How to fix a broken heart | Guy Winch | TED
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At some point in our lives, almost every one of us will have our heart broken. Imagine how different things would be if we paid more attention to this unique emotional pain. Psychologist Guy Winch reveals how recovering from heartbreak starts with a determination to fight our instincts to idealize and search for answers that aren't there -- and offers a toolkit on how to, eventually, move on. Our hearts might sometimes be broken, but we don't have to break with them.
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It hurts man. It really hurts.
S A D B O Y same man, same
It really really does 💔
Same.
Eva Nartey it does
I know...
Stuck in between “wanting to feel that kind of love again” and “don’t want to feel that kind of heartbreak again
i feel ABSOLUTELY the same.
I feel you on that. Right now I’m leaning towards the latter
@@FuriousFerrell I'm never trusting again I can't take another heart break
YES
It's the worst feeling....ever. I made myself so stressed about it...I got so sick and I nearly went comatose over him...but hes gone, forever. No getting him back and I dont know if I can be that happy ever again...God I hope so
For anyone reading this, when your heart breaks and I mean, really breaks, you'll wake up every day for months and they'll be the first thing on your mind. Until one day, they're the second. Then the third. One day, though, you'll wake up and they don't be there at all. Time does make us stronger. I've had my heart splattered on the side of the road, but I know (and you will too) that love is not a finite resource. Look within and there's a wellspring :)
That is very true! After two months of pain and depression, today I caught myself thinking that it's been a couple of hours since I woke up, and he pop up in my mind much later than usual!! that also gave me clarity and understanding that it’s over for real, and it’s time to move on. But of course it will take me more months to completely heal, as I know myself, but I had the time to think about how bad he would make me feel a lot of the times, things I didn’t see or just avoid before because love is blindness ❤
I really needed this♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
thank you for writing this
thank you, going through this right now. I’m scared to go to sleep, it sucks to wake up with my heart pounding and she’s the first thing on my mind, hope this will all go soon, I’ve suffered a lot, may we all find peace.
Same here, Im on month 2 and she is still the first thought in my mind when I wake up.
The pain is unbearable some days like I wonder when is it gonna end, Im starting to realize its gonna be a while until I feel better so Im not comparing to anyones healing journey.
Its more painful couse we are on good terms and she still likes me but doesnt love me, so Im asking myself why so many times and thinking why it was my fault she fell out of love, but now I know those are just intrusive thoughts.
Im giving myself distance from her couse we still want to keep in touch, and the only way to do it in a more healthy way is to first heal.
I only trust time, that this will pass. I really hope it will pass.
“There is no break up explanation that will make you feel satisfied”
DAMN that hit home..
There all denial accept and face the feelings
I believe a feasable explanation is better than no explanation.
@@mrsniffwell7736 I got no explanation after 7 years..
Just rejection and blocked instantly from all contact...
She was cold and heartless, and I still feel like crap.
The doctor is right, I am going to focus on that entirely, objectively that was a monstrous thing to do.
No idea why I focus on the good stuff after experiencing that kind of behavior.
Only up from here!!
The feeling of “I’ll never find somebody like them again” is probably the most destructive mindset for me.
lagh I feel the same way, but then I have moments where I tell myself... why would I want someone like them, someone that couldn’t love me
Then that greatest moment you find someone who surpasses them. Why end your world over one person when there’s a billion in this world
Bryce Valdez very true. It’s difficult to look at it that way when you invest a lot of time and effort into somebody.
lagh believe me, that’s exactly what I’m going through rn. I was used but I couldn’t see it cause I was so caught up in this girl. But I can’t destroy and pick myself apart of it more than I already have. Everyone will find themselves sooner or later. Just find your release
lagh I just went through a break up two days ago. And I did nothing wrong but loved him with everything I had. He hurt me twice. But I believe I can find someone better than him. Not someone like him. Because you won’t grow with someone like him. It’s hard I’m not going to lie but remember that. Remind yourself that your feelings are valuable and one day someone better will come.
Hope is the most dangerous thing ever during a break up
indeed....
Cannot agree more. It seems so rational
to have that hope when it is so clear the relationship is done and there is no coming back
Tejus Coulagi so should just give up on ever getting back together with her
@@amincampbell1939 Well, each time it's ended in disaster and furthering the pain. An important thing is to know when to cut your losses and walk away.
Tejus Coulagi but there still sum chance we can get back together I don’t believe she’d just end it like this
Watching this again 4 months later after my heartbreak.. I honestly feel way better as compared to before, wayyyy better. Almost fully healed. It just popped up on my feed, and I clicked on it simply for the feeling of nostalgia. A reminder of the lesson I've learnt, and the emotional growth I've experienced.. Ladies and gentlemen believe me you will heal. Just takes time.
I’m in such freakin pain. It didn’t just end. He couldn’t have been meaner and it came from nowhere. I’m determined to do no contact. But I’m shattered and he’s free to be so vicious without consequence
U said time bro that’s all? It hurts a ton rtnw and I keep thinking there’s no one like her. I get sad reminiscing literally all the things he said not to do. How u been now? Btw we jus broke up today.
@@jasonstorey1905 I’ve been no contact and he keeps contacting me. I answer and I don’t get excited. Today he text and I cut him short. So he called and I cut him short. Then he showed up at my work and he can see me get flustered. That’s all he wanted to see and he left. fucking jerk
@@jasonstorey1905 me.. two days ago. it was an affair, she met another guy. didnt want to be the bit on the side anymore, im devastated, cant eat sleep think breath.
One year out everything is the same
The worst pain I've ever felt, was when I realized how quickly my ex got over our relationship.
How quickly they stopped loving me.
Being left to wonder, if we ever loved each other the same.
I would not wish this pain upon anyone.
You're a guy right?
@@mmmbbop9351 Yeah.
Ur. Not alone 😢 me 😭 💔♒
I can relate to your comment❤️
Yo I was ready to marry this girl. Making plans to go meet with her homophobic family (I was gonna win them over bc I am a legit person) and I knew she was gonna propose.
Less than 12 hours she got drunk (I’m in recovery) and sent me messages that crossed my personal boundaries (for the 4th time and 2nd time in 24hrs) and pretended to be me and cancelled my flight while I was taking a nap.
I said some horrible stuff that I’ve never told anyone in my entire life. I feel bad. I know it’s bc my inner child felt wounded bc I told her and finally admitted to be vulnerable and make a 2 year commitment to her. Yet she wanted to still play high school games. So I reverted back to default mode and was cruel.
Yet I was only pushed to the end after waking up from what I said before AND her saying she was cutting the chord even tho I said the next time we end it, it will be over bc we go back and forth.
I feel bad for what I said. I also feel like I need to respect myself and hold true to my word.
My therapist said this is karma getting me back for all the heartbreak I caused bc this is my first time getting my heartbroken that wasn’t caused by me using and ruining a relationship.
A doctor once told me
*”Because you didn't want to lose them, you lost yourself in the process. Find yourself again and you will find happiness”*
damn
Such wise words such truthful meaning so well said
you dont need happiness
How can I find myself...
Thank you
Never believe someone is better than u nothing last for ever
They are the crazy ones don’t mind them
Tell me about it 😒
It really is...
it was probably your fault
Just because they turned cold on you doesn’t mean they don’t feel anything. I turn cold to protect myself.
I'm here, 6 months later. I didn't think I could ever get to this point again but I have. My heart is healed. I'm never going to take life for granted again. I'm really happy with my life now
I want to feel that😢
@@sushantkhanal2303yeah same man!....it hurts kills....but it need to move on....Just like that....lets hope Together
We can do all things through the lord he who strengthens us🙏🏾 we will heal one day
I find some comfort knowing people can explain that gut wrenching heart ripping feeling. Eating feels like a challenge, nights are difficult to sleep through and mornings feel like the beginning of battle.
I can so relate. I felt absolutely broken when my ex left. I didn't have healthy ways of processing, I just wanted to numb the pain. I hope you have a good support system.
I feel like I can't make it. Eating,sleeping and going to work and pretending everything is normal is ... I hate the thought of going back home. I dread going to bed every night. I don't have any friends that I am close with and no family. I have to do this solo, in the same house with all the stuff there and no distraction or external support. It's all up to me to make it and I have to make it because otherwise there is no plan B.
@@Suspended24😢 It’s an awful pain, from the inside out. You need to find support, a group online, a counselor (online options), is there an employee assistance plan at your work?
Rearrange furniture, remove photos, bring in a new color.
Try using isochronic tones and binaural beats to help with depressed feelings/anxiety/sadness.
Start watching videos of people who have survived more intense events (helps for perspective). Heartbreak isn’t permanent 🙏🦋
@@Suspended24hey there stranger. i am here, in the same shoes as you. what is helping me is distracting myself and watching CZcams films about dealing with break up. Weve been 10 years together and he dumped me. It Stings but I Think to myself that IF they arę the one we will eventually either come back . OR IF he is actually not the one then nothing to worry about - means its not making space in our life to welcome someone far greater
"Mornings are the beginning of a battle" - spot on
I just want the pain in my chest to go away. This is an update 2 months later and I am so much better.
Viviana Romo, don't worry, I know of a man that will help you get your ex back and heal your pain
Contact the man on
He will help you get your ex and happy again, he get me my ex back last week
Time is the best healer
Romo you will Heal. It will take time. I felt the way you for a long time. 20 years ago. I still Remember her., But I am over her. Just the Memories that I have..
WE ARE GOING TO HEAL
🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
Did you?
For sure
U know what Alfred used to say to batman? Neva, hehehe
You are. But not me.
Time is key. Whoever is reading this, I want you to know, that it gets better with time. I am writing this after 4 months and I am doing way better than I was before. You have to keep reminding yourself that you are good enough and gotta let the feelings of inadequacy not get to you.
you're lucky at 4 months! I couldn't feel better for 2 years
It has been 1.5 years, my heart is still broken.
@@sanayalove9194 @anthonychow6061
It scares me reading ur comments. It's been 2 days and it feels like death. idk how I could survive years. I just don't know how
2:15
@@yocool9883 I don't even know the exact months, maybe 3 now, I refuse to know the date of the heartbreak/betrayal.. But it does get better. Even though i'm typing this after not eating all day and getting up late and sobbing for half an hour, it still does get better. I am fighting right now, even still, to love and care for myself, hence why i'm on this video. I have a few set backs, I have to still get my stuff from my partner hence why we are in ocassional contact, which sets me back yards. However, there was a point last month where I didn't even think about her for a few days. I had peace. No contact is key, keeping busy and working towards goals, and 100% what he said about filling the voids. Me and her used to love raves, so I've found someone else to go with now. The key is to just keep pushing. I still often feel like I can't even breathe, but just know you're not alone, and keep getting up and trying again. Much love
1. **grieve when needed:** it's okay to feel sad and mourn the loss.
2. **lean on support:** share your feelings with loved ones or a therapist.
3. **self-care matters:** focus on your physical and emotional well-being.
4. **stay active:** engage in enjoyable activities and hobbies.
5. **control contact:** if necessary, limit interactions with the source of pain.
6. **look ahead:** set new goals and aspirations for your future.
7. **forgive and move on:** let go of anger and resentment to progress.
8. **positive thinking:** replace negativity with self-affirming thoughts.
9. **meet new people:** socialize and build new connections.
10. **patience:** understand that healing takes time, and recovery is possible.
What do you mean by 9? Like date
@@jptheman2011 it can be date, but it can be, knowing new people, just having new friend maybe. it helps you having new connections and letting go of the old ones you don't have anymore
@@channelforambience the worst is when new dates make you sad that the people you meet are totally not the person ypu want to sit even 1 h and talk
Thank you for the tips
Ah, youtube's been hearing me cry. Thank you for this, government.
For real... I'm here trying to figure out how to survive this heartbreak and this comes up.
@@caroline3206 you've got this. It sucks, but we're in the same boat
Shout out to the boys at the FBI
Exactly😂
I feel you.
the worst part was, i felt this loss for someone that was never really mine.
Do you mind if we have a chat
@@arnella3087 omg same, I understand you...
Arnella don’t worry about how a real relationship will end. If that happens, you wíll manage just fine. Don’t make the fear of a break up stop you from finding love!
Hello everyone if you need your ex back contact Dr.uguel because he has a solution to all your relationship problems.
They never really are ever yours. It was just your turn.
You know the comments are actually more comforting than the real videos. This is when your heart breaks the most.
If someone could invent a pill that makes you immune to being heartbroken, being broken up with, taken advantage of or forgotten, I'd take it in a heartbeat.
Struggling massively with heart break right now, I feel you!
Same here too!! And the painful part is suffering for something you didn’t do. All I ever did was to love her. It’s well ooo
Yeah it's called xanax. Just snort that for a few years and you won't rememeber who you are. OR just gtf over it because you're a woman and can go out and get fkd whenever you want a find a replacement at the snap of your fingers. Be thankful for your life on easy mode.
There is something it’s called apathy you never care or trust anyone then you won’t get hurt. Guess what? It worse than heart break it’s a life of dull lonely emptiness.
Heartbreak is part of love
@@Duck72432 it's dull lonely and empty even with the ability to feel and having genuine intentions I'd rather have a medicine and become numb to sadness and happiness by losing the ability to feel anything at all, being a guy and honestly loving someone is a losing game
“Idealizing your ex instead of focusing on how they were wrong for you. Indulging thoughts and behaviors that still give them a staring role in this next chapter of your life, when they shouldn’t even be an extra”
Writing this so every time someone likes it - it will remind me. Thank you Guy Winch.
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Thank you but that relationship was not healthy for me and I do not wish to restore it.
Yup this one really set me straight. The pain in my chest is still heavy. I realize as much I wanted closure he just wasn’t the right man for me.
the hardest part is realizing that they are strangers to you again.
@@paulharry5589 what's his WhatsApp
Oooof this hit diffrent, so true
@favour Lucky thanks alot for your recommendation my ex is back
Heavy Man, really heavy!🤔
The man of my dreams just proposed to another and it feels as if my heart has been ripped out 💔 💔 😪
My first heartbreak at the top of last year from someone I knew for nearly a decade was the most painful thing I thought I would go through at the time, but it did get better with time. Met an amazing person 6 months out, and now here I am going through my second heartbreak and it feels just as painful as the first, if not more in some ways. Praying all the broken hearts in here will heal with time and patience.
Don't try to move on so fast. I know it's hard but it takes at least a year to heal a broken heart.. that's why that relationship didn't work
@@Stephanie_bitches89 thanks Steph, I appreciate that insight. It makes sense because she was also two months out of a long term relationship, and we found each other when we were both at very low places in our lives. It just hurts because we did share incredible chemistry, our compatibility and values were on par, and we clicked like best friends. We just argued far too much and kept feeling our expectations for timeline/moving forward weren’t on the same page, and it drove us apart over time. I just wish I had a chance to lessen the pressure on moving ahead and letting us grow organically, because I did feel she was right for me and came into my life when I least expected it. I guess the fights were a product of both of us needing more time to heal.
I’m sorry for rambling as it’s been a lot on my mind even after two months, but completely agree with you.
@@sm59456 yea I think you fought so much because you both weren't ready or healed. Also, it can feel like everything is perfect and amazing etc but... You both were also lonely and newly out of relationships... You just needed to be friends and not take it further. Learn from me.
I stayed years longer in a relationship that should of only ever been a friendship. The honeymoon stage always wears off and then you see each other more clearly but people don't make it out of the honeymoon stage before they say, let's be together! Let's move in together! And then not long down the line they realize they actually weren't even that compatible... They just enjoyed each other in the moment
@@Stephanie_bitches89 Yeah, but a lot of the fights feel like they stemmed from me or me being resistant to change/subconscious comparisons with my ex, which agreed - I probably wasn’t ready but I did not long for my ex or think of her once I met this new person, which was interesting. On the flipside, she was still getting over her ex and would come up in convos/she cried once or twice about him with me, which was early on but stopped eventually and we both didn’t really bring up or think of our exes again.
Yeah that could very much be true, about compatibility as friends vs as partners, because you tend to latch on emotionally and the rose tinted glasses come on quick, versus being able to evaluate individual traits from a friendship level and determining if you could live with those for the long term. I did feel a lot of things I realized after made me feel we weren’t fully on the same page, but overall she still seemed like a person I could build my future with and the loss still hurts. We were compatible career wise, romantically, financially, values, religiously. It was our communication and her being too much of a “thinker” vs me being a “feeler” that I feel caused a lot of disruption overall.
Yeah, I’m through my second breakup too, i think it hurts the most because is recently (only a month and a couple of days? and she was with me in a very sad moment of my life. It hurts a lot so I understand your feelings
knowing she's probably doing completely fine while i'm breaking apart is the worst. i don't think i ever want to love somebody again
I felt this, like why am I the one always hurting somehow, just makes you feel like "maybe the whole time you thought there was something it was all in your head and they didn't feel any of it," i guess love just ain't for me really. Anyways hope you are well seeing how this is a year back
someone please take away this pain in my chest. My heart is damaged.
Do you need help?
She can help you too with all your pains!!
January Orcullo I need help
That's my number.
Im so sorry to hear that 😔💔
"If you can love the wrong person that much, imagine how much you can love the right one."
The quote is obviously not mine, but it definitely helped me a bit so thought I'd share...
:”) me and my bf recently break up... this made me sad
Then you realize there is no right one
That definitely helps lol. Thank you.
😭💔 thank you
this is so sad :(
Day 1 of healing from my current heartbreak. This isn’t my first one, or this wasn’t my longest relationship. But this break up really hurt because of it being so abrupt after I thought we were so healthy. I mistakenly thought chemistry= compatibility and here I am. This video helped me get up this morning and be intentional about how I heal this time. Sending love and warm wishes to everyone reading the comments❤
hi! it's been 2 months and im wondering how you are doing with your heartbreak now
in a very similar situation rn
They say heartbreak is like dying but staying alive just to feel the pain
pro tip: watch this every time you catch yourself thinking about your ex.
Well i'll watch this 20 times a day
@@bakihanma72 same
People who have been rejected and have turned numb and never been in a relationship - first time?
Yeah right thing
Yeah right thing,gives motive to fight back.
" A person who values you, wouldn't ever put themselves in a position to lose you."
this is not always true i feel.....
I valued her too much... And she ended things really badly...I don't have any friends or close people left.
@@cognitio278 whatever has happened... don't hold a grudge man....it will just worsen you....i wish that you will get over your tough times
my ex valued me so much that he told me to broke up with him because he knew that i deserve way more. I love him and he loves me but I wont put anyone to change for me. He knows that he is different. He suffers a lot for the fact that he cant give me what I want, and to clearify the things all the things were little things.
That statement is not entirely true
Focus on yourself, start exercising, start learning something you wanted to. Now you have so much more time. Accept the pain, don't hold it in yourself, cry if you can, it really helps. Continue working through pain, don't spend your time suffering and doing nothing. Even if your brain is not as focused as it used to be, still persist in your beginnings. You have to become in harmony with youtself to overcome this.
Thank you, we just broke up today . It seems like you went thru it too. I appreciate the words.
@@jasonstorey1905 it gets easier every week
23 years old and laying in bed after 7 beers with work in 5 hours. Only a month has passed since my third and most brutal heartbreak because I thought she was the one, but this video really put things in different perspectives for me. For those that seem like your life is empty without your former significant other, leaning on your friends/family or trying new hobbies is what’s making my break up a little bit more bearable. The gym, fishing, going out more with coworkers and then my friends on the weekend. I’m not perfect and I’m still deeply hurt, but I can type this paragraph perfectly after 7 beers and I can say that I will recover and find someone new who loves me for the way I deserve and for me to love in return. Don’t give up and let’s all keep fighting!
How do you feel now it's been almost 2 weeks, hope you feel better
Hope you feel better, these activities and the drinking may lower your pain for the moment, but the problem will just strech out. Like he said, fight the heartbreak!
Are you a pilot?
Slow your roll start working out start now or you’ll regret it when you finally start getting the results you want
Drink liquor it’s faster lmao jk
To all the heartbroken peeps in the comments, I'm with you, and I love y'all. We gonna get through this 💪🏽
thanks man u too!
👑👑😥thank you and the same to you💆🏽♀️
No we're not we cant
I spent Easter weekend with my girlfriend of 2 years. Things had been going pretty good, she had recently voiced she wasnt thrilled about me being a cop, (I'm a month in the police academy) but Easter weekend was beautiful. We loved on each other and really spent quality time with each other and also got to catch up with each others families. Things were going so good. Even through Sunday night. (She spent the night) the next day she said she wasnt happy any more and didnt want to see me anymore.
@@ibold1000 I'm sorry to hear that :/ thanks for opening up though, it takes courage
Was i in love with him? or was i in love with the romanticized version of him that had no connection to how he was in real life?
Madi Dork asking myself the same question.
I ask myself this all the time... for 13 years I've asked myself this.....
Most likely the latter. When we're in love with someone our brain creates this glorified image of the other person which often has little reflection on reality. Love is really an affliction of the mind.
I'm asking this myself. And I came to the conclusion that I romanticized everything with him
@@lizzymaria3776 YES! That is exactly how I feel!!
"You have to be willing to let go to accept that it's over."💯🙏
How do I let go how do I accept it?
@@katc6823 I'm going to attempt to draw a correlation here with the Law of Conservation of Energy which states: "Energy can neither be created, nor destroyed, just transferred."
The wisdom I am going to attempt to extract from this is simple, but perhaps not obvious at face-value. At first, "acceptance" will feel like a conscious decision that you have to re-commit to each day. Until, like any other newly formed habit, it will become more and more natural and require less and less effort to not think about that person. The "moving on" is in redirecting your energy from thoughts and feelings about your ex, to the things you still have in your life after the ex is gone. Or new things you decide to engage in.
Once you have successfully redirected your focus (and energy), your heart will follow.
Loneliness is one of the most dangerous emotions to feel. Your impulsiveness is heightened, and you are more prone to making terrible decisions. You also tend to rationalize other people's bad behaviors because you are so lonely that you're willing to put up with it. I like what this guy is saying about making a list of the negative things your partner has and consistently reminding yourself of them. That's what I've done since my divorce and it's helped.
I see people talking about “the hardest part” well for me the hardest part is knowing there was still work to be done in the relationship but that person just decides to give up on you. You haven’t exhausted all options, and determined that it just isn’t working, but the other person just won’t put in the necessary work to keep the relationship going. It’s left me hurting so much & confused on why it was so hard to love me when all I asked was for the basic necessities of love. Most of us all deserve better, but we just wish that person was the better. Heartbreak fucking sucks
Bweezym, yes it is true break up sucks, but don't worry ok I will you to a man that helped me get my ex when I was in a problem like this before
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I know how that feels, my relationship was going great for the most part but she dumped me without warning.
@@averagejoe6031 don't worry ok you will get your ex back to
I’m gonna feel better for 3 minutes after watching this.
lmao
I'm gonna make a list now
SAME
Unfortunately this kind of videos don't help me at all. It's like they make it worse... My salvation is sharing my feelings in the comment section
I totally get it. We only remember the good times and not the bad times. I've made a list but it has pros too because shes not a bad person, just a troubled person. You will find closure ❤
I went through a breakup and a serious depression years ago. I used to watch this video all of the time. Now, after a three year relationship, it’s not looking good. It’s likely over. And again, I am here listening to this. This is most on point video on heartbreak I’ve ever seen. I hope we all find our person at the end.
i am sorry for u
Sadly its unlikely the case that we will find THAT someone.
Have to learn to live independently
Same happened to me during 14 years, but even I achieved relief.
I hope you are doing better today. I'm starting my journey now.
@@jenynz5334 I’m doing better but I’m certainly not a 100% over it. It’s been 5 months and I have good days and bad days. I’ve tried to stay busy - it’s the down time (like today actually) that make me sad and think this whole thing could have been avoided/ or is a nightmare. But I’m starting to accept that if she didn’t want to be with me, I can’t force that. It kills me but I’m starting to value myself. I’m really sorry you’re starting your journey. I hope you can get some benefit from this video or from your friends/family.
I have loved 4 times . When my last loved-one dumped me when I needed him most I landed in a psyche ward. Unresolved childhood trauma resurfaced in my grief of losing this man and I ended up on anti-psychotics. Four years on I am strong, resolute and living an independent life...but I still love the very bones of that man and probably always will.
As a 23 year old experiencing heart break for the first time, I had no clue how it actually really hurts.
The love specialist can be of great help to you, he offers the best solution in restoring and fixing broken relationship.
Aww I am so sorry! I have had my heart broken twice. It's a horrible horrible feeling. The first took years (we were married) and I am still working through the second. I'm in my early 40's and heart broken twice. I need to be with someone who loves me as much as I love them (or more).
Me to at 20
@@rachellydy3367 this love specialist can help just give it a try
Same here at 23 - been reaching out to my friend group and everybody is saying that everything I'm feeling right now is normal. But damn was I unprepared for the torture and the healing process.
I'm literally heartbroken after a 6 year relationship. She moved on right away and I'm in a literally empty house with a couch and bed. And the lockdown coronavirus makes it almost unbearable....this video helped a little which I'm grateful for.
I feel ya... being stuck inside with nothing to do is making everything so much worse
It feels like a really weird bad dream we can't seem to wake up from. Stay strong.
Same man. Five years and cheated on before replaced. Was way easier to deal with while going out and drinking than while staying in looking at a wall
Same:( Broke up just before the covid lockdown. Saw him out with the girl he cheated on me with, assume they’re lockdowning together. It feels unbearable.
Mate, my girlfriend has just ghosted me: no explanations, no contact - and in the middle of the coronavirus quarantine too. I can't even go out with friends to feel less lonely. Please know that you are not alone. Stay strong mate. We WILL heal 💪
This was bookmarked in my PC months ago when I was left by my boyfriend. We got back together and I thought I had no need for this. Months after, he left me and here I am again watching this. Heart break always feels like a new experience. I am just so tired of pain at this moment.
🙏
5 months on and it’s still as fresh as day 1. I really loved her.
Well that’s not reassuring. No way I can handle it
Hey. I’m two months in and struggling, but I want to reassure you that time is its own slow healer. My room has been an absolute mess since she ghosted me, but I found the strength to tidy it today. I do feel better and in more control. Productivity is your best friend, and even baby steps will put some space between yourself and the pain. You’ve got this, I believe in you :)
@@Leaveitalone1382 I went on holiday, made some new friends, went on some dates. It gets better my brother. Sending you love.
@@estellaa4672 as above my man✨
Man lolll im scared on day 2 now after reading this, but we all heal at different paces. Hope you are all better.
The fact that this video has 4.9 million views is scary so many hearts broken .
I am here just in case this happens to me which it probably does.
Jolez _ it happens to the best of us my friend .
@@TonyMontana-ne3mw Sad truth :(
but it is also strangely comforting as it reminds us that we are not alone... and all millions of us will be okay eventually :)
Considering the size of our population I'd think that this would have hundreds of millions of views. Everyone goes through this and some people go through it many many times.
im heart broken over someone who was never mine.
I know how you feel ❤
Same
Right now
GUYS nvm we're dating
@@john-ui5ee lucky
My partner of 5 years broke up last week and I thought she was the one. We disconnected over the last few months and she ended up cheating on me. What he just said resonates so much with me. I'm feeling heartbreak in all its forms right now. I can't even remember who I am. But I'm going to start filling these holes left, pick myself up and move forward.
Be strong bro. Same situation right now.
Same situation, we had problems and she did things I forgave her for but this time we ended because I hurt her. Last few months I felt her getting distant and constantly asked for more effort, it never really showed up. We were together 5 years and I’m on day 5 of the break up with it being day 3 of no contact. I struggle to see the light, but I’m slowly finding it easier to fill that void as the days go. Good luck to you, you owe it to yourself to be the best you can be for yourself and one day you will be able to share that with the right person.
It is still fresh so don’t beat yourself up about how you are feeling. Let yourself grieve and cry if you need too. My partner of four years and the mother of my two year old daughter left me four months ago and is now living with this new guy . She is taking our daughter out with him for the first time tomorrow. That hurts me more than anything. It does get easier over time though I promise.
How are u feeling now brother man. Any progress
Always remember this.
Your partner deserves to be happy.
So do you.
Its painful . One day ur loving, sharing thoughts , kisses and hugs ... the v next day total cold and unfeeling. The change is scary and hurtful.
It’s like you’re strangers all over again...it’s the strangest and worst feeling ever. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone 😔
this is exactly what happened to me, it came out of no where and everything changed
This has Gemini written all over it
Kenneth N happened to me yesterday/today I’m devastated
i don’t want to have to give my body and be vulnerable to someone else. i don’t want to have to try again but things will get better. it sucks being told you’re not loved
My FBI agent really cares about me. Thanks, man.
It was my colleague. She's a woman. I'll pass it on.
:']
I swear that these podcasts are the only thing keeping me alive right now. My girlfriend broke up with me after 5 years of being together. I don’t know how I will ever move forward. It makes me feel less alone. Because I feel like I’m dying and I don’t want to feel this kind of pain anymore.
Also listening after a break up, after 15 years together, and I'm pregnant, heartbroken
I am sorry about your pain, Better days will come
The pain is immense, you are in survival mode, try to do what you can to nourish yourself. Lean on those who love you. Don't block or avoid the pain. Feel it, it will not kill you. I promise. One of life's f**king worst experiences so everything you feel is okay.
Hope you feel better. My girlfriend of 10 years cheated on me after I proposed to her, so I can understand the pain you feel.
Leave her bro, you deserve better mate
Almost 2 years since my wife of 10 years left me with no explanation and I’m still as heartbroken as day one . To make it worse I was broken up with by text message . My ex is a fearful avoidant , its incredibly cruel and difficult to move on with no clear explanation
Do not tell yourself that it is incredibly cruel and difficult. That is a feeling and feelings are not telling you the truth. - Your ex likely did not act out of malicious intentions but out of a major flaw / weakness that she had not overcome (at least not 2 years before, and likely not yet, or you would have gotten a written apology from her).
It is not going to help her becoming happy when she is so immature that she cannot give you a proper last meeting.
There is no explanation. you were not the right one for her (at least in her mind, which is all that matters). And there is a good chance that you doged a bullet. She was not mature 2 years ago, and if you have not received a written apology by now for how she broke up with you, she still did not do her work.
Likely she was into another love interest. But those intense feelings of first love are not going to last, and then she will still have to deal with herself, her personality, being a fearful avoidant or whatever.
There are lessons to learned: The woman you chose, or how you overlooked first signs (like that she likely was not really engaged in the relationship for a while but kept up appearances. Or she is person that can "fall out of love" so suddenly. Well, then you do not want her to be your partner anyway).
Give her some grace, she might not have known what it was that kept her from fully committing (or breaking up much sooner if she was sure you were not the one for her).
Likely you doged a bullet, even if it does not feel that way.
@@franziskanihey man thanks for saying all of that. I know the message isn't for me but all you said strike me at home. I just got through a break up today and it is devastating. I really loved her but looking back at it now she did indeed fell out of love alot of times and it feels like I am always struggling to keep her attention onto mine. We were together but she doesn't look so interested in being with me anymore. I always had to force her to be with me. It was a painful struggle but I really do love her. I guess she really wasn't meant to be mine.
What’s weird is that after every relationship, you find someone even better. Everyone passes you a puzzle piece, showing you what you want in a partner / teaching you a lesson. I’ve been even more in love in every next relationship I’ve had, even while during the breakup I thought I was never going to love again.
There’s hope. Your first love isn’t the most important, the last one is. Keep going.
Thank you a lot
Thank you darling. I noticed that before. The thought that each partner was better than the last crossed my mind. 💗
Wow gotta note this
Damn. I've only been in 3 relationships and recently broke up two weeks ago. And this is so true. Recent ex was amazing but she also had red flags everywhere.
@rea33
*I think my lover is going to abandon me*
*I think my business will go wrong*
*I think my friend will gossip about me*
This baseless imagination turns on the switch of your anxiety. In this state, a logical approach is meaningless. If you can't calm down this anxiety, your imagination already becomes a reality. That is why you get anxious and impatient
search youtube "paradox of I can do it"
“Hope can be incredibly destructive when your heart is broken”. Wow.
Unfortunately it is very true.
Nikki M x
so true
6:00
Hope is last to die, but first to kill..
When you've TRULY moved on, you'll be missed.
It breaks my heart knowing there are so many beautiful souls are there questioning their worth because someone they loved made them feel unlovable.
😢
Yes mate
_"Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option"_ ~ Mark Twain
S 0 L 4 C 3 my god this happened to me....
Eva L it's exactly what happened to me, which is why i was so dumbfounded when i first read it. i knew i just had to comment it
I get it. But it’s so much easier said than done...
Damn this hurts now😥
S 0 L 4 C 3 I think this massage for me
This man said in 5 minutes what 6 months of therapy couldn't tell me...
#Facts
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Gotta keep themself in business.
I think you mean in 12:25
Just began my fight 2 days ago. See u in couple months. Jah bless you all.
same here bro.
I hope it goes well for you man
same. keep moving forward
@@xMiiDNiTesame here
I heard people say over a million times that time will heal the pain, we can get over it. And here I am, 8 months after my break up. It still feels like yesterday, I'm still hurt, I still cry, I feel the pain in my chest. I don't know how to fight, I don't know how long it will take, I try to be normal, but I am struggling every day. To those who are suffering broken heart, I feel your pain, just like mine.
You can do an energetic ritual to disconnect from them, to cut off and release all energetic connections.
@@artix86how do you do that?
@@elizabethkuffour6558 Energetic cleansing ritual (very important!):
Turn off your cell phone, etc, play some healing/angelic music in the background if you would like to, and have a sit (good to be naked) with a honest intention, that you want to release (and cut off what do not want to be released) all the cords/lines/everything that connects you (from your heart, head, throat, belly, sexual area, everywhere) with your former partner and is causing you and him/her pain, suffering, etc, and is not needed any more. There will be a lot of tears, grief, anger and other emotions during disconnecting, but it will help a lot immediately. Be honest with yourself and do it authentically. You can ask your Guides/Angels/Universe/God/Whatever to assist you, and help you in this ritual. Very important is at the end to have an intention to fill all the wounded/empty/healed spots and places in your body with the "healing light". You can repeat this ritual again in a day or few if you feel you would like to.
My heart is really in deep pain right now,
I always imagine her everywhere 😭 because of my true love to her all I wish is for her is to be happy but when I think that she's with someone and our time already has ended it really is disheartening but I know have to accept it's just really painful man
I know your pain, I've been through this for 14 years, but I even I achieved relief
Heart break is truly the worst feeling. I could never wish a heartbreak on anyone.
you never did heroin withdrawal (neither did I)
A shotgun to the chest would tickle me instead of this pain
@Zein Miftah 😂😂
I wouldn’t even wish it on my worst enemy.
@Zein Miftah but without IE there wouldn't be other browsers. So thank you IE
“Getting over a heartbreak is not a journey, it’s a FIGHT” - Thank you for this
True
That makes sense, cause no one ever wants to go through it. But you do have to face it to live.
A fight that I'm about ready to throw in the towel for. The daily pain is just too much for me to bear.
@@wizardofahhhs759 I feel you! I’ve been really going through it, I’m a lover not a fighter
@wizardofahhhs759 how are you feeling now? Sending lots of love and light ❤️🙌
Thank you so much for this. My husband of eleven years cheated on me. I had trusted him completely. I found out three days before Christmas. Today is Christmas and I got through it. I kicked him out three days ago. I will get through this. The past three days I kept going over in my mind how much I had believed I was in a happy and healthy relationship. I will now stop thinking about that aspect and I will concentrate on all the ways it wasn’t what I had thought it was. He wasn’t who I had thought he was. I will win this internal fight. I will survive this and I will learn how to be happy again. Thank you for helping me learn the steps I need to take to win this battle.
Hi Pamela, I just read your commment and hope you are doing well, from an internet stranger 👋
Hope you’re doing well!
I'm in the same shoes. My husband of 15 years (20 together) discarded me before Christmas. We have four kids so it's super hard.
I wish I knew he was a liar and a cheater all along. But it was so easy for him because of his work. Now he is with the other woman and also their new baby like nothing happened. She was pregnant when I got to know about the affair but I still tried saving our marriage. It was in vain now I know. Now I wouldn't even want him if he was the last man on earth...
But thinking about the past it is heartbreaking to realize that it was just a fantasy of mine, nothing was real, he was somebody else. :(
I am feeling stronger and more peaceful but I have ups and downs because I have to coparent with him and he is just mean and difficult in many things, mainly in finances.
I hope you are getting better, too.
I'm sure one day we will find someone who deserves us. 😊 But first we have to go along the road of healing.
A year ago i broke up with my ex and i came across this video and i saved the video thinking i would be back after i heal my broken heart. I remember watching this video with a sour and muded head. Just wanted to remind anyone going through breakups, worry not and give it some times. The pain will go away and you'll look back and think of those silly moments. Cheers!
"Hope is terribly destructive when your heart is broken." This hurts me so much.
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If someone breaks up with you, take it as a blessing, a favour done for you, that you are not in a relationship with someone who doesn’t want to be there . That person just saved you years of wasted time . Accept and move on
The Iron Yogi - Experience Yoga ~ True, but that’s so much easier said than done. That’s why we’re all here watching this heartbreak stuff.
David Bowman yes but you have no other option . It has to be done. So you either do it now or later . I’ve seen friends let heartbreak consume them . There are so many other facets of your life to work on and experience and if you don’t have any, now is the perfect time to explore as much as life as possible . You wake up and the world is your oyster. When I see someone so heartbroken over a failed relationship it tells me that they don’t apply enough worth onto themselves . They have made the other person their world and they don’t value themselves enough to know that there can be so much more to their lives .
@@davidbowman10yearsago39 I feel the video i made on dealing with heartbreak might help you in this regard :)
Thanks, I needed to hear that.
Tell us your story.
He made me cry towards the end because I am dealing with a heart break
Letting go is the hardest part if you truly valued an loved the person.
Our minds are so dangerous after a breakup. I have bought some mindfulness books and really trying hard but it’s still really painful 🙏 We have to meet things head on and be strong. Peace and love to everyone who are finding things hard. You will get there!!
To the people whose broken rn I hope one day you'll be okay and I know someone better is coming for you. You'll comeback stronger than ever before
Thank you sooo so much!
Possibly yes
Possibly no
Thank you for your words.. i had the best girl for me and it didn't worked out.. so no one better is coming for me.. its better for me to shut the doors
@OP: Tell that to all those INCELs out there...
Thank you just getting over 6 year thrown down drian
We all had the person who broke our heart in our mind while watching this video.
True
Sad but True but we need to get over it. I lost my identity and I'm trying to find it again.
True
we been knew
Yes
the only cure to heartbreak is time. it's like wound. it doesn't heal overnight. it needs time to recover and heal. I just went through a heartbreak myself. i know for a fact that she is not right for me but the sentiment of how much she cares for me is what breaks me knowing that I'll no longer have the feeling but I know with time, things will change, and my perspective changes too and probably will lead me to find a better person
Ken, you will bounce back... "women are like street cars, you gotta learn to get off one & grab another & don't look back." Old man Strickland told me that around 1987
Good luck. Mine was 52 years ago, I still think of him.
He is speaking as if he invented heartbreak, so insightful. I feel so uplifted.
i’m not here because a relationship ended
i’m here because it never started
Same for me:(, it hurts that it never started and that you could act as a boyfriend and not a friend
Yup same thing with me and the boy got a new gf and that broke my heart so bad
@@thealwayssmileguy9060 same here🙂
@@akiraasmr3002 i feel you..
Same, the thing is this is a never ending cycle for me, girls always choose other guys over me no matter how good I treat a girl I’m always getting rejected
Have you ever wanted to cry but no tears came out, so you just stare blankly into space while feeling your heart break into pieces?
Feeling it right fucking now
Yes. I feel your pain . I've been there.
Staring at a blank white wall, staring at a steering wheel of my car after coming home from work. I feel it and no not fun. And some reason you want more than anything for them to call.
This is what I'm feeling right now.
i feel you
Idealizing your ex instead of focusing on how they were wrong for you. Indulging thoughts and behaviors that still give them a staring role in this next chapter of your life, when they shouldn’t even be an extra
Ty for pinpointing these.
Don’t make someone a priority that only sees you as an option.
They don’t deserve it. ❤️
👏🎯👏🎯EXACTLY
Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamn. Put that on a t-shirt 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
U right Pixie.
Thank you
I need to believe that every guy i love leaves me
Yes
Didn't think I'd need to look up sites and videos on how to get over someone
Wh@tsApp him for help.
What sapp him,
Same
same here its killing me
Yeah 😂
A couple of years ago this video really helped me out when he said we should just accept whatever reason. Back then I remember pausing the video and saying to myself out loud "Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa! So you're telling me, I can just decide to move on?!" before deciding to move on and the day after that was the first day since the breakup I was dealing with at the time that I did not think about that person and I'm doing much better now. Thanks for this.
I hope this is true. My fiancé broke up with me after 8 years. I was in shock because I didn't see it coming. He treats me really well and I thought we were happy. Even before we fought I asked him if he still wanted to marry me and he said of course. We booked the date to sign papers and he bought me a wedding ring a month before. The hardest part besides not being with him is that I have to start from ground zero. I relied on him with everything so now I have to learn to drive, go back to school and get a job. I don't have any friends to be able to go out and do stuff because all my relationships they were my best friends. I had trauma with friendships in high school so that's why I don't have friends. I don't know how I'll be able to do this on my own. I just hope I can get myself back up again.
Nah you got this julie, imma and my gf broke up today too, and I feel like I lost my identity. Who I was because I was so dependent on her. Find yourself, find you again.
@@jasonstorey1905 I'm so sorry to hear that. It's hard but i'm trying. Hopefully I can focus on me again and be happy, also hope you do too.
The saddest part is "the love of your life loses interest and moves on while you are still in love with them and there's nothing you can do...!
I got back my ex wife with the help of someone who was able to bring back my ex wife and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems too 💎💎💎
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While he's on a journey with his new girlfriend I'm here, still getting through the pain.. it's devastating.. totally got you
@@doroty1299 i know....it really hurts..going through it....!
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Life truly is too short to care about someone that doesn't care about you...
Then there is no point in what so called love....Even they don't care we cares...That is love....
So much easier said than done...
That hurt
You’re right! I feel better
Sara Wilkinson actually not true
"It took the death of hope to let you go" - Corey Taylor
Watched this video a couple months in to being left. Seven months in, and I can tell you that you will get through this. Still thinking about my ex first thing when I wake up, but it used to be the first and last thing I did every day. I'm steadily working through that, and I know it won't be like that forever. Progress is progress. Keep fighting! Build your own value. Remember why the relationship was bad for you! Remember why it didn't work! Keep working towards a positive future. Keep the end goal in mind and tell yourself that this is part of the plan to become the person you were meant to be!
I’m fighting to heal and promise myself that I won’t lose my self-esteem for someone who doesn’t value me.
You're beautiful and never forget that. Don't allow someone to take that confidence from you. They didn't want it? Then they can't have it. Just because they broke it off doesn't mean that you have to feel as if there was something about you that they didn't like. It just means that they're giving you the opportunity to find someone who is better suited for you. ♥
Emily Cheng I’m in the same boat love
A little progress each day adds up to big results. Time goes on and so will we
YOU deserve more than the world
Emily Cheng I felt this so hard
It's honestly beautiful seeing a comment section filled with the same emotion, just knowing that I'm not the only one whose experienced this
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He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯
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Dr Frank can make your ex come back to you for a second chance. He was the one who helped me restore back my broken relationship of 3 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him.
I've had my first real heartbreak earlier this year and no matter how rational the breakup was, it is still a heartbreak for a reason. I've never felt my heart so heavy and so hot, I was only able to keep up from completely breaking because it wasn't a horrible breakup, but even that lasted for days and weeks. Even after accepting that breakup, it lingered for a while until it finally stopped after about a month. I still think about her from time to time now but it's mainly just wondering if she's doing alright now.
44 yrs old, experienced heartbreak for the first time, has not been productive at work for the last 6 months. Found this video a few days ago, and thank you Guy Winch. I watch this every day it reminds me to fight. Heartbreak is really painful.
Break ups are especially hard when they were your best friend. 😞 I literally have no one to cry to. Hopefully this video helps because I’m tired of feeling this way.
Going through this myself. It fucking sucks
Carolyn Ledesma I hope you feeling much better
Denever Broncos me too. I feel like I can’t catch my breath
@@angelawellborn839 it's been like 7 days and it feels like eternity. she was also my best friend. I dont know if she even cares enough for this to work if she did I feel like she wouldnt have hurt me like this. she has go be hurting tho I feel like the period of being happy that I'm gone has to be hitting her already idk
I actually left once b4 ik about this and when I reached out it worked. But it feels so different this time mainly me being the hurt one now
"Love is so short, forgetting is so long". Not mine, but Pablo Neruda's words.
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@@proudindian9140 bro why does it matter?
@@proudindian9140 you people sexualize everything.
It’s a tornado bashing inside my mind & heart, it’s evil, I wish the former significant other could truly feel my pain!!
I just want to say to him that I'm sorry, even though I've already have, for some reason, I can't wrap my mind around the idea that he is truly gone, I just, it hurts way too fucking much
The hardest part isn’t thinking “I’ll never find someone like her again,” it’s “I’ll never find HER again”
anonymous 20002001 I broke up with my girlfriend 5 days ago.
@anonymous 20002001 then you never loved. Lust is always easy to move on from. The loss of love lasts a lifetime
My thinking is:"I'll never find someone."
Its like i dont want anyone else other than her!!!
Non Care thank you
I don't love him anymore, I don't want him anymore, it's just the hurt still there. I can't explain.
Love is the result of investment, you probably invest so much for him
Completely understand how you feel! I felt horrible and was in denial when my ex decided to walk away after 5 years. I knew it was falling apart, but I tried everything under the sky to make it work. It took time to recover, but you become stronger and much happier without them. Just believe and tell yourself that you deserve someone who loves you.
Caren R Sabatina I understand more than you know. Xx
I 💯 feel you. Im trying to find an explanation right now no bullshit
I feel like that. I have been used , abused and betrayed. Still therez a part of me that needs to hear her voice and see her beautiful green eyes. Its like i need poison.
My heart is broken , but i dont have anyone that i can talk about ir with.
I find some comfort while reading the comment section, knowing that not only me who has to experience broken heart. IT HURTS, IT IS PAINFUL. Too painful sometimes i just wanna cry my eyes out and go completely insane. When I say i might have depression if I stay painful like this for too long, some people might not understand and think that im overreacting but I'M NOT. I'm in pain. I wish i could find joy as soon as possible. Everyday is a battle in my head to keep myself not going insane. I fight everyday and it's been a month. I hope i can find myself again and being healed. I really hope this day will come soon, I really hope this battle will end soon.
It's been a couple of days and I finally understand the quote "Nothing takes more patience than trying to heal yourself". I have dated an affluent and very powerful man for about half a year. We broke up and it just feels like life has no meaning anymore. I loved his integrity and his humbleness despite that he was moving in exclusive circles. The worst part is that I know no man is going to compare to him and I can't talk to anyone about it because I have signed an NDA. Maybe no one will see my comment or think that I'm lying, but I just needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for reading.
I’m going through something right now, please pray for me.
Praying for you
hope you're doing better now Tim.
Hey, this is late Tim. But I hope you're doing better now. You're never alone and you're never too broken to fix yourself. We're all here for each other
Same here pal
Me 2
Wow. One of the few videos that actually made me feel like I could weather this.
Day 6 after break up and found this video while searching how to heal a broken heart advise. Im glad that i found people on the comment section are able to move on with their life. This is not a journey but a fight. Knowing that people are able to win their fight motivates me to do the same. Keep on fighting everyone.
The recovery from a broken heart is worse than heroin withdrawl. I don't wish a broken heart on anyone ever.
Herb Tenderson yes, my heart hurts right now and i can't sleep or eat and it sucks
jack Lim me to man. I feel you. We will get through it though day by day.
When u dream about them is Rough also
jack Lim exactly what I’m going through right now
I had a bad breakup in 2012 with a woman and did all the wrong things and went a bit insane with despair, although its a bit amateur i made something about it, i hoped other guys wouldnt make the mistakes i made. If anyone wants to see it after then just type in the following title in to the search bar above........Some blokes guide to relationship breakups