Fetishist interview-Barbie Jean
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- čas přidán 10. 02. 2023
- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Barbie Jean, a woman living the kink/fetish lifestyle in Los Angeles.
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Ye nice. 🍺🍺
As a fellow lifestyle person, really appreciated how articulate you were about explaining something that is so often judged/misunderstood... Thank you!
@Barbie Jean
Please go get tested. That "pile of bodies" most likely had at least one positive-for-something-you-weren't-counting-on microbe. And forgive yourself in twenty years when you look back on this and realize how you embarrassed yourself and your parents.
Have a day off, @Lisa hinton
All these interviews show how crazy human beings are. I never cease to be amazed. Reality is truly stranger than fiction.
there truly are different species of humans ! Most Ill NEVER understand
True, the crazy judgemental commentors are a true indication that reality is stranger than fiction.
You think she's crazy? That's not what I took from it myself. I thought she was an awesome person. Much saner than most people I meet who delude themselves all day, every day.
“Crazy” ? It’s the so called normals that ya need to be wary of. We all have a mask or persona that we present to the world and it does not necessarily represent our true self. Not many people openly discuss their intimate business with everyone they meet. It’s refreshing to hear people talk openly and honestly in these interviews. I dare say there will be people who would also find some of the things you do or have done to be crazy too.
“What is right is not always popular and what is popular is not always right.”
True
I enjoyed this one, there are a lot of unsure, damaged people in the community that are hard to even have conversations with, she was a breath of fresh air.
I dated a girl like this, it didn’t last long she was incredibly damaged and had an inability to have a normal relationship.
Oh yea… she’s never going to pare bond with anyone.. she might not care… now… but sooner or later she will want and she will find out the dude she wants won’t be able to bond with her.. because she’s going to go for the same kind of dude who can’t pare bond
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@@drainmonkeys385 you are projecting
what is normal relationship? Can two men have normal marriage?
@@paulb7207 Not based in trauma or dysfunction or overall toxic.
I can hardly make my own lunch. This life sounds exhausting.
My husband and I use to be in this lifestyle. You’d be surprised the people that partake.
“We should embrace whatever feels good always”. If people lived by this advice, they’d die real quick. Smdh
Yup! self control is very important, all my suffering came from fulfilling my desires
I'm sure heroin feels great
2 Timothy 3:1-5
Haha for real
you have an example for that assumption?
Your series is the best interview sessions I have ever seen or heard. You dig deep into the background and bring it home. Love it. Thanks
Thanks for taking the time and sharing these documentaries
Really refreshing interview. I can definitely appreciate people that make it a point to be open about topics that many of us are so closed off about that we can’t even share them with our partners. Especially in a culture that‘a so repressed, seeing people that casually talk about their desires for the world to see makes me feel like I can definitely at least begin taking steps to expand my own sex life beyond what I’m comfortable sharing with other people.
Great interview. Barbie seems like a really cool girl.
Which culture is repressed? The American one? 😂😂😂
Yes.@@Anna-cx4tg
Mark, I really appreciate the questions you asked her near the end of the interview, as well as all of your questions. They’re always thoughtful, not slanted one way or another, but they really emphasize the truth, or at least help lead the interviewee to discover their own truth. It’s always interesting to hear people speak on their own deviant/alternative lifestyles, but there is something to be said about how those choices impact them long-term. As someone who is happily married in a traditional family structure with kids, stability, practicing sacrificial love, etc, it can be difficult to imagine a lifestyle like Barbie’s. Thank you for shining a spotlight on these stories.
Actually, the interviewer very often asks leading questions in his interviews. Also, just because the sexuality discussed is different, does not mean that it's ok. Maybe if you want to pick up an STD really fast. I personally felt sick and empty after listening to this interview, the likes of which I will never click on again.
I get both sides I’m 50-50 down the middle with both of you guys
@@MC-fw5vt I was thinking that same thing , because I grew up in the 80’s and 90’s and remember very well when AIDS hit I cringe when I hear stuff like this because it was a life and death situation especially women who’s men were on the down low, got it and died I knew a few and saw a lot of death I worked in an inner city hospital in 1989 to 1995 . Condoms don’t protect people as much as they hope , and skin to skin is a thing for hpv , and hsv . Wonder if any interviewees will talk about their illnesses in some future episodes on SWU . Hate to be a Debbie downer but wanted to put my .2 in .
@@MC-fw5vt you sound very melodramatically judgmental
don't get fooled, Mark is a very bad interviewer, his questions at the end present HIS own perspective in a judgemental way towards the interviewee because he cannot gasp the idea of Otherness
Mark must deliver a very cool vibe as the interviewee is delivering their info. He is able to give each participant their platform; and I'm sure one or the other has met his own interests. Very professional as is evidenced by the participant never showing they are "getting a reaction" from the interviewer. It is the gold standard of a great interviewer. Thanks Mark!
He had a boner at the whole time
Yep. If I had to interview this woman, it would be awkward as all fuck lmao. He's good at making people feel comfortable to share.
He sounds a lot like Dr. Drew Pinsky. A LOT.
Incredible interview!!!! The level of humanity you bring to the people you talk to is unreal!! Thank you for what you do. 🙏🏻
Me being 19 years old and never even held hands with a boy….
This is crazy. We are in two different worlds.
Preserve your self, girl!❤
This is beautiful and right for you x
Do not overthink, giving yourself to another shouldn't be a throw away thing unless you know that's how you'd like it, there's zero pressure! But a lot of sex can be mind blowing sure but it can also be forced and lame. Be patient with it 👍
Very proud of you, young princess. Maybe God continue to lead you through the right path.
Me too and im surprisingly okay with it
Mark added the best response to this !! When love hits you it’s a miracle and this kind of sex is just mindless after awhile !!! Wow !!! I didn’t expect him to say that but super proud of his maturity and insight !! Best comment- ever !!!
I feel like this ignores everything the person being interviewed actually was saying.
He is 64 years old - I would hope he’s mature 😂
@@jackstrand5341Ikr?
"It's all about me, and my pleasure."
She is a red flag. Run.
Great interview. Mark is quite the professional. He asked some tough quizative and probing questions.
Barbie Jean was so authentic and forthright. She really reflected back honestly. Really refreshing and liked how she has grown from her experiences.
Hi Mark I really like your channel is very informative and give me insight on things that goes on around me because I'm not an outside person but also it helps me to teach my
ndchildren about what going on in the world I truly believe what you're doing will bring a great impact for the younger so much has changed from the time I just watched your interview
Your interview I was so happy to see you for the first time I love the questions that you asked it was good to hear about your parents did a wonderful job keep up the great work you're doing just know that your labor is you're giving so many people a voice I can meet you have a great I commend you have a great year
Damn Mark, if there was ever a true professional-you’re it brother. I wish more people could be as real as her and more people could sit across from said person and keep total composure.
Well...that is if he didn't sleep with this champion of sexuality afterwards. If he did...he's just another scumbag creep capitalizing on his power, or even the proximity his power grants him. If he DIDN'T...good for him. I don't know, though. I know as much as you or anybody else watching. We don't know what he did when they called cut. Admittedly, I'm a cynic...and his comments sounded a little too on the nose at times, a little too self-serving, as if he was setting himself up for a post-interview taste. But that's me.
I hope you're right.
the pole-dancing story with her twin was really, really sad. it sucks she considers that a good story.
Agreed lol it's not even interesting
Agreed. Objectifying her twin and speaking on her behalf was totally inappropriate and unfair. Really not cool.
She said “we really stuck it to them!”
Huh??? Sounds like they definitely got what they wanted.
I agree. The fact they both thought kissing was a healthy thing, even as a prank or to be daring. I really don't think she's as comfortable with her lifestyle as she tries to convince herself and everyone else she is.
@@mcb00Didn't she also tell that she saw her twin sister engage in a threesome right in front of her? That was also kinda weird.
Hi Mark.
The platform is always interesting. Keep going.
Get as many people interviewed as possible❤
Honesty and acceptance make such a huge difference.
Mark did a phenomenal job with the questions, the interpretation of her statements!
-FUCK MARK ( kidding / ha ha ) !! Barbie Jean is fucking cool! (youre pretty cool, too, Mark )
Jean: You have to be aware that some poop may come out.
Mark:
Mark:
Mark:
@@maxmeier532 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I think he was very judgmental on having a third woman on occasion. She said she likes it and he kept trying to make it sound like it was her boyfriend. Kept pushing it too. Love feels different for all types of ppl. Not just the way he feels it. I like these interviews he does but also pushy on some of what he thinks should be normal for everyone.
Very impressed. He is exceptional.
A key point of this interview happened at the beginning. When she spoke about high school she stated that it’s when she became “confident”… now it is all to often, especially for women that when they gain attention that is based on sexual attraction it gives feelings of validation that they may not have had before. It’s then very common that their brain will mistake the feelings of validation for confidence and self esteem. Now the issue with that is that it is like a drug and can become addictive and you need a constant fix and they end up “chasing that high” which leads to a constant progression that can be self destructive. Now that’s just a quick run down of some basic human development that may or may not apply to her.
Well said.
Very true. She MAY or may not have experienced exactly what your saying. My guess is she did. Sounds almost like a sexual addiction too
Based on everything she said it absolutely applies to her.
@@brandonstephens1447 addiction for sure. When she talked about being an adrenaline junkie I was like...maybe this a better high to chase than actual drugs?? I hope she hasn't and never does veer down that path tho I imagine there's a lot of crossover between the two "communities"
No u idiot she felt confident coz she was in control of her sexual pleasure.it's not about men's shitty validation stop making everything about u
If you always do what "feels good", you may find your destination is a place you don't want to be. Having boundaries will result in a greater happiness. Good luck.....
1000%. I wish I could go back in time (I’m 43) and change my “feels good” decisions.
Get.a life
@@concernedcitizen1382 Very Intellectual.... I'm sure it's all projection.
I am obsessed with her! Probably my favorite interview so far
I think this is the first person I’ve heard discussing this type of lifestyle and relationship structure that I didn’t think was completely out of touch with themselves. She’s so honest and open. It’s a lifestyle that isn’t for me but I understand her viewpoints and I actually respect her a lot. Great interview.
He has multiple other videos of this kind of lifestyle
@@leighleigh747 share link?
I don't know where these people get all this drive?
@@williambarry8015 Genetic?
@@cricketpie you cant be that naive. Theres no way.
Even with the abilities we gain in adulthood to realize, interpret, and sometimes to act upon our sexual desires, that aspect of our humanity remains so mysterious to most of us (and yes - count me among the baffled). Even in a day and place that is relatively open in this regard, the bravery required to willingly and honestly discuss our sexuality (individually with our partner or in an interview that will by seen by many) is relatively uncommon. Respect to Barbie Jean for sharing and to Mark for another brilliant interview.
crazy Americans I guess
@The Amber Heard Playlist!! what can he do for her?
he full of of drugs.
Your username is cancerous@The Amber Heard Playlist!!
@@michaelheery3085 - Speaking as a Crazy American, I suppose this would be the thing I would change about myself. As long as I could retain the other crucial elements, i.e., having the ability and hardware necessary to drop a moving target at 200 meters, doing burnouts in front of the Perrysville Dairy Queen in July, stage diving at Slayer shows, etc.:P
@@michaelheery3085 Oh God shed even shit in your bed if you wished! Lol!
Excellent interview. Well done Mark. Even though the topic was very sexual, the interview itself was not sexual. You strove to understand her perspective. And you invited and even challenged her to open up and be very candid about the downside of the her lifestyle. And took this from simple fantasy to reality. I was also impressed with her ability to talk so candidly and naturally about things that many people would be at a minimum shy about. She described acts and used so many “naughty” words so naturally like she was describing tying her shoes. This gave her a lot of credibility I thought.
My dime store psychology: when she said her parents were a ‘power couple’, I got the feeling her parents were out there being that ‘power couple’ and probably didn’t give these girls the attention they needed. She also said at one point about voyeurism…. “I like to be seen”. Yup… she didn’t get enough healthy attention growing up, I bet.
Ding ding ding
I agree
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My dime store psychology: children who masterbate have been molested as a child and is it possible that her "power couple" parents weren't around much, left her and her sister in the care of a predator when they were children and the either don't remember or were too young or perhaps even blocked it out
@@heatherh.197 that's a wild fucking assumption. Dude I jacked off all the time as a kid, and i was never molested. Pretty sure all it is, is the individual finding themselves sexually..
In my opinion, I rather find a lifelong relationship to explore my kinks & fantasies together ❤
Sex in a loving, long term relationship has a high level of trust. It's the best place to safely explore your sexuality, imo. Safe.
This. 100% this.
That would be pointless, or rather that IS the point, her kinks involve other people, I’m not sure if you watched the video but yeah that’s what it is
You’re a beautiful, kind soul.
I’m picking up lack of boundaries at a young age.
I’m curious about Kink and BDSM but I also know now exchanging energies can get hairy.
It all sounds like a high.
Always interesting and more power to your power of choice.
Take care of you Barbie. ☺️
❤️🌹🌈
You know they have open meets and explore nights n God knows. So you don't have to way linto it like this lady I guess
"Sticking it to all the men" by giving them exactly what they want? I don't understand tbis.
Just the man-hating that's instilled by the culture coming out.
@NotSure109 yeah, even with all the freedom and feel good and good vibe talk, she still wants to "stick it" to a whole group of people?
@@joshpointoh It's never serious. It's like teenagers "sticking it" to their parents; temporarily rebellious, but reliant on them.
I used to be part of this community before I made some serious life changes. One thing I noticed is almost everyone was a broken person at their core. There was a lot of confusion in all areas of life, and not one wad truly fulfilled or happy. I have since changed my life, sober, on the right track, and found fulfillment in God. Let me repeat i never met one single complete, well rounded, and psychologically healthy person in my old fetishist life. I pray she finds the path I did in a monogamous marriage and family.
I had some curiosity about it at one point, as I am naturally a submissive woman, but I quickly realized that these people had tons of baggage, & since I already have my own, I just couldn't take on any more. I love people I can be an empath around, but some people will just suck your soul out of you. I'm in a healthy & reciprocal relationship now too. Good luck to you & your family.
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You could not be more correct. Bless you 🙏
Or she might be a lesbian and was just pressured by society into liking men…
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Psychological issues affect people of all walks of life, they do not discriminate. Hang out with a bunch of "vanilla" folk and I can guarantee that not all of them will be psychologically healthy.
I love how all of the psychologists come here and share their evaluations with us.
She would make a great case study.
❤❤
😂😂😂 good one
Probably safe to say she's a nympho.
I'm a psychologists, but you don't need to be to in order to tell she has something broke inside her, or she never developed
Another amazing interview Mark I tell people about soft white underbelly all the time I would say get 60% of the people already know your channel and then the other 40% end up getting hooked on this channel because the interviews are amazing
Interesting interview. This person's not actually a fetishist, but somewhat kinky. It would have been beneficial to explore more the ups and downs, and history of how this person came to be. Better questions get deeper answers. Also, anyone having anal sex doesn't worry about "poop coming out" when they're into anal sex.
She comes across as so kind and non judgemental.
This is an amazing interview I must say 🙌
I absolutely respect this work, and i am incredibly impressed of Mark’s humility and interview style, the idea of allowing people to express themselves so freely…this exchange showed me a massive appreciation, and endless respect for Mark, the moment he said “LOVE IS A MIRACLE, THERE IS NOTHING ELSE LIKE IT “.As empathetic as I perceive Mark to be, and non judgemental, to a fault in my opinion…it seemed to me that while refreshing to hear someone speak so candidly speak of this he could not hold back the desire to share the MIRACLE OF LOVE, moreover the attachment to someone at a level unknown to those whom have not yet experienced it. I wish nothing but happiness for this girl, and truly hope she finds LOVE.
Do do I, she is at the brink if tears!
It hurts!
Respectfully, I disagree. This felt very cringey to me. This wonderful woman summed it up perfectly later in the video where she called it play time. The concept of falling in love with one person in a monogamous relationship and it being this wonderful thing is obviously not for everyone. Nor is it something that represents the pinnacle of happiness for everyone. His question about avoidance was spot on and she answered it perfectly. While this lifestyle may not be for you or me, it seems arrogant, perhaps ethnocentric to dismiss it as being less real or any less legitimate as a life choice. I fell in love, have a wonderful family, but there is no way I am pretending this is what ultimate happiness looks like. Great interview as always.
@@davidlamont6525 i absolutely welcome your disagreement, moreover embrace your opinion and your right to have it, and i support the right of this wonderful woman to live the life fulfilling to her, i simply want people to feel loved, and be happy!
I wish this interaction be the norm, where we may disagree and hopefully strongly do so and ultimately agree on the results, which is the desire of those we may have nothing in common with to find happiness, prosperity, purpose, and love!
Be well, and look forward to us disagreeing again!!
She thinks she found the love of her life who’s sleeping with multiple women?
Oh boy…
She sleeps herself with other people.
Red flag and she’s colour blind. 🤷♂️
It may not make sense to you, but this sort of relationship works for other couples.
@@Ben-kb6vi Everything that makes sense when you’re in love definitely doesn’t when you ain’t.
I’d be surprised if that romance ends well. That’s all I’ll say.
@@_Cristina_ point being?
Idk Mark, I mean, this was a great interview as always, excellent top notch investigative work and also entertaining...a topic so many are too shy, embarrassed, ashamed if not prudish about, to deal with for themselves, in their own life, even just to hear others talking about it especially of course even more so witnessing, living, participating in, and confidently enjoying THE LIFE; meaning and resulting in you, then, having captured at least a little bit magic here in this video recording, however... And maybe it's just ME! But, at least a couple times during the interview, you seemed at least slightly, a teeny wee BIT, over your head! LmMFaO!!! ;) :P :o)
Amazing to hear so many stories from people who are so different from me. Really interesting to see a bit of how they think.
Great Interview. Thank you for your openness. And Marc for asking profound questions. I really enjoyed watching this.
Marc doesn’t ask profound questions lmao. Just go back and listen. Most if not all his questions are close ended. And they are presumptuous. “So you would say you grew up in a good home?” I can’t remember all of them. He’s just good at letting people talk w/out responding back with judgement. He asks and the going on long spiels about their life. In a way he’s lucky they do that bc if not the channel would be boring.
@#PrisonForJohnnyDepp Nice try Amber. 🤡
doing anything for £££££.
@@terrycrews1760 then it's a skill on his part to have them keep talking after just a few words from him.
Bot.
She's approx seven years away from feeling hopeless
Especially when she casually says she can feel it plateauing… and also the story about falling for someone and feeling anxious about it.
I’m not onboard with her completely, I believe she’s got a battlefield going on in her mind.
I think her hope peaked right after high school.
Agree lots of transmuting thru sex ...troubled.
Dude I'm already on the verge of flippin the fuck out on a daily basis as a 'square' guy. The social complexities that her lifestyle brings... absolute chaos lmao. But I guess that's what freedom's about.
what do you mean by that?
Excellent! A very explicit, simple and clear way of approaching a topic based on the simplicity and ease that is given when dealing with it, removing the stigma of taboo, which is a problem that pigeonholes it and puts up barriers! If we accept that we are sexual from birth and that each one has a natural mapping of pleasure sensitivities, and that they are only numbed or rather unknown through gender education focusing only on the points that coincide with the generic chromosome, then we assume a natural freedom that allows us to enjoy life without hypocrisy or guilt!! ... I think!?
"We should embrace whatever feels good" .... That statement is exactly the reason why humanity is in the garbage once again. You could try something new and different...... self control.
Disclaimer: It has taken me a lot of thought, observations and life experience to come to these types of conclusions.
You got that right. It's super easy to do whatever you want ..it's not easy to control yourself..I admire people who exercise self control..like the people who get the will power to get off drugs and alcohol or stop being a prostitute and make a better life for themselves
Yes
Context clues. I don’t think she meant tht in reference to everything in life dumb dumb.
True
She obviously doesn't mean just do whatever in life feels good no matter the consequences eg hurting people. She is clearly talking about sexual liberation etc. Stop being so prudish.
Love how concise her answers were. Not evasive like others where I leave having no clue what they were getting at. I wish I would have explored this side of me prior to marriage.
Barbie, i love people too and always find myself absolutely fascinated by others and their interests. I appreciate your time here and in your new channel! Thank you for your time, your love, and your heart. You're truly a light in a dark place.
Wtf a light? This is borderline demonic.. she is a addict no good comes from that lifestyle
Just me I guess (Married to the same lady for 54 years) = I feel that there is a train wreck coming here sometime in the future. Hope she has a soft landing.
I agree something doesn't sound right.
Agreed
This is one of the better interviews that I can remember on this channel. She reminds me a lot of a girl I occasionally spent time with about 15 years ago, she was equally as beautiful and outgoing and had a way with words that made you feel completely comfortable. I have always as far back as I can remember had a foot fetish and even though she did not have perfect feet, she had small bunions on both feet from years of wearing high heels and dancing as a teenager, but she tried to take good care of them, always had a fresh pedicure nicely painted, and fresh out of them heels they smelled amazing. She enjoyed my company as much as I hers cause more often than not I was perfectly happy just talking with her while giving a foot massage. I lost contact some time back after she moved across country.
Great video!Thank you for you story❤
Fascinating. I went to club in LA called the Torture Garden where lots of BDSM was going on-but you weren't allowed to smoke. This was my 'torture boundary', so I left.
😂
How ironic.......smokin' not allowed
😂😂😂
Non-smoker BDSM club how dreadful
Depends what you're "smoking on".
Just me still over here happily waving my vanilla flag. The more I learn about what all is out there in this world, the happier I am to stay in the one horse town in which I live with my husband of nearly 40 years. He was my first sexual partner and probably my last. We have a good time with each other… no need for anyone else to join. Even after all this time, he still consumes my thoughts. I don’t disparage anyone else for doing whatever they want, but true happiness for me has been found by loving one man through the good and the bad. Tfs your story Barbie Jean and God bless you.
One horse towns are becoming hard to find and affordable where I come from.
Sounds like you got the game figured out right Anna.
You are how it's SUPPOSED TO BE!
Society is sooo corrupted these day's girl's actually think they have to partake in all this sexual degeneracy to be "sexually liberated". If anything they are a slave to their lust/ desires.
They have no self respect, their morality is down the drain, no sense of impulse control and they believe all the lies these " sexually liberated🙄"degenerate women push as a narrative.
They lie to themselves all the time that they don't care, that they don't care what others think, that all these strangers don't effect their mind/ self esteem, BUT THEY DO!
When they are alone after they've been USED, when they get a moment to think they fell SHAME, and disgusted. They just repress it, and try to tell themselves they are a liberated woman😂!
That's great to hear, we have plenty of hors out here, hats off to pure women that aren't sexual deviants
Getting harder to find in Ireland where I live. Especially an unjabbed man too.
I retired from the kink world nearly a decade ago and this sounds exhausting.
I do not miss it.
It honestly sounds like she's self soothing, particularly when she spoke about masturbation.
I’m pretty sure masturbation is self soothing.❤
interesting, you were in the kink world, but don't miss it... You willingly entered the world, stayed in it for a bit, but left with few regrets - it would be great to hear more.
Dont miss it because of select problems that follow?
and what in your mind is wrong with self soothing via masturbation?
I really enjoyed listening to this woman. Very liberating to hear her living her own life, being so in touch with her sensations. Strikes me as as a delicate and open being living this hardcore style of life. I wonder how her lifestyle will evolve as she gets older. Wish her the best.
On the surface she tries to seem happy, but you can hear it in the subtle voice cracks/breaks that something is missing in life. The older she gets she may not be so happy. I hope she finds what she's really looking for. Sex isn't life.
Yep- she isn’t as happy as she tries to appear.
I had the same vibe coming through. Especially around specific questions or topics. It's a cliché, but you don't remain attractive for decades. And when you turn invisible, it can be quite a shock compared to your peak body years. Suddenly the basket is empty. I'm sure some people swim right through that and keep on partying, but some hit a wall.
Her voice bothers me too.
I could not imagine watching a sibling having sex .
Me either. No thanks
Me and my brother did it once. Tag teamed this girl back in the day. It was weird at first but we were high-fiving by the end.
The thought makes me feel sick!
😳🤢
It makes me feel sick. Couldn't do it
@@dqreps I'll take "Things That Never Happened" for 500, Alex!
The BDSM community is what opened her up. As soon as she said, "Fetlife," that explained everything. I'm well versed in that life.
Sure, people want to be open and free, but they do not because it's not wise. There are risks involved. Not that there aren't protocols to follow to better ensure a desirable outcome, but the unknown is just that. The risk of disease is heightened in that lifestyle as well.
I'm glad she was open about the reaction to a polyamorous lifestyle. No one can successfully live that way. People claim they can or do, but it's fiction. It causes chaos. Open relationships are chaotic. It sounds nice in theory, but it causes anxiety and confusion. Even with proper communication and being on the same page, anxiety presents itself. Ultimately, relationships go sour prematurely.
I'd like to see an update to this woman's life in 10 years. That's another interesting element to these situations. Women begin losing desirability once they enter their forties. The community categorizes these women differently as well. There were numerous communities within Fetlife in the early to mid 2000s that were inclusive to women ages 35 and below. Now, they may have changed in the last several years due to the cultural demand for all inclusivity, but I don't see a demand being there for bottoms/sub/slaves. The reason for a follow up is to see how she feels about the community once on the other side. Will she feel that she was taken advantage of, used, and where will her self esteem land? It'd be fascinating to know considering she's emotionally healthy and doesn't come from an abused background. She's definitely a good study case.
Thanks for sharing your story, Barbie. Be safe out there. Keep God close. Much love to you.
Ah, it almost sort of seems kinda like monogamous relationships line up in a way with bein' the democracy and/or republic / capitalist governances/societies of relationships. Whereby, I suppose the "thrupple" would maybe be socialism and then the all out free reignin' polyamory, or the completely open relationship would then have to be communism... Mostly due to how socialism, and communism, tend like on paper they seem and sound great but in real-world practice neither one has actually worked well so far, up to this point in time. But, idk...LmMFaO! Just a thought!
The description of the fetish Community is how I imagined it would be. Also, and I know that people claim otherwise, looks play a big part in it too. Do you think that Barbie would be as popular or as welcomed into that Community if she didn't look the way that she does?
I was thinking the same thing regarding her life in ten years.
morality and sex shouldn't be mixed together. Exactly the same way as bdsm and god. Our species is 5 milion years old. Out of which only last 10,000 we have been monogamous. Marriage is institution from middle-ages. Literrally it's just 500 years old. 70% of hunter-gatherers even today are polyamorous. Our society seems to have many more issues than theirs.
yeah it's actually just kindof sad to think of an elderly female sub/ slave. i can get why the appeal lessens over time.
Give her 10 years, broke, kicked to the curb, looks are gone, no sense of self or pride, its a sad story
I don't see why she would go broke, or be ugly, because she is kinky. And she has found the love of her life.
O yes. It will happen
And with diseases that are incurable
She sounds like every bar/restaurant worker in a major city lol
Totally! LOL
What a narrow-minded put-down.
The honesty and transparency of this free-spirited woman is uncanny and the interview is just phenomenal. Well done!!
It’s all part of her thing. She gets positive feedback for sharing.
Free spirited? Is that slang for 304?
Women like this are disgusting to me. Telling everyone about this twisted shit they do, then they expect you to give them a high five and give them respect... These people make me vomit.
@@jefferywright9808 Positive for walking AIDS
But she never thinks about anything but sex.
I mean I know she s kinky. But your an addict when it consumes you which I think is the point here tbh
What a wonderful person, so confident in her skin and able to talk openly about what makes her happy. Would love to have a friend like this, my friends are so reserved and afraid to say how they really feel.
One needs a certain level of looks to get away with this comfort level. Maybe a level of crazy, too.
Every psychiatrist will strongly disagree with your shallow assumption. There’s obviously something very wrong with her.
@@sungazer454 Every psychiatrist, huh? Where can we find those survey results?
@@hughmac13show me a psychiatrist that would think her behavior is normal
@@R_Thomp What isn't normal about her behavior? How do you use the term "normal" here?
What a unique and phenomal thing for her to find her thing.
It need not look ok to anyone else. She's owning it and loving life!
✨ 💜 ✨
she might do well to get a therapist .
dangerous what she’s doing -
you don't know that.
She can do whatever she wants.
Dear Mark
I love how people like to criticise you for "exploiting" people
Who wouldn't like to share their life stories and how it has effected their lives and shaped them to be who they are today.
It highlights and shines a light on the realities/struggles we all face in life
Keep up the great work Sir!
He’s not gonna see your ever so heart warming message and if he did he would not care about anything you have to say congratulations 🎈 you played yourself guy
look up amanda rabb.
@@kingjamesthespartan4010 Your comment really sucks.. You know that??
@@kingjamesthespartan4010why the beef with this creator? I just love drama or trolling. Not saying you are, just curious
I can be a very opinionated person and I am a Christian. I like learning about people and this channel is raw and pure .I have leartned a lot about people from all walks of life from Marks channel. I do not feel people are being exploited here because they choose to do these interv iews. Yes, he may pay them but what many do not understand is if he doesn't give some of them money for drugs they will find another way to get it. He has saved lives by giving money for their next fix.
There was a time I would have felt the same way as many do about exploiting but I am not feeliong that with Mark. He is a good person and I pray he finds Christ as his personnal Saviour and Lord. I pray he finds a relationship with Jesus, Mark does so much for humanity.
Very interesting video Mark! You may consider raising your camera higher, at least eye level ,it would make a more flattering video of the subject!
Curious to see how she feels about it when she’s 65
She won’t make 65. There is something wrong
I actually see this as a sad intimacy disorder. She begins to reveal this at various parts of the interview, especially when talking about adrenaline and essentially the addiction to it. This is a coping mechanism to protecting herself from being hurt in the most intimate areas of a relationship. This isn’t refreshing, this is sad. What about the perfect power couple parents to the sexualized underage twins with early sexualized experiences…that onion was never unpeeled.
Good questions asked, Mark. She’s intelligent and it seems she knows something’s wrong about this but denial is holding her back from recognizing and seeking help. She is worth so much more than the lifestyle within which she has chosen to imprison herself.
Yes, and you will have people going on about sexual liberation and freedom without realising these people are slaves to their own psychological problems.
The comments here are largely calling her a "free spirit" but she's a slave to her vices. She is not free. She's as far from it as you can be.
No doubt there will be an army of them here shortly to tell us we are prudes and whatever. Yet they love that she's shackled because then they don't have to confront their own shackles.
@@johnboylan3832 Not everyone who enjoys casual sex has psychological problems. That's silly.
@@Noooiiiissseee No, some people are just shallow. But we aren't talking about someone who just 'enjoys casual sex', are we?
@@johnboylan3832 Not in the video we aren't, but you also weren't being specific, were you? "You will have people talking about sexual liberation [...] these people are slaves to their own psychological problems"
Pretty obviously you aren't just talking about this one example and are putting that on anyone who enjoys sexual liberation. If that's not what you meant then you should be more careful about how you phrase things.
I’d like to interview her in 10 years and see how she feels about this lifestyle .
…what?
@@coffee5592 he hopes he could prove that his outdated and boring way of life turns out better than hers in 10 years. He's wrong, but thats what he hopes.
Idiot- tomorrow is not guaranteed never mind 10 years time. Let this girl live for the moment. Take a leaf out her book and live free you prick
I’m pretty sure she will be just fine! 🤣❤️
Yes, I hope her current love of her life relationship will last and they are good life partners to each other. And the reality is that she is a gorgeous, young and coming from a nonabusive background, which makes her a very demand in the community. Once women are certain age, they are no longer desired as much. That’s something every woman has to go through in any community. Id like know that if she can find a healthy way to live with that change and find a comfortable landing for herself.
Great job Mark..
..on keeping the AC turned down really low.🤭
It sounds great, but this type of lifestyle always ends up consuming these people. They will always chase the euphoria but eventually realise that it's just emptiness at the end of the day. There is nothing that can give a person meaning and contentment than a monogamous relationship. It's not just about sex.
I am ery happy in my monogamous relationship, but to say that is the case for 100% of people is absolutely B.S.
@@randomname4726 Yeah, the other % are the discontented, unwell ones. They are people who aren't happy full stop, no matter their relationship status.
Her statement at the end says it all... " I'M THE QUEEN., IT'S ALL ABOUT "ME", MY PLEASURE!!" This poor girl will end up broken, lonely and empty soon! I feel sorry for her
That was pretty sad. It seemed like she was trying to convince herself that it was true.
You sound like a rapist freak
Could not disagree more. I know people (women and men) who have enjoyed this lifestyle for decades, and are wonderful, fun, open human beings with many friends. It's quite possible YOU actually know some people like this too, but they choose not to share that part of their life experience with you because... maybe they sense someone who judges and pities, out of ignorance? I guess you'll never know.
Men age like wine, women age like buttermilk.
Why can’t it be all about her??
Brings back so many memories. I miss the lifestyle so much. Thank you for your story ❤
gross
@@henobani8039yes, your puritan assh le behavior is gross :)
why can't you do the lifestyle anymore?
@@carissakane4880You see her picture?
@@henobani8039 and how this is your business? You know what is gross? Pushing trans at schools.
Balance and perspective is important. From one extreme to the other, is not always the best route in life. Either way, this was an interesting interview.
I never understood the fascination with wanting to sleep with twins thats literally participating in incest.
I don't think that's how that works
Thank you!! I've never seen the appeal either. Just weird
Hey, hey, hey....incest is best, don't diss it till you put your sister to the test!
@@GG-fb4gz Except it literally is
Its very bizarre. Definitely not sexy.
Mark isn’t wrong at all.. They only want you for one thing, that’s facts… it’s not about energy or zodiac signs , WAKE UP!!
The story about Her friend stopping a man from penetrating her at a party is the saddest thing I’ve ever heard.. she’s so delusional..
Good to see women calling out this bs delusional brokenness
She's not delusional, she's horny.
She really is smh
You are 100% right. Idk what these others are smoking talking like she is a godess.
Maybe she only wants one thing from her partners to. Just because someone doesn't fit into your vanilla mold doesn't make them delusional
She's incredibly open and honest. She's amazing ❤
This is why therapy is so necessary in our modern society. Most people don’t know that they have lots of unresolved grief and other forms of repressed emotions and they think it’s just a perfectly normal choice to behave this way. It isn’t, and it will have massive repercussions on your future.
It’s never about pleasure, it’s never just sex. This reality needs to sink in at some point.
Your opinion
Truth
Lol....WTF is WRONG with you
Of course she has an identical twin sister.
Hmm, where have I heard that one before lmao
Did anyone catch her age? I didn’t hear how old she was
@@thetruthdatedr.4766 old enough
She is 30
@@connorcash1033that’s what your sister told you 😂
You will always feel a hole in your heart when you share yourself with everyone. People are free and should do what they want but IMO my monogomous relationship has always satisfied me more than my previous nonmonogomous relationships. Fetishes may be fine for awhile but respect has to go both ways and I want to feel number #1 to someone and only save special things for my one love.
You miss the point! " ... my monogomous relationship has always satisfied me more than my previous nonmonogomous relationships." It is not about YOU. And (if you listened) she said she HAS a partner who she is madly in love with -- they just like to go to sex parties TOGETHER. She owns herself.
I think it's great that you know she spent a portion of her life doing these things following new things and figuring out who she is and what she enjoys what she doesn't like a thing is as far as it goes just because somebody enjoyed that part of their life doesn't always necessarily mean it will always be a part of their life like for her. Yeah, she had that part but now I think she settle down quite a bit and found somebody that is willing to explore those things that she did find that she loved when she does want to explore those things again good for her and he's a very lucky man
To each their own, but with that being said this lifestyle would feel so empty and degrading to me. I’ve very much been a one man kind of woman and nothing turns me on more than being with that one person I’m madly in love with. I get feeling she has some kind of big void she’s trying to fill underneath it all. I hope if she’s not truly happy now, she finds it.
I think deep down it feels empty and degrading to her too.
She would say you're vanilla
Is she really into fetishes or just promiscuous?
Our bodies are our most valuable possession, we usually hide our valuables.
Good grief. If I ever heard my daughter say some guy "didn't ask my consent before he slapped me" I would know that I failed as a father.
Jesus, you would blame your daughter if she got assaulted...victim blaming much?
I feel what she's saying about sadism. That shit fucks me up, and I'm a straight guy, so people have *asked* me to do it. I don't know what it is, but I just can't ever bring myself to slap or abuse someone. Like, I feel like a complete shitbag of a person every time someone asks to be hit. And then when I deny it because it makes ME uncomfortable, they say I can't be dominant or that I'm too submissive of a person. That shit just pisses me off. I don't hit people, because if I'm hitting someone, I want them to suffer. I don't hit someone that I love and respect, I just can not make myself do it. So hearing about her experiences with sadists (especially ones that don't ask permission) being not particularly great, it makes me feel a little bit better as a human knowing that not everyone is seeking physical abuse for sexual stimulation. I can't judeg someone for enjoying something necessarily, but I'm allowed to have my own boundaries too - and being asked to be physically violent is a hard boundary for me. I'm just glad to know that there are some really kinky people out there that have a similar boundary, it makes me feel more desirable and more desired as a person by my partner when we share those kinds of boundaries.
Anyway, I'm off my soap box. Hope the best for her, she seems like a kind person.
I don’t like that kinda stuff either. Uncomfortable, too. 😊
They're not wrong. You will never be a "true dom". You're better suited looking for someone who wants a "soft Dom".
Great interview thanks!
‘And we kissed’ that really showed them men haha. So empowering
She literally said she'd drop all of this instantly if her partner wanted to be monogamous. Pretty telling on what she actually wants.
Yah…
For like half a day probably 😂
Imagine how lost she will be when she hits the wall and can't find someone of her standard willing to be with her.
Grass is always greener... She gets that and hir inner slut kicks in again. Good luck tho
@@demetriak837 "the wall?" Oh god you're one of those red pill idiots aren't you? 🤦🏼♂️🤦🏼♂️🤦🏼♂️🤦🏼♂️
@@demetriak837 I have a friend who identifies as polyamorous. She said her biggest problem is that every time she's been in a relationship with a man, it starts out that he is enthusiastic but soon gets jealous and/or resentful that she still wants to be with other people when so inspired.
I haven’t ever heard of such wild abandonment in an interview. Having a woman discuss her sex life with all avenues covered was liberating for both viewer and interviewer. I didn’t expect the story when I engaged the channel. Thanks.
Love this. It takes me back to the good old days. 👍
Her voice is shaking
Vocal fry. Annoying af
Why do lots of Americans talk like this??
@@lindaheathcote1696 California
yeah, hard to take anything as confidence when her voice is wavering the whole time...
@@lindaheathcote1696 it always seems to be those west coast people.
Sex and sexuality are not the 'end', and unfortunately for many like Barbie, it seems to be.
do not judge or do not watch
@@concernedcitizen1382 Was not judging, was discerning...
@@concernedcitizen1382when you decide to talk about intimate subjects in a public forum, you forfeit the privilege of not being judged. Any adult knows this. When you discuss details of your private life, you are inviting judgement and criticism, positive or negative.
@@tjtruth4793 OK, but who other than complete losers judge a stranger whom they know next to nothing about? You tell me. And on an anonymous forum, yet. Simply Pathetic.
@@concernedcitizen1382 kinda like you just did?? That’s quite ironic. It’s actually human nature to make quick judgments about people. But that’s not even the point I was making, I was simply saying that when a person chooses to air out their laundry in public, they forfeit any argument against judging them. Which is simply the truth. Don’t get your panties all waded up.
Great video interview Mark,she would make a good study.
great description of how we all evolve!
I was with a girl like her once. It was terrible because i had to constantly play catch up. It was exhausting. They definitely cant be in a relationship unless the guy or girl is just like this. She also got bored very easily. And i dont think simply being adventurous causes someone to be this way. However, early assault does. Its possible she just doesnt remember it.
Mark asked great Q's. And hes right. Love is a miracle. Not all of us experience it.
Great point
Or maybe, it has nothing to do with sexual assault like she said. Just because your limited experience says that people aren't just this way doesn't mean it's true. And if you felt like you were playing catch-up, that was on you, not on your partner.
@@southphillylilly oh come on. People share here in the comments something personal that may be disagreeable or contradictory to the subject matter, especially a young beautiful blonde who speaks explicitly, has to come out with your vitriol and defend the girl. Geesh, you couldn't be more obvious. Men just love women like this huh? But it doesn't occur to you she may be broken or her lifestyle may be risky.
@@AliciaM5555 shhhhh, never correct or criticize a woman, especially if she is talking down to another man.
That’s misogyny
@@torachan23 Technically, florida ginger is is covertly misandering
"When love hits you, it's a miracle".....yes and it can really hurt too!
This interview needs a safe word. I don't think I'm as adventurous as her but honestly it's probably healthier mentally to know what you want and go after those feelings with like minded forks than burying it and having it come out in a negative way. More power to her...or someone else depending, I guess!!!
Great interview! Thanks for sharing Barbie!
The SECOND she started talking about sex/"fetishes", her voice changed and got really shaky. That's a huge indication of untruthfulness. She's literally just sitting here saying everything she thinks a man would want to hear.
“I found the love of my life now”. LOL!. …I spit my coffee out! Thank god I was outside on the deck. The women had no idea what “ LOVE” is.
But I’m sure you have an idea of it, Greg.
No, I have no idea
Give the quote the respect it deserves! It was "I think I've found the love of my life" 🤣😂🤣
Most people don't, unfortunately.