Why Does Autism Cause YOU Fear?
Vložit
- čas přidán 30. 06. 2022
- Why does autism cause fear in your life, everything you need to know now.
For years I’ve had unconditional fear, Not knowing why I had for you but where it came from I knew that I was always scared.
After being diagnosed autistic I thought well maybe it’s autism and fear that is related to each other because it may be that I don’t understand certain things about the world and that I’m just scared because I’ve not taken the time to understand something.
It turns out this is not the case autistic people especially with the type of autism I have are always in fight or Flight mode which means they’re constantly on high alert at all times because their response system for danger is communicating differently to that of Neurotypical people.
When I realise this it was quite explosive because now I had an answer to the fear and I could probably do something around this to help me alleviate some of that high alert tension that causes many meltdowns and much of the fear in my life.
I’d love to know if you experience this? Please leave me a comment down below and also follow @theaspieworld for more autism content.
HASH TAGS:
#EpisodeArchive #AnxietyBreakthroughs #Autism
LINKS:
Autism Live - Autism Unusual Fears: • Autism Unusual Fears
Newcastle University - New NHS treatment helps children with autism overcome fears: • New NHS treatment help...
Why Autistic Kids and Adults Develop Intense Fears - neuroclastic.com/why-autistic...
Children with autism have muted fear response | Spectrum - www.spectrumnews.org/news/chi...
In job situations, I have not been given permission to step away for a few minutes for the very reason you explain. I asked a boss why it is okay for other employees to go have a cigarette break whenever they feel like it, but I can't take a break to calm down.
I use to carry the same pack of cigarettes all the time. Never smoked them but I realized smokers get breaks and nonsmokers do not. You don’t have to smoke in the crowd. Just show them you have cigarettes. Take the time to calm down. Then I didn’t know I was autistic. I just thought I was experiencing anxiety alone.
bathroom break - if they ask just tell them you have a bladder issue lol, sit on the toilet for a bit
@@sachab6098 Yes, that has been my strategy.
@@sachab6098 absolutely genius
Yes, I have had to resort to taking a 5-7 minute bathroom break whenever I seen the boss go out for a smoke break (the best time to get away with it!😉). But sadly, in today's workplaces, businesses have taken a huge hit as a result of the pandemic, which means that places will be understaffed, and you are forced to do the job of two people. I am trying to make a mark as an artist right now and I believe that God is the only one who will get me there. Because even great art doesn't always become popular right away.
People always assume that I am angry when I am genuinely just truing to get through my day.
Yes this happens to me all the time it is so frustrating when people constantly always think you are mad
@@Brianna-je8ve Do you ever feel like you are hung in the air? Like you are trying to get through your day but no matter what you do you are always behind? I feel like that a lot.
@@Brianna-je8ve People always tell me that I sound rude.
I come from a aspie family. I found out my father,oldest brother and my daughter is aspie and sensory processing disorder. I have all the symptoms but can't afford the diagnosis. I really have trouble making and keeping friends,I'm pushing myself outside my comfort zone by trying to interact w social media. I don't have much support for that sort of thing in my area. I noticed people don't talk back . Thank u for sharing this great video. It's definitely me and very helpful 👍
😊😊
I would be interested in your updated diagnosis in a video.
It’s also interesting how you pointed out that we can appear angry when in fact we are not. I can distinctly remember on 3 separate occasions being told by doctors that I had anger management issues and I was so upset as I wasn’t even angry, I was struggling to get my point across and feel heard. I have never really understood these interactions, but now learning that I am autistic (aged 41) and watching your videos I’m gaining a lot more insight, so thank you for being open and honest about your own life with great tips that can help so many.
I agree🧡🧡
100% gonna do a video on it
@@TheAspieWorld I have some questions for u and I’m not really sure how to dm or send messages on here but I’d like some personal info about autism as I have serious autism many thanks.
I learnt to meditate it’s taught me to step out of my situation without even moving. It’s been priceless
When I was in school I had this ability to shut down completely. I could shut out every feeling and anything going on around me. The problem is not much could be expected out of me when I was doing this so as an adult I don’t do it at all anymore. Having to be more aware as an adult has given me intense anxiety
Ashley you have just described me exactly. I wish I still had the ability to do this but I have to remain responsible and in the moment. I'm glad I'm not alone in this, I thought it was just me that was weird as people called me. Love and hugs
You discovered meditation.
It is one of the greatest tools for reducing anxiety.
I thought I had meditation down for many years, turns out I didn't, and it was only due to psychedelic substances that I came to discover my own true personal meditative state, which differs from person to person.
Our brains are moving so fast, having the ability to think nothing at all is something we should strive for, but understandably not everyone will achieve it.
Oh, don't go down the rabbit hole of trying to time how long you can do it for, that really screwed with me for a while.
Yet another piece of the puzzle. I didn't realize this thing was a thing and that it was part of the autism. I too can get really upset just because I drop something or fail some simple task, like opening a can. I think emotionally it is closely related to how I deal with disruptions on how the day is planned, specifically when I loose all control over it. Like today, when my flight home got cancelled. Suddenly my life was in their control, there were no other options. The fear of not coming home was just so overwhelming. (I did get home, 8 hours late, splitting head ache and worn down)
This fits my experiences with my adult son's fears and frustrations. He comes home from work and rests for a couple hours then comes to my home for supper and more often to vent or decompress as is necessary. He often asks if I think he has handled things as a non aspire would and so I know he's concerned. Life is hard and I admire anyone who is trying, so darned hard. I wish the whole world would try as hard as and it would profit us all.
My son comes home from work or the college class, and he falls asleep.
@@nancybarroso1450 is he hypomobile
Im 31 and Ive had over 50 jobs, recently diagnosed as Asperger's autisic, Epilepsy and Coeliacism all in the aame month.
Yes, that was a magnificent revelation that didn't stress me out at all... 😬
I simply cannot go through the cycle of a new job and losing the job, the last time was the final straw.
Thankfully I live in a country that will support me.
I get frustrated shopping for necessary things. Stores keep moving things around. I like sticking to a planned list but it’s hard to do when you can’t find stuff. Employees don’t know either because there’s no communication between those moving stuff and other employees. Right now it’s even more important because I don’t like staying in public long because of the continued Covid thing and having cancer plus cancer treatments with asthma and allergies. In the summer I normally have a garden and just shop local convenience stores for dairy, eggs and bread. Someone sprayed my garden and killed it. So now I’m going to have to go to the grocery.
I feel it, I have several other health issues that get impacted by my ASD and anxiety when I'm out of the house. A good example is that I need my service dog (who's still in training) to go to the store with me to help regulate my anxiety and breathing. If either gets too out of control a frequent problem I have is temporarily losing vision or getting blurry vision in one or both eyes. It takes less anxiety than asthma to cause this but either can and it becomes impossible to finish shopping trips at my local grocery stores. As of the past few months I always leave with my SD or with family. The ONLY place I go to on my own without anyone else is work (part time cashier) because it is both dangerous for myself and coworkers if my SD were to get in the way when something breaks and also because I frequently bring her in when I'm not working so she can check out where I spend time and my coworkers. She has a problem with it when I come home and she can smell a new coworker if she hasn't "okayed" them yet. You can literally she when she accepts a coworker and gives them this look of "she's in your care when I'm not around". I sometimes have issues at work that make me wish I could bring her there too but it's honestly just not safe enough.
I find doing order pickup for most my groceries is helpful. And for clothes I will find a brand and style/etc that I like that fits and buy online from those stores after that the majority of the time. Online shopping is supper helpful for most of my shopping needs. I unfortunately can't go to places like a mall at all without my SD unlike my local grocery store where I can occasionally get away with buying 1-3 items without her....although I always get extra stressed and fatigued when I do that so that's for emergencies only.
I still don't understand the difference between Fear, Anxiety, or Worry.
They all are a triangle of products
Thank you for this I’m currently waiting for my assessment and really struggling to explain to people how I can be scared of absolutely everything to the point I just want to get into a cupboard and shut the door till someone tells me how to deal with it !
Just every day stuff makes me so scared I shake or look like I’m getting really angry but I’m not …this has just made me feel a whole lot less weird knowing other people experience this too
I'll say what I wished was said to me sooner, you can take them however you like.
Just know, offense isn't my goal.
You said "until someone tells me how to deal with it."
Whenever you feel you like you need/want someone to rely on for help, just realise the person closest to you, is you.
You are your first help, if you train yourself to help yourself, you'll be better at helping yourself.
You got this.
@@WhoThisMonkey thank you my assessment did diagnose me as being autistic which has been so helpful , now I know the root cause I can better help myself in the right way if that makes sense rather then beating myself up all the time for being rubbish at life
i'm also on the spectrum, but what helps me is, when i bring my fears and my anger to jesus. He really helps me in those situations, because i know the very well.
I am giving this link to my shrink, thank you so much.
Nice rhyme! 👍😊
I shared it w mine too
🔥❤️❤️❤️
Woah. This adds a whole new level of context for stuff that has happened in my life over the past few days. Thank you so much for talking about this.
Thank you so much for discussing this 'fear factor', it made so many things click for me
Thank you for explaining this. It really helps me.
I always felt guilty because of my anger issues. I am not an aggressiv person, it's just that life can be so difficult for me. And this causes a lot of fear. Fear is such a horrible feeling. Sometimes I ask myself how am I supposed to live on this planet if life is so difficult for me.
Great video. Thank you.
Thank you for posting this video. I also struggle in these ways. It’s great to have another person with autism who is able to relate and explain what works for them and why it happens.
Thank you 🙏🙂
Mary Rutter (Education Assistant, Canada)
This is one of the best episodes you've made. This discussion very substantial information. People dance around the reality and impacts of meltdowns on autistic people as well as people with ADHD. Thanks for talking about it.
I have listened to this video 4 times as it is so relevant to me. Thanx for sharing 🧡🧡
Thank you for these types of videos. MY son is 6yrs old and this description is 💯 him. Very insightful points you made.
Live in an apt. Getting a new downstairs neighbor. Previous one was so quiet. So fearful of a loud tv. Had tenants in the past whose tv volume was off the chart. So beyond sensitive to tv noise. I pray this new tenant will be as quiet as the previous one. So sensitive to this pounding noise. Been having total meltdown just knowing someone else is moving in. Would be grateful for any help.
Yes, please do your updated diagnosis video!
I've always had irrational fears, even as a kid. This makes a lot of sense. Thanks for sharing!
this was amazing new information that oddl made perfect sense to me. Thank you Dan! I'd like the update video too please.
I need some advice on how to deal with temper tantrums when it comes to adults who have aspergers
I have aspergers and I really struggle with temper tantrums and I am not sure why can someone please help
I have this feeling fairly often when I'm overwhelmed with work or having some trouble with family and friends, if not both. I used to scream and punch things, and people chalked it up to being "way too sensitive" and to "suck it up".
But once I started to connect the dots as to me having ASP, I started being able to catch it, then could remove myself from that situation, and go to my room (if I was home). I could then turn on the fan to drown out extra noise, and I just laid on my bed until I could emotionally handle starting again.
I love this video. The "fight or flight" explanation will help me explain how I feel in the future, which I've always been super bad at. I plan on sending it to many people to help spread the word. Thank you for uploading this! ♥️
Yes I would like to see an in-depth look into your assessment update. I am a Canadian that has just started the process of getting an assessment and it would be very helpful to see that (even if it is in a different country it will give me an idea of what to expect)
Thank you. Never been more fearful.
I really appreciate your input. My son who has ASD and partial blindness has been at a special needs school. When he began he could barely sit still and the time I was present O did remove him from the classroom. It did actually help. Then I knew their strategy was to keep him in the classroom when he would struggling. I provided a small pillow and a easy quickly no fuss fold down and up lil pop tent. That helped too! Then they said no tent it’s better he is in the open like everyone else, so I then provided a bean bag as a safe place he could have to say this is where I go to find hopefully self regulation. Then they said no he should be like all the other kids none of it PLEASE. Then when he would struggle and meltdown they would tell him it was wrong behaviour and remove all children disruptively from the classroom for safety reasons. Fortunately a teacher who could see how frustrating it was being taught everything at a far lower level for the sake of others in the class. Well she left soon after to another class the school plays this game every year it’s a luck dip of the class they get. Continuity of care and truly knowing someone is when you can absolutely make a difference. No a vision the school beliefs. They have therapist who chat with Teachers never been usual for our son, despite the fact he brings with him the highest funding a child can have to actually support him. Of course they throw it into the money pit and spread to where they see fit. Frankly it was so disheartening seeing him love school though never see it really benefit him. When covid hit whilst he missed out on social schooling aspects like reading books to classes around the school and his class… he has learnt so very much. He is such a wonderfully bright engaging and social boy nearly 9. Yes willingness and motivation once you got it is great. He is past what his current school can offer him educationally, thus I have been finding other options. It seems our options are slim though as a person who has disabilities, knowing the educational issues of accessibility. I will not sit by and see the brokenness of an educational system not truly providing appropriate nor allowing him to develop his skills and competence. Of course I get labelled as long as my son is achieving is all that matters. I tell my son all the time he is my most favourite human, he is perfect just the way he is and he is incredibly gifted. I let him know as he gets older as best I can to try assist him to get navigate some things as does his dad. He is my love and joy and his future and potential is my fire to be passionate about educating others to his rights and his needs. Frankly when you consider the dedication and investment privately paid one to one Speech therapy, Occupational and Musical Therapy… It is invaluable to understand these realities for children facing fear and extreme anxiety and struggling to self regulate. Thanks for your video this one really hit a chord for me as him moving forward to a mainstream or integrated setting self regulation is very important. Sorry this is long though I am focussing on how I can assist him to learn self regulating strategies. I can see the pure necessity thus you give great insights shared from a crucial viewpoint the lived experience. Truly my thanks! Blessed Be ✨🌟✨
We had a lovely summer last year, if I remember, it was a Tuesday.
For me it's not me being afraid it's folks being afraid of me
Yessss! Please.....more on diagnosis
I don't get angry usually, but I tend to be anxious, fearful, and stressed 99.9% of the time. Depending on the situation, it can be close to torture at times. Emotional self-regulation isn't easy once you've passed a certain point. I also tend to hyper obsess on the things that scare me (social invites/situations, work, health, poor sleep, ext), so even when I do get to a good place mentally the negative scary thought just comes back and it becomes an all day thing..sometimes longer...until the situation passes or until I'm exhausted ...
Thanks for this. x
Thanks. Bless you. Your method of Calming Down sounds optimal to the ongoing practice of entering a room with a mattress then beating it with a tennis racket as per one school's practice.
In my work that I am currently doing I get angry when I have a hard time explaining things to other people. So I have just gotten to the point now I just do it myself. Then there is also when there is a lot of people , it makes me angry because it starts to get loud , so I just keep it together until I can leave the area.
Thank you SO MUCH! This i can show to my husband to help him to understand all our autistic son and his fears. If you can, would you please tell us more about fears, how you felt when you were a child, our son (10yo) can't explain what exactly he is scared of, but he is scared most of the time. Maybe now as adult you can lit the light to this fears a bit more please and can help us to help our kids (particularly one of fears is that our son can't go alone in next room even in day light, he needs me to go with him)
I've had to learn to "get away" with internalization. I don't usually have the opportunity to actually get away. Shutting out everything while still walking around and functioning
But it's leading to almost disassociation. And now in severely depressed episodes I begin to disassociate against my will. I know it's happening and I have trouble coming back.
It usually takes actually getting away to feel better.
But when I'm also feeling extreme depression getting away doesn't help because the thing bothering me is inside.
I can identify with this 😥
Meditating mitigates that for me a LOT.
@@patriciastewart2537 I read
When losing a sense of self, diving into another world and then putting the book back down is like a soft reset on my head
@@aricbathory7212 that looks like a great way to recover.
Thank you, Aric
That makes sense for me. Since I have ptsd the past two years I am angry allot. Like I never used to be an angry person. But now it is suddenly problem. PTSD causes hyper-vigilance. It’s like constantly seeing threats in your environment. This makes sense as to why i have anger issues since ptsd because im possibly always on guard. I have lived for a long time with adhd,ocd,gad also.
Wow, it's me. Thank you.
I have a skizotypical disorder/diagnosis. And autism is a part of my diagnosis when it comes to the social part but its more linked to the old understanding of autism and not the autisme spectrum.
But still videos about autism helps me a lot. I can finaly accept I am different than others and there is nothing wrong with me
Oh, holy wow... My brother and I have "lazy perfectionism", as we call it. We know how easily frustrated we can get if the tiniest detail goes arwy and majority of the time, if we know we will have an extra difficult time we will straight up not do it, ignore it and hope it goes away. If we do push ourselves, we need many, many breaks to walk away, do some breathing exercises and listen to music to center ourselves before going back at it. I honestly thought it was just a family trait somewhere from our mother's side; half siblings. That's just wild!
" Lazy perfectionism " resonates with me!!☺️
Hi Dan great info thank you , I have 2 son's with asd , their character is so different from each other
Oh interesting! Thank you so much for the comment! Make sure you are subscribed and have the notifications turned on :).
Great observation, Dan. I think the key to ASD “anger” is the inability to regulate our emotions in any sort of stressful situation…which for us, are many! Living life til age 51 undiagnosed, I learned early on to mask, camouflage and otherwise suppress my reactions to get along in life. At times when I was just overwhelmed and couldn’t deal, my “anger outbursts” were viewed as strange and unreasonable. I can usually hold it together at work, but around my family is when things can go south. The (my) expectation is that they know me best, and when they set up a situation that overwhelms me, I react more readily to it.
Sounds familiar, sad to say. My dad and I were always at odds with each other, until his old age started to slow him down.
@@joycebrewer4150 my daughters and I had a hard time as they came up through high school-We just didn’t understand each other, and it made for some contentious moments. Once I got diagnosed, had conversations with them about it (and wrote my book), it helped a lot. We understand each other and get along better now.
I would love an update on the process
Dealing with fear was the worst thing to deal with and I have mentioned this before, but TMS or TransCranial Magnetic Stimulation really helped me. Everyone should look into it.
Did you have pain symptoms
@@Truerealism747 I have had pain symptoms before and I have an anxiety pill if I need.
The rain NEVER passes for long where I am in the U.K. 🤣🤣🤣
You know what, I’ve just read that the neurotypical brain just naturally does exactly what you just said. Great video.
Out of context but at 3:10 i have that washing machine too! lmao
Yes!!!
I'll be very interested by this rediagnosis and the process behind !
I’ll do a video!!
@@TheAspieWorld Thank You !
@@TheAspieWorld You rock btw 😉
I also struggle with fears and angers which cause me to lash out in words and then i shutdown and only speak when necessary. Recently had one because of all the problems at work and personal, lasted for 3 weeks. Made some decisions and feel much better, even have An intake soon for official diagnosis.
There are two main things that make me uncontrollably angry number one I hate the summertime heat I hate sweating at all even one drop on my face this puts me into screaming fits. Number two it really pisses me off when I have explained over and over again and nobody understands panic anxiety.
I'm in my 50s, and am one of those adults who is realizing that a lot of my intense emotional and repetitive behaviors were maybe due to autism. I just had my full autism testing assessment. This video explains perfectly for the first time for me, what my emotional outbursts are like - always being in fear due to the fight/flight mode, and my anger is a reaction to that. Thank you for explaining something that has plagued me all my life.
Do you get physical symptoms
During my childhood I remember waking up everyday in fear, anxious about the day ahead. I'm now 55 and it still happens regularly depending on my circumstances that's unless I'm in a stable relationship, financially secure and have a stable job 😳
Please do a video about how the heck someone goes about getting a diagnosis for Aspergers in the UK? I'm self diagnosed, it was screamingly obvious I was Autistic in my childhood but back in the 70's it went unchecked,you just got labelled a disruptive child.
🎩Hi, I just went to my local GP and got referred to a clinic in Northampton. They were great. It was as easy as that. Good luck.
🎩Hi, if you can take with you someone who knows you really well, because if you are like me you will clam up. I took my wife and she did all the talking, but who knows you better than your mum.
Hey I was only diagnosed this month, I had no idea I had ASD. My son was diagnosed two years ago and his doctor picked up on my difference and recommended I speak to my gp. It’s a long process with a huge waiting list so while you wait it will help to speak to someone who knew you when you were little who can confirm you had symptoms then. I’m currently waiting for my full report to get my official diagnosed confirmed. A 6/8 week wait so I can’t help you with what happens after assessment yet. It helps to know that that deep down feeling that there is something about you that’s different is not paranoia. It’s true you process the world differently but that can be a blessing. It can also leave you feeling quite lonely….
@@robertgross1655 Thanks, I'll visit my GP next week, I've been putting this off for years, I'll go on my own, I'm cool with that.
@@robertgross1655 I think perhaps you were one of the lucky ones. I was told that in our area there’s a five year waiting list, and because of my age, I can’t even get on the waiting list. I’ve struggled for years and just feel written off.
Ahh yea, perfect example is my son’s meltdown at the doctor while getting his finger pricked. He looked extremely angry and was yelling some pretty awful things to the nurse. But I knew his anxiety was high and he was upset that he did not have control over the situation. His “fight” gets triggered very often, especially when something is out of his control. My “flight” is usually what gets triggered. So I got my kid exploding, usually causing me to implode. I wish there was a way for me to help him become aware of what’s going on and think of a coping mechanism he likes, but whenever I try, he tends to block me out. Like he doesn’t need my help. What I’m saying is not interesting, because I’m mom. But it’s really effecting me, because I have PTSD and C-PTSD, and the daily explosions are making my mental health worse, but I can’t think of a way to explain this and him actually understand and consider that maybe mom’s feelings are just as important as his. If mom is constantly feeling stressed and overwhelmed, everyone else will be too. (I’m autistic too for the record.)
This popped up in my feed so I decided to give it a view. interesting info but while watching I was thinking, when someone who has ADHD or Autism applies for employment somewhere do they list those as potential disabilities? Autism is seen as a disability as far as I'm aware but ADHD seems to not be thought has such. I'm in the U.S. though so you might not have an answer to this as I think you mentioned you were in Britain but I am curious how its handled over the pond as well. Recently been trying to figure out where I stand with my mental health and have been learning some things lately and I suspect myself of having ADHD at the very least. As I learn more about ADHD I am learning of other things that I do that may be symptoms of autism. I don't really have any strong evidence outside of overlapping symptoms of such however though I do have some strong evidence for ADHD as I have a family member diagnosed with it and apparently it's hereditary. All I know outside of that is that I was placed in special education when I was younger due to anger issues, or so I was led to believe. In highschool my dad confessed to me about something that had happened to me that supposedly could have caused brain damage as he put it and he believed that was the source of my anger and the real reason I was placed in special education classes. As I learn more about all this though I grow to resent my dad a little bit as he would often be quite hostile with me about these conditions going so far as insulting me about changing my name to "stu" and my last name to "pid." I often would have delays when someone says something to me where I don't seem to register what they have said but reflexively respond with a "what?" or "huh?" and shortly before they respond I realize what they've said. My dad would always mock me about this as well. To get to the point, I ask those questions because I am learning what all this crap I went through meant and only just now learning was resources I may have if any to help make my life a bit easier, or at least I hope it can make it easier because it's been extremely difficult already as is. Being able to place these things as a disability when applying for a new job may help as the employer can understand I may need some accommodations, so long as I actually get diagnosed and my suspicions are proven correct anyway, otherwise I might end up a bit more confused.
Did you get a private diagnosis? I applied to get an aspergers diagnosis and I'm on the list but obviously it's quite a long wait.
Well it's pretty sad though I'm 43 years old, 6'5, about 240 lbs, (diagnosed last year) but I'm also on blood thinners since the age of 23. I figured me fearing to go out and do things was just from how negative and protective my mother had always been of me. That it probably just rubbed off. She to, didn't see any signs of my Autism growing up but honestly, I don't think any of us had even heard of it. I heard of it only a few years ago when I went with a lady I knew that was taking her teenage son 3.5 hours away to be tested and was allowed to sit in the room with them (and WOW... So much made sense of my own time growing up even to that point, I was towards the end of my 30s) yeah here in ste states it takes a couple years to get tested. I did a ton of research first. And the online tests (I know they don't prove much but pointed me in the right direction) but since I wasn't diagnosed as a kid, I'm basically still learning. When I was in my 20s and enlisted and joined the Military, I was told I was giving a 20 yard stare and was asked about it, like 6 weeks into it and I told the senior drill sergeant "I guess I'm still in a state of shock." But it helped me learn some things about myself to and along with my upbringing and such, how to better treat others and how to handle things around me. My special interests are off grid living/prepping & survival. Those three things I think are so interesting because everyone seems to get off course in life so much that know one will know how to live or survive when the world goes down hill. So I like learning about the old ways of living, doing things, problem solving of those things, but I guess being on blood thinners and such makes it hard for me to want to go out by myself and practice those things learned. But also I'm still learning all the time about why I do this and that (like an innocent minded child) so I'm constantly researching things in life to see why they tick. Been married twice. First marriage lasted for like a whopping 97 days (wayyy too much drama, I'm glad SHE wanted the divorce because she didn't understand me and my ways) and second time, by the 10th of December will be a year. Started off for the first 6 months we were always together 24/7 and then not long after we bought a place together, she started working again and me in and out of jobs (but because I'm considered disabled prior to Autism diagnosis) I have a small amount of money that comes Monthly. But we seen I wasn't going to be able to afford everything on just what I bring in by myself.
But I've watched a lot of CZcams from different people on Autism and Asperger's, and read tons of material online (too bad I can't recall half of it even) so still learning all the time...
Hi Daniel is Sara I totally agree I have This A lot
I am 52 and was just diagnosed (not “officially” but my psychiatrist and therapist both have agreed I am ASD, ADHD, C-PTSD, And I have disassociative disorder; however I do not have any kind of multiple personalities. I feel like I am so am stuck in the fight or flight mode now….. but due to all the massive trauma I have been through, in the pat I would just disassociate. It seems as though I am unable to do that anymore and completely bypass that and either completely blow a gasket or literally run away.
To be fair, I have been a mom of 4 kids for the last 22 years and have 2 ASD/ADHD kids and life is really chaotic. I don’t know if I just am unable to stop the process because I am stretched so thin or what?
I think people sometimes forget that anger is not the only emotion that can lead to aggressive behavior. Fear can too, like you said. There's a reason why intense fear responses are called "fight or flight". The "fight" part means people can act aggressively in response to fear.
Although I think more accurately the intense fear response should be called "fight, flight, or freeze" since some people don't fight or flee, but rather freeze or shut down when they're feeling intense fear. It all depends on the person and situation of course.
My son gets so scared he cannot be alone. He used to run out of his school.
I'm sat outside a fast food place been triggered all morning. At this point I want to go home and cover myself up. Feels like nothing I do is cool enough I want to isolate now
4:08 Dog wakes up for moment then goes back to sleep.
hmmm... i used to say to ppl im in deffence mode all the time, im not bad, just my deffence is wild :D
My ex boyfriend's brother was 3 when I was in my early teens. He would punch, scream and cry at his mum, he would go to his room and still be crying and screaming.
i have been like this since the pandemic and my wife needing dialysis and frightened of being alone of she died
I watch a lot of horror movies and don't get scared.
I do have autism and I don't know I'm not scared easily or if I'm scared all the time and just used to that state
I have had to work to overcome a fear of dogs particularly with the whole barking thing
no way-
this is so true, i'm scared for everything. cant control my anger and emotions
but seriously, i'm scared for elevators lmao (and a bunch of other stuff)
edit:
like less than a minute later, i found the explanation for my meltdowns when i failed with pe
the fear of failing is so extreme by me
My brother has autism, not sure if I do though. I was never diagnosed, I feel like I do show symptoms.
Yup sensory meltdown are an important destination. bi polar
And schizophrenic person have sensory issues similar. That's because psychosis Is a form of sensory stimulation or overload Dopamine's produced locally after all So Psychotic like symptoms do you do an excess in dopamine is correlated . If you have a constant hpa axis activation Oregon shut down or become less efficient But the hyper focus On your Surrounding
Creates more inputs than processing Capacity will allow to process This sometimes could get Cross wired like a mild semestisia . but depending on where in the chain The disorder is caused Dictates Is the way people tend to diagnose you .
Did you know inflammatory response can also irritate you to the point of sensory issues meny roads lead to to overload
Everyone should be allowed to be their true self.🌈🏳️🌈🫂👍
you are angry because of your fears. what are your fears?
Can "anger" take the form of cutting?
Yes sometimes
Fear from.the subconscious brain
So when my son is angry because I tell him time for school. And he starts punching walls and throwing chairs. Is this because something at school is causing him fear?
Quite possibly.
I've tried to ask him what it is that makes him fear school. He refuses to answer. If it happens again. Do I keep him off or take him in late when I can get my dad to drive us???
@@sharonyearsley6720 as someone with autism. We don't know why we feel the way we do. Asking him will probably make him even angrier, because he doesn't know either. If you can, take him to a therapist, handling emotions and feelings are quite hard for us. It is such an overwhelming situation that we go "anger blind". In my case, someone telling me about something I should do, it angers me, and I don't know why, never knew, 34 years and still don't know. I just learned to cope with my overreacting emotions to many things in my live, but it happens everytime from as far as I remember.
@@hellequinm thankyou. I'm also autistic but was only diagnosed last year aged 44. My son is 10. So I'm still trying to figure it out.
@@sharonyearsley6720 totally understandable. I'm just finding out that those "tantrums" of mine were all due to autism - just got my diagnosis this year, I always thought I was a bad person - and mean - and as growing up tried my best to suppress this kind of over reacting, thinking it will just go away. It never did, the reactions still here always, but now I understand why my mind does it, so I'm less guilty and more accepting on myself when it happens. Using other tools to deal with meltdowns.
Hope you can help your son. Having the diagnosis is already a huge step in the right direction!
Is this autism or PTSD though? A lot of auties have PTSD because they get bullied a lot, but I understood that the flight and fight (and freeze) reactions are more a response to past trauma, so PTSD, rather than the autism spectrum itself.
I implode not explode
Yeah the negative emotions that happen because of autism is not fun, then if u got cptsd that is a bad combo. But iv learnt just do this no1 thing, dont dissociate. Thats the mother of cptsd. Way easier said tho.
i have this fight or flight my whole life. testosterone helped me the most cause it lowers cortisol. there are some hints on the internet that i try to find through reading studys. ive found:
akkermansia levels are lower in autism. you can buy akkermansia by itself but its too expensive right now so i found rhodiola rosea wich has salidrosides. these salidrosides are important caused they increase akkermansia and reduce anxiety and makes you more stressresistent. there are people who cant breakdown phenylalanin wich can be dangerous. if you have adhd or deficiancy behavior problems(drug seeking behavior) there is something interesting. ive read something about "Coupling D-Phenylalanine and N-Acetyl-L-Cysteine Hypothesizing Balancing Endorphinergic and Glutaminergic Systems to Treat and Prevent Relapse to Reward Deficiency Behaviors". im right now on l-phenylalanin and nac. i dont know how much different the d version is. but this stuff seem to reduce having to intense emotions. there is for sure more to find. there seems to be a link between butyrate and autism cause of gene expression. here is the name of the study: Sodium butyrate attenuates social behavior deficits and modifies the transcription of inhibitory/excitatory genes in the frontal cortex of an autism model. i take this stuff and i can say that it helps me alot. there is only 1 thing left for me and that is that there are people with autism who dont convert a certain estrogen. i tried a antibabypill and noticed that i can hold eyecontact without fighting against inner barriers. but these pills block androgens too much and these compounds are to unspecific. i cant rely on housedocs. the best advice i can get is if i go directly into a labor and talk about the situation.