Too Toxic, Too Young
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- čas přidán 24. 11. 2022
- The plaintiff says she dated the defendant, but their relationship was toxic and she had to file a restraining order after he punched her. She’s suing him for child support. The defendant says he was young and dumb, but he insists the plaintiff was violent too.
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We fought everyday, I punched him, he knocked my teeth out …fast forward I got pregnant?!?? Whyyyy is there a pregnancy after all that? Why is there still a relationship after all that?!?
Sadly, it sounds like they were both having weekly title bouts!!🥊⚖
I know, Why!
Unfortunately what you as a normal person may view as dysfunctional/toxic, them as a dysfunctional/toxic person tend to view it as their version of normal or love......
Right!! I would have been Ghost 👻
@@zulu3274 yes, she did say she grew up in a home where she witnessed domestic violence.
I like how she held herself accountable for their past relationship abuse and gave him credit where credit was due.
And? She obviously hasn’t learned anything. She has 3 kids and is a single mother. She doesn’t get kudos for continuously f*cking up.
Rare!
Same
Then got the courts involved to use as leverage
On me that's very very rare and I respect her for that
She’s an honest toxic person. 3 kids,3 different fathers and fighting/restraining orders and arguing to the point of car accidents. The question is: has she learned ANYTHING?
Obviously not.
Smh
Nope
This why I pass on single moms, it usually a repeat pattern with the next dude.
@@tidey4 smart.
Wow this woman took full accountability sounds like they are in a better space but her past got y’all judging her badly.
They're in a better space because they're not together. Let them move in together, and it'll be the Ukrainian war up in there
I will go anytime with a woman like that
I will definitely go back with a baby mother like because you can see later on if anything bad happened to you she would taking care of you
Just because she admitted to wrong doings, doesn’t mean she took accountability. N one woman admitting wrongdoings don’t mean ppl can’t make judgements. I wonder if you call out the women who constantly judge men
Judging is part of the world we live in. She deserves to be judged like any women that has multiple babies, by multiple men and never married
I remember her last case. She keeps winning her cases because she’s an honest person who makes bad choices. I hope she’s changing that.
Yes.
Well Cincinnati and Houston are both Tough Cities, They moved from the Ghetto to another Ghetto, Its a repeating cycle
@@knightclassic1 being a Texan I know first hand how rough Houston can be. But like most cities there are nice areas.
Especially for her kids sake...Geesh
@@knightclassic1 Houston is not ghetto. Every city had a ghetto
Dealing with someone who knocked your teeth loose is crazy
How do these people function? 1 tense disagreement with my husband and I'm exhausted. This is just insane.
I just left a Toxic Relationship. He was young and dumb too. He was the worst person I ever encountered. He use to make up stuff just too put his hands on me. He literally fought me 4 to 5 days out the week. I stayed because I was scared. He made the relationship all about him. He was very clingy only because he didn't want to miss anything concerning money 🤑 He was the type to fight in front of my family and the public. He wasn't working and taking my money and putting his hands on me when I didn't have money to give him. Anytime I wanted to take time out for myself he made sure He stopped me right in my tracks. He drunk from sun up to sun down. The last straw was him chocking me til I past out and he punched me and broke my jaw as soon as I woke up. It's been two weeks now that I have left. So Woman understand The first sign of abuse you should leave. I had no family support so Im currently in a shelter as I speak. I'm just happy God 🙏🏾 got me out because my funeral was next. I don't know why I'm sharing this but I feel like someone needed to hear this. So please don't judge me, because of my bad choices just pray for me
Praying for you Shae 🙏🏾
TGBTG that you got out with your life, You are definitely blessed to be alive,I hate that you are in a shelter,but thank God it's not in the grave,it sounds like you were dealing with a narcissist, toxic, demonic spirit,I know because I dealt with one for 7 years,2+years free,Thank God,not sure where you are but Texas has a program that will help you, check with whatever state you are in.Praying that you seek counseling,I am still healing from my trauma/PTSD.Godbless you and wish nothing but the best.
Thank y'all. Update; I'm finally out the shelter 😌 and into my own place... God has been so good and showing out for me,every since I decided that the only relationship I want is with God. Until I get my mind right... And thank God 🙏🏾 he got us through. And there is no turning back. I'm looking more healthier and I'm able to relax mentally and physically... Ty y'all again for the prayers 🙏🏾.. We all need em
No judgement, you made the right decision before it was to little to late. God brought you through and out of that bad situation and he will continue to bless and keep you.
@@shaehud5880 I'm so glad you got out of that. You're so strong. I hope everything is still going well for you. I'll be praying for you always.
JM tickled me with putting his hands up saying I'm sorry 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Wow...getting $50 a month in support is ridiculous. These type of men should not think of having kids if that is the best they can or willing to do.
JM was just making a example... To make it simple enough for people to understand
Lol so the women aren't willing participants in choosing who to have children with?
Absolutely. Get a damn vasectomy at all costs
I think anyone who is only ok with paying that amount should be forced to live off of that amount themselves. 😊
Agreed and women should stop having kids with them.
JM dropped SO many gems. It hurt me that so much went over the defendant head but I hope it eventually sinks in.
Cause he's too busy lying about paying child support. 🤔
@@ellekane302 there's no record of it but even she said he paid. She's double dipping and she knows it.
@@kirkmo1666 Women do this all of the time.
This is one of the best episodes I've seen... The honesty between them on national tv is amazing, you can tell that they're both trying to better (People/Parents). This episode should be shown to all high school students😂 (just joking). The jewels dropped in this episode are priceless!!
People blame everything on being young smh. They were old enough to know better. Both of them were incompatible and ratchet.
In the HOOD, As An Republican Black Man, Its hard growing up Young being positive.
Everyone mature at different stages. We all mistakes, learning from them and not repeating them is what matters
Exactly. Old enough to have some sense. Some people enjoy being the mess. If it's not ratchet it's not good enough.
@@the-last-brandon that was a 7 year mistake then
The brain doesn't completely develop until you're 25. Until then your decision making abilities can be severely limited. Yes, some people us it as an excuse. However it shouldn't be dismissed outright.
These people will be single mothers not on purpose like it’s nothing. I don’t get it. Men have babies with you knowing you’re the type of person to do it alone. Stop having the babies
Yep!
I think most men and women want the sex but don't want the babies but the women keep the babies because most have been brainwashed against abortion... So some of the men don't care either way... "Well if you keep it that's on you but I don't want to have anything to do with it"......
If Black Women can't find a Good Black Men, they always chooses Thugs with no sorts of educated, good back ground then Black Women should just Break They Cycle by dating White Men then this World will be a better World. So sick of Black Women complaining and complaining about can't find a good man but they keep on chasing Thugs. So sick of it.
@@knightclassic1 Hey, yall nobody feels they can find a good man. Especially one's with children. Everybody finding it hard to find a good partner of either gender. They are just not advertising it like we tend to do, on these platforms.
Judge is the best at saving relationships so families can elevate.
The judge helped to take the sting out of the case. Both parties left with hope not malice. Beautiful job Judge Mathis! ❤
wrong, he laughs, makes jokes, i guess he's just tired of the whole thing.
I like them both. We all grow/go through things in life. They are both very honest loving people with a mutual respect for one another.
You do not grow out of violence !!!!! It does not work that way. They will get worse and spread their misery to the next relationship. These idiots going on Judge Mathis instead of therapy tells you all you need to know.
I'm gone way before the violence starts and I've been like that since I was a teen.
The people that are the LEAST equipped to raise kids; struggling financially, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, ALWAYS breed like ANIMALS w/ any and everyone.
You not lying
Why are civilization is wicked
Yep
Exactly 💯😊
Sex is the only thing they can afford. Makes them feel better emotionally, even if only for a short while. Makes a lot of sense if you think about it. It shouldn't happen, but it's the world we live in.
Her Kids will be out CARJACKING People shortly Just like 95% of Black Boys are doing today, Carjacking People/ Becoming Druggie Rappers/ Babydaddies. Watch.
I’m sorry but just because your you were young doesn’t excuse poor behavior. I’ve never done stuff like this “because I was young”
Exactly! Using age as an excuse...smh
@Scott 💯💯💯 Facts
@@sheilae.9670 💯💯💯
Wait a minute.......She wasn't saying she was right. She was explaining the error of her ways. Judgemental much?
I hear you and life has been my best teacher.
Getting a restraining order and saying she stood beside him...
How'd that work dummy 🙄
They need noxema
@@mikedub1450 they skin not that bad tho
She antagonized him
This judge must've taken his meds that day. He picks and chooses his mood.
I like them both. I love how honest that the plaintiff is.
The plaintiff is annoying
@@kaidupree6407 Not to me.
Plaintiff will get herself another Thug. You know how Black Women is, Come on Dawg
@@knightclassic1 We cannot pigeonhole all Black women; I do see what you mean however.
@the price went up Somewhat.
In my early 20s I was married with child, started my own business and studied. Young doesn't have to be synonymous with dumb.
That part 👏🏽
Y’all have to understand that some people don’t heal from childhood trauma and it carries on with them through life until they get help..
@@deeriv5809I understand it. But I choose not to let my childhood trauma deter me from living a normal life...
Hold up… she was the aggressor and hit him, and he hit her back. Yet, she got the restraining order!? He ended up getting probation because of that. She mentioned she stuck beside him like she was doing him a favor…😂😂😂
This is why child system sucks. She went down there out of spite because she talks crazy and expect it right NOW!
There ain't no way a ninja bust my teeth out and I open my legs HELL NO!!!!
I agree with you 💯 👍
Right
Keep your hand to yourself and you’ll keep your teeth
This is one of the reasons I stuck it out with my wife. I didn't want another man around my children. Whatever issues my wife and I had we worked them out and changed.
If only every relationship can work like that😢
@@debodamah4878 It could if both people in the relationship were on the same page
💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿
We need more of this
This was a GREAT episode! The accountability they both took, the mutual respect they have for one another was refreshing! They have a very toxic past, but that’s just that and no one should be judged based on who they WERE, especially if they’re making strides to be and do better which they seem like they are! I hope they continue to flourish individually and maybe together in the future
My favourite episode. I wish them well independently of each other.
She used him
I'm glad she didn't bad mouth him
She took this man’s son from Cleveland Ohio to Houston Texas and then complains that he’s not in the child’s life like he used to be.
Last time I checked, phones are a thing. He could at least FaceTime his son on regular basis
@@PrincessZaire100 not the same as seeing your kid in person. If she really wanted this man in the kids life she wouldn’t have ran. Also, FaceTime? How do you know he has an iPhone? Man can’t even afford to pay his arrearage and you are talking about $1500 phones. Silly.
@@jamescash887 yes I’m the silly one. He can call, and there’s other means voice calls other than FaceTime. We also don’t know why she had to move. She could’ve moved for a better job, which she would need if he isn’t paying his child support. So try again. There should be know reason why he’s not calling his son on a regular basis other than being locked up. A call, a letter. These days there isn’t much of an excuse to not be able to get in touch with someone
@@PrincessZaire100 a phone cannot replace a child spending time with his/her parents, grandparents, aunts/uncles, cousins, etc Kids need their parents
@@PrincessZaire100 No amount of money is worth the issues a child suffers from not both parents in that childs life. She stated he was a great father until she moved. I am a case manager who spent years working at a mental health facility and now I run a mentoring program in the community as well as in a juvenile facility. Over 90% of the people I have worked with did not have a father or a mother in their life in a consistent basis and it has had a negative impact.
The facts and the data prove kids need those who created them to raise them. Ask most prostitutes, drug dealers, scammers, jackers, promiscuous people, and even everyday people if they wish they had their mother and father growing up and you will hear an overwhelming amount of yes’s
The only people debating this are people who haven’t learned the hard way
She was honest about the things she remembered doing. She didn't put the blame all on him
Well, Its hard growing up positive in the Black Community. As us Black People, we need to grow up Tough Life to get ahead
They seem to have grown up to be better adults . Just made some bad choices in their early youth but who hasn't?
In The Black Community, Its hard to grow up Positive, Nothing but Garbage and Negative Activity and Its NOT WHITE MAN'S FAULT
How? She has three kids with 3 different and is a single mother. She hasn’t learned anything.
@@jamescash887 I had 3/3 I was single, now I have 4/4, 1st off my 1st child concieved first time had sex, 1st child biofather moved out of state and decided not to deal I was 17, so was I supposed to not live after that, 2nd biological donor purposely impregnated me, knowing he had a family at home he lied about, I could go on but long story, but sometimes shit happens in life, and you find yourself just trying to pick up and keep pushing...
@@mellaniewickware6825 so you can’t control yourself is what you are saying? Last I checked abstinence is 100% effective. Once is a mistake anything after that isn’t. You freely opened your legs no one forced you to. Listen, I was in same boat. I was a single father at 22. Thankfully I had a college education and a job to support my kid. My son isn’t a mistake but my actions were. You know what I didn’t do? I didn’t run around town making a bunch of babies the taxpayers would have to support. I got married years later and still only have my son. Sad in our society there is zero accountability for one’s actions.
He’s probably the most stand up child’s father she has & that’s why she probably put him on child support & sued him. He mentioned he helps her take care of her other 2 so she probably depends on his money alone. The other fathers probably are no where to be found. & she seems to got upset the times he wasn’t able to
Giving money here and there doesn’t take care of a child that needs things everyday and 273 dollars a month can barely take care of 1 kid yet alone 3
Is only Black Males that are Deadbeats, why do you think 97% of Young Black Men and Boys on the streets, No Father in the Households and Black Mothers can't handle them.
@@tiffyq7794 Just some Raggedy Ass Kids that they created, probably carjacking people now
You better pay your child support, or face jail time.
Teach Black Men of how to use Condom if they don't want to be Fathers. Simple as that, sir. He is embarrassing of All of Us Black Men.
@@knightclassic1 absolutely, I agree.
The judge makes every excuse for anger hostility and violence.. 🤦🏾♂️
I love that this lady was so honesty. I hope those two can make their relationship stronger. You don't find many people who tell the truth.
That percentage for child support is ridiculous! The custodial parent is paying WAY more than that. Many folks complain about “gold diggers” and they’re getting $200 per month. Day care is about that for ONE week!
Well if the custodial parent (most likely the woman) can't hold it down how about give the child to the father. I know plenty of men who would gladly take full custody of their child and not need anything from the mother. However many of these women are money hungry and want an extra free check for themselves smh
@@bronxboroughpresident3608 you and I both know that’s a lie! Those same individuals don’t even have 50/50 custody, but they’ll take full?
@@Whatshaname Nope! Not a lie. Maybe every man you know is deadbeat, but not all men are like that. Some just don't want to be with the woman and will gladly take custody of their child and keep the courts outta their lives. But obviously using the courts is a way for a woman to use a baby to get a bag
@@bronxboroughpresident3608 that definitely isn’t the majority of the men I know. there’s a big difference between a deadbeat and a parent who doesn’t have 50/50 custody. I’m referring to someone who doesn’t have a custody agreement jumping to full custody to avoid paying child support AND contributing to raising the child(ren).
@@Whatshaname ok and the point I'm making is most men don't want the goddam government dictating how they care for their children. So if the mother is struggling so bad that she needs the government to cut the man's paycheck in half, most men would rather the child live with them and the woman can keep her dam money. Why do adults need the Gov't to tell them how much they need to spend to take care of their child. But for the last time most chicks won't agree to that because they want a free check coming to her every 2wks smh
First thing someone says he's abusive. But she hit him first. She initiated violence! Everyone isn't docile! Some ppl are reactive. Men need protection as well.
She’s the stereotype I’ve always fought to never be. Single, black mother with 3 kids with different fathers, aggressive, and abusive. So many people think I’m aggressive for just being a tall, darkskin black woman. Why do I have to be “strong” and aggressive just because of my race ? Insane. I’m happy she at least holds her own, I hope she learns from everything.
I love you my black queen!
Why did you make this about you?
@@jaydenmorgan2011 right!
@@jaydenmorgan2011 exactly!
@@jaydenmorgan2011 why so serious
The way they both smiled and said fighting “ a lot” made it sound like it’s their love language.
When they were dating, I was married and my husband and I never smacked, punched, kicked, or engage in verbal combat when we were angry. Age in some cases is no excuse for violence. These two individuals obviously grew up in violent environments that taught them to communicate with physical and verbal combat. Wow… Young people who will turn into young adults must understand that violence is not communicating but perpetuating more violence and dysfunctional homes. Hopefully they’re doing better now
I agree but not everyone lives in a Bubble
@@carolinehampton9973 you’re correct… My husband and I grew up in Oakland California where violence was an every day episode. We figured out relatively early that it wasn’t what we wanted so we moved immediately. You are correct though, people don’t live in a bubble, people don’t grow up in loving household
Toxic is Right🤦🏾♀️
She says she's a single mother of 3 kids like her child's father died or something and it couldn't be helped. Seems like she had 3 kids with 3 men in a short period of time. Hopefully, she has slowed down because it doesn't seem like she can afford them on her own. Not that she shouldn't be getting help from the father's but you have to think ahead if they don't help or aren't there can I do it myself.
Why all the kids??? Ridiculous. Producing kids and cant support them and then the cycle continues..
Us single mothers endure a lot.
Word
See it's not the relationship that's toxic, it the person, or people. Love is not a bad thing just people playing wit it.
IDC what anybody else says Judge Mathis is FINE😍💯💯
I used to like his gap lol
@@Chosenones572 why don't you like it now
@@Ianisatool oh i still do lol
@Muzik Michael First of all I am far from ghetto and Secondly, I know he's married and Furthermore I am free to express myself in a positive way. Now u have a good day. Smdh!
@Muzik Michael😮
“We ain’t have that brand” 😩😂 the judge is hilarioussss
3kids,3 different father's
Obviously she's in business 😂
So she gonna keep getting pregnant every time she get a new man?
Ikr
🤔 Judge Mathis starting to make a good case concerning why people should pay child support... It's messed up that you've been giving money to support that child but the other person can lie and say no you haven't...IDK... I'm still trying to figure out if I can fully agree with it or not...💯
If you not agreeing with it keeps you out of the situation more power to you. Child Support is absolutely a punishment from the state. They want you to be married and taking care of your family.
You can’t fully agree because you’re thinking with the emotional mindset regarding men getting taken advantage of. Child support wouldn’t have to exist if men/women would simply handle their business but MOST aren’t responsible enough. They need the white man in their business who also takes a cut
Child support needs to be consistent. Alternative, make an agreement, notarize the signatures and be consistent with the date and amount. Send it electronically so you can have a record. Everything else you do after it is gift. Nobody should be giving "what I can, when I can" to raise a child. If it ever goes to court, at least you already have a record and such will be taking into consideration.
All they need is to make sure they keep receipts. It's messed up that someone would like about supporting a child or the support they get!
My girls father and I are together and we literally go half on everything. Not an agreement or anything but it made sense to me. If ever we were to split up, I'd hope we would continue to do the right thing for our daughters sake. Hopefully it will NEVER come to that tho bc it's so much easier raising the girls together. He does have a set of twins with another lady who has him on CS but I NEVER understood y bc since I've known him, he's supported his children financially and he gets them every week literally! Every dime he gets, he spends on all his children to the point, I have to tell him to gift himself sometimes. Talk about Selflessness!
Glad in single ✊🏿🖤
Happy holidays
Happy holidays Hun 💖
Happy Holidays to you
He said indigo and sativa, then proceeded with “whatever that is” …okay Judge Mathis 😂😂
❤ to all you Judge Mathis fans❤️ Phoenix , Az in the house…lol
🏜 I'm 65 mi away🤘🏻
Sending love and hugs and prayers from Norwood Louisiana 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💚💙💜❤💛🧡🤎🤍
How about just take care of ur child, without being asked
Indica Judge 😂 Indica is the strand that chills you out 😂
What stuck out to me the most about this case was that Judge Mathis called Indica, "Indigo"
I mean when you young u make mistakes and u jus got to own up too it it’s Growth❤
I tell my brother this ALL THE TIME!!!!! Go to the court & let them put u on child support. But he believes in verbal agreements like it’s going to hold up in court. Smfh
She’s pretty.
yes She is😍
With a terrible attitude...lol
Where?
@Shamerag Bee lol different standards I guess lol.
Yes she is very ❤
She said she hit him, he hit her back, yet he gets the restraining order on him 🤔.
He could have filed one …he just didn’t
@@rashaunnn6371
Because most men aren’t bitches that do shit outta spite. Speaking for myself….
Lmao I thought the same thing. Then said she stuck beside him? Like girl you the reason he was in trouble
She hit him first !!!
JM did a great job on this case. Good to see he wasn’t on his monthly cycle.
This why child support is in place for the simple fact that you're at liberty to Say no for Any reason . You got to provide for your child . When u break up there's no record. However don't need an order to still spend time with your kid(s). Child support is very minimum . Being there is priceless.
If you pay child support directly to the mother and not to the state, if it's in their hands, you still owe it to the state. I hate it when mothers do this to the father.
If they both grew up they may possibly be a great married couple
Mathis Said Indigo 😂🤣...It's Indica Your Honor 😁
Lol this was my childhood friend. Hate to see her go through chaos.
Heck the first incident of him taking his things, hers back, should’ve been the last..believe what they say and do, First time
Even if the money was given , the courts create a bill to pay . All people don't go through child support . Keep courts out of your business..smh
Write a contract agreement and pay in check with child support noted.
Why wasn't she placed on parole for going upside his head and hitting him with objects? Why wasn't a restraining order placed against her?
Because she's a woman
Because he didn't go to the police like she did and now she suing him smh she got grimey tendencies
Parole?😂😂😂
Because parole is the release of a prisoner before the completion of his or her sentence.
My point was I doubt she would have been on parole for that alone I know what it is
She hit him first then he hit her back and there goes a restraining order.🤦♂️ Women have that I can hit you but you can't hit me back mind frame and it needs to stop!
These folks didn’t come here to lie, they own their $#!t
She’s matured a lot
3 Baby Daddies???? LMAO at You!!!! Try Again.
JM usually goes hard on a man that hits their woman. Regardless if the woman agitates or starts the violence.
She says he works his but off yet he’s behind on less than $70 weekly in child support
She said from the time they met up until then and if I heard correctly the judge said he had 5 kids in total so 🤷🏽♀️
Why do men not support your kids financially when they leave... That's goofy
Then wanna complain over it
Judge Mathis is hilarious 😂
Heyy fam!!!! who else watching with me?
That makes zero sense for them to agree that no one can come to games to show support to their children but then. Zero sense!!!!! 🤡🤡🤡
This is that let's smoke weed, fight and get busy type of relationship. Whilst bringing some innocent children into the madness. Some people are complicit in the chaos and the dysfunction in their lives.
It was good to see, that they both took accountability. Seems like, that they are in a better space also.
Yeah, everybody when you have 6 kids. They tapper your child support down, you know.😅
Both of them are irresponsible. Seems like the in-thing is to run in together as soon as people meet. Nobody wants to wait and learn about each other before living-in together starts.
I don't know why people stay together if they fight this much.
Did Judge Mathis say "Indigo" 😂😂😂😂😂😂
She is what's wrong with a lot of Women!
Judge had to tell that boy chill. Hey Doyle you got me right?
Why is always the same audience members 😂
I think they are the JM staff.
@@Sheherhis yep you are right as Judge Mathis said it's his staffers in an episode
He said they work for the show...
Oh hell nahhhhhhhh, he done knocked her toof loose, and she throwing🛋️ lamps across the room! leave it alone please..😵💫
I'm so glad I NEVER had a man put his hands on me..therefore saving me from the penitentary...THE FIRST TIME would be the last..PERIODT!
That's a good man. They just need some counseling. I see them together. ❤️
He didn't have his father so its why He is troubled and uneducated.
All these damn restraining orders.
😂
Abusing the court with restraining orders....knowing they still bumpin and grinding.
I love the accountability from both of them and you can tell they actually vare about each other even with the drama. I hope they make it work as co parents
Body language tells a lot ! Leaning on the podium ( unless you’re unable too ) says a lot
3-5% of his income? JM, that is not accurate. Here in Texas the percentage of child support starts at 20% for just one child.
👨🏿⚖️WE AIN'T NEVER HAD THIS BRAND 🌳🌳🌳😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You can also get a cashiers check or money orders for your own record instead of loose cash if you don’t want the government involved.
Out of 24 minutes of watching how can ppl come to the comment area and judge a person by their past and not saluting the growth?
Where is child support 3-10% per child?!?! I pay 30%, insurance, and split all additional medical bills 50/50