Hopeless Romantic or Toxic Love Affair (and Bats!)

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  • čas přidán 26. 06. 2024
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Komentáře • 118

  • @manilla2054
    @manilla2054 Před 4 lety +83

    The other day I saw a lizard in my dad's living room. The lizard minded his business and I did as well.

    • @NBnNC
      @NBnNC Před 4 lety +7

      I had the same issue at my grandmothers house year back- a mouse leisurely walked across the living room - not scurrying fast - to the kitchen. I just started back watching tv 🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @rickireign
      @rickireign Před 4 lety +1

      NB in DC 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @rebekahkingbello9560
      @rebekahkingbello9560 Před 4 lety +1

      😂😂😂😂😂

    • @lovely7464
      @lovely7464 Před 4 lety +1

      😂😅😂🤣😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @doubleg3973
      @doubleg3973 Před 4 lety +3

      NB in DC 🤣🤣🤣 nawww a mouse is a different story lol

  • @diamondglaze725
    @diamondglaze725 Před 4 lety +30

    When she said, “I flighted.” 🤣🤣🤣

  • @ruthst.julien4581
    @ruthst.julien4581 Před 4 lety +26

    NAHHHH FAM. How the heck did the landlord KNOW it was a bat though. That ish must be regular 🏃🏾‍♀️😂

  • @thewayofyahweh7
    @thewayofyahweh7 Před 4 lety +37

    That wasn’t love. That was lust. She was in a soul tie. That’s why the constant back and forth. He was comfortable, familiar and convenient.

  • @lulunaphtal3099
    @lulunaphtal3099 Před 4 lety +51

    Played UNO last week and everytime I won I was like "it's chocolate baby story time..uh huh uh huh..." It made for a good victory song.

  • @smilergal89
    @smilergal89 Před 4 lety +17

    That how single are you was hilarious. I feel you sis. 🤣🤣🤣 she’s a great story teller

  • @ireallylovenia
    @ireallylovenia Před 4 lety +16

    “I thought this was a joke. Sorry.” 😂😂😂😂 rotfl

  • @gowithdflo
    @gowithdflo Před 4 lety +35

    Im rooting for common sense AND the babies.

  • @nyocadavis177
    @nyocadavis177 Před 4 lety +31

    Glenn is out here giving story writing advice..
    I low key agree though.

  • @Dina8485
    @Dina8485 Před 4 lety +20

    Y'all play with Naya Zai! 😂

  • @gowithdflo
    @gowithdflo Před 4 lety +15

    See Glen...the dishwasher tutorial worked! 😂😂😂😂.. Yvette give the man an A+

  • @Krystal_Speaks
    @Krystal_Speaks Před 4 lety +15

    35:14 This part! Exactly. This lady needs to sit back and reevealuate herself. She made alot of mistakes and went along for alot of rides along the way. She should be single for awhile cause cheating on people isn't cool. Can you refrain from sex? Can you be in a relationship without sex? Seems sex is driving the decisions in these relations which leave mock [not authentic or real] and deceptive emotions.

  • @MusiccisuM
    @MusiccisuM Před 4 lety +10

    I love these podcasts! Honestly my faith in marriage is sloooooooowly growing.

  • @victoriat9145
    @victoriat9145 Před 4 lety +18

    I really hope you never get rid of the into!! It gets me so hyped 😂✨ now time to watch!

  • @jasmineh5426
    @jasmineh5426 Před 4 lety +22

    Already liked the video and I haven't even watched yet!

  • @SavySavannah.
    @SavySavannah. Před 2 lety +2

    I can’t lie, I’ve come back to watch these after binge watching all of your episodes back in 2020, and honestly these conversations have such a feel good vibe!

  • @nyocadavis177
    @nyocadavis177 Před 4 lety +16

    Come through with the solo Yvette!!!

  • @smiley7240
    @smiley7240 Před 4 lety +3

    OMG that Calvin story was WILD!!! I was hollering....at work!

  • @CraftyMuslimas
    @CraftyMuslimas Před 4 lety +2

    I live in Missouri. When I was younger, my family house was plagued by bats. The guy a couple doors down had this house he abandoned for years and then all of a sudden came and cleared it out so the bats found new homes. 🙃
    I can tell ya the first time I saw one, it was the same kind of situation. I think I was like 17. There were like 10 ppl in the house. We all went running. 😂😂

  • @pastorbenabs
    @pastorbenabs Před 4 lety +14

    hilarious---I thought she was apart of the family

  • @Whitttney47s
    @Whitttney47s Před 4 lety +5

    GLEN!!!! You finally did the dish washer line up correctly!!!! Did y’all here that “Well done!!!” Beautiful

  • @rebeccawinterstrom7359
    @rebeccawinterstrom7359 Před 4 lety +3

    You guys!!! There was a bat in my house just last night. Woke me up at 2am.... SAN MARCOS CALIFORNIA mmmhhmmm....they are out here too!

  • @KPsparks
    @KPsparks Před 4 lety +18

    BRUH...that would have been the day a bat become a house owner..... I CANT! lol

    • @jocelyngrantdidit
      @jocelyngrantdidit Před 4 lety +1

      I just said that. The bat can have the house! I’m good.💅🏾

  • @nikkichristinar
    @nikkichristinar Před 4 lety +4

    Bats are in georgia too

  • @tolutete597
    @tolutete597 Před 4 lety +11

    This podcast title is the best 😂😂
    Co-parent? Seems more like co-dependency... She and Calvin don't have children together do they?? I'm stumped on this one. I agree, she should take a break from relationships and maybe try celibacy for like a year... or more. Protect her heart for a bit.

  • @Sami-dp5ss
    @Sami-dp5ss Před 2 lety

    Her voice when she talks is so beautiful to hear. His voice is great 👍 too !!

  • @jessicascott.83
    @jessicascott.83 Před 4 lety +3

    The bat story...I almost died listening to it! And the other relationship...that relationship is TOXIC. Glen made very valid points from the beginning dude was lying.

  • @chandrasmith4722
    @chandrasmith4722 Před 4 lety +10

    That's a perfect 1st date question and story.
    Question: Are you behind the door or in front of the door?
    Response: What?!
    Insert explanation. Great laughs and banter should follow or you discover he's missing a sense of humor.

  • @erichamilton3734
    @erichamilton3734 Před 4 lety +3

    I am with Glenn. I am concerned for the children (Little Calvin).

  • @nikkichristinar
    @nikkichristinar Před 4 lety +4

    Yay FIVE more episodes till ONE HUNDRED!!! Yevette said "WOW THIS IS AMAZING." lol 😆 Yall are funny.

  • @JasmineCaprii
    @JasmineCaprii Před 4 lety +1

    I had that happen to me before. A bat got into my house and flew past me as I was laying on the couch. At first I thought it was a bird, but when I realized it was a bat, I got the hell out of dodge. I ran upstairs to my room and closed the door so fast. I even cried and did the slow wall slide down to the floor. I was home alone and terrified! I’m in Indiana by the way and there was a bad storm the night before. Long story short, my neighbor heard me screaming and came over and rescued me. He got the bat out and all was well.

    • @lovely7464
      @lovely7464 Před 4 lety

      😂🤣😂🤣 @ slow wall slide!! So funny

  • @deborahayanna9098
    @deborahayanna9098 Před 4 lety +4

    Bats are like rats/mice with wings. A LOT of people end up with bats in their attic they don't know about it. And also not to alarm you but if you have forest behind you probably have random wildlife you don't know about it because bats can't be seen at night.

  • @RDCFemmes
    @RDCFemmes Před 4 lety +4

    I'm with Glenn, he lied so that relationship should have never started.

  • @user-kx2vw8xe5h
    @user-kx2vw8xe5h Před 4 lety +1

    You are right. Gotta have standards for your life. Intentional not happen stance.

  • @drichardson6348
    @drichardson6348 Před 4 lety +3

    I still laughing at how Yvette sprinted down the stairs in that prank.

  • @EbonyShumpert
    @EbonyShumpert Před 4 lety +1

    I was just talking to my husband about how I get excitement and arousal from all these random things like paying off debt, staying on budget and chores being done.
    Makes me light up the way Yvette did with the dishwasher! 😄🥰

  • @confidence_onyema
    @confidence_onyema Před 4 lety +6

    I love the both of you and your children. I follow all your platforms and I am grateful for the gift of your ministry.
    I am commenting for the first time because I felt like Calvin was being put on a pedestal that this lady is not being put on as well. They both have toxic traits.
    Is she the kind of person she would want in her own life? She needs to get herself right for herself first, for her kid and then for whoever comes into her life eventually.

    • @tolutete597
      @tolutete597 Před 4 lety +1

      True cause Calvin did set a boundary mid way through this, shakey yes and she breached it. Didnt take much to breach it cause of their proximity but still... iunno

    • @tayanab9580
      @tayanab9580 Před 4 lety +2

      I don't understand why Calvin is being romanticized. There is nothing romantic about lying about having a child on the way.

    • @PHE-nomenon
      @PHE-nomenon Před 4 lety +1

      @@tayanab9580 exactly! he's a liar all around. Because he had to have been lying to the woman he cheated on with her as well. He'll eventually lie to and cheat on her as well. Restarting the cycle. Why does she want him?

    • @confidence_onyema
      @confidence_onyema Před 4 lety

      @@tayanab9580 my comment is in no way romanticizing Calvin. My point is that the lady is just as responsible as he is for the toxicity they are experiencing. The conversation kept making it sound like she was a Saint.
      We are fond of making friends with the central character in a story even if they are evil/bad.

  • @keamckoy8749
    @keamckoy8749 Před 4 lety

    My momma did the same thing to me as a child. We got a bat in the house, my Dad went to get a net. The bat flew near my Mom and I, and she pushed pasted me to run away from the bat. Lol!! I roasted her for weeks about leaving me behind with the bat. My Dad got rid of it and saved the day.

  • @melaniemcneely2803
    @melaniemcneely2803 Před 4 lety +7

    Yeah naw. I feel for her. Calvin may be a nice person but he was unavailable and it was toxic from the beginning.

    • @tayanab9580
      @tayanab9580 Před 4 lety +1

      There is nothing nice about a man who denies his child. He had bad intentions from the beginning and that why he kept lying.

  • @dirtykitchen_thebowloflife

    The glow you both had from the dishwasher story was great!!!

  • @misscoldasf9643
    @misscoldasf9643 Před 2 lety +1

    I completely understand. When i was younger and it was just me and my baby. One night i seen a mouse....my a** called the cops😂🤣

  • @adedoyindavid8984
    @adedoyindavid8984 Před 4 lety +2

    I knew my fiance was the one (ofcourse there are more reasons i knew he was the one besides this issue i had below. We've been married for 7 years and 11 months) when he drove to my house at an ungodly hour to throw away a mouse that was trapped on the sticky trap underneath my bed. I can't do rodents or any furry animal.

  • @Nee.333
    @Nee.333 Před 4 lety +3

    I agree Glen, that advice was on the money!

  • @celiaherdic2548
    @celiaherdic2548 Před 4 lety +4

    y'all bring me joy

  • @boomboom6577
    @boomboom6577 Před 4 lety +1

    Love, love, love the head wrap.

  • @jordybsm
    @jordybsm Před rokem

    The hood movie line had me WEEEEAAAAKKKKK😂

  • @keshianserenity
    @keshianserenity Před 2 lety

    I'm super late catching up on these videos, but I'm loving it! It helps me stay focused on the gym too because I like what I'm listening too.

  • @bethanykodeng4550
    @bethanykodeng4550 Před 4 lety +2

    And Bats 🦇😂

  • @LifewithKeeley
    @LifewithKeeley Před 4 lety

    🤣😂I died laughed so hard listening to that story because that is totally me. I completely agree with Yvette. It’s URGENT!!! It needs to get out. I NEED it out😰. Glen, the real question is “How did the landlord know it was a bat right away, before getting to the house?” 🤔 WoW 😳 story #2 I’m with Glen here. He should have been honest from the beginning. Foundation built on distrust leads to a rocky home... the situations she’s in.

  • @maishaaddai1052
    @maishaaddai1052 Před 4 lety +4

    He live here now 😂🤣😂🤣😂

  • @__CJLORRAINE__
    @__CJLORRAINE__ Před 4 lety +1

    Great episode. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 And sound advice. 👌🏾
    That first story was HILarious though, lol.

  • @lovernedwards5888
    @lovernedwards5888 Před 4 lety

    Great advice, Glen

  • @lillianshepheard5317
    @lillianshepheard5317 Před 4 lety

    Another great episode! 💗

  • @shaynaw9725
    @shaynaw9725 Před 4 lety +1

    🗣 I Can not with Calvin 😩😩😩🤣🤣 I’m tired! 🥴

  • @leratob.ndlovu4351
    @leratob.ndlovu4351 Před 4 lety

    Absolute fav. intro 😍

  • @erichamilton3734
    @erichamilton3734 Před 4 lety +2

    Bat story was great!!!!

  • @tashmoore3825
    @tashmoore3825 Před 4 lety

    Growth on so many levels & in so many ways y'all. Connecting the dots & having watched Glen's birthday episode on Patreon, please celebrate the big & small victories, you've made (more) room.

  • @cj10109
    @cj10109 Před 4 lety +5

    That girl is messy. Don’t get in a relationship when you’re not over the past one...

  • @simphiwemkhatshwa8862
    @simphiwemkhatshwa8862 Před 4 lety

    This was a great episode

  • @newmank0217
    @newmank0217 Před 4 lety +3

    Great episode ❤️🖤💚

    • @adedoyindavid8984
      @adedoyindavid8984 Před 4 lety

      I knew my fiance' was the one (I've been married for 7 yrs 11months) when he came to my house (wee hour of the morning) to throw away the mouse who was stuck on the mouse sticky trap underneath my bed. I can't do rodents or really any furry creature.

  • @kimberlyhampton5917
    @kimberlyhampton5917 Před 4 lety +1

    Bats are everywhere Glen. I've had one in a house in Michigan.

  • @ericaladd2288
    @ericaladd2288 Před 4 lety +1

    First off . .. flying Corona!!!!! 🦇 oh gosh that would be so scary!!

  • @chelseakingston8236
    @chelseakingston8236 Před 4 lety

    AWESOME!!!!

  • @merci4u402
    @merci4u402 Před 4 lety

    Hi It was nice seeing y'all in a Spectrum commercial. :-)

  • @iAMtheYELLOWrose
    @iAMtheYELLOWrose Před 4 lety +1

    Yay Glenn!! You better load those dishes properly. 😅

  • @ThisizKena
    @ThisizKena Před 4 lety

    Intro iz 🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @leratob.ndlovu4351
    @leratob.ndlovu4351 Před 4 lety

    The first caller!
    ❤️😂

  • @lightningbolt478
    @lightningbolt478 Před 4 lety +1

    HEY HEY HEY!

  • @winstontrotman5490
    @winstontrotman5490 Před 4 lety +6

    Man was approached by a raccoon and its children likes Jehovahs witness....I"m dead out here!!!!

    • @chrischucklesboii
      @chrischucklesboii Před 4 lety +1

      This comment is hilarious 🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣🤣😂🤣

  • @hoseahiggins3055
    @hoseahiggins3055 Před 4 lety

    Lmaooo Mrs. Mel totally brushed off that College Goof Ball card! Mannnnn Beleaf I feel it for you when you bringing these points! Man!!!!

  • @haydeetoledo5471
    @haydeetoledo5471 Před 4 lety +5

    I click so fast 😭🤗

  • @gloriamadrid1468
    @gloriamadrid1468 Před rokem

    Nice DBZ reference!🥰🥰

  • @AlexanderD2789
    @AlexanderD2789 Před 4 lety +3

    We got bats in Florida too...

  • @sexydimples1984
    @sexydimples1984 Před 3 lety

    Yvette your snort is so funny

  • @gloriamadrid1468
    @gloriamadrid1468 Před rokem

    But even if the guy got a full chance, she still said she settled. And we all know settling is a no go and a waste of your time. If it is for a marriage, it is for a relationship as well.

  • @truthoverfictionii5760

    This was a quick show.

  • @deborahwatson5673
    @deborahwatson5673 Před 4 lety

    I got stories for days about bats. Typically an old home problem. IOWA 🌽

  • @MegaLyric2011
    @MegaLyric2011 Před 4 lety

    Lmao the dishwasher moment. Yooo you can tell she is genuinely happy. 😂 I get it though.

  • @kreativejoy
    @kreativejoy Před 4 lety

    Lol well have bats in Maryland. Thank God I've never seen one in my house 😱

  • @leratob.ndlovu4351
    @leratob.ndlovu4351 Před 4 lety

    The chocolate baby story time 😂😂😂❤️

  • @N.I.X_T.V
    @N.I.X_T.V Před 4 lety +1

    Hey y'all, just listening to the chocolate baby story time and I was just thinking. Maybe if the games Anaya wants to play are repetitive you could create a new game just for her and then you get to play a game that's not boring you as you play it. and because the game would be just for Anaya and mum or Anaya and dad that was made specially for her, she'd get into it and want to play it more often 😂😂😂 (disclaimer I ain't got no kids so don't mind me if it's bad advice, but I was just wondering about it xx all the love from London!)

  • @Dina8485
    @Dina8485 Před 4 lety

    s/o to the girl from CT! Yeah we have bats out here 😬

  • @TheRichardsRevealed
    @TheRichardsRevealed Před 4 lety +4

    I wonder when women are on their death bed, will they wonder if they cleaned too much.
    My wife is very similar.

  • @tiffanysannicolas448
    @tiffanysannicolas448 Před 4 lety

    There are definitely bats in SoCal. Maybe not in concentrations where they'd come in the house, but I've seen them in San Marcos and Encinitas.

    • @tiffanysannicolas448
      @tiffanysannicolas448 Před 4 lety +3

      I'm for sure flight, but now that I have kids I have supernatural bravery. 100% adrenaline lol

  • @tierraherbert5454
    @tierraherbert5454 Před 4 lety

    I'm so single and I dont know what else to do about it

  • @nathanieljordan6144
    @nathanieljordan6144 Před 4 lety

    I've had two bats in my house

  • @nonenone3624
    @nonenone3624 Před 4 lety +1

    But Calvin has been co-parenting soooo that's going to be like both kids loosing a parent YIKES...the kids are atleast 8years old. What's the best decision for the children's well-being???

    • @rubysbaby822
      @rubysbaby822 Před 2 lety

      I think this was bad advice. They are dismissing Calvin as a parent but he’s been there from day one. I think they should go to couples counseling to determine if they can finally get in a committed relationship leading up to marriage. For the kids and the mess they created they have to try.

  • @RDCFemmes
    @RDCFemmes Před 4 lety

    I am exhausted.....listen to Calvin and co drama...

  • @ugommaokorie1660
    @ugommaokorie1660 Před 4 lety

    This whole thing was a NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO from the start! One of the most toxic situations I have ever heard! The fact that "Calvin" had the cheek to name another man's baby after himself makes it worse. "Calvin" took fulllllllll advantage of this whole situation. A woman he's attracted to, sex whenever he wants, a business partner, kid to hangout with that he is fond of...."Calvin" is a BIG NO! HE MUST GO!
    Yvette...seriously....how are you "Team Calvin"??? I am genuinely confused 😂😂😂😂😂
    Edit: Ok u later said she should leave him. Thank God!!!!!

  • @RDCFemmes
    @RDCFemmes Před 4 lety

    My brother is 29 and tall and big and when he sees a spider he can scream like a child......

  • @itsmekiaratee
    @itsmekiaratee Před 2 lety

    With all due respect, this young lady nor the man she wrote about are the standard for a “husband” or a “wife”. People always cut the man down to size and don’t hold women to the fire because they’re also a willing participant. What will cut all this out is if she stopped having sex outside of marriage and shacking up. This is a messy situation but she’s 28. I was very much so still unwise at this age, so I completely empathize with it. Sex outside of marriage will almost always produce a broken heart, a lot of wasted time that you can’t get back and a child out of wedlock!! Like Glen said, identify the standard you want for your children then BE THAT EXAMPLE. (1 year late and all, lol)

  • @NBnNC
    @NBnNC Před 4 lety +2

    Story after the animal one was hotMess. Org😳 - #2MuchDrama

  • @f.-j.j.5738
    @f.-j.j.5738 Před 4 lety

    Lady, leave everything and everyone and be single... Ugh...

  • @kailyn7895
    @kailyn7895 Před 4 lety

    I'm team if you want to have premarital sex, wrap it up at least!