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  • 5 simple systems to take back control of your mind and live a meaningful life in the digital age:
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  • @glorialeondar1056
    @glorialeondar1056 Před 19 dny +3411

    It really DOES come down to sitting in silence and allowing ourselves to be bored so we can find deeper meaning. How simple yet difficult.

    • @brandonramos8121
      @brandonramos8121 Před 19 dny +37

      its the most difficult in this era

    • @7letterbrandon439
      @7letterbrandon439 Před 18 dny +25

      Exactly, there is so much frequency in the world rn going through the mind its such an unbalanced reaction

    • @katherinecolson2350
      @katherinecolson2350 Před 18 dny +5

      and reducing that over stimulation

    • @ibrahim69r
      @ibrahim69r Před 16 dny

      The thing is I can't do that, without being overwhelmed by the feeling of masturbation

    • @tarzan.CB.
      @tarzan.CB. Před 16 dny +3

      Sensational.

  • @A1tch1
    @A1tch1 Před 22 dny +4943

    This video feels like it would be in a movie where all humanity's been possessed by social media and you're the last sane person trying to save the planet

    • @aichacarpentier4536
      @aichacarpentier4536 Před 22 dny +160

      Well, seems like our life is a movie after all

    • @amcsdmi
      @amcsdmi Před 22 dny +81

      so a documentary then

    • @joshczuba
      @joshczuba  Před 21 dnem +294

      in this together

    • @life-jz5en
      @life-jz5en Před 21 dnem +15

      Good analogy

    • @squidddy-dg2em
      @squidddy-dg2em Před 21 dnem

      everyone is a dopamine junkie and the average person is addicted to social media

  • @fylo2007
    @fylo2007 Před 18 dny +1631

    "The whole problem with being in a dopamine hole is that you're in a constant state of dissatisfaction. You're not chasing real pleasure- you're constantly numbing pain"

    • @tomotrono242
      @tomotrono242 Před 9 dny +27

      from now on im gonna watch paint dry as my source of entertainment and while im watching paint dry i wont be day dreaming i will be thinking about every particle of paint that is solidfying as i sit there watching the paint dry

    • @randomlittleidot
      @randomlittleidot Před 9 dny +9

      goes so hard

    • @bcgaming4236
      @bcgaming4236 Před 7 dny +1

      lol this is actually why except its not physical pain its mental pain for me

    • @calebcrouch6133
      @calebcrouch6133 Před 6 dny +2

      That sounds just like addiction in general. I quit using various substances various times, mainly alcohol, and yes, at its worst I wasn’t drinking for pleasure. I was drinking to feel less like a piece of shite. Working out is one of the only things that helps me, it’s an addiction that is beneficial. And it motivates me to do better in every area of my life.

    • @jasfx7241
      @jasfx7241 Před 3 dny

      @@calebcrouch6133It’s not just alcohol and drugs bro social media, pornography, comparing your life with others you seeing online all of those are a terrible way to fry your dopamine system and overall your brain and at this point it’s unavoidable unless you just stop using phone (which you can’t we are already too addicted and we can’t imagine spending the day without the phone at least 95% of us) so in conclusion you need to be very strong mentally and try to discipline yourself so well so those aside things won’t distract you and put you in dark places of not wanting to move on except just feel like a failure.

  • @sumaiyamaryam9851
    @sumaiyamaryam9851 Před 19 dny +1905

    “you’re not chasing real pleasure, you’re constantly numbing pain.”
    This is one sentence I’ll hold on to from this video. It’s 3am right now where I’m from and I was laying in bed just so down, so defeated, so drained, and came across this. I didn’t even have an intention to watch the full thing when I clicked on it.
    A Godsend, truly. Subscribed

    • @benjaminsalazar9253
      @benjaminsalazar9253 Před 19 dny +5

      This sentence is so powerful

    • @Cyanide_Mallika
      @Cyanide_Mallika Před 18 dny +9

      I realized this about myself that I am using phone as a numbing solution rather than to have fun or be entertanied every night till 4 or 5 am and feeling miserable the next day.

    • @Glosky8
      @Glosky8 Před 15 dny +1

      i understand that you are a believer in god, but you should thank this guy that took his time to do this video over the one "above"

    • @willtroy1986
      @willtroy1986 Před 15 dny

      This guy knows what he’s talking about. I’ve been looking for a video like this. Subscribed, and will tell others about this guy.
      Don’t sell out man!

  • @jeffosendit2368
    @jeffosendit2368 Před 6 dny +140

    "i thought of myself as a world to experience and explore rather than a problem to be solved"

    • @sarpsays
      @sarpsays Před 6 dny +1

      Beautiful. That's something to think about right there.

    • @DlES-IRAE
      @DlES-IRAE Před 5 dny

      Basically the quote from Dune :D

    • @damiloification
      @damiloification Před 5 hodinami

      @@DlES-IRAEyup. "Mystery of life is not a problem to solve, but reality to experience"

  • @TheGameChallenger
    @TheGameChallenger Před 15 dny +423

    Bro just casually distilled all the best self-help advice into 20 minutes, thank you.

    • @lauracraig8110
      @lauracraig8110 Před 10 dny +4

      Literally. This video is honestly one of the best I've watched this year - I've been watching a lot of self help content totally based around striv8jg and achievement and a hint of doom/shame. This video is actually useful.

  • @ydkcj
    @ydkcj Před 22 dny +798

    being able to be bored for more than like 2 minutes is a superpower i never knew i needed

    • @joshczuba
      @joshczuba  Před 21 dnem +84

      we got this

    • @mementomori5374
      @mementomori5374 Před 20 dny +44

      Just go for a walk with your phone in your pocket if your new with walking start with 20 minutes build it up to 45 min
      No music no phone it will do wonders for your mental health

    • @willtroy1986
      @willtroy1986 Před 15 dny +9

      I LOVE this video. No frills, no flashy production values to distract from the message, just simple strategies that are supported with well thought out examples and critical thinking.
      Subscribed, and will be sharing this video with friends who could benefit from it.

    • @mental_ofmusic
      @mental_ofmusic Před 9 dny +1

      one of the best and simple superpowers

  • @breddf347
    @breddf347 Před 18 dny +1240

    Dr K calls this the 1 hour challenge. We spend most of our waking hours on the phone, listening to music, etc. Basically you just stare at the wall for 1 hour with no background noise. The first 20 minutes is boredom but the next 40 minutes brings a lot of thoughts up and let’s us process what we’re hiding from in our minds daily. Our Brian’s are so not used to silence for prolonged periods of time that some people experience hallucinations or deeply emotional moments.

    • @tiramisufm
      @tiramisufm Před 17 dny +71

      I did this and it felt like I was flossing my brain

    • @tiramisufm
      @tiramisufm Před 17 dny +79

      It physically felt so therapeutic like cold water was poured on my brain, and then I didn’t do it until months later when I did it like twice a week. I always craved that 1 hour, it lifted my spirit to be able to sit in “silence” but actually really tune into a controlled and managed spiral that would calm down and end with an existentialist optimism that doesn’t match ANY cheap dopamine in the moment.

    • @KingKoopah
      @KingKoopah Před 15 dny +28

      ​@@tiramisufmlmfao flossing the brain good analogy

    • @verolreril250
      @verolreril250 Před 15 dny +24

      jokes on you I aint afraid of the silence:') Quite the opposite, my brain just never shuts the fuck up:D (not like overthinking or schizophrenia) just good old Adhd bullshit

    • @hellreaper2845
      @hellreaper2845 Před 15 dny +12

      ​@verolreril250 yo I'm the same way, except it's usually the same song on repeat (rn its bbl drizzy 😂), but sometimes it's depressing shit and that's really the shit I try to drown out

  • @Chris-xt7wd
    @Chris-xt7wd Před 23 dny +408

    4:45 conscious consumption
    9:19 creative work
    13:10 physical care
    18:40 engage with humanity
    20:38 pragmatic optimism

    • @louskunt1066
      @louskunt1066 Před 23 dny +64

      way to miss the entire point

    • @lileav
      @lileav Před 22 dny +54

      Thank you Chris. Good refresher after watching the whole video

    • @wild_cub_times
      @wild_cub_times Před 22 dny +38

      @@lileav good point under a negative comment

    • @Chris-xt7wd
      @Chris-xt7wd Před 22 dny +84

      @@louskunt1066 I actually did not miss the whole point. I watched it fully through and wanted to journal about each section. I figured someone else would have a similar idea so I wanted to make it easy for others to navigate the video, as well as me if I decide to come back :)

    • @joshczuba
      @joshczuba  Před 21 dnem +76

      appreciate you organizing like this! So helpful!

  • @hnng1439
    @hnng1439 Před 14 dny +63

    "I will be free of any government that wants to control me, from any corporation that wants to monetize me, and any algorithm that wants to paralyze me."

  • @orp5us
    @orp5us Před 22 dny +492

    15:32 NO ONE ELSE CAN FEEL IT FOR YOU, ONLY YOU CAN LET IT IN, NO ONE ELSE, NO ONE ELSE, CAN FEEL THE RAIN ON YOUR SKIN!

    • @joshczuba
      @joshczuba  Před 21 dnem +47

      hahahahaha legendary

    • @werka607
      @werka607 Před 19 dny +9

      WTF do we live in a simulation? 😳 I woke up 30 minutes ago and randomly decided to listen to this song because it's stuck in my head and then I clicked on this vid and saw this...

    • @biko9824
      @biko9824 Před 18 dny +2

      Heard it today on the radio @ work :)

    • @KingKoopah
      @KingKoopah Před 15 dny +1

      I thought these were lyrics from natasha bettingfields "unspoken"

    • @lucasd3658
      @lucasd3658 Před 12 dny +1

      ​@@werka607 youtube algorithm is kind of a simulation to be fair

  • @nameless2407
    @nameless2407 Před 20 dny +378

    You’re 23 years old yet so matured in thinking. Cant imagine how you’ll be at 40.

  • @sonofharristhegod
    @sonofharristhegod Před 18 dny +76

    I almost clicked off the video halfway through but my mind said " wait what are you doing". This video is awesome thank you.

    • @localsugarpuff4698
      @localsugarpuff4698 Před 6 dny +2

      same had a second where i wanted to click off but the video actually went by pretty fast after

  • @oseneva
    @oseneva Před 21 dnem +287

    This is basically the best video I’ve ever seen for a while.

    • @alittletrickery
      @alittletrickery Před 20 dny +3

      facts

    • @janviyadav612
      @janviyadav612 Před 17 dny

      Agreed

    • @bermagot9238
      @bermagot9238 Před 11 dny +3

      What did he say in this video that you didn’t already know

    • @AnassNaqqad
      @AnassNaqqad Před 10 dny +8

      ​​​@@bermagot9238 Most advices are not meant to teach u sth you don't know, they are rather meant to remind you of some things you keep forgetting, and the way you are reminded of them makes a big difference...

    • @bermagot9238
      @bermagot9238 Před 10 dny +4

      @@AnassNaqqad Fair point. I like that answer

  • @RUBABSAZDA
    @RUBABSAZDA Před 6 dny +17

    I'm crying my heart out right now. I've suffered this for so many years that I lost count. I have lost so many precious years from my life. Each and everyday I used to indulge myself into cheap dopamine consumption and most of the time it would go over 7/8 hours. I always blamed myself for not able to escape this bubble. The world didn't feel like the real world. And living in an abusive family as a financially dependent person, I couldn't ask for help.
    I don't remember the last time I felt so optimistic about myself . Thankyou!!Thankyou so much!!

  • @user-fm5eh1fi5z
    @user-fm5eh1fi5z Před 22 dny +179

    I'M SO GLAD you're on youtube. I used to watch you on tiktok but I deleted it a long time ago in order to have less stimulation, now I only watch youtube because it's less stimulating for me. Finding you on here is a blessing.

    • @joshczuba
      @joshczuba  Před 21 dnem +29

      good to see you again! more on the way :)

    • @alittletrickery
      @alittletrickery Před 20 dny

      congrats on deleting tiktok! Luckily I never had it but I’ve heard its a million times more addictive than instagram

  • @Timely-ud4rm
    @Timely-ud4rm Před 21 dnem +216

    CZcams, recommending this video to me was your last mistake. I use CZcams daily for music, background audio, and niche videos, but I often find myself switching between videos, even though I don't watch short-form content. When a video doesn't satisfy me, I'll turn to video games, only to later regret not working on personal projects or coding tasks I had planned. Your video made me realize that I can take control by using a system and being intentional. I've gone on walks before, but only about once a week. I'd like to start walking more frequently and using voice logging to process and digest the content I consume and the experiences I have. Thank you truly helped me. :)

    • @alittletrickery
      @alittletrickery Před 20 dny

      Same

    • @jerryewald2223
      @jerryewald2223 Před 18 dny

      actually same

    • @Timely-ud4rm
      @Timely-ud4rm Před 17 dny +1

      @@alittletrickery I'm glad you relate, I hope we both can be more productive but not just that but more happy without the extensive consumption.

    • @abdulovarlekin
      @abdulovarlekin Před 11 dny +2

      Dude, how to use CZcams JUST FOR music and background audio?? It's so hard, youtube know my interests (like my favorite games), it knows my weaknesses... its really hard on phone, without settings which can disable this rabbit hole (recomendations) like "youtube unhook" in desktop browser... You must have really strong willpower for it.

    • @RossLemon
      @RossLemon Před 10 dny +3

      Personally, I've stopped all social media consumption except for CZcams (although I don't consider CZcams "social media"). I've even stopped bringing my phone into my room, so I just go straight to sleep instead of browsing CZcams shorts for 2 hours before actually sleeping. I'm still consuming content, but I've found the content I consumed on platforms such as Instagram or Facebook was hot garbage that made me angry while the content I consume on CZcams is typically more productive or valuable to me.

  • @StrangerToEarth
    @StrangerToEarth Před 22 dny +83

    Your voice is really persuasive, I instantly got hooked into this video because your voice and body language is so engaging it cut through the haze of consumption I go in on my phone. Well done

    • @joshczuba
      @joshczuba  Před 21 dnem +4

      here to help :)

    • @alittletrickery
      @alittletrickery Před 20 dny

      factssssss

    • @viridian9673
      @viridian9673 Před 20 dny +1

      @@joshczuba just fo curiosity's sake, are you a psych major?

    • @fiftysecwithoutza
      @fiftysecwithoutza Před 16 dny

      @viridian9673 nah he’s studying rizzics

    • @simplyremington
      @simplyremington Před 9 dny +1

      @StrangerToEarth lmao I clicked in your profile for reason and I saw your description that shit made me feel like I was trippin out😂

  • @meursaultroquentin
    @meursaultroquentin Před 14 dny +88

    I was quite reluctant to click on this video fearing it would be the same "dopamine detox" grift so many people post, but I was pleasantly surprised.
    Good on you.

  • @sister_golden_hair
    @sister_golden_hair Před 19 dny +80

    “It’s through the action that you find the clarity.” I audibly gasped at that.

  • @heictorbellato4894
    @heictorbellato4894 Před 10 dny +24

    "I wasn't a problem to be solved, i was a world to be discovered and explored" that was a punch in my gut. Love your content mate, thank you

  • @Lordofpsychoticrat
    @Lordofpsychoticrat Před 20 dny +99

    Thank you, what I love about this video is that you are not dehumanizing the viewer, but instead using a hopeful approach that if we all are in this, then we all can mature and become better as a whole species.

    • @alittletrickery
      @alittletrickery Před 20 dny +9

      yeah this video was pretty great. It’s nice to feel human again

  • @JuliannaBosserman
    @JuliannaBosserman Před 20 dny +24

    Yo this video definitely sparked the start of a huge mindset shift for me. I spent like an hour taking notes because it got me on such a good train of thought. Finally facing the truth of this cycle I'm in. Grew up with the phone at such a young age that only now am I realizing how much of a hold it has on me and my life. This video should be broadcasted to the world honestly. Every person I know is deeply affected by addiction in one way or another, and it's been so heavy on my mind as I'm just feeling the weight of everyone around me and myself turning into zombies, no autonomy, no self control. Really looking forward to understanding this more and more, thanks for the inspiration

    • @alittletrickery
      @alittletrickery Před 20 dny +1

      Yeah this video was pretty great, I’m just hopefully boosting the algorithm. I honestly relate to what you’re saying so heed this warning, realizing how terrible the insta domamine is is only the first step. Genuinely, good luck. I hope you can find meaningful things to pursue in your life.

    • @bred9901
      @bred9901 Před 15 dny

      Make sure to keep it changed

  • @Oblisk
    @Oblisk Před 6 dny +4

    The number one thing alongside sitting in silence that helped me bring myself into a mental homeostasis, is talking to myself. Quite literally talking to myself. After dinner, I will go outside in my backyard and walk around in circles in my grass area. It’ll be a way to walk off the food, but a time for me to reconnect to my inner self and spew out whatever is on mind. And that’ll lead to conversations with myself. And what do these conversations consist of? Anything I want to talk about. That’s the freedom of it. Out of anyone in the world, you are the only one who won’t judge yourself like others do. You have the freedom to say whatever you want. That’s if you allow it.

  • @dreamyfauna
    @dreamyfauna Před 20 dny +75

    Redesigning instead of removing is an amazing piece of advice. We can't always run away and cut out what doesn't work for us learning to engage and allow the things in our lives to work FOR us rather than AGAINST us is necessary. Self help works for a while but when we're children we aren't constantly chasing a better version of ourselves because at a fundamental level we must accept who we are as we are. Thank you for this talk, it's bringing a lot of people comfort and hope.

    • @alittletrickery
      @alittletrickery Před 20 dny +2

      Yeah, it can be difficult when you constantly do the good thing like read and journal and in two days your back to mindless consumption. This vid really helped me and so I’m algorithm boosting rn lol

    • @WakeupwithYacob
      @WakeupwithYacob Před 19 dny

      I mean we can always live in an underground hut in the woods

  • @hanlitheron1291
    @hanlitheron1291 Před 12 dny +7

    "see yourself as an adventure to be explored, not a problem to be solved." & "I am not a bad person for wanting to feel good." gut-wrenchingly beautiful lines. I haven't seen a video that truly made me feel as hopeful as I do right now in a long time. Thank you.

  • @kennyslg8914
    @kennyslg8914 Před 21 dnem +59

    If there was ever to be a library of CZcams videos that are considered an important piece of history, as with films, this should be in there 100%.
    If every single person in the world heard this message, the world WOULD change for the better. I've always thought the same thing.
    Social media and the internet could be one of the best things for humanity instead of the worst if we started using it as a tool, rather than a toy all the time.

    • @alittletrickery
      @alittletrickery Před 20 dny

      Ikr!!!!! This is going into my rewatch folder. Hopefully I’ll remember it if I ever get trapped again, but this feels doable.

  • @khoido7357
    @khoido7357 Před 14 dny +6

    17:05 this part about being in a culture of self improvement and the shame around not being enough hits home

  • @gayatrisahaay8780
    @gayatrisahaay8780 Před 12 dny +11

    I'm 20 and from the very get-go, i've been weeping and sobbing while nodding along to you - and I know you get it cause you're 23. I just don't think older professionals or whoever can ever truly empathize with the feeling, they can provide a lot of useful science, but to have your foundational growing years robbed from you is something they just won't be able to relate to. really thanks so much for this josh, it's difficult to be a first-mover in these kind of situations, you're experiencing this along with the rest of us but you've had the presence of mind and the altruism to not only address it and break it down for yourself, but also to share it with the rest of us in this very digestable way. and it's also so important you did it exactly this way, and that it came from you. idk maybe these tricks are already out there, but i'd have never been able to actually take it in and process it if it were a snippet from a podcast with those large yellow subtities and some guy in a black button down - useless, albeit well-meaning. content AND form, you nailed them both. thanks again!!

  • @xanxan-jay
    @xanxan-jay Před 15 dny +3

    oh my god, what was that.. you just literally rewired my brain after weeks of overthinking, i hope you live a great life

  • @user-kj3mw4hr9r
    @user-kj3mw4hr9r Před 21 dnem +35

    This was a great video! The toned down setting, delivery, and no crazy edits and constant b-roll and aesthetic jazz really helped get your message across. First time in a long time that a self-discipline video has made me feel like i can actually take meaningful action on something.

    • @alittletrickery
      @alittletrickery Před 20 dny +1

      It was such a good video!!! Out of all the self help, it really helps you transition into real life instead of the next video.

  • @DarrenSengs
    @DarrenSengs Před 13 dny +9

    I wish there were more videos like this in my recommendations feed: no music, no animations, no special effects/transition; just the speaker trying to simply convey a message of his experiences and conclusions to the audience. But if it gets excess, then it defeats the point of what was trying to be established in the first place and goes back in the loop of consumerism. Is it deep? For some, no. Other, probably. I think the best thing to do is make do with what we have and acknowledge both extremes b/w excess and abstinence. The golden mean 🙏

  • @rockinrobin
    @rockinrobin Před 20 dny +25

    Just started music detoxing yesterday and glad to be recommended your video today

    • @alittletrickery
      @alittletrickery Před 20 dny +2

      Idk what that is, but good luck to you! I hope you find something meaningful and fun to do with your time.

    • @dedkavsh
      @dedkavsh Před 13 dny

      hey, I listen to music like all the time. what you're doing sounds like something i would like to try. so, can you tell me about music detoxing? thank you so much^^

    • @abdulovarlekin
      @abdulovarlekin Před 11 dny

      I don't know, how you guys can be long time without any background sounds (even just music or calming rain/waterfall sounds from youtube for example), im almost all the time stay at home alone and silence just getting me crazy, stupid obbsesive thoughts starts messing my mind..

    • @dedkavsh
      @dedkavsh Před 11 dny

      @@abdulovarlekin I think you can try journaling your thoughts. It's a good idea that might work for you!

    • @abdulovarlekin
      @abdulovarlekin Před 11 dny

      @@dedkavsh sheesh, i don't think what this is good idea, sometimes, my thoughts going so fast what i don't have time to say them, moreover to write. sometimes its really weird thoughts, i think its better NOT journaling them.. But yes, i can try to start a diary how dude in video recommends.

  • @katrielanderson3808
    @katrielanderson3808 Před 21 dnem +14

    Thank you for holding me accountable and convincing me to focus, so attractive

  • @ytmld
    @ytmld Před 17 dny +36

    i honestly feel like Ive learned more out of these 20 minutes than over my last year of high school. this was the best spent 20 minutes Ive had in a long time

  • @lukedmoss
    @lukedmoss Před 23 dny +32

    Also, I just want to voice my gratitude for your willingness to put out these videos. They are an excellent tool and resource. Effective and soothing - looking forward to any thoughts you continue to share here. Thanks!

    • @joshczuba
      @joshczuba  Před 21 dnem +1

      only the beginning :) thanks for being here

  • @user-ej9rg3qn7p
    @user-ej9rg3qn7p Před 12 dny +10

    The fact that you took your own hardship and pain and turned that into something for other people is admirable. This was such a lovely video, thank you.

  • @wasntmyintention
    @wasntmyintention Před 2 dny +1

    The last 30 seconds alone really gripped me by the face and let me see the reality of my over-consumption. Then, the end, of course, comes with the IMMEDIATE CZcams recommendations for other videos. And I felt a bit of disgust at that, for the first time ever. How could I have ever forgotten how insidious it was, to have videos thrown in my face? (Yet, I’m really glad yours was!)
    I’m at the same age, and it’s reassuring to hear you struggle similarly. Great talk and thanks for sharing with us- we all get to practice our humanity with each other because of you, and isn’t that really what it’s about?

  • @oin_czn
    @oin_czn Před 5 dny +3

    6:20 this’s totally right! I mean because of the big amount of intakes, you’ll “want” to do something because “it interests you”, but actually it doesn’t interest you, you wanted to do it ONLY because you find it cool, and you think it’ll make you looks special & unique in ppl’s eyes. And if you actually asked yourself whether you’re into it or not, your answer would be no.
    You need to turn off your distractions, and try to do new things, and you’ll eventually either find what interests you, or you’ll know what you’re good at.

    • @mitchieee143
      @mitchieee143 Před dnem

      recently I decided to tap in and just listen to what i was in need of. I felt I was craving knowledge and I wanted a challenge. I had always wanted to learn a new language, Korean, to be more specific and yet I had always passed it off as silly when the thought came up. so I decided to show up for myself. I set out time in my week and just started. At first I practiced in private as it’s such a vulnerable thing to step into something you know absolutely nothing about. I also wanted to make sure it really was just for me. Eventually I got a little courage as things began to make a bit of sense so I came out with my supplies and studied out in the house. one day when I sat at the dinner table studying completely engrossed while my parents commented on the new skill I was taking up I knewwww I had really followed through w what I needed. their appraisal wasn’t important ! ( As a recovering people pleaser this was huge lol ) I wanted to continue bc I needed to know what was next. our body or more specifically the mind is always sending out signals for what it needs but it’s up to us to take time and listen. Im glad I did. I’ve been consistent for a month now and I’m still excited to keep going.

  • @soop1711
    @soop1711 Před 21 dnem +16

    I have to say - this is an incredibly eloquent video and i think you have really summed up my cummulative thoughts on the modern world and our generation's place in it. I'm really impressed. Thanks for recording and sharing this. I have found myself on this side of the internet more often, and funnily enough I just uninstalled other social media in the last few days in an attempt to reset. I think it's important to mention that meditation is an especially important practice that would really allow people to grow and mature. Really nice to see everyone in the comments' awareness of this phenomenon and their exploration of your thoughts on it. Again - really great stuff. Keep it up!

    • @alittletrickery
      @alittletrickery Před 20 dny

      Eloquent is the only way to put it really. So many words perfectly placed on a map that he helps us make for ourselves.

  • @cordeliathefairy
    @cordeliathefairy Před 18 dny +9

    "I thought of myself as a world to be experienced rather than a problem to be solved"
    This video was incredible to watch! Thank you, Josh, for sharing your consciousness with us!

  • @MKmagnifico
    @MKmagnifico Před 5 dny +2

    This was honestly life changing. I’ve found myself stuck in this “dopamine hole” for ages now and this video is a godsend. I rarely ever leave comments on videos but I just had to say thank you. You speak so well and you’re helping so many people.

  • @Dibbz_TV
    @Dibbz_TV Před 12 dny +7

    Best I can do is 10 seconds. Take it or lea-

    • @dimuc
      @dimuc Před 6 dny +2

      Double it and give it to the next person

  • @anabittenco
    @anabittenco Před 18 dny +6

    Ironically enough, I was just looking for content on addiction (games and social media) and couldn’t quite find what I needed. Then, your video popped up, and it’s exactly what I was looking for. Crazy how algorithms can be both so good and so bad for us. Thank you so much!

  • @dhairyasheth
    @dhairyasheth Před 20 dny +12

    I'm halfway through the video and man I haven't felt in order from like past 2 months. I've been going with the flow of my bad habits, I've just let them in, I'm tired of them at the end of the day and frustrated at myself before sleeping, and then I do them again the next morning, all the while making myself seem miserable in my own eyes. The biggest problem for me was when I started watching self improvement videos while trying to escape my bad habits, and I just felt bad about myself for doing these bad habits, they were just becoming my identity, I don't even know if was in control of them (at a deeper level) until I heard your words: "You're in Control."
    I don't know how to explain this but it felt like a breakthrough, I felt like I escaped something, I'm going to follow my routine tomorrow because "I'm in control." I need to remind myself that I'm in control of everything that happens. I'm in control of my desires, decisions & actions. I don't want to give away power to anybody else.
    If someone has read this far, just remember, "You're in control & You can control."
    You can't do something that you don't believe in, while you want to believe that you're in control, self improvement is not a game that could be won overnight, failure and self doubt is common and many people, including myself, tend to fade our beliefs in the process of failing. No matter how hard you try, you can't be in control if you never believe that you can.
    You changed my beliefs about myself.

  • @navdeeprathore9106
    @navdeeprathore9106 Před dnem

    "There is so much significance of small steps" so well put!
    Thank you for this.

  • @Laura-lr5gd
    @Laura-lr5gd Před 2 dny +1

    I rarely write comments on youtube films but this one is most definitely special. When you were talking I understood that I am not a problem, that's my willpower is not a problem. You were talking about how to make that change, how to improve and accept some of our weakness. And I genuinely understood that I just need to accept that, and keep going. I was building the feeling of wanting to quit scrolling on constant shame and guilt as you said. I feel that this is the time I start rightly motivated change. Wish me luck on this. And thank you I feel that this video is the beginning of some sort of change. Once again thank you

  • @steadyinlove
    @steadyinlove Před 20 dny +6

    you’re dope as fuck. absolutely love the way you storytell and teach. clearly born for it. I see/feel/hear a lot of myself in you. we both have very minimal videos but are already making an impact, which is so fckin cool. moments and videos like this make me feel so proud of us as a society, which is saying a LOT. proud to see so many like minded young people stepping into their calling, bit by bit. gives me lots of hope. keep going.

    • @steadyinlove
      @steadyinlove Před 20 dny

      was just meditating on the difference between investing and indulging. and how indulgence gets a bad wrap because of WHAT we choose to indulge in. but we can choose to indulge in presence and expanded awareness, mindfulness, learning, creativity, etc, it suddenly becomes a fulfilling investment rather than a cheap fix.

  • @WeAreSafeHere
    @WeAreSafeHere Před 23 dny +11

    the most important video i’ve watched for awhile. thank you!

  • @nicole_erin_green
    @nicole_erin_green Před 23 dny +12

    The passion you have for this is so so important I’m hugely grateful for you and your content! Literally the only way humanity will prevail in the right direction. Following you in you’re journey for the better ✨

  • @lurobu
    @lurobu Před 12 dny +11

    you are so eloquent. i really love the way you approach this issue with compassion. thank you for creating these videos!

  • @DesoMcGrease
    @DesoMcGrease Před 16 dny +3

    By far one of the most well-spoken, compassionate and positively informative videos on youtube on this subject, I really appreciate this, this was a gem of a find for me given i’ve been struggling for the past two years with mental health, and distractions have been a big part of the issue. I’ve found that if you are hurting enough; you are driven to distraction and escapism, through all the means you mentioned and then some. Thank you for the positive words man, taking things one step at a time, and videos like this really make the path forward a lot clearer, you’re doing gods work.

  • @Caroline_Klidonas
    @Caroline_Klidonas Před 23 dny +11

    Found this video from your substack and am so grateful to have longer-form video of your work to listen to. How you discuss all of this is so fascinating and helpful. the first voice I've discovered that engages with the existential dread that (understandably) permeates this conversation with nuance and hope and without self-blame and shame. Also, I recently moved in with my friend after living alone for many years (and working from home). I've noticed a significant decrease in how often I reach for mindless scrolling. And I haven't experienced that cheap dopamine hangover feeling in awhile. I've even be reading more. I chalked it up to just having a lot to do with the move and having my routine interrupted. But then you got to point 4...I think it's because I'm simply connecting more with a human in my daily life now that I live with someone!

    • @joshczuba
      @joshczuba  Před 23 dny +1

      Caroline! Huge fan of your work and I'm so happy this resonates with you :)

  • @mikan5699
    @mikan5699 Před 6 dny +2

    this is genuinely one of the BEST videos ive ever seen on youtube. im glad i gave my attention to you for 20 mins cus this vid is really helpful and just what i needed. you really put my thoughts into words and executed them very well!! big thanks for creating such quality content, im grateful for the youtube algorithm for once lol

  • @BakiNBG
    @BakiNBG Před 6 dny +1

    This is the first time I am commenting on your content, I've listened to some of your talks earlier...
    But this video found me, I was not even aware how much i needed this talk...
    From the bottom of my soul, thank you Josh, you are a wonderful human being for doing what you do.

  • @kumsalice
    @kumsalice Před 13 dny +3

    i have diagnosed adhd so i already do struggle with dopamine even without social media, but before the quarantine i WAS able to control it! i had a phone, i was playing video games but I had my phone back then, I had the control. back then, i was working out with my friends after school for 2-3 hours and also on weekends! i was doing my hobbys, i was painting, going on walks. studying wasn't easy but it was easier. with the help of sports, like you said, going out and being connected with nature, with MYSELF was actually helpful with all of these! i never realized it but i am not doing those as much anymore and you made me realize the difference in my life. you gave me hope, for the last month i am actually doing all the things you said AND THE DIFFERENCE IS INSANE! I CANT BELIEVE IT! i told my friends about you and your advices, we all are doing better thanks to you. you always speak so understandingly and kindly, i hope you always have such nice people like you around you

  • @fantakouyate2307
    @fantakouyate2307 Před 21 dnem +6

    Really great contribution to the internet and the world.

  • @domenichiniivan8337
    @domenichiniivan8337 Před 2 dny +1

    I'm actually feeling overwhelmed by the media this days, it literally feels like brainrot, I've been trying to consume less of the pointless media, so thanks for making this video

  • @ErnestLongwe
    @ErnestLongwe Před 11 dny +1

    To be honest I wasn't even planning on watching this video, I was just endlessly consuming but now that I've watched I feel free and I've learnt a lot. This is the first video I have ever commented ever on CZcams, maybe the stars aligned perfectly or something but this is the most value I have ever gotten. I thank you for giving me back my time and the consciousness I lost

  • @numptywizard972
    @numptywizard972 Před 11 dny +4

    watched this at 2x speed with music playing and while scrolling Tiktok. this is going to be an insane journey

    • @94D33M
      @94D33M Před 6 dny

      How's it going?

  • @Ishqkaari
    @Ishqkaari Před 20 dny +8

    Hey! Thank you for just posting this non- over edited and non-stimulating video . A raw , real , simplified ,plain observations based and soothing video .
    What a lovely way of yours to put things so simply and in illustrative manner .
    Not even for 1 second i wanted to skip .
    Are you a teacher ?
    What a wonderful way of explaining. ❤
    Thanks again ❤

  • @dinohuu1480
    @dinohuu1480 Před 8 dny +1

    Your voice is so calming. I could listen to you for an hour straight

  • @thingsandstuff9529
    @thingsandstuff9529 Před 10 dny +1

    I'm 14 mins in and this is amazing. Didn't even want to listen at double speed. Thank you for this content. I struggle so much with feeling paralysed and numbing the pain with cheap quick hits of dopamine

  • @whyherrodere3784
    @whyherrodere3784 Před 22 dny +4

    Thank you 🩶 for your message. I was listening to you talk as I was doing chores and tbh I'd been stagnant in my goals for awhile. But i'm getting back to it 💪 good luck everyone

  • @backfire10z29
    @backfire10z29 Před 13 dny +3

    I just happened upon this video and it’s resonated with a lot of what I’ve been discovering ever so slowly.
    22 years old here and I think many of us around this age group are either coming to the realization that you are or sinking deeper into the dopamine hole. I think we are in somewhat of a unique position compared to every other generation in that we’re the first gen to have been brought up in this type of environment. It was a big part of many of our formative years but not all of them.
    I’m seeing even my parents starting to scroll through random memes (older stuff on Facebook but it doesn’t really matter) and it is kind of worrying me. I think our generation is best positioned to come to the same realization your entire video is about and really do something about it on an individual and collective level.
    And the humanity portion… oh man. COVID annihilated multiple generations on that one. What a great point to bring up, because it really is as important as the rest to align how you gain satisfaction and dopamine.
    Welp this is way longer than I thought it’d be. Anyways, great video, thanks for putting it up.

  • @huberthubert1636
    @huberthubert1636 Před 10 dny +2

    Stunning! I'm not the person who comments videos, but this time I felt like that's the moment I need to go to the "action". Spend whole 20 minutes focused watching this video and I feel pure happines. Really high dose of truth a lot of people should get. Instantly subscribed, liked and commented! I support you man and of course everybody who's reading this comment. Keep it up lads!

  • @Jay-lh7zx
    @Jay-lh7zx Před 5 dny

    I’m not huge on religion and I hope my words don’t lose meaning to those of you who don’t believe but after a long and uncomfortable conversation with both my wife and later myself, it feels like God spoke to me through this video. Maybe the algorithm was listening and thought this was the perfect time to suggest it to me but even then I’ll take the sign for what it is. A wake-up call. A lot of the things you said in this video have already been floating around in my head for a while but my anxiety kept suppressing those thoughts and effectively I was running away from responsibilities, exercise, relationships, etc. I started crying in both the beginning and end of the video because it felt like you were speaking directly to me. Thank you for this, not only because it might just be the push I need to get my life together but also because you touched upon the hopelessness we as a society collectively feel due to our own actions. Regardless of how many views it gets, this video truly is saving the world, even if it manages to get just a small amount of us back on our feet. That’s still more healthy humans than before.

  • @CelaenaSardothien-zy9zd
    @CelaenaSardothien-zy9zd Před 22 dny +5

    I think i just fell in love. I was hooked all throughout the video lol you, sir, are a beautiful person💖

  • @ektamourya4406
    @ektamourya4406 Před 20 dny +5

    When videos like this one show up on my feed I am instantly grateful that we aren’t too far gone yet. Algorithms clearly aren’t exploiting us to the maximum effect. Videos like this one still surface, give you a reality check and help you disconnect from the vicious numbing cycle of shorts and infinite scrolling. Thankyou Josh. My attention was yours for 20 minutes and you truly nourished it. More power to you ❤

  • @aleseaux
    @aleseaux Před 3 dny

    I love how much you respect the viewer's knowledge throughout this video.

  • @ehtishamullah7534
    @ehtishamullah7534 Před 9 dny +1

    This video has cured me. Watched it 2 weeks ago and started praying the 5 daily Salah. Now I can focus fully on my studies and have no desire to pick up phone needlessly, or even waste time. I do what needs doing, enjoy doing it and still have time to enjoy my family's company and sleep on time. As a Muslim, it is easy for me because I have 5 pillars that give structure to my day.

  • @rasberries566
    @rasberries566 Před 21 dnem +3

    Thank you so much for the compassion and sincerity in this video. I wrote down the suggestions on a post-it note and it will live on my desk. I appreciate you!

  • @mamaprism
    @mamaprism Před 19 dny +5

    Josh!!!! You talking that shxt I LIKE! Such a clear and concise video. So balanced across each level of being, mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical. Your acceptance of what is and willingness to baggage it from an empowered place is such a gift and I’m so glad we all possess it. Thank you for speaking to this and doing exactly what you spoke about in the end. We absolutely can train our humanity and teach one another new ways to be. Sending everyone so much love. You got this ✨

  • @user-vc2ec4uv2y
    @user-vc2ec4uv2y Před 10 dny +1

    watching this at 15, lately I’ve been trying to curate my media and the most that helps is clicking not interested on those “brainrot” videos and depressing and negative videos.. and liking and commenting on hopecore and positive videos to make sure those stay on my fyp and bring me up not down, and lessening my screentime and not using my phone as much. i hope we all can achieve what we want

  • @stevenlomon
    @stevenlomon Před 16 dny +1

    From the most genuine place I can find in my heart, filled with the most curiosity, compassion and humanity I can find in my soul: thank you. Thank you for pouring your heart out into this video. I'm 28, I have built up some positive momentum and taken some dents in the enormous question that is purpose and I don't think I could have found this video at a better point in my life. We are going to be okay, we are in this together

  • @thesunshineblissproject
    @thesunshineblissproject Před 19 dny +3

    This is gold. This video automatically played with autoplay. Was going to stop it, but after listening to the first two minutes your message resonated. Subscribed.

  • @johnnyjackson9852
    @johnnyjackson9852 Před 17 dny +3

    i straight crying dude. thank you for what you do and i wish the best for you and your loved ones.

  • @IsmaeelShahzad-xq9ff
    @IsmaeelShahzad-xq9ff Před 9 dny +1

    I don’t even know how to say thanks to you. You have done so much for me.

  • @toadettecos3299
    @toadettecos3299 Před 8 dny +1

    This video was a godsend, I felt myself in a constant state of turning to scrolling to numb out my thoughts and emotions and I felt powerless. I was just scrolling for the sake of scrolling when I saw this video, clicked instantly and thankfully so, it has helped me a lot thank you sm❤

  • @umutsen2290
    @umutsen2290 Před 6 dny +3

    I dropped a few tears at the exact moment I've heard:
    "This way, corporations, governments can not control us."
    Thank you for making me realize what my goal was, after several months of suspending what I was going after.

  • @Helene_experience
    @Helene_experience Před 20 dny +4

    So much wisdom ! This is what I did intuitively, getting back to my body and enjoying what I’m doing, the brain loved it. I kept away the comparisons and competition from my movement practice. Now I’m just dancing whatever feels good moves on my favorite tunes to bring up the joy. Today I danced outside in nature and as a woman came by, I offered her to dance with me ! We danced for 10 minutes, ended up hugging and exchanging phone numbers to go on hikes together!

  • @Mii13573
    @Mii13573 Před 6 dny

    thank you SO MUCH, my dear. i‘m twentyeight years now and have never heard somebody speaking so brilliantly and understandable about that topic. its like a gamechanger. like a very good plan for almost EVERY problem in my life. i am feeling so much gratefulness for you. you made my day. have a nice sunday, dear Josh

  • @galaxy-412
    @galaxy-412 Před dnem

    thank you. you've inspired me to open my old art book and draw again, and to reconnect with old friends. with everything that has happened, i've been feeling an overwhelming sense of desolateness, but this video reminded me that if i could go out and make wonderful memories yesterday, i can do so tomorrow as well. thank you, once again.

  • @bhenriquefranca
    @bhenriquefranca Před 22 dny +3

    Um dos melhores vídeos que já assisti aqui na internet. Escrevo isso em português do Brasil, para mostrar que pequenas atitudes podem gerar mudanças incríveis no mundo. Estamos juntos nessa Josh, você é uma grande inspiração!

  • @williammccormick3787
    @williammccormick3787 Před 23 dny +5

    Great vid, thank you for your wisdom!

  • @NexyiaArt
    @NexyiaArt Před 6 dny

    Hey, I hope you see this.
    Your words have touched on something pivotal in my life. Other people and other information may have started my journey but, something made me look at this video today. I sat through it. I watched it all. I watched you, took notes. I felt. I cried.
    I don't want to be a robot anymore.
    Everything I did up to this moment was a lack of intention. I drowned myself even in constant music. If I was awake, I'd be listening to music, watching tv, playing games, drinking alchohol, even pornography.
    None of this is what I want.
    I want you to know that you have refueled me. I was still going on my journey, but you feel like a gas station that just brought me from a red light back to a full tank.
    I really want to thank you for making this.

  • @s0s0...
    @s0s0... Před 12 dny +2

    I've been putting this video off thinking I already know these stuff.
    The video was still on my browser tab so I just chose to watch it before I close the tab. (my ego wanted me to not be a overstimulated guy and prove it that I can go through this whole video XD)
    This video refreshed my Mind. Even though i'd say i've been doing a lot of healthy things already and making progress but sometimes we just need to hear somethings. I needed to get back to the basics.
    Thanks man

  • @mymusicdiary216
    @mymusicdiary216 Před 23 dny +3

    Thank you so much . I really needed this reminder right now

  • @erikalarcon9644
    @erikalarcon9644 Před 22 dny +4

    Much Love !!!

  • @Sipihr
    @Sipihr Před 6 dny

    I had tears in my eyes halfway through the video, I don't know. The kindness in your voice guided me. Thanks for the video Josh

  • @toadleyasmr
    @toadleyasmr Před 2 dny +1

    wow this was profoundly well done, thank you for going out of your way to make this video. It's very grounding and something that so many people around me, including myself, need to hear.

  • @asadmalik4475
    @asadmalik4475 Před 23 dny +3

    Thankyou man, Thankyou 🙏🏻
    Found u when i needed the most

  • @anishreddy3859
    @anishreddy3859 Před 23 dny +3

    Amazing articulation, well done!

  • @dorfinn2196
    @dorfinn2196 Před 6 dny +1

    I honestly came to this video with a “another self help” kinda thing but this was genuinely helpful insight. I subscribed lol felt like I had to. But I’ve been trying to get out of that hole for about a week or two I just graduated college and I want a change in my lifestyle. I couldn’t even be happy I graduated because I thought “now what” or “it’s gonna be harder now”. I feel like the changes I’ve been making are leading me to things that will help like ur channel. Thank you!

  • @jahmaiwright8439
    @jahmaiwright8439 Před 21 dnem +4

    Fantastic video, felt like I was sitting having a chat with you.

  • @Akultic
    @Akultic Před 22 dny +7

    APPRECIATION!🎉

  • @callmekane
    @callmekane Před 6 dny

    I've thought about this so much and it's so nice to know so many others have too.
    The way I see it, constantly consuming short form content is like sitting and staring for hours in front of one of those billboards that scrolls back and forth between advertisements on bus stops. A constant loop of prompts for consumption but with the cruel edge of being built in a way that tries to prevent you walking away like you can from the billboard.
    I think the only way to escape it is to find the one that triggers that genuine curiosity then scale up to long form content, then books, research, meeting real people. Then once you've done so, express your wonderful generative self in whatever feels right out into the world.
    Hearing someone explain that so succinctly and compassionately is appreciated. Thanks for the reminder we have the choice to turn around and walk away.

  • @christinaostro6082
    @christinaostro6082 Před 9 dny +1

    I have been in the vortex of personal development for 10+ years, consuming and consuming PD content of allllll kinds, and this is by far the most profound video I have watched.

  • @tigerlily9234
    @tigerlily9234 Před 20 dny +10

    Why weren’t we this smart at 23? I’m 28. We didn’t think like this

    • @MichaelF321
      @MichaelF321 Před 18 dny +1

      To be fair, he's clearly pretty exceptional. Not your average 23 year old.

    • @jeremywaygay
      @jeremywaygay Před 16 dny +1

      @@MichaelF321 tru, he has a sense of earnestness that isn't really the norm in our gen. we all gotta be talking with layers of irony 24/7 or else you seem "cringe" for caring.

    • @alicezventures
      @alicezventures Před 7 dny

      the term exceptional is relative rather than exact​... so to be fair, it doesn't make sense to associate intelligence with age. yes, his characteristics are exceptional but not extraordinary. @@MichaelF321

  • @hohurnham7583
    @hohurnham7583 Před 23 dny +3

    this is a great idea, thank you