WHY DO WE MAKE OUR LIVES SO COMPLICATED?
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- čas přidán 7. 05. 2024
- It's a deep one today! I am talking about simplifying your life and money. It's also a long one, so get a mug of tea and take a seat :)
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Great video, Jane! I too am an introvert but didn’t know it for years as I thought being an introvert meant being shy and quiet; I am neither but I have a very low tolerance for socialising and need solid at-home-just-being time afterwards. Complex, chaotic, speedy living is complete anathema to me and I feel so sorry for people who live those kind of lives. One of the reasons I so enjoy your channel is because I get a sense of calm from your videos. Keep up the good work!
Me as well! I can go to a large party and after a few hours I’d love to go find a quiet chair and read! My brother on the other hand is a complete extrovert and thrives on parties and socializing….
Yes me too, she’s great and very kind ❤
Me too, a low tolerance for socialising - could be me saying that 😀
Me as well,,, I have 5 months to retirement, have lived and worked at a fishing lodge, for many years, andI’m in a RV, right next to the BBQ area!and all the RV people have bbq,s all the time. I go for as long as I can stand it and then just disappear. Good thing is my boss knows I don’t care to go, and has told me to please myself. My position is taking care of cabins and the cabin guests, not the RV people. So,to be polite, I will go this season, say hello to everyone and then leave!!! I don’t think they realize I am tired as I work everyday day all season, and I just want quiet time, and I can’t stand 20 people talking all at once. Interesting that I’m not the only person who is very happy, in my own company! Winter is wonderful, I get to just gaze a the beautiful mountains and snow, and wildlife. Winter recharges me ! Also Jane nice topic today, IAM really doing a very low buy year, and you help to keep me on track. Doing homemade crafts with kids is the best!
Nice that you have a good boss. I bet you are looking forward to retirement, though!
I think we all just need to Be More Archie!
He's got it sussed!
Too right! Although he got very cross at the window cleaner earlier 😂😂
you have just made me realise that im an introvert too, i get so anxious about events or parties with people i don't know. i spend my time with just my family, 2 friends and my little dogs, i dont have many friends either and i am an only child , thank you for a lovely video xx
There are a lot of us about!
I have enjoyed the slow life since retiring, and a relaxed pace without a filled calendar has been just wonderful.
There are perks to getting older, for sure. 😀
Archie’s not rushing is he! 😆 I think he’s read the book 😂
😂😂
Such lovely curtains, Jane ! And all the points you've made about rushing are more than valid. I feel like when I was a kid, there was no Facebook, no food delivery, no meal kits , but life felt a lot calmer and the day wasn't rushing away. I remember cooking with mom every Saturday/Sunday and feeling joy just in doing that. ❤
I feel that too, although my parents might not agree! 😂 they had four kids and both worked
I love getting up early to enjoy my morning. It isn't about productivity.
Yes, totally different if you are a morning person. I wake early, but love taking a tea back to bed to think about my day.
I cut my working hours to part time,if i feel I want to work an extra day I can but no pressure ,I'm an introvert need time to myself and two dogs ,I like to potter in the house and garden,I live alone so something for my health and to connect with other people I go to slimming world once a week.meet friends for coffee occasionally if I get too much to do I become overwhelmed so try and take life gently ,agree with what you say such a fast paced society ,time to step off it x
It’s so lovely to have pets at home when you live alone. Just having another warm little body to cuddle and they are less noisy than people 😀
Definitely x
I agree I'm not a minimalist I love my home decor.😊
It’s nice to be surrounded by a few beautiful things 😀
Next month I’m reducing my work days from five to three, I can’t wait I’m tired of the role I do and sitting in my home office on my own every day. But this will leave me £1000 worse off per month. Just at a time when I’m starting to save. So I’m going to see how it goes. Because whilst I am not a shopper there are things needing to be done in the home. I’d like to find a job the other two days at Waitrose or something. But I know that cutting back for now is the right thing to do. Thanks Jane xxx
Good luck! Could you do some self employment? I enjoyed house cleaning. Not at all stressful
@@ShoestringJane I used to clean years ago and I enjoyed it but wouldn’t do it now. I’d sort of feel guilty for not cleaning my house 🤣.
Your wee dog is so gorgeous
Society has developed, in my opinion, to a level of complexity that places burdens and stressors on people. It also is geared to make money. Who came up with 'retail therapy'?-- isn't that a contradiction in terms? There is pressures on all members of the nuclear/ and non-nuclear family. Moms 'have to' do certain things: PTA, secretary of the skating club, volunteer at childrens' reading group?, drive the girls to dance and the boys to hockey and soccer (I live in Ontario and I did all those things). I quit my high paying job to be home to raise the kids. Now divorced I make much less than my ex-- that's OK, I raised the kids. Men have pressures of work, of being the breadwinner, of still being 'one of the boys', and children have all the pressures of school and peer groups, even with uniforms, do some wear more expensive shoes?, do some get phones earlier?, do some get to do more things? The pressures that the parents place on the children. Its a mad world, evolving out of control.
I totally agree. Retail therapy makes no sense to me either, unless I find a few second hand bargains in a charity shop that I really wanted 😂
Great video, I find a simpler life is a happier one.
I don’t think I’ve commented before, but I watch every one of your videos. This is my favourite and resonated so much with me. I’m going to add this video to my ‘keep’ playlist to rewatch regularly - thank you! I wish I’d realised earlier that I was an introvert. I always had to escape from our guests to my bedroom for a 10 minute quiet break.
Thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed it.
Good video. Good information. The busy, full life is a lie. It is tiring and destructive but somehow applauded. One must have the ability to use common sense when choosing their lifestyle. It often goes against trends and certainly advertising. I’d say be brave. Swimming uphill or dancing to the beat of one’s own drum is oh so much more fulfilling.
You're right - working ridiculous hours is applauded. My daughter says no one takes a lunch break where she works. Everybody is showing what a great worker they are. I say you will be a better worker after a break!
I set aside most mornings, 6 days a week, to ride my horse…it’s my mental break. House and gardens aren’t perfect but I need to get out on him!
Priorities! That sounds like a lovely start to the day
Love this video. You don´t have to be a hardcore minimalist to have a simple life.
Totally!
Like you i am not a minimalist and love to surround myself with things i consider beautiful….to me my home is my happy place. The simple things make me so happy,a funny film on tv,a glass of orange juice and a bar of dairy milk and im in heaven lol.
A few nice things makes a place comfortable, for sure
I live on a ranch.with my husband.we have old horses a old mule.they are 30 t0 32 years old.i had them since they were2 years old and 9 months old.good feed.2 dogs 2 cats 4 goats.and 5 chickens.every body have names.they are pets.favorite things to do.for fun is a kitty pool with a raft im 66 years old.i float in it.a table with a glass of ice tea with lemon and sugar. And listen to oldies music.good books and art.i turn the chickens loose feed them treats.sit with them and watch them.keep life simple.❤
That sounds blissful!
So true, I have found since going back to work my life has instantly become much less simple- having to try hard to carve out quiet time to just relax! I also find it spreads to the rest of the family if I am in a bit of a flap so is everyone else 🙂
Yes, if you are relaxed, everyone else is more likely to be, thus making life easier.
Loved this video, thank you for sharing. Slowing down and being mindful of each and every task each day. Learning to love even the most mundane tasks by focusing on the "why".
Thanks for watching 😀
Really great video. Thank you. Love working in my yard and surrounded by my children, plants
Thanks for watching!
Absolutely agree with you Jane, i also like time to myself and simple activities ect a very good video enjoyed it thank you x
Thanks for watching!
I agree with you. My girls spent time just playing with their friends, both in the neighborhood and from church. They did take piano, dance, swimming lessons, sports etc but only one thing at a time. They attended camp every summer and we went camping as a family. We were frugal. One thing that kept us from getting over extended was finding families that had the same economic ideas as we did. Your advice is good.
That’s a really good point - finding people with similar attitudes helps a lot.
Very thought-provoking! Thank you, Jane!
Thanks, Cheryl 🙏
The best video yet Jane 👌
Thanks 😀
Great video and very timely for me here in the United States.
Simple living frugual living is a mindset
I agree with you wholeheartedly! I have been steeping back, evaluating, and opting out of many things for several years now. I am a friendly introvert and I need my time alone and time at home in order to recharge. I have tried to fashion a life at home that I don't continually need "away from".
I love that - 'a friendly introvert'. Going to be using that phrase 😀
@@ShoestringJane LOL, I got that from "Kate Kaden" (another great frugal finance channel).... Introverts, Unite! (separately, in our own homes...lol)
If people want to be minimalists with everything black and white and empty, that's fine. It's when kids have to live in those bare environments that it's really depressing. No one needs a lot of stuff but kids need some stimulation and color. Maybe the parents find it relaxing but it must be horrible for kids. And how can they be normal kids when everything is white? I can't imagine what happens if they spill something.
I hadn’t even thought of minimalist kids - I wonder how many of those minimalist CZcamsrs keep up the lifestyle when babies arrive. Very few, I bet!
Very good video. Thank you ❤
Thanks for watching!
Great vlog, and I’m the same way being organized is a time saver, and a minimalist is boring, yes.❤
Being organised is something I constantly work on. It does make a difference!
Ahh look at Archie ❤. Is he better now?
Still up and down. We are considering getting him allergy tested. Poor boy 🙄
@@ShoestringJane ahh poor darling! He looks sad! Gosh yes tree pollen is awful at the mo xx
@@ShoestringJane We had to get our middle dog and our elderly cat allergy tested. The cat developed allergies late in life, but our little middle dog came to us with them and we wondered if her health problems were why she was dumped at the animal shelter when she was a year and half old. She was such a sweet girl. It was a lot easier to accommodate her health needs after she was tested. She died eventually of heart disease due to a malformed heart valve, but the last few years of her life were a lot more comfortable once we knew exactly how to feed her.
😢😢 At lease she had a good life with you. Losing animals is awful.
I too loved the Slow book by Carl Honore and its message. Having just spent last weekend in London for a show and sightseeing - was I glad to get back home. Everything we did was so fast paced and hectic there - all a blur. Could never live there full time for sure. And don't even ask how much we paid for a small bottle of water in the O2 ?!.!
Ha! I’m like that with London. Once every few years for a show is more than enough. The O2 is just too big though. I bet they wouldn’t let you take drinks in ?
I am like that with NYC. Once every couple of years I like to visit to see a show and sight see but that's it. Too many people.
@@ShoestringJane no drinks and food to be taken in but then inside you can buy drinks at numerous bar areas. Water - £4.20 a bottle. Hate to think how much alcohol cost.
Lovely video as usual . I agree since the pandemic things have been out of kilter . I had hope that it would a reset, a time to realise what is really important l think it has had the opposite effect . Your videos are thought provoking and l am sure they resonate with many. 🎉🎉🎉
I thought that too - that maybe people would drive less and get out in nature more. Didn't happen....
Really thought provoking video. I reduced my work to 4 days due to a high blood pressure diagnosis and absolutely needing to change things. I can’t tell you how much difference that extra day makes to the quality of my life but without losing too much income and other benefits such as pension, sick pay etc. I work for a council and we really struggle to recruit people, in some roles particularly and are having to look at offering more flexibility as we can’t just offer more money and people seem to want roles that better fit in with their lives. It’s a good step in the right direction. I love days to potter and not have anything planned. I think you’d love Tom Hodgkinson’s books, how to be idle and how to be free, very interesting takes on our bonkers culture and all about how thrift can equal freedom, some laugh out loud moments too. Enjoy your home and the things you have now. Holiday at home, go car camping, we live on amazingly beautiful islands here in the UK, you don’t have to travel far to find wonderful scenery, peace and quiet. I painted a cheap dressing table this week and thought of your beautiful dresser. Love your channel and your vibe x
Thank you! Did Tom Hodgkinson write the Idler magazine? If so, I read one of his books - some time ago now though!
@@ShoestringJane yes he did, I prefer the books to the magazine but really like the alternative take on life x
Avoid hot mess mode