If You're Feeling Lost...It's Actually GOOD!
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always lost :/
I don't feel lost but I have so many obstacles that want to get in my way. I'm so scared 😮
Thanks this video help me a lot
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The map you put behind of the "roman" empire is so wrong and false in many aspects. Its fake and wrong informations.
Who is listening to this April 2024? 👇
😢 me
Yes
Me
Hey 👋
Me😢
"if you are feeling lost,
it's okay
it means you are moving
it means you have been moving
it means you are looking for more
it means you are a seeker!
You have goals,
ambitions,
and aspirations!"
This comforted me to another level. Thank you!
Complete and utter cope.
Im stuck… i dont think I can look at it this way.
@@pharaohosam Coping is a good thing, surely. Only strong people cope.
Ah so calm to hear this, sometimes I think lost is bad for me but not at all. When I lost I understand about myself more.
I’m 36, still living with my parents. Lost my job due to vaccine mandates last year. I’m now going to Uni to finish my Bachelor of Accounting at Swinburne University in Melbourne, Australia which I’ve meaning to do for years. 14 units to go! Correction 12 units to complete, wish me luck!
WOW! That's amazing! Hope you enjoy your journey!
All the best!!!!
u can do it
All the best! There are great things waiting ahead of you! ❤
Good luck mate 🙌🙌🙌
Feeling lost is always a sign of a new beginning✨️
I swear once you start to get used to the feeling of being lost and not having any ground beneath u, you start to understand you are your own home
So profound😮 I have recently discovered this too!❤
I like that
It gets lonely sometimes.. any advice what you do?
@@asdfdg11 yes, that is so true :/ I honestly have been feeling really lonely for the past years due to a lot of circumstances + Covid, and just adulthood I thought as humans we had the capacity to adapt to anything and still be happy, but this thought made me force myself into situations that I didn't connect with at all, which made me feel super lonely. I thought FOR A LOOONG time that the problem was ME. But after some time and some changes around me (started studying again, started doing things I naturally was always attracted to, like drawing or singing even though initially I didn't want to do anything cause I was really sad), eventually I started feeling better. I now still have bad and lonely days and thoughts. But I know nothing lasts, not even the pain or the anxiety. Even the lonelinessI moved back home and I started letting go of what didn't make me feel anything. I started pursuing the spark of joy, as little as it was then. And now what makes me feel happy is that I fully BELIEVE, with all my heart, that I am not the problem, and that there is so many people in the world that would like me and feel things just as intensely as I do. Also, I believe us who feel the loneliest are also the ones who have seen the truth: the superficiality of the world we live in. It means we think, we reflect, and if we can do that, we can also change things around us. At least, for ourselves and the small circle of people who surround us. And that is a fucking miracle
Not far from the truth. The world was never designed to be able to match all our preferences, values, sense of integrity. We can only find what truly matters to us.........within ourselves. Other people are just doing themselves........running around, using their free will.............while what we value and our sense of being lost are symptoms of not finding in the world........what matters to US.......whilst being TOLD by the world what WE should be doing.
Quit my job, broke up a relationship. Nothing left but me on my own, no idea what's next BUT I really really really enjoy this emptiness. I have a strong sense that something greater is coming to me and this breaktime is a chance for me to rest well and recharge before exploding with the coming changes. Feel so faithful and excited. Life is interesting guys. No matter it is up and down, go with the ride. U got ur destint set !
Me now
how did it go
How are you now
@@ProEray everything is recovering now. a new self new life new way new opportunities after all of that suffering. it's like a rebirth
@@shahnuramanxunaed2011 everything is like a rebirth now
Society makes it seem like we have to go so fast and know what we are doing all the time. Anything less, we're told we're failures.
Especially social media
Speak!!!
this is exactly how i’m thinking right now. i hope you are where you want to be at this moment and if not, i just KNOW you will get there. what you said is something someone so strong and used to doing it alone would say. YOU got this. WE got this❤❤❤❤❤
I am only 21, I'm expected to go to college or getting a job, and everything is just overwhelming. Not to mention not having funds to do anything with my life😭
You have described it perfectly....that feeling like there's nothing to hold onto or ground you, you literally feel like you're floating and trying to reach out for something to stabilize you, but there's nothing substantial.
Wow this!! This describes me so perfectly. I feel like I want to do so much and I don't know whwre to begin or how to keep going in one set direction
When i read the comments, I noticed that i am not alone 😢. Everyone has different story but same struggle. I am 24 years, can speak English,Japanese and Turkish yet I don’t know what to do with my life. I graduated one year ago and got into job right after graduation. Afterward i noticed that I don’t want to do that job and quit, now i am trying to change my direction and learning new thing such as trading, nft etc . But unfortunately sometimes i compare myself with my friends. They still work and look happy. On the other hand i started to learn new things, i feel like i waste my most productive time by doing things. But everyone we are not alone, we all feel same.
Three month ago i lost my job, and being very experienced and with three languages: russian, english, and turkish, applied to so many positions but got only rejection. As i dont know what else i can do i just left situation to Allah, and try to ask myself all the time what i really want, read books watch this kind of videos.
Your set of languages is impressive 😊 I learned to some extent or more English Czech Slovak Mandarin Turkish (unfortunately) German, the only decent level (not even C1) is English and Russian is my native. Basically, I can use only several of them, and I do suck in my life at my 35... What I want to say 😅 I wish I knew programming languages instead, a stack of them. F*ck my life, and I wish you all best my random friend ❤
At least you have me now i’m 26
Lately Ive been waking up and feeling like nothing is right in my life, it doesn't feel the same anymore.
same with me
Me too
When I feel like that I question why? I look at the reason and when I understand that, I try to pray to God and focus on whatever gut feeling I have regarding my future that doesn’t leave me. Also know sometimes outer factors contribute to feeling like this, it’s not your fault. You will get through the storm.
same here
It's been a week and I'm really feeling that way as well
Everywhere i go, i got lost.
No friend to talk, now im sick and making me lost my job. My parents push me to find job soon, but i dont even know that i can work like before. My life’s suck and i dont know where to go. Everyone have a perfect life but me.
i am crying while watching your podcast because i feel like there's someone out there who also understands what i am feeling.
I am with you , I am going through a lot too but this is temporary and the universe has our back , never give up , God bless
I lost my job and feel lost now and anxious… watching your video change my attitude. It mean that i’m moving something new and seeker! Thank you for this :)
People really make you feel guilty for stopping and taking break for yourself. ...neglect them and take your time.
I know right that’s messed up. Life is a marathon not a sprint
Yes i experienced that..they see those who stop as losers
When you feel lost that means that you going somewhere ❤
Thank you, this is very comforting. I feel so lost in life right now.
Same.
Same.
You’re not alone
Same
@@bugarskisvercerduvana3436 bro where are you from
I feel so lost, I’ve been thinking for the past months “am i a failure?” because i don’t feel like doing anything or even socialising, i even prayed to God for answers and today I’ve experienced good things and Yt recommend me this video, thanks for the good words
We are never Lost..we are doing the Best we can 😊
Beautiful
@@cheker120 🤗
I once read 'if you're lost it means you're changing'. Changing to grow and be able to overcome the uncertainty of the situation we find ourselves in. But everything is temporary, even emotions. And in this case, time is our best friend, it's the eagle that will take us up to see everything we've done and what our next step is. ❤
Thank you so much. I love this comment
@@rabbitlively I'm glad u like it! ♥️
Found this by accident?? Such a comforting and wise message! I am between jobs and don't really know what to do, where to turn. What do I want? Who can I be? What now? Listening to you makes a big difference, being reminded that it is not a bad thing to be lost. It is also a time of opportunity! Thanks.
Yeah.. all is ephemeral and tech mediated and don't depend or belong to yerself... unstability and nothing to hold value or time or see a future... all skil and life before just devalued and taken... as of nothing... struggle became to live on an artificial grid where they can turn on off and interfere...
❤ Same here.
Sometimes you have to shut the world out and imagine what would you do if money was no object and worse thing you can do is compare yourself to others or listen to their journey. That's because everyone's journey is unique to them.
Asking myself what I want creates a lot of anxiety for me and especially when people tell me "just follow your passion" really upsets me because most of the things I am passionate about do not translate monetarily. I am struggling with what to do as far as career and am getting so much unhelpful advice from every which way, it's so good to just realize I can sit where I am at and don't have to make any big decisions right now. All the best to you
Same here!!! I love this content I subscribed ❤❤❤
Funny how life works, this found me exactly when I needed it
"Let the lostness warm you. You are an adventurer and you are making your way, and you deserve this rest." Beautiful reminder! Thank you Scott.
Hey, I am 20 years old. I have failed three times consecutively to get into med school and honestly this podcast was all that I needed. The constant feeling of sadness and failure and depression was making me hard to breathe. I was sick of living a life without passion and purpose. I was feeling lost. I felt like a failure bc I spend 2 years fully dedicated to my studies but still failed. I was feeling very guilty, after my results were declared I completely broke. I had no energy to do anything. Small things used to give me so much anxiety and I wanted my life to end. I feel so much lighter and better after listening this podcast. You have no idea how many people you must have helped through this podcast bc I know there must be more people like me who are feeling lost and they need someone who can comfort them. Thankyou for creating this podcast. I hope you reach new levels of success. May god bless you and stay happy ❤️
You're so strong for being where you are.
Hi, I can totally feel you! I was looking for a comment similar to problems I am dealing with and not that your suffer would make me happy or anything. I just wanted to reach out to you that I have the same problem. Trying to get in Uni which seems impossible for me and I am just trying to figure it all out...thank you for sharing your story cause it made me realize i am not alone...
Hi, I am so proud of you for trying those 3 times, even if they didn’t turn out as you’d hoped. Medicine is so competitive it’s crazy! Take your time, the career is a long term gain, and when you become the amazing doctor you’re going to be, you’ll be glad you went through the process the way you did. I once read that the best doctors are the ones that didn’t have a linear pathway into medicine, and had to really push to get in. You may not see it clearly now, but your experience with ‘failure’ and rejection will help you massively in the future. And remember to look at the bigger picture; everyone goes at their own pace, and in the end everyone will end up in the same place no matter how long it took them to get there. Keep pushing you’ve got this ❤️
You have made it a lot further than many people have even tried! I'm sure that has got to feel extremely frustrating to have dedicated yourself to something and still not gotten the outcome you wanted. My situation is different but similar in that small things have been overwhelming me too, like I am feeling almost unable to function, I know I'm going through a hard time this year with a surgery and then a divorce in progress, but the fact that I couldn't even keep up with the basic household tasks and barely keeping up with my job, I am self employed and my business has completely stalled and now I don't even know if I want to continue with it. I was feeling really down on myself until I found this video, I don't have to make any decisions now and it's OK that I am not functioning at the level I once did.
This resonates with meee! altho not the med school part but the feeling lost part
I took some VERY wrong turns in life and now I’m lost without a compass, a phone, or even a map 😭 I can’t seem to get back to where I knew I was supposed to be or wanted to be.
This is what the modern world represents imho
Love the analogy of planting a seed and letting the laws of nature do the rest :)
Really needed to hear this. I’m 37, married, still living with my parents, work part time on weekends, and have severe depression. I don’t know what to do to move forward in life. Glad to know I’m not alone. Thank you.
Same.
Us bro
This is actually how I’m feeling right now LOST
1 minute in and you’ve already perfectly described my every thought in daily existence.
Same here. 😯
It's an odd situation. I am happily married, I have a home even if it requires a lot of maintenance, I have 2 cats and my parents are still alive. I have steady work even if the pay is mediocre at best. But for some reason I always feel isolated, and I never feel safe. Like a disaster awaits any moment. Social circle has shrunk to like 5 ppl since covid and work from home. I love working from home but I do not love the new antisocial ways out here. I don't know, man, I don't know what I'm doing.
Anxiety
Oh please
One of the hardest life lessons I’m still working on is progress isn’t linear and that’s ok. Life isn’t a race; the only finish line is death. Enjoy the ride ❤
Ground yourself.
Take your time.
Make a decision.
Life is about moving and tweaking.
We all get lost and it’s okay.
Life is unpredictable.
Curveballs are good.
Take rest when you need.
Set up camp ⛺️
Be your own friend.
Put your feet where the ground is.
Be present.
Check out the map”
Let it really sink in.
Let go of what if”
Sit, there’s no rush.
Take rest again.
Embrace your adventurer side.
Chill on your launchpad, you’ll know when to make the next move”
Thank you so much for this video 🙏🏼 really needed to hear this tonight.
Very well said
It's as if a door has opened for me. My husband passed away 4 years ago. Been married for 35 years.....I lost so so much. So I will take these precious words from this and find some comfort.
I am sorry for your loss.😢❤️
Why do you feel lost? At least you were loved. Some of us were denied it completely and suddenly, and the person who hurt us is still Alive.
I love how his advice and insights come from a place of geniune care for others and not forcing others to act with urgency.
This resonated with me Scott! As someone who went to school to become a psychologist, as someone who loves asking questions and diving deep, I feel very lost at this moment in my life. A new country (US), new culture, changing careers, marriage, missing home, never ending job search while in not so good financial situation all in the last year and a half... I feel burnt out but I can't catch a break because of the reality of life. We all have bills to pay. All that definitely make me question my decisions but I also do know that when we get through this, it's all going to be worth it.
I wake up everyday, go to my day job that I hate, come back home tired feeling guilty for another unproductive day because I didn't do any thing to make my life get any better resulting in feeling down and not wanting to engage. I'm not here just to survive, I'm here to grow and succeed. I've always set high expectations for myself and I guess seeing myself in this situation has been one of the hardest things that I have had to go through. What doesn't kill me, will make me stronger.
Hows everything going 2 weeks later?
I can totally relate to what you going through.. I have days where I feel so lost and un motivated but lately I just take it one day a time and maybe with time everything will make sense..
I'm in the helping field. We have days like that, where it feels like we are making progress. If you made it through psychology school, you will make it to the next step. Looking at everything you have changed onyour life, it makes sense that you are feeling on shaky ground. Lots of changes in a period of time leaves ys feeling off balance. Go kiss your wife and tell her she is beautiful. Go meet with a career counselor. You have a lot going for you.
Wondering the same
Im not far off this whole situation myself in all honesy. Keep the head up and power on.
Turn 30 this year and have had multiple career changes. I feel lost at times, thanks for the uplifting message.
I hope everyone here in the comments reach their goals and excel 🙏
All the best to you
I completely relate, same position.
Same. Totally frustrated. 😌
Thank you for this.
I am a ball of anxiety. I am exhausted. I needed to hear that the Darkness is okay.
Sometimes I think to my self “I feel different, I feel like I’m changing and then I question wether that’s right or not” well of course it is, you want to change right? If you feel different for the better and lost then it 100% means your going somewhere. I’m glad you clarified this!
Thank you so much bro
Agree
We spend the majority of our time trying to fix ourselves or someone else….if not, then we find ourselves trying to find healthy ways to cope with reality without succumbing to self- destruct behaviors.
I think I know my next step is working but I don't find any place I want to work at, my parents say to just pick anything but that's not for me. I need to work somewhere that I chose and deem special to me. Whatever that means, I want to choose my experience but I feel like I'm waiting to find it. That perfect place
Your kindness and concern for other peoples well being is a beacon of light. Brilliant, shining like a lighthouse.
You're like a warm blanket on a cold, dark night. Thank you for all you do 😊
Im 47, after an unexpected divorce out of the blue i had to sell my house and move back with my emotionally challneging parents to single parent my child. Please pray for me! 🙏
Thank you very much.
I am currently in the army, the only constant in my life is the constant change every day. Nothing is safe, a lot of hostility around me, so many things that are out of my control, I don't know what to choose from the things that are in my control, the feeling of loneliness and misunderstanding is huge and there is no time to rest or just be with myself.
I just want to sit on the beach and watch the sun go down, but your warm and comforting words also bring out that feeling in me. Thank you very much❤
That monologue in the beginning felt like he took it right from my brain
I m 41 lost job, no marriage thought of changing career, tried but failing and failing, losing my savings seating dumb doesn't know what to do. Just praying 🙏
You are not alone, I’m going through the same stuff. I stopped doing a lot of things for some time but then I realize that I’m stuck but I’m not stuck I have a lot of things to try and see to find out what I really need and want. All stops give us new directions and where to go. And where you go it’s up to you. I’m giving you a hug and for everybody who feels lost and stuck. We all are going to find our ways again, new ones! 🙏🏻
Coming off the Prescription Adderrall,
I was Sad Lost and didn’t know where to go- Broke up with my Ex again after going back. Dumped a few Fake friends, and yeah. Im pretty Much Starting over again.
Depression. Anxiety.
Feeling Stuck.. is where I am.
Can we get in contact?
You are so gifted! Not only are you saying the right words, but how you’re saying them in a calm manner 🙏🏾
Thank you. Being creative & lost sucks. Everything feels so tough! That sounds amazing right now. I need a compass.
I’m 22, i feel lost since i was 20, It affected my art because it lost direction, my peers are doing great things, this podcast made me feel like myself again a bit❤️
Thank you so much for this. I just graduated college (undergrad) and feel like I have no plan and don’t know what I want to do. But you made me feel like it’s okay, I can rest here in this space for a while and take my time. I know and trust that the right things are coming for me :). Thank you 🙏
It is 100 percent ok. It took me some time to find the job I was searching for. I went back and got an additional degree. Best decision ever. My son took some time to find his way. He took a job way beneath his education. Two promotions later, he is doing very well. It's ok to take this time. I recommend that you reach out to your career counseling department to polish your job hunting skills. If you do go get a masters, try to get a graduate assistantship. Your tuition will be paid for and you'll get some mo ey. Live in the dorms, meet new people and have some fun!!!
This is great..i dont have anyone else telling me things like this so its easy for me to get caught up in my own thoughts and cycles..sometimes we all need to remember to take a breath and to recalibrate
I am almost 22 years of age but I feel like I have achieved nothing ever since covid, my goals since middle school was to just finish school and then go to university and become something, sadly after high school, I was going through the roughest time of my life already. Financially struggles were upon us, so I had to fixate myself on working wage jobs for at least 4 years. I am thankful to God that these times have passed but now I feel really lost. I still have university in the back of my mind but at the same time I feel like It has gotten too late, since most people on social media finish it with 23 years of age and create one of the best edit the world has ever seen (maybe I'm jealous idk💀). My ramblings aside, I thank everybody in this comment section and you for this amazing video. Helped me calm down a lot ❤️
We have the same situation brother
@@user-mo9xr2ji9e good luck brother
Don't be like those others you mention, be yourself. Let them be, and be yourself. F*ck'em) cliches, forced norms, etc. Just do your thing, and be a good human. In today's world simply being a human is already a big deal ❤
I don't think it's a coincidence this came up in my CZcams 💯❤️❤️❤️❤️
I'm listening to this at a park working out a bit while I have a small break from a job I hate which gives me no free time. The imagery about camping and setting up in an Airbnb or hotel and staying a bit is beautiful and I brought tears to my eyes. I'm planning to move forward with my life but I don't want to be impulsive about it.
I am feeling lost since I can think. I am a seeker since I can think. And I come to the point that this chronic depression since decades is not going away but I know it can get so much worse heavy depression is the darkest place with no hope. Unfortunately as a seeker I am an explorer but since the stress tolerance is so low that I am overwhelmed by making trips ans so on.
i highly enjoy validating feelings also! It irritates me no end when I hear therapists tell people how they are suppose to feel. It's so grating, so abrasive, they don't realize how abusive it is. ps. I still need paper maps
36 y.o. here . Always felt lost since i was a kid
Really needed to hear some of this and enjoyed listening, thank you!
Thank you so much Mr. Scott ❤ This really meant a lot for my life. 🤗
Thank you Scott. I deeply appreciate each one of your videos. This one was the 💥. Let’s keep it up!
The world needs this man👏🏻
Wow this was needed! Thank you 🙏🏾
This was fabulous - exactly what I needed and wanted to hear. Thank you so much. I hope to meet you in one of your zooms.
This makes a lot of sense Scott thank you 🙏 ❤️
This is so helpful for my life right now. It is so comforting to know that we share these lost times. Thank you.
Dont mistake movement for progress and the key to life is moderation..
Also dont ever be scared of change... Its good for you and whenever change happens its when the most growth comes from within.
I am so grateful for the perspective you’re offering us here ❤ Thank you ☺️
Thank you Scott for this video. You are so inspiring.
Immense blessings to you for this!
Awesome talk and popped up on my feed at the right time, tks! ❤
Thank you scott for sharing those thoughts and your perspective, i needed this. Have a nice day!
You're incredible Scott! Thank you so much for this video!
Really needed this today
This is exactly what I’ve need to hear for a while. I didn’t even know I needed this perspective
So happy I found your channel. Very inspiring content ❤
I never felt so comforted and understood. Thank you so much
So glad this video came up in my suggestions today. Gosh, I really needed to hear this ❤
This came to me at the right time, so much love to you and to everyone here ❤
Thanks so much my friend, your words and your energy helped me put things into perspective. 🙏❤
Thank you. I came across this video at the perfect timing...exactly when I needed to hear it the most. Your words, your whole energy...I just felt it so deeply in my soul. We really are all ONE.
I’m so thankful I stumbled upon this video. I never knew how much I actually need this in my life. Thank you Scott Ste Marie. You’re beautiful bro & stay awesome! ♥️
THANK YOU I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS👋🏾
Wow! Thank you, this was just what i needed.
Your videos are so soothing. Thank you for your time and work.
Thank you for this. I've had a really difficult string of events that I've had to deal with within the span of four months - losing my job, a job I was really passionate about but feel like I don't care about anymore because of the way I was treated at my place of work, finding a job that pays much less and that I have to move across the country for, finding out some really difficult things about a parent, and now getting surgery two weeks before I leave. I feel so lost, I don't know who I am, what I want to do, who I want to be, how and when to process everything, I recently deleted social media in the hopes that I can be bored more often which might lead to me finding out hobbies and activities I like. I'm terrified to move because I don't know anyone in the city. I feel incredibly unmoored, but at the same time, I feel like I am becoming, that I am in the process and that the adventure is seeing where all this leads me, WHO all of this leads me to. It's so scary.
I love this, thank you so much for sharing ❤
Thank you, i really resonated with you and what you said! Great perspective.
I'm glad you're back! I love your content and your guided mediations! You have such a soothing and affirming voice and you know exactly what to say! Thank you for being here!
I can’t put into words how much your videos help me day to day.
Its amazing how your video talked to me more than anything I have ever watched. You really did speak to my soul and I have to thank you for that
Thanks for putting things in perspective
Listening to you is so comforting and really makes me feel more deeply about my situation, so thank you :)
Going through a difficult time in my life dealing with this exact feeling. Thanks for re-affirming that these feelings don’t always have to be negative but are natural when we as humans are growing. Thanks for the reminder. + Sub!
Your words comfort me a lot. Thank you!
I'm glad that I found this video right at this time of my life, thank you for this :)
Thank your for making those videos 🙏 You’re actually the kind of person who could say anything, those eyes, this soothing voice… but your additionally saying something very valuable, inspiring and helpful. Have a great day 👋
I’m literally so lost, and so hard on myself, thank you for these words and the repetitiveness I needed it! 🙏🏻
Thank you for this comfortable podcast, I really needed this.