A difficult week... Life update
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- čas přidán 15. 07. 2023
- I would love to tell you all about my frugal life and all of the money-saving stuff I have done this week, but in reality, I have been spending all my time in the hospital with my poor old dad. Here is an update.
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May our loving Father greatly bless you all with his peace and grace 🙏
wishing you your dad and all your family all the very best.
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Prayers for you all ❤🙏
It's hard watching ur parents get old n sick, feeling helpless. I will keep u n ur family in my prayers
Thanks. They always seemed invincible , but of course no one is
I think we forget that Covid is still very much a thing. My Mum ended up on a ward last November having gone down with it, thinking she just had a bad cold and soldiered on and then ended up in A&E and turned out to have Covid and pneumonia. She only stayed for 4 days because being in hospital was making her worse and stressed out but the recovery at home was still very slow. Very scary as we'd all pretty sailed through since 2020. So sorry to hear all this has happened to you. What a nightmare! I hope everything works out and your Dad gets to come home.
Yes, it’s definitely still a thing and dangerous for vulnerable people. I’m glad your mum recovered.
My heart goes out to you...been there, its exhausting...it will turn around...
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I hope so, thanks
Thank you for sharing what's going on in your life right now. I pray your parents get better soon. I understand what it's like to be at the hospital all day with a loved one. It really drains you and it's more tiring than working. Take care of yourself.
Thank you. Sadly we lost dad a few months ago but Mum is doing ok
Sorry to hear about your dad. Sending prayers across the miles.
Wow, Jane ! When it rains, it pours ! Please take good care of you ! Hope everyone is back to normal soon. You are a godsend !!
Thanks! I’m taking it day by day
Prayers for your family!!
Prayers for your parents 🙏🏻
Thanks for a life update. Praying for your dad.
Prayers for you and your family.
Thinking of you ❤💐
you are a very good daughter, i hope your dad is feeling better soon.
Sending big hugs 💖💖🥰
Wishing you all the best
Get well soon Janes dad. ❤❤❤
So sorry to hear of your father.
Sending love ❤❤
Thank you for sharing
Hope your parents are better soon x
Thinking of you x
God bless your heart! So much to juggle! Here's to a speedy recovery to everyone!
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Big hugs 🤗❤ remember to look after yourself while caring for your dad.
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Goodness gracious! What an ordeal for all of you. I wish you all the best.
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Wishing all your family good health. Well done for all you are doing.
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Thank you for the update. Im sorry you are going through this. I know how exhausted you are as I went through this with my parents 15 years ago. Take care of yourself xx
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So sorry. Take contining care of yourself...
Sending hugs to you Jane, what a challenge for you all, hope your Dad is soon home, that your mum is ok and that you remain well xx
Thanks so much 🙏
Sending you and your family all positive waves that things will work out for the best and your lives will be less stressful. So much for you all to deal with at once!
Thanks so much!
My mom had covid at 85. She also had confusion. It's very common in the elderly with covid. My mother was hallucinating and didn't know us. She also had bladder infection! She got well, came home and was fine. She got it a second time but way less severe and was not hospitalized the second time. Wishing him fast recovery ❤. Sciatica is so painful, I have had chronic sciatica for 4 years.
It’s awful! No one knows the pain until they have had it. Worse than childbirth! I’m glad your mum came out the other side.
Sorry to hear your dad is poorly. You are giving him wonderful care while he’s in there. I bet the nurses appreciate you being there, making sure he eats something. xx
Oh Jane if it rains it pours. Take care
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I’m so sorry to hear about your dad Jane! I am going through a similar situation with my elderly mother too at the moment. She suffered a silent stroke recently and has been in and out of hospital. It’s a bit of an emotional roller coaster thinking that this is it and you ready yourself for the worst but amazingly they pull through! Fingers crossed you don’t get Covid 🤞All the very best to you and your family and a big hug from your CZcams friend in Australia XO
I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope your mum makes a full recovery ❤️🩹
Thinking of you and your family and sending get well wishes for all. 😊
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Best wishes for a speedy recovery for your family, I know it is hard to deal with❤
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You sound very strong Jane, I wish your Dad a very speedy recovery!
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So sorry to hear this. Really hope things start to improve soon xx
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I'm so glad your Dad is on the mend at last. I'm jealous of your new air fryer lol, I plan to get a double one once my current one is past it, I must be patient 🙂
I’m glade you are taking care of yourself! So important, especially now. Hang in there.💕🐇
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Bless you Jane!❤ so much going on for you and your family at the moment, one thing on top of another!
Sorry to hear Dad was admitted back to hospital but it had to be under the circumstances.
Isnt it strange how these infection take hold and make the sufferer delerious and imagine all sorts!
My Dad was the same in hospital, he said there was a circus come to the ward and was very sure with details! We just agreed with most things he'd come out with so as not to cause upset:)
Hope you don't come down with Covid, last thing you need...
Hope your Dad continues to make steady progress.🤞
Thank you. I am still clear so far, thankfully.
Oh Jane, what a rough time! I hope your Dad recovers soon and you manage to escape Covid. UTIs are so difficult for elderly people, and can totally mess up their mental status. Please take very good care, and hope for better weeks to come! 💜💜💜
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Oh Jayne, what a blinking nightmare for you! Wishing your Dad a speedy recovery and everyone else in your family. Hoping you can get back to some kind of normality very soon. X
Thank you. We still hope he will recover
Sending 🤗 life can really test our durability at times!
I’m sorry you got stuck in that accident, we saw it as we were driving back and fortunately for us the police car started slowing traffic and we managed to turn off and drive through the town. But the tailbacks were huge and at standstill as we drove the other way!
Oh dear! I think they were lucky in a way that they were only just behind it before it got totally gridlocked
So sorry your dads in hospital again. Visiting can be so tireing please look after yourself.💐💐
Thanks, my siblings have been able to go the last few days
Keeping you and yours in my thoughts and prayers. Sorry you wre carrying such a heavy load these days. Try and get a bit of rest...Susan
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My heart goes out to you. I’ve been in the same situation with my parents when they were ill. Both gone now. It’s a tough road. 😘😘😘😘😘
It certainly is, and I’m lucky to still have them. It is very tough.
Jane, I am sorry to hear that your Dad is back in hospital and that covid is doing the rounds in your family. Such a lot for you to deal with so take care and I hope everyone is better soon.
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Hope your family is on the mend. Went through similar things with my MIL two years ago. My doctor really hesitates to put anyone in the hospital because of catching things and this was before Covid. Glad you can still find gratitude in things. Take care of yourself!
I certainly wish he had never gone in. Nothing is resolved and he is now much worse!
I agree with blossom end rot as your plant problem. You have been having a tough time with your parents. It really saps your strength and makes your health vulnerable so look after yourself. Hope your parents will overcome all the problems they're experiencing. Stay strong. You're a good daughter.
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I hope you all get clear soon. And feel better. Im so glad you fed your Dad,that would have made the difference. The nurses and HCAs just dont have the time to devote to each individual patient but they do try.
Most of the nurses are brilliant, but do seem grateful when I’m there to help. Thanks
Sounds like the gods were with you. There was a solution to all the problems.
Hang in there Jane you are doing very well taking care of dad n mum. Most people would not have done half as much as you. All will be better. Eat healthy n drink lots of water to be in good health ❤.
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Hi ❤ its not normal this way either we were at hospital from 8 pm untile 2 am
The same thing happened with my mum really bad bladder infection with the sepis. She was completely away with the fairies for two weeks ,she even escaped the ward and was found outside going for a taxi. She finally came through it but has had reoccurring bladder infection ever since. She was that confused the hospital thought she had dementia till we set them straight. Hope your dad will recover soon.X
Oh my goodness! At least my dads not mobile enough to escape. This is the second time he has had one this bad but the confusion is so much worse this time. I would like to get him off the catheter asap as he gets constant UTIs when he has one
When it rains, it pours. With all this your family should be past all of the gremlins soon - for the year. 😄 Very good to hear you're being careful with your own health - you're last man standing right now so the whole team is counting on you. Sending you blessings of extra strength and good cheer.
Thank you. Getting more help now, luckily
Oh goodness Jane, so sorry to hear all that. You're doing a great job with it all. Well done. I do hope your parents get better really soon and can enjoy more of their time together. Perhaps some sort of care plan to help them stay well and in their own home would be possible if the UK government have that sort of thing. If you're not sure, maybe Age Concern can give you some advice. Anyway, thinking of you over here in Australia.
Yes there is a care plan in place and it will be extended when he is released. No idea when that will be at the moment, sadly.
You’re a lovely daughter, it’s a good sign your dad will eat and drink when you’re there, that’s half the battle. What a worry and no wonder you’re exhausted xx hang in there lovely xx
Thank you. Yes, thankfully he will eat a bit and drink but needs help.
I’m sad to hear that your dad is back in the hospital and that both of your parents have Covid.
I’ll be praying for you and your entire family. It’s hard when illness keeps everyone in the family from helping care for elderly parents.
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Jane do hope your Dad recovers soon. Such a lot on your plate right now.
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Hang in there, you're doing really well in extremely difficult circumstances.
My 91 year old stepfather is in hospital after a stroke a few weeks back, he also has a bad urine infection that has brought on delirium after being disoriented by being in hospital.
Wishing you and your family the best. Sharing makes us all feel a bit less alone with all of this. ❤
Yes it does. Wishing your stepfather a speedy recovery ❤️🩹
Blossom end rot... over watered... at least you have some eatables. Shame about your dad... hopefully he will recover enough to get back home. chins up 👍🥰
Jane, so very sorry you and your family are having so many hurdles Health wise right now. From my own nursing experience (in the US), I have experienced a few elderly patients having very confused, stroke like symptoms when they have a bad UTI (Bladder infection). Hopefully, as the infection clears up from the antibiotic treatment, your Dad will be more coherent and like himself.
Glad you mentioned this. This is a very common problem that for some reason doctors miss! The family is the best safeguard for their seniors.
Yes, lots of people have said this. It’s very odd!
I found out with my grandparents and then parents that a UTI, bladder infections, etc. frequently cause confusion and dementia and when the antibiotics and hydration finally kick in the dementia/confusion start to abate and then go away. I am so sorry you are dealing with all of this. Also just wanted to say how much I enjoy your vlogs!
Thank you. I can’t wait for the confusion to go! It’s very hard to see
Glad they are on the ball with yr dad's infection Jane. My mum was in hospital and got a UTI, they were not looking after her properly, and it progressed to Sepsis very quickly, and sadly we lost her. She was very confused and mixed up, no one picked up on it. Just be vigilant love, I wish I'd have known more about it. Glad he's picking up, try and get yr feet up if you can love.
Take care
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Thanks! He did have sepsis - second time. But they blasted him with anti Bs and he seems to be on the mend. So sorry about your mum. Heartbreaking 💔
@ShoestringJane Thanks Jane, I always feel I need to make people aware, as I knew nothing about it. It totally broke me losing her, she was quite fit and in good health, and only 71.
Just want to add, I love your channel, not only do you have some great tips on making our money go further, but you have some great words of wisdom, much appreciated!!!
Take care
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All the best to all of your family ❤❤❤ your Dad sounds like a fighter!!! Thank goodness!!!
My prayers go out to you and your family!!!!
I am dealing with sort of similar things right now. My Dad passed away with ALS in late 2015 and I was a basket case throughout his illness and for years after (other things contributed to that as well). I finally began feeling better a couple of years ago and am fighting my way back to a new normal (a healthier one) and now my Mom is ill. She has back/leg/feet issues and Parkinson's. My family went away for 5 days in late June and my only sibling stayed with Mom while we were gone. She caught a cold from him and got very weak while he was with her. She fell 3 times and now she can't manage to walk (weakness--nothing broken or anything) and has to be helped into a wheelchair, We're having a horrible time caring for her. My oldest daughter stays with her and cleans house, cooks, runs errands, etc., but she also works and Mom has to have someone with her nearly around the clock. She has to have help to and in the bathroom and shower. My husband, myself, and our other children have been going there to help out and I have been sending meals, but it's not enough. We are trying to hire care in-home but there are few people available who can lift as part of care. We do not want to put her in a nursing home and it will be nearly impossible for me to bring her to our home because I can't get her in and out of the bathroom and deal with toileting and showers by myself and my husband works 6 days a week. The only help I'd have is our youngest daughter. Idk what to do and things are getting harder. She has physical therapy people coming this week to help strengthen her so we can possibly get her back on a walker and able to move around...but this is a terrible situation. My sibling lives in NY and we're in WV--a 10 hour drive.
I don't mean to complain to you...just letting you know that my heart goes out to you in a very real way. God bless and I hope your Dad and everyone else in your family are well soon!
God how awful! Parkinson’s is a terrible illness, my father in law had it. It’s very tough for families, but I hate to think what happens to people who don’t have good support. Sounds like your daughter is a diamond!
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It is exhausting at the hospital.
UTI’s can be NASTY, especially in the elderly. I care for my elderly mum who has vascular dementia and every time she appears more confused or erratic I test her urine (you can buy the strips online) and I also hand a sample into the the surgery for testing. Wishing your family a speedy recovery ❤
Oh very interested to hear you can buy test strips! I will be getting some of those for when he comes home. Thanks!
Yes I'm a retired RN who worked in aged care for quite a few years.Anytime a resident who was normally lucid became confused,I would text the urine and 95 /100 it would be a UTI.
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Your poor dad - we're having a similar week. My dad's still in hospital and having awful hallucinations. Also appears to have had a small stroke so we're having real difficulties understanding him and him realising we are there. The hallucinations are really common in older people with urinary tract infections. Its awful to watch. I feel for you. Its half living isn't it. I hope we both have a better week this week. On a different note - I believe your courgettes rotting is a pollination issue. Its incomplete, so they don't fully form the fruit.
Oh dear, sorry you are going through this too. Yes, very odd how a UTI can cause such confusion. I hope your dad improves soon. Take care x
Mine are the same apparently happens when there's a lack of pollinators to pollinate the courgettes.
I crushed up eggshells around the roots and have been more consistent with the watering and it has improved the situation a lot.
@@ShoestringJane oh that's good. I've got eggshells around mine already and watering not an issue in central Scotland! We get plenty of water! But I think because it's been so wet there haven't been many bees and flying insects about. When it was hot and dry I was getting loads of great quality courgettes now they aren't doing so well. Got quite a few bags in the freezer though at least. We thank God for small things. ❤️
The courgette seems to have blossom end rot. Your plant needs calcium.
My brother had a bladder infection while in hospital He was doing lots of strange things He was ringing the police telling them the nurses were been beaten up lots of daft things but he said all this was real to him Eventually they said the infection he had mimics dementia xx Hope Dad gets better soon and your mum
It’s so strange that UTIs do this! I wish it would go but he’s still confused.
Oh Jane what an awful time you’re going through how exhausting for you. I hope everyone recovers soon. x
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Sounds like your Dad has a water infection. I hope he gets better soon x
He definitely does, as well as covid. Double whammy. 🙏
Sorry for your parents health issues. Seeing friends here in the U.S. getting Covid that have been vaccinated. Hang in there!
We are all vaccinated. I think it lessens how bad the illness is for most but it’s still not great for the vulnerable.
@@ShoestringJane You are right. I had it after five vaccinations and was not very sick at all, and I am 81. I think this may become one of the periodical shots that we will need to get.
That "ucky rot" at the end of your yellow squash still looks like "blossom end rot". Blossom end rot is actually caused by a lack of proper calcium delivery through the fruit. Of course the calcium is delivered via water transport within the plant. Inconsistent watering can be a cause which occurs when the plant goes too dry inbetween waterings. It can occur and/ or be more prominent when the soil is calcium deficient too. In our area which has more rain for more months than other parts of the country, tje calcium can leach out of the soil.
Thanks. I have broken up loads of eggshells and put them by the roots. Do you think that will help?
@@ShoestringJane Egg shells are slow release calcium. Crumble them in your hand into 1/4'-ish (?2cm) size while not bring concerned about the inner skin/connective tissue because thst will quickly decompose into nothing. If ypu mix the egg shell crumbles with coffee grounds (or tea leaves) they will dissappear all the quicker between chemical changes and worms. Scratch the egg shells into the dirt a touch and thry will work thier way down to mechanically/ physically assist in creating better soil loft. - BTW You can use any form of seafood shell similarly but youneill,want to wash to remove salt.
My 96 yr old parents are both on an isolation ward with it. She has dementia so it’s very difficult to calm her down. No visitors allowed for the minimum 10 days. I’ve been permitted to visit my mum as she is so distressed and I’m the only one who can calm her a bit, but I can’t see my dad. I have to have the lft each day before I get access to the ward. Nightmare.
God, how awful for you! At least I can visit and only one of my parents is hospitalised. I hope they both recover soon. Take care x
People need to understand that covid is on the rise everywhere. I worked in a covid unit during the pandemic and it was horrible. I’m surprised they let you visit him while he has covid. We have no visitors allowed when patient is on covid quarantine isolation. I never got covid for the two years I worked on covid unit. I contracted covid while in hospital for open heart surgery. Luckily it wasn’t a serious case. Due to pandemic I went part time nursing schedule after 38 years working full time.
I'm so glad they allowed it. Dad has since died and I didn't get covid whilst visiting (although I did later from my daughters!). It was really important for me to spend time with him. You're right though - there is a lot of it about. 8 of my family members have had it now.
Hello Jane. Here I was scrolling through CZcams and the title of your video jumped out at me and beckoned. Oh gosh, your life sounds to be in complete turmoil right now and you must feel totally rundown. I do hope your dad's health improves so that he can return home soon......though that will probably not lighten the load for you. And so much covid in your family as well, fingers crossed you continue to show negative. I have never had covid, my husband either even though he has compromising blood cancer issues. I have had 5 jabs, and he 6 so I should think we are well and truly covered, although there is no guarantee. I bet you are missing your darling Archie while you are home alone. Our Alice turned 11 last week and I have made her promise she will live forever. We are going to be babysitting another golden retriever for a week from tomorrow. He is only 9 months old and just been desexed so will arrive wearing a leg bruising cone of shame. He chewed his first cone up and got stuck into his wound ripping all the sutures out, so that has been redone and he is now sporting an even bigger leg bruiser. Will be fun in our house with 2 goldens at opposite ends of the age scale! Looks as though you have had a bumper crop of veggies Jane, well done. We are in the middle of a very cold winter in Sth Aust - minus 2 here this morning and continuing to be similar for the next week at least. Now I must catch up on all your Shoestring videos I have missed. Warm wishes 🐾🥰
Aww, thanks, Marion. Oh my goodness that pup sounds a right pickle! At least wearing a cone he won’t chew your house up. Good luck with that, you are very brave 😂😂
Is his sodium levels ok.
Think so. He is much better now, thanksfully
Getting old sucks!