here and how l wished I knew Soo much about men before, but now l have nuggets for any young woman l meet to counsel them to have standards.
Lord help us to grow spiritually 🙏🏾
Can't count how many times I paused this video to ponder.. I learnt alot from here ☺️😊
God help me to love you, not because of what I want from you. Help me fulfil my destiny and purpose with or without marriage, Amen 🙏
Show that what you got baby 😂😂😂😂😂I love this
Pst Kay keeps reminding the audience to clap. Pastor sir, what you're doing here is giving insights to life's issues. People are too lost listening and relating to everything you're saying that clapping is the last thing on their minds. This is not a regular sermon sir.
May God replenish you!!!
No relationship is better than a bad one. God bless you sir
There's nothing as difficult as respecting someone you feel you are smarter than... 😭 This is so me😭😭😭
I can relate 100% . I just let go for my peace of mind
Smarter and respect. Every human deserves respect even the babies. So please explain how does being smarter than a person a reason for disrespect?
@@daciagriffith6568Exactly BC I don't understand
I'm blessed with this teachings. You just can't go into any form of relationship with men either business or marital without this Great knowledge.. more anointing sir.
If I didn't say pastor K and M have not been a blessing to me, am lying. GOD bless you sir
I really feel bad for all the mistakes I've made but thank God this message suits me right
I have learned so much from this teaching. Pastor Kingsley, you have earned yourself a new follower from Zambia. May you live long sir!!
Pastor,more anointing upon your life and ministry, l must come to your church or your seminars anytime l am in Nigeria, am watching 👀 this talk over ^over again,lve been married for 30years& am still learning from all your messages and your wife is out of this world oo, you are both excellent in your God given mandate, Agape love Mrs Abimbola Taiwo Leeds UK
This message... I needed it. I thought i was now in a relationship with a wall. But now i have better understand of who he is. I was about to walk away from him after being with him for 4 years.
EIIIEE HOW DO U ATTAIN ALL THESE WISDOM. ALL WHAT U ARE SAYING IS EXTREMELY PRACTICAL. WOOWWW
Chaiiiiii this Pastor is full of Wisdom, the evidence is clear
I've been listening to most of your wife's sermons which are really great. You are both wise. May God continue to use you both
I know pastor is saying that men are marry out of need, but I have to say as a woman I am in that same wavelength. Love is great, but before I can get there, let’s see what the man can offer first.
YES SIR!!! NO RELATIONSHIP IS BETTER THAN A BAD RELATIONSHIP.
This was soooooo good and relatable. God bless you Pastor K. More anointing. This will saves lives and destinies for those that have ears.
You spoke facts. All facts.
Women build yourselves up even the quality of men you'll attract will be different when you build yourself up.
Men can be destiny distractions especially the wrong man.
Discernment is a MUST. Every good and perfect thing comes from God. Seek God He's the best gift giver, He will route the right man to you.
Marriage is ministry not for selfish reasons or self aggrandisement.
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True 💯✊🏽
Could you please elaborate on your last sentence. Thank you.
@@phillipwilliams7679 marriage is not for selfish people, it's where you go to serve one another. That's why I say it's a ministry.
Guys pray for me. I am going through yet another breakup and I am just so unhappy and broken.I am trying to build myself up. I watched this video and I saw so many mistakes I was doing in the relationship. This man no longer wants me or wants to date me and I keep obsessing that he might be my soulmate. I want to reach out and talk to him I feel we can work things out but in other videos pastor has discouraged begging afterbredan up.PRAY FOR ME TO FORGET HIM, TO HEAL, TO MOVE ON, TO BE STRONG AND NOT GO BACK THERE. TO BE STRONG AND CONTINUE WITH MY LIFE AND NEVER CALL HIM.
In between tears writing this today I declare that following the teachings of pastor I will get a good man to marry and be in a happy relationship my days of crying over breakups are behind me i will never cry again.GOD WILL RESTORE EVERYTHING AND ALL THE YEARS THE LOCUST HAS STOLEN FROM ME. IM A VICTOR. GOD WILL BLESS ME EVEN IN THIS TEARS WITH ANOTHER MAN. MY MAN. PRAY FOR ME IF YOU SEE THIS. MORESO FOR STRENGTH NOT TO BEG
I pray God grants you the desires of your heart. Cheer up ❤
Hi. Checking. This is one month later. Trust you have broken up? Faith is an ACTION word. Take that step Sis. God's got you. 🤍
@@SameOg thanks for checking up I had even forgotten about this post 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. Update I have made so many steps forward. Can't believe I was crying while writing the original post. I no longer cry or obssess after him (THANK GOD) I sometimes still think he might be the one, my soulmate, but Im no longer angry that he left, I have accepted it fully, I have accepted he no longer wants me and I have moved on. When I miss him I don't text or call him (THANK GOD)I just tell myself better is coming. Or sometimes when I'm overwhelmed like today I write him a letter then chew it up to at least lift the burden from my chest. I begged him after this post though 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 what a big shame 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. But I'm glad I'm not in that head space now. I'm still praying for a soulmate and a goodman but I know I'll also be okay if my path was not marriage I'll be very okay. There is a few things yet to come true that I wished for in that post BUT THERE IS ALSO SO MUCH I HAVE ACHIEVED and gotten over from that post. I'm so happy and proud. God has been so good, He will always be good. But a good man (and me to be equally good when we meet is still a prayer item) that I am certain I will achieve. Thanks. God bless you.
@@spanishlalaby2454 really happy to read about the progress. And may I add - Keep loving God and building a relationship with the Holy Spirit. While our heart desires will be granted, let's not "idolise the idea of it", rather let our completeness and utmost gratification be God. Stay winning Sis 🤍
Am repeating this sermon and still hit me deep may God help us
No body teaches like this man of God
God help us oh, seems been a good girl is very difficult, but we still holding on nd praying for God grace...thanks for the word sir.....we will still keep holding on
People will try to price you, but you put a price on yourself
I will rather be alone than get into a bad marriage. A man with a great vision is better than a man with a television and no vision.
Know God..... That's my take above all else most of these men are not even worth it.... Thank you Pastor
I just can't listen to this without commenting, this is a master piece, very difficult to see a minister of God who is very honest in his teachings, you teach the truth without fear and favour, please keep it up, permit me to say you remind of Apostle Joshua Selma. God bless you real good.
The cockroach business got me 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Wow, Holy Ghost! Thank you for your counsel and for Pastors who care so much to share such HELPFUL ADVICE!!! He's right there are women like that out there who build their life on their husband instead of the Lord and then they are stuck not knowing what to do because their husband has now passed away suddenly and they feel lost. I talked to one such lady on the phone that was a client and she was crying because she didn't even know how to turn off her alarm. She said she depended on her husband for everything. With all due respect to her, don't be like that lady!!!! Don't expect your husband to be fighting for you in prayer and you don't learn how to be a prayer Warrior yourself. Have your own money and make sure your name is not tied up in his debt. Make sure your name is on the house too and have discussions with your husband to move in the direction of independence because tomorrow is not guaranteed. This is not fear tactics... it is wisdom! Better late than never! Also never call your husband your everything... only God is your everything!!
I was confused that i had the wrong mentality about this whole thing until i watched this. That you very much sir. Now i am more confident and no one can make me believe otherwise. I am tired of this new generation nonsense.
This man big head is full of wisdom. You are born differently to be unique and make differences in people's life. I always listen to different speakers, but yours is distinct. You are a blessing to this generation
Thank you for trying to give us a choice, but men need this more than we do. They are the Adams. Men are supposed to find a wife. We need more good men out there. One women, well rounded, all the way around men; then women would have no problem. Prayers.
Thank you so much for wonderful powerful teaching pastor pk ❤😂😊.I will make my own money and sign a check for my husband 😊
Kindness shall be me always.
Investing in me from now on going forward ❤.
Love you from Zambia
Thank you so much, Pastor Mildred for being an example and a standard for we young girls to follow. You made the teaching easy for Dad as he was using you as a practical example and reference, making the principles easier for us to believe and to want to run with. God bless you, ma.
Wow i loved this. Just listened to it all the way from Zimbabwe. I wouldnt mind my dsughter to listen to this so that she takes the correct route. Thank you pastor kingsley. God bless you
Sisonke wena
Tiri tose wena
Before Eve saw Adam, she saw God. I am glad for that.
The person that will like u, will be ok with you
I am beautiful. I am a Masterpiece ... Thank you sir, I really thank you for this ...
I will set my standards very high. May God bless you.
Pastor K you are such a big blessing to this generation, more power and grace as you do His purpose while on earth. Greatly appreciate your selfless sharing!
I’m sooo sick of things like this that I just can’t allow myself to think of relationship anymore! Because it doesn’t work these days!
😂😂😂I can’t believe I was blind to all this. Yoh this is an eye opener. 😂😂😂😂😂
i hear this one sir.......chioma you are more sophisticated,more gifted than the average man
1:13:11 I am fortunate to have this masterpiece whilst planning on our day of Marriage. Thank you Mr. & Mrs. Okonkwo.
African will not clap for all the amazing nuggets. This powerful.
He stopped hunting her after he got her. She start complaining. Maybe she liked he was hunting her. When the hunting stop she complains. Is that what I an hearing.
I don't know how I stumbled in this but one thing for sure I can't stop listening, am a new subscriber pap
I stumbled upon this tonight.. it was amazing! 👏 I can so relate..I wish I had access to this before I married the wrong man. Moving forward to find the right partner, I will reflect back on the list. Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo you are blessed and God have used you to open up the eyes of women. I've been blessed listening to this! 🙏🙌
Hallelujah
Down here we call it “vex money “.
May God continue to bless you , give you more wisdom , more insight for all the contributions you are putting in to this very important institution of the body of Christ . Thank you so much sir/ Pastor K 👏🙏👍😍
59:47 Billions of men, you need just one. It takes divine guidance, it takes God helping you to find the right one.
The way you are seeing love is way bigger than what most men can even comprehend... Oh no🙊
Who's here in 2023 😊😊😊😊❤
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It’s the Male and Female house helps for me. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Honestly! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@lornaasante 😂👍🏾
I’m not one for long videos however I thank God that I took the time to watch this. I learnt that I’m on the right track which is something I needed to hear in a world where people around you will call you ‘too holy’. Thank you, Pastor.
Thank you man of God for this words . They are the truth to having enjoying the married life . Wisdom is needed to keep a woman after hunting . Men are selfish being . He was alone in the garden with animals . You just let the cat out of the bag . Thank you for this message . Your life will not go well . God values the way a man treats his wife . Mo gbe oh ! You are funny !
It costs money to be alive ! Make your own money .
Sir this is PURE GOLD! I pray that me and ALL the other women that hear this message really take your words serious. You literally gave all the secrets of a man. Even the vulnerable parts of a man. Even life advice for a woman.
God bless you sir. I can't begin to explain how grateful I am to have stumbled on your teachings and how much of an impact they've made in my life.
It's the "I don't do bridges for me"😂😂
Pastor K I don't get tire listen to you, you make massage fanny sometimes "not all people can like you, you are not ice cream"😂😂😂
Let's be calm, let's be humble and let's be kind. Awesome!!!!!!
Blessed listening to this message even as a man. God bless you more Pastor. Amen
Amazing 🙌
You are obviously talking to me sir. From today, I will high my standard.
I am so blessed to hear this teaching, I would love to say I wish I had this teaching earlier in my life, but I’m aware nothing happens before the time and I’m grateful God saw fit for me to have this teaching at this moment knowing His timing is Perfect. Thank you Pastor K, you and your wife is a blessing to so many and I pray God’s continued blessings over your lives and ministry.
Good morning,
Thank u for advising us. God bless u.
Men are not to be alone. But Men think we are pressuring them to settle down. Too many men are stubborn, suffering alone, scared, disappointed, past issues. Then they miss the Great Loving n Caring God fearing Woman.
A woman who knows what she deserves.
Relationships are not a waste.
1. Men aren't meant to be alone Woman came out of Man they also desire to be with someone the right one
2. The men you are describing are not the type of men you should be dating but Glad you avoided because they would have wasted your time .
3. Do not pursue a man no matter what .
4. If a man doesn't have a vision he can't expect him to lead you right
@@apologeticministry You are correct.
@@motherswhoempowerothermoth3272 Learnt from this man of God czcams.com/video/AKB_qb1oToQ/video.html
@@apologeticministry was a typeo 😂.