When someone says I'm sorry you feel that way" it has absolutely nothing to do with an apology. The other person is callously saying = "I don't care about your feelings at all"
You have given me a totally new perspective on "I'm sorry you feel that way". I now have a comeback by graciously accepting the apology. I think I love you!
“I’m sorry you feel that way” can be a form of gaslighting a person to invalidate their perspective. Meaning “you” feel that way, but it isn’t reality. I like your advice, but I think if you’re around a person who consistently does this, it is best to separate from these people. P.s. you’re actually hilarious. The dancing, singing, and quick phrases made my day :)
I think when someone says I am sorry you feel that way it means that he isn't sorry for what he did he doesn't care. Rather it's like a pitty for you. I wouldn't want to stay with some who speaks to me like this. Too much ego for me.
''I'm sorry you feel that way.'' Terrible apology from terrible people. I have never in my life used this apology for anything not even once. No matter how many times I've apologized for something and no matter what it's about, I always gave a genuine ''I'm sorry.'' Don't know why people are the way they are.
Do you add "so" or "really" in between? Sometimes I feel like a simple "I'm sorry" isn't genuine either (and this is outside of your case, so please don't take it I'm pointing fingers at you). I told a disrespectfuI coworker how she offended me with a tactIess comment and why I'd been giving her the cold shoulder, and all she said after I expressed my pain was "I'm sorry."
Your background reminded me of those gymnastics tutorial videos of the early to mid 2010s, especially the back handspring ones, was waiting for you to do one, lol. Anyways those were good and painful times.
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I think context matters too. Say J had no intention and didn't mean to hurt Y, but Y got upset at J for it. Doesn't J apologising means admitting to a mistake where there is no malicious intent in the first place? Saying I'm sorry you felt that way would be appropriate for J because it is "apologising" for Y's own interpretation of events which J had no control over. Should J apologise for the sake of validating Y's emotion or say I'm sorry you felt that way?
Yes, J should apologize because whether he intended to hurt Y, he did hurt Y. Also, J shouldn’t really care if it was intended or not because in this situation being right is not more important than how Y feels. J cares about Y, and by empathizing and acknowledging that he was the cause of Y’s pain, he can understand why Y was hurt. Then, he can either decide to keep doing the thing that hurts Y, or he can decide to be kind to Y and not do the thing that hurt Y. If the thing that hurt Y is something that J cant control, or something J doesn’t think is that big of a deal, then they can have a conversation to understand each other better, and J can explain it wasn’t his intent to hurt Y and Y can ask themselves if maybe they jumped to conclusions. Or Y can say it was absolutely hurtful and Y can decide if J is not being honest with himself and the root of the hurtful behavior. But none of this can happen while Y is still hurt, and while J is still doing the thing that is hurting them. So it is J’s move to apologize properly. In doing so J loses nothing, but Y gains recognition of their feelings. This is why most people consider it polite to apologize over something they did that unintentionally hurt someone else. Also, people who care about others and those they love validate their emotions. That’s an essential part of being a friend and building trust with each other. Can you trust someone who dismisses your feelings, whether you are right or wrong? You go to that person and you trust them not to hurt you and this can really break down that barrier of trust. If you misunderstood something your friend said and thought they were intentionally hurting you, wouldn’t you appreciate them saying, “I am so sorry about the thing I said! I didn’t realize I hurt you so much. Here’s what I really meant when I said it. I would never want to hurt you like that. I care about you so much!” If instead that person said, “I’m sorry you feel that way,” and didn’t properly apologize to you, would your bond be the same as if they properly apologized?
I don’t know if I agree with this response, but I think I’ll test this out next time someone says “Im sorry you feel that way” and see if it was helpful. Otherwise I think I would normally respond with “Thats not really an apology.” Maybe your suggestion would give more productive dialogue
I think it’s a good response if you think there’s even a little chance the person might be saying it genuinely. If the person is full of hot smoke, then yeah, a direct confrontation makes more sense perhaps :)
YesRenau - Keep it up! ^^ Have 'Passive Aggresive' Family members.And yeah.. its infuriating fo sure. When they don't leave ya alone nor Listen. To *Common-Decency* ~ Let Alone *Common-Sense*
"I'm sorry you feel that way" is notoriousIy known for being a weak apoIogy; at this point, I don't think anyone would use it anymore, unless they aren't familiar with its reputation. Here's another bad apoIogy I've noticed. Person 1: "You really hurt me when you said what you said." Person 2: "I'm sorry." Tell me, guys, what do you think is wrong with that apoIogy?
People like you can not apologize bcoz you all the time criticize everyone and call men 'trash',don't know what rational you are giving to people here..
When someone says I'm sorry you feel that way" it has absolutely nothing to do with an apology. The other person is callously saying = "I don't care about your feelings at all"
You have given me a totally new perspective on "I'm sorry you feel that way". I now have a comeback by graciously accepting the apology. I think I love you!
“I’m sorry you feel that way” can be a form of gaslighting a person to invalidate their perspective. Meaning “you” feel that way, but it isn’t reality. I like your advice, but I think if you’re around a person who consistently does this, it is best to separate from these people.
P.s. you’re actually hilarious. The dancing, singing, and quick phrases made my day :)
I think when someone says I am sorry you feel that way it means that he isn't sorry for what he did he doesn't care. Rather it's like a pitty for you. I wouldn't want to stay with some who speaks to me like this. Too much ego for me.
And BTW it's all passive aggressive I get when spoken to this way. No one is genuine. So I don't like it.
I feel like yelling “that’s not an apology!”
I despise “I’m sorry you feel that way “
And the word “nope”
''I'm sorry you feel that way.'' Terrible apology from terrible people. I have never in my life used this apology for anything not even once. No matter how many times I've apologized for something and no matter what it's about, I always gave a genuine ''I'm sorry.'' Don't know why people are the way they are.
Do you add "so" or "really" in between? Sometimes I feel like a simple "I'm sorry" isn't genuine either (and this is outside of your case, so please don't take it I'm pointing fingers at you). I told a disrespectfuI coworker how she offended me with a tactIess comment and why I'd been giving her the cold shoulder, and all she said after I expressed my pain was "I'm sorry."
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Your background reminded me of those gymnastics tutorial videos of the early to mid 2010s, especially the back handspring ones, was waiting for you to do one, lol. Anyways those were good and painful times.
I am loving the wisdom! I am usually witty but most days my mind feels cloudy and I just stand there stumped 🤔
You got it ❤..thank you
brilliant
Answer:' thank you for acknowledging that your inconsideration has upset my feelings.'
But would it be possible to write an apology even if you already gave them one?
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From what i know in the past, you said CZcams is your major alerce of income, although, you get little views, is that still the casé, if so, how much do you make on CZcams
I ate cookies while watching this. Classic. DON'T TOUCH MY COOKIE.
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I think context matters too. Say J had no intention and didn't mean to hurt Y, but Y got upset at J for it. Doesn't J apologising means admitting to a mistake where there is no malicious intent in the first place? Saying I'm sorry you felt that way would be appropriate for J because it is "apologising" for Y's own interpretation of events which J had no control over.
Should J apologise for the sake of validating Y's emotion or say I'm sorry you felt that way?
Yes, J should apologize because whether he intended to hurt Y, he did hurt Y. Also, J shouldn’t really care if it was intended or not because in this situation being right is not more important than how Y feels. J cares about Y, and by empathizing and acknowledging that he was the cause of Y’s pain, he can understand why Y was hurt. Then, he can either decide to keep doing the thing that hurts Y, or he can decide to be kind to Y and not do the thing that hurt Y.
If the thing that hurt Y is something that J cant control, or something J doesn’t think is that big of a deal, then they can have a conversation to understand each other better, and J can explain it wasn’t his intent to hurt Y and Y can ask themselves if maybe they jumped to conclusions. Or Y can say it was absolutely hurtful and Y can decide if J is not being honest with himself and the root of the hurtful behavior.
But none of this can happen while Y is still hurt, and while J is still doing the thing that is hurting them. So it is J’s move to apologize properly. In doing so J loses nothing, but Y gains recognition of their feelings. This is why most people consider it polite to apologize over something they did that unintentionally hurt someone else.
Also, people who care about others and those they love validate their emotions. That’s an essential part of being a friend and building trust with each other. Can you trust someone who dismisses your feelings, whether you are right or wrong? You go to that person and you trust them not to hurt you and this can really break down that barrier of trust.
If you misunderstood something your friend said and thought they were intentionally hurting you, wouldn’t you appreciate them saying, “I am so sorry about the thing I said! I didn’t realize I hurt you so much. Here’s what I really meant when I said it. I would never want to hurt you like that. I care about you so much!”
If instead that person said, “I’m sorry you feel that way,” and didn’t properly apologize to you, would your bond be the same as if they properly apologized?
I don’t know if I agree with this response, but I think I’ll test this out next time someone says “Im sorry you feel that way” and see if it was helpful. Otherwise I think I would normally respond with “Thats not really an apology.” Maybe your suggestion would give more productive dialogue
I think it’s a good response if you think there’s even a little chance the person might be saying it genuinely. If the person is full of hot smoke, then yeah, a direct confrontation makes more sense perhaps :)
YesRenau - Keep it up! ^^
Have 'Passive Aggresive' Family members.And yeah.. its infuriating fo sure.
When they don't leave ya alone nor Listen. To *Common-Decency*
~ Let Alone *Common-Sense*
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"I'm sorry you feel that way" is notoriousIy known for being a weak apoIogy; at this point, I don't think anyone would use it anymore, unless they aren't familiar with its reputation. Here's another bad apoIogy I've noticed. Person 1: "You really hurt me when you said what you said." Person 2: "I'm sorry." Tell me, guys, what do you think is wrong with that apoIogy?
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Therefore: “If thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink. For in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.” Romans 12:20
She’s way too corny
Complete nonsense
People like you can not apologize bcoz you all the time criticize everyone and call men 'trash',don't know what rational you are giving to people here..
I don’t call men “trash”