Forensic Nurse Examiner-Shawn
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- čas přidán 30. 08. 2023
- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Shawn, a sexual assault nurse examiner in Northern Indiana.
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I am writing this at just turning 70 years old. When I was 25, I was kidnapped and raped by a knife toting stranger. Later, when I was brought to the hospital, there was a grad student working on a grant that studied rape victims and their female family members for several years. She was with me through the rape kit, etc. and helped me get hospitalized when I became suicidal a few weeks later. If not for her, I'm not sure what would have happened. So, Shawn, please know that what you do has such a positive LONG lasting effect on our lives. I don't know you, but I love you for all you do. Thank you for your strength.
I am so sorry that you went through such a traumatic experience, but I am SO glad that you found the strength to be here with us for another 45 years, and I pray that there are many more ❤ may they be happy, healthy, loving years
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So sorry this happened to u
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So happy you are still here and made it to 70 years old! That’s amazing! Happy belated birthday! 🎉🙏🫶
This woman is EVERYTHING a nurse should be. Thankful for people like her ❤
This woman is EVERYTHING a human being should be! 💜
Thank you for your work. I felt so much like that in my 35 years as Woman Child RN. I started in L&D then Nursery 2 (Drug Baby Nursery) to NICU. I always dedicated my shift to God. I really hoped the parents could feel at least moments of being seen and heard. So many of them I liked, and I lived the babies.
@@peaceout6285 absolutely!
Incredible woman with an incredible story. Thank you for sharing❤️
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The way I gasped when she said that her youngest patient was 35 DAYS old. A one month old BABY. Sickening
Look up the case of of baby Brianna. She was born Valentine's Day. She was only 5 months. I'm sure there's worse but that has been the worst case thus far. Short from a satanic ritual. Demons and the evil are real. Why? Because we have an angel like her sitting and telling her story. The one that gave birth to her served just 13 years of the 27. She's out living her life.
Yes, my mouth flew open when I heard that.
Oh you would be shocked at how many babies are raped. It’s filmed and passed around the pedo groups
I bet the person who graped the child was a family member
I hope they were prosecuted
I hope that someone cares for her the way that she cares for others. She deserves so much love.
me too. But I really doubt it, There aren't many who can give on that level . So the world is stretched thin on servants. God puts them where He needs them. Typically I think they just need normalcy
The way Mark said "that must be hard" and she turns it back around on him "well same as what you do, you hear things all day...". What a humble, compassionate human. Impossible to imagine the stories and awful things some people have to hold regularly. She is a Saint!
The Lord!!!
Amen, she deserves so much! This work is a burden on the soul and I hope hers can be lightened! She deserves peace helping the world of madness.
Not all heroes wear capes. I’m a 47 year old male and I was crying during most of this interview. Thank you for your work. What an amazing woman.
The gamut of humanity is so deep and wide that it kind of makes you question what it means exactly to be a human being.
Sane. Amazing woman
i sympathize with her, and admire her fortitude. usually the very first contact is an EMT/Firefighter. if you don't know what an impact a hurt child has on them, google up the photo of the firefighter carrying the body of the toddler out of the wreckage of the murrow bldg's daycare center in OKC. there was no support network. i hope there is one for folks in her line of work. first responders are in the nationwide top in suicides.
I am crying reading all of these comments. God save the children.
@@em1osmurfsadly, a lot of health care workers don't seek out help. Nurse here. Concerned about impact on license which is ridiculous. Covid changed things a bit. More healthcare willing to ask for help/support and not care about possible discrimination from management.
You're treated my daughter. You an angel. I really don't know how we could have made it through without you. God bless you forever. God bless you forever. We will never forget you, we will never stop giving thanks for your presence. I'm sorry this comes at great personal expense to you 🫂❤️🙏 She's happy and adjusted well since then and you played a great part in her healing. Thank YOU forever.
THANK YOU FOREVER!
I’m so sorry for everything that happened to your daughter! I hope her body and soul are healing. Sending love to your family ❤
Such a beautiful comment. ✨I’m sorry about what happened to your daughter n I’m so happy she’s doing well.
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Sending 💜
Wow...just wow...I knew this was an amazing woman but your comment just proved what everyone is thinking....Shawn is literally an angel and I am so sorry that you had to meet her under those circumstances but thank God you did.
You could see and feel just how much she was holding in the tears and anguish she feels because of what she sees and hears but chooses to continue to be there for her patients. She's an angel and a hero! Sorry that you are needed but thank you for what you do!
She's amazing. We really need more people like her in this evil world.
Having interviewed a rape victim at the ER as a rookie cop was one of the most challenging things I have ever done in my life. Shawn, I cannot imagine doing what you do. Coming from a Combat Veteran witnessing the death of my Soldiers and seeing the worst humans can do to one another as a civilian law enforcement officer. Kudos. I salute you and thank you for all that you do. 🫡 Remember to be kind to yourself. Stay blessed.
Strong person. You rock Shawn!
Thank you for your service Sir. Greetings from Italy.💕
Blessings to you!
God Bless you❤
Thank you and other LEOs that have to see the worst of the worst. God bless
I’ve worked with this amazing woman, let me say this…she along with all the other nurses at her facility are absolute angels! I loathed working these horrific crimes, but these women do these all day everyday! Such a special group of humans…and yes Shawn is a very tough woman!
God bless you and her for your hard work! Your strength is amazing I never realized that was a job but with that said you angels for what you do and how you help the victims!❤
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Shes a gun owner. So honestly fuck her for promoting the very violence she claims to be agaisnt
I'm really pleased Shawn is able to tangibly see the respect, honor & love people feel for her as a result of her strength & compassion in performing her duties. The self proclaimed tough nurse is a gentle & empathetic victim advocate. God bless her.
Where does she work? I’m from IN.
I was trafficked for three months as a homeless teenager after being abandonded by my parents in a parking lot. I had no parental figure nor no one to run to or be protected by and still don't besides my husband 5 years later. The nurse that dealt with me and treated me (for the first time) like a human being, I will never forget her. She was the first adult I had cried in front of without a butt-whooping or being screamed at. I was at my breaking point with no education, malnourished and full of hatred and in that moment, that nurse made my life worth living. I would give anything to see her again just for an hour. Thank you for everything you forensic nurses do, it inspired my journey to become an EMT to also help people
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Sending a big hug 🎉
Sending lots of love to you. ❤ It's amazing how sometimes brief contact witha person can affect our life profoundly. I'm so glad you came across that nurse that day, after all you'd been through. Take good care. 💕
It's so sad that the sacredness of sensuality had been sacrificed to evil. Sigh...Thank you Shawn & Mark.
Brave you went in dirección to help others. Proud for you. Yes its not easy to feel vulnerable. Praise and thanksgiving to God for your perseverance. Abrazo
I had a full body exam by a forensic nurse at the age of 9 years old. It was awful!!! And then the charges were dropped AFTER I went through that AND testified in court at 9!!! My own mother dropped the charges!! Thank GOd things are done differently today and the DA will still prosecute regardless and they don’t make children have to go on the stand in court..I was SO traumatized. Thank you for what you do, I could not imagine this job.
I'm so sorry you experienced that trauma. ❤
@@carolapostolos8929 thank you! It’s affected me and still does at 47 years old. But I will be eventually getting EMdR therapy for it.
I am so sorry you went through such horrible thing, I hope you got better and got help eventually .. wish you well
I'm so sorry that happened to you. Remember none of it was your fault.
Thank you for your kindness everyone. I had counseling as a child but have yet to do EMDR in the future for it, unfortunately it still affects me to this day. I am 47 now.
Dear Shawn ,
I am a physician. Keep painting those rocks...u are a brave, tremendously helpful person. Everything worth knowing, I learned from nurses.❤❤❤
As a nurse who became a physician, not listening to nurses ….. doesn’t work (the polite version).
I’m so thankful people like her exist ❤ she’s truly remarkable with her compassion .
That was my first thought too. I know ppl who investigate abuse against children. The stories are horrific
@@lisanevins3605I could never, just thinking about anyone hurting kids makes me see red
Thankfully is not a strong enough word, she's awesome
Absolutely
This woman is a God sent and most of all there are no words I can fathom her strength. Your strength I am so thankful.
I have never watched a more genuine interview on this channel. The world needs more people like Shawn! xo
Ain't that the truth.
she is one in a million
I agree. I think this is the best one I've seen.
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We're out here. After 25 years of Nursing & abuse & diagnosed with PTSD myself, other people will have to take over. Good luck finding nurses like us ❤ We need YOU to perform in the community, too.
From 35 days old to 94 years old...I'm not sure which case saddens me the most. There are some real, genuine monsters amongst us.
I was sexually abused by my father. I ended up going into animal rescue, Animals have been my salvation. I love you Shawn, with all my heart! I wish I had met someone like you when I was young. You’re just an amazingly compassionate woman. ❤️
“Mommy said it was my fault because of the nightgown I was wearing” broke my heart. You can tell Shawn is the right person for this job she is amazing and you can tell she cares for every single one of her patients. This is one of the best interviews Soft White Underbelly has ever done. It was amazingly done
I 1000% agree with you!! One of the best interviews. Wow!
I agree and who bought her nightie?
I just really hope that child was not allowed to stay with that "mother" after that 😭
It is not your fault in any way, shape, or form. Parents should protect their children - always.
@@boochicks2590 guarantee that child stayed with the mother
I am blown away by her strength. The world is a better place because of people like her
100%
Totally agreed. 🌍🌎🌏🙏
What strength ? She's lying. I don't believe her. She's never had a patient that was 35 "days" old. That sounds more like a vindictive woman making up a BS story about a new born in order for (her) obtain full custody of the baby.
I agree
I’ve been a therapist for 24 years and it was such a blessing to listen to your interview. To hear a woman who cares so much and realizes she cannot detach if she is going to be the best for the people she cares for! The secondary PTSD is real and I am so thankful you learned to take care of you! Thank you for your work!
Do you always ask the question, did anyone tell you noT TO tELL?
Vicarious Trauma IS very real!!! ❤
Vicarious traumatization.
As a survivor of human trafficking, and someone who has experienced a few different types of forensic nurse examiners, I just want to say thank you. You're words are so kind and you're voice is so calm. You're vibe is comforting. 💕 You're also very strong and give hope to others. Thank you for sharing.
❤ horrific 😢, much and healing to you ❤
I’m glad you’re here ❤
Shawn, and people out there like her in this line of work, are truly unsung heroes.
ABSOLUTELY!!
❤healing and serving❤️
Yes they are. It's a shame humanity essentially values entertainers, in other words just another form of pleasure seeking, over the people that matter most. Only celebrity and those that keep them well is met with the most admiration and security in life. Yet the same people will condemn the addicts for comforting themselves in the way they know how. I'm referring to the multi millions of dollars and the countless admiration athletes and other entertainers receive in compensation. This woman takes on countless hours, days, weeks, and years of trauma. Where are her accolades? I'm glad she spoke here. I didn't know of forensic nursing or what it entails either.
She's the rarest gem. Her compassion is overflowing. God bless her
Must be very difficult 🙏
I'm a retired Labor/Delivery RN. I have had many fetal demises during my 40+ years of nursing. I must say, even though it was difficult it was a privilege to help parents through this difficult time. We were taught to take special photos of the babies , and foot and hand prints for the family. Most of the families appreciated these small memories of their sweet baby.
I don't think a nurse should ever be left alone while having to take care of her first fetal demise.
Thank you for all of your years of service, they are greatly appreciated and needed.
When the topic came up of fetal demise, my mind went back to the Christmas Day when my baby boy was born still. It was sudden, due to incompetent cervix, and we were absolutely devastated. When I asked the ER nurse if my baby would live, she cringed and said she was "allergic to miscarriages," but the L&D nurses were wonderful. I treasure the photos and foot- and handprints, a quarter century later. They even found a pretty elegant white cardboard box to take him home in. It inspired me to work as an RN in L&D for a time.
@@bnic9471I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you had others around to comfort you. I believe your baby's spirit remains with you to this day. ❤️
Thank you for asking that you do. It matters. 🦋🌞
speaking of fetal demise when i had my oldest daughter i seen this one nurse in the nursery at Ravenswood hospital when i went to check up on my baby she was in tears and she told me one baby was lost in delivery i still cry thinking about this
“Vicarious trauma.”
That’s what I needed to hear. Now I know it’s real and someone else knows how I feel. This is the first time. What an amazing person.
Retired Nurse here. First spark for me was oncology and from there I went into hospice. Needed therapy for childhood sexual trauma and progressed to the fact that I then had PTSD from my chosen profession. The trauma came from Hearing how difficult life and death is to process through. I stay in therapy and I am 70. I must feed the parts of my soul that I gave to my patients and their loved ones. I am convinced it will be life long recovery. Please take care of yourself. Thank you for all you have shared with the world.
Shawn as a fellow RN, you represented yourself, your patients, and the profession in such high regard. Your empathy, compassion, and knowledge poured from your spirit. As nurses, we give so much of ourselves and our families know our sacrifices, but I am so thankful you are a SANE nurse and a fellow human I may come in contact with at any given moment. You are beautiful and I appreciate you. You-Are-Brave. You do make a difference. I hope you have good outlets for self care, that's always a struggle in this field. Much love!
Hugs.
I’m a fellow RN and couldn’t have said it better myself.
This was a great interview. Shawn is so compassionate and she is definitely in the right profession, however, it seems that she has seen too much and it's weighing very heavily on her. Talk to someone to fix you xo
I'm also an RN and wanted to say that but I didn't have the words to say it better than you did! ❤
Another fellow RN and I could not have said it better ❤
I’m doing my nursing prerequisites right now. This women convinced me to pursue a forensic certification afterwards. She’s amazing.
May God bless and comfort you through your journey. May he make you strong.
Thank you
Me too
It's the biggest burden but the incredibly meaningful if you can keep your bearings and balance a life outside work.
- a retired sexual assault detective
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Good Luck ❤ Nursing isn't what it was...As a Nurse of 30 years, the establishment & each state Nursing Board are changing laws we won't comply with. Society norms are becoming disgusting ill.
As a Grandma of many years, I write a comment for the first time. If something tragic happened to anyone in my family, I would want this wonderful human being to be their nurse.
Beautiful job on your post! Lord bless and keep you ❤🙏
Shawn, I hope your daughter reads some of these comments to you...because you are an angel. I have so much respect, admiration and appreciation for you and what you do. You're one of the most compassionate, empathetic, caring and genuine individuals I've ever seen. Thank you for your loving, healing, selfless heart...and for the sacrifices you make to help and heal others. So glad you shared your story and your perspective for this interview, and a mention of your faith as well. I don't doubt that anyone who comes into contact with you leaves a little better than before. Thank you for all you do, and God bless
Amen!
Her posture throughout the interview tells you how much she has taken on due to her job and she is comforting herself as she natrates the horror of her day to day job. As a fellow RN who worked in hospice, oncology, ICU and now mental health, nursing is a calling. Hats off to ppl like Shawn and all who passionately care!!
Amen! Thank you as well for all you do and the way you do it!
Kudos to you too, Ive got a huge appreciation and respect for nurses many of my friends are RNs and after some local tragedies i know theyve been on call for i just cant imagine. I always be sure to thank my nurses any time I'm having a procedure. Er, even reg Dr visit every time they enter and leave the room doing something for me. I had my second son 10 weeks early and was admitted on bedrest in hospital for about 4 weeks before they did the c section and even the days I'd have the not so great nurses I just thought of exactly why she may not be in a great mood what she could've seen or been through that day or prior , maybe someone lost a baby, I didn't know so I wasn't one to start any complaint or whatever like I know some would've. I'd see how hard they'd still be busting their asses to help me and my baby and keep him in there and safe through whatever they were dealing with and made sure to be extra patient and nice to them. I had some super amazing ones who would take me outside and down to the atrium to get some good food and snacks when my fiance and family couldn't visit since he was home with our then 4 yr old and 2 hrs away from the hospital. I'll never forget the one nicu nurse named Mel she was my absolute fav person I met during my total 6weeks and my sons 4 weeks nicu. She was the sweetest most kind patient and helpful nurse I've ever experienced and she was Def in the right place being in the nicu with such fragile babies and scared parents my youngest is 10 now but I must think of Mel a few times a week still! I'm so thankful she was my nurse, I've been wanting to mail a letter down with a picture to the nicu since it's been 10 years but I'm not sure any of the nurses are even still there lol I'm sure some are
@@KT06 you're also to be commended. Thank you 😊
@@KT06 Write the letter. Chances are good that someone will still be there 10 years later. NICUs often have nurses and other staff who stay there until they retire.
Even if there isn't any of the same people there, somebody will read it who appreciates it and needs to read something positive.
GOD bless you! you are a hero of heros..
Your work and how you treat those in your care ALWAYS makes a difference
Child of extreme abuse here. I wish you had been involved in my case. I may not have received the help I needed, but hearing your conviction, words, and intentional impact are healing to the wounded child inside. Thank you for airing this episode.
yup!!
Thank you for continuing to overcome! You are doing really well ❤
I am so proud of you! You are so brave and worthy of love, protection, peace and comfort! I pray for healing for you and the child inside you! God bless! ❤
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This was the BEST interview I’ve watched on this channel. Thank you for your compassionate service, Shawn.❤
I’m glad I failed out of nursing, I don’t think I was cut out for it. It’s truly a sacrifice of your mental, spiritual, and physical health. Just my clinical experiences for med surg and mental health brought me to my knees. You really don’t know how messed up the world can be until you see it and sometimes the nurses were even the bad ones. Thank you for being a good one. Sending love and hugs your way!!!
How did you fail out? I’m curious because I’m questioning my career choice
@@michaelax3025 Academically, I was doing an accelerated nursing program in 16 months time. But, as I started the pandemic broke and they allowed us to fail two courses before dismissal. However, right as I was set to enter my last semester, they reversed their “stress leniency policy” and I had just failed my second course. So, I was automatically dismissed for failing more than one course. 😞 no courses transferred to other schools, I would have to start over. Currently paying off $32K and no degree to show. It’s quite the gamble, truly a gamble against the odds of success. There’s a lot of bullying and short tempered professors and if you don’t keep your records up to date on your end they can mess with you. I was called at 5 am and told I cannot come to clinical at 7 am that same morning bc my vaccinations were not up to date.. even when they were. You also have med math, you need to pass with a 98% of better every semester or face dismissal for that as well. It’s just more chances to fail than succeed but obviously not impossible. Just feels like crappy to know the girl who said she wanted to be a nurse to make good money and afford her life graduated and I wanted to make a difference in patients lives and advocate for them and I couldn’t make it out. But hey, maybe I’m too soft. I care way too much about people.
There’s a ton of nurses in the world and I commend the good ones for their work. They are all truly a light in this world. Where there is a will there is a way. I just lost my will and way that year, and became too depressed to fight to the end.🚨
When I was 18 I was kidnapped and raped by a guy. I remember the fear and helplessness I felt but I mostly remember the nurse that did my rape kit and how safe she made me feel. Thank you Shawn for all you do! I promise your patients will never forget your kindness.
Wow…wishing you well and sending health and love your way❤
God is with you as you are here to tell the tale. 🙏❤
Sadly many women end up disappearing in similar situations 😢
really? Should she be grateful for your God and how he let her down that day? I'll never understand this type of comment. You have no idea what the person you're responding to believes in. Impact, not intent. Seriously.
"The final stage of healing is when you use what happened to you to help others." Shawn's a real empath and you can see the emotional toll that job takes on her. She's given so much of herself to help others. I think Mark should start a donation fund for her retirement. She deserves it after all she's given. Bless her ❤️
I wish I could heart this comment a thousand times❤
Thats a great idea
Awesome sentiment. I agree. However, us nurses never retire. Ha!
Agreed ❤. She deserves a beautiful last portion of her precious life ❤
Please take care of yourself
These nurses are angels. My teenager to this day remembers the kindness of the nursing staff when I had to take him in as a child. They gave him a little stuffed animal that he kept for years. The kindness and compassion we received was something that we will never forget. Thank you.
I also work in this field (mostly adults) and I had to stop this video multiple times to cry. Every single thing she said resonates with me, as a survivor and a DV/SA counselor. I hope that on her toughest days, she remembers who she is inspiring and how powerful her voice is. ❤
The fact that she’s holding herself through this whole interview says it all to me. This is a hero in my eyes, thank you for what you do and please take care of yourself - you have a true gift and one amazing soul 💖
Yeah, seriously how does she hold it together for this? she probably never gets to vent it
@@dtps_champion6016The eyes speak when the heart is unable to say.
Can you imagine diagnosing a 35 day old for this?
@@MR-backupI'm stuck on that, too. Poor baby😢
I was forced to live with a convicted pedophile for 14 years of my childhood. It haunts me how differently me and all my siblings turned out. It destroyed my sister. Absolutely ruined her entire life. The rest of us are pretty normal, considering the torment we endured.
Thank you for being a normal person who cares enough to show up for these kids. We didn’t have someone like you.
I’m so sorry you and your siblings experienced that, that should never have happened to you. I hope your sister finds some peace as well- it’s true we never know how the same actions will impact people differently.
😢so sorry the adults you should of been able to trust betrayed you. Hope your able to find healing, 🙏🏻to you.
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OMG I'm so sorry. Your mother is a POS for allowing that to happen
I was a nurse too. Thank you for sharing this. I hope you know that you reached my heart.
As a sexual assault survivor, and a person who overthinks, your words reached somewhere in me that I forgot. THANK YOU ❤. Blessings to you. So much love to you.
That’s beautiful ❤
As a new social worker in foster care, I appreciate this lady and her ability and willingness to tell her story. I thought it was done in a very respectful way. Our nurses need to be thanked for their service every bit as much as our service men, if not more.
This woman made me feel so safe in this 49 min interview. I know she's out there doing God's work. I hope she gets peace in her life to cushion the blow of the nastiness she encounters.
Same. Raw and honest, pure heart
yes I feel like this profession chose her
An "all powerful" being that just let's this awful stuff happen, even to innocent children & babies. Absolutely vile.
A nurse like this helped me big time. Many nurses are angels on earth. She went above and beyond, I remember she recommended books to me also like "The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook" by Bourne and "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels...both books together helped me so that was cool of her. She didn't have to do that, nor did she have to listen to me...but she did. If a nurse is reading this...thank you for what you do, and I hope you get some rest this week before you face a lot.
I hope ur doing better considering how hat you’ve experienced 💜 much love to you
Im a nurse too...And sometimes is gard..Takes a lot of me..I give myself to my job...Because is not only a job ...😘❤
God bless you.
Wow! Thanks for those book recommendations!!🎉🎉
Wow what a strong bad ass woman
What a beautiful soul, as a bedside nurse, I can tell you that this woman is a pillar of strength !!! The love and compassion along with the discipline of structure and detail that she is filled with just makes her designed for that job.
May God carry her burdens so she can continue helping those who have been hurt along with providing the evidence needed for perpetrators to be held accountable!
Amazing interview from an amazing woman !
God be with her !
For close to nine years, I managed a hospitalized based advocacy program that often worked hand in hand with the forensic nurse examiners. I’ve worked a total of 34 years on victim services - providing support to survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault/abuse and human trafficking. Shawn, I did not expect to be so moved by this interview. Thank you for sharing your heart and soul and reminding us all that without humanity, we can do no good, if not worse, for those in such vulnerable situations.
I was so transfixed this entire interview. Thank you Shawn, for being vulnerable and sharing so much. Fred Rogers once said ““When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’” Thank you for being a helper ❤
Your comment made me cry. I remember Mr. Rogers saying that. What a blessing he was.
Shawn is def a helper. 💜
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My first day as House Supervisor of a hospital, I had to take care of a baby girl that died immediately after delivery. She looked like a beautiful angel. I had to take her to the morgue. I cried off and on all day. Nurses do unimaginable things to save a human’s life and to be with them at death. Retired RN.
Awe hugs Def isn't an easy job being a nurse I wish the nurse I had when I had my still born had more compassionate and caring instead of what they did then because I was losing to much blood I got admitted to the labor delivery floor overnight. But hwvw had some pretty amazing nurses since then especially in the nicu after I had my last 2 Littles.
Thank you for your compassion and caring🙏
This interview was REAL, it hit home on so many levels. A lot of us that have needed deep healing, go into a healing field. Being of service is an important part of recovery. I love what she said about using what has happened to us to help others (I know I am not getting the quote exact) really made me cry. It is so beautiful to be part of someone's healing journey, in any way.
You mentioned you may not read the comments but I hope you do - You are such a gift to this world. It's so okay to have boundaries and limits, and I see you hug those limits every time you help these people because it puts a weight on you but takes the world off their shoulders. When I was abused in school the school told me, "don't make up lies like that because you could ruin his life" and it took many years to open up to anyone about any of it after that - even family. Having someone that cares, someone that acknowledges the innocent/victim has value, worth, and even a shred of dignity makes an astronomical difference. For so many you are that person, and I have so much respect and admiration for you. Thank you for all that you do, even when it's hard.
I was an ER trauma nurse and I was certified SANE. I am very glad that I didn’t stay beyond 15 years in that specialty. I burned out. I have been an RN for 43 years now and PTSD was destroying me. I was in and out of counseling and I was going to crash and burn. I couldn’t do the dead kids anymore. You are amazing Shawn. God’s Grace to you.
You did your best for as long as you could. Please don't demish all the good you have done.
bless you.
Now is the time to take care of yourself. You gave so much of yourself for years. The selfless work you have done has incredibly powerful positive long-lasting effects on the patients and their families that you will never see.
I was a Community Mental Health/ AOD had the gift of knowing my limits.Prior to Covid worked in Disability Services....transferable skills less horizontal violence and easier life.
You are one of the most amazing member of our society helping people. Serving our community. We salute you!
A true hero. It is amazing how much emotional trauma she endures and still goes every day to help people.
Amen!
I would really love to see you have more nurses on here. We see shit that most people couldn’t even imagine especially nurses who work in the emergency department.
Yeah, I agree. It would be good to hear more stories from nurses. I can only imagine the things they have gone through and seen. They are definitely special people. ❤
This interview touched my heart deeply. This wonderful lady is so precious, the way she overthinks is because she cares so much. I hope she has an amazing family and support network ❤ sending her so much love 🙏🏼💗
I'm a 30+ year Rn and I cried almost all the way through this. My regular Hospital job was tough, but my God, you are a strong person. Thank you for being there for these vistims and survivors.
General nursing is tough but this is another level. Thank God she is willing to do the job.
"The final stage of healing is using what happened to you to help other people" Wow so powerful, thanks for sharing your story.
So beautiful.
Thank you for sharing your stories and continuing to stay strong. Being a nurse is already a difficult profession. When I think I'm having a hard day at work, you have put things into perspective that other nurses have literally seen trauma while trying to push through it being the best we can be for our patients
This interview is one of my top 3 for sure. Shawn is amazing and I am so glad there are people like her helping these kids with grace, compassion & dignity.
Shawn, if you read this, thank you for finding the courage to come on here to tell us about your career and life. I come to this channel for learning and this was one of the best interviews Mark has done (in my own estimation). We’re a similar age and I so admire your selflessness in the work you do - I couldn’t do it. The world is so much richer for you being in it. Much love, from Down Under in New Zealand.
God is so good. You are truly a blessing
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As someone from a dysfunctional upbringing and a mental health care worker,this is one of your best interviews. Most people don't understand the magnitude of trauma. Thank you Mark and Shawn.
Agree 💯 🩶
@@crystalh2211 So true. I’ve been plagued with it my entire adult life. At my age I’ve decided to only do what makes me reasonably comfortable. And these days that includes not leaving my apartment. I’m trying to figure it out. Fingers crossed I guess. I really don’t miss much anymore that I can’t do at home. I leave when my daughter is with me. Stay safe everyone!
Shawn, I'm amazed at your strength after all you've seen and been through. Thank you for all you do for those that need someone just like you.
Thank you Shawn, for all you do, and every person you help. ❤️
Amen my sister nurse! I'm a retired neuro-trauma and ER night nurse, she makes me so humbly proud. I used to tell families to go home and rest, that i would treat the patient just like they're mine. Each patient deserves dignity and the best care possible.
I have flown up and down hospital floors caring for critical patients and felt angels flanking me, I'm not the only one. Sometimes you are the only person standing between that critical patient and God. It can really feel that way. So you do all you can, and pray. If a dying patient asked me if i could pray, i was their girl. There are hospitals that will tell you not to pray, even if they asked me. I didn't ask them if i could, hmn.
Unfortunately, nursing has drastically changed in the last 20 or more years. The handwriting was on the wall in the early 90's. I'm thankful there are still nurses that demand to be the best patient advocate they can be, and nothing less. Lord bless and keep all the angels of mercy! ❤🙏❤️
My first grandchild was stillborn at 27 weeks. The nurses were so amazing and I still think of them eight years later.
This is what a hero looks like in flesh and blood. I so admire the people able to do this work, as I cannot. I would collapse in a heap of sobbing tears each night. Anyone who works with abused children has my greatest admiration and respect. My SIL is a CASA (child advocate) volunteer for children in foster care. She doesn’t say much but I hear hints of what ‘her’ kids experience. My heart breaks for them all.
CASA is amazing! Much thx to your sister! 💗
@@StephieGsrEvolution thanks, she’s a rockstar
Shaun, your talk resonated with me the most.
My father was my first abuser and I was raped as a teenager more times than I can count. I'm 54 now and people would never guess my history if they didn't know me from way back then.
I always 'see' homeless people and drug addicts and look them in their eyes and say 'good morning'. They probably don't even realise it, but they are my people - I just got through it all.... just!
We value you more than you'll ever know. ❤
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. You give me hope.
I'm the same way with the homeless and addicts. That could of easily been me due to my childhood sexual abuse and trauma. I'm so sorry that it happened to you. I just wanted to say bless you for having a beautiful soul 💓
Sending you so much 🫶🫶💜
You just gave me so much hope. Healing is tangible!
I’m glad that you are ok.God bless you . I hug you very strong right now.
Thank you to forensic nurses like her. I experienced one and she is just as compassionate, kind and most of all treats survivors with dignity that childhood experiences robbed them of. Thank you it means something and always counts.
Her passion for helping those she serves is palpable. I cried through most of your interview. Thank you for making a difference for all of those you serve especially the children.
SHAWN!
So awesome to see she is valued. Glad you took the time.
Thank you, Kristy, for all that you do, as well. ☮️
Dear Shawn,
The countless lives that you have helped!!! You are making such a differnence in this world. So thoughtful, kind and compasionate... and an immense inspiration❤ Thank you xo And thank you for taking the time to do this interview. 🌼 🌸 🌻 🌹 🏵
I’m a behavioral health Tech of 23years, that works with children and adolescents. There are times where I have had to step out of the building and cry because of some of the disgusting things that these poor kids have had to endure. I commend you for your work. You are an Angel. Thank you for treating them with the dignity and respect that they deserve. Thank you! thank you! thank you!
You are an absolute angel too!❤
Thank you for your honesty and openness to say you cry because of the pain of what others go through.
You're a good person. Thank you, too, for your service.💖
I commend you too
I often watch your videos, some are harder than others. I have to say that I really enjoyed this interview with Shawn. What a blessing to all of the people and families whose paths cross with hers. Thank you for sharing.
I love this video! Beautiful, eloquent, genuine, smart, compassionate, bold, inspiring. So glad we have nurses like her who really care. Thank you!!
This woman is really an angel, such clarity, love, directness with compassion, she’s a blessing to society ❤️
in other parts of the world nurses are called angels especially in Egypt
@@khanbibi A well deserved title and completely undervalued 👍🏻
As a female police officer I have seen and talked to a few children in these circumstances but this lady is really standing in the gap! Thank you. Your words mean a world of difference to those in need. Thank you again today and tomorrow ❤️
Thank you for every day of your life. You're never off. ❤
You really should use your talents elsewhere. Your job will taint you after awhile. Policing is inherently morally compromising. You know what I mean. A nurse I know told me today a cop from town who is married wants to visit her for a "quick one". She is insulted and told him and is now frightened by one of trust in blue.
@@harry1babs I don't think that policing is inherently morally compromising. There are plenty of cops who do their job for the right reasons, in the right way, without corruption or a break in morals. There are also plenty who are not good, who do violate their integrity, but that is because of the people that they are, not because of the job itself.
@@harry1babsthat's so terrible
@@LLmoney23 yes isn't it!
There is such a gentle calmness about her. I can see how she is soothing for victims in a way.
This was absolutely your best video you have posted in so many ways. Thank you
I am proud to count this woman a colleague and a friend. Very brave of you Sister, to tell your story and tell all of our stories, those broken and those working to put back together. Love you!
@@fishoftenmy wife is an NP and I know how hard the field of nursing is in general from years of stories. I taught emotionally disturbed children early in my education career. I have seen the damage first hand as well. Just thank you so much for what you do. You're the very best of humanity.
@@A_Dude_And_His_Watch78 I have an NP through my job and I can see her on company time which makes things so much easier for me logistically. I'm so grateful for her, so glad that position exists. She can take care of so much so that I don't have to go see my physician and I just adore her so seeing her is like having lunch with a friend. NPs are the best!
I love this woman so much! Her heart is huge and she is so genuine and strong! I was assaulted/raped/held against my will by a stranger 34 years ago and I remember the kindness from the nurse during my rape kit exam. The catheter sucks but the encouragement and support telling me I did everything right because I survived. I've never forgotten the kindness and those words spoken helped me survive emotionally and move on in life. I was 23 when it happened and my mother asked me what I was wearing after it happened. I felt insecure to explain jeans and a sweater but the fashion was rips in the jeans and I felt guilty for it. Not anymore tho. Words go a lonnnnnng way with a person.
Same. I was sexually assaulted 2 years ago, and after I was drugged at a bar. A bar I came to for years..I was strangled, beaten, and covered in bruises. The 2 women that came from our local rape crisis center, and the forensic nurse that helped through the exam gave me so much strength. Without them? I couldn't have done it
I’m so sorry you had to hear those words from your own mother. That makes me sad. Thank God for your kind nurse.
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That was inspiring.
You are not responsible for any of what happened to you. Nothing. You could walk around stark naked and still no one can say, touch, assault or rape you. You are not at fault.
I’m sorry this happened to you.
You are so awesome!! 🎉thank you for speaking on here. By far my favorite SWU interview
To my forensic nurse and MOCSA advocate. Thank you. To all the nurses and volunteers who help people through these situations. Thank you.
When she said it hit her a couple days later and Mark quickly responded “me too” I felt a lot of compassion for them both. This world has a lot of darkness and it takes a special kind to consistently dive into it daily all while self preserving. They’re both such beautiful souls.
Excellent comment 💎
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Darkness is all around, people feed on it, the oppressed suffer the most while others sit there with blood on their hands patting each others backs
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@@hipsonsogbo And that has always been.
You really never think about the people who have to undertake these jobs. So heavy. So much responsibility.
This is an amazing, authentic woman.
Caring is great
I got this video forwarded to me, I appreciate your story as I am finishing nursing school. The best part was you sharing your faith on this platform. You were meant for your role as forensic nurse, as you give the fruits of the spirit to those who need. Keep being a blessing❤
This was an incredibly painful riveting and inspirational interview. I’m an emergency nurse of several years, and I can relate to many of the things Shawn said. Although we see many bad things in emergency, I can’t imagine doing the work that Shawn does every day. She is an extraordinary person, and it shows. Shawn, if you’re reading this…… please know that how many lives you affect and how many people you help is exactly why you’re here. Thank you for everything you do. God bless you. ❤
As a nurse myself, I am so proud of Shawn. Such an outstanding human. Thank you Shawn! Your patients are lucky to have you.
I too am a SANE nurse and completely understand the emotions Shawn goes through in caring for these patients. It is a hard but sometimes rewarding job. SANE nurses are taught to give dignity, respect, and privacy back to the patient. We do this by practicing trauma-informed care and genuinely caring for the patients we treat.
Kudos to you Shawn...you are a great nurse!
Thank you for what you do.
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lmao I read a comment before yours talking about being a SANE nurse... I thought it very strange that they were putting such emphasis on their sanity, let alone that they thought it necessary to clarify at all... Now that I'm seeing it again, I realise it's an acronym.😅😂
The interview is so good as well as so many of the comments! Thank you!
I felt your compassion all throughout this interview.
You’re an Amazing person
"This isn't your fault," when I first heard those words, I decided to break away. Life hasn't been easy, and I wish we'd had people like Shawn way back when; but thank all that is good and right in the universe, some kids had a Shawn to help them out.
Yes. They are almighty words. I had an awful experience,connected with ocd, and my therapist proved to me that the thoughts i was having were not my fault…
When people say,ow you are not this,you are not that,it’s a throw away comment.. they don’t know that,they say it cause they love you.
My therapist PROVED my intrusive thoughts,were just that. It was incredible. I thanked him for going out of his comfort zone with his questions… I’ll not forget that day. All the best to you. From the UK. X
If they're lucky they had someone like her. Imagine all the kids that met the complaining er nurse she spoke about instead. She's right, what a world of difference that makes when someone needs it most.
As an RN and childhood SA survivor, I am so proud of this woman and what she does. I also agree that so many of us go into healing fields when we've been on the other end.
Same ❤❤ Nurse and SA survivor. I honestly don't think I could do what she does. Thank God for people like, Shawn.
Im glad to hear she has a big heart for her work. She truly could change the outlook about how people perceive others just by her caring perspective and kind heart. I feel so bad for what shes had to see and do through her career its heart breaking to loose your patients or see them go through the same pain over and over through visits. This world of healthcare needs more passionate caring people like her thank you for sharing your story. I want to be a nurse but the things that I’ve seen as a pca and cna make me feel so hesitant. Bless her for getting everything tested and collected to help people she truly makes a difference in peoples lives.
Without a doubt, this is the best interview I've watched, and I've watched a lot of them. May this beautiful soul find peace and strength to continue to make a difference in others lives. I work in human services and I can't even come close to relating to the work that she does. Thank you for being an exemplary human xo
Child safety officer here- how she talks to the children is perfect!!!! How she sets boundaries with the children and let them know they have control in the situation is just beautiful.
We always tell our children its not their fault, they are brave and we go over the body rules (good secrets/bad secrets)
She is EXACTLY where she needs to be in this world. Thank you, Shawn
The world truly needs more people like her. I agree with a lot of what she says. It brought me to tears. Thank you for sharing these videos.
more than any other person this lady brought me to tears. her respect, empathy, and grace towards other people is unrivaled. thank you, you’re a beautiful person.
"the final stage of healing is when you used what happened to you to heal other people" wow shawn beautiful interview
Do you have an instagram?
I wanted to tell you Rosie me and my family went through a VERY similar experience with my biological father also. I am 58 years old and I felt the pain when the interviewer asked you what you fear the most 💔 I was the same and ended my pregnancy in fear of becoming a terrible parent😞 I can say that I finally had two kids and I’m a great mother to a daughter and a son now 17 and 15 years old. My experience made me a fierce protector and a tender mother. I had my kids when I was 40 and 42 years old. I waited until I found a man who supported me becoming a stay at home wife and mother. Now I’m looking for work. I used what happened to me by helping other people or children who were neglected and I offer prayer and emotional support. I rely on Jesus and I know my life wouldn’t be where it is now without Him👆😇 I had many years of depression and anxiety along with PTSD. I eventually forgave my parents and moved on. I can honestly say I’m very happy and love my life my kids and my husband (who supported me emotionally) and my family. YOU can have this too and I know you will because I see hope in your eyes. Much love to you and I pray God blesses you life the way he has blessed mine🙌❤️
Hey rosie! Not sure if you'll ever see this but i watched your interview and your perseverance and your ability to be so open really touched me as ive also faced abuse and neglect from my parents. I also noticed the knuckle puck tee, you have amazing taste in music and fashion! Hope everything is well with you ♡
Your beautiful Rosie I’ll be praying for you 🙏🏽
So true. So beautiful
I’m an embalmer and can relate to this a lot. It’s always in the back of ur mind and u can’t un see it but it’s worth it because ur helping people in a shitty time giving dignity where it’s needed ❤ amazing interview
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Thank you for what you do.
I am in school for embalming and I thought the exact same thing!
@@PaigeMcKenzie1 awesome! What country! If you ever need any help I’m happy to give u advice. The worst part of studying embalming is the fact no one round u in ur personal life is really able to help u with it because it’s something they don’t really know about to be able to answer the things I needed help with and my person at work to ask was less then help full and the others were funeral directors so not able to help much when it came to specifics. It made the whole things daunting so if u do ever have anything u want to ask me or need help understanding I’m happy to help where i can. I managed to get my qualification but it was hard because of this.
Shawn thank you for sharing. Your strength and honesty is so important. I am a social worker who works with the homeless and like you I’ve seen & heard things I cannot unsee or unhear.
I went into social work because of my past experiences and have dedicated my life to helping others in need. I bake as my self care. I just want to say Shawn Painted rocks are not stupid it means a lot to those who find it. Thank you for all you are doing for survivors of SA. ❤
you spoke so eloquently and did so amazing in this interview. And painting rocks for people to find is not at all dumb! You are spreading a little joy in the world. I've been collecting rocks from all over the country for years now & You've inspired me to start painting them and sharing with others! ❤
Can you imagine how beautiful the world would be if everyone was as kind, caring and compassionate as this woman is!? She definitely found her calling and she is making a huge difference in so many lives. ❤️
If everyone was as amazing as her, her job wouldn't exist ❤❤
"Did anyone ever tell you it wasn't your fault?" Had me sobbing at my desk. Shawn has a beautiful compassionate soul that just radiates from her when she speaks. Truly an angel on earth
Thank you so much for sharing this as a Victim Advocate and survivor in Indiana trying to change this world. I loved seeing this outlook and will be sharing this with my department. You are so strong!
I'm 5 months late to this party but Shawn, thank you for sharing. I was inspired and wondered if I could help in some way, but I'm retired and am not hirable anymore. I don't live far from there so it would have been a good idea. I'll put you on a prayer list. Stay strong, girl.