Finding LOVE online: Our BLIND DATE Story Revealed!
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- čas přidán 21. 08. 2024
- Matthew and Paul address one of their most-asked questions: “How did you meet?” Paul explains why it was easier for him, as a blind person, to use dating apps as opposed to real world encounters (like going to bars and clubs). Matthew describes what it was like learning about Paul’s blindness and preparing for their first date. He also opens up about an important conversation he had with his dad once things started getting more serious between he and Paul.
Discover love beyond sight as we share our unique journey of finding each other on a dating app, despite the challenges of visual impairment. Dive into our story, where accessibility features and the power of connection triumph over blindness, and learn how two souls can find each other in the vast world of online dating. Don't forget to hit like, share, subscribe for more inspiring tales of love and life without limits. #BlindLove #OnlineDating #InspirationalJourney #LoveStory
“ I think I just met my husband “ my heart 🥹🤍
"when you know, you know!"
This was how my mom met my mom too ❤😊
You are two very charming fellows, I look forward to learning more about both of you.
Paul, I’m really glad you downloaded the app again, and Matthew, I’m glad you talked to your dad because you guys make an outstanding couple!
Matthew has a very sweet soul. Paul shines. He may be blind but his personality is so full of light. He lightens up everything. I adore his giggles. Happy you found each other! You are an awesome pair … 🌺
The fact that Mathew started breathing heavily just as Paul admitted that he "went to bed a little sad" because of something he did, touched my heart! How happy they found each other in this messy world!
I missed that. I went back and watched it again. They so love each other.
@@deborahcustance2754 Yes they do! I'm a clinical psychologist, so sometimes I overanalyze things... I got to thinking that body language is a big part of couple communication, and that blind people miss out on a lot of that... and I was really surprised to realize at that moment that even in those little things, most likely subconsciously, Mathew accommodated the situation to include Paul in one of the few moments where body language make a sound... they communicate on so many different levels! 🩷🩷
Oh, yes he does! I missed that. He loves him so much 😢
You also seem to be a very empathetic person, which is very valuable. I hope you are having a wonderful life.
@@rowo2774 thank you so much!!🩵🩵 You too!! ✨
You both have quickly become my favorite couple on YTube. The authenticity is ooff the charts. Im glad you found each other and I found you!❤
Oh wow! What an honor (seriously!) thank you. We will do our best to keep the authenticity coming!!
ikr, such a gorgeously perfectly beautiful couple. Beautiful people in every way. 😍
It goes to show Grindr can occasionally be useful. LOL. Just gotta weed through the shallow self centred people first. 😂
I was blown away by their deep love for one another.
Two really grounded individuals.
Subscribed to their channel immediately !
Seriously!! So so so True!! We need to see healthy couples, and these two are so amazing!
This! Exactly how I feel & exactly how I would’ve worded it myself! Loving you guys!!
I'm disabled, and as soon as Matthew said he googled Retinitis Pigmentosa *without prompting* I was like, "Woooooooow, this guy is amazing." It's so rare to meet people who are willing to do that rather than expect me to give them a private educational course on my disabilties while I'm trying to get to know them.
It’s always so interesting to me to see how unique people can be in the way they like to interact with people. My mother is physically disabled, and doesn’t like talking about her medical history at all if she can help it. I, on the other hand, have mental health issues that are extreme enough that make day to day life exceedingly difficult. Enough so that I will not be able to live independently. And for me, I have zero issues with talking openly about my difficulties. And in fact, would rather be asked about my personal experiences rather than just direct someone to google it. Because, with mental health issues specifically, things can be unique experiences from person to person. And I really dislike it when if I tell people what I have and they assume they understand the parameters of my experience with the things I have. I can and have gotten my feelings hurt and really offended. I always prefer to be asked about my specific experience than have assumptions being made.
I mean, I agree that there's a lot of nuance with various conditions and when you're getting to know someone, it's important that they understand your specific needs rather than assume that a google search is sufficient.
There's also a broad baseline of 101-level questions that are easy to find answers to and that I prefer not to have to hand-hold people through.
For example, I have cerebral palsy and am autistic. Every autistic person has their own profile of traits and needs, and the affects of cerebral palsy can vary from person to person, be affected by weather, fatigue, other external factors.
I'm not suggesting that google should be someone's primary source of knowledge.
I don't want to have to hand-hold someone through 101-level concepts like "is cerebral palsy contagious or fatal? Is cerebral palsy genetic? How come my autistic neighbor acts totally different from you?"
I want a partner to at least TRY to take some of that mental load for themself rather than expecting me to give them a course on my disabilities with no foreknowledge.@@lilithrodgers4997
I usually ask the person if they'd like to share or if they'd prefer I look it up. Tbh I'm going to look it up anyway but it gives them an opportunity to share their personal experience if they want.
I'm disabled but only mildly so. I have days that are worse than others but it's nothing like others with my illness. On a 1-10 scale, most days I'm 2. Bad days 3. I've never been worse than that and it's not expected to progress. That said, I often don't mention it off the bat bc the first thing people think of are the worst symptoms.
wth, who would go on a date w someone w a serious disability w/o googling that disability?
@@SpecialBlanket "I don't see disability," and "the only disability is a bad attitude" are responses I've gotten.
The fact that Matthew is a violinist and Paul's hearing is fine...... I can't explain it, but I feel the significance in that. Love is all we need.
"every couple is interabled in some way". THANK YOU, I really needed to hear that ❤ I am recovering from PTSD and constantly feel like a burden. So this makes me feel so much better. Matthew your dad sounds like a wonderful man and he raised you right. You all give me hope 🥺
This is such a good comment and I have never looked at it this way.
hey, my partner has severeeeee ptsd (immersive psychotic flasbacks, severe borderline, etc) and it's not a burden on me. obviously i wouldn't wish it on them but when yr a couple you share yr problems-- it's coming from the situation, not you. yr not broken you just experienced this past.
i would say it's more so a hassle when you don't realize what's going on w someone and misattribute their symptoms to you or to relationship conflict. but once you realize it's the ptsd and learn to expect the unexpected, it's ok.
Same here, it almost made me cry. I have been alone for so many years and this outlook really helps.
This hits home for me. I met my husband on a dating app, and within a week of chatting he told me that he has a brain tumor (non-cancerous) and has total right-sided blindness in both eyes (literally half vision in both eyes). I was leaving a friend's house, an hour and a half from my house, and couldn't answer him right away. He was so worried that I was ghosting him like every other woman had. Obviously I had no issue with that, we spent every weekend together and we're married 17 months later. We've now been married for 9 years. It's still a constant struggle managing his condition, but I'm by his side until the end, just like he was for me when I was extremely sick. I don't see his disability, only his beautiful heart. 🥰
I love Matthew’s dad’s advice! My husband and I both thought we were abled when we met. He found out he was disabled at 21 and me at 33. And I feel like it’s made our relationship better. And it’s handy that our disabilities are very different, so caring for each other plays to our strengths. 😂😊
That's so heartwarming and interesting!
Do you mind telling us what your disabilities are?
What your guys disabilities?
What his dad says is so true. Yet life can still turn it on its head. But it's something everyone needs to know. Relationships are not happily ever after. We grow up thinking it is and then get gutted at the first serious bump in the road.
I’m legally blind and hearing the way Paul describes the expected feeling of rejection after explaining his vision is so true but the way Matthew responded by researching your condition is amazing and it only happened to me one. Thank you for sharing your vision and how it affected your dating experience definitely helps me and gives me hope ❤
I have had similar experiences on dating apps however I'm not blind I have a physical disability that means I need to use a walker and the amount of times people reject me is insane. I have on my profile I'm disabled but people often don't read the profile so before I meet up with someone I have to check, they know I'm disabled so I don't get accused of trying to trick/hide it from them and so I don't waste both our time.
I’m surprised to hear that it’s rare for people to be curious about the condition. I’ve been extremely curious about everything since I was a child and I think it’s a nice thing I’ve been able to keep until today. When I met my ex, she told me she was intersex, and I felt so stupid that I’d heard so much about it before but didn’t really know what it meant. Of course, I looked it up extensively and ended up learning about all of the intersex variations and also how our genitals are formed, pretty interesting stuff! She was very surprised when I told her that.
Thank you Matthew's dad ... I wish all parents have the same insights and support for their children's relationship
I’m disabled in a different way and when you said familiar sadness I started to ugly cry. It’s so hard to describe but that hit hard. You guys have me hope and your love and outlook gives us joy. ❤
Hi, I just saw your comment and only wanted to say that you'll find your special someone like Matthew and Paul found each other 😊 I'm really sorry that you have to experience that "familiar sadness" , but this awful experiences, make you stronger! You're a beautiful and strong person and you'll find your special someone that will love and accept all the parts of you 😊❤ have a beautiful day/night
I don’t know what your disability is, but if you have celiac disease, like your profile name indicates, I feel you! I am gluten intolerant, as well as many other things which severely limits my ability to eat spontaneously and eat out. it definitely impacts my friendships and I’ve basically decided that I’m only dating other people who also have some sort of food issues which does limit who I date. Fortunately, I am asexual, but I can’t imagine how difficult it would be to date with food allergies since it greatly affects my social life.
I love the dad's advice. Any partner could become disabled tomorrow, we never know what's going to happen, but do you love THIS person. Love it.
I met my partner through the internet, and he told me he was blind within the first ten minutes of meeting me. I'm wary of most strangers, but I trusted him immediately and we became fast friends. Still together five years later, and I wouldn't give it up for the world.
You two are a beautiful couple. Thank you for sharing your story!
F for him for getting friend zoned
@@CatGamer747-8 What do you mean friend zoned? They're together 😂
My partner is also my best friend, I think that's kinda how it should be?!
Matthew is a violinist? I am in love ! 😍 😀
I love that Matthew's dad said that! For nearly everyone, being able-bodied is a temporary state - if we're lucky enough to grow old, we all experience vision or hearing loss or generally have our bodies and brains change over time. That's just a part of loving anybody. So nice that you have such wonderful support behind your relationship!
I really liked hearing about the talk with your father. So great that you can talk with your dad like that.
Me and my dad are fortunate to have a great relationship!
@@MatthewandPaulOfficial❤😊
The chemistry. The love. The care. It’s magical and beautiful.
So beautiful story!! My mom is partially blind due to diabetes and my dad also has his physical difficulties but they care each other. They're still married after 30 years together so everything is possible. Wishing all the best!
That is so beautiful! We all have our strengths and weaknesses. It sounds like they are a great example of a loving marriage!
@@MatthewandPaulOfficial u 2 are a great example of a loving marriage
I’m disabled due to multiple chronic illnesses that cause constant chronic pain, and I’m also a lesbian so I really relate to this. My girlfriend and I just broke up a few days ago but we were in an interabled relationship as well. I feel like it’s almost impossible to meet women as a lesbian in my state, but especially as a disabled lesbian, without using dating apps so I fully understand where Paul is coming from. But it’s still incredibly hard dating on dating apps or not as someone who’s disabled. Most people would just rather not deal with it. It sucks. I’m so glad you found each other and everything worked out for both of you. I’ve seen your other videos and it’s so clear that you love each other very much 💕
Hihi, sorry this feels very rude to say (I hope this isn't rude to say), but I hope you're okay. Breakups are tough, so take care of yourself, okay?~
@@ehe.2961 that isn’t rude to say at all- it’s very sweet. Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. I’m doing my best 💖
Aw that really sucks 😕 struggling with chronic pain and the breakup grief is something I can relate to, I don’t pretend to know exactly what it’s like for you but know that you’re not alone. I hope you find your person (if that’s what you want) when you’re ready. Sending you the warmest most gentle hugs 🤗♥️
You GOT THIS, I was in a 2 year interabled relationships as well, just broke up December, it’s rough, you start to doubt yourself and blame yourself, especially when you can’t get a date, but it gets so much better. Being queer and disabled is rough, especially in more conservative areas, but it just shows how strong you are, and how freeing and loving you will be in your possible next relationship, take this time to learn about loving yourself and those around you❤❤
@@sapphicalix Yay. Thats amazing. Keep it up hun!!!
“We just never stopped hanging out.” That’s the best start to a relationship!! My bf and I just viewed each other as a quick lay for a single night, but in less than two weeks we were cooking together, going to the gym together, and spending every night together. We’ve been together over a year now and still spend every minute possible together. When someone just immediately becomes your best friend, that’s when you know!
That's brilliant advice from Matthew's dad! I'll share that with my son once that day arrives so that he doesn't make the same mistake as his father did. When we met we were both fully able bodied, well I was at least able to function normally. My pregnancy triggerd a chronic illness that started a domino effect and I'm now in a wheelchair. My husband refused to accept it and did not take any responisibility for anything, nor help me at all. We're now divorced and I'm a single mother with multiple chronic illnesses and conditions, careing for an AuDHD child. My son will have a better understanding of what it meas to have disabilites of various types and the effort it takes to care for someone with disabilites. Being prepared for anything and knowing it's going to be ok, is great mindset to have. After all, we mary for sickness and in health, not just the healthy part.
Yes, obviously knowing "oh I'm loosing my vision and one day I'll be totally blind" is something good to know before a relationship especially in this case where it was 80-85 so he had already adapted to a certain way of living w/o full vision and it would be different that someone fully abled or mostly able
But at some point something else can happen and health issues, age, ect occur and someone who was fine may now need help
I'm technically disabled, not visual and it's health issues that fall under that category and I'm very much able to do for myself at least to what I consider normal (very different to others I'm sure) and no one can help me deal but I could end up on a feeding tube in the future if it gets worse and that's something I have to live with knowing and I'm not even 20 yet-
Ik someone who got in an accident that lost a couple limbs and so now they have to go about their marriage differently and it was an accident
At some point you or your partner will need a new level of care and if they don't or neither do then that's great but majority do-
I have a variant for a type of eye loss that could mean I end up blind and not something glasses help- if it ever happens or becomes active that's something someone I'm in a relationship would have to live with as well but it would happen during the relationship
God Idk what I'd do if I was blind- seeing is more than just how I get around but how I connect myself to my passions and the world, photography more specifically and art
I'm so glad I have writing and music because those are hearing based and there are ways to write without seeing
You guys suddenly started popping up on my CZcams feed. This video rang so true for me as a woman with a congenital disability. Rejection (particularly romantic rejection) is very real. The night I met my now husband I remember thinking "I'm going to marry him". 36 years (34 of them married) and 2 adult kids later we are still together. At times it's been really hard but I think one advantage we have as inter abled couples really IS as you say, the fact that there are awkward questions and difficulties right from the get-go.
I’ve just stumbled upon your channel recently. Your dad is a man of wisdom. His words are so true: that people go into a relationship hoping to stay together forever, and things change over the course of your lives, but you will still have to face the unknowns and take care of each other if you really love him. It brought tears to me because my partner just passed away in August. He was diagnosed with HIV+ six years after we got together. But he was a fighter and he lived 33 more years. We have gone through many ups and downs (with his health), but looking back those were wonderful 40 years. May yours last to your old age.
I felt so sad for Paul that M ”ghosted” him for a few hours (he must have felt horrible) but then it turns out that he himself tried to delete the whole app!?😅 So all of it wasn’t just a bed of roses…I’m glad you eventually got the connection back!🧡😊
HAHAHA I know, right?? Can you believe he deleted the app after our first conversation?? Seriously, though, his roommate was struggling with addiction and he had to help her through rehab... he had no time for dating until a couple months later when he downloaded the app again.
Hi! I'm just an European girl who found you two on Instagram. I fell in love with you two - like... a gay couple?! a married gay couple?! And one of them have a disability? And the most understanding husband ever?! Ugh, couple goals.
I will keep watching your videos to remember these couple exist. I have also a disability (cerebral palsy during the birth) so this kind of videos are what I am looking for. ❤
Aw thank you for this!!
the chemistry between you two is so obvious that it’s hard to imagine you two not together!
It is so meaningful, seeing you share your story. After my disability got bad, I felt guilty for the added effort my husband has to go through to support me. When I spoke to him about this, he just said that this was nothing he hadn't expected could happen when he'd started our relationship. He never wanted me to feel guilty for needing help. I hope others see this and understand their disability doesn't ever make them unworthy, nor does it mean there aren't people out there who will love you in all your complexity.
Im Deaf and I to face the same problem Paul went through. It is quite daunting, and disappointing dealing with their ignorance. It just makes you want to throw in the towel and just give up all together.
Never give up! We all have to kiss a lot of frogs before we meet our prince or princess!
@@MatthewandPaulOfficial or….prinx? (Searching for a non binary term as my partner is non binary 😉)
@@suzanneh-b8884royalty? 😊
@suzanneh-b8884 if they have one they prefer like some non binary people lean more fem or masc sometimes or pronouns use any- we do need one tho because I be out here just calling people royalty
I been talking to deaf guy since july i like him hoply want meet him in person.
Who knew grindr could be so wholesome?! Love this
My godfather wrote that in his journal the night he met my godmother. His three elder brothers had all asked her to marry them and she turned them down! They said ‘oh we really think you’ll like our youngest brother when he’s home’, she came round one evening and saw him for the first time sitting on the kitchen table. He wrote in his diary that night ‘I’ve met the woman I’m going to marry’ and they were married for 50 years!
Thanks for sharing the advice from your father Matthew! I just went through that in a 20 year relationship and he left me after I suffered brain damage after receiving CPR for 15 to 20 minutes to save my life. He basically said he wasn’t willing to deal with my memory loss and that I was faking it. After 20 years he walked away and I could only stand there and watch him leave because of something I had no control over.
I love how eloquently Matthew’s Dad put it. ❤
I HOPE YOU BOTH GET A CHANCE TO READ THIS. You've completely restored my faith in love. The kindness & consideration you show each other is so amazing it's hard to put into words. You both pause & let the other talk, or stop and say, "Idk. What do you think? How were you feeling then? How did that affect you?" And you both listen, REALLY listen to each other. And the almost mesmerizing love in your eyes when you look at each other is both beautiful and inspiring! And yes Paul, your eyes too. You may see Mathew in a different way than others do, but you truly see him! And visa versa. AND.. I learned of your videos my 8 yr old grandson watches them. He loves you both as well. Thanks for showing him (and so many others) THE RIGHT WAY TO LOVE!. ❤️
My grandson is OVER THE MOON ECSTATIC that such celebrities put a heart on a comment that mentioned him. He said he's "kind of a little bit famous now." Thanks so much! You made his day! ❤️
My partners parents said that to her about my disability. Really inclusive advice.
Yes! It's actually very wise advice!
I just love the two of you instantly just by watching your videos. You both are naturals at being in front of the camera and you radiate so much positive energy, I can't get enough of it!
your guys stories is so beautiful and I'm so jealous :( I wish I had a relationship like this. But I also think its very important what you had mentioned: That it almost, so nearly, didn't even happen. He deleted the app, not knowing there was something so special and amazing waiting there. I would do, and have done, the same, thinking all those convos with ppl arent going anywhere and definitely never will :( especially with the whole different country thing. That's crazy how you two made it work. Idk how you did, honestly. Being in different countries talking online would pretty much break the deal for me.
Sometimes we deprive ourselves of living a story due to prejudice, fear or seeking a false sense of security, and life is unpredictable. But you have to be mature enough to know the implications and the impact that a medical condition has on the person who suffers from it and on their immediate environment and live with it and the obstacles it implies without it becoming the axis of your relationship. It can be hard, but real life is. ❤
Good luck with the channel guys. and I hope you understand what I mean, my English is not very fluent yet. Hugs.
Beautifully stated😊
Edit: Also your English is perfect👍
@@sjb4280 Thx, are very nice
Not only was this sweet to hear but as a person with disabilities it gives me hope. So thank you so much for that ❤
Your dad's advice is so wonderful. As someone who works in healthcare I can say for sure that life can happen and unexpectedly too. Going into it with understanding and acceptance makes it easier
Matthew is definitely lucky to have a supportive father and that Matthew is a great supportive husband!❤
Your relationship seems so healthy, loving and stable. I'm glad that I found your love story, thanks for the second-hand joy. ❤️
Matthew's dad's advice literally made me cry. It's so grounded and compassionate and insightful and we just need so much more of that in the world. So happy for you both!
My husband and I have been together for 37 years, we met when were both 20, and we married in 2013 when Australia legalized gay marriage. Similar to Paul, I am 85& blind, and also am Legally Blind. i have worked every day of my life from when i was 18, i am still working although i can only do office work. I actually met my husband at work we both worked for the Australian Federal Public Service.
Been married 53 years, both of us have had cancer. Still in love 💜 and take care of each other.
Matthew tearing up when Paul talks about feeling sad… be still my heart! Matthew’s dad’s advice is spot on. My husband and I have been together for 37 years; he attributes our longevity to “a little male bonding and a lot of crazy glue.”
Love that!
Wow! I just watched this but I have to comment about how eloquent Matthew’s dad was when he gave his advice. Such wisdom! It’s no wonder that Mathew is also well spoken!
Matthew's dad's advice is very true!
Both of my bio-grandfathers either were in a wheelchair or will end up in one, and both of my bio-grandmothers need hearing aids (though one more than the other). My dad was partially deaf as a kid - he got tubes put in his ears and now has average hearing (he's still spicy that his parents didn't notice his deaf accent until his 1st grade teacher pointed it out).
My mom's side of the family has a genetic anxiety disorder, which I inherited.
At this point I'm convinced that everyone's family has at least one disabled person.
Hi! What a great dad advice, he's a sage. Thanks for sharing his wisdom. You guys are goals.
This was such a sweet story!! Although I’m not looking to have a life partner ever, I do love to hear stories about how people met.
I think your story is tied with my parents’ for sweetness (they met through an ad in a magazine and wrote letters to each other)
That is so sweet! Meeting in a newspaper ad is kind of like the modern day version of meeting online!
Essentially the ye olde timey version of online dating, yet seems so romantic and analogue. It's just lovely. 💕
@@Aqui.. it is quite sweet, isn’t it? Pen pals from across the world
I'm also glad you find each other really. I have also met my partner on a dating app. He has a vision problem, his vision is better than this from Paul. I'm afraid that my partner is autistic and I really think heavy autistic. This heavy autism is a real change, not his vision problem for me. I have a non verbal learning disorder and adhd. My vision has never been on top (problems with dept sight, visual view, night blind, nearsighted, farsighted and astigmatism). There is a suspicion of glaucoma. I told this to my boyfriend that it makes me sad and that I'm scared to become blind, if you don't threat glaucoma you can become blind. He said to me that even when my sight will become worser he will still try to support me but to be honest I don't see much of this. He has a vision problem he supposed to understand my fears that I have probably glaucoma, that I'm scared because my vision has deteriorate and isn't what it supposed to be. Last time I cried about that also because I need more and more light to be able to do some tasks but on the other hand I'm more and more sensitive to light, I also have diffculties with contrasts. He didn't understood why I cried and this made me really sad, this is due to his autism. I'm glad that you have found each other that you understand each other, that your relationship is equal and that you respect each other. I always thougt my boyfriend can't understand my nld and adhd but he can at least understand that I have a slight vision problem because he has a heavy vision problem but non of this. Until I discovered why.
You both deserve each other. You have good hearts, funny and most importantly you care. You complete each other . I admire you Mathew for being honest to your feeling and fully embraced Paul's blindness. Wish you all the best in life . Stay safe, stay healthy and stay in love.
I just learned something very important from your dad. Thank you. Great advice for everyone.
Glad you enjoyed it
I remember saying nearly the exact same advice your sage father gave to the first person I thought I was gonna marry and spend the rest of my life with when I was 21 years old (2016). I feel it is still as true now as it was then and I am so grateful that I now finally have a man in my life that understands that reality.
"Yet another person who can't handle my disability“. My husband of 18 years left me and I have some serious issues and it is what has stopped me from dating but I never really realized that until I heard you say that. It's almost like I don't want to be a burden . But also it weeds out the people who are not worthy of you.
I met my husband in 1996. I had rheumatoid Arthritis and as such, I need assistance with mobility. At first , I stupidly tried to hide it it and Kevin played along, waiting for me to come clean. When we first met, I too heard a voice saying, that's the love of your life. Consequently, I was terrified to tell him, fearing rejection. But of course, he's been an absolute angel these past 27! years, even though I use a wheelchair now. We adopted 3 boys from the foster care system and even have a grandson. My family is my greatest joy; I marvel every day at how blessed I have been and still remain. All this to say, I can really relate to your story, especially Paul's. Thank you for sharing ❤
Awww I love you guys so much. I actually met my now husband on Grindr as well. We been married six years now we’ve been together 10, love was truly around the corner 😉
Amazing!! Congrats!
Mein lieber Paul, Du kannst Dich wirklich sehr glücklich schätzen in Matthew die Liebe des Lebens gefunden zu haben. Ich kenne Euch zwar nicht persönlich, aber ich kann mir sehr gut ein positives Bild von Euch Beiden machen und bin wirklich sehr begeistert ein so wunderbares Paar hier auf CZcams gefunden zu haben. Du strahlst trotz Deiner Sehschwäche eine so wunderbare und harmonische Atmosphäre aus und da kann ich nur zu gut verstehen das Matthew sein Augenmerk und seine Aufmerksamkeit voll und ganz auf Dich gerichtet und konzentriert hat mein lieber Paul.🥰😊
Es gehört in meinen Augen wirklich sehr viel Verständnis und Wertschätzung dazu wie Matthew und Du mein lieber Paul dem Partner und Ehemann auf eine so wunderbare Art und Weise nicht nur zu lieben, sondern auch sein volles Vertrauen in den Anderen zu stecken. Ich finde Eure Berichte wirklich bemerkenswert und bezaubernd und wünsche Euch für Eure gemeinsame Zukunft weiterhin viel Glück, Liebe und Vertrauen. Lasst nicht nur mich sondern natürlich auch Andere weiterhin teilhaben an Euer Leben. Ganz liebe Grüße und noch einen schönen entspannten Montagabend wünscht Euch Beiden aus Braunschweig Torsten Rose. ❤
“ I think I just met my husband” that filled my heart with joy 🥹💙🤍
"Interabled" is such a nice word to describe this important part in every relationship
"Every relationship is interabled in some form. Whether its interabled emotionally, or physically or intellectually. You have to adapt for each other's varying needs." 😭💛 My heart. This is such a profound and wise statement! Thank you!!!
I fully agree with Matt's Dad. Marriage isn't an agreement that everything will be easy all the time. We never know what might happen to any of us. If you agree to love someone forever, you have to take life as it comes and make (sometimes extraordinary) adjustments. ❤
I'm going blind, and I have epilepsy. My husband is always doing research to help me. You two are so great I love you both❤
You two are just an inspiration for what a wonderful relationship should be like. ❤
I’m in a constant state of awe whenever I see you together. I ♥️♥️♥️ this meeting of two generous, kind, loving souls. I really love that Matthew, even as a grown man, respects his Dad so much, to ask for advice & to be given such words of wisdom. I feel like I’m simply another echo in the cacophony of comments, in that we ALL adore you both. You make everything better for & with each other. Oh & let’s not forget the final member of the family, Mr Maple. Blessings on & to y’all ♥️♥️♥️ from Adelaide, Australia
I discovered the two of you a few days ago, and I'm absolutely smitten with both of you! You've become one of my favourite CZcams couples, along with Safiya Nygard and Tyler Williams, and Evan and Katelyn. You're just adorable, and your pupper's a cutie pie.
It's awesome when you have someone so supportive and understanding of a disability. I've had epilepsy since I was 16. My husband literally goes into my appointments with me even though he doesn't have to. It was funny during my EEG when it got to the part where they tell you to close your eyes and take a 15 minute nap so they can see if there's anything going on in your sleep like a nocturnal seizure it turned out he fell asleep too. Then again we were both tired cause of the fact that it was a sleep deprived EEG. He also gave me one of his hats to cover up the paste from the wire nodes.
I love your story! When I met my husband, he told me he had epilepsy and had just beat cancer. I knew our life would be different with his health but I wouldn't want anyone else. I was later diagnosed with a severe anxiety disorder and agoraphobia. He has always been there for me! No matter what, when its meant to be it works! ❤
So love and appreciate all that you are bringing to the world! Everything you say regarding relationships, and the fact that one person may have some difficulty, no matter the circumstance, and that life is unpredictable in that way. Beautifully said, and absolutely love Matthew‘s dad. Wish there were more people in the world like him, and like both of you! Love you guys and all that you are doing to give a voice to enterable couples! I am totally blind and my husband is fully sided… We are both laughing and crying watching your videos as they are so relatable to us. Thank you again!
I just love you guys! I was diagnosed five years ago with Anti Synthetase Syndrome and he has been my rock. I'm so glad you two found each other.
Oh, when you said you went to bed a little sad, as you think most people with disabilities do…my momma bear came out and I said out loud “No one should feel that way!” I have a child with disabilities and I’m keeping her “at home” as long as I can cuz the boys are gonna come knocking regardless of her disabilities. I’m happy you found each other, and I totally understand what you said. It breaks my heart that ye hurt more than others, potentially. Ye are so lovely, kind, generous and caring…there should be no hurt. Yet, I know this is how life works. Sorry, my words are confusing. I just wish we could all just love and not discriminate or hate. Thanks for sharing with us ❤
I have RP. Was diagnosed in my early 30’s. Now mid 50’s & find people still don’t understand that this is happening to me, not them. You are so lucky to have found someone supportive- I wish you both every happiness 👌😎🙏🌈
Just discovered your channel, initially through Mr. Maple videos b/c I love learning about all the amazing things dogs can do! However, just watched this video and just love your story so much and think that wisdom about how any and all relationships can be considered inter-abled at any given time of life is so important! Thanks for being amazing! ❤
You guys were made for each other. Wish you both nothing but happiness in your future. ♥️
Love your story, thank you so much for sharing your life/relationship experiences with us. Content like this goes a long way towards helping to offset all the negatives we see online, so thank you for sharing such a wonderful example of a obviously loving non-traditional (in more than one sense) relationship 🙂🥰
I found your channel through shorts, and right away loved the chemistry you two have. Thank you so much for sharing your love story, it makes me believe in the good in the world. ❤❤❤
An absolutely adorable couple. You two have found what most of us are searching for. I wish you a long and happy marriage.
After hearing this story I truly belive you guys were meant for each other. ❤ I also love your dad's answer.
That’s a really sweet story. As a bisexual blind man, I don’t think I’ll ever half that, but a boy can dream. I hope that the two of you have a long and happy marriage. I’m gonna hit the subscribe button now.
I love the advice in the end. I am a disabled person struggling to find a realationship, becouse I don´t feel ready... You changed my point of view!
I’ve just recently discovered you guy’s channel & hearing Matthew’s dad’s advice really pulled at the heart strings.
I’ve got some medical issues which my fiancé of 10 years has always known about and takes amazing care of me. I’ve always felt incredibly guilty about it, but your dads advice hit me like a wrecking ball, because it’s so true.
We all have/ will need care at some point & I’ve taken take of his temporary issues and will forever.
It’s what our “in sickness & in health” vow is all about. ❤
You guys are awesome & I absolutely adore your love story.
Matthew and Paul, you two are so adorable and amazing. I’m so glad you two found each other and are happy. By the way great job Matthew with packing that bag on the first date! That was clever. Also Paul, when you wrote, “I think I just met my husband” in your journal, that was so cute my heart melted. Great advice from your father, Matthew. He sounds very wise. You two are the best, I am so glad I found you, thank you so much for sharing your story. You’ve gained a new subscriber as of today!
Oh Matthew, you really are just a sweet, and an empathetic person. Your love story, boys, are honestly what this world needs to hear more of. ❤
You dad gave you great advice. My mom was in an accident when she was pregnant with me, was dead and brought back, and was in a coma for a while. She had to learn to do pretty much everything all over again, and had to deal with a brand new baby me along with my two and a half year old brother. My dad stayed married to her until she passed away. Things could get really tough because of her brain injury, but they stuck together and made it work. I love and appreciate the relationship you two have, people don't stop to think that horrible things happen in life and don't factor that into their decision of getting married. Too many people get married for convenience and not for love. You guys are the perfect example of what a marriage should be. ❤
A common thing I find myself thinking is that everyone ends up disabled if they're around long enough, some people just start sooner. Some people really do take their health for granted but that is why accessibility is so so important, everyone benefits
You both give me hope! I am legally blind, I came out last year at 33 years old because I decided it was time as I have had enough of being single. I never came out as my experience being in the community hast been the most accepting and I do get pretty hurtful comments for looking so pale or I get accused of lying about my age because of my white hair, I have oculus cutaneous albinism so there isn’t much I can do about it. I have tried dating apps for years but no success, I don’t know where my place is in the community but I hope I find something like this.
I've just discovered you two, and in the midst of binge watching. I think we are all happy you two found each other!
You two are absolutely lovely - thank you for sharing. This is some of the most beautiful, wholesome content on the internet. ❤
"Every relationship is interabled in some way" so much truth here.
Aww...so sweet. So glad you found each other! And your dad, Mathew, is pretty amazing. He should write an advice column! He's really on point about long term relationships.
I love this! I have a super rare disease that is managed beautifully with medication. Sometimes I think, “It’s too much to put on a potential partner.” But we all have our thing-and at least I know mine! Such great wisdom from Matthew’s dad. Tell him thanks from me. ❤
Saying every relationship is "Inter-abled" in some way or another. Thank you, that's a good term
Your dad is a very wise man! Your story is so sweet and I love how giddy you both get talking about it. The butterflies are still there!
The cutest ❤ that dad advice made me wanna cry, so good
Really loved hearing this longer version ❤
We're Canadian, now in Washington. No wonder we love you! You're so sincere and authentic. Almost impossible to find on the internet. Thank you
Wow, thank you!
DAMN
The story of Matthew's Dad's advice... I started crying in the middle omg no build up just instant tears... that's so true. I'm severely hearing impaired so I know a future partnership will need to factor that in. You guys rock
I must say you two are an incredible inspiration! I am so grateful that you share your story and situation. I work in healthcare and education in Sweden and will recommend my students to watch your videos as part of understanding how different people with different functional variations live their lives and create relationships according to their abilities. Hope it's okay for me to do that and I hope you guys keep posting videos like you have been doing. Best of luck!
Woah that's like... a cool idea 😮🤯
I have always admired your authenticity and demeanor. Thanks for all the fun, genuine content. Much love to you!
You guys are so cute together. Love your story. I’m recording artist with 4 albums released and a CZcams channel. 60 years old and finally getting over the loss of my lover Raul to throat cancer. I have mourned long enough since he passed in 2019. I’ve wondered how to meet someone new and have not used a dating app. Maybe there is hope for me to find love again. Your story is inspiring.
OMG Matthew, your dad gave some of the best advice imaginable. As someone with a disability myself - someone who needs to be taken care of, or otherwise I might well forget to, like, eat anything at all - I've had my own worries about, well, getting into relationships (and life in general). But the thought of "at some point someone's going to have something happen and they'll need extra help in their life, at least with this person you know what care they're going to need in advance" had never occured to me. And yet it's perfect, because, yeah, a relationship is tested a lot when someone needs a lot more from their partner than their partner needs from them, but if that's already the expectation going into the relationship, if that's the base state of the relationship, it's not a big deal. Either it works out or you quickly realize it won't work out, and there'll be no heartbreak when your partner leaves 6 years into the relationship bc you got hurt and need help with a lot of things most people can do on their own, while they can't handle the feeling of suddenly being forced to be a caretaker for their partner.
It being established up front is actually a good thing... though later in life there's still likely to be something else that comes up, where someone gets really ill, or has an injury at work or the gym, and the relationship is going to have to shift somewhat anyways.