#5 Two Ways to Build Tolerance for Uncertainty - Overcoming Worry & Anxiety | Dr. Rami Nader
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- The way to overcome intolerance of uncertainty is through behavioral exposure to uncertainty using tolerating uncertainty experiments. Challenging your worry predictions and what your anxiety is telling you is going to happen. There are two ways to do these tolerating uncertainty experiments. The first is by planning to do something you are uncertain about and consciously thinking about what the worry is telling you is going to happen. The worry is your prediction of what is going to happen. Then you do the experiment and collect the data - what actually happened when you did the tolerating uncertainty experiment? Based on what happened, you come up with a conclusion about the validity or accuracy of your worry prediction. The other way to build tolerance for uncertainty is to take advantage of naturally occurring opportunities to tolerate uncertainty by constantly thinking about the following questions: If I were more tolerant for uncertainty, what would I do in this situation?
What you will find over time with these experiments is that your worry is not a very good predictor of what is going to happen. And the more you do these experiments, the more experience you have with uncertainty and get to see that it rarely turns out negatively, as your worry predicted.
You can download a worksheet to record your tolerating uncertainty experiments here: tinyurl.com/yyazpwrv
For more information about excessive worry and Generalized Anxiety Disorder, see my long form video: tinyurl.com/y4yqthap
#GAD #Worry #CBT
Videos in the worry management series:
Overcoming Worry 1: Defining Worry: 3 features of worry and 2 types of worry - tinyurl.com/y2ox4z9n
Overcoming Worry 2: Understanding a model of worry and worry awareness training - tinyurl.com/y5awco8l
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 3: The Role of Intolerance of Uncertainty in Worry - tinyurl.com/y6ohak2y
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 4: Manifestations of Intolerance of Uncertainty - • #4 Manifestations of I...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 5: Two Ways to Build Tolerance for Uncertainty - • #5 Two Ways to Build T...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 6: Five Myths about Worry - • #6 Five Myths about Wo...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 7: Challenging Worry Myths - • #7 Challenging Worry M...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 8: What do you do when you hate dealing with problems? - • #8 What do you do when...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 9: Problem-Solving Skills to Defeat Worry - • #9 Problem-Solving Ski...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 10: Why we worry about things that haven’t happened - • #10 Why we worry about...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 11: The most surprising tool to help you worry less - • #11 The most surprisin...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 12 - A Worry Management Recipe - • #12 A Worry Management...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 13 - Dealing with Complex Worries - • #13 What are Complex W...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 14 - Maintaining Progress and Preventing Worry Relapse - • #14 How You Can PREVEN...
For more information about Dr. Rami Nader, visit: tinyurl.com/y3eu5dfw
For more information about Dr. Michel Dugas' work on Generalized Anxiety Disorder and an excellent workbook, visit: tinyurl.com/yxf78mnt
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What are some tolerating uncertainty experiments that you have done?
What if your uncertainty centers on what happens when we die? You can’t exactly do exposure with that.
That is correct. But a person could do tolerating uncertainty around things like not doing excessive research about what different faith traditions claim about what happens after death (if the purpose of such research is to try to reduce anxiety by information gathering). So even if the outcome is uncertain, there may still be things that people do to try and gain a sense of certainty.
@@DrRamiNader Thanks for the response. That is exactly what I do. I am definitely overly obsessed and have researched the hell out of the subject. I’ve done this with the belief that it is helping me with my anxiety over the subject, but in reality it’s making me more anxious.
Not looking at the clock in the middle of the night was a good uncertainty experiment. And it was hard at first, to give up looking over at that clock, cause I want to know exactly what time is, and then prepare for how dysfunctional and tired I will be all day, and how my life will fall off the rails cause I won't sleep for the next three days, cause the clock says 3am and I'm not sleeping. I gave up keeping track of that clock at night, and my life is so, so, so, much better. Nothing bad happened when I gave up control of the world overnight and been sleeping like a baby.
@@JoeJoe-vm9si That's a great example of a tolerating uncertainty experiment and I'm pleased it worked out well for you!
“My life has been full of terrible misfortune, most of which never happened.”
Exactly!
This describes it perfectly!
This right here is it!
Enough misfortune has ACTUALLY happened that I am once bitten twice shy, so I don't really appreciate others joking about it
OOP there it is
I find that with these videos I really need to watch them twice. The first time to sort of plant a seed to sort of think about and then the second time days later to come back and listen again how to implement. I am not sure. Does anyone else have that?
My intolerance of uncertainty has driven me close to the point of suicide. I’d rather deal with the certainty of death than the uncertainty of life I found this video at a very very bleak time in my life and I’m so glad I did. I’m going to put my intolerant worries to the test and see what happens and systematically expose myself to enough uncertainty that it no longer drives me to the brink of suicide. Thank you so much. I haven’t felt hope in so long I could cry. Thank you! I’m so grateful to have seen this. I love it when the universe gives me exactly what I need exactly when I need it. Thank you!
I'm glad you found the video so helpful. I have a few videos about intolerance of uncertainty, so I hope you will check them out and find them helpful as well. All the best with your tolerating uncertainty!
@jmgalindojr I appreciate for your strength to hold on to such a great distress until you found the right answer. Just go ahead with building steps to expose to intolerance. if necessary take a guidance too. I hope you endeavor all your wishes in life. All the best.
How are you?
This makes me want to write out a list of situations I’ve worried about that turned out fine as a reminder that my intolerance to uncertainty didn’t help or change anything other than add unnecessary stress
It's led to my severe OCD. I realised that I can't handle not knowing or being in control of everything so I use OCD. It makes me feel like I have control but it actually takes it all away because you become a slave to it. It a paradox. You know it's illogical but you have to do it. Becoming used to uncertainty is key to living with it
Dr Rami I am from India. You are a gem. I keep on ruminating about something very absurd. I got admission in my grad college through a competitive exam. The results came online, but an official result used to come through post mail. Due to some address issue , that mail never came. When i took admission in college, they gave me admission but asked me to submit the official result. 4 years passed , i graduated from college and got my degree. But now i remember that i never submitted that doc, neither the college bothered. But this fear keeps on popping that at some point of time , the college will call me cancel my degree and my whole life will be over and i will feel a terrible shame and i will be called a fake.
I sound ridiculous, but i cant do but think about it again and again
This is truly amazing. I’ve just realised I experienced a massive traumatic event in my early years(10-12). I couldn’t tell anyone for fear of how they’d react and shame. It was the uncertainty of being exposed (since someone took an unauthorised picture of my body and sent it to someone who would expose it)
For 3 years I was uncertain but ultimately knew those people didn’t like me and would come out. I kept ruminating and catastrophising everyday. When they came out I got beaten and isolated for fear of shame etc.
till this day i have realised those feelings of uncertainty trigger those same feelings somatically arise.
It’s plagued my life and avoid uncertainty at all cost.
I can’t help but despise uncertainty. But i have now acknowledged this and can’t wait to work on this and get uncomfortable because i don’t want to be paralysed by uncertainty’s
Thank you for sharing your experiences. I have done more videos on intolerance of uncertainty and plan to make more in the future, so I hope you'll check them out.
Thank you for these videos. They are so helpful. Please keep posting.
Hi Donna - I'm pleased you are finding the videos helpful. I plan to keep making more videos as long as people are finding them helpful.
Thank you so much for posting this video!
You're very welcome!
Hi Dr Rami, Thank you so much for all your excellent video’s, they are helping me so much to understand about worrying about things that never happened, I have been this way for about 65years, have finally got a bit of hope that I scan change my way of thinking. 🇬🇧👍
Hi Violet - glad you found the videos helpful. That's exactly why I started making them, in the hope that the information would be useful to people. Thanks for supporting the channel!
Thank you, this is so helpful!
Hi Adele - you're welcome. Glad you found it helpful.
Thanks for the video, Will try it !
That's awesome! All of these tools take practice, so you'll have to give it a bit of time before you start seeing the benefit. Good luck and let us know how it's going.
@@DrRamiNader thanks Dr. Nader. Will do, apperciate the time and effort.
I am so glad to have found your videos; I'll watch every one of them. The terror in my life for the last few years is catastrophic fire. I've got adrenal fatigue from that stress and other things. My late husband and I lived in the middle of the 2017 Thomas Fire in southern California. Global warming and 150 years of suppressed natural fire has left us all with a bomb. My brother and I are in one of the ten most extreme fire danger areas in Oregon. Preparation to the best of my ability is the first comfort I have. We have a limited income, love our home and 15 acres. We've thinned out most of our woods, done a lot of mowing, and have cut down most of the fire ladders. Luckily we're both fit, mostly in good health, and do it all ourselves. I've spoken to all our neighbors, and we're all ready to help each other if we can. Our buildings need significant changes for more fire-resistance, but our funds won't pay for everything at once. Year by year I'm praying we'll be spared one more season while we get a little more fire-resistant. I've prepared my evacuation items; I've videoed our property for the insurance company. Four years of yoga and meditation help. I'm on supplements to heal my adrenals. I get some comfort too from practicing stoicism, and take dance classes for fun. All I can do now is surrender to whatever happens. I won't be able to save much, but I'm ready to let go and drive out. It's a Chinese (I think?) saying: "Barn's burned down. Now I can see the moon." It's a peculiar, comforting mantra.
I love you Dr Ramy, you are giving us hope
Hi Ahmed - Thank you for your kind words. I'm glad you find the videos helpful and hopeful.
Yes sir . Quality info and practical strategies thank you !
You're very welcome! Glad you found the video helpful.
Really enjoyed this and looking forward to trying out the experiment!
I wish you all the best in your efforts to feel better!
Thanks man, these videos are on point. 👊
Hi Dane, you're very welcome. Glad you have found the videos helpful.
Really good vids. Keep them going please Rami.
Thanks for the encouragement! I plan to keep making videos as long as people keep finding them helpful.
Wow thank you ❤❤
Glad it was helpful!
Thanks a lot
I hope to learn ACT in your simple amazing way
I can’t express to you how much I appreciate your content. I never comment on CZcams videos, but you’ve help me adjust my mindset in dealing with uncertainty in life.
I'm so pleased to hear that and happy that you have found the videos helpful!
@@DrRamiNader can you do a video on how to improve the growth mindset.
Not sure what you mean about a growth mindset.
@@DrRamiNader I read about how people deal with fear. Their perspective is a growth mindset or a fixed mindset. You explain things so clearly. I wondered if you have a video that discusses that.
@@DrRamiNader Never mind....I think I found the answer as I went back and listened to the talk about procrastination and uncertainty. Thanks again. The way you explain things is so easy for me to understand. I am literally in tears right now. I am most grateful.
brilliant..
Glad you found it useful.
This is wonderful @drraminader. It can apply to wide range of cognitive distortions i guess. Thank you so much for your content.
You're very welcome. I'm glad you found the video helpful.
THANK YOU, that's what you left out in your popular lecture of generalized anxiety, because you explained what it is but you didn't tell us how to overcome it, that's why I suggested you do a video about it when you asked for suggestions.
Glad you found it useful. There is so much to managing worry and so many tools one can learn about, it takes a while to explain it all. That's why this video series is going to be more than 10 videos.
This is great. I'd love to see a journal or two on this. Mainly because I am including intolerance of uncertainty in my Personal Development Plan for my MBA.
Hi Blake - look up Michel Dugas and Intolerance of Uncertainty. He's done a lot of work on the topic and developed the protocol I discuss in this video series.
I am probably going to repeat something you said in a different way: I find that releasing one's demands for results is huge. If the only way to be happy in an situation is to have my expectations met, an unreasonable burden exists. Hence, if X is the only acceptable result, and Y is the actual result, I have lost control, failed, and can slide off the edge. Billy Joel had sage advice "leave a tender moment alone".
You are absolutely correct Joe. I've talked about that exact same point in other videos. Thanks for your comment and thanks for supporting the channel!
Day one ticked off! Your explanation of intolerable of uncertainty made me really take stock of my triggers/bad habits for worrying consciously and subconsciously. Tried your exercise and can't explain how much joy ot have me when I reviewed the situation after and realised I had nothing to worry about. Tonight's job is to start a journal as I have seen.lots of suggestions as it helps process our thoughts. Would.love to hear your opinion on keeping journals as a tool to help anxiety
I like the idea of keeping a record of tolerating uncertainty experiments that people do. A bit different than journals, but a similar idea.
Every day I'm terrified of going to work and go anyway. And each morning I'm just as terrified of going, regardless if I went to work or not the previous day.
Your videos are brilliant. Thank you. Most of my worry is about hypothetical big stuff i.e., terrorist attacks, economic turmoil, social instability. I may not experience these things concretely on a daily basis but when they are ever present in news feeds popping up all around me, how can I reduce my worry about them? Because, essentially, there is pretty much always something bad happening somewhere in the world and so therefore one day it could be happening to me. Thanks. John
Thank you so much for your videos in this series Dr. Rami. I’m 41 years old and now looking back have avoided so many things (driving is the big one) but never really understood why. This is truly life changing and I’d put off even things such as calling the doctor due to feeling embarrassed and/ or judged. Could intolerance of uncertainty also be linked to low self esteem? I feel there is a connection between the two in my life.
I am using your tools and am feeling more tolerant/ confident each day. Thank you again.
Hi Nicky - thank you for your kind words and I'm glad you have found the videos helpful!
Thank you so much for your video - I've been using your worksheet for months. Unfortunately, most of my negative predictions come true - about 60% are the negative outcomes. Do you have more tips about how to avoid/eliminate uncertainty in my life?
My psychologist told me to do these experiments but I really didn't understand the way she explained it. Thanks so much for your video, it's a lot clearer now! I feel more able to start
Good to hear. So glad you found the video helpful!
I suffer with GAD and have intrusive thoughts OCD and was told I have a lot of intolerance of uncertainty which comes from assumptions on social media. These are really helpful when my anxiety plays up. Thank you so much
Glad you found the videos helpful!
I’m trying to tell myself lately, “whether this goes well or not won’t matter to you months from now.”
That's a great way of putting things into perspective.
Great video :-)
Glad you found it helpful!
Hi Dr. Nader,
Very useful video. I had a presentation of my study about the role of Intolerance of Uncertainty in the psychological negative impacts of COVID pandemic at the University of Western Australia and presented the ways you suggested for increasing tolerance of uncertainty. Would really appreciate if you create a similar video for perfectionism too. I'm sure that would be very practical and helpful too. Thanks again :)
That's a great idea for a video topic. Will add it to my list. Thanks for watching the video!
Dr Nader, I find your videos really great and very informative. I have been struggling with hypochondria for the past 30 years and I have had a thousand times where I thought that my symptoms were cancer and it always turned well. (I am 60 today). But it hasn't really helped me build confidence that my predictions were not accurate. It usually starts with a symptom (type 1 worry I presume) and then i start building the most negative scenario (the difficulties of treatments, dying, my family never recovering from the loss) and thats type 2 worry I think, so I immediately seek doctor's advice, have tests that turn out negative but it has never helped me become convinced that it always turn out okay. And my therapist always advises not to check with tests or doctor's appointments because it is perpetuating my anxiety. Now if I should do your number one way of managing the uncertainty, I would have to run the tests and see that it turns okay. But it never worked for me, and at every new uncertainty experience, I get convinced that THIS time will be the one when things turn negative. Now if I had to apply the 2nd way you describe, and ask myself what I would do if I were more tolerant of uncertainty, then I wouldnt run to be checked at the occurence of any symptom and I would wait and see. But I think it would be hard for me. What do you think about my experience? I have watched your videos 1 to 5 and will be continuing, there are really great and I hope you'll go on expanding your channel.
I would suggest you follow the advice of your therapist. In the situation you describe, tolerating uncertainty would mean not checking or seeing the doctor to get reassurance. It's not the behavior that defines if something is intolerant of uncertainty, but the motivation behind the behavior. So if I'm avoiding seeing the doctor when I have symptoms because I'm afraid they are going to tell me there's something seriously wrong, tolerating uncertainty would mean making an appointment to see the doctor. If, everytime I have symptoms, I make an appointment right away to see my doctor to get reassurance that there isn't something seriously wrong, then tolerating uncertainty would mean not making the appointment and seeing what happens.
@@DrRamiNader thank you, ya it makes sense!
You're welcome! Thanks for contributing to this channel.
I'm currently doing my PhD in decision making under deep uncertainty. You can find similarities among these approaches and some concepts you used in this- and previous- video, even though they came from a totally different field. Thank you very much, you explain very well.
Hi Matias - thank you for your comment and insights. Best of luck with your PhD!
would love to hear more about this
Crazy you are making these when I got anxiety lol. I liked your anxiety presentation, I had it on my watch later for months and just watched it a couple days ago. The assurance has helped so far. Thank you for all the information
Hi Michael, you're welcome. I'm glad you're funding the videos helpful.
Great video, thank you! Can you tell me how to access the worksheet that you mentioned I don't see it under the video?
Hi Connie - glad you found the video helpful - it's part of a 14-part video series on managing Generalized Anxiety Disorder and excessive worry. The link to the worksheet is in the description of the video, just below the video (you may need to expand it by clicking on the down arrow next to the video title if you're watching it on a phone or "Show more" if you're watching it on a computer). Regardless, here's the link: tinyurl.com/yyazpwrv Hope that helps.
God bless you
Thank you for your kind words.
Hi Dr，thank you for your videos. I have a question.I know that I need to become more tolerant, but where is that borderline, and at what level of tolerance is it safe? And we can't know the exact probability of something happening, we can only rely on our feelings.
You are correct. So the idea is to try and see what happens. Sometimes it will turn out badly, but that also gives a person an opportunity to see that they can cope even when bad things do happen.
Dr. Rami, you have given me a good overview about anxiety. Thank you.
I started an online CBT in Toronto. I’m at the first step. Application has asked me to set a smart goal. (Simple...Manageable...). Unfortunately I have a little chance to describe my whole story and I’m wondering how can I make sure I’m setting the right goal.
I’ll try to get help from them. But I chose overcoming intolerance of uncertainty for some extents(from 9 to 6 in one month.
I am certain about my GAD. My question is whether or not the I.U is the source of anxiety? ( specially type 2). Or I U might be a result of a deeper cause?
Should I find the reason I.U. Is so strong in me? Should I set my goal for that more original cause? Is there such a thing?
And... I fully get the idea of I U but why some people have it and some others don’t ( or have more tolerance)? Is it genetic? Do we learn it in life?
Thanks
There are a lot of factors that can contribute to anxiety and IU - life experiences, genetics, temperament, learned behaviors, modelling from parents etc. When I do therapy with my clients, my focus is less on where the problem came from and more a focus on what is maintaining the problem. You may never be able to find out exactly why you have a particular anxiety condition, but you can focus on the things that are maintaining the condition and make changes in those things.
Makes a good sense! Thank your!
@@mohsenhaghighi9750 You're welcome!
Doc
What a great question! What would I do if I were more tolerant of uncertainty? I will use that mantra.
Question:
I wonder if people who worry buy more lotto tickets? At some point, the numbers will happen. That is kinda why I continue to worry.🤔
Hi Steve - not sure about the lottery ticket thing. I think most people who worry a lot would worry about not winning and wasting their money.
I did a triathlon, I never thought I could do one. But with 6 months of training, I managed it even having manflu on the day. My gym instructor told me to chose a goal that i was unfamiliar with, so I did.
Hi Thelma - thanks for sharing. That's the kind of thing that I'm talking about in this video. Tolerate the uncertainty, attempt something you're not sure you can do (or that worry tells you you cannot do) and see what happens.
@@DrRamiNader the beauty was looking backwards after the event, nearly 12 months ago now, 15th September 2019. The event itself was the reward for all the training I had done, the event got me in the pool, gym and on my bike for a solid 6 months. The training was the cake, the event was the icing on the cake. I nearly didn't do the event due to illness a few days leading up, but I couldn't live with having to wait another year. Now with covid, that wait might have been 2 years or maybe never. Hopefully that makes sense. Thanks for your time and the vids. 👍🏿
Makes perfect sense. I had a very similar experience running a local marathon in May 2019 and, through a remarkable serious of events (a number of "happy accidents"), I ended up running the NYC marathon in November 2019. It's amazing what can happen when you step out and push yourself to do things that you otherwise wouldn't typically do.
@@DrRamiNader Definitely and well done. Something else that helps me is the result isn't important. No one else cares about my result, so why should I? Good enough is good enough, seems the process is the key, result is whatever it is. King procrastinator out. 👍🏿
I strugle with worry and anxiety when I sit and study or read books, sometimes even before studying I feel a lot of anxiety, so my problem as i think is trynna understand very well what i'm reading or studying without missing any information and this makes me very anxious and exausted. could you please tell me which type of axiety i am suffer from? and how can i be aware of my worries? can I use the worry dairy you gave us in the video of worry awareness? thank you for your precious efforts to help us
Hi - I can't comment on what type of anxiety you might have, but you can certainly use the worry diary from an earlier video to become more aware of what you are worrying about.
What if 95/100 it IS a bad outcome? This is what happens for me.… it is VERY hard overcome the anxiety and panic that comes with it....there is a correlation with the action in this situation so i am trying to use THAT as the focus to tolerate the uncertainty
If 95% of the time things turn out badly, then the emotional reaction is not the problem. The problem is being in a situation where 95% of the time things go wrong.
I'm worried that my son has autism, and what that's going to look like in terms of the supports he will need and how that will impact my own life. Will I need to leave my job to take care of him? Will we be able to afford his therapy on one income? Will he learn to communicate and make friends? I am worrying myself sick and we haven't even scheduled him to be evaluated yet. But I appreciated this video because it made me remember recent past times of uncertainty where I felt just as anxious about the future, yet everything went better than expected. I'm going to do an uncertainty experiment this week during a funder meeting. Maybe I will speak up just one time and see what happens.
Best of luck in your efforts to feel better. I hope you feel better soon.
It’s nice to hear some helpful input without New Age music playing in the background along with visualization messages. I can’t listen to those. They make me more anxious.
That's never been my style. There are a lot of different approaches in psychology and the reason I like cognitive behavioral therapy is that it explains what's going on with practical tools to address it. Glad you found the video helpful.
Dr. Nader, thank you so much for giving such detailed explanation on worrying. I am literally thinking myself to death. Your suggestions and analysis make a lot of sense to me. Thank you!
You're welcome! Glad you found it useful and hopefully you've had a chance to watch my other videos on worry and worry management. Take care.
Hello Dr Rami,I watched almost all of ur vedios,I Wana know how to manage TYPE 2 Worries,Type 1 Worries are Easy to manage But A Worry About Something Bad Will happen In Future is Very difficult to manage,,,,,And Can U bring a vedio on how to become emotionally strong...
I'm glad you are watching the videos and finding them helpful. The worry management skills that I am discussing in these videos apply to both type 1 and type 2 worries. As the video series continues, I will get into more specific skills for type 2 worries. Stay tuned. In terms of becoming more emotionally strong, I'll add that to my list of video ideas. Thanks!
What is my predictions are mostly right and negative in experience? How to tackle that ? It induces anxiety.
In situations where people's negative predictions are always right, it means that there is something wrong with their environment. If that is the case, the worries aren't excessive, but represent what is actually going on. So the person would have to focus on making changes in their environment rather than trying to eliminate the worry.
How do you apply this to harm ocd?
Can this help to worries about something I don't know if I did it in the past?
I'm sorry, but I don't understand what you mean.
Dr Rami Can U Plzz tell what is the reason behind Mood Changes...
Could you tell me a little more about what you are asking for? Mood changes in the context of excessive worry? Or something else?
@@DrRamiNader Yes in the Context of Excessive worry,I get stuck in things,Whether To Do It or Not,So much Confusion as Im Suffering from GAD
Sounds good. I will add that to my list of topics to cover in future videos.
The very fact that a person has reached the stage where he has actually become 'intolerant' of uncertainties proves that almost all his earlier experiences regarding major real life issues turned out negative! So now expecting him to go through a set of imagined uncertainties thinking they won't turn out bad is quite impractical.
I've never met a person who had every uncertain situation in their life turn out negatively. If 100% of the time that a person is uncertain, bad things happen, then they should fear uncertainty and should not be doing tolerating uncertainty experiments, because the outcomes will always be negative.
Hey...I am Binish from India...I have OCD and would like to overcome...can we work together to make a transformation video that explains different stages that I go through so that it would inspire people? It actually took almost half an hour for me to type this. Funny thing is I dont have anytging to offer but you can post the video on your channel
I understand your felling because I also have gad.if you want we can do something together
to help ourself and other Indian sufrer by gathering them and next plan will be after this. I know you can think that i am stupid. But according to me one man can't do anything alone in this situation but if we come together than there is a hope for you for me and for other suferers .
Dr. Rami, I am not sure if I am certain or uncertain 😂
2:07 predictions
2:50 t.u. experiments
10:28 act as if You are tolerant
11:23 if i were more tolerant......?
So, I get triggered easily…but in my experience, I’m right a lot of the time…does that mean I’m not so intolerant of uncertainty but just don’t listen to my intuition?
But if you don't worry, is the bad thing more likely to happen? And does worrying stop it from happening? Is this Anxiety or OCD?
I'd encourage you to take a look at this video and the next one in the series: czcams.com/video/Ss-lybWi5wE/video.html
I have constant worry that my partner is cheating or will cheat on me. I have no evidence of that. How would I “test” this as an experiment?
In a situation like this, the goal would be to think about all of the intolerant of uncertainty behaviors that a person might do in these situations (e.g., seeking reassurance from partner, calling to check where they are, snooping their messages) and eliminating those behaviors.
I guess my question is based on the ideas discussed in this video how do I go about eliminating these?
I've done some videos on building tolerance to uncertainty and you can find one of them here: czcams.com/video/UL8ayC0Fe9Y/video.html
I have 2 examples of toleration experiments: 1) refrain from making the pointless comeback remark on social media. 2) To just stop in the evening, and have a quiet conversation with my wife without doing the busy work that I believe makes my life worthwhile. Actually 3)! I'm not going to reread and edit this comment
All really good examples of intolerance of uncertainty experiments!
My worry for the last 2 years is that I will get COVID and die. How would I experiment on this worry without exposing myself to COVID?
This sounds like a type 2 worry. So there are a number of tools to better manage this type of worry. In terms of IU experiments, I encourage my clients to think about all of the things they do to try and keep themselves "safe" and to try dropping some of those safety behaviours. A person can also work in challenging beliefs about the usefulness of worry and cognitive exposure as needed. You can find more information here: czcams.com/video/nr68o7eBmBQ/video.html
@@DrRamiNader Thanks for your response. I failed to mention I am immunocompromised so there is a real risk about having a negative outcome from COVID. Do you still suggest the approach for type 2 worry when there is an actual health issue that I cannot stop worrying about? Thanks in advance.
May I ask whether immunocompromised means that you are more likely to catch covid, or if the effects could possibly be more severe?
@@joebuckaroo82 more severe outcome
What do I do if I worry about suicide?
That is a complex question that I can't really answer. There is a big difference between worrying about suicide and being actively suicidal. For example, if I worry that if I don't get control over my anxiety, some day I might become suicidal is a lot different than actively having thoughts of killing myself and worrying if I'm going to do it.
Dr. Rami Nader definitely worrying that if my anxiety doesn’t get under control I’ll become suicidal.
So that would be a type 2 worry (a worry about a future or potential problem). The worry management skills that I am presenting in these videos would apply to that type of worry as well.
Dr. Rami Nader OK great thanks
@@DrRamiNaderI'm confused at how to apply my worry your scenario. Any advice would be great.
The dark background makes me feel uncertain
The lighting improves in later videos.
Can you tolerate uncertainty too much?
Yes, when it crosses over into reckless or irresponsible. So it's a balance to get to reasonable levels of uncertainty.
woah, obviously not talking about peeps with OCD lol
You are not a real doctor yo do discrimination. Replying only to selected people good idea to increase patient. Heartless.
I have replied to you a number of times. Maybe it's a translation issue, but I don't know what you are asking and don't know what question you want me to answer. If you ask me a question I understand and can answer, I will answer it.