"Is My Partner Ready To Have Kids?"

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  • čas přidán 7. 06. 2023
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Komentáře • 47

  • @rclark1132
    @rclark1132 Před 11 měsíci +56

    Gaslighting came from an old movie where they had ‘Actual’ gaslights in the home and the husband would manipulate the lights in the house causing the wife to think she was going crazy when in fact HE was the one changing it and telling her she’s tripping. They make you feel like your reality isn’t what it is and you’re crazy for thinking it.

    • @Trice44
      @Trice44 Před 11 měsíci +1

      💯

    • @saab75
      @saab75 Před 11 měsíci +1

      Thanks for explaining. I hear the phrase in this part of the world but never bothered to find out the actual meaning

    • @lrowe272
      @lrowe272 Před 10 měsíci +1

      I saw that movie.

  • @Peculiarities
    @Peculiarities Před 11 měsíci +8

    What stood out to me was her preface on choosing him as a partner because he’s a believer, and goes to church regularly. I can’t tell you how many times I gave more/ undue credit to a suitor on whether or he professed Jesus as if it automatically made him compatible as a husband. Character matters and we don’t vet it thoroughly enough. Having the same faith may get homie in the door but it won’t close behind him if he’s not also a decent, responsible, trustworthy and overall compatible human.

  • @dejapeterson4390
    @dejapeterson4390 Před 11 měsíci +18

    Sometimes Glen says they’re trying to find Riah’s “thing” .. maybe his thing is fashion

  • @SimiOludemi
    @SimiOludemi Před 11 měsíci +7

    It's Glenn smiling at Yvette and his reason being that He likes her 🥺 I love this podcast 🥺

  • @SAlexandre
    @SAlexandre Před 11 měsíci +39

    Before this episode even premieres, I just want to say... your hair is lovely, Yvette💜

  • @TheFearlessBabe
    @TheFearlessBabe Před 11 měsíci +11

    I think y’all should find some more eclectic kids looks and show them to Riah. He’s definitely a fashion forward kid. It may be a gift. He’s probably one of the creative kids.

  • @PearEnthusiast61
    @PearEnthusiast61 Před 11 měsíci +10

    Glad you brought the actual definition of “gaslight”. A lot of the therapists I watch refer to Yvette’s definition while popular media is more aligned to what Glenn described. Really easy to misinterpret

  • @oneitadebrady700
    @oneitadebrady700 Před 11 měsíci +5

    Uriah is feeling himself, let him explore… bet that will be a trend soon lol… it’s him finding what he likes and I love it

  • @LRain-jf5hr
    @LRain-jf5hr Před 11 měsíci +2

    The popcorn though 😂😂😂😂ROTFL!!!

  • @celeste8389
    @celeste8389 Před 11 měsíci +3

    Lovely episode and advise. I like that the automatic answer is not throw the whole man away, it's communicate in a respectful and considerate manner. Use the knowledge you have of him to speak with him in a way he'll understand.
    Just wholesome. Baby girl looking so cute with her flat twists...and Yvette and Glen's laughs...

  • @breedubs
    @breedubs Před 11 měsíci +3

    I GOT MY VIP TICKETS FOR HUBBY & I!!! So so so excited 😆

  • @antoineerikascott5022
    @antoineerikascott5022 Před 11 měsíci +1

    He's playing dress up Glen! Let the little man be! 🤣

  • @chandabwsandidge0430
    @chandabwsandidge0430 Před 11 měsíci +3

    27:15 After Glen said ‘I like you’… a good follow up: Babe, you look so beautiful today!

  • @chervelleweatherley9421
    @chervelleweatherley9421 Před 11 měsíci +3

    Yvette, your hair is beautiful ❤

  • @karakarakarakara
    @karakarakarakara Před 11 měsíci +5

    Hey guy. The podcast is only 18 mins on Spotify

  • @catherinedean2307
    @catherinedean2307 Před 11 měsíci

    this weeks episode >>>>>

  • @DefiningDiane
    @DefiningDiane Před 11 měsíci +1

    I agree with the maturity thing

  • @amark8786
    @amark8786 Před 11 měsíci +2

    Not summon 😂

  • @thejones222
    @thejones222 Před 10 měsíci

    This was a great episode. I am in a relationship where I want my partner to grow up a little bit and I have been struggling with figuring out how to communicate with him without him feeling like he’s lowkey under attack…. I got some good tips from this episode. Thanks y’all. 🖤

  • @naomiv7133
    @naomiv7133 Před 11 měsíci

    Love the hair

  • @theknights3025
    @theknights3025 Před 11 měsíci +3

    This was great😂

  • @lovelytia1
    @lovelytia1 Před 11 měsíci

    This was such a good episode. I think you shared very helpful discussions to have with a partner. There HMAY stories have been getting funnier and real life and I love it!!! ❤😂😂😂

  • @lavedahollingsworth7392
    @lavedahollingsworth7392 Před 10 měsíci +1

    I'm confused....what makes him an amazing person?

  • @AskIveSolar
    @AskIveSolar Před 11 měsíci +2

    These kids behind us are behind. Just like we are behind our parents in maturation.
    I tell my wife this all the time. These kids behind us are just not as mature. It was part of the reason why I couldn't watch insecure cause I'm like bruh y'all too old for this. Lol.

  • @wynetteabc
    @wynetteabc Před 11 měsíci

    Yvette I love that hairstyle on you. It's perfection.💯💥💫

  • @amark8786
    @amark8786 Před 11 měsíci +3

    he can’t keep a job why the hell would you have a baby with him? This is “women” nowadays 🤦🏾‍♀️what the hell is going on?

  • @user-cf3fi8ez7y
    @user-cf3fi8ez7y Před 11 měsíci

    I like that Glen still just enjoys looking at his wife. I laughed out loud at the airplane segment. Also, I agree, this couple is not ready for the work one baby takes, let alone the work that children take.

  • @KingDeeba
    @KingDeeba Před 7 měsíci +2

    nahhhhhh he's too old to be that way. he might still have time but that's an excuse. 30 is too old to be playing around

  • @crystalphillips696
    @crystalphillips696 Před 11 měsíci

    Not being able to keep a job is him showing you who he is. Plus not paying bills on time.

  • @moniquewrites9046
    @moniquewrites9046 Před 11 měsíci

    *huge warning for all people of childbearing age*
    While I do honor my parents and step parent for their work and financial support, I have to be honest with myself in order to move forward. I wasn’t wanted.
    And as a 30-year-old who was not wanted as a child, if you do not want kids don’t have them. Do whatever you have to do to keep yourself from having children. I have so many issues that stem from a childhood of not being wanted as a child. Including a huge, a huge, therapy bill and I am needing more therapy.
    People would always tell me that oh just fine and Jesus is the answer, but sometimes Jesus leaves you on healed and your love to pick up the pieces yourself don’t have kids if you’re not ready for them.
    Your children will be full of anxiety and depression, they will not know who they are. They will have low self-esteem they will be suicidal. They will have an insecure attachment, style and inability to connect with others.
    Do not have children if you do not want them and that starts with *knowing yourself*.
    Slow down and stop riding the waves of emotions enough to think clearly, if you’re not loving yourself and your spouse, you do not have the capacity to love a child who needs constant love and attention and care. I just watched a video about parents talking about their unwanted Children and people are cosigning and saying children or just for the economy it doesn’t matter how they grow up.
    That is the biggest load of malarkey and balderdash I have ever heard that type of mindset children, or only here for the economy is what breeds criminals, mentally ill, and generational curses it’s scientifically proven that children need love and affection in order to grow I got none of those things, it would be better off if I was not born I’m telling you parents and single people stop idolizing marriage.
    Marriage is not going to solve all of your problems. This is a time in a season I believe a society where we need to assess where we are and where we’re going. Do we really want to go in this direction where we’re continuing to have mass shootings and children cutting themselves and children being suicidal All of that stems from abandonment and a parent can be in that child’s life and that child still feel abandoned and even some of the best parents still have to help their children navigate through some of these things, and if you are negligent to care for your friends and family don’t have kids. This is a warning to you. Jesus said that if you CAUSED any of these little children to stumble, it would be better for you to put an anvil around your neck and jump in to the ocean there will be many parents that will be judge that way on judgment day.
    We don’t need another mass shooting or a child with endless therapy bills or someone who gets locked up.
    Genesis 6 speaks of a breed of people that were created out of the natural order of God. And that is what I feel like is happening now. People aren’t having children, they’re breeding and there are so many people who are godless and lack conviction to the Holy Spirit.

  • @mayagriffin2826
    @mayagriffin2826 Před 11 měsíci

    Omg. A beef stick on a plane is top 10 menace.

  • @CrystalH777
    @CrystalH777 Před 11 měsíci

    💚💚💚💚

  • @Xoxo_m7
    @Xoxo_m7 Před 11 měsíci

    Glen why you always telling Yvette’s business tryna embrass her?😒😂

  • @amark8786
    @amark8786 Před 11 měsíci

    THEY EVERYWHERE MR!
    There are toooo many more bum guys like that than men who want to actually take accountability and this is why she’s gonna settle

  • @sydneyjones1338
    @sydneyjones1338 Před 11 měsíci +1

    It’s so beautiful that Yvette does not know what gaslighting is 🥲

    • @Ashley-ur9in
      @Ashley-ur9in Před 11 měsíci

      Literally was thinking this same thing! 🥹 The fact that neither really understood or accepted the actual definition when they read it is a huge blessing. (But the definition was fully correct as described y’all! It’s a really harmful thing to go through for many people.)