How I Socially Transitioned MTF
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- čas přidán 14. 09. 2023
- Hey guys!
I know transitioning socially, around family, friends and at work is tough to figure out. There’s no right or wrong way to do it but this is how I did it!
Hopefully these tips help you if you are just starting you transition. Grab a cuppa tea and let’s chit chat!
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I am a straight female, and I have no idea how I found your channel but I really like watching your videos. It’s nice to watch you become happier and confident with every video. You keep doing what your doing x
Agree with you, shes fab
She's a man
same!!! This is such a positive channel to watch - even when dealing with the tricky topics. Alexis is fabulous. :)
I love how you were so good about going slow for your family to get used to it. We know you didn't have to but that shows what a wonderful and thoughtful person you are.
I am not trans but so grateful to have found your channel to learn how to be more mindful and respectful to people I meet who are trans. I’m supportive of everyone and who they want to be but we can always learn and always do better so thank you for sharing your experiences! ❤
What a beautiful sentiment!
If it's any consolation Alexis, when my hormones got screwed up by menopause I put weight on - a lot. Hormones have a lot to answer for! You look fab and well done on keeping up these videos. your attitude is so good for the trans community's acceptance
Oh me too. I have pilled on the pounds since menopause xxx
You got that right.
Trans community acceptance.
There is another community you're not recognizing.
The de-transitioners
Ever heard of them ?
They are admitting being trans wasn't all it was cracked up to be.
They are de-transing, that means, trans women are going back to what they originally were, men
You're talking about a biological male taking synthetic hormones vs a biological female innate hormones no comparison.
@mystic22g4 They're NOT "comparing," they're SHARING their experiences with their own hormones. Try not to be so obtuse.
@@wendydonnelly1881 No comparison because biological women's female hormones experiences are natural and trans women (male) synthetic hormones experiences are the result of the unnatural.
Not "obtuse" just like to keep it real. Somebody needs to be the voice or reason.
When I need a feel good video you are just what I need. No matter what you’re talking about you just have such a positive, uplifting vibe. You radiate such love and kindness. Thanks for making your channel and sharing with your experiences with us ❤
Love you both to bits . There’s always a bed here in New Zealand if you want a holiday. I’m a 65 year old and I really do believe you are the face and voice of reason for the spokesperson for Transgender Women
Your approach and explanations are so clear and responsible. For any young ones reading these comments and your thinking about it PLEASE listen to Alexis.
Thankyou Alexis any women’s club would love you. Your more of a woman than some biological women I know. ❤you. 🥰🥰🥰
Wonderful information to share. Little by little, one becomes more comfortable. Once you REALLY look around, you discover everyone is a little uncomfortable. Cheers!
Dear Alexis,
seeing you happily express yourself as a woman warms my heart. ❤ i am glad you found a way to make it easy.
I love listening to your story. My son found love with a transgends female. I absolutely luv her to death. Thank you for sharing your story with us. X
@@ElKnoppersGet a life and leave other people to live theirs ... no need to be negative
@@ElKnoppers Been negative when someone is happy their son has found love with a transgender female and has accepted them into their life and love them for who they are is wonderful ... you are obviously so closed minded that its a good job evolution isn't relying on you 😬
@@debbiecooper298 thank you .x
Menopause has a lot to answer for weight wise as well!
You are a real inspiration and a great spokeswoman for transwomen & women everywhere. Thank you for sharing your journey. ❤❤
💯 im gaining weight now im in full menopause 😢
Weight gain can come from a change in metabolism as well as hrt. Also I didn't start my transition until I was 55! Before that I was crossdressing which did make it easier for my partner to accept. The 29th of September is my one year anniversary of hrt! I am so much happier than I was before! I am looking towards getting some surgeries but that is still in the future. As for age appropriate clothing you can still get the fun clothes just wear them in your home when you have the time.
Hormones. The bane of everyone’s existence. I put on 50 pounds with menopause. And I was always super skinny and able to eat anything I wanted before! Ugh. Your hair looks amazing ❤
Thanks for sharing Alexis. You shine with positivity and happiness. My transition journey has been very similar to yours in a lot of ways. A very gradual process, but I'm so much happier now than I was 18 months ago. And the change in my appearance astounds most people.
What I like about this story of your transition (and about you in general) is that you not only respect yourself but you respect others too. And the response you get is respect in return. I think about your manager and his openness, it was sweet to hear.
I love seeing the glamour come out in you Alexis.
Thank you, Alexis for your life affirming, warm and down to Earth videos. Your videos have something for everyone because you talk about things that are universal to the human condition like identity, sense of self and how to navigate the world and all the situations we find ourselves in. You are a beautiful soul, Thanks again, Regards, Mary
Well, I will say, feeling socially awkward is likely gender neutral because I've always since age 11, felt intimidated with my body and Im a natural born woman and Herero-sexual. I enjoyed your video and especially I appreciate who you are as a person. You have one of the best out-looks on life and you pride yourself to treat others with the utmost dignity and respect. That's my favorite thing about you
You really are the sweetest soul. Thank you for being a lovely voice of reason❤
Thanks again for posting. Transitioning is like a second puberty in lots of ways...figuring out how I can make sense as a woman, and making up for lost time...people close to us transition with us, and if we need time to adjust, they need time also...kudos to your bf.
I just love your videos. My name is Teresa, Cloda Bella is my little girl (hence the small business name), its my husband and my little business, a way to help Cloda & myself as a stay at home mother. I've battled and still do at times, depression etc but i'm going through my own Spiritual Awakening this year, and its been amazing. Coming across your channel, your lovely aura, lovely energy....You are a valid Spokesperson for Transgender Women in the most Eloquent, Respectable & Best Way. I have always been someone who can empathise & support all, i can't relate to all the pronouns, abusive behaviours & trying to decipher who someone wants you to identify you as.
To find you, is a way of grounding within myself and gives me hope that we can still support lovely souls like you. Also, i honestly believe you are going to be so much more, than you are now and you already are SO MUCH MORE.....Absolute beautiful soul.
I Handmake my own Natural Base Beeswax Lip Balms but i use Intuitive Healing to make them also. I would love to send you some. Everytime i see your videos pop up, watch them etc the only PRONOUN i ever use with you, is SHE.......You are such a beautiful person and i only wish you nothing but the best always.........Love your channel.
You are beautiful Alexis inside and out, thanks for sharing your story with us, I really feel like I know you without ever even meeting you! You and Liam will have your own reality show, I just know it! Watch this space..... ❤️
this is so relatable to all women (cis and trans), as there's that awkward journey into figuring out how to present as an (adult) woman. Thankyou so much for sharing your journey, and making it so relatable, and real to all of us, regardless of what demographic we may fit into. Luvyatobits.
Quit with that vile "cis" word please. In case you didn't know, Alexis herself feels it's a very derogatory term.
You are so nice! As a Mother of a Trans kid…your comments help process everything for me. Thanks :)
You are an absolute Sweetheart,,,,sending you all the good vibes and big love from Australia ❤
Thanks for your content, whenever I see a new video, I must watch! You are soo precious❤
Flipping hormones have a lot to answer for. Alexis, when I was younger I was so slim and could eat for England, you name it I could shovel it in and not put one ounce on. I wanted to but nope. I was 8st 2...that would go up 5lb at time of the month. I'd be so happy I was putting weight on, then afterwards I'd lose it and I'd be so upset. Whizzing on years, menopause hit, yep the weight has piled on, I walk past a cake and I put 10lb on, lol. You are a beautiful woman, trans or no. You have a bright soul and are as funny as anything. Keep these videos coming...I could hear you waffle on about nothing and everything, it's like having a conversation with a bestie. Love you girlie. 😊❤😊
That`s really good to hear. Wishing you lots of happiness. I too went the androgynous route, started growing my hair and wearing feminine clothes that weren`t too obviouse. Now on hoemones and happy. Thank you for sharing xx
You’re awesome! Always be you and I pray that you love yourself because you have a great heart. Thank you for being a good human being!
Hormones are torture at times! They affect every part of your emotions & body. Even through menopause, the hot flashes are miserable. I also have gained unwanted weight for the first time in my life. They also may be contributing to sugar cravings. Enjoy ❤
You mentioned safety. I'd like to hear more about that subject and how you've handled that. Clearly you have done very well when it comes to staying safe. It is a worry for sure.
Beautiful then and now ❤
Hi Alexis I think your absolutely fantastic 😊 so honest and open great advice ❤ really could be helpful for someone your looking natural aswell and it seems to have been a smoth process for you
this was going to my plan, but my egg cracked in a big way! this told me that it needed to happen, and happen faster than planned.
I have socially transitioned for over a year now, but still have to do baby steps with my father, as he is very old school. But, he will have to change, because I'm changing and he needs to get his head out of his a##!
Fantastic video i dont know anything, about this,im watching from Australia, i very impressed with your confidence in your self,owning you,telling others that you are enough,you are embracing who you have always known your self to be,from with in ,bravo 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤
Bless You... Great Video! Really deep stuff!
You're amazing @Alexis ❤
Thank You 🙏
I really really love your journey I'm a male to female crossdresser and am certain if I'd acted on my urges in my teens I would have fully transitionad by now, keep it up and keep the vids coming x
What a wonderful young woman you are. This is exactly what young trans people need. Honest and to the point and trying not to be to judgey about other people not knowing what to say. Fantastic. Love you loads 💗
I think the saddest thing is that, as a trans female, you have to become constantly aware of your personal safety. Yes, this is something that biological women grow up with, but trans women kind of have to be extra careful. Not only because you are transitioning to a female who is vulnerable, but also because the transition itself makes you vulnerable. I have no idea if this makes sense, but I hope it does.
Yes, unfortunatly this is true. The voilence against trans people is insane. I hope it gets better as society understands more.
I heat you 🙏 ❤
Where is the data supporting that claim?
@@taurusgirl240 www.stonewall.org.uk/system/files/lgbt_in_britain_-_trans_report_final.pdf
It's interesting to me that you've noticed how much more expensive it is to be a woman than to be a man. All the crap we have to pay for. And, although you won't have to pay for this, don't get me started on the cost of sanitary products. I'm loving your nails! I'm trying to grow my own nails, but lordy, I miss my acrylics!
What’s the process for transitioning “legally”. Did you have to legally change your name through the courts? Birth certificate? Did you have to change your gender for documents like passports etc? That whole process seems like it would be so difficult. Tell us about how you did that. Love your channel and your attitude. Your educational videos go a long way towards helping people understand. Thank you! 💜
I don't know if you're vegetarian or vegan, but if you're neither of those things try increasing both your animal protein and make sure you're getting enough fat (just not from seed oils). Fats are just important, but the protein will really help you not feel so hungry. It's very satiating.
Plenty of vegan foods provide PLENTY of protein, just so you know. Also, Alexis IS a meat eater.
@@wendydonnelly1881 They're not complete proteins. Also they don't provide satiation the way animal protein does. Just so you know.
We need a neon sign would look nice next to the green and the flowers
Its on our ever ending list of things to do lol
@@Liam_blake00 Thank you for being so sweet and romantic 💋 I would love to host you here in Puerto Rico
Be the woman you always wanted to be, but don't take on the cultural expectation that you should go hungry to achieve a certain look! Women are soft and curvy. Eat healthy / have a healthy lifestyle by all means, but don't be self-conscious about your size or shape. If you clothes don't fit, adjust your wardrobe!
Do you have any good girl friends who can help you with some of the girly aspects of being female? Shopping, advice, moral support?
I imagine there were a lot of sacrifices that you made to follow your heart on your trans journey. I am a biological female who belonged to a fundamentalist church that had a lot of strict rules. When I got divorced, I was shunned and lost all the friends I had, I lost my spiritual support group, I lost my sense of community. It took a long time to recover from those wounds, the shame and guilt, on top of the heart break and grief I was going through.
I hope you are doing well :)
Bless you Love ❤️ I'm glad you're safe and a little better.
@@AmethystEmpressDivineTarot6589 Many thanks. That was a long time ago now. I still miss some aspects of that community, but not the judgment and small mindedness. I've learned to stand up for myself, not even having recognized that I was immersed in a patriarchy at the time. I have raised my own girls to be spiritual, tolerant and strong. They have taught me a lot, too :)
Alexis, I love your makeup. Your lipstick is always so pretty. Would you be able to do a video of what make up you like to use.😊
Love your content❤
❤i love happy endings .
The hormones stimulate hunger too so wonderful isn’t it 😊😂
I’m so fascinated by how much you look female. The first time I saw you was when a kid ‘clocked’ you. I knew what clocked meant but I couldn’t figure out why it pertained to you. Then . . . Dingdingding. I got it!! You mentioned that you were a dancer. Can you elaborate on that please?? Also, how tall are you??
You did fantastic
I’m 15, starting to begin transitioning when I was 12, I started growing out my hair, and after that, I taught myself how to put it up in different ways, and used they/them pronouns, now I’m at the start if wearing makeup by wearing lipstick, I hope to begin wearing more makeup one day, and to dress very femininely and to pass as a trans girl
I just can't believe that we both transitioned on the job at 27. I started my transition to male in 2010. Things were deffo different haha. I did NOT want a big deal made of me either. I was just trying to get along. Didn't want any special treatment because that's dumb. But I recall one weird thing that happened - the literal HR MANAGER came up to me at my desk one day after I'd been about several months into my medical transtion and whispered in my ear "Do you still get a period??" I was so shocked. Like, are you really who you are asking me this?? I just said "No." I should have said, "Did you really just ask me that as the HR manager here??"
Hi alexis when i was on hrt i gained weight youre looking fantastic ❤🎉
Even as a straight women and im not a prude by any means i feel too much is on show these days and it lets women and girls down nothing is left to the imagination ❤🎉
I am intrigue by and learning from your site. I have a huge concern you may address. When a born female hits menopause, the doctors are reluctant to give us hormones as they are known to cause cancer. Is this not a concern for the massive hormones you must require?
❤ from Greece 😊
Also can we talk about shoes inn USA is not easy finding LG shoes for any occasions. It's so hard how is it for you?
Hi, Im 15, And Im trans woman too, I just feel happier as a female, and It feels right, also you are such a good person to look up to, also I can never get my eyeliner right, and when I take my makeup off it hurts my eyes, I was about to say maybe I need to get better at makeup but no, I definitly need to get better at makeup ha ha ha, Wishing you all the best, Xxxx
Just practice practice practice sweetie you'll get there, women have to practice too it doesn't come naturally to us and have some cotton pads soaked in water to cleans your eyes after removing your eye makeup but most importantly keep your eyes closed tight as makeup stings like hell if it gets into your eyes, hope that helps x
thank you@@mycatspethooman5590
@@mycatspethooman5590 Wrong, females don't require synthetic hormones to acquire female sex characteristics or surgeries to look female. The people who require that are males.
Ur beutiful from.in nd out go girl u shine nd may toich the sky fly babe ✨
one issue to be careful with is if you have unsupportive family they think it is funny to out you to random strangers
V&T here babe! 😅
I was wondering how tall you are Alexis? You are absolutely stunning by the way!
I totally look a mess. For unknown reason I just don't care about myself. I wear the same cloths everyday. I given up to taken baths. I just do not have the will power anymore to fix my self up with a hair style or use makeup. I have tons of feminine clothing and makeup. I have just given up caring about myself. But yet I am not mis-gendered. Very strange. I use to be not like this and borderline low self-esteem but yet cared about myself.
Are you okay? I relate to a lot of what you're saying.
hey MS.Alexis Blake muahhhhhhhhh
Also, hi from Wakefield.
I really like you Alexis and I identify with you cos I am trans too. Love Marisa.
Oh sweetheart, I fully understand how hormone imbalances can throw your metabolism outta wack...In my case, thanks to hypothyroidism. It absolutely has affected my hormones and causing me to gain a staggering 30lbs.
I have panhypopituitarism so therefore i lack certain hormones so ive been on hrt since i was 15 (now 36) and girl let me tell you hormones are no joke from weight gain, anxiety and mood swings and you never get used to it 🙄just get on with it. Wouldn't it nice just to be a woman and not go through all that 😔
You should be a spokesperson,or a consulting young people
Exactly what kind of young people are you referring to? Definitely, Alexis the pretender of being a woman doesn't need to consul every day normal kids who don't have these issues of gender dysphoria.
That's three times you commented on this video - just admit you love watching trans content@@mystic22g4
@@mystic22g4 Drag yourself out of the Dark Ages , Alexis is more female than I am or ever have been ... And I'd love to know her as a friend .. Can't say the same about you unfortunately, I like a mind thats open ,yours is obviously a lost cause
@@debbiecooper298
Drag yourself to reality FEMALES don’t have a penis. Penises do not deliver eggs, they deliver sperm and Alexis still has his penis and is a 100% genetic male even Alexis admits his male biology.
A male who dresses in female designated clothing or who wears a female type hairstyle is not a woman. He’s a man who either identifies with women more than men or he has a sexual fetish. That’s it. That’s all it boils down to. His brain isn’t female, his brain is male because it resides in a male body. His behavior may be atypical though. He may be quite effeminate in behavior but this doesn’t make him female, no matter how strongly he wishes to be female.
Alexis, what exactly is a transgender woman ?
Hey GirL Your Totally Gorgeous 😊❤
you.re a beautiful trans woman
You are eating right. But you need to get a daily honest sweat……exercise
Weight gain and being a woman comes hand in hand unfortunately x Those pesky hormones have a lot to answer for! Xxx
Being a woman doesn't involve being a man then claiming to be a woman.
@@mystic22g4 No it doesnt your right, it involves either becoming a woman after being born female or becoming a woman after being born male. Neither situations involves 'claiming' both circumstances are REAL women x
@@BeingBriony Artificial plastic flowers can look like the real thing but it isn’t. A woman is an adult female and this occurs only in biological women who grow into adulthood. A biological male emulating female sex characteristics by way of blocking their male hormones, taking female hormones and having feminizing surgeries in order to claim the gender of woman ARE NOT WOMEN. Everything about them is unnatural. Biological women’s rights is heading to a complete end and in its place fighting for biological men to be recognized as women/female. Transgender women (male) rights takes precedence over biological women/female rights which is why an 18 year old male went into a shower room completely naked exposing his penis to four 14 year adolescent girls with no repercussions. Say good-bye to women’s sports because once allowed in they will dominate, say good bye to privacy because any male will be able to go into any designated spaced labeled women, no need to even transition just say the magic words “I am woman.”
You're definitely far more feminine looking than male you're good looking as female but not so looking at you as a male.😊😊😊😊
Stop lying, Alexis was a handsome man and appears to be an attractive trans woman, still male though.
@@mystic22g4and she would be the first to admit that.
@@wendydonnelly1881 Correction grand he would be first to admit it.
Gender is a horrible concept. It's so limiting and automatically falls into stereotypes and expected behaviours/appearances. Feminine is anything that is female. Masculine is anything that is male.
I still however understand why some people want to adopt or become the other gender.
I have issues with non-binary, agender etc as it implies that male and female are polar opposites when in fact males and females can be extremely similar and should be allowed to exhibit the full range of human behaviours and appearances.
We'd nearly gotten rid of gender in the 80s and 90s but it's back with avengeance.