6 Things I stopped Doing To Fix My Anxiety
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- čas přidán 10. 12. 2023
- The emotional and physical toll of debilitating anxiety can be overwhelming.
What I've found in my life - and in the lives of many clients - is that I fed and enabled my anxiety through my habits and actions. Not on purpose; not even knowingly.
The first step to overcoming my chronic anxiety was to see the causes and dismantle them.
I'm sharing the 6 things I did to fix my anxiety. These are personal - they worked for me. And, while every person is different, I believe these 6 can have a positive impact on your anxiety as well.
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No one can understand what intense anxiety can feel like unless they have been through it. Mine gets worse as I get older. Every day, every situation, every decision, is a struggle. Blessings to everyone who is suffering from it. Be strong and acknowledge your strength even when you overcome the smallest of tasks. ❤❤❤❤
@MC--342~~So true~~Unless Dr.s, just people in general will never understand what it feels like~~I'm a 70 year old woman who had my first panic attack when I was 8 years old~~I was laying in bed trying to get to sleep snd all of a sudden I couldn't breathe and my heart was pounding and I thought I was dying~~My Ma was still up and I;m trying to tell her how I was feeling~~She said you're probably coming down with something and go back to bed~~Also, she was a nurse~~I went back to bed and prayed~~It lasted for 20 minutes or so and it stopped~~It was never talked about again~~I still got the attacks but I knew they would stop~~I never felt right~~When I entered Jr. High School I found out other girls, friends were going through the same thing along with debilitsting anxiety all the time~~Our parents did nothing~~To make a very long story short, I suffered ny whole life feeling that way~~Nobody knew how horrible I always felt but continued with my life~~I worked hard, took care of my family, went to night school for different things but everything I did I had to push myself hard to get things done~~When I left home at 17 I worked so hard and saved my money, went to Dr's, therapists but they just didn't get it~~I got tired of hearing, just take deep breaths and blah blah~~Nothing worked and as I got older I got worse~~Anti-anxiety meds didn't help at all~~Then Dr's said take this and take that and it will help~~I just got worse and just took anxiety meds and ambien cause I always had insomnia to this day~~But I feel like giving up but I can't~~So many worries and feeling worse~~I just feel that MY GAD is genentic from my Ma's side of the family~~She was never like a Mother should be~~I later found out some of my cousins had panic attacks, anxiety but I got the worst of it~~I've tried everything to feel at least sort of normal but just got worse with age~~I also had problems with perfection~~My brain and body just doesn't respond to all the things you're suppose to do~~Take good care and Happy New Year~~I pray for everyone that is going through horrible disorder~~🙃🙃🙃🥵🥵🥵☹☹☹💗💗💗
I can empathize! Mine keeps growing and unfortunately so many trials keep coming feeding the anxiety. It's like a hamster wheel that won't stop.
Oh I hope you will get through it! It's a really heavy thing, but if I can do it, I'm sure as hell you can do it! My tip is ''don't take life so seriously''. Once I understood what that actually meant my intense anxiety got evaporated. I'm still learning and it's not like I'm never anxious anymore. But a giant burden lifted when I stopped listening to my self made rules of good and wrong. There are no rules. Enjoy life how you want it to!
All the tips the guy mentioned in the video are perfect!
Hey, what triggers your anxiety? Tell me about your situation and l'll share my story with you. Let me know
EFT tapping may help you out.
1. 2:25 - Stretch your mind; step outside comfort zone
2. 5:00 - Avoid stimulants e.g. caffeine
3. 7:38 - Occupy yourself with meaningful activities
10:41 - intro to #4
4. 11:48 - Take nutrition seriously
5. 13:53 - Stop trying to do everything (most difficult!)
6. 17:15 - Positive outlook; trust in yourself
Thanks for this. I have trouble holding the points in my head to the end of the video. This helps a lot.
Glad to help! 😊
@@centurionstrengthandfitnes3694
when we also have severe ADHD, trauma etc - sometimes stimulants def. needed for some time!
This is great. I would just add “stop avoiding anxiety” to 1 and add “everything YOURSELF” to the 5.
If you do 1 and 3 you will be 99% recovered. Really number 1 will get you 80% at least.
Watching this before buying a ticket alone and taking the tram alone for the first time in my life at 27 years old.
Oh WoW! Good for you, that's a big step! ( sorry I know you posted this a month ago but I just ran across the video ) so how did it go? Were you able to get on the tram and complete the ride??
How are you now? Did it make you feel a little more comfortable?
Good luck my darling you will be fine 🙂 promise 🇬🇧
Well done !! I need to do this for a big family function
Pre lockdown I was fine
Now it’s too hard
I have to make it happen
Awesome!
Anxiety literally destroyed my life. and I am not overexaggerating that's the truth.
It definitely can
How
I 100% feel you on this statement. Only
People with crippling anxiety can
But you’re still here, trying. That’s half the battle. God bless you! You are stronger than you think. We’re here with you. You got this!
Just tell your anxiety to bring it everytime you have one, welcome it, tell it to bring its worst. It really helps me
I’ve suffered for 30 years and I’m tired of it. But I do like being alone. But it’s the fear of everything I’m so tired of it. Crazy things that have no rational. Xx
Help. I'm. Home. Don't drive. 5:31
Well scoot over cause I'm in the boat with you. Haha
I remember being very little and telling the family doctor that my tummy always hurt and he asked me to describe "hurt" and I said I feel like there's a whole bunch of butterflies flying around in my tummy all the time and making it dizzy. He asked basic questions like did it happen when I was doing or this or that or the other. I said it's ALL the time. Everyday when I wake up til bedtime. Welcome to generalized anxiety disorder was the diagnosis. It never stops, never takes a break. Even if I have nothing that needs done and I'm free to just sit back relax watch a movie, play a game on my phone, sit outside and enjoy the sunset. I still cant relax and I still have the anxiety.
Like you said, I am so sick and tired of feeling this way and I am tired of being afraid of everything because I know that my anxiety is going to interfere so intrusively that it's just better for me mentally to avoid everything and stay in my comfort zone of home.
I am able to socialize when I do go out and about to take care of errands and things like that. It's just getting myself out there to begin with. The dread of having to get out of the car and go inside the Walmart or something, even tho it's the same one I've gone to for years, the anxiety of going inside is overwhelming and then I try to get back to my car and go home as quickly as possible.
Im not "afraid" of anything in the store, I'm not afraid of people, there's not a specifically particular reason that this act of going inside causes difficulty for me. It's just the act in it of itself that spikes my anxiety through the roof and I just dont get it. It happens with Everything and I'm so tired of dealing with it but it's literally all I've ever known and nothing seems to help.
Just don't tip over this boat we're both in tho, OK? Lol
Oh hell. It's worse than I thought. Rereading that I see that apparently I even have anxiety with imaginary things. 🤦🏼
@@KatSpade1018 I can relate in every single word you wrote. I have agoraphobia and also generalized anxiety disorder. So tired.
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@KatSpade1018 bless you, but you literally explained it so well.
It’s nice to know we aren’t alone though isn’t it.
I wish I had a magic wand.
I’ve lived so long with it I really don’t know anything else. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone but yet somehow I hide it well. Only my nearest and dearest know so it’s a fight of will power and strength at times, which must mean we are incredibly strong - ironic isn’t it!
Wishing you all the best for you. ❤️
1. Stretch your mind by putting it into challenges. Don't avoid tasks.
2. Avoid stimulants like coffee, energy drinks etc
3. Keep your mind busy and occupied
4. Food is energy for brain. Don't skip meals and pay attention to your nutrition
5. Don't expect yourself to do each and everything all alone. Ask for help
6. Stop treating yourself like an untrustworthy person
Just some key points I recall from the video :)
thanks i prefer read, listen someone talk too long its anxious...hahahaha 😉
I'd probably add that stimulants can be much more than that - like video games, CZcams, binge-watching, etc.
"avoid stimulants" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😅😅😅😅😅😮💨
"ask for help" 😂😂😂😂😂😂 what help?
Unfortunately, my anxiety is right in too many cases, which is how I end up getting burned out & abandoned 🤦🏽♀️
Having been through this, the most important thing i found is to do it regardless - go to work,go to a party. You won't feel like it but doing it reduces the fear. Bottom line,you need to lose your fear of being anxious.
I feel like the maxim “ Mood follow action” connects to your comment!
I’m 67 years old and have dealt with anxiety and depression for over 50 years, listening to you has helped me to understand why I feel the way I do. I’m always looking forward to your next video. I’m so glad that I found you!
Yep I am 47 and my life sucks
Don't make comparisons with any others.
Thank you for your honesty. Would you please say what has been helpful? Thank you
Hi I'm same im 55 suffering
Hello Ryan
This sounds like me. I'm 46 yo and struggle with extreme daily anxiety. I've recently had some mini-breakthrus, so hopefully I can keep going in the right direction.
Thank you for this. I went to the hospital for a panic attack the other day where I fainted at work. I haven’t been to work in 5 days due to this. After watching this last night I made it to work today. It wasn’t a great day but when I made it through the shift I felt proud that I didn’t avoid my priorities. Appreciate your vulnerability
Aww so sorry to hear this. Well done for making it back to work, keep going, you can do this!! One thing that might help is magnesium, it’s really calming and helps go minimise anxiety. Zinc also helps too. You can create flash cards with positive affirmations that you can look at when you are at work. Or relate a vision board book (A5) and add beautiful and calming images and look at your book when or if you feel anxious at work.
I'd get some blood tests done to rule out iron and b12. B6. Deficiency. This is how i started panic attacks, from low Iron
Do you find that work either causes or triggers your anxiety?
Awesome that you went back to work… that’s how we do it…one day at a time. God bless you and provide new strength each day 🙏
You’re right about number 3. When you’re not busy your anxiety starts to take over. I need to work on being more busy too.
oh boy I know that too. I just find it an immense struggle to get moving. Maybe it's my biggest problem at this point.
@@heaven7360 yeah exactly. Sometimes when you’re too anxious it give you 0 drive to get anything done!
Anxiety ruined my life. I got it from my mother. I have on my Whiteboard, written the following simple axioms
1-Life is engagement not avoidance (Existentialism)
2-Slow down and focus (Zen)
3-Act with self respect and confidence (NLP)
NLP and exercise also helped me with anxiety and sleeping, and CBT helped with depression.
-Good luck fellow travellers through the universe of emotions, which is life. Peace.
Is anxiety the same thing as anger? Because I'm angry all the time.
@@LaoSoftwareNo, nothing like it, probably the opposite
@@LaoSoftware I think it can be related in some ways, but according to chinese medicine anger is related to liver function.
@@LaoSoftware It's common for SOME anxious people to have high irritability... Get easily irritated and angry for little to no good reason. It's frustrating... but everyones anxiety is a bit different.
Thank you so much for sharing those axioms. 😊
Wow..I have been watching you this last 6 months or so...your ability to communicate in detail my existence, thoughts, and life....blows my mind..I just never believed another person on the planet could honestly " get it"...I am 61 years old...61 years of trying to get through it alone. Thank you for putting yourself out there for the rest of us!❤
My pleasure 😊
@@DrScottEilers Be careful..?? Read between the lines.!
@@DrScottEilersit's the booze.
@tristanbulluss9386 I wish...I haven't had any since I was 25...thought it was adding to the anxiety..so I was done with it.
@@debbieford4685 how longs that?.
That's me right now. Im in my room sitting, again. I cry constantly. I've dealt with this for 30 plus years.
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@thoos192 yes the stomach issues are horrible. I don't have a gallbladder so I'm almost obligated to eat well.
I've actually been checked for all those things and nothing came of it. But, I'm so glad you found the root cause of your anxiety 🥰. They basically just told me I had a chemical imbalance and thats about it. The anxiety is what gets me depressed. It's a whole cycle.
@@virginiaevelyn8278❤❤❤
Same HERE!! Just gave my life back to the LORD!!! This has helped ALOT!!!
@@virginiaevelyn8278 are you autistic?
I fight with anxiety each and every day, but I fight with it, I'm not giving up, even when sometimes I'm getting my ass kicked by it and I can hardly stand up, I always try and do it, to stand up and keep on going. And if I can, as someone who didn't really achieved anything special in its life then anyone can do it and that's what I believe in with all my heart.
8:00 doing “nothing” was/is my #1 trigger. I feel this vague panic rising as I sit (and maybe even scroll social media, Tv, etc- a stimulant IMO), which i later realized was anxiety due to my knowing I was doing something that contributed to my poor wellbeing yet was actively ignoring it and “freezing”. The anxiety rose from the cognitive dissonance.
What do you do to combat it?
The usual way to combat this isn't the way this video suggested (always filling your time with things) and is that you should accept your anxious thoughts but not react to them. To begin with you can address your thoughts (say "no, it's not likely that i'm going to die if I leave the house", and then leave the house), and then as time goes on, maybe only answer 30% of them, and then eventually just 1 in 5, and then stop answering them at all and eventually you reprogram yourself. The signals and hyper vigilance come from an overactive amygdala and with this type of exposure you can change it in around 2 weeks.
But if what you're asking is how to not be stressed when you're doing nothing just because this isn't productive, then you could ask yourself "what's stopping me from doing something that I actually want to do now" .. sometimes you need to rest, sometimes there's something blocking you that you need to give yourself space to think about, etc
@@qtip4747
I'm looking forward to this one. Anxiety definitely consumes my life. Its terrible. Would love to be able to fix it.
Same.. it's exhausting 😔
❤🙏🙏🙏🙏
I agree…please know you’re not alone.
Same !
Me too its torture 😫
Your sharing the most intimate details of your life journey is an inexpressible blessing to thousands, maybe even millions of other people.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
true facts!
I definitely struggle with anxiety. I have missed so many opportunities in my life because of it. In pretty much all aspects of life. I ended up just accepting that's the way I am, but hate it when I know it's holding me back from a really meaningful life. I did somewhat defeat it once but had some events in my life that I can't change bring it on worse then it ever was. Once again starting all over again........ it's tiring.
Right there with you, it is crippling
Your first 4 sentences so accurately describe my life too.
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@thoos192 Hi, I have Coeliac and my daughter started out with symptoms of Coeliac, but it didn't show up with the Edoscopy. The villi inside of the small intestine is what absorbs nutrients. In Coeliacs this gets flattened by reaction to gluten. Yes it causes lots of anxiety, from lack of nutrients, or in some people from gluten affecting them but villi not damaged.
This video is filled with so much hope and encouragement...from someone who gets it and has actually done all the work. I cannot thank you enough!! I 100% believe it can be overcome and your story proves it.
Thank you so much for giving real practical advice on anxiety! I can see how much you understand the topic from personal experience. I am making big strides, myself, and greatly appreciate when people talk about how our habits and behaviors keep us ruled by anxiety. In my past experiences over the years dealing with anxiety I was told by psychiatrists that it was "just the way I was", and needed to take medications that only ended up backfiring by making my physical and mental health far worse. For reference, I ended up with Serotonin Syndrome that came on slowly but got to a point where I was critically ill when it was finally diagnosed. Freeing myself from this vicious cycle and taking back my own brainpower to address the underlying issues has given me a whole new perspective and way of coping.
I am so thrilled that I stumbled upon you on You Tube!! I’m 66 and have been having a huge struggle with ongoing anxiety for far too long!! You gave me excellent info so I can begin to take better care of myself to help the others. Thank you!
You're a gem and I hope you know that. You have no idea how much I have learned from you. I don't have anxiety, but have two people in my life who have and your videos have helped me to know how to behave around them and in a way help them. I have shared your videos with them and have also gifted them with your book. your videos are super helpful for everyone, because we all are bombarded with stress inducing situations. So grateful to you.
I really relate to your experience. Thanks for sharing. I remember genuinely believing I would never feel happy again or gain the will to live my life, and yet today I am thriving. I love hearing from people on the other side of mental illness. Glad you're in a good place now.
Thank you Dr.Scott Eilers for being so transparent and authentic sharing your own journey 🙏
Yes, get them all. It's lots harder when your 70 and alone.
I'm 16 And thank God I've got my whole life to fight anxiety
I hope you succeed too
@@marshmellowpenguin5136 That's actually a good mindset to have about anxiety. It became chronic for me at around 20 years old. You have more tools and instant information on everything now days. You could find out where it comes from and maybe beat it or super manage it. I would stay away from female therapists because being anxious and quickly flustered is a normal state of living for them. I didn't know that when I was 16.
@@orangeandslinky Thanks for the advice hahaha,
Fortunately my anxiety is not chronic, but it has severely destroyed more than a year of my life
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Thank you Dr. Scott. This video and the comment section along with it are tremendously helpful to me. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Yep, yes, all this.. Thank you Scott. My suffering is exactly what you describe in this and your depression video I just watched. I've had many hours of counseling and your two videos helped more than all of it. Thanks for your help sir.
You give me hope because I’m stuck in debilitating anxiety for a huge chunk of my life. Btw your book is awesome ❤
Thanks so much for this! It’s unfortunate, but refreshing to see that other people deal with this. #1 is definitely the toughest for me. I’m addicted to comfort and it’s making my world smaller by the day 😞
Wow. Your video automatically played after a guided breath work vid I was watching, trying to lower my skyrocketing BP and ease my panic attack. I am just floored by the fact that everything you said about anxiety is exactly what I feel. I really relate with your particular experience with anxiety…sounds JUST like my own. I’m already deep in my healing process but also learned some great new things here that I plan to put into practice. Can’t wait to dive in to more of your videos tomorrow. I’m deeply grateful to have found you.
Thank you! Nice to hear these things from someone who has not only been educated about mental health but who really understands through experience how anxiety and depression feels and disables us. Also thankyou for sharing what worked for you -explained in a down to earth relatable way.
Thanks for this video man. I've had moderate Anxiety for 9 years now and I'm not sure how it started or why but recently its gotten worse. In the past I never really spoke about it and just tried to deal with it alone but I'm realizing now that the most important thing I can do is ask for help and open up about it, rather than trying to tough it out alone.
This was the best video I’ve ever watched about anxiety. In such a short video, I took away way more than all the therapy sessions I’ve had. Thank you!
Your video helped me so much! I am in an anxiety/panic attack stage of my life right now. I heard from other people who have gone through the struggles that I'm going through, and I am grateful that you had the courage to share yours! Truly inspiration and gives me so much hope! Its been a rough couple of years for me but I think I'm getting better step by step. Thank you for sharing your story and your experience in how to manage anxiety! All the best.
Everything you said about delegating tasks and also trusting your future self hits home!! Thank you!!! From a small business owner, this video has truly helped so much.
Very solid recommendations, I totally agree. The first 5 are validation for me and the last one a new very interesting takeaway. So, thank you!
I think what you ingest is a really big one - that includes food, drinks, news, social media, cinema/tv/series, everything!
Great video! I need to rewatch and listen to this a few times. My wife has a lot of anxiety and she needs engaging things, otherwise her anxiety level goes up. I used to have more anxiety, but I learned to quiet that voice in my head and that has been a game changer for me!
Projects, hobbies, tasks...things to keep a mind occupied.... I need to remember that to help her.
Thank you for naming that “frozen” thing I have been doing. And thank you for the six things you stopped doing but most of all, thank you for living through it all and giving me hope.
You are steadily helping me. I am so grateful for your forthcoming. You empower me. I have never been able to realize life until you defined it. I am walking more confidently. Thank you. I always felt like I was watching me but feeling disembodied.
I appreciate the realness of your videos so much, it can be very frustrating to hear pre-packaged platitudes about depression or anxiety "just exercise," "just think positively!" Those types of comments actually make me feel worse. Your channel is so helpful because you relate your personal experience and struggles and give solid and practical advice that makes me actually feel like there is hope.
Glad to see you are recording in the usual format, much nicer 😊
Thank you once again, Dr. Scott! Listening to you twice a week gives me more hop, tools and encouragement than most of my time in therapy did.
Wow, great explanation! As someone who has dealt with anxiety for many years of my life, I really appreciate this. I’m not weird, it’s my brain and there are things I can do about it - imagine that!
Another great show! So far as caffeine goes, I’ve noticed over the last couple of years (I’ve been tracking this) that if my day is well, structured and happy, doing things I generally enjoy doing, caffeine seems to just give me more energy, and happy energy at that. But when I have lots of caffeine and I’m confronting difficult things, or I’m spending time with really negative people, it makes all of that worse too. Your explanation about that was really good! I think that’s what’s been happening to me, that the caffeine just amplifies whatever it is the day brings to my brain.
Dr Scott thank you. your videos have helped me more than any psychologist I have visited for my PTSD/ anxiety. You just tell it like it is in ways that are easy to understand. I am so grateful that you take the time to reach out to us and help, inspire and care. You are amazing ❤
thank you for this brother!
I feel like keeping busy and mindful is key but every day is a struggle
and its true no one can really understand but yourself
makes me feel I'm not alone when I see others write the same
Dude I love learning through analogies and metaphors and yours are so on point!
Thank you for sharing your story and advice, it’s greatly appreciated man
Thank you so much, Scott! This resonates to the highest level, and something I personally needed.
Like the refreshing point (hearing for the first time) on trust factor in oneself/others and its paradoxical relationship vis-a-vis anxiety, perfectionistic and "feel just right" tendencies. Would be great if you could expand on these intertwined topics in future vids. 🤗
You put it all so perfectly, anxiety is hard but hearing someone say what you feel is such a relief. Thank you 🇬🇧❤️
This was so kind of you to post this. This rang true with me.
You didn't say one single thing that made me roll my eyes. I bought your book and I'm reading it now.
Your openness will help many people with mental health problems .They feel valued.Thank you for this content🤓👍
I found this video so helpful as I did the depression one. I also have anxiety and depression and these videos are helping me see ways I can help myself by doing or not doing certain things. Thank you so much for sharing.
Your third point is so very recognizable, if my mind has spare time, it just goes into problem seeking mode. So good to hear that you have a similar experience.
How many lives has this channel transformed?? What a great blessing
Great video. I am a life coach and I listen to videos like this all the time looking for nuggets I can share with my clients. Often, I am disappointed that I devoted time and energy and ended up with poor information and, regularly, even find harmful advice. This was NOT one of those videos. Instead, I am so glad it popped up on my suggestions I very much appreciate you sharing your valuable tips. I will be sure to use this information not only with my clients but also for myself. Thank you!
I really appreciate how you deliver your message. I find myself nodding along as I listen and really relating to what you're saying. Thank you.
Great strategies! The one I have the most difficult you with is number 6 - challenging my perception of how I used to be with how I am now, and trusting that I’m more capable than I used to be. Thank you, and take care.
Hi Scott , thank you for this video.
These 6 points really resonate with me.
I hadn’t realised until recently that I had anxiety & more to the point have been struggling with it for as long as I can remember.
( I’m 60 now ).
I always thought that I was just a really thorough person who just wanted to get everything done as quickly as possible & absolutely today at all cost.
I took the stress I was feeling as just normal as be fitting a really busy Guy.
It’s only when I had the black cloud of doom descend upon me that was so overpowering that I realised I needed to get help.
I’ve just seen My GP & I’m now in therapy.
So here I am now on what is to be a fresh brave start in my upward journey of moving forward in dealing with this anxiety.
Thank you again for this video , seeing your video & hearing your thoughts really made me realise that it’s not just me that feels like this & more importantly that I’m not alone anymore.
Looking forward viewing the rest of your videos.
‘And to anyone else reading my text , we can All get through this together , one tiny brave step at a time.
❤️
💜Once again, Dr. Scott, so many of your points hit home. Anxiety has been a regular part of my life for years. I knew in the back of my mind that my perfectionist tendencies had a lot to do with it. I thought I was anxious because I had to do everything perfectly myself, and now and I was wearing myself out over it.(Frankly, you're right time, age,and circumstances make playing Superwoman harder, and harder!)I never made the connection to trust issues. Mistrust of the people in my life, and mistrust of myself. Even though, in the past, I had been let down by so many I trusted, even myself, I never moved on. I never thought that maybe if I gave people another chance, myself included, I may find that things have changed.I don't have to do everything myself, and quickly, or I'll mess it up. I may be able to let go of my trust issues that could be fueling so much of this anxiety. Thank you for getting me to think outside of the box. You highlight things that aren't obvious to me. Thanks for these "lightbulb moments"! 🤝👍💜
So glad your video was recommended.. this truly brings me hope. I’ve dealt with anxiety for 12/13 yrs now. Mainly health anxiety. Anything to do with health that I may feel or my family feels (yes I’m also overly sympathetic) my anxiety puts me in a spiral… I hope someday soon I can say the same.. 🙏🏼❤️🩹
I usually skip past these videos because they're all the same to me, but your tone and mannerism is very relatable and honestly pretty soothing. Appreciate the insight
I've watched so many psychologists try to help and explain anxiety and depression. You are the ONLY doctor that can explain the way i truly feel. The way you decribe anxiety is how I feel on a daily basis. I just thank you for reaching out to people and being able to relate, because you've been there done that. You are one amazing doctor and i can't thank you enough for the all your help!!!!❤❤❤❤
Great advice. I have been doing some of these things intuitively but it's good to have these strategies reinforced. I have been making myself do things just to have something else to think about instead of fear. It works and I am trying to make these things habits. Next challenge is getting over the anxiety of driving. I live in a rural area and have to drive all the time. I am listening to CDs on my car audio which helps. Thank you for all this great advice.
Whenever I went to the Dr’s for a check up, the nurses always say it once twice& then they usually tap me to really think about it. It’s so nice for that moment! Ty
This is EXCELLENT! Exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thank you so much!
When I think about anxiety and my brain, I think about a saying I've heard dog trainers say about Border Collies and other smart dogs: If you don't give them a job or task to do, they will find and make one for themselves. And you will not like the task they make for themselves, because it's probably destructive.
Thank you! I found that the low end of caffeine works best for me as well. I hear myself in the things you are saying. So helpful! You are a gem!
these are very useful tips and the way you articulate them is so clear! thank you for the video!
Thank you! Shared this video to others. Found your videos recently and it's been helping a lot. Thank you for you honesty and information ☆
The last strategy is the most important one. It hits home. I have huge problem there. Trusting my future self. Thanks a lot.
67 and lifelong anxiety… cutting down on caffeine tomorrow, thank you for showing up in my feed today. I also gave up watching certain topics on CZcams and politics for Lent and I’m 11 days in and already feeling a wee bit better. Thank you🙏🏼ps laughing w recognition on projects through college degrees and then in work.
Thank you for sharing your experiences with dealing and managing the stigma of GAD.
One vital piece of advice that I have managed to do is just listen and absorb what the other person is trying to say rather than having an open opinion on what they are actually thinking.
Anxiety, depression and OCD are all connected in contradicting ways that can drive you crazy. This video is really spot-on and feels like you were talking to me personally. I hope I can set my mind and self free from anxiety one day 😢
I relate to everything you have said, only a fellow sufferer can articulate the thoughts and feelings that you describe. I am at the beginning of my anxiety journey. I have had a year from hell with anxiety and am now about to start therapy. I have to believe it will help because I really don't want to live the rest of my life like this, it's devastating
Love your channel! 🌈❤ you're sharing your very personal experiences and thoughts, showing your vulnerability and the actual strategies you applied to overcome depression and axiety. That combination is rare snd very precious! AND I still like the wood curtain, the intimate focus and your casual outfit best. ;) But sweet that you want to improve the quality of your content for us. 💞
Thanks, Dr. Scott. You get it. I'm very happy that I subscribed!
Thank you for your great, solid advice as always. No 5 is hard! I'm the kind of person that finds it hard to ask for help - there's guilt there as in my mind there's always someone 'worse off' than me. Even though the depression, disorders and huge issues I go through are actually incredibly valid and debilitating - I can't shake the feeling that I don't deserve the help. Don't know whether that's from depression or anxiety (or both).
Same...
We’re a society built on the myth of individual responsibility. It’s the antithesis of, “It takes a village.” Were encouraged never to ask for help and rewarded for never needing it. As I said, though, it’s a myth. We all need everyone. Humanity would be nowhere if we’d spent millennia working individually. We’re here for you. I’ll pray that you get the help you need as you see that you need it. Bless you. You are strong. It is not weakness to need help, it’s human.
I promise you unfortunately ur Not Alone w that. I couldn't imagine what it would have done to me either. God Bless & hope all is a bit better. 🙏
Timing on stimulants is important too! Since caffeine hangs around your body for several hours, an afternoon cup(s) of coffee can throw off and disrupt that night's sleep...leading to bad sleep, more coffee, and a big anxiety spiral cycle. It helped me a lot to just watch the timing and still enjoy a morning cup. Great video!!
Dr. Eilers you are my twin. The 6 bad habits except for stimulants I do. Avoidance is my HUGE default to a point I have limited my life to the point, no long lasting relationships, not wanting children so they don't get my anxiety/depression because how can I help them if I can't help myself. My anxiety has kept me from challenging myself socially and professionally. Plus everything else you mention as trusting my future self and put my trust in others because it won't be as perfect as I want it to be.
After listening to you for a while now, I've decided to work on the big 3: Improve my mental health, my body by eating better and exercising and finally spiritually.
I'm so glad I found you because I do exactly what you spoke about in this video.
I'm still a work in progress and most likely will be until I die.
Dude, its like you just explained exactly who i am and how my brain works and what i do every day of my life … i am amazed
I just found this video. Thank you so much for this. I've sufferred from anxiety since childhood and these six things are so important.
Ive never really had anxiety before until recently. I had open heart surgery 9 months ago and im still in recovery. Im physically doing very well but emotionally, not so great. My mom entered into hospice care in September and just passed before Christmas. I know im going thru the grieving process. But finding out about her entering hospice, no income for 4 months, dealing with all the bills that need to be paid, or else. Triggered insomnia and some anxiety. I'm working on it every day and trying to find the right people with the correct knowledge to help me. Your video just explained a load of useful items for my arsenal. Thankyou soooo much. God bless.😊
Wow, that part of not trusting your future self really hits hard. So, so accurate.
I’m older that you, and thankfully somehow I also figured out many of these mechanisms on my own that helped immensely. Listen to these ideas people. They help. A lot.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. I have traveled a similar path and come to many of the same conclusions. It is helpful to hear you articulate this.
I spent my entire weekend at home and in bed and mental pain. It’s been like this for 6 months. It’s hell. Nothing has helped. Not thinking is the only thing that helps distract from pain. I don’t eat much. I started stretching. I pretend to smile and be happy and I hate every single day. I imagine the person who abandoned me being happy all the time. I’ll never see the kid again too. Nutrition is soon much work. I live alone. I have all the SI risk Factors. I don’t care about showering anymore. I don’t care about dressing well anymore. Oily stringy hair. I’ve become so different. I can’t talk to my family anymore and I’ve pushed friends away it’s better cuz they cause me pain. I have a therapist who cares but cannot help. I have a roomba that can help some cleaning. Idk what to do.
I will be praying for you. God loves you and is with you. Give this to Him.
God I wish I could have you as a therapist. Young guy who knows how it feels. I feel everything you say, cause I'm in my 20s and have been in the shit my whole life.
It can change. Trust and pray about that. Small changes just a little at a time moving yourself into a better mindset and place. Trust and believe that you can. Expect to have difficult times. There's something to the old saying, "Fake it until you make it." And that's really just doing the things you know you need to do. God Bless!
I have found it hard to relate to a therapist because a lot of them who don't experience anxiety are just speaking from things they have heard or have been told about anxiety, but it is so complex and when a therapist has actually experienced it (god forbid), i would think it would help in treating it, at least with a more understanding approach
I was also destroyed by anxiety, felt like crap every day with crippling anxiety for 13 years, had given up all hope of a normal life. Had nausea from the slightest stress, could not eat when stressed out. I threw up in really bad stress situations. Went to multiple doctors and even more psychologists. No one could help me. But then I found a doctor that actually cared, and they did a big investigation. They wanted to check for food intolerances, I said I had already tested for gluten allergy, it did not show anything. But I went through with my intolerance test, turned out I had a big reaction to gluten and some other things. There is a difference between intolerance and allergy, that is why my allergy test did not show anything, but the intolerance test did. Basically I was intolerant to gluten and had a leaky gut. Took like 3-4 months without gluten before I noticed a difference and now 6 months in I feel better than I ever did before. Anxiety is so much better! The leaky gut made it hard for my body to absorb nutrients, that is why had so big problems. But when I started to eat well (I eat FODMAP approved salad and meat. No grains, no wheat, no gluten, no caffeine, no excess sugar or sweteners). On top of that I eat vitamins, minerals and omega 3 pills and do some physical exercise. Now that my body can absorb the nutrients I eat, I feel so much better. Still have the mental battles left, but I think it will be easier now than before. So don´t give up hope, if you don´t get good help, keep fighting! Please learn more about leaky gut and mindfullness. They together can really help
@@thoos192 absolutely on point. We are unhealthy partly and in some cases completely caused by a food supply with toxic chemicals and little to no nutritional value. Look up NPK which is nitrogen, phosphorus and potassium which are the primary fertilizer chemicals which produce big plants, but the soil lacks the other minerals so those vegetables do little for nutrition.
Leaky gut destroys mental and emotional functions and overall health and vitality. Get these things under control and you (original post author) will feel and do better! God Bless!
Shux man this is on point. Pretty much everything you've said, is how it is. I think sometimes we make a big deal about the anxious mind for the most part, we forget it's mostly normal.
I LOVE your sincerity, man. keep up the good work and thank you...
I relate to you so much! As a therapist myself, my own struggle with anxiety is absolutely the thing I pull from the most when I work with clients who are struggling with anxiety. I am my own case study/evidence that anxiety can get better because (using many of the same techniques) I've also managed to control my anxiety to a degree I'm very proud of. Thanks Doc!
I thought therapists didn’t have anxiety, I don’t know why lol
Thank you for your tips! I knew I grew up having anxiety as I grew up older it gotten worse now I’m focusing to trust my future self. Stop neglecting myself 💪🏾
You can worth through this 💪 don’t give up friend. May God bless you, and know that Jesus loves you and is there with you.
~Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you~
1 Peter 5:7
Great information. I can understand exactly what you mean. Thanks for being so clear. Looking forward to this channel.👍
Dr. Scott I really like how you open yourself up and explain things from a I have been there perspective.
I will be 67 in february, I've been drinking coffee since I was 13. if I give up coffee, I'll go thermonuclear. I have extremely low self-esteem probably even self-hatred. I am one of those "I have to do it all" I can but don't delegate.
oh what a dismal morning,
oh what an awful day,
I have a gut-wrenching feeling,
nothing will be going my way
After you have had a panic attack trusting yourself is difficult and I didn't even realize this until recently. My therapist has explained this and I'm working on it.
Hi Scott, I love your videos and I think your channel is going to grow quickly because of all of your solid content.
I appreciate that!
Stretching your comfort zone is prolly the most eye opening to me. I mean, I know that I should but you explaining it just hit something in me.
Thank you. Can't stress it enough
So I’ve discovered most, if not all of these techniques over the years. It’s terrific to hear someone say it out loud!
I’ve gotten better at them over the years, and lo and behold much less anxiety!!!!
I also quit alcohol 25 years ago. However…. I still have an iPhone 8. Thank you for the video!!!!