How Married Are You?! 047| He Had A One-Night Stand
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- čas přidán 19. 06. 2024
- In this episode of #HowMarriedAreYou, we offer our feedback regarding when to add more kids to the mix as well as whether or not to stay in a relationship after you've been cheated on. Just a reminder, we are not licensed therapists. We are just speaking based off our experience of nine years of marriage. Thanks so much fir choosing to join us every week! Now let's get into this episode!
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The makeup, the hair, the head wrap!! WOW 🥰😍😛
yep, she looks great!!! I'd love a tutorial on how she wraps that bow
Goodness Mrs. Melanin you are serving us all the looks today!!!! Beautiful as always
She is looking so beautiful. I feel like her husband can't keep his eye balls off her. Lol
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Yvette you looking beautiful or whatever 😍 simple and natural looking
Yvette looking all sorts of gorgeous 😍
Wow, your makeup is stunning. You are still pretty without it, but it looks very beautiful as well.
Girl run! Get your track shoes and get to sprinting! Love does not have to be struggle love. Move On. Travel explore, spend time doing the things that you have always wanted to do. Pray, find peace and love within yourself and the rest will follow......
#skrrtskrrt 🏃🏃🏃
NaturallyNerdeeNicol ok! That’s a mess and he is a wicked and evil mind. Men have a curious mind my azzzzz! Lady I hope you were able to break that emotional attachment and set yourself free. You deserve goodness and someone who can be honest with you. If you still have hoe tendencies and want to explore stay single and enjoy yourself don’t bring someone else into your mess. hi
Come thru Sis Mrs. Melanin! 😅😅 Ur beautiful with or without the beat face 😍😍 To the young lady in the letter, girl run. That girl BEEN pregnant, he was just trying to figure out how to tell her. Aine nobody got time fuh det! #sweetbrown
OAN: Thank yall for pushing thru the fatigue to give us content.. We appreciate the sacrifice! 🤗🤗
"Take the time he said he wanted ...times seven" 🤣🤣 that's the whole piece of advice.
But... UNPROTECTED?? IN 2019???????? You 30 and some change?????? That’s a whole lotta yikes.
Right! If she's been intimate with him, that's a lifetime of testing she has to go through bc of this!! ☹
Period
Yvette you always look beautiful however today there is a glow!!
The way my man Glen teleported from getting water to the seat. Lol! On a serious note, I’m hurting for the young lady with the ten year relationship. Poor girl...
Something is telling me that he had her texting him because he was in more with that woman than he is saying...hence the secret texting and the pregnant woman being happy! Think about it! Why would that woman be happy about being pregnant for a man she doesn't know? I don't think that was a one-night-stand! LOOK! THIS WHOLE THING SMELLS FISHY! Leave that man alone!
Yvette 😍
I would say part ways. He’s been cheating. Ole girl can not be happy about a one night stand baby. That’s a relationship baby that he thought he’d be able to end and it didn’t end well.
She deserves better. Highly frustrating letter, but I’m truly praying for her.
Great podcast as usual.
Yvette I completely agree with you, that situation is stressful and unacceptable, also he wanted 10 years with out wanting to get married. Girl start over with someone who is sure about you and wanting to build a future with you through action not just words.
that story has so many red flags and holes...she should just sale the house and both of them move on. The guy seem like he has a lot to work on, he's not ready to commit and she doesn't need to carry his mistake when they're not even married yet. 10 years is a long time but time will heal her
I have been enjoying the heck out of this podcasts.
Love how Yvette asks once again if she's 32 lol. Yes '87 baby you 32. It blows my mind that I'm 31 everytime someone asks how old I am.
This lady needs to decide what love means to her and what she is willing to tolerate within a relationship (married or not) because a ring doesn't change a person's behaviour.
Yvette your face is beatttttttt, love the makeup!!!
I never comment but YVETTE, YOU LOOK SO GOOOOD 😍😍
Glen got up and walked away😫🤣🤣🤣
Maybe you could name the Tuesday series something--like "Tell-us-Tuesday"--so that people know these titles have a specific context! But, seriously, this was a really great episode--as always!
Yvette you look BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!!😍😍😍
Re: this situation, I'D BE GOOOOOOOOOOOOOONE! One-night stand, baby, baby-mama.....unacceptable. The whole thing is disgusting. He left her after 10 years and did that. He fully planned it cos he cut down their communication in order to go and do that. The whole thing is cancelled. BYEEEE! Imagine if the woman wasn't pregnant - would he have even said anything???? This woman NEEDS TO MOVE ON. She's not married to him, so forget it. Also Yvette, I'm with you re: not getting into relationship with someone with kids and a baby mama.
Awwwhhhhh you guys!❤....Recently found your channel and am more surprised by the fact that I'm only finding you guys!.....You guys bring something so different but yet so intrinsically satisfying 💕All the way from Dublin, Ireland.
"Your heart can be mended back together but your credit score take a while to come back up" lol. Yoooo that's funny!!
Vette!!! Come thru!! You look gorgeous! And shout out to 1987, the best year forreal. Anyway loved this episode I laughed a lot and was in agreement over you all's advice!
OMW!!! Yeeeeevette! Yaaaaaaassssss!!!👐🏼👐🏼🙌🙌🙌👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. I don't even know what y'all are talking right now lol I'm going to have watch the beginning all over again😂
Lol y’all were delirious!!! But it was good!!! 🤣🤣🤣
Yvette, Glen is a smart man! And you can see that he is trying to be the best human being that he can be. You chose the right husband.
I totally agree with you!!
I totally enjoy this podcast. They are hilarious but very real. I'm not married, but I appreciate the transparency. Ms. Yvette looks gorgeous!! I like the eyelashes with natural look...beautiful! I pray Beleaf get his tongue together with that cussing. ;-o I love the way they love each other and honor each other's opinions even when it may be hard. God bless them and the Chocolate babies!!!
Y’all are so tired , it’s like watching y’all in slow motion 😂😂😂😂. I died at 25:50 when Glenn said “you are turning up your headphones right now,” and Yvette said “yeah that’s what I meant,” and Glenn just kept talking. It’s just fun watching y’all like this! Sorry but it is.🤣
Instead of him finding someone to accept him being trash, why doesn't he just not be trash? That would be better for everyone no?
Yvette: And...
Glen: NO, I'm not finished!
😂🤣 Glen, your "drama queen" hands were hilarious! Emphatic movements on point lol - 'You know what?! You always got something to say...go ahead and say what you gotta say'. (Face looking like 'Girl, please') hahaha
Yvette, where you get your headwrap material from?
Ain’t no way you ain’t never have a one night stand w. all the risks and have one for the first time without protection...?! sounds like dude been cheating. & she’s excited to be pregnant from a stranger... so either she’s excited for a baby in general or at the whim of much drama. You can do better girllll! Praying for the innocent baby caught in all this drama.
I listened to this episode on the way to work yesterday on Spotify so I didn't get to see how beautiful you looked Yvette. You were already beautiful but really loving this look on you. 😍
Yvette you looking jummy! Sis so nice! God blessed you!
Yo glen and his just how married part had me so weak 😂
Ya’ll look beautiful and handsome!! Love ya’lls fits! Blue, Orange, and White❤️ The colors really compliment each other! I love Yvette’s wrap and makeup! And Glen’s face is shining! Ya’ll look very happy! Much L❤️ve!!🥰🥰
i love the look Yvette!!!
Best part: 'Be open to LOVE yourself enough to know your value'....Boom 👊🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾I can totally relate to this as this is the journey that I'm currently on (andmight I say I'm absolutely loving it) coming out of a very similar relationship for over 10years, he had 3 kids on me during that time and he was married. You guys did a great job in responding and giving your input. At the end of the day we all have to make a decision about what we want to do and what the next best step looks like for us. My heart goes out to this woman because she is hurting, seems to have a big heart and as you mentioned Might be clouded. And every part of me wants to jump through the phone and give her a big hug and tell her know, 'Give yourself a chance. You are so worth it! 💯%'. Protect your life. Protect your peace. It's valuable. You have value sis. Love you 🤗❤️💓💓
Are you saying the two of you were married or that he was married & also had 3 children with another woman/ women during the 10 years you were together??
I'm am so here for Yvette's makeup!!!!
Yvette come thru with the slayyyy. Always beautiful!!
WHAT DO YOU MEAN WORK HARD FOR ME TO TAKE HIM BACK?!?!?!? I just rolled my eyes so hard that both of them fell out! I WOULD NOT TAKE HIM BACK!
Exactly!! For 1., He had sex UNPROTECTED which means he not only put HIS OWN LIFE at risk, he put HER (the girlfriend's) life at risk as well. 2., He's been with you for TEN YEARS, and he felt like he was missing out?!? That's a slap in the face to me.
Yo! I love y’all fo real, fo real. These letters are excellent conversation fodder for me and my husband when I get tired of hearing abt his work. Lol.
I echo everyone else on how incredible you look Yvette. I saw that lash boomerang on the ‘Gram!
🤦🏾♂️Why why why. Since I am well aware of that kind of "time to myself" talk I would have immediately told that person to stay there and find themselves without me now or in the future. Why is this even hard for her to get. She's been sucked into a Jerry springer episode. Too old to be this unaware of people's behavior. Hopefully she will wake up and realize being without is sometimes better than being with mess.
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In regards to the bun...we only call a bun a "man bun" when it refer to men bc women usually wear them. We don't say woman bun or waves, or ponytail etc. Children need autonomy as well and I'm glad you two supported what he wanted. It's sad that style is connected to gender by pur society, however, I'm hopeful and grateful that shift is occurring.
Support system is def a make it or break it. Always consider the tribe.💜💚 But, I completely agree with Yvette's idea on being with someone that has a child. I agree with the "flight" part too.
I usually listen but tonight I finished the pod on YT. Yvette you are so beautiful 😍🥰
Looking good Mrs Melanin. Love y'all from London
Yvette looks AMAZING!
Checking in from the DMV.
Yall so chill
Yvette you look absolutely positively gorgeous!
I'm still listening. Haha @ the end. I was curious.
Wow...Ok Yvette looking like a snack.
You don't have to judge, but I am! JUDGEMENT! I wouldn't stay with him! He's your EX...leave him there! When you are disappointed about things in your life, the MOST-HIGH is protecting you from something! MOVE ON!
Yvette you look absolutely stunning.
Hey Henry family 🤗 sending you hugs and love from the Howard family.
As per the one night stand and a baby that was the outcome, if the lovely sister could read my comment I would say LET IT GO! Listen I married a man who has a daughter from his previous relationship and it is NOT EASY!!! It has been the Lord who sustains us as a couple and family. But what my daughter deals with is unfair. Also the sacrifices you will make are going to be long term. That child will come and if his baby mother doesn't want to co-parent then you will have to deal with her as long as that child is alive. Since you're not married to this man you have no commitment to him. In my previous relationship I did the mistake of investing with my ex who I found out after that he slept with another woman and made her have an abortion. Trust me I'm grateful for my husband but let all these red flags be an indication that he is not the one for you. He made the choice to separate from you and had the intention of sleeping with someone else. The thought of losing you was not enough to keep him from making the choice to sleep with his now baby mama. The truth may hurt but I'm speaking to you the way I wish someone advised me, count the cost of this relationship with a child that is not yours. No matter how much you love that child they will not be yours and you will never have a say because they did not come from your wound. Pray to the Father and I will lift you up in prayers as well. ❤ May God cover you in this season.
I understand exactly want you mean with the step mom thing. I don't want baby momma drama and extras in my family. But you don't know until it happens, so I guess we will never know.
#MaVette you look soooo stunning. I saw you getting your flirt on. It was very subtle and gracefully done. I hope you guys weren't too tired to enjoy each other. Good advice and thank you for pushing through the tired #HMAY
Glen..... Lmao after 14 days.. I'm done
I would be wanting everyone to know exactly all I had to do also Glen if I stayed up till three in the morning.....no you getting all the details. I have had to deep clean spray and place traps behind ants as well I understand your pain.
Yvette outchea looking like the number 1 stunna. Slayyyy sis slayyy. lol
Yvette you look great
Yes you look beautiful 😊
Avoiding the urge to sleep is the best high ever
I saw that coming
LOL Yvette never knows her age! BAHA LOVE YALL
I think having a child depends on the individual; where you are in your life and how you are feeling about children.
Lol. Y'all are funny.
Ooooh girl, you cute! 😍😍😍👍🏾.
...LOL...Yvette like; so what are you missing?..lol...
Yvette, you look so revive and rested! ...lol...if you are not...well, at least you look it...lol...
Yvette 😍😍
Lol this woman was truly in denial. If she didnt walk away, thats on her. Honestly she clearly does not feel highly of herself to endure such a wack dude like that. He is lying to her big time and trying to finesse her. I did this foolishness, years on and off with a dude who would allwaysssss tell me we werent in a relationship but wanted a baby and claimed later after ghosting me for a year during the pandemic to want to marry but i put my foot down and said no. Im not your back up option.
Do not settle for immature childish men like this. Why do we women feel like we have to endure nonsense like this as par for the course and we have to forgive and work it out. Move on!! He made his bed and laid in it. Dont jump in the bed too.
That was obvious
Glen, what's up with the cap? ...lol...
Naw dawg! That guy sounds like a WHOLE lotta future problems. I would move on.
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That lady wasn't random. Shes definitely been in the picture more than 2 weeks. Hopefully in the 2 years from when this has posted, the young lady is in a better place kater
Take notes ladies!!! Our make up should highlight our natural beauty & looking like real people, not have us looking like drag queens & caricatures of ourselves.
THERAPY MY A$$!
To the girl from Europe- LEAVE.HIS.ASS.NOW!!!!!!!!!!! Learn to love urself. He has shown u who he is BEFORE ur married. Don't do it!!!!!!!
You all are not juding him you are judging the hot fruit mess he created!!! This is not his first time around the cheating Rodeo #hotmess
This is why I prefer the man to sow his oats before he comes to me!
Y'all were really tired. No outro even.
Premeditated
So at least you know Theo is straight...