I’m currently going thru a really hard breakup , sometimes I feel like ending my life , sometimes I feel better . It’s almost like I’m stuck in a cycle . I’m leaving this comment here today , so when I’m moved on and I come back here , I know I made movements and moved on . Also everytime i listen to you , I feel lot lighter , I hope it gets better soon . Love you 🩷
You got it girl 🔥 you can do this!! Keep it up. I have been here in Lumma's comment videos like 7 months ago, now im healed. Listen to this girl (Lumma) she knows what she's talking about and its 100% true. Good luck. Sending you love! 💕
Be strong one day at a time, my ex left me on Feb 8, I know how hard it is going through it right now I am still healing but it's going to get better, remember God is with us be strong please you got this! Better days are coming🙏❤
Girl !! You have a attitude and egoistic problem. The way you say, " he wouldn't ever be able to met your needs. " It's disrespectful. You are simply degrading him without knowing the potential. I get that for now, he is not meeting up your needs but who knows that future ? Do you know the future ?
9 months since the devastating break up and I couldn’t be more thankful to the universe for it. I’ve watched Lumma’s videos throughout the grieving process. Her videos made me feel not alone and reading the comments definitely helped me to understand what I was feeling during that time. Some advice I can give to help you to let go or move on: - Cry. Cry as much as you can. Don’t keep your emotions unreleased because your physical health will be at risk. - If you feel suicidal, cannot eat or work, seek help from a therapist/ psychiatrist. - Talk to your closest friends and family. Their support will go a long way. It may sound crazy but some of my friends helped me find humor(in a good way haha) despite the depression and that made me feel lighter. - Try out a new activity or go on a solo travel. This is one of my breakthrough. I went to Japan on my own and visited a lot of temples, museums, landscapes and tried out a lot of new food! I felt like myself again after this. - Pray. The best advice I can give. Trust in God’s plan for you. I am still single but I’m enjoying rediscovering who I am and appreciating everything I have right now.
Matthew 11:28-30 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.
The first breakup is hard, but let me tell you... it doesn't get any easier, no matter how many times you've been through it before. Each breakup you experience is the worst breakup of your life (if you are truly truly in love). But you survive every one of them.
I think because each time we do fall in love again, we knew more what we were looking for that time and maybe fell deeper than the previous time... And so the heartbreak is proportionately harder.
It does get easier when you learn and understand proper ways to manage grief . Breakups tend to hurt most if they are a worsening of how you see yourself. It’s typical that the hardest thing to deal with is the fantasy of what you wanted, for example family marriage etc. No one can hurt you unless you allow them. She even says that the vision of her future was the hardest lose and that she wasn’t truly in love. That’s evidence towards my point, that is typically the vision and not the person that you morn and when you allow the other person to make you think badly of yourself it will hurt even more. love for yourself is everything
He broke up with me two years ago, suddenly, after 3 years of living together. I completely shut down, didn't process my emotions, moved away, got a new job and had terrible "romantic" relationships ever since. I don't really like where I am at in my life. I guess I just don't see my potential anymore and I don't trust love. Please, if you're going through a breakup, feel. Feel your emotions, go through it, talk about it in the first months, take it out of your mind and your body, express it with arts, creativity or sport. Be kind with yourself and don't try to "be strong" for the sake of what other people might think or say.
I’m so sorry to both of you. You will get there I certainly never thought I would and I did! I still think I’ll never have what I had before but I’ve finally made peace with it. Just wish I hadn’t put on so much weight since! No one is worth that! 😂 look after yourselves xx
This is very common. We allow the other person to decide our worth so when they treat us badly or leave us we think less of yourself. It has everything to do with ourselves and nothing to do with our ex . It’s typical that we aren’t even missing our ex but the” vision “ or fantasy of what could’ve been.
I was going to get married this September. I thought he was the one. He lied, I forgave and then he left me. I was completely blindsided. My heart is so broken that I can’t even explain how much I am suffering. It’s been 2 months. Some days are easy some days are miserable. I hope I will get better. Anyone here who is going through a heartbreak, you’re not alone.
im going through a bad break up. Ive been crying for 2 weeks straight, i barely eat, dont shower, dont leave the house. I live alone so im just a living corpse where i dont feel happy or enjoying life anymore. I dont want to be with anyone besides him, i still love him so much, and sadly, i feel like i love him more that i love my self. I miss him everyday and the thought of not being with him just crushes me everyday. There is nothing i would like more than to be with him again, to turn back time, to everything to go back to normal, but i know thats impossible. I suffer from depression and anxiety and this has been a huge trigger. I am leaving this commet here on the hope that i can come back in the future and see how much ive grown cuz today i only feel pain in my soul and life is not the same with him around, he took the colors and the hope.
Baby im so sorry ur going thru this. 5 months into my break up and i can confidently assure you it always gets better. not all at once and not how you thought it would but it does. a part of me still wishes i could go back too but i know now that if i can survive it you definitely can. the best advice to give you is, dont try to move on, move forward. with all the pain and sadness just keep moving forward. there are still days where all i wanna do is cry but i promise those days will lessen. it doesn’t feel like it now but i promise. if you can survive this you can survive anything. what’s meant for you will never pass you by. believe that. im on this painful journey with you sending you all the love.
Hey it's okay. I also live alone (I have a dog) but alone as a human being.. I understand your thoughts and feelings and everything but I am at the point that it is really not okay to sell someone as he sold me, our life, future and everything we had... it is tough I do not eat as well I do not go anywhere the only happiness I have is when I talk to my dog who he btw also left... this poor little dog is still waiting for him (5 days since we broke our engagements) and I feel really sorry as I am not able to explain that she (Sila the dog) does not need to wait someone who was not able to appreciate and embrace and work on everything we wanted and had...
i feel just exactly like you, like i only enjoyed when i was spending time with him and i feel like i will never like a person and their company more than this, but I also am sure we will be fine, with time and patience and we will enjoy life again, rooting for you
He actually contacted me and I did not wanted to see him.. 2 days later (yesterday), he tried again and I answered the same that day..that night (last night) after breaking and a lot of thinking I contacted him and asketski whether he wanted to go out and he said No. :D and here we are... in the very beginning
I came out of an unhealthy relationship 4 days ago. He was nice in the beginning (could hold accountability for his bad behaviour and apologise) but he couldn’t handle me telling him that I am sad or hurt in some way. He was defensive, dismissive and always telling me that I keep “complaining”. But I was asking for the bare minimum: calls, planning dates, some talk about the near future. His lack of comprehension and my lack of ability to self regulate broke us. I can’t help but blame myself .. as if I brought this onto myself one way or another. I have had a lot of toxic relationships before this and I guess I never managed to completely heal due to my fear of staying alone.
As someone who just broke up with an ex who did the same thing, I'd like to offer some empathy and insight. My ex did the same thing, started hot and then eventually went cold. We tried having conversations about it and she was very understanding but change never happened. She was VERY aware of her avoiding tendencies, but ultimately if she felt pressured in any sort of way, it makes her feel like she's expected to and then she doesn't want to and that's what she ended up deciding, that she felt like she wasn't ready for a relationship. I tried really hard to not take it personally, because it's not - it has everything to do with their self worth (obviously it doesn't excuse the behavior). Yes, there were things I could have done better, but that doesn't mean I did anything wrong, nor was her lack of effort a reflection of my worth. If it's any consolation, know that you did the best you could, you tried to communicate, and you took the step best needed for you, as I did with my ex which was incredibly difficult.
@@kai9528 thank you so much for the validating words. It has been over 2 weeks now and I am getting worse going in to spirals and thinking what pushed him into his avoidance tendencies.. maybe I was too much? Asking for calls, consistency, planned dates etc. He said things like I was ruining his mood when I was being vulnerable with him. I couldn’t take it. I broke up in the end but it was him who had checked out of the relationship long ago (no efforts other than texts and sharing reels on instagram and we were semi long distance [2.5hrs apart]). I needed a deeper connection.. especially after one year of dating I hoped he would understand me better and consider my feelings… as I understood his underlying fears.but it never happened.
@@kai9528 how do I stop the guilt of pushing him too far that he became distant? Pushing him too far with my needs and requirements in a relationship? When I didn’t point those things out.. everything was fine.. he was close. When I spoke up.. early on he acknowledged, apologised and maybe tried.. later he dismissed and shut down. I feel like its me who caused this change and I find it hard to forgive myself for ruining a nice relationship
@@arunimasikder3949 you learn to forgive yourself for that and you take your space to find out what it is you need and work on yourself (new hobbies, time spent with friends, working on your health) that way you can recognize if someone isn't meeting your needs and it's easier to walk away. furthermore, someone else will appreciate the way that you love and want to return it to you in all the ways that you want and will love to. if he shut down, he likely felt like he wasn't enough, but if HE never spoke up about that that's not on you to figure out. still, it's a two way street and it's lessons learned and it's OKAY to feel the guilt that you do and the way that you do, let yourself feel that, don't try to fight it. sit with it and acknowledge it and move forward. and if you need help, seek friends, or family, or therapy to help you find clarity
I broke up with him tonight, 6 hours after you posted this. He wasnt treating me right, and it was the hardest thing to do, to just keep going and pretending that everything was okay, letting him walk all over me. Its hard to even imagine that ill be over him someday, but maybe thatll happen. And lumma, the day i feel that liberated in my life, the day i dont want him anymore, will be the day i come back to this video and definitely express my love and gratitude once again. Youll see it. I hope i dont break no contact in this lifetime.
I break the no contact yesterday, trying to justify myself because I need “to clarify things” I was lying to myself but help me realize he doesn’t need me but I’m still attach to him. I don’t want to be attached to some guy I know I’m better than that but in this moment I feel hopeless and is so painful, I feel anxious all the time since I wrote him, I don’t want this version of me ever again. I will move on no matter what and I know is not gonna be easy but I promise myself I will over this guy no matter what bc even tho I love him I love myself more
It’s been almost 7 months since my heartbreak. He left me after 4 years, and admitted to me that he was comparing me to other girls. He hasn’t reached out, but I honestly don’t want him to. I’m so much happier now
I know this is going to sound crazy but I am in my 40’s and I lost my husband suddenly. Your video helped me with my grief. I know it’s not exactly the same but just the raw of emotion is so so so important for people to see. Just talking about grief in a clinical way is just not as helpful as someone in the grips of it. I love all of your videos and you are wise beyond your years! Love you Lumma❤️
It’s a year on May 26th that me and my ex broke up. Lumma, my heart cannot express with enough words the gratitude I have for your breakup documentary. You saved me. Like genuinely saved me. My heart will always be so thankful that you were so vulnerable for millions of us going through what you went through. It’s crazy that I sobbed for weeks watching your video (not even kidding like 30+ times a day) and now I look back at it thanking the universe that I’m out of that. You’re a light in this world. I love you gal🤍
Mine was May 19th. As the anniversary of that sad event approaches, I can’t help but to share the same sentiment as you. I was down bad. Almost a year later I feel stronger and more confident than ever. I also know that I had to experience that to be the woman I am today. I never thought I’d say that a year ago. Lumma’s video gave me so much hope for brighter days ahead. She truly is like an angel. She put out there what majority of us felt at one point. I documented mine through writing and it’s been the best choice I’ve ever made because I get to read back on those days where I felt like zombie. I always dreamt of the day I would wake up and just feel human again. And it finally happened. I love loving and being in love and now I know I am ready to embrace that feeling again. Thank you Lumma 🫶🏽
@@punayamunjal7475 omg. That’s actually crazy because the last time I had any contact with mine was also in February. It sucks because we broke up in May of last year but were in contact with eachother atleast once every month since Feb.
I couldn’t watch any videos except yours when I was going through my breakup because everything kept reminding me of him. Only that video could ease my feelings at that point somehow. I hope you never take down the video. I’m sure it’s still helping many people going through a breakup. I never imagined how painful just heartbreak could be before experiencing it myself. I was devastated and couldn’t handle the feelings because they were too overwhelming. But your video helped me a lot and I really felt like I wasn’t alone, and it’s okay to be sad, to feel devastated, and to grieve the fact that you no longer have the person. I think that’s not just a documented vlog, but also a piece of art. It’s so beautiful, and I really appreciate your work. Thank you so much, and I love you a lot, Luma
Hey lumma! ❤i just wanna tell you. While I was going through a heartbreak, I came across your heartbreak documentary and I've been watching you ever since then. 😊the guy who abandoned me did came back. But I didn't wanted him anymore and felt better off WITHOUT HIM❤ Lot's of love to y'all. 🌷
Hello I just found your video after break up. It was almost 2 years ago. He hurt me so deeply and I did not imagine he would break up and leave me. But now I am doing so well. He was the trigger that stopped me what I wanted and who I wanted to be. Thank him! After that break up, I have challenged myself by going abroad and studying abroad. Now I am traveling around the world 🌎. I knew there are many people who are better than him. Happy to leave him. 🎉
To you who is going through a recent breakup. Dont ever take your life over a break up. No one is worth a suicide. While your dead your BF or GF will be with someone else while you're gone. You can make it throughthiswith God's help if you pray to God for a healing and to see you through this. Keep your mind busy with church, reading, prayer, movies, family and friends plus work. Best wishes to you. 🙏
I was broken up by a guy before my exams. I have been having a hard time with it. I really liked him and planned a future with him. We were together for four month and we were friends for over a year before we were together. He never showed me any of his friends and family, he never said good night to me. He shared a bit his life to me and i was telling him that i hoped he could share a bit more but what he said was:''oh, i shared same amount with my ex girlfriends". By all of this kind of conversations, i started to be very insecure and anxious. And i always thought it was my problem.
Writing this with happy tears, Lumma I want to thank you for sharing this video. I watched your initial video years ago, but had never experienced such devastating heartbreak at the time. Coming to this one years later after my ex boyfriend broke up with me 7 months ago at one of the lowest points in my life. I was moving out on my own, and was looking forward to starting our journey together.. Even began to be more vulnerable with him because I finally felt comfortable. Then suddenly he sent me the longest text, breaking up with me one morning. It was on the first day of a new job I was excited about. It nearly floored me. I can't believe I'm saying this but it took me this long to finally start getting over him. I've been secretly hoping we'd work things out, and get back together all this time. It's hilarious now saying this. After watching this video, I grew the courage to delete every text, picture, and his name out of my phone. A small step, but truly monumental for me. Again, thank you for posting love 💗 I am immensely grateful this video helped shift my perspective today. I am finally ready to let go, and wish him the absolute best
thank you for this vid lumma! I watched that breakup vid of yours last year when i was going through it and somehow i felt like i was comforted knowing that i’m not crazy for feeling all that heartbreak. more than a year after that breakup, i learned and realized a lot of things and i now live a better life on my own. i’m still trying to navigate my way in this life but so far so good! hope you read this because you inspire me a lot and i’m amazed that we have the same thoughts with what happened on that last relationship. universe really does a lot of things that are so unexpected but always trust the process and know that you’ll do just fine :)
When I was going thru it 2 years ago I played your vid on repeat. It helped me so much seeing how u are now bcuz everything u said now that Im more healed I see how true it is. ❤
I just love how when you posted that breakup video I was going through it BAD and I felt exactly how you felt, just begging the universe to bring me relief. And now I watch this and it has also been 2 years and a couple of months since the breakup, I am also in another amazing relationship and just can’t wrap my head around the fact that I suffered so much over someone I KNEW that I wasn’t happy with. It’s so amazing how you put everything into words, and how you make me realize things I didn’t think about. Being scared of your own potential and of the unknown, I hadn’t seen it that way. I love this ❤️.
listening to you makes me feel so proud of you trust me you are a queen your fans want watch you conquer the world and we wish you insane amount of success and happiness in whatever field you step in ❤
lumma!!! so happy you posted :) i discovered your channel recently &i've been listening to your pep talks everyday. may you be showered with abundance and love. you're truly such a beautiful reflection of light. i can't thank you enough for your videos!!! so much love from another girlie
your journey has helped me so much. Thank you so much. Nothing has made the possible of healing so real than seeing you get better and now I will be okay one day too.
I’m so happy to see you thriving! I remember watching your video and going through it at the same time with you. It felt like I wasn’t alone and your talking kept me company. Now years later so much has changed! There is that light at the end of the tunnel.
So grateful for this video. So grateful for You. I went through it all at the same time You did and it helped me so much at the time. Now I am sitting here, watching this new upload and smiling with You as I have healed and moved on as well. At the time I never thought I'd ever feel good again, not in a million years. Now look at me, rediscovering myself an having the best time I've had in last 5 years. Incredible feeling. Thank You, Lumma! :)
I really need this rn, thank you Luma. I relate to your situation a lot as mine was quite similar. I’m still going through the tough stages of no contact. I just deleted his number. I’m finding it difficult to stay positive and feel happy at all but seeing how well you’ve done definitely gives me some hope for myself❤️
Lumma and I have had our devastating break ups not too far apart from one another. It has been very difficult for me to move on. However, watching Lumma recover from and becoming much stronger after it inspires me a lot. Whenever I feel weak, I watch her videos and it gives me strenght. So thank you for that.
Lumma , u have no idea how many times i watch your videos on repeat. You make me feel so much better after listening to your wise words. For a year its been an emotional roller coaster for me battling depression with regards to my recent ex. I feel like i will never have the courage to move on from this , im emotionally stuck even though i know this person keeps on hurting me over and over. I love her with all my might . But she shattered and destroyed my heart over and over again. You are a true godsent lumma . Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤ sending love to all
Hi Lumma! Thank you for your advice. This really helps me believe in me and achieve. It was really hard but I know it can not feel this way forever. As you mention, it will get better.
It’s been a little more than a year since a REALLY hard breakup and I just wanted to say that even though sometimes, it still hurts, the heartbreak truly changed me for the best. And Lumma helped me so much with her videos when I didn’t think that it was possible to keep on living. It does get better (even if you don’t think it will), you are strong, you got this ❤
I’ve had two hard breakups in the last few years and your videos helped me go through every stage. Your videos are so comforting and encouraging. Now I’m in the happiest relationship. I couldn’t thank you enough 🫶 I love you, Lumma!
Going thru a breakup just 10 days ago. I leave him after i caught him flirt and supporting another girl on linkedin!! They support eachother and my ex keep mention her and support her, the thing that make me very upset is that my ex wasnt even give me compliment and support in something that i do wich is similar with the other girl do. Like i am an arist, i make sketches, drawing and her too. The difference is im not making it as a job, and she do it for living. Its really hurt everytime i remember it. I’ll give myself 3 months to mourning this 4 years relationship and move on. I’ll be back to se how is it going. Thanks Lumma your video literally helps me so much to strenghten me and keep me feel sane.
Hope you're doing well 💗 I split with my partner due to his sketchy friendship with another woman. He basically chose her over me. It's hard to let go & face that rejection
i went through a really bad break up last year and i don’t think i would’ve moved past it if it wasn’t for your videos. i was at the lowest i had ever been in my life and you gave me reassurance that it was all going to be okay one day. you were right, i’ve moved on and im so grateful that relationship ended. thank you so much 💗 your videos really helped me when i needed it the most.
I feel like it's God's sign that you showed up on my page just a day after I was left by someone who was in my life for almost 2 years. That video documenting your heartbreak was something I had stumbled upon by chance 4 days ago and it had immediately made me feel like I was not alone in my struggle. And the fact that after 2 years, something made you upload this empowering video right around the same time just tells me that the universe must have bigger plans for me. Thank you Lumma. :')
This is déjà vu! I found your video 2 years ago when I went through the worst breakup. It really helped me get through the days! 2 years later I can say with certainty that I’m really glad that happened and my life has got so much better! I’m fully at peace. It’s a real full circle moment finding this new video 😌
This was so comforting. I'm still healing and a part of me is so angry at myself for feeling this way. It was a short relationship but I felt SO MUCH and it just makes no sense. Thank you for this video Lumma
I cried along with you in 2021 when you posted that video. I laugh about it now cuz it feels so long ago. You will grow from it, you will make new friends, meet new people. Take care guysx
I believe we had our breakup/ heartbreak around the same time and your videos really helped me get through it at the time. It really was the best thing for my life trajectory! ♥️ Anyone currently going through it, hang in there!
"You had to feel love and lose it so that you could find yourself". BOOM! This is 💯 true and is definitely goals! I've been feeling this but hearing someone else say it is next level. Turning pain into purpose is a vibe.
Thank you Lumma! I'm not going through a breakup but this reminds me to date someone who matches my standards and is aligned with my goals. This is such comforting advice!
Thank you very very much for this video, you really help a lot of people by posting this in including me. Thank you also for mentioning that the process is also painful for the ones that decide to break up with their ex partners. I was the one that broke up with my ex girlfriend almost two months ago. And it breaks me down still, it is extremely painful and to take that decision was also very painful. It was heartbreaking for me to slowly relaize how this person that I loved with all my being was not what I trully wanted for the future and that relationship was hurting me so much. I constantly question myself what she's up to, who is she talking to now, if she is ok, if maybe I took the wrong decision, If I will ever love again, if the kind of love that I want truly exists, if I deserve love... Hope it gets better soon, or eventually. But I decide to learn from this experience, and I will heal, and become better. I will never let someone change me that much, I will never let someone hurt me that much. And I will never hurt someone in such a way, I will have the emotional responsibility I wish I would've received. And I will stay true to myself as well. I cry, I am constantly anxious, I can't sleep well, my head feels like a jail many times. But I wont give up, I'm stronger than this. To anyone that is experiencing the same thing, I hope you get better soon. In my own experience and what has gotten me through this last few weeks is to feel, and that is the best advice I can give you. Feel everything, learn from every feeling, do not keep it, if you can talk to somebody, do it, if you can express it somewhere like this comment section I encourage you to do it, maybe though sports or art or writing your thoughts down, do it, but don't let yourself down. Another thing I can tell you is that contact 0 power is true, it can be very very hard but in order to slowly detach from the person you need contact 0. Including social media, even if you dont talk to them anymore. Dont spend your time scrolling and looking in social media what are they posting, what are they doing , who are they following now. Stop, it will only slow down your healing process, trust me. Instead, use this time to discover yourself, to gain yourself back, to feel and to do things that you like. We will get trough this.
i just found your video. im going through the worst breakup right now, sometimes i feel like i don't want anymore because i can't live without him, but im trying to stay strong, move on and heal. im writing here so i can come back when i have hopefully moved on. Thanks for this!💕
Hey Lumma! I used to watch your two videos on heartbreak on REPEAT during the first few months of my breakup. Its been 4 months now and I'm watching this one - trying to cope with the fact that my ex is with someone else, just 2 months after we broke up. I feel alot better overall, but I still get these waves of pain and sadness every now and then. Cant wait to be completely over him, meet someone good like how you have and get to a better place! Thanks for the support and encouragement
I watched your 3 month heartbreak documentary almost 2 years ago. When i rewatched it today i had to cry. I remembered how helpless i felt and watching you struggeling and speaking about the exact pain i felt. life is so crazy and i am so great i got to experience all of that eventhough i couldnt bare it back then. Life is so good. Loving myself is so good. I stopped smoking, i changed my carriere path and i love it now, i do sports and have a lot of great friends and quality time with my sister. Life is so good.
Great video Lumma! I enjoy the video of the pep talk. I've deal with challenges of being heartbroken from friends or even when a girl rejects me due to having a disability which is autism including a learning disability. Also I deal with getting put down by other people including women along with girls. It gets hard on dealing with getting bullied, put down, and even face rejection. The best thing that I can do is remind myself that self care is important, having compassion including critical thinking are great tools, being kind is a good thing, and many others. Also I do volunteering to help feed homeless people including people who are low income get food or other supplies. I think you are very inspiring and a beautiful person. Always sending you good thoughts and positive vibes.
We went through our break ups at the same time back in the days ! We were in the same state of mind at that time, and I still remember the pain. Luckily time does heal. I’m about to start your video but I can see that you are smiling so I’m glad. We did it! You did it! Thank you for reminding us that it’s always going to be okay if you’re willing to move on with your life! Love you.
Your videos are such a blessing, it was my first relationship. I loved him with all honesty and was doing everything that i could to save the relationship. My goal was to love him and make it work. His, i don't know, he said multiple times he wanted to break up. Your videos give me pkwer and courage.
3 months post breakup this is a great video to randomly come across. This being my first relationship makes you feel like a failure. The highs and lows of a breakup are insane but it’s refreshing to know I’m not losing my mind and my feelings are relevant but also reassuring to know it gets better and I’ll find better. God is good, I just subscribed lol ❤❤
I listened to your video about your breakup, and it really helped me a lot. I remember downloading it and listening to it every time I needed motivation or when I was driving. I went through a breakup too, and it was very, very hard. But I took my time to cry and be angry. Then, I started to focus on myself more. I got back to work, dated new people just for fun, started new activities, and listened to a lot of videos about relationships and breakups. It was a difficult time. After about 50 days, he came back, asking for a second chance in our relationship. I accepted and decided to really do better this time with him. My advice to you is this: Don't take breakups personally or let your ego get in the way. Don't be too relaxed in your relationship-be aware of your responsibilities and your partner's needs. If you can't fulfill them, find someone else who meets your standards. Breakups can be the best experience if you use them the right way. Wishing you all love and peace, beautiful people.
I have seen all your break up videos and surprisingly the ones that gave more hope is the one with your new relationship and this one now after 2 and a half years. My marriage ended and honestly im someone that when i open my eyes, i cannot go back, it is hard and painful but i look forward to my progress, to fall back again and to find myself again. Thanks again and i hope you feel proud that you have given so many people so much comfort and good advice.
I saw this video at the right time.. I experienced a breakup during covid as well and felt terrible because all my friends around me were settling down and I felt behind but now here I am travelling alone, being open to moving cities, meeting men who set the standard, graduating school and starting a business..and just when I thought I lost everything at that moment I’m actually the one winning.
i broke up with him yesterday, i gave up on him bc we're on different religions. he was my first boyfriend, my first everything, so yeah it hurts like crazy right now, i didnt know a heartbreak would feel this heavily painful. i feel so alone but your videos keep me company, thanks so much..
I found your channel and it helps alot. I’m so depressed. We’re done because I caught my ex with another woman. I’m devestated , I’m sick , my emotions are everywhere. It’s like a withdraw. I keep praying for help. I truly believe your video was meant to help me. It’s only been a week of catching him. I hope I can come back here three months down the line and update my feelings. Lord help us all going through this tough time . Untill then I’ll be back , hopefully 😢
i saw your first break up video 2 years ago when my boyfriend and i broke up after 5 years (living together the whole time too). we’re back together (after only being broken up for a month lol) and have been actively working on ourselves and the relationship for the past 2 years. it took us having to go thru a breakup and following that, going thru the darkest and probably worst 8 months together (also being the worst versions of ourselves, too), but here we are, the best we’ve ever been as individuals AND couple, still growing and figuring life out. i say all of this to say- watching this video after 2 years, there are things that are true, but also remain true if you do decide to be with your ex. sure, maybe i could’ve grown more, maybe even in a different way if i didn’t go back to my ex. idk where i would be at tbh but that isn’t the reality i choose. in my case, codependency, toxicity, lack of self/self-love, were my issues and i’ll put it out there that NO ONE can ever save you from yourself. you gotta do it for yourself, regardless of your friends, family, or romantic relationship. i feel blessed to say that yes, my bf and i are in a better place and are not working things out anymore but truly connect and balance each other out, but i feel even more blessed that i found myself beyond him and truly started working on myself and now i am starting to live a life i want to live. at the end of the day, it’s you and your life and you create your reality. to anyone going thru it, my heart goes out to you LOVE U LUMMA 🫶🏼
It's been a little over a month now since my breakup. It was a constant cycle of feelings misunderstood, unappreciated, unseen, and terrible anxiety/panic attacks. I believed him. I trusted in his words that "we will figure it out" the breakup was hard. he didn't have it in him to look me in the eyes and tell me he didn't want me. He broke my heart, over and over and I stayed. Hopeful. I know I did wrong too. I tried to break up so many times when the pain got so bad, in the end, his leaving was a blessing. I felt so much anger towards him. I was going to go on a trip with his friends, I spent so much money on the ticket, on the airbnb, on everything to not go in the end. I really wanted to, but he told me it'd be hard on him. I hope I can let go of the anger. Everyday is so painful. So much anger and it's this terrible cycle I find myself stuck in. He pushed therapy onto me for so long, I'm finally in therapy now. I felt so crazy, I felt like I lost my mind. And yet my heart still clings on to him I absolutely hate it. I hope to one day not think about him anymore, but I know the importance of letting yourself feel your feelings, it just feels like a dark void. but I'm not using anything or anyone to try to make this process easier. I'm just hurting, hoping one day, I'll be healed and moved on from this situation. By then I hope he doesn't live rent free in my mind. thank you for this video 🩷
Your break up video helped me heal from a broken heart, last month around this time I was crying myself to sleep so badly, now I seat down and ask myself if I am really okay, why did I heal so fast? sometimes I just feel bad that I am no longer in pain, I feel like I should still be grieving but that thing is totally gone! Thank you so much ❤
Pause at 11:36 ( this advice also goes for friendships) You have to lose those people to find yourself and attract better friends. Literally I was soo sad I chose to not be friends with my high school best friend it hurted but I knew if this was my real friend group I wouldn’t feel that way. ❤ so now that I’m alone & I have been on my own journey I have found people who are on my level of on the level I want to reach… love love love this advice ❤
Thank you lumma!!!! ❤ I love ALL your videos. I was wondering do you have any advice for getting out and staying out of a trauma bond with a narcissist?
I’m currently going thru a really hard breakup , sometimes I feel like ending my life , sometimes I feel better . It’s almost like I’m stuck in a cycle . I’m leaving this comment here today , so when I’m moved on and I come back here , I know I made movements and moved on . Also everytime i listen to you , I feel lot lighter , I hope it gets better soon . Love you 🩷
You got it girl 🔥 you can do this!! Keep it up. I have been here in Lumma's comment videos like 7 months ago, now im healed. Listen to this girl (Lumma) she knows what she's talking about and its 100% true. Good luck. Sending you love! 💕
@@yennimarya reading you , the support , brought me tears. Thankyou so much girlie ❤️❤️ I can’t wait for this misery to come to an end !!
I promise it gets better even though at first it honestly does not feel that way. You will get through it!
@@XwinXMusaXthis makes me feel so much better . Thank you for taking your time out to make me feel better . ❤️🩹
Be strong one day at a time, my ex left me on Feb 8, I know how hard it is going through it right now I am still healing but it's going to get better, remember God is with us be strong please you got this! Better days are coming🙏❤
He wasn't able to meet my needs and probably wouldn't ever be able to. In retrospect, that break-up was a blessing.
You wouldn't be able to meet his needs either with a demanding attitude like yours 😂
Girl !! You have a attitude and egoistic problem. The way you say, " he wouldn't ever be able to met your needs. "
It's disrespectful. You are simply degrading him without knowing the potential. I get that for now, he is not meeting up your needs but who knows that future ? Do you know the future ?
Hi Paulina, can you explain why he didn’t meet your needs? What needs did you have?
@@poetictriangle1037nothing is wrong with wanted to have needs met in a relationship.
@@dr1flush but its wrong to only care about one's own needs , care about your partner's too.
9 months since the devastating break up and I couldn’t be more thankful to the universe for it. I’ve watched Lumma’s videos throughout the grieving process. Her videos made me feel not alone and reading the comments definitely helped me to understand what I was feeling during that time. Some advice I can give to help you to let go or move on:
- Cry. Cry as much as you can. Don’t keep your emotions unreleased because your physical health will be at risk.
- If you feel suicidal, cannot eat or work, seek help from a therapist/ psychiatrist.
- Talk to your closest friends and family. Their support will go a long way. It may sound crazy but some of my friends helped me find humor(in a good way haha) despite the depression and that made me feel lighter.
- Try out a new activity or go on a solo travel. This is one of my breakthrough. I went to Japan on my own and visited a lot of temples, museums, landscapes and tried out a lot of new food! I felt like myself again after this.
- Pray. The best advice I can give. Trust in God’s plan for you.
I am still single but I’m enjoying rediscovering who I am and appreciating everything I have right now.
This is wholesome
Matthew 11:28-30 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.
I’m 10 months post break up and all of this is so true. It gets better and he wasn’t your person ♥️
The first breakup is hard, but let me tell you... it doesn't get any easier, no matter how many times you've been through it before. Each breakup you experience is the worst breakup of your life (if you are truly truly in love). But you survive every one of them.
I think because each time we do fall in love again, we knew more what we were looking for that time and maybe fell deeper than the previous time... And so the heartbreak is proportionately harder.
It does get easier when you learn and understand proper ways to manage grief . Breakups tend to hurt most if they are a worsening of how you see yourself. It’s typical that the hardest thing to deal with is the fantasy of what you wanted, for example family marriage etc. No one can hurt you unless you allow them. She even says that the vision of her future was the hardest lose and that she wasn’t truly in love. That’s evidence towards my point, that is typically the vision and not the person that you morn and when you allow the other person to make you think badly of yourself it will hurt even more. love for yourself is everything
I wish i could like this comment a thousand times over...VERY TRUE! You love more..you hurt more...its a different kind of pain!
He broke up with me two years ago, suddenly, after 3 years of living together. I completely shut down, didn't process my emotions, moved away, got a new job and had terrible "romantic" relationships ever since. I don't really like where I am at in my life. I guess I just don't see my potential anymore and I don't trust love.
Please, if you're going through a breakup, feel. Feel your emotions, go through it, talk about it in the first months, take it out of your mind and your body, express it with arts, creativity or sport. Be kind with yourself and don't try to "be strong" for the sake of what other people might think or say.
Stay strong sweetie, you got this, put your faith in God , and turn to him and all will be alright . ❤
The exact Same Thing happened to me a week ago. I lost my best friend, my home, my beautiful vegetable Garden and basically all my Future Plans.
I’m so sorry to both of you. You will get there I certainly never thought I would and I did! I still think I’ll never have what I had before but I’ve finally made peace with it. Just wish I hadn’t put on so much weight since! No one is worth that! 😂 look after yourselves xx
Thank you for this comment it was much needed 💘 we will all get through this thing called life 🩷
This is very common. We allow the other person to decide our worth so when they treat us badly or leave us we think less of yourself. It has everything to do with ourselves and nothing to do with our ex . It’s typical that we aren’t even missing our ex but the” vision “ or fantasy of what could’ve been.
I was going to get married this September. I thought he was the one. He lied, I forgave and then he left me. I was completely blindsided. My heart is so broken that I can’t even explain how much I am suffering. It’s been 2 months. Some days are easy some days are miserable. I hope I will get better. Anyone here who is going through a heartbreak, you’re not alone.
im going through a bad break up. Ive been crying for 2 weeks straight, i barely eat, dont shower, dont leave the house. I live alone so im just a living corpse where i dont feel happy or enjoying life anymore. I dont want to be with anyone besides him, i still love him so much, and sadly, i feel like i love him more that i love my self. I miss him everyday and the thought of not being with him just crushes me everyday. There is nothing i would like more than to be with him again, to turn back time, to everything to go back to normal, but i know thats impossible. I suffer from depression and anxiety and this has been a huge trigger. I am leaving this commet here on the hope that i can come back in the future and see how much ive grown cuz today i only feel pain in my soul and life is not the same with him around, he took the colors and the hope.
Baby im so sorry ur going thru this. 5 months into my break up and i can confidently assure you it always gets better. not all at once and not how you thought it would but it does. a part of me still wishes i could go back too but i know now that if i can survive it you definitely can. the best advice to give you is, dont try to move on, move forward. with all the pain and sadness just keep moving forward.
there are still days where all i wanna do is cry but i promise those days will lessen. it doesn’t feel like it now but i promise. if you can survive this you can survive anything.
what’s meant for you will never pass you by. believe that. im on this painful journey with you
sending you all the love.
Hey it's okay. I also live alone (I have a dog) but alone as a human being.. I understand your thoughts and feelings and everything but I am at the point that it is really not okay to sell someone as he sold me, our life, future and everything we had... it is tough I do not eat as well I do not go anywhere the only happiness I have is when I talk to my dog who he btw also left... this poor little dog is still waiting for him (5 days since we broke our engagements) and I feel really sorry as I am not able to explain that she (Sila the dog) does not need to wait someone who was not able to appreciate and embrace and work on everything we wanted and had...
i feel just exactly like you, like i only enjoyed when i was spending time with him and i feel like i will never like a person and their company more than this,
but I also am sure we will be fine, with time and patience and we will enjoy life again, rooting for you
He actually contacted me and I did not wanted to see him.. 2 days later (yesterday), he tried again and I answered the same that day..that night (last night) after breaking and a lot of thinking I contacted him and asketski whether he wanted to go out and he said No. :D and here we are... in the very beginning
I came out of an unhealthy relationship 4 days ago. He was nice in the beginning (could hold accountability for his bad behaviour and apologise) but he couldn’t handle me telling him that I am sad or hurt in some way. He was defensive, dismissive and always telling me that I keep “complaining”. But I was asking for the bare minimum: calls, planning dates, some talk about the near future. His lack of comprehension and my lack of ability to self regulate broke us. I can’t help but blame myself .. as if I brought this onto myself one way or another. I have had a lot of toxic relationships before this and I guess I never managed to completely heal due to my fear of staying alone.
you're not alone that sounds exactly like my ex
As someone who just broke up with an ex who did the same thing, I'd like to offer some empathy and insight. My ex did the same thing, started hot and then eventually went cold. We tried having conversations about it and she was very understanding but change never happened. She was VERY aware of her avoiding tendencies, but ultimately if she felt pressured in any sort of way, it makes her feel like she's expected to and then she doesn't want to and that's what she ended up deciding, that she felt like she wasn't ready for a relationship. I tried really hard to not take it personally, because it's not - it has everything to do with their self worth (obviously it doesn't excuse the behavior). Yes, there were things I could have done better, but that doesn't mean I did anything wrong, nor was her lack of effort a reflection of my worth. If it's any consolation, know that you did the best you could, you tried to communicate, and you took the step best needed for you, as I did with my ex which was incredibly difficult.
@@kai9528 thank you so much for the validating words. It has been over 2 weeks now and I am getting worse going in to spirals and thinking what pushed him into his avoidance tendencies.. maybe I was too much? Asking for calls, consistency, planned dates etc.
He said things like I was ruining his mood when I was being vulnerable with him. I couldn’t take it.
I broke up in the end but it was him who had checked out of the relationship long ago (no efforts other than texts and sharing reels on instagram and we were semi long distance [2.5hrs apart]).
I needed a deeper connection.. especially after one year of dating I hoped he would understand me better and consider my feelings… as I understood his underlying fears.but it never happened.
@@kai9528 how do I stop the guilt of pushing him too far that he became distant?
Pushing him too far with my needs and requirements in a relationship?
When I didn’t point those things out.. everything was fine.. he was close.
When I spoke up.. early on he acknowledged, apologised and maybe tried.. later he dismissed and shut down.
I feel like its me who caused this change and I find it hard to forgive myself for ruining a nice relationship
@@arunimasikder3949 you learn to forgive yourself for that and you take your space to find out what it is you need and work on yourself (new hobbies, time spent with friends, working on your health) that way you can recognize if someone isn't meeting your needs and it's easier to walk away.
furthermore, someone else will appreciate the way that you love and want to return it to you in all the ways that you want and will love to.
if he shut down, he likely felt like he wasn't enough, but if HE never spoke up about that that's not on you to figure out. still, it's a two way street and it's lessons learned and it's OKAY to feel the guilt that you do and the way that you do, let yourself feel that, don't try to fight it. sit with it and acknowledge it and move forward. and if you need help, seek friends, or family, or therapy to help you find clarity
I broke up with him tonight, 6 hours after you posted this. He wasnt treating me right, and it was the hardest thing to do, to just keep going and pretending that everything was okay, letting him walk all over me. Its hard to even imagine that ill be over him someday, but maybe thatll happen. And lumma, the day i feel that liberated in my life, the day i dont want him anymore, will be the day i come back to this video and definitely express my love and gratitude once again. Youll see it. I hope i dont break no contact in this lifetime.
You've got this!
More power to you girl. We are all here for you. U got this !!
My girlfriend left me
You can do it honey
I break the no contact yesterday, trying to justify myself because I need “to clarify things” I was lying to myself but help me realize he doesn’t need me but I’m still attach to him. I don’t want to be attached to some guy I know I’m better than that but in this moment I feel hopeless and is so painful, I feel anxious all the time since I wrote him, I don’t want this version of me ever again. I will move on no matter what and I know is not gonna be easy but I promise myself I will over this guy no matter what bc even tho I love him I love myself more
It’s been almost 7 months since my heartbreak. He left me after 4 years, and admitted to me that he was comparing me to other girls. He hasn’t reached out, but I honestly don’t want him to. I’m so much happier now
I know this is going to sound crazy but I am in my 40’s and I lost my husband suddenly. Your video helped me with my grief. I know it’s not exactly the same but just the raw of emotion is so so so important for people to see. Just talking about grief in a clinical way is just not as helpful as someone in the grips of it. I love all of your videos and you are wise beyond your years! Love you Lumma❤️
Happy to have you here
It’s a year on May 26th that me and my ex broke up. Lumma, my heart cannot express with enough words the gratitude I have for your breakup documentary. You saved me. Like genuinely saved me. My heart will always be so thankful that you were so vulnerable for millions of us going through what you went through. It’s crazy that I sobbed for weeks watching your video (not even kidding like 30+ times a day) and now I look back at it thanking the universe that I’m out of that. You’re a light in this world. I love you gal🤍
Mine was May 19th. As the anniversary of that sad event approaches, I can’t help but to share the same sentiment as you. I was down bad. Almost a year later I feel stronger and more confident than ever. I also know that I had to experience that to be the woman I am today. I never thought I’d say that a year ago. Lumma’s video gave me so much hope for brighter days ahead. She truly is like an angel. She put out there what majority of us felt at one point. I documented mine through writing and it’s been the best choice I’ve ever made because I get to read back on those days where I felt like zombie. I always dreamt of the day I would wake up and just feel human again. And it finally happened. I love loving and being in love and now I know I am ready to embrace that feeling again. Thank you Lumma 🫶🏽
Mines coming up on May 23rd/24th. Was still in contact w him on and off till February. It’s hard still but especially hard this month.
@@punayamunjal7475 omg. That’s actually crazy because the last time I had any contact with mine was also in February. It sucks because we broke up in May of last year but were in contact with eachother atleast once every month since Feb.
I couldn’t watch any videos except yours when I was going through my breakup because everything kept reminding me of him. Only that video could ease my feelings at that point somehow. I hope you never take down the video. I’m sure it’s still helping many people going through a breakup. I never imagined how painful just heartbreak could be before experiencing it myself. I was devastated and couldn’t handle the feelings because they were too overwhelming. But your video helped me a lot and I really felt like I wasn’t alone, and it’s okay to be sad, to feel devastated, and to grieve the fact that you no longer have the person. I think that’s not just a documented vlog, but also a piece of art. It’s so beautiful, and I really appreciate your work. Thank you so much, and I love you a lot, Luma
Sameee❤
Same
Hey lumma! ❤i just wanna tell you. While I was going through a heartbreak, I came across your heartbreak documentary and I've been watching you ever since then. 😊the guy who abandoned me did came back. But I didn't wanted him anymore and felt better off WITHOUT HIM❤ Lot's of love to y'all. 🌷
Same
@@littlejunior8883 🎀❤️
Hello I just found your video after break up. It was almost 2 years ago. He hurt me so deeply and I did not imagine he would break up and leave me. But now I am doing so well. He was the trigger that stopped me what I wanted and who I wanted to be. Thank him! After that break up, I have challenged myself by going abroad and studying abroad. Now I am traveling around the world 🌎. I knew there are many people who are better than him. Happy to leave him. 🎉
To you who is going through a recent breakup. Dont ever take your life over a break up. No one is worth a suicide. While your dead your BF or GF will be with someone else while you're gone. You can make it throughthiswith God's help if you pray to God for a healing and to see you through this. Keep your mind busy with church, reading, prayer, movies, family and friends plus work. Best wishes to you. 🙏
Lumma your breakup vids really saved me from a hurtful heartbreak. I'm doing so well now single and enjoying every second of it :)
I was broken up by a guy before my exams. I have been having a hard time with it. I really liked him and planned a future with him. We were together for four month and we were friends for over a year before we were together. He never showed me any of his friends and family, he never said good night to me. He shared a bit his life to me and i was telling him that i hoped he could share a bit more but what he said was:''oh, i shared same amount with my ex girlfriends". By all of this kind of conversations, i started to be very insecure and anxious. And i always thought it was my problem.
Writing this with happy tears, Lumma I want to thank you for sharing this video. I watched your initial video years ago, but had never experienced such devastating heartbreak at the time. Coming to this one years later after my ex boyfriend broke up with me 7 months ago at one of the lowest points in my life. I was moving out on my own, and was looking forward to starting our journey together.. Even began to be more vulnerable with him because I finally felt comfortable. Then suddenly he sent me the longest text, breaking up with me one morning. It was on the first day of a new job I was excited about. It nearly floored me. I can't believe I'm saying this but it took me this long to finally start getting over him. I've been secretly hoping we'd work things out, and get back together all this time. It's hilarious now saying this. After watching this video, I grew the courage to delete every text, picture, and his name out of my phone. A small step, but truly monumental for me. Again, thank you for posting love 💗 I am immensely grateful this video helped shift my perspective today. I am finally ready to let go, and wish him the absolute best
The timing is impeccable
THANK YOU. your videos are what have been helping me SO damn much.
thank you lumma…watched this two years ago and i am going through it even worse again now. keep helping people all around
thank you for this vid lumma! I watched that breakup vid of yours last year when i was going through it and somehow i felt like i was comforted knowing that i’m not crazy for feeling all that heartbreak. more than a year after that breakup, i learned and realized a lot of things and i now live a better life on my own. i’m still trying to navigate my way in this life but so far so good! hope you read this because you inspire me a lot and i’m amazed that we have the same thoughts with what happened on that last relationship. universe really does a lot of things that are so unexpected but always trust the process and know that you’ll do just fine :)
It’s so funny because I found your first video two years ago when I was going through a break up, and now here I am again and you have a new video!
When I was going thru it 2 years ago I played your vid on repeat. It helped me so much seeing how u are now bcuz everything u said now that Im more healed I see how true it is. ❤
ur the only calm thing i have rn fr no shi ur the most comforting
I followed your journey and I am so happy to see you HAPPY. Bless your soul 🙌
You’re my inspiration! All of you, is goals. We’re all so proud of you!
I just love how when you posted that breakup video I was going through it BAD and I felt exactly how you felt, just begging the universe to bring me relief. And now I watch this and it has also been 2 years and a couple of months since the breakup, I am also in another amazing relationship and just can’t wrap my head around the fact that I suffered so much over someone I KNEW that I wasn’t happy with. It’s so amazing how you put everything into words, and how you make me realize things I didn’t think about. Being scared of your own potential and of the unknown, I hadn’t seen it that way. I love this ❤️.
listening to you makes me feel so proud of you trust me you are a queen your fans want watch you conquer the world and we wish you insane amount of success and happiness in whatever field you step in ❤
Thank you so much! I truly needed this! 💜👌🏼✨
lumma!!! so happy you posted :) i discovered your channel recently &i've been listening to your pep talks everyday. may you be showered with abundance and love. you're truly such a beautiful reflection of light. i can't thank you enough for your videos!!! so much love from another girlie
your journey has helped me so much. Thank you so much. Nothing has made the possible of healing so real than seeing you get better and now I will be okay one day too.
I’m so happy to see you thriving! I remember watching your video and going through it at the same time with you. It felt like I wasn’t alone and your talking kept me company. Now years later so much has changed! There is that light at the end of the tunnel.
I just found your channel. Not going through a breakup now but the pain is still there. Thanks for this❤❤
So grateful for this video. So grateful for You. I went through it all at the same time You did and it helped me so much at the time. Now I am sitting here, watching this new upload and smiling with You as I have healed and moved on as well. At the time I never thought I'd ever feel good again, not in a million years. Now look at me, rediscovering myself an having the best time I've had in last 5 years. Incredible feeling.
Thank You, Lumma! :)
you don't know how much this video helped me! thank you a lot. you are a good soul
I really need this rn, thank you Luma. I relate to your situation a lot as mine was quite similar. I’m still going through the tough stages of no contact. I just deleted his number. I’m finding it difficult to stay positive and feel happy at all but seeing how well you’ve done definitely gives me some hope for myself❤️
Lumma and I have had our devastating break ups not too far apart from one another. It has been very difficult for me to move on. However, watching Lumma recover from and becoming much stronger after it inspires me a lot. Whenever I feel weak, I watch her videos and it gives me strenght. So thank you for that.
Lumma , u have no idea how many times i watch your videos on repeat. You make me feel so much better after listening to your wise words. For a year its been an emotional roller coaster for me battling depression with regards to my recent ex. I feel like i will never have the courage to move on from this , im emotionally stuck even though i know this person keeps on hurting me over and over. I love her with all my might . But she shattered and destroyed my heart over and over again. You are a true godsent lumma . Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤ sending love to all
Hi Lumma! Thank you for your advice. This really helps me believe in me and achieve. It was really hard but I know it can not feel this way forever. As you mention, it will get better.
It’s been a little more than a year since a REALLY hard breakup and I just wanted to say that even though sometimes, it still hurts, the heartbreak truly changed me for the best. And Lumma helped me so much with her videos when I didn’t think that it was possible to keep on living. It does get better (even if you don’t think it will), you are strong, you got this ❤
I’ve had two hard breakups in the last few years and your videos helped me go through every stage. Your videos are so comforting and encouraging. Now I’m in the happiest relationship.
I couldn’t thank you enough 🫶
I love you, Lumma!
Please keep making videos like this also. So many of us love great advices from you. Keep the Pep talks coming.
Going thru a breakup just 10 days ago. I leave him after i caught him flirt and supporting another girl on linkedin!! They support eachother and my ex keep mention her and support her, the thing that make me very upset is that my ex wasnt even give me compliment and support in something that i do wich is similar with the other girl do. Like i am an arist, i make sketches, drawing and her too. The difference is im not making it as a job, and she do it for living. Its really hurt everytime i remember it. I’ll give myself 3 months to mourning this 4 years relationship and move on. I’ll be back to se how is it going. Thanks Lumma your video literally helps me so much to strenghten me and keep me feel sane.
Seriously, why do guys do this... 😤😠
Hope you're doing well 💗 I split with my partner due to his sketchy friendship with another woman. He basically chose her over me. It's hard to let go & face that rejection
i went through a really bad break up last year and i don’t think i would’ve moved past it if it wasn’t for your videos. i was at the lowest i had ever been in my life and you gave me reassurance that it was all going to be okay one day. you were right, i’ve moved on and im so grateful that relationship ended. thank you so much 💗 your videos really helped me when i needed it the most.
I dunno but listening to you is comforting. Its raw and real convo. Give me hope.
Because of Lumma's heartbreak video, I am doing so well and great till today! Your video change my life!
I feel like it's God's sign that you showed up on my page just a day after I was left by someone who was in my life for almost 2 years. That video documenting your heartbreak was something I had stumbled upon by chance 4 days ago and it had immediately made me feel like I was not alone in my struggle.
And the fact that after 2 years, something made you upload this empowering video right around the same time just tells me that the universe must have bigger plans for me. Thank you Lumma. :')
This is déjà vu! I found your video 2 years ago when I went through the worst breakup. It really helped me get through the days! 2 years later I can say with certainty that I’m really glad that happened and my life has got so much better! I’m fully at peace. It’s a real full circle moment finding this new video 😌
She say just the right words. It’s crazy. It give me temporary relief
You are so much better than your ex cause he is a cheater. So much above him, dear. Great advices :*
This was so comforting. I'm still healing and a part of me is so angry at myself for feeling this way. It was a short relationship but I felt SO MUCH and it just makes no sense. Thank you for this video Lumma
Omg uploaded today! Thank you so much for such amazing videos ❤
I cried along with you in 2021 when you posted that video. I laugh about it now cuz it feels so long ago. You will grow from it, you will make new friends, meet new people. Take care guysx
I believe we had our breakup/ heartbreak around the same time and your videos really helped me get through it at the time. It really was the best thing for my life trajectory! ♥️ Anyone currently going through it, hang in there!
"You had to feel love and lose it so that you could find yourself". BOOM! This is 💯 true and is definitely goals! I've been feeling this but hearing someone else say it is next level. Turning pain into purpose is a vibe.
Thank you Lumma! I'm not going through a breakup but this reminds me to date someone who matches my standards and is aligned with my goals. This is such comforting advice!
Dude the timing on this … thank you
BC IM STRUGGLING
Thank you very very much for this video, you really help a lot of people by posting this in including me. Thank you also for mentioning that the process is also painful for the ones that decide to break up with their ex partners. I was the one that broke up with my ex girlfriend almost two months ago. And it breaks me down still, it is extremely painful and to take that decision was also very painful. It was heartbreaking for me to slowly relaize how this person that I loved with all my being was not what I trully wanted for the future and that relationship was hurting me so much. I constantly question myself what she's up to, who is she talking to now, if she is ok, if maybe I took the wrong decision, If I will ever love again, if the kind of love that I want truly exists, if I deserve love... Hope it gets better soon, or eventually.
But I decide to learn from this experience, and I will heal, and become better. I will never let someone change me that much, I will never let someone hurt me that much. And I will never hurt someone in such a way, I will have the emotional responsibility I wish I would've received. And I will stay true to myself as well. I cry, I am constantly anxious, I can't sleep well, my head feels like a jail many times. But I wont give up, I'm stronger than this.
To anyone that is experiencing the same thing, I hope you get better soon. In my own experience and what has gotten me through this last few weeks is to feel, and that is the best advice I can give you. Feel everything, learn from every feeling, do not keep it, if you can talk to somebody, do it, if you can express it somewhere like this comment section I encourage you to do it, maybe though sports or art or writing your thoughts down, do it, but don't let yourself down.
Another thing I can tell you is that contact 0 power is true, it can be very very hard but in order to slowly detach from the person you need contact 0. Including social media, even if you dont talk to them anymore. Dont spend your time scrolling and looking in social media what are they posting, what are they doing , who are they following now. Stop, it will only slow down your healing process, trust me. Instead, use this time to discover yourself, to gain yourself back, to feel and to do things that you like. We will get trough this.
i just found your video. im going through the worst breakup right now, sometimes i feel like i don't want anymore because i can't live without him, but im trying to stay strong, move on and heal. im writing here so i can come back when i have hopefully moved on. Thanks for this!💕
Hey Lumma! I used to watch your two videos on heartbreak on REPEAT during the first few months of my breakup. Its been 4 months now and I'm watching this one - trying to cope with the fact that my ex is with someone else, just 2 months after we broke up. I feel alot better overall, but I still get these waves of pain and sadness every now and then. Cant wait to be completely over him, meet someone good like how you have and get to a better place! Thanks for the support and encouragement
I watched your 3 month heartbreak documentary almost 2 years ago. When i rewatched it today i had to cry. I remembered how helpless i felt and watching you struggeling and speaking about the exact pain i felt.
life is so crazy and i am so great i got to experience all of that eventhough i couldnt bare it back then.
Life is so good. Loving myself is so good.
I stopped smoking, i changed my carriere path and i love it now, i do sports and have a lot of great friends and quality time with my sister.
Life is so good.
Wow thank you girl I woke up this morning and was like hmm I'd love for Lemma to bring out another video I really needed this
Great video Lumma! I enjoy the video of the pep talk. I've deal with challenges of being heartbroken from friends or even when a girl rejects me due to having a disability which is autism including a learning disability. Also I deal with getting put down by other people including women along with girls. It gets hard on dealing with getting bullied, put down, and even face rejection. The best thing that I can do is remind myself that self care is important, having compassion including critical thinking are great tools, being kind is a good thing, and many others. Also I do volunteering to help feed homeless people including people who are low income get food or other supplies. I think you are very inspiring and a beautiful person. Always sending you good thoughts and positive vibes.
I love you so much ❤ Keep Growing and keep shining your light
You can't imagine how much your videos helped me .... I moved on ... Nd i LOVE u sso much❤
We went through our break ups at the same time back in the days ! We were in the same state of mind at that time, and I still remember the pain.
Luckily time does heal. I’m about to start your video but I can see that you are smiling so I’m glad. We did it! You did it! Thank you for reminding us that it’s always going to be okay if you’re willing to move on with your life! Love you.
Your videos are such a blessing, it was my first relationship. I loved him with all honesty and was doing everything that i could to save the relationship. My goal was to love him and make it work. His, i don't know, he said multiple times he wanted to break up.
Your videos give me pkwer and courage.
Thank you so much, this video is really helpful to me.
3 months post breakup this is a great video to randomly come across. This being my first relationship makes you feel like a failure. The highs and lows of a breakup are insane but it’s refreshing to know I’m not losing my mind and my feelings are relevant but also reassuring to know it gets better and I’ll find better. God is good, I just subscribed lol ❤❤
this actually helped a lot. thank you so much
You are such an inspiration ♡
Love your pep talks❤
Crazy how i went thru my breakup also 2 years ago and watched your videos and they helped me so much and now im so much better
I listened to your video about your breakup, and it really helped me a lot. I remember downloading it and listening to it every time I needed motivation or when I was driving. I went through a breakup too, and it was very, very hard. But I took my time to cry and be angry. Then, I started to focus on myself more. I got back to work, dated new people just for fun, started new activities, and listened to a lot of videos about relationships and breakups. It was a difficult time.
After about 50 days, he came back, asking for a second chance in our relationship. I accepted and decided to really do better this time with him. My advice to you is this: Don't take breakups personally or let your ego get in the way. Don't be too relaxed in your relationship-be aware of your responsibilities and your partner's needs. If you can't fulfill them, find someone else who meets your standards. Breakups can be the best experience if you use them the right way. Wishing you all love and peace, beautiful people.
I have seen all your break up videos and surprisingly the ones that gave more hope is the one with your new relationship and this one now after 2 and a half years. My marriage ended and honestly im someone that when i open my eyes, i cannot go back, it is hard and painful but i look forward to my progress, to fall back again and to find myself again. Thanks again and i hope you feel proud that you have given so many people so much comfort and good advice.
ur vids literally helped me thru my breakup thank u 😢😢❤
THANK YOU for this video. So helpful ❤️🩹
Very helpful video, thank you
just discovered you today. thanks for these videos! subscribed.
I saw this video at the right time.. I experienced a breakup during covid as well and felt terrible because all my friends around me were settling down and I felt behind but now here I am travelling alone, being open to moving cities, meeting men who set the standard, graduating school and starting a business..and just when I thought I lost everything at that moment I’m actually the one winning.
i broke up with him yesterday, i gave up on him bc we're on different religions. he was my first boyfriend, my first everything, so yeah it hurts like crazy right now, i didnt know a heartbreak would feel this heavily painful. i feel so alone but your videos keep me company, thanks so much..
Love what you said I’m going through it but it makes a lot of sense.
That was such a good pep talk i felt seen honestly
I found your channel and it helps alot. I’m so depressed. We’re done because I caught my ex with another woman. I’m devestated , I’m sick , my emotions are everywhere. It’s like a withdraw. I keep praying for help. I truly believe your video was meant to help me. It’s only been a week of catching him. I hope I can come back here three months down the line and update my feelings. Lord help us all going through this tough time . Untill then I’ll be back , hopefully 😢
Was just watching you 3 months documentary and than this pops up. Its a sign I guess 🤷❤️🥺
Thank you so so much ❤
subscribed just in the first few minutes, first video of yours too!..I just knows It'll be a good yt vid and channel :)))
i saw your first break up video 2 years ago when my boyfriend and i broke up after 5 years (living together the whole time too). we’re back together (after only being broken up for a month lol) and have been actively working on ourselves and the relationship for the past 2 years. it took us having to go thru a breakup and following that, going thru the darkest and probably worst 8 months together (also being the worst versions of ourselves, too), but here we are, the best we’ve ever been as individuals AND couple, still growing and figuring life out. i say all of this to say- watching this video after 2 years, there are things that are true, but also remain true if you do decide to be with your ex. sure, maybe i could’ve grown more, maybe even in a different way if i didn’t go back to my ex. idk where i would be at tbh but that isn’t the reality i choose. in my case, codependency, toxicity, lack of self/self-love, were my issues and i’ll put it out there that NO ONE can ever save you from yourself. you gotta do it for yourself, regardless of your friends, family, or romantic relationship. i feel blessed to say that yes, my bf and i are in a better place and are not working things out anymore but truly connect and balance each other out, but i feel even more blessed that i found myself beyond him and truly started working on myself and now i am starting to live a life i want to live. at the end of the day, it’s you and your life and you create your reality. to anyone going thru it, my heart goes out to you
LOVE U LUMMA 🫶🏼
REALLY NEEDED THIS!
I feel I was brainwashed through tarot as it was the only thing giving me hope until now. Thank you. ❤❤❤❤
Omg please don’t believe them. They ruined me for a few months by giving me false hope!
It's been a little over a month now since my breakup. It was a constant cycle of feelings misunderstood, unappreciated, unseen, and terrible anxiety/panic attacks. I believed him. I trusted in his words that "we will figure it out" the breakup was hard. he didn't have it in him to look me in the eyes and tell me he didn't want me. He broke my heart, over and over and I stayed. Hopeful. I know I did wrong too. I tried to break up so many times when the pain got so bad, in the end, his leaving was a blessing. I felt so much anger towards him. I was going to go on a trip with his friends, I spent so much money on the ticket, on the airbnb, on everything to not go in the end. I really wanted to, but he told me it'd be hard on him. I hope I can let go of the anger. Everyday is so painful. So much anger and it's this terrible cycle I find myself stuck in. He pushed therapy onto me for so long, I'm finally in therapy now. I felt so crazy, I felt like I lost my mind. And yet my heart still clings on to him I absolutely hate it. I hope to one day not think about him anymore, but I know the importance of letting yourself feel your feelings, it just feels like a dark void. but I'm not using anything or anyone to try to make this process easier. I'm just hurting, hoping one day, I'll be healed and moved on from this situation. By then I hope he doesn't live rent free in my mind. thank you for this video 🩷
Thank you for your words
Your break up video helped me heal from a broken heart, last month around this time I was crying myself to sleep so badly, now I seat down and ask myself if I am really okay, why did I heal so fast? sometimes I just feel bad that I am no longer in pain, I feel like I should still be grieving but that thing is totally gone! Thank you so much ❤
Pause at 11:36 ( this advice also goes for friendships) You have to lose those people to find yourself and attract better friends. Literally I was soo sad I chose to not be friends with my high school best friend it hurted but I knew if this was my real friend group I wouldn’t feel that way. ❤ so now that I’m alone & I have been on my own journey I have found people who are on my level of on the level I want to reach… love love love this advice ❤
I love your accent!!!♥♥♥
Thank you lumma!!!! ❤ I love ALL your videos. I was wondering do you have any advice for getting out and staying out of a trauma bond with a narcissist?