How to build self-worth and stop seeking external validation (with 4 practices)

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  • čas přidán 7. 06. 2024
  • Having a clear sense of self, and strong self-worth is necessary to living the life we desire. It can help us feel more confident to set and stand by our boundaries, stop people pleasing, and have more authentic relationships. Though this is not an easy or linear journey, baby steps can go a long way.
    Chapters:
    0:00 Self-worth
    0:39 What is self-worth?
    1:14 Why is it important to have a strong sense of self-worth
    4:09 First Practice
    6:40 Second practice
    9:07 Third Practice
    11:02 Fourth Practice
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Komentáře • 63

  • @zileht
    @zileht Před měsícem +35

    self trust is SO important for real

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před měsícem +3

      I think its an under-discussed topic, but essential for establishing the ground works of showing ourselves we're worthy of the commitments we make to ourselves. 🙌

  • @annaczech4411
    @annaczech4411 Před 17 dny +11

    this helped me alot especially with dealing with external validation. I've been doing some inner child healing exercises and found out this is a felling that the child in me is so familiar with. the child in me wants to be liked and accepted by everyone but this is something i truly wanna overcome and show myself the love i deserve, show myself that I got my bavk and all the validation i need i only important as it comes from me.

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před 16 dny +1

      I have felt very similar things. It’s very empowering to step into the adult role and become the loving parental figure to our inner child parts. 💖💖 wish you all the very best.

  • @paisleethinks
    @paisleethinks Před 3 dny

    Beautifully thought out and spoken💗

  • @user-if5ls5td7k
    @user-if5ls5td7k Před 2 dny

    dayummmm thats so profound knowledge in simpler words

  • @MKProduktionSinzig
    @MKProduktionSinzig Před měsícem +2

    Happy to see you again, Dia!💐 I missed your pretty face a lot 😚 And thank you for sharing your thoughts on self-worth. It's a very important topic as many people lack a fair share of self-worth. Without it a happy and satisfying life is practically impossible so you hopefully contribute to the well-being of many people!
    Waiting for your next video now ... 😎😊

  • @salmonruss
    @salmonruss Před 8 dny

    Outstanding video! I just stumbled upon this. You are an extremely poised and articulate speaker.
    Great thoughts you are sharing based on direct experience and self-reflection.
    You are fantastic! Bless you! Stay strong and carry on!!!

  • @jayadvice
    @jayadvice Před 16 dny +1

    i freaking needed this!!!!

  • @millievanillie9700
    @millievanillie9700 Před 8 dny

    ❤ Thank you!!! So good, wise Mindsets and steps to cultivate self worth without the need to achieve society’s measurement of success and worth

  • @feliztupe1057
    @feliztupe1057 Před 5 dny

    Wow I got hella emotional during this video... Thanks for putting this kind of content out there. Somehow, I viewed it as like my big sis having a talk with me... again, thanks so much.

  • @akhilendhukg2503
    @akhilendhukg2503 Před 13 dny

    Thank you🥰

  • @higherselfchronicles
    @higherselfchronicles Před 18 dny

    Really love your content! Wishing you so much growth ❤ Thank you!

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před 18 dny

      aw I really appreciate that, thank you! 💖

  • @jerry.cray..
    @jerry.cray.. Před měsícem +1

    Well said. Thank you!❤

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před měsícem +1

      Thanks for watching 😊❤

  • @KarmicSoulMate
    @KarmicSoulMate Před měsícem +2

    Absolutely spot on, another great video. Peace

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před měsícem

      Thank you! ❤

  • @kleom
    @kleom Před 5 dny

    you’re mesmerizing

  • @ashley14579
    @ashley14579 Před 18 dny

    Thank you so much I needed this

  • @ProfessorHamachi
    @ProfessorHamachi Před měsícem +5

    Really appreciate how the concepts are framed in context...with examples. And thanks for the book recommendation! 😊

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před měsícem +1

      What you told me about concepts and contexts will most certainly be in my mind as I create more videos😊 thank you!!

  • @goddessoffantasy
    @goddessoffantasy Před 9 dny +1

    Thank you for this! ❤ Grounded in reality, simple to follow.
    Just a few takeaways for future reference:
    • Practice self-acceptance and compassion, process the bad/ugly things that may be true about you and allow it to at least be neutral (may take time)
    • Build self-trust by choosing things that are good for you (strike a balance-not black and white, avoid shaming)
    • How you are perceived is NOT your task

  • @samelmudir
    @samelmudir Před měsícem +2

    Always insightful. Your presence is missed on CZcams. Hope to see more in the near future. 😊

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před měsícem +1

      I’m holding myself to it! Appreciate the encouragement as always 💖

  • @jaz9552
    @jaz9552 Před měsícem +10

    literally not even halfway through the video and im already subscribing. Such beautiful words spoken, got a new fan here hehe !

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před měsícem

      aww thank you so much! ❤

  • @mkpetros
    @mkpetros Před 2 dny

    Loved this video - thank you for the book reccs! ❤

  • @pearl_greytea
    @pearl_greytea Před měsícem +1

    I read that book! the mention of it got me to subscribe lol as well as your "we can begin again" philosophy

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před měsícem

      The book definitely gave me a light-bulb moment, the language was not convoluted and maybe that’s why it worked so well. So glad to have you here! 🩵😊

  • @mr.g1683
    @mr.g1683 Před měsícem +13

    Welcome back stranger its been a loooooooooong time. Hope to see you return more often with videos about the outdoor community travels.

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před měsícem +1

      Thank you! Travel is definitely not out of the equation 😊

  • @thinkabout602
    @thinkabout602 Před měsícem

    Would you believe I was just thinking about what you were up to just a few days ago. Now I'll get back to the video. 👍 ....... Definite words of wisdom and a very professional presentation. 🥀🌼🥀 Thank You ☮

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před měsícem +2

      Ah so glad to “see” a familiar face! Thank you for thinking of me and I hope you’ve been well! 🩵🩵

  • @coucous-oz2zk
    @coucous-oz2zk Před 12 dny

    Gratitude and thank you ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @kirtan4656
    @kirtan4656 Před měsícem +1

    Interesting insights, I have also come to similar conclusions through a lot self-reflection and reading.
    It's crazy how we're put on this planet with a mind that constantly tells us we're not good enough and then everyone just has to constantly deal with this inner critic for 70-80 years without going insane.

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před měsícem

      ha yes, it is a delicate balance to have enough self-awareness to be humbled by our own natural imperfections, yet also enough courage to try and get out of our own way.

  • @MrRobinski
    @MrRobinski Před 12 dny +1

    You have come such a long way Dia,
    I will have to watch this every day to remind myself. I will listen to your podcasts also. 🤲
    I can really sense you are feeling what you say and your approach to bringing the key points to be understood through practical methods really helps trigger those feelings inside also. You are a fantastic teacher. 🍏
    For me to to feel more of a sense of achievement and confidence and not always be the helper as you mentioned would also be a breakthrough for me.
    I sense its real courage, strength, and purpose when one is not doing what is expected of you but following your heart, in the face of judgment and criticism.
    Thanks for your love and dedication to yourself and others.. 💚💥

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před 11 dny

      Thank you for sharing such a thoughtful comment! 🙏🏼 It’s words like yours that encourage me to continue to squash my own imposter syndrome, so the gratitude goes both ways. 🩵

    • @MrRobinski
      @MrRobinski Před 11 dny

      @@DiaJin 🌻🌞💚💚💞

  • @AinulHasan-ig4rk
    @AinulHasan-ig4rk Před 11 dny

    My best wishes to you thanks for all your effortlessly jobs for the next generation

  • @johnrainsman6650
    @johnrainsman6650 Před 5 hodinami

    It's hard to respect yourself when you feel like a Ioser. My boss doesn't believe in me. She was once upset I had signed up for a one-person shift, because she didn't think I could manage alone. She was all "I've told you not to sign up for shifts by yourself, I've been very clear about that, I don't know how much clearer I can get for you to listen" and she told me I need someone there to give me instructions and guide me. Sure, I'm a slow learner and have messed up at work before, but the automatic assumption that I'm heIpIess, while our newer workers are allowed to work alone, it just bothers me. And I just found out that my sister defended me from a classmate who called me the r word. He said I was just a guy with disabIities (I have learning difficulties and ASD). And he ridicuIed the fact that I still live at home at 28 and went to a small charter school instead of his and my sister's public high school.

  • @danking6446
    @danking6446 Před měsícem +1

    yeeeahhh Dia!!!!!

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před měsícem

      Thanks for the hype!! 🤪💖

  • @Virtualexist
    @Virtualexist Před 8 dny +1

    Sometimes the youtube algo works just right.

  • @Chris-hp2gg
    @Chris-hp2gg Před 12 dny +1

    Conceive, believe, achieve.😂

  • @user-ix5qd1bp4q
    @user-ix5qd1bp4q Před 11 dny

    How can survive todays timed ?

  • @abbecks
    @abbecks Před měsícem

    The lady is gorgeous.

  • @Divyv520
    @Divyv520 Před 2 dny

    Hey Dia , very good video . I can do better editing in your videos which can help you to get more engagement in your videos . Pls lmk what do you think ?

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před 2 dny

      Hi there, not sure if you’re the one who reached out via email. Please send me an email: contact@herewithdia.com

    • @Divyv520
      @Divyv520 Před dnem

      @@DiaJin Sure , Appreciate it , thankyou !

  • @gh-sb1dy
    @gh-sb1dy Před 23 dny

    dia it was kind of vague i though you would have been smart and included some real world examples that happened to you but , it seems you just used like ai to generate this speech,it didnt feel like yrou own words to me. also i could sense your passion was on very low for this topic.maybe get more passionate about a topic before posting because most people watching need that energy to push us and your low vibe isnt working it for this topic

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před 23 dny

      Hi there, it’s definitely written by me but i did use a teleprompter for quicker recording, and it’s something I’ve been thinking of ditching, so I appreciate your feedback:)

  • @teedee2894
    @teedee2894 Před měsícem +1

    Hollyyyyy you're back and haven't changed one bit. Great to see you doing well and wishing you all the best.

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před měsícem

      Ahh thank you! Wishing you all the best too 😊❤

  • @HannouAly
    @HannouAly Před měsícem

    Thank you for sharing this ✨🤍

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před měsícem

      Thank you for watching 🩵😊

  • @ouioui1003
    @ouioui1003 Před 7 dny

    Thank you for this useful video ❤️‍🩹

    • @DiaJin
      @DiaJin  Před 6 dny

      Thanks for watching 🙏🏼💖