How to Stop AVOIDING What You Worry About | Dr. Rami Nader
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- čas přidán 19. 10. 2022
- Intolerance of uncertainty is like a psychological allergy to uncertainty. For some people who are more intolerant of uncertainty, all it takes is for there to be just a little bit of uncertainty in a situation and it can cause a big emotional reaction for that person - they get anxious, worried and overwhelmed. Whereas, for someone who is not intolerant of uncertainty, they can be in the exact same situation and not feel anxious at all. This video discusses a common manifestation of intolerance of uncertainty, specifically avoidance. By avoiding things that we are worrying about, we create a temporary state of certainty, in this moment. However, that comes at great cost, because if we always avoids things that we are uncertain about, our life becomes a lot smaller and much more constrained. Therefore, it’s important to understand how to overcome avoidance as a way of overcoming intolerance of uncertainty and building tolerance for uncertainty. You do this in two ways: a) Creating tolerating uncertainty experiments in which you intentionally do exposure to what you have been avoiding; and b) Taking advantage of naturally occurring opportunities to tolerate uncertainty by frequently reflecting on the following question, “If I were more tolerant of uncertainty, what would I do in this situation?” By building tolerance for uncertainty through reducing avoidance, you will find that you are a lot freer, more spontaneous and less anxious.
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I hope you have even just the slightest idea of how much you’re helping us all here. Even when we have our own therapists, sometimes it just gets so tough that you need to listen to someone making sense , and listen to them right away. ❤
Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. I'm glad you have found the videos helpful.
@@DrRamiNader The intolerance of uncertainty is probably increased post pandemic. AGAIN--This has been super helpful.
Things that I avoid - resolving conflict, asserting my needs, self advocating, self disclosing my feelings & more. I think it has a lot to do with my mother. Think she’s a narcissist. I find it hard to do these things with people that aren’t safe. I struggle doing this with my therapist.
So many of my what if's come true that I get tired. I just don't have the energy to put up with bs anymore.
What makes people BECOME Intolerable of Uncertainty. It seems like not having needs met as a child....so you try to hedge your bets against future neglect.
you set a light bulb off in my head
@@kk65275 a light bulb went off in mine too.,I had a decent childhood...but I can look back to times of definitely uncertainty directly related to how much alcohol was flowing. Putting 2+2 together...many things make perfect sense now.
Finding this out more and more
Another great video. I have been diagnosed with Avoidant Personality Disorder. Avoiding avoidance has been a tough gig through life. My coping strategies have been pretty draining at times, keeping a lot of past data in my head. Getting into my late fifties has been a help, funnily enough: life slowing down yet becoming richer somehow.
Hi Terence, glad you found the video helpful.
always waiting your video. thanks you so much. if i didn't watch your videos and read your books, i wouldn't know what i need to do for my life.
So nice of you to say. I'm glad you have found the videos helpful!
I have done this so much in life and the Dr is right, it's no way to live life☹️
Avoidance makes life so much smaller, for no significant benefit.
Life becomes smaller, and much more manageable.
And much more limited. There is a tradeoff.
@@DrRamiNader Maybe people are just trying to get through the day. Stop assuming everyone can do everything you can do.
I'm not assuming that.
@@DrRamiNaderWhat you call 'limited' might be affordable to most.
Dr Nader, if you realize avoidance is not due to intolerance of uncertainty and you just are disinterested, how do you do it anyway? I guess the behavior experiment still works! haha. Thanks for the help!
Tq for posting the video sir eagerly waiting for your video
Glad you found it helpful.
Life changing
Glad you found it helpful.
Man I'm intolerant to do a comment on how this video will help me getting back to studies.
What about avoidance of uncertainty in the long term? It is harder to collect data there, right? e.g. career decision
hello dr , i have diagnosed by GAD and i treat it , until this time i was wondring what cause me that thing i was looking for an answer every article and every video it started when i was waching a movie after i back from a great trip and before that i didnt suffer from any thing , i wish i see a cause to just relief myself and my thinking . i miss my old self .
Sometimes these conditions are caused by many different factors. The key isn't to figure out what caused it, but more to focus on what's keeping it going.
@@DrRamiNader but nothing was trigger me and worried me before GAD , do you its genetic ?
think*
I never thought of it by that angle!
Glad you found it insightful.
Thank you so much for this video it's helped me understand the worry to anxiety
I would like to know if anxiety is about emotions in this case.
How do I control the emotions.
I have anxiety and its high all the time.
I have worked through the worry but I am still anxious
Can you help me with this please
Ps what causes the anxiety to keep goingng
I don't know why I still have it but it's at its worst just now
Best wishes Lynda
Hi Lynda - I'm not sure I understand your question, because anxiety is an emotion. People manage anxiety by addressing the stressor or problem that's causing the anxiety and/or changing negative thinking and behavior patterns that are contributing to anxiety.
@@DrRamiNader
Thank you for your answer
I can't work out what emotion anxiety is as it feels bad
eg if I was sad I know what that is
Or happy
Do you know what I mean ?
Anxiety is an emotion associated with fear. Not sure that answers your question.
Do you have experience with people with Pure O? Or OCD?
Yes, I have done a number of videos on OCD ( Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD): czcams.com/play/PLG_XiSJeP3s0iFYcSP6oQHjEUJOQkNzMM.html ) and plan on doing more specifically looking at pure O OCD in the future.
@@DrRamiNader Thank you Sir I look forward to your videos. Your content is a blessing for those who cannot afford therapy thank you 🙏🏻