Shia LaBeouf on REAL ONES with Jon Bernthal

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  • čas přidán 30. 08. 2022
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  • @adamrie3484
    @adamrie3484 Před rokem +16151

    “Rock bottom isn’t when you experience the worst moment of your life, rock bottom is when you change” - Shia, those are some words my man.

    • @kevin5573
      @kevin5573 Před rokem +493

      im no english professor but yes those are indeed words

    • @MichaelPCarr10
      @MichaelPCarr10 Před rokem +1

      Well quoted, and those words are profound. If you’ve never been there, STFU

    • @360.Tapestry
      @360.Tapestry Před rokem +112

      let's see how many more rock bottoms he's got in him

    • @adamrie3484
      @adamrie3484 Před rokem +67

      @@kevin5573 Well im happy you got it bud.

    • @Wilddoggz
      @Wilddoggz Před rokem +92

      Or Jon saying "pain is an adhesive" Powerful

  • @kwalombo_ta
    @kwalombo_ta Před rokem +13228

    Shia spoke 99% of the time. He needed this, big ups to Jon for giving him this platform. Seems like a solid good dude too

    • @chuckvandy9963
      @chuckvandy9963 Před rokem +143

      Jon’s a good dude, but Shia just doesn’t sound genuine at all.

    • @kwalombo_ta
      @kwalombo_ta Před rokem +913

      @@chuckvandy9963 I disagree. He's never sounded this genuine before

    • @martblart9884
      @martblart9884 Před rokem +297

      @@chuckvandy9963 Out of curiosity, what about this came across un-genuine?

    • @charlesahweyevu
      @charlesahweyevu Před rokem +318

      @@chuckvandy9963 whatever you got going on. I hope you make it.

    • @Hehawtyragu
      @Hehawtyragu Před rokem +189

      @@chuckvandy9963 you totally misread that one, or you’re just lying because you’re hurting too

  • @Roudy_Riggs
    @Roudy_Riggs Před 2 měsíci +561

    My father is a Recovering Alcoholic...he's definatly put us through some shit. I sent him this video and my father broke down into tears, and IMMEDIATLY put himself in rehab. Today marks the first year he's been sober doing the AA Meetings, and found God. Thank you both for being real ones and saving my father

  • @nathanpatton4019
    @nathanpatton4019 Před měsícem +229

    "My purpose now is to be patient." That shit hit

    • @brianwillard4842
      @brianwillard4842 Před 22 dny +7

      So much can be learned through this quote.

    • @yfoog
      @yfoog Před 21 dnem +3

      Yeah this hits me right now

  • @kirstyanne_
    @kirstyanne_ Před rokem +22399

    I saw Jon posted this on his Instagram and it was interesting to see how triggered people were in the comments section, outraged that an abuser was being given a platform. I highly doubt these people watched the interview. Personally, as a woman who experienced physical and emotional abuse at the hands of a man I found this conversation healing, and I’m incredibly grateful you shared this. THIS is masculinity, THIS is how we heal masculinity. When men are given safe spaces to be radically authentic,raw and vulnerable they heal, and we all heal. I don’t wish for the demise of the man who abused me, I wish for his redemption, I wish for him to heal, so that he can be a better man and treat women with the love and respect that they deserve. Can’t wait to see more open and raw conversations likes these.

    • @soniaapodaca9324
      @soniaapodaca9324 Před rokem +641

      You are a beautiful person ❤️

    • @robwoodring9437
      @robwoodring9437 Před rokem +4

      Would that all who we could accurately dub a POS find "rock bottom" and a reason to turn their minds and lives around.

    • @serenamoore1358
      @serenamoore1358 Před rokem +303

      Such wise words!

    • @Hmfirestormz
      @Hmfirestormz Před rokem +470

      I saw the same thing on insta. It’s interesting how many people don’t want redemption just punishment.

    • @YungBeezer
      @YungBeezer Před rokem

      The internet is full of people who are incapable of thinking for themselves. It’s why the world is a disaster right now.

  • @dtsanluis
    @dtsanluis Před rokem +14030

    Being a genuine listener is much harder than to be an elegant speaker. Jon's listening skills should be in a textbook for How to Listen.

    • @SleepingSheep95
      @SleepingSheep95 Před rokem +153

      Uh huh, uh huh, yea, for sure..

    • @mrfewe
      @mrfewe Před rokem +343

      His deliberate effort to refer back to what he Shio says earlier in the conversation is a way to demonstrate his listening. Anyone can pretend to listen however being able to regurgitate what you heard proves it to the other person and allows them to go deeper and share more by being more comfortable. Top notch communication skills.

    • @JustinMacMMA
      @JustinMacMMA Před rokem +27

      Why I subscribed.

    • @oscarortiz4154
      @oscarortiz4154 Před rokem +16

      @Skynet1 people just say anything

    • @a1fromday117
      @a1fromday117 Před rokem

      @Skynet1 for real tho u come on here just to talk shit about the next mama comment? For what? Does it make u feel better about urself?

  • @jesseb5447
    @jesseb5447 Před 2 měsíci +413

    I'm almost speechless with how raw & inspirational this was. Shia's a real one.

    • @gerardorodriguezgarcia881
      @gerardorodriguezgarcia881 Před 2 měsíci +3

      It’s not that deep. These guys are acting.

    • @godxxofxxwar22
      @godxxofxxwar22 Před 2 měsíci +18

      @@gerardorodriguezgarcia881I disagree, you walk that wretched path like both of us did and then come talk to me. That was real, having the world, pissing it away, and then finding the one true God is powerful.

    • @StevenPGonzalez626
      @StevenPGonzalez626 Před 2 měsíci +1

      LA foo

    • @ruthslater6364
      @ruthslater6364 Před měsícem

      Shia hood the movie was a flop. Most of the movie was pretty socialistic itsly. VERY LITTKE PADRE PIO. AND PIO WAS A GREAT MAN AND PRIEST . THERE WAS so much more to concentrate on and the film just let it slip away. 😮☹️😴

    • @ruthslater6364
      @ruthslater6364 Před měsícem

      ​@@godxxofxxwar22that was suppose to be the story didn't happen in this movie only in the real life of PIO.

  • @debarpanmajumdar4203
    @debarpanmajumdar4203 Před 2 měsíci +241

    Can we just take a moment to appreciate Jon Bernthal for being such an amazing listener. Everyone says they are a good listener but actually most of them aren't but Jon here remembers every small details about Shia's stories. God bless Jon & Shia too ❤

    • @LukeLongboneOfficial
      @LukeLongboneOfficial Před 2 měsíci +4

      Underrated comment. 💯

    • @solodolo9176
      @solodolo9176 Před měsícem +1

      Absolutely on point man, love how great of a listener Jon is, never interjected, waited patiently for Shia to finish his thoughts, not trying to jump in and finish a sentence for him. Awesome conversation man.

  • @burp1361
    @burp1361 Před 10 měsíci +2304

    I like how Jon never interrupts him. I think Shia has more wisdom than people give him credit for

    • @briankennedy1313
      @briankennedy1313 Před 10 měsíci +58

      That’s EXACTLY why he is hated. Just can’t stand what they can’t figure out.

    • @nate2748
      @nate2748 Před 10 měsíci +24

      He has more wisdom than the half of Hollywood. So much to learn from his experience.

    • @donttrickimtricky.8567
      @donttrickimtricky.8567 Před 10 měsíci +10

      @@briankennedy1313 He is a method actor, no explanation needed. They read a few books about philosophy or spirituality and repeat exactly what you want to hear, if he really felt like a piece of crap human being, he would stay in hiding forever in shame. He is testing out a few scripts and will grift to what sticks.

    • @briankennedy1313
      @briankennedy1313 Před 10 měsíci +64

      @@donttrickimtricky.8567 you would think such an intellectual, that apparently has everyone and everything figured out, would know not to put a comma at the end of the first five sentences in your comment. Stop projecting your own weak tendencies. Reading basic children novels might benefit you personally than philosophy, though.

    • @donttrickimtricky.8567
      @donttrickimtricky.8567 Před 10 měsíci +4

      @@briankennedy1313 projecting my own weak tendencies? Re-watch the part where he calls himself a [piece of crap] then says he has to create a bond with his daughter that's stronger than what the media will say he is. But at the same time saying he was a bad person/is and is working on himself.
      It's all predictable b. S from someone trying to put a spin on their abuse. Because on one hand media is going to lie on him on the other he is a different person and he was saved by the victim, she is his" Saint " lol.
      He method acted on the tank movie, it's a different level of narcissistic behavior. You are rewarded for how well you emulate the character that's written.

  • @oliverclytus7559
    @oliverclytus7559 Před rokem +2061

    No interruptions, no audience no live band, Just a pure honest one on one conversation between grown ass men

    • @therealmvp1024
      @therealmvp1024 Před rokem +7

      Couple interruptions, I just came to the comments to see if anyone mentioned Shia cutting Jon off 🤣🤣🤣
      Shit, and vice versa

    • @therealmvp1024
      @therealmvp1024 Před rokem +4

      But yeah it’s a great interview. Incredibly honest discussion

    • @Franciskev2
      @Franciskev2 Před rokem +4

      What we’re watching here is far from “honest.”

    • @bluperalta9879
      @bluperalta9879 Před rokem

      @@Franciskev2 but it still inspirational for others

    • @JordanFreshour
      @JordanFreshour Před rokem

      That Weedwhacker, though

  • @maryellenbarratt6515
    @maryellenbarratt6515 Před 4 měsíci +86

    DEAR SHIA ! Im a 63 yr old Gramma brought down by alcohol and drug addiction,my whole life .. Like you , ran and ran . I watched Honey Boy ,and Prime suggested Peanut Butter Falcon .I watched both movies in the same day .I was like Why Shia ? I’ve never followed you or been a fan .GOD WANTED ME TO WATCH YOU ! I also watched REAL ONES on UTUBE and for the first time in my freakin life I SEE PURPOSE IN MY LIFE !!! A you brought w to the. MOUNTAIN !!! GOD HAS BLESSED US BOTH ! THANK YOU FOR YOUR TRUTH !!!!!!!!❤God Bless your Marriage,wife and baby gir and YOU !!!!! THANK GOD FOR FORGIVENESS!AND a the ability to RECEIVE IT !!!!!!!

    • @gpw_ap2832
      @gpw_ap2832 Před měsícem +2

      Hey. I saw a clip of this on Instagram. Came to CZcams for the whole interview.
      I’m 28 and have messed up BAD with the people who love me.
      Only god knows just how bad I needed his message at this point in my life.
      I hope one day Shia and Jon realize this. Thank you

  • @YSiggy13
    @YSiggy13 Před 2 měsíci +105

    This was the best interview I have EVER watched in my entire existence. Ever. As a survivor of DV it is healing to see him do better. Bad choices don't make you a bad person. Mistakes are human. Change is a choice. Who are we to deny this man the opportunity to make changes for his life. We aren't Masters of this Universe. Worry about your own path. Change is an opportunity for EVERYONE. Rich or Poor. Sending love and light to Shia LaBeouf. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤️

    • @skr6511
      @skr6511 Před 2 měsíci +2

      I know that this may sound hollow considering I am a random internet guy. ( jk. I'm actually chat gpt)
      I just wanted to say that I am glad you made it out in one piece.
      stay safe.
      stay golden.

    • @turtlej0nes
      @turtlej0nes Před 17 dny +1

      Straight up

    • @bigcat3325
      @bigcat3325 Před 13 dny +1

      As a recovering alcoholic and male I agree this is one of the best interviews I’ve ever seen. Feel like he’s telling my new story to the tee

    • @luzplace5372
      @luzplace5372 Před 10 dny +3

      I watched it like 3 times now!! And every time I do I get something new out of it. We’re all humans at the end and we ALL make mistakes. But when you acknowledge and own up to your mistakes, THATS when you’ve grown! 🙏🏼💚

  • @BattleHog
    @BattleHog Před rokem +7256

    I’m not watching this as a Shia fan or a John fan. I’m watching this as human being trying to learn and listen from other people’s experiences and I’m getting a lot from this.

    • @iL0veH1pH0p_RT
      @iL0veH1pH0p_RT Před rokem +23

      truth

    • @gaberojas7748
      @gaberojas7748 Před rokem +19

      Exactly 💯👊🏾👏🏽👏🏽

    • @proz33builds
      @proz33builds Před rokem +15

      Amen fam

    • @cbpapp9204
      @cbpapp9204 Před rokem +41

      We have all made mistakes and have hurt or harmed someone. But we can change our behavior. We can stop and be present. Before you speak listen to your intuition? Is what you are about to say true, is it kind, is it necessary and is it helpful? If the answer to ANY question is no, it should be left unsaid. Much love to all my brothers and sisters on this journey! 🙏🏻❤️🕊

    • @AmericanArgonaut
      @AmericanArgonaut Před rokem +12

      Same here.. this was a profound conversation to those who really listen to it.

  • @marnieleask5627
    @marnieleask5627 Před 5 měsíci +1176

    THIS is how a person makes things right. He's human. He's flawed. He's learning, and he's real. Thank you Shia. (And Jon)

  • @christinahardin6591
    @christinahardin6591 Před 3 měsíci +64

    As a survivor of DV from a spouse with addiction, I’m so thankful this exists and the Shia exists. That people who have struggled in these areas know that there’s a light at the end of the tunnel and there’s help out there. His past being sketchy makes him an incredible mouthpiece for recovery and healing. I’ve always loved Shia on the professional front but absolutely adore him speaking transparently and taking accountability. Thank you for this interview. ❤

  • @mcradical6283
    @mcradical6283 Před 4 měsíci +53

    "It's the first time I understood love, cos i had nothing to give" - that's a profound way to describe love, thank-you Shia and Jon

  • @tiana8456
    @tiana8456 Před 10 měsíci +1410

    "I know it's gonna be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end."
    Thank you guys so much for such an incredible conversation.

    • @davemaltese
      @davemaltese Před 9 měsíci +14

      in the words of John Lennon "there's always a happy ending, if you're not happy, it's not the end"

    • @tiana8456
      @tiana8456 Před 9 měsíci +2

      @davemaltese on the other hand, actually, it sounds strange... cause when we die, we can't be unhappy, too.

    • @robertoflores3485
      @robertoflores3485 Před 9 měsíci +1

      😊

    • @ashtinnichole
      @ashtinnichole Před 9 měsíci +1

      This 💯💯💯💯

    • @sebxstixnrojxs
      @sebxstixnrojxs Před 9 měsíci +1

      pelusa caligari bars

  • @akshatpurohit957
    @akshatpurohit957 Před rokem +944

    That Shia's line ''You become a man when you become responsible for other people'' this got me he is on a path to self redemption.

    • @desert_saint
      @desert_saint Před rokem +10

      I’ve heard a real man once say, you truly become a real man when nothing upsets you. Let that settle in.

    • @777devine777
      @777devine777 Před rokem +15

      @@desert_saint no you didn’t 😭🔥💀 real men don’t talk irrational. Let THAT settle in

    • @rickvasquez6677
      @rickvasquez6677 Před rokem +18

      @@777devine777 Yeah no man said that bro 😂

    • @Eligee21445
      @Eligee21445 Před rokem +2

      And the purest form of that is found in your kids. A family! Helps a man control his selfishness and pride.

    • @stasm4964
      @stasm4964 Před rokem

      what minute? thanks

  • @nataliavirella4444
    @nataliavirella4444 Před 19 dny +7

    I dont normally write on platforms, but I'm seeing this... Shia is so raw. He IS right where God wants him to be. Sometimes, the only way for change is when we hit rock bottom. It's when you are going through this change that you can really appreciate the living for the here and now. The one day at a time. What will come will come. And to have trust in Him, Shia will never be alone and will forever be loved. Not that my comment or feelings matter, but I am happy for him, continue to have peace 🙏🏻❤

  • @cdr861532
    @cdr861532 Před 2 měsíci +33

    This is one of the best conversations I have ever listened to. This is the 2-3 time that I have listened to it, and I find myself coming back to it from time to time. A lot of honesty.....a lot of self inflection.....a lot of openness. We need more of this, especially as men.

  • @kylengn
    @kylengn Před 9 měsíci +578

    "Freedom without guidelines and limitations is a f*cking madness". That hit hard

  • @brandonlong09
    @brandonlong09 Před 2 měsíci +30

    I love how Jon Bernthal shuts tf up and lets his guests speak their piece. He interjects when necessary (to keep the interview on track and structured) but… he lets his interviewee’s speak. What a GREAT production…

  • @weresmurf5731
    @weresmurf5731 Před 4 měsíci +56

    This is one of the greatest, most meaningful interviews I've ever experienced. As a Dad, as a man as a human in general, this cut to my core deeply. Thank you Jon and especially Shia for their cutting honesty.

  • @boonevalenta798
    @boonevalenta798 Před rokem +561

    I am just coming back from an 8 year relapse. I saw this in treatment. Changed my life. Thank you for 30 days sober today.

  • @davidcenac3679
    @davidcenac3679 Před rokem +3297

    What makes Jon a remarkable interviewer is his ability to know when to be quiet and when to speak. Awesome interview!

    • @angelaholmes8888
      @angelaholmes8888 Před rokem +24

      Yeah great interview

    • @gregrobinson4178
      @gregrobinson4178 Před rokem +45

      Yes he doesnt overtalk.. almost to the point where your like jon chim in more. But this is gold. Perfect. Dont change

    • @codaboggs8430
      @codaboggs8430 Před rokem +21

      Yeah when he started getting into his own kids about them being able to read now, he recognized he slightly interrupted and dropped it immediately. Kinda wanna know what he was gonna say

    • @kayleelove4815
      @kayleelove4815 Před rokem +5

      Right i loved how he listened

    • @boopsnootandboogie
      @boopsnootandboogie Před rokem +14

      Yep, he can read the conversation/atmosphere really well.

  • @kareenosorio294
    @kareenosorio294 Před 21 dnem +6

    "The ministry of being present." Loved this.

  • @fredh4385
    @fredh4385 Před 4 měsíci +13

    I listen to this once a week. I’m a screw up too and I’m embarrassed of my actions hopefully one day I find redemption

    • @shaketelevision
      @shaketelevision Před 4 měsíci +2

      Keep doing the work. Have a little faith, and you'll find all that you need. And you're allowed to forgive yourself, so do it and move forward. Much love.

    • @user-jn5fl1bx8t
      @user-jn5fl1bx8t Před 3 měsíci +2

      You are NOT a screw up.
      You are more than your mistakes. So keep walking, keep breathing, and keep moving forward . You got this.❤

    • @brother_of_bruh
      @brother_of_bruh Před 2 měsíci +1

      You got this brother ❤️

  • @manuelobster
    @manuelobster Před rokem +981

    If only he knew that not only he saved himself, but also helped thousands of people with this interview

    • @kcjean9883
      @kcjean9883 Před rokem +15

      Thousands now, hopefully millions in due time. 🙏💜

    • @TherealBigJohnSt33l
      @TherealBigJohnSt33l Před rokem +34

      I’ve seen this several times. But I choked up when he describes how his wife’s voice saved him. Went through a divorce, got therapy, and everything. A friends voice who will soon be my wife. Saved mine.....

    • @yg1141
      @yg1141 Před rokem +12

      He saved me.

    • @ammodaanimal689
      @ammodaanimal689 Před rokem +7

      I wouldn’t say he saved me but a lot out of it. Listening to him tell his story hit me because I have those exact same problems, I grew up on chaos, I’ve battled addiction for 25 years and the vicious violent, soul tearing BS that goes with it. I’m part of the Fuck Up Tribe too homie!!

    • @EPHZAM
      @EPHZAM Před rokem +2

      @@TherealBigJohnSt33l I love how Jon is calm and uninterrupting. Also that scene in Fury where Jon's character is told by Shia that 'You shouldnt', meaning he shouldn't shut up(Sarcasm).

  • @user-os6mf8rf8v
    @user-os6mf8rf8v Před 7 měsíci +1361

    I’ve watched this video almost everyday since I decided to try and get sober again. I relate to it all and honestly it’s saved my life. I’m so grateful.

    • @oheigertaigh
      @oheigertaigh Před 7 měsíci +21

      Keep up the work. It sucks to do, but every aspect of your life will be better for it

    • @nesetvega7800
      @nesetvega7800 Před 7 měsíci +13

      You can recover! Work it cause your worth it!

    • @chitgoansiau4678
      @chitgoansiau4678 Před 7 měsíci +6

      wish u the best

    • @livanyvaldivia3820
      @livanyvaldivia3820 Před 7 měsíci +2

      Keep pushing! You got this 🤗

    • @ArchangelMW
      @ArchangelMW Před 6 měsíci +8

      We are strangers but we all are cheering for you!!! You got this 🔥🤙🏻

  • @patrickevans9604
    @patrickevans9604 Před měsícem +8

    I love how much Shia truly shared all of himself that he could in this session. Dude had me tearing up a couple times because of how he was able to let himself feel the emotion of some of those situations while talking about them. I respect the fact that he's trying to stay on this journey of bettering himself in order to make right the things that he can. That's living life on life's terms

  • @thisismaribethe
    @thisismaribethe Před 4 měsíci +29

    Dude I’ve seen clips from this interview but this was truly fantastic. Raw. Real. Relatable and most of all accountable. It takes a profound sense of humility to own up to unsavory parts of your life - and not just own up, but to take it a step further and name them. Damn. I applaud him on the journey! I pray more men will follow.

  • @kassiefurgason4143
    @kassiefurgason4143 Před rokem +1028

    As a woman who suffered abuse at the hands of a man, I can honestly say that this conversation made me believe that even a man who puts his hands on a woman can, if given the chance, become a better person. I hope that he, like Shia, can become a better person and love people the way you should love people.

    • @roamingnomad3054
      @roamingnomad3054 Před rokem +58

      As a man at 18 I made this mistake I'm now 42 with a daughter of 13 we all can change for the better I'm sorry you experienced what you did I hope life is good for you now x

    • @chetjump5744
      @chetjump5744 Před rokem +25

      @@roamingnomad3054 thanks for being a reminder that we can do better. Good man, I respect your enlightenment✊

    • @roamingnomad3054
      @roamingnomad3054 Před rokem +10

      @@chetjump5744 appreciated brother 👍

    • @johnkim7701
      @johnkim7701 Před rokem

      Men don’t just put their hands on a women for no reason. We only do that if you push us there.

    • @vincenzo773
      @vincenzo773 Před rokem +5

      If a woman deserves then she deserves to get handled

  • @EffinWarVet
    @EffinWarVet Před rokem +1488

    I saw this because of an interview Jon did on Joe Rogan and looked this up. Wasn’t even tracking what Shia did or was goin through. Shit still had me captivated and in tears. No words can capture how much I love this. The pain and forgiveness, the shame and humility, the seeking of redemption, all of it. Thank you

    • @snieves4
      @snieves4 Před rokem +11

      Ive seen excerpts.
      I feel the whole video needs to be viewed.

    • @oblivionzzzmike
      @oblivionzzzmike Před rokem +27

      Interview on Rogan brought me here too. This is raw, powerful stuff

    • @dh66
      @dh66 Před rokem +6

      Same here man. The ego gets you to a destination but the journey always hurts and shits on the people around you.

    • @emeewel
      @emeewel Před rokem +4

      I found this through a Rogan clip as well. So glad I did.

    • @frankcoley1537
      @frankcoley1537 Před rokem +4

      Him and John are a lot alike

  • @user-fv5fh6ie3q
    @user-fv5fh6ie3q Před 3 měsíci +4

    This is the best interview ever. I cried. Still crying 💜🪽

  • @ninapollock5267
    @ninapollock5267 Před 4 měsíci +13

    This is what life's about. Damn. Take accountability, commit yourself to understanding your actions and righting what has been wronged. Nothing more than that. Thank you for sharing this journey. If more men sat down like this, we'd live in a much more peaceful world.

  • @delroyodelroyo8329
    @delroyodelroyo8329 Před rokem +1597

    I am at a complete loss for words. This interview was so incredibly moving. As a woman, not once - not ONCE - have I thought about the lack of societal support and resources men have when they’re in search of any type of rehabilitation, whether it’s drugs, alcohol, anger management, emotional/physical abuse, etc. Listening to this raw, untethered interview brought me to tears so many times because I am quick to judge men like Shia. I am quick to point fingers and write them off completely. But all people deserve second chances. Men like Shia deserve the opportunity to get to the root cause of their issues and do everything in their power to make amends. Shia - if you’re reading this, I want to thank you for sharing your truth with the world. It was the most profound interview I have ever listened to. To Jon - I am so grateful that you chose to give Shia this opportunity and be a true friend. You did not just talk the talk - you walked the walk. The world needs more people like you.

    • @janekocorek3313
      @janekocorek3313 Před rokem +25

      Delroyo, I could not have put it better. Everything you said is what I am thinking. Still watching and blown away.

    • @maiawaive9566
      @maiawaive9566 Před rokem +28

      Yes! Thank you for pointing this out because that’s so profoundly important to realize. The problems men face are valid & resources need to be there so they’ll have the tools to gain an understanding on the root cause & gain the self awareness to change. I watched this documentary about people who facilitate the rehabilitation of domestic violence offenders & the utter vitriol & hate they get is shocking.
      People want to just write these offenders off. Almost wanting to euthanise them. I understand that it’s difficult to separate the sin from the sinner but there should be room to actually offer support to those who want to change.
      The most influential of people are usually the ones that were the biggest sinners. The most inspiring to those that struggle are the ones who also struggled but came out victorious. Imagine if we just wrote everyone of them off & subsequently also writing off the lives they were able to save when they did change.

    • @Mammasitta
      @Mammasitta Před rokem +14

      I hear and feel you!!!!!! I feel this man ❤

    • @DrMurdercock
      @DrMurdercock Před rokem +46

      Want to see a truly broken man? Talk to the guy at the bar, who sits alone staring at his drink which he pounds back to back every night. Waiting for some stranger to say something so he can get his pictures out of his kids who he no longer see's because his wife left him, took the kids, took half of everything he had, takes half his paycheck now. The only purpose the man ever had is now gone. Taken from him. And people don't think about that, they only think about the woman.

    • @jjwalker2011
      @jjwalker2011 Před rokem +7

      💯

  • @TheVolunteerCorps
    @TheVolunteerCorps Před rokem +471

    This interview has actually made me realise how toxic some of my behaviours are and highlighted a lot of things I need to work within myself.

    • @Ohsnaapz31
      @Ohsnaapz31 Před rokem +19

      Our Evil side will always live within us, we don't learn to anguish them but to live above them. It's all about choices and the consequences. Everyone's running a race and fighting battles.
      Let's do our best!

    • @RoBbIeOrR1998
      @RoBbIeOrR1998 Před rokem +7

      Me too brother

    • @TheRealMikeSchell
      @TheRealMikeSchell Před rokem +6

      Same here brother

    • @kevheeley83
      @kevheeley83 Před rokem +4

      Same here brother

    • @shotgun111180
      @shotgun111180 Před rokem +3

      great comment, couldn't have said it better

  • @stephenmccusker352
    @stephenmccusker352 Před 2 měsíci +4

    This interview! First off i'm seeing this a year late and I simply clicked on it to watch this first 5min, then suddenly it was over. I couldn't stop watching, mad respect to both gentlemen here, Shia laid it all out and in a very genuine and articulate way that was impactful. Thanks to Jon for providing a safe place for people to open up. Great platform, I'm now subscribed!

  • @Gielio5971
    @Gielio5971 Před 3 měsíci +10

    Damn this hits hard like a sledgehammer. I can feel him, like i'm talking through him. The lack of selfcompasion is so sad but so resonating with myself.. thanks for being vulnerable man.. ❤

  • @JeremySnel24
    @JeremySnel24 Před rokem +795

    Jon is the dictionary of active listening… he is just so engaged and just listens, just let’s them speak their mind and story

    • @thesnailiscoming..5736
      @thesnailiscoming..5736 Před rokem +2

      I don't like that way he looks at shia . Something is off with him. He seems like he's hiding hate .

    • @LeroyDogg
      @LeroyDogg Před rokem

      Dude… They’re friends…

    • @mynamesdillan
      @mynamesdillan Před rokem +9

      @@thesnailiscoming..5736 i dont think hes hiding hate but i agree with you that he is looking at him in some odd way

    • @mikemyon3570
      @mikemyon3570 Před rokem +19

      Interesting you guys see it that way. To me it came across totally different. From my perspective I saw what he also said to Shia:
      He loves him, he wants to help & support him and he did with having him on his show. To me, actions speak much louder than words or looks he might give.
      I could also sense that in his whole behavior while listening, he was totally empathic and felt with Shia.
      So now that you saw something he might have hid from Shia or some hate, is it maybe that deep in yourself, there is something feeling like this? So you believe to see it in someone else?
      Since this is only text and no voice, be aware I say this with the intention of support for you, since in my own experience I have many times seen & maybe disliked things in other people that actually where things in myself I needed to fix. So for this could be a hint for you where to look for further self-development. Where are all on our own way of development, but also we're in this together.
      I hope my intention comes across the way it was meant.

    • @Gingersnaappp
      @Gingersnaappp Před rokem +11

      I think he genuinely interested in hearing what Shia was saying…& it was an intense conversation.

  • @aaronandvicky7652
    @aaronandvicky7652 Před rokem +734

    Damn this shit was deep af. Because I been through it all. Detox and rehab over and over. Jail, jail, jail. A terrible cycle. And my wife stayed for all of it. Never once said “it’s over” just always saying “we gotta fix this” “we” “we” “we” always. We’re both 5 years sober, own a pretty big company, looking to buy a house, bought her a brand new car. And still together. Damn.

    • @Rynik05
      @Rynik05 Před rokem +24

      Congrats on 5 years sober that’s a huge feat! I’m 12 years clean and it just keeps getting easier! ❤

    • @kcjean9883
      @kcjean9883 Před rokem +4

      So beautiful to hear this. Love just doing what love does best. Thank you for sharing. 🙏💜

    • @krotchlickmeugh627
      @krotchlickmeugh627 Před rokem +3

      Dont trust too much. 10 years together. Through thick and thin. Being best friends. Never really arguing. She cheated on me and moved out of state. Like i was nothing.

    • @kcjean9883
      @kcjean9883 Před rokem +2

      @@krotchlickmeugh627 same here except different semesters. I still trust because that wasn't on them

    • @Blacbat189
      @Blacbat189 Před rokem +1

      🫡💪🏼❤️

  • @rowleyedits6545
    @rowleyedits6545 Před 4 měsíci +21

    Who would of thought that Shia would be so relatable considering is success. Truly genuine and real. This podcast inspired me to change and I’m sure it did the same for many other, as well as save lives.

  • @mnunez821
    @mnunez821 Před 11 dny +3

    I’m so proud of how far he has come. It’s hard to trust people that had his mindset before but if he really is doing the work. It is amazing and he will change lives. I pray he keeps moving forward.

  • @ccaputa
    @ccaputa Před rokem +1020

    I'm 58 years old and I don't know ONE man that would have bared his soul, expressed his sins, admitted his faults and cried in front of everyone, including myself. It was a beautiful thing to witness, brought many tears, and was a harsh look in the mirror. Shia is on a righteous path, I wish him nothing but the best.

    • @leonornelas9950
      @leonornelas9950 Před rokem +20

      Shia LaBeouf started off young and now that I'm a grown man I see how growing up like that can affect you as a man I'ma 40 years old man and I've had my share of wrongdoings some worse than others but I've learned from them and I'm a better person from them but I wish men had the outlets women do when they are battered... Society always wants to bash men for being men having a man nature but I pray that God put his healing hand over him and lead him into a victorious path and be a inspiration to other people who felt like him... God bless everyone reading this and their family may 2023 be the best year for you yet!

    • @shane9287
      @shane9287 Před rokem +1

      You should assess what you're doing wrong to not be around good men.

    • @tarrm19ify
      @tarrm19ify Před rokem

      I think this kid is a chameleon just adapting to his situation and surroundings

    • @ScottyDoesntKnow69
      @ScottyDoesntKnow69 Před rokem

      I’m glad Shia found his way and hopefully one day he can find it in himself to ask for forgiveness for how he acted and treated Prez Trump😊

    • @susanthejew6351
      @susanthejew6351 Před rokem +2

      he sure is a good actor...
      and you sure are easily fooled

  • @erikahunter652
    @erikahunter652 Před rokem +885

    “it’s difficult to accept love when you dont think you deserve it” always true ❤

    • @klaudiaarriera9989
      @klaudiaarriera9989 Před rokem +17

      Reminds of the perks of being a wallflower quote “we accept the love we think we deserve”

    • @thoticcusprime9309
      @thoticcusprime9309 Před rokem +2

      I dont care about love or believe in it

    • @smokey8076
      @smokey8076 Před rokem +1

      @@thoticcusprime9309 Love exists. If you can give Love without expecting anything in return, that's proof for you

    • @defunddemocrats2470
      @defunddemocrats2470 Před rokem +2

      @ thoticcus prime what do you mean you don’t believe in love or care about it. Humans need love look up good race bad rice

    • @geeked-outturtlesfan4288
      @geeked-outturtlesfan4288 Před rokem

      I'm there

  • @rafaelchico-lugo4019
    @rafaelchico-lugo4019 Před rokem +701

    Probably the most genuine display of vulnerability I've seen. One of a handful of broken men that are actually taking accountability. A raw and valuable podcast.

    • @helen9289
      @helen9289 Před rokem +9

      if not for Jon wanting these conversations out there we never would have seen or heard this....... to know that you can be so broken as Shia was or is as a man & to put the effort into becoming a better person is inspiring

    • @yajuteknologic
      @yajuteknologic Před rokem +1

      Sorry to write this, but I do not see that. I see a still broken human being that hasn’t done the most simple: accept himself, love himself and deserve himself first and foremost before attempting to do that to anyone. Because it’s been a pretty minute for me, it’s about accepting you and being as balanced as possible. It’s your responsibility to deal with your issues. To still want a space daddy to please help me because I can’t? Sorry… this kid still has a couple of miles to go.

    • @raphaelconcepcion863
      @raphaelconcepcion863 Před 28 dny

      @@yajuteknologic wait are you Shia

  • @jackjurphy5020
    @jackjurphy5020 Před 3 dny +3

    Literally nobody showing up for you, not your family, friends, nobody is POWERFUL.

  • @paulogorris18
    @paulogorris18 Před 4 měsíci +8

    This is the best interview I've ever seen. I feel like I shouldn't be watching this. Feels personal af. Thank you for beeing so vulnerable, Shia.

  • @austonreeves3048
    @austonreeves3048 Před rokem +817

    The intensity in Jon’s eyes as he listens to Shia is enough to make me tear up. THAT is a fucking friend right there! That’s hard to find. This is one of the realist interviews I’ve ever seen

    • @unboundstorm8639
      @unboundstorm8639 Před rokem +12

      This comment made me tear up too

    • @LLynneM
      @LLynneM Před rokem +3

      @@unboundstorm8639 me too.

    • @oneroad7072
      @oneroad7072 Před rokem +5

      Kickin it with these monks

    • @DTJ2024
      @DTJ2024 Před rokem +3

      They’re both acting - they can’t help but be fake while pretending to be real

    • @angelvigilante82
      @angelvigilante82 Před rokem

      Mehh ..it's called acting . I'm sure he feels things but both are cocky assholes . This likely best behaved I seen in a minute from both .

  • @markvalentino8422
    @markvalentino8422 Před 11 měsíci +858

    Hearing Shia talk about his wife roughly 90 minutes in made me realize how much my own wife has done for me and how she pulled me up when I was in the lowest place in my life and built me up into the man I am today...And hearing him made me realize I need to be a better man and husband...

    • @janetwhite7786
      @janetwhite7786 Před 10 měsíci +27

      Wow. What a tribute! I wd be honored to have someone say that about me. You are a good man.

    • @danieladelcastillolocatell5839
      @danieladelcastillolocatell5839 Před 10 měsíci +4

      thats true love my friend, having self love and the love of others who care for us, are our rock, our person, our support system,part of our happiness a.ka happy ending, our love and our family who is there for you in the good , in the bad, in the crazy and in greatest no matter what, who are our guiding light, give us a purpose on this planet, give us some tough love when we're wrong so we can find redemption , hope and good in this life, thats what Mia Goth and his daughter is for Shia, mad respect and admiration for this man and wish him nothing but the best, we must all learn from his story cuz who knows what we can learn and how it will help us change some part of us thats broken or lost so we can find ourself, find redemption , be our best selfs and thats its never too late set things right no matter how hard it us , if we just try and have hope in ourselves and those who truly care and love us

    • @tinydancer7343
      @tinydancer7343 Před 10 měsíci +5

      And you’ve said it out loud and are already on the path. So proud and honored to read your comment. I hope you had the conversation with your wife about your realization. But more importantly, I hope you show her moving forward. Huge hugs to you. ❤❤

    • @PallazzoPodcast
      @PallazzoPodcast Před 10 měsíci +1

      Same here. Maybe I would have pulled through, but my wife is a fallible human being who taught me what love really is at a time when I thought living was a curse.

    • @BallisticSheriff
      @BallisticSheriff Před 10 měsíci +4

      I wish I saw this when it first came out, my situation could be much different. Thanks Jon and Shia, I've made my mistakes and hearing this helped me realise more about stuff.

  • @joannamisiek6613
    @joannamisiek6613 Před měsícem +1

    I come from Poland, the first movie I saw with you was Disturbia. I always knew there was something in you, not only as an actor but simply as a person. Thank you for your sincerity and openness. I send my blessings. I am grateful to the presenter for such an uplifting message

  • @jeannetpierre1
    @jeannetpierre1 Před 3 měsíci +3

    To be that vulnerable, open and honest is very powerful and is helping a lot of people. I'm happy for him and his family. May God bless him forevermore. Thank you for sharing your story. 🙏

  • @benlemoi3515
    @benlemoi3515 Před rokem +355

    The amount of happiness on Jon’s face when Shia starts talking about his child is priceless. Pure joy in that smile

    • @mynamejacob8678
      @mynamejacob8678 Před rokem +12

      It seemed to me that he was proud of him, and wanted to see something good in his life that may have inspired him for the best.

    • @gabby3406
      @gabby3406 Před rokem +12

      I could tell that he as a dad to relate to those feelings. He seems genuinely happy that Shia now understands what it's like to unconditionally love someone in such a pure way.

  • @carolinemulenga2697
    @carolinemulenga2697 Před rokem +916

    As a woman who was in an abusive marriage for 20 years, I applaud the courage, honesty and integrity of both these men. Bravo! They have both done more in this one interview to not only speak out against abuse of women, they are showing how to change it. Thank you Jon and Shia! I cannot tell you just how much I admire you both for this interview. Shia, you are making the world a safer place for your daughter to grow up in and I am sure she will be immensely proud that you are your father.

    • @katnip198
      @katnip198 Před rokem +8

      A BIG AMEN TO THIS.

    • @magichobbiest3425
      @magichobbiest3425 Před rokem +1

      Do these problems actually have solutions to completely get rid of? It's like prejudices. Everyone has a prejudice. How do you get rid of prejudices? How do you change every single individual in the world? I don't think it can be done. Maybe I'm naive but it seems incredibly impossible to do something like that. We can't even keep peace with each other as groups. Theres still wars everywhere.

    • @Liltike135
      @Liltike135 Před rokem +8

      @@magichobbiest3425 You're talking about a completely different issue.

    • @zachsimpson2895
      @zachsimpson2895 Před rokem +5

      @@magichobbiest3425 the bigger point is if you don’t try you’re doomed to fail and invite chaos into your world

    • @jamesferry5119
      @jamesferry5119 Před rokem +7

      Although some of his actions can't be excused I agree that it is so important to allow people to improve and change otherwise we all lose, I hope all of the people he has Hurt are doing well and I hope he is doing well also

  • @maddmisshadder
    @maddmisshadder Před 2 měsíci +2

    I watched this interview many times, im watching it again a year later. It's powerful, i take something from it everytime I watch it. Thank you Jon Bernthal.

  • @mrjag4089
    @mrjag4089 Před měsícem +1

    I feel honored and fortunate right now.. and a surge of encouragement after watching this interview. Thank you Shia for doing the work that was necessary to becoming who you are today. God Bless you and your family, brotha. ✊🏽

  • @mypursuitofhappiness2703
    @mypursuitofhappiness2703 Před rokem +239

    “One way or another you will be humbled in this life, and there’s nothing you can do about it” -Shia

  • @randalhollis5966
    @randalhollis5966 Před rokem +1671

    This isn't just a Shia thing. This is a whole generation and then some of broken people. The ego, the self-centeredness, putting career and craft above all, finding validation in shallow pursuits, lack of delayed gratification, victim mentality, nihilism. The list goes on.
    It's a cultural thing. It's systemic. It's engineered and applauded. These are the ideas and behaviors that have been sold to us as "progress" and "empowering" when in reality they are LITERALLY the opposite of those things, and lead you down the opposite path that you intended to go down. There are no mistakes or coincidences. When so many people are led down this path there is an intention behind it.
    You've been sold a shit playbook for life.
    Realizing that, and the roots of how and why that happens should be enough to make you want to change your habits.
    Tomorrow's a new day.

    • @StillTheVoid
      @StillTheVoid Před rokem +36

      ☝️☝️☝️☝️ this

    • @breal1250
      @breal1250 Před rokem +24

      Very well said .

    • @alexc08
      @alexc08 Před rokem +5

      Yes

    • @thephilosopher7173
      @thephilosopher7173 Před rokem +24

      @Carlos Fenoll I guess it all starts with 'you' the individual. Being at peace with what you have and appreciating whats given, while not allowing negativity to drag you into a mud pit with it. If someone is being negative towards you can you brush it off with a smile or at least not feed them with that same energy? I'm working on that myself so by no means am I preaching.

    • @jovelard
      @jovelard Před rokem +27

      Find God and the rest takes care of itself✝️God bless🙏

  • @patrykdelklok4133
    @patrykdelklok4133 Před 2 měsíci +1

    This is the conversation every man should listen, but only so little should go through. I'm coming back every time I feel down and...it's just so motivational. Thank you for this interview and the honesty in it .

  • @equusMenagerie
    @equusMenagerie Před 2 měsíci +3

    This is one of the best conversations of all time. Absolutely loved it. Wish them both many blessed returns.

  • @dnvrdonkeys6380
    @dnvrdonkeys6380 Před rokem +118

    The line around 1hour 7minutes when he said,"PEOPLE may not forgive me, but I know I'm forgiven." Hit me hard.

  • @bryanthenderson9419
    @bryanthenderson9419 Před měsícem +2

    Watching this for the second time. As a man recovering from addiction and finding faith again, this has been eye opening and encouraging in a way I can not describe

  • @jasondavidson9744
    @jasondavidson9744 Před měsícem +1

    I thank both Jon and Shia for this interview. As a struggling alcoholic who lives with shame and guilt, this honesty and talk of purpose is truly life saving. I’ve given away almost everything because of alcohol and I got so much from this. Just wanted to say thank you again.

  • @feinmorison4796
    @feinmorison4796 Před 11 měsíci +1064

    I’ve never felt an interview so deep. Mad respect to Shia. This is the type of shit that gets me through my day and keeps me wanting to stay sober and do better
    Edit: still sober. 168 days and have my first child due in 10 weeks. 30/9/2023

    • @ModestPavement
      @ModestPavement Před 11 měsíci +14

      You're not alone man!

    • @banecrew4963
      @banecrew4963 Před 11 měsíci +22

      Just started taking my sobriety seriously and I agree. Hope y’all stay sober too 💯💪 addiction is Hell

    • @ibperson7765
      @ibperson7765 Před 11 měsíci +7

      1:36:27 “and to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge”

    • @harryb9390
      @harryb9390 Před 11 měsíci +5

      @@ibperson7765 Stop peddling religious nonsense

    • @ModestPavement
      @ModestPavement Před 11 měsíci +9

      @@harryb9390 I'm not religious either but I think the guy is just trying to help.

  • @LukeD91
    @LukeD91 Před rokem +517

    As a father, husband, recovering alcoholic and drug addict, I appreciate the platform you gave this man. Thank you both.

  • @mohammadmajid9716
    @mohammadmajid9716 Před 2 měsíci +1

    I love humanity. Hearing genuine convos like this restores a persons faith. Props to you Shia for being a role model for people that are recovering.

  • @ulysesslee1848
    @ulysesslee1848 Před měsícem +2

    AWESOM!!!! LOVED THIS SO MUCH!!! WE NEED THESE EXAMPLES OF COMING BACK, ACCOUNTABILITY AND HEALING FOR OUR YOUNG MEN!! THEY DO NOT GET ENOUGH OF THIS!! THANK YOU!!

  • @Apol-los
    @Apol-los Před rokem +1149

    Shia’s brutal honesty is very refreshing in a society that is terrified to say the wrong thing. To confess wrongdoing while admitting to still being on the journey is a realistic encouragement.
    His testimony is no “movie moment” but it’s a slight nudge that gets you one step closer to transformation.
    Confession & apologies aren’t enough.
    Thank you Shia for emphasizing we have to actually change in the areas where we fall short 🙏🏻

  • @KarlRock
    @KarlRock Před rokem +5643

    That was heavy. Incredible interview. Thank you 🙏

  • @randydiaz1880
    @randydiaz1880 Před 4 měsíci +7

    Homie has had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps and is continuing to carry this message. Love all the hard work and hope you continue on this path. Blessed

  • @user-nv8bu1gu5q
    @user-nv8bu1gu5q Před 2 měsíci

    I have never watched one of these interviews in full before this one captures me. I watch till the end. Thank you both

  • @farwilindarys5950
    @farwilindarys5950 Před rokem +557

    One of the greatest interviews of all time. The vulnerability of Shia, the avid attentiveness of Jon, really something to behold. The moment of pure emotion when Shia talked about his wife was incredible.

    • @KeyBoard-io8nl
      @KeyBoard-io8nl Před rokem +1

      yeah that got me teared up bigtime, an incredible woman for sure.

  • @ElGuapo4000
    @ElGuapo4000 Před rokem +657

    This is the most aggressively positive and supportive conversation I’ve ever seen. 😂 God bless them both.

  • @TheProPainter
    @TheProPainter Před 3 měsíci

    I keep coming back to this interview…. It’s so damn meaningful and it shows what accountability, honesty and change can do for a human… this is exactly what I need in my life currently

  • @jcwilliams8987
    @jcwilliams8987 Před 2 měsíci

    This hits so hard 🔥. So humbled by the love that went into this conversation. It is one of the most vulnerable, authentic and beautifully soulful conversations I’ve heard in a long time.
    So grateful for this 🙏🏼⚡️🖤

  • @amyhuxford6290
    @amyhuxford6290 Před rokem +813

    I'm a woman who has been in abusive situations, and I promise you this is one of the most healing things I've ever been blessed to hear. I hope this podcast is shared far and wide. It WILL help many, I'm certain of it. Thanks Jon, and thank you Shia! Blessings to you both 💓

    • @jcarvalho_7
      @jcarvalho_7 Před rokem +10

      Glad a woman agrees. Theres not many places where men that do these horrible things can talk about it and why it's wrong and why others shouldnt do what they did. We have to learn to be better.

    • @Matticulous-Media
      @Matticulous-Media Před rokem +1

      Absolutely BEAUTIFUL!!

    • @robertrinaldi8748
      @robertrinaldi8748 Před rokem +4

      I'm a man who was in an abusive marriage with a woman and I understand how terrifying it would be for a woman being abused by a man.

    • @MiscellaneousYou
      @MiscellaneousYou Před rokem +1

      That's really cool to hear

    • @justin-md4xm
      @justin-md4xm Před rokem +3

      We can't just shun abusers. there's too many. they need to heal too.

  • @ProStreetJoee
    @ProStreetJoee Před rokem +370

    To see a grown man cry after he’s been through trials & tribulations, I’m glad he’s headed towards the right track I’m proud of him

    • @A-TALKING-TOASTER
      @A-TALKING-TOASTER Před rokem

      No fuck that dude admitting to doing horrible things don’t make you a better person

    • @W-G
      @W-G Před rokem

      @conrad Ok self obsessed adolescent loser

  • @millardhardy8093
    @millardhardy8093 Před 4 měsíci +3

    Good to see Shia in a better place.Acting and doing that as a child to an adult cannot be easy .Love you brother,stay strong.Ty ,Jon you give me another reason to keep on keeping on.Im a one year sober, recovering addict from everything I could get my hands on .Hope is hope .

  • @isabelarrieta6296
    @isabelarrieta6296 Před měsícem

    I cried through this whole segment. Shia looks like he made it to the other side. I’m so proud of him because it took tremendous courage and strength. His beautiful heart is finally healing.

  • @hectormendez4906
    @hectormendez4906 Před rokem +215

    Recently, I had a moment of clarity when speaking to my son. I was talking to him about some other guys picking on him at school. He's 8 years old and is softer than I was growing up. I love him for that. I looked him in the eye and I told him that men will test you because that's who we are. I told him in no uncertain terms that men in this society draw lines in the sand. But real men build Bridges. He looked at me with these big doughy eyes on the verge of tears, relieved. He thought I was going to tell him to hit the other boys or to never be pushed around. I told him to use his words and to ask questions. I told him not to worry about appearing tough or wanting to be stronger than the other boys. And in that moment I know that it was God speaking to me too. Knowing that I've come full circle as a man known for his strength. As a man now known for his welcoming smile. All love to these two guys!

    • @Lurklen
      @Lurklen Před rokem +13

      Good job. Part of being a father is being a guide to a child, showing them a path to the adult they don't yet know they want to be. That little talk, it might save your kid so much time wondering and wandering to see if being who he is, is valid, is allowed for a man. Good on you for seeing him for who he is, and guiding him to find what strength will mean for him.

    • @donnieuchiha
      @donnieuchiha Před rokem +6

      This was really beautiful man, thanks for sharing this.

    • @michikosmith3262
      @michikosmith3262 Před rokem +6

      As a mother of two boys, reading how you talked to your son brought tears to my eyes. You’ve chosen a beautiful trajectory for your son. He will love himself for who he is. Great job 🎉❤

    • @callmesxege1878
      @callmesxege1878 Před rokem +1

      Holy crap 🤯

    • @tekkadawn6685
      @tekkadawn6685 Před rokem +1

      Fatherhood ❤️

  • @thestopdrinkingcoach
    @thestopdrinkingcoach Před rokem +783

    Jon is a very good listener. There are few people who listen the way he is. The way he stays engaged, maintains eye contact. He's invested. Very powerful. Holding space like this is a skill. It's what allows people to feel safe enough to open up. Very few people do it well.

    • @tamgsmith8077
      @tamgsmith8077 Před rokem +6

      True. Shawn Ryan is like that as well.

    • @troymacarthur
      @troymacarthur Před rokem

      LeBeof talks a lot though. He doesn't listen well in this instance either. He doesn't see the fundamental wrong headedness as referencing females as Pussy! You love your daughter but even she's still 'pussy' thats sick. This Monk shit has been done by so many. LaB won't listen a bit to Jon. LaB should listen more and learn to hear them and honestly reciprocate. When He's talking about being a G why does he always talk about shit being 'sexy'. How does Shia Figure he's a G?

    • @fountainofyouthisawayoflif5560
      @fountainofyouthisawayoflif5560 Před rokem +1

      Saw him on the Joe Rogan Experience and it was an hour of silence; both just listening 🤣😂🤣

    • @victoriaguinn9024
      @victoriaguinn9024 Před rokem

      Thank you for this. Wow. 26 years dry. That you Shia. You will never know how this helped me. Maybe now I can truly live.. what a beautiful man.

  • @kagome4400
    @kagome4400 Před 3 měsíci

    This is truly the most raw, sincere interview I've ever seen. Absolutely LOVE both you guys & I always felt that Shia would find his way to his Truth & Purpose...He is a Light Warrior, I seen it in him a long long time ago.

  • @MegaDeath22
    @MegaDeath22 Před 4 měsíci +10

    Gosh Shia. Ive grown up with you, have had my own bouts of substance abuse and horrible relationships. Growing with you and seeing how you've entered this spiritual journey the same time as me. You're talented and may God bless you and your beautiful family. Mia has become one of my all time favorite actors of all time, next to you. Jon you are a gem! I absolutely love you.

  • @RealMattKiefer
    @RealMattKiefer Před rokem +292

    “I know it will all be ok in the end & if it’s not ok, then it’s not the end.”
    That is powerful & a great way to end this interview

    • @jegerbest89
      @jegerbest89 Před rokem

      Its the most used and such a cliché quote everybody uses all the f time.

    • @aromagemarvie2228
      @aromagemarvie2228 Před rokem +4

      @@jegerbest89 it's true and there's nothing wrong with that.

  • @sabrinagaytan5699
    @sabrinagaytan5699 Před rokem +496

    “People may not forgive me but I know I’ve been forgiven, I know that I am loved” That’s powerful, forgiveness of one’s self and others provides peace. Great sit down. Prayers for Shia and his journey with faith.

    • @360.Tapestry
      @360.Tapestry Před rokem +2

      gaytan ha

    • @elderrusty541
      @elderrusty541 Před rokem +7

      Yup, I struggle with personal guilt and honestly, even if the person I’ve wronged forgives me, I rarely forgive myself and that’s what hurts

    • @sabrinagaytan5699
      @sabrinagaytan5699 Před rokem +3

      @@elderrusty541 You’re worthy of forgiveness . It seems not true but you are.Everyone is

    • @rileyjamesmusic9333
      @rileyjamesmusic9333 Před rokem

      You buy this new age shite ?

    • @a.r.4093
      @a.r.4093 Před rokem +6

      You should check out Shia's interview with Bishop Barron that released a couple days ago. Amazing.

  • @loribrown3777
    @loribrown3777 Před 3 měsíci

    That octave you were in was humility, humbleness. That is a virtue not many people truly possess or achieve. That tone in a person speaks volumes about a persons journey with little to no detail required. I wish you continued success in your journey of self discovery, healing and recovery. Be well Shia.

  • @chloe30551
    @chloe30551 Před 4 měsíci +1

    The performative discussion really registers. Shia, thank you brother.

  • @tmozzz
    @tmozzz Před rokem +584

    Joe Rogan brought me here and I’m 30 minutes in and genuinely enjoying the hell out of this , and mind you these are two actors , which I don’t usually look up to actors . Awesome connection between these guys
    Edit* Jon allowing shia to speak and giving himself the time to listen and understand is so awesome

    • @EvanBruner1
      @EvanBruner1 Před rokem +2

      Me too

    • @mattymessner9185
      @mattymessner9185 Před rokem +7

      Same here. This is some good shit, some shit I need to hear.

    • @puneetsharma1437
      @puneetsharma1437 Před rokem +7

      thing is Shia is good actor and i don't know when it can be real.

    • @aeryn86
      @aeryn86 Před rokem +3

      Same here!

    • @brendonmurray9516
      @brendonmurray9516 Před rokem +2

      Same here! Loving this podcast! Jon is fucken amazing and I always loved Shia since even stevens

  • @parkerjohnson6869
    @parkerjohnson6869 Před rokem +280

    im in shock because I've never heard a person express exactly how I've been feeling for years. im 22 and this is a huge moment of motivation and change for me. im inspired to be better. thank you.

  • @tvthecat
    @tvthecat Před 22 dny

    I love this type of podcasts man. Good conversations have become rare these days. A simpler joy, I would call it.

  • @jussdoughjustin3893
    @jussdoughjustin3893 Před 2 měsíci +2

    for real Jon's such a good listener. his humble energy is pure and resonates with me. I think we can all see ourselves in him💖👏🏾

  • @jasondefiantoneschmidt1814
    @jasondefiantoneschmidt1814 Před rokem +404

    Hearing Shia speak about his daughter. Brought tears to my eyes.

  • @mrmrgaming
    @mrmrgaming Před rokem +268

    One of the most open chats from a star ever. He really put it all out there when 98% of Hollywood would die at the thought of airing their life/issues.

    • @JesusChurchBible
      @JesusChurchBible Před rokem

      Shia has better advice in this interview. czcams.com/video/hjxKG4mR3U4/video.html

  • @aDroid_d
    @aDroid_d Před 4 měsíci

    "I'm blessed, Bro." - You're both blessed - and so are we ;)
    We need more of that: hearing some real and actual conversations - between two grown adults - with such insights and "reliable/relatable" stories/facts/events..
    So refreshing!
    Thanks for your work, Mr. Jon 🙏

  • @mohutch7863
    @mohutch7863 Před měsícem +1

    This is one of the best interviews I’ve ever watched. Wow, man.

  • @AM-ru5lh
    @AM-ru5lh Před rokem +665

    I am totally blown away by this interview. I really don't have two hours to do anything but I couldn't stop listening to this. I literally just hear humility. As a Mom of two boys. I just learned so so much. I truly wish Shia peace and grace for himself. He's on his way.

    • @kylekennedy9212
      @kylekennedy9212 Před rokem +11

      I’ve always loved Shia like an estranged older brother. Seeing him go through this period of growth these last couple years has made me cry in joy and hope he would continue on the right path and he has.

    • @ghostlyworld101
      @ghostlyworld101 Před rokem +2

      amen 🙏

  • @willvandenk8150
    @willvandenk8150 Před 11 měsíci +363

    I’ve met Jon briefly working a wedding, and you can tell he’s a very genuine human being. His ability to actively listen honestly makes him one of the best interviewers I’ve seen.

    • @matthewzablocki5310
      @matthewzablocki5310 Před 11 měsíci +7

      Amazing actor

    • @heatheranderson4948
      @heatheranderson4948 Před 10 měsíci +8

      Right! He said very little, but what he did say showed he was listening. His questions and responses just evoked more out of Shia. It was beautiful to watch.

    • @natashabass215
      @natashabass215 Před 10 měsíci +2

      Facts

    • @midmericastudios
      @midmericastudios Před 9 měsíci

      Been out in LA 10+ years and bumped into my fair share of celebrities either through work (bartender) or by chance and he's one of the few I bring up because I was so impressed with the human, famous or not

    • @ChiralityPracticality
      @ChiralityPracticality Před 9 měsíci

      @@heatheranderson4948 yeah he is very good at this

  • @rickandrews9302
    @rickandrews9302 Před 27 dny

    This interview made me cry all the way through. I identify with Shia so much, and I went through the ringer of life and fell flat on my face. That saved my life, because it got me to God, and I was really touched by his honest.

  • @joshuaborrero6626
    @joshuaborrero6626 Před 8 dny +4

    This interview saved my life

  • @LensJunior
    @LensJunior Před rokem +78

    I been drinking alcohol since I was 13. Pretty much everyday of my life. I'm about to be 35 now. To make a long story short, every bad thing that happened to me in my life, alcohol was involved. Failed relationships, failed friendships, failed opportunities, broken family involving alcoholism, sexual and childhood trauma, high functioning anxiety, ego driven, embarrassment, shame, guilt, DUIs, jail, fighting etc I have a wife and 2 year old son, about to be 3. Today is the day where I made my decision to quit alcohol and begin my journey to sobriety without using alcohol as a crutch for everything in my life and started to rebuild my relationship closer to God 🙏 it's time, not only for my family but myself as well. This video came at a perfect time in my life. Thank you guys so much!

    • @Tyler_WI
      @Tyler_WI Před rokem +4

      I’m praying for for you brother! With God, you got this! Find a community/people that you can talk to and support you on your journey, there are many churches that have great people that are there to help!

    • @classyviper1one
      @classyviper1one Před rokem +4

      Alcoholics Anonymous Works my brother, I hope to come back and hear a positive update soon

    • @DurtyKaiser
      @DurtyKaiser Před rokem +3

      You can do it brother. 💪

    • @Balkanlegija
      @Balkanlegija Před rokem +2

      Niemals aufgeben!

    • @brendonohagan1946
      @brendonohagan1946 Před rokem +2

      Sending intentions up for you my friend