I feel the exact same. I am tired of trying to fit in and trying to hide my social awkwardness. Sometimes I just flat out tell people that I'm sorry I'm so awkward lol
Ya i quit worrying for the most part what people think..enough analysis they’re the ones that are weird and rude and not completely honest when i have to mask i rely on the way ive seen my mom communicate
So relaxing Ya i quit worrying for the most part what people think..enough analysis they’re the ones that are weird and rude and not completely honest when i have to mask i rely on the way ive seen my mom communicate
1. Clumsiness/ poor coordination skills 2. Issues with social functioning 3 . Expansive language in their obsessive interest 4. Having an above average IQ 5. Favouriting alone time
At 55yrs old I don't push myself anymore into uncomfortable, unpleasant situations I thought 'I should' participate in to 'fit in'. Such a relief to just relax. Just because a peer group appear to enjoy certain things doesn't mean what they enjoy participating in will appeal to everyone. There is nothing wrong with enjoying what you enjoy. It's your life, enjoy it the way you like x
Totally spot on! I’m same age as you 54 and during the pandemic had plenty thinking time and I decided yeah you don’t have to try fit in enjoy the things we want too. Only others like ourselves can truly understand what how we feel x
Hey you do you, babe. Life is short. I'm into hobbies and interests that nobody I know of in my town or even in the neighboring towns are into. So in order for me to take classes and actually participate and practice in these hobbies means I would have to move bc it's not offered here. I'm from the deep south and everybody here is the same. Clone after clone, and I feel sorry for them that they don't have the guts and the power to free themselves from the vortex of sameness. Cowards all of them!
Female possible aspie here. I’m always thinking outside the box and I have a really big need for alone time as well. As well as gobbling up all the info on my present specialist subject. Not to mention anxiety etc.
@@youlikedeeznuts7620 I asked my doctor but she put me off. I donno why. I have obsessive habits, like being able to listen to the same song for literally hours. My son is certainly aspie as are certain of my brothers (one of which is a very talented engineer). Plus all my life I’ve been called weird
Well, I think you just explained what no doctor has been able to figure out. I just randomly fall down a lot. I walk into walls that I am walking parallel with, and have come close to hurting myself a number of times. It is so bad that I used to have a dog to help me stay upright on my feet. I am planning on getting a new one and training it to do the same thing along with alert to several other things for me, especially migraines. Which seems to be my sensory overload reaction. Instead of crying and other things outwardly, I internalize and get horrific migraines. Thank you for pointing me in the right direction. I am 57 and just got diagnosed. Learning a lot about myself!
Thank you i'm totally relating to each of these but in my case all my doctor's have said both past and present is that i'm just a normally clumsy person, but yet refuse to do any further investigation to find out the real cause behind everything!
i think another thing is substance abuse i feel like most people wouldn't ever connect the two or consider someone with an addiction may have autism. if you think about it, drinking for some is the only way to comfortably stop masking around people and before getting diagnosed for me it was the only way my brain would stop masking even alone. luckily i got help before too long but that along with my somewhat addictive personality i quickly became a nightly drinker i think autism and addiction can happen together especially when people go years without a diagnosis
I'm certain I have ADHD, I realised the years ago. My daughter who got an asd diagnosis a year ago thinks I might be autistic too. I drank nightly from my late teens until the age of thirty when I quit. It's only recently that it dawned on me it was a way of my not having to mask- drunk people are rather like ADHD people. Once I stopped drinking I still went to the pub nightly as when hanging out with drunk people you still don't need to mask as they won't notice. I still really like having our with drunk people- for years I though it was a contact high, but it's just allowing myself to express my office train of thought.
A positive trait I have noticed is the ability to think outside of the box which enables problems to be solved from a different angle. (They never could keep me in a neat little box which is suffocating and limited)
Head over heels for this boy I know he’s got OCD but the more I get to know him I see all or most of these traits in him. it doesn’t bother me at all ( I’ve PTSD AND ANXIETY) I just want to understand him better and not put him in situations that are extremely uncomfortable for him. He’s not told me he’s on the spectrum or anything and he might not even know it but the more I watch these videos the easier the interactions have become and my expectations are in tune with with more varied types of interactions :) thank you 🙏
Hey this is the story of an aspergers from India.. Today after watching this video I am 101 percent sure that I have aspergers. I have some self realisation 1. 90 percent of time my brain becomes stuck/overwhelmed due to n number of thought processing at one point of time.. So that I forgot who I am? I fee lost.. Struggle to keep track of my thinking/feelings 2. I can remember a lot of situation specially in the office where I feel so overwhelmed that I go to washroom to catch some breath/hold my head in a situation I know I can't handle myself. 3.I believe I am not able to understand the feeling of people if they are joking around/serious/ .. I always go very deep into the meaning of conversation with someone so I fail to crack the essence of the topic. 4. I feel most of the time I am very egoistic and can't take jokes etc.. Because I feel nobody is understanding me and my feelings. 5. I don't understand that nobody has the power to hurt me and most of the time they don't want to because they also have feelings. 6. I discovered that it is the fluctuations of emotions which are controling me like sudden joy/anger/jealousy/insecurity etc. 7. If someone's praise can't make me happy why should I worry if they scold me?? 8. I believe mixing with kindhearted non aspie people making me understand jokes/more emotions/helping me to take quick decision etc. 9. Most vital thing in this condition is self hurting feelings which overflows all the time and being unnecessary critical of yourself thinking about how others will dislike me 10. I again believe that I have realized these things very late on my thirties which I should have realised probably in my teen age. I blame my condition/bad upbringing /lacknofself awareness for this late realisation.. 11. MY GOAL IS TO UNDERSTAND THE WORLD BETTER AND BE MORE EMPHATIC TOWARDS OTHERS... Love ❤❤❤ to all
I can tick all of these, still yet to go for a diagnosis and have been listing my traits. Your videos have been a massive help in this. And I also share the trait of mouthing words when spoken to, anyway, thanks Dan 👍
Good video Dan. I have an amazing sense of rhythm, but can't learn dance steps, have perfect pitch but can't read music. I've learned to keep quiet on subjects that interest me because I absolutely hate seeing the glazed expression in other people's faces. Yes I can read people enough to know I bore them ha. People aren't interested in what I have to say so I don't say much. I masked alot when younger, and made friends but they lost interest because I wasn't entertaining enough and eventually dropped me or I dropped them first for using me. I have good ideas but rarely get listened to. I don't mask as much now and I have more energy as a result which is good. However I dont trust people enough to be myself around them which is bad. Khaki t-shirt suits you. Hat less so, esp as you have good hair 😉
Watching your videos leaves me feeling overwhelmed - you speak so quickly! Feel like I've been in a hurricane of words which won't fit into boxes. And yet I am exactly the same when I get fired up about something. It's either one way or the other - either I can't find the words at all, or I am gabbling at 100 miles an hour. Take a breath. Your videos will be longer 😊💫
Anyone else get stuck on 2:45 when he started making facial expressions? 😂 They're so different from the words so the words go out the window and I focus on what he might be feeling based on his facial expressions lol. Legit had to close my eyes after the fourth rewind but your content is great and I love it! Don't change! I can cope in my special ways and I'll watch your videos no matter what 💙 You've helped me in so many ways! (Though I still think about you stepping on the concrete cracks and paint with different feet and not caring because your brain made you focus on which foot and how to step off the curb 🤣)
i've recently stumbled upon your channel and i love it. i'll be getting my autism diagnosis soon. you help me a lot. thank you. green looks great on you.
I am very much as described with the first 4 traits. Oh, I was always the slowest with every possible excersise at school, I completly could not follow even the easiest dance steps, I hated it. But with alone time, in my case it is slightly different, I am not sure if I can explain it well. I actually always wanted to be around people and be in a group of friend. However, I was always awkward and clumsy, so all throuough school and university I didn't have many colleagues. And in time I got more socially anxious because I was often bullied (even by my chemistry teacher in high school), and I was stressed with human interactions. Right now I have got a bunch of amazing friends from my work, and I really love to hang out with them, and they accept me as I am, and know that I have aspergers + adhd (not diagnosed yet but I am sure I have it). It really makes me happy to have those people. On occasions I also love to go crazy drink and party (in a nice environment, if I don't have to mask myself). We are all scientists so nerdy stuff are alright to talk about. But I do still have issues with knowing when to speak, and I will need to have alone time if I see people for longer while. I also usually really hate to stay overnight even with the closest friends, so I usually walk back home even in the middle of the night (though they sometimes wont let me). And I really hate crowds, like sometimes this is actually annoying, because I love metal music and I would like to see some great bands live once... and I live near to a town with some yearly biggest metal festivals... I missed so many of my favorite bands coming there, but I know I just will go meltdown in such a crowd... I reasonably liked to attend small gigs before corona, because metal people, as far as my experience goes, tend to be really nice. Also if I am alone for too much time, I start to get really depressed and anxious. I have this anxiety, because I think that maybe no one wants to see me (maybe this is ADHD thing). Ao overall, I am not sure if I prefer alone time, I want to have both, to extent that I know is meltdown-safe.
Exactly. I'm 52 now and I just can't do any social things anymore: parties, restaurant, meetins, etc... I can't stand it and I no longer bother hiding it. I'm exhausted.
Hey - love your content, so very insightful. Can you do a video about tips for parents of kiddos with Asperger’s? Thanks so much for sharing your world - it brightens up ours!
I hate when people say did you make friends it’ll hard to tell them it’s not easy for me I’m 18 I can’t do it I just say everyone’s my friend. It’s hard to explain people come and go out of our lives so your my best friend if you stay with me through thick and thin. I go through a lot every single day. It’s hard to explain I’m a very spiritual person
I think as I have gotten older my traits have become more prominent and certain aspects have gotten worse like my social anxiety. I was able to work and deal with people when I was younger, but over the last number of years, the thought of working and dealing with people scares me, especially living in Miami Florida where there is a large Hispanic community and I don't speak much Spanish even though my wife is Hispanic. There are other things that have gotten worse as I have gotten older, but social anxiety is the worst.
On the contrary, I've always had a high level of dexterity and awareness of my body. I only get clumsy if I become anxious due to being overwhelmed. By the way, I recently had my diagnostic assessment and got confirmation today that I do have Asperger's (although it's not formally called that now).
I am obsessive about one actor and movies. I am studying to be film director and any movie awards I care the most and understand the rules and everything. I recently learned that when I get too excited or happy I flap my hands and I am 27
I am a dancer, and when I am not dancing I am super clumsy. I think it is because music, which is my overriding special interest. You look good in green.
Sounds so much like me. I recently asked my GP if I could be tested for Autism & he kind of dismissed me saying that we are all on the spectrum and what would I gain from finding out? .. he offered to send me to talking therapy for my anxiety instead.😞.. where do I go from here? All of my life I’ve felt different. I’m 56 by the way.
Get a second opinion if you can or change doctors which I know anything new is scary. Your doctor is a disgrace and should be struck off. I would complain. Good luck to you
This was all very relatable. It annoys me when people who know I'm autistic make fun of me for being clumsy, even if they don't mean to upset me. Also I love music, but it makes me really uncomfortable being in a nightclub or party with loud music and lights flashing, it's all too intense for me.
Hi I am a parent of a 4 year old recently diagnosed with autism in the fall. Your videos have been very enlightening. I always suspected since I took psych 101 in the 90’s that I had some autistic traits & my husband definitely does as well. We are fully functional successful adults. But it was no surprise to me that our 2nd child was diagnosed. With that said, he did have a speech delay with therapy beginning at age 2. We are continuing to work on it but he is much more conversational now with speech & ABA. I just wanted to point out to any parent who might be worried about the speech delay definitely check out Temple Grandin’s story if you have not yet. And to point out that Einstein had a speech delay as well. So there is hope for our children especially with early aggressive therapy. Also if you suspect your child is autistic please just have them evaluated even if they are as young as 18 months because at least in the USA there is an insane amount of resources opened up to autistic children. And adults. It’s easy to think your child will be stigmatized but they won’t. Since his diagnosis, my son has had so much more help and opportunities opened up to him. ABA is totally covered in most states as you will qualify for Medicaid regardless of income status. Although it can be tricky to navigate the system, just power through the hurdles. Also other interventions such as therapeutic horseback riding is reimbursed at least where I live with his disability status. Anyway I just wanted to throw it out there to any parent with a child suspected of having autism. Even with the diagnosis many parents are not aware of the available resources for their children. Thank you for your videos! They have been so helpful!
My husband, in trying to compliment me on my looks, once said to me, "If you were to go to a bar, you'd be the one all the guys would be buying drinks for" etc. I have natural red hair and I wear it long. Apparently, that means something in the social world. 😂 Anyway, when he said this, I replied, "That situation you just described scares the crap out of me." I avoid that situation like the plague. All points in this video are relatable to me but the last one jumped out at me.
Oh my. This is me... I reallised resently that i must have asperger syndrome and/or adhd. It becomes clearer and clearer all the time. I cant belive that nobody got it when i was a kid.
Hello...i am an obsessed moron using the internet and i am in need of help...everywhere i search about autism and advantages i see controversial findings...websites claim autistic are nore likely to be pattern finders,engeneers etc. But when i actually find what experts say i find the complete aposite...can anyone explain this?( i do not mean to offend anyone im just really interested )
Yes, I am super clumsy and I tell people I'm convinced my youngest daughter is the only person on the planet who is clumsier than me. Jokingly because I don't know everyone in the world
I was terrible at dancing lessons. In fact the others would come up and tell me I danced so badly in the recital that I embarrassed them. Also I am not a good shot with firearms, I can’t hit the broadside of a barn from a foot away. Last but not least I have a nasty case of Dysgraphia!!! You should see my handwriting it is terrible!!!
I trained in dance 5 days a week from 6 yrs of age and had no problems with picking up steps and performing. Watch me eat a meal tho and you’ll see extremely poor co-ordination 🤣😂🤣
Oh so me. Fell down stairs, didn't know why, broke my ankle. Went to physiotherapy where they found I had no balance, didn't know why. Dyspraxia, who knew? Called shy my whole life. Have never felt lonely. Question tho', I don't daydream, never have. Is that a thing?
So, first an unrelated topic - the focus of this video is not up to your usual standards. Please understand that this is an observation, not a judgement of your quality as a you-tuber (I'm sure that you've had to say things like that many times). - Oh, motor skills, especially gross motor skills.... I run into things a lot, get bruised a lot. My fine motor skills are pretty good, except handwriting, which is terrible. In fact, when I started studying Russian in High School, my handwriting at the beginning was far better in Russian than in English... until I started thinking in sentences, and simply became more accustomed to the Cyrillic alphabet..... now my Russian is as bad as my English. - I hate parties. They are boring, going out to drink is even more boring, and all wonderful opportunities for me to disappoint the aliens (also not a value judgment) called my peers.
@@nuckygulliver9607 I know. I hate having people make demands on me that way too. Some stores make you wash your hands before you enter. EDIT: spelling
I think the older you get the more these traits show because you are tired of trying to mask them. That is how I feel about myself.
I feel the exact same. I am tired of trying to fit in and trying to hide my social awkwardness. Sometimes I just flat out tell people that I'm sorry I'm so awkward lol
I totally agree with you
Ya i quit worrying for the most part what people think..enough analysis they’re the ones that are weird and rude and not completely honest when i have to mask i rely on the way ive seen my mom communicate
So relaxing
Ya i quit worrying for the most part what people think..enough analysis they’re the ones that are weird and rude and not completely honest when i have to mask i rely on the way ive seen my mom communicate
Yes I agree , I'm getting to a place where this is me , I can't help it ,
1. Clumsiness/ poor coordination skills
2. Issues with social functioning
3 . Expansive language in their obsessive interest
4. Having an above average IQ
5. Favouriting alone time
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Is expansive language talking alot about there interests cuz I think so
@@youlikedeeznuts7620 um idk what you mean by this comment but I do talk alot about my special interests
@@Blackpink_kpop_lover15 ugh idk I am confused by myself and a little u sorry
At 55yrs old I don't push myself anymore into uncomfortable, unpleasant situations I thought 'I should' participate in to 'fit in'. Such a relief to just relax. Just because a peer group appear to enjoy certain things doesn't mean what they enjoy participating in will appeal to everyone. There is nothing wrong with enjoying what you enjoy. It's your life, enjoy it the way you like x
Totally spot on! I’m same age as you 54 and during the pandemic had plenty thinking time and I decided yeah you don’t have to try fit in enjoy the things we want too. Only others like ourselves can truly understand what how we feel x
Well said!
Hey you do you, babe. Life is short. I'm into hobbies and interests that nobody I know of in my town or even in the neighboring towns are into. So in order for me to take classes and actually participate and practice in these hobbies means I would have to move bc it's not offered here. I'm from the deep south and everybody here is the same. Clone after clone, and I feel sorry for them that they don't have the guts and the power to free themselves from the vortex of sameness. Cowards all of them!
Ya age helps i remember my grandpa telling me this is something to look forward to.
Female possible aspie here. I’m always thinking outside the box and I have a really big need for alone time as well. As well as gobbling up all the info on my present specialist subject. Not to mention anxiety etc.
Have u not gotten tested but u think u have born with aspie
@@youlikedeeznuts7620 I asked my doctor but she put me off. I donno why. I have obsessive habits, like being able to listen to the same song for literally hours. My son is certainly aspie as are certain of my brothers (one of which is a very talented engineer). Plus all my life I’ve been called weird
And i had always thought my clumsiness was because people always put door frames where I was trying to walk! Great video, perfect list!
Well, I think you just explained what no doctor has been able to figure out. I just randomly fall down a lot. I walk into walls that I am walking parallel with, and have come close to hurting myself a number of times. It is so bad that I used to have a dog to help me stay upright on my feet. I am planning on getting a new one and training it to do the same thing along with alert to several other things for me, especially migraines. Which seems to be my sensory overload reaction. Instead of crying and other things outwardly, I internalize and get horrific migraines. Thank you for pointing me in the right direction. I am 57 and just got diagnosed. Learning a lot about myself!
Thank you i'm totally relating to each of these but in my case all my doctor's have said both past and present is that i'm just a normally clumsy person, but yet refuse to do any further investigation to find out the real cause behind everything!
Lol it’s cuz u day dream cuz ur brain is way to smart to give a shit about just walking so it tends to run into things I think,, sorry
i think another thing is substance abuse i feel like most people wouldn't ever connect the two or consider someone with an addiction may have autism. if you think about it, drinking for some is the only way to comfortably stop masking around people and before getting diagnosed for me it was the only way my brain would stop masking even alone. luckily i got help before too long but that along with my somewhat addictive personality i quickly became a nightly drinker i think autism and addiction can happen together especially when people go years without a diagnosis
I'm certain I have ADHD, I realised the years ago. My daughter who got an asd diagnosis a year ago thinks I might be autistic too. I drank nightly from my late teens until the age of thirty when I quit. It's only recently that it dawned on me it was a way of my not having to mask- drunk people are rather like ADHD people. Once I stopped drinking I still went to the pub nightly as when hanging out with drunk people you still don't need to mask as they won't notice. I still really like having our with drunk people- for years I though it was a contact high, but it's just allowing myself to express my office train of thought.
That green looks great with your eyes!
I always struggle with timing to chat. At work I've been known to put my hand up like in school to offer a contribution, lol
LOL I’ve done this so much and oh man.... I feel embarrassed now but then again I don’t care so whatever 😂🤣
A positive trait I have noticed is the ability to think outside of the box which enables problems to be solved from a different angle. (They never could keep me in a neat little box which is suffocating and limited)
Head over heels for this boy I know he’s got OCD but the more I get to know him I see all or most of these traits in him. it doesn’t bother me at all ( I’ve PTSD AND ANXIETY) I just want to understand him better and not put him in situations that are extremely uncomfortable for him. He’s not told me he’s on the spectrum or anything and he might not even know it but the more I watch these videos the easier the interactions have become and my expectations are in tune with with more varied types of interactions :) thank you 🙏
Hey this is the story of an aspergers from India..
Today after watching this video I am 101 percent sure that I have aspergers. I have some self realisation
1. 90 percent of time my brain becomes stuck/overwhelmed due to n number of thought processing at one point of time.. So that I forgot who I am? I fee lost.. Struggle to keep track of my thinking/feelings
2. I can remember a lot of situation specially in the office where I feel so overwhelmed that I go to washroom to catch some breath/hold my head in a situation I know I can't handle myself.
3.I believe I am not able to understand the feeling of people if they are joking around/serious/ .. I always go very deep into the meaning of conversation with someone so I fail to crack the essence of the topic.
4. I feel most of the time I am very egoistic and can't take jokes etc.. Because I feel nobody is understanding me and my feelings.
5. I don't understand that nobody has the power to hurt me and most of the time they don't want to because they also have feelings.
6. I discovered that it is the fluctuations of emotions which are controling me like sudden joy/anger/jealousy/insecurity etc.
7. If someone's praise can't make me happy why should I worry if they scold me??
8. I believe mixing with kindhearted non aspie people making me understand jokes/more emotions/helping me to take quick decision etc.
9. Most vital thing in this condition is self hurting feelings which overflows all the time and being unnecessary critical of yourself thinking about how others will dislike me
10. I again believe that I have realized these things very late on my thirties which I should have realised probably in my teen age. I blame my condition/bad upbringing /lacknofself awareness for this late realisation..
11. MY GOAL IS TO UNDERSTAND THE WORLD BETTER AND BE MORE EMPHATIC TOWARDS OTHERS...
Love ❤❤❤ to all
I appreciate you putting the work and time in to making great content. Have a great weekend !
Thank you!
Good color green. Works on you 👍
I can tick all of these, still yet to go for a diagnosis and have been listing my traits. Your videos have been a massive help in this. And I also share the trait of mouthing words when spoken to, anyway, thanks Dan 👍
Or do you ever slowly repeat what someone just said to you so you can take the time to listen and comprehend? No? Just me? K.
Good video Dan. I have an amazing sense of rhythm, but can't learn dance steps, have perfect pitch but can't read music. I've learned to keep quiet on subjects that interest me because I absolutely hate seeing the glazed expression in other people's faces. Yes I can read people enough to know I bore them ha. People aren't interested in what I have to say so I don't say much. I masked alot when younger, and made friends but they lost interest because I wasn't entertaining enough and eventually dropped me or I dropped them first for using me. I have good ideas but rarely get listened to. I don't mask as much now and I have more energy as a result which is good. However I dont trust people enough to be myself around them which is bad. Khaki t-shirt suits you. Hat less so, esp as you have good hair 😉
The green top matches the plant in the background and gives me natural/nature vibes so I like it
Yes, green is a good grounding color. Thanks for all you do!!!
Thank you so much for this video, in all your videos you explain things so well.
Watching your videos leaves me feeling overwhelmed - you speak so quickly! Feel like I've been in a hurricane of words which won't fit into boxes.
And yet I am exactly the same when I get fired up about something.
It's either one way or the other - either I can't find the words at all, or I am gabbling at 100 miles an hour.
Take a breath. Your videos will be longer 😊💫
I’m autistic female and I know literally everything about sharks also most of this is relatable like all of it
Just want to say thanks for posting these videos❤️
Anyone else get stuck on 2:45 when he started making facial expressions? 😂 They're so different from the words so the words go out the window and I focus on what he might be feeling based on his facial expressions lol.
Legit had to close my eyes after the fourth rewind but your content is great and I love it! Don't change! I can cope in my special ways and I'll watch your videos no matter what 💙 You've helped me in so many ways! (Though I still think about you stepping on the concrete cracks and paint with different feet and not caring because your brain made you focus on which foot and how to step off the curb 🤣)
i've recently stumbled upon your channel and i love it. i'll be getting my autism diagnosis soon. you help me a lot. thank you. green looks great on you.
I think the green looks nice with your eyes.
Yeah, green works ✅ ☺️
Thanks for the helpful info and thanks for the awesome videos, Dan! 🙏
I am very much as described with the first 4 traits. Oh, I was always the slowest with every possible excersise at school, I completly could not follow even the easiest dance steps, I hated it. But with alone time, in my case it is slightly different, I am not sure if I can explain it well. I actually always wanted to be around people and be in a group of friend. However, I was always awkward and clumsy, so all throuough school and university I didn't have many colleagues. And in time I got more socially anxious because I was often bullied (even by my chemistry teacher in high school), and I was stressed with human interactions. Right now I have got a bunch of amazing friends from my work, and I really love to hang out with them, and they accept me as I am, and know that I have aspergers + adhd (not diagnosed yet but I am sure I have it). It really makes me happy to have those people. On occasions I also love to go crazy drink and party (in a nice environment, if I don't have to mask myself). We are all scientists so nerdy stuff are alright to talk about. But I do still have issues with knowing when to speak, and I will need to have alone time if I see people for longer while. I also usually really hate to stay overnight even with the closest friends, so I usually walk back home even in the middle of the night (though they sometimes wont let me). And I really hate crowds, like sometimes this is actually annoying, because I love metal music and I would like to see some great bands live once... and I live near to a town with some yearly biggest metal festivals... I missed so many of my favorite bands coming there, but I know I just will go meltdown in such a crowd... I reasonably liked to attend small gigs before corona, because metal people, as far as my experience goes, tend to be really nice. Also if I am alone for too much time, I start to get really depressed and anxious. I have this anxiety, because I think that maybe no one wants to see me (maybe this is ADHD thing). Ao overall, I am not sure if I prefer alone time, I want to have both, to extent that I know is meltdown-safe.
Yeah that's me too.
Just watched video and everything you said was 100% me lol but I’m not diagnosed. Loving your teeshirt 🤩
Exactly. I'm 52 now and I just can't do any social things anymore: parties, restaurant, meetins, etc... I can't stand it and I no longer bother hiding it. I'm exhausted.
Hey - love your content, so very insightful. Can you do a video about tips for parents of kiddos with Asperger’s? Thanks so much for sharing your world - it brightens up ours!
Andy, have you covered the topic of having a autism service dog? Thanks a bunch!
I hate when people say did you make friends it’ll hard to tell them it’s not easy for me I’m 18 I can’t do it I just say everyone’s my friend. It’s hard to explain people come and go out of our lives so your my best friend if you stay with me through thick and thin. I go through a lot every single day. It’s hard to explain I’m a very spiritual person
As a female with high functioning Aspergers, OCD, ADD, dyslexia, dyscalculia, CPTSD, depression, and anxiety…I can agree with 100% of this.
Wow, you've got the whole alphabet!
I feel lacking, only having ADD, Aspergers and CPTSD. Must try harder 😁💕💫🤗
I haven’t watched your videos in awhile the green shirt looks great Dan
I think as I have gotten older my traits have become more prominent and certain aspects have gotten worse like my social anxiety. I was able to work and deal with people when I was younger, but over the last number of years, the thought of working and dealing with people scares me, especially living in Miami Florida where there is a large Hispanic community and I don't speak much Spanish even though my wife is Hispanic. There are other things that have gotten worse as I have gotten older, but social anxiety is the worst.
I find olive/drab green soothing. ++
On the contrary, I've always had a high level of dexterity and awareness of my body. I only get clumsy if I become anxious due to being overwhelmed. By the way, I recently had my diagnostic assessment and got confirmation today that I do have Asperger's (although it's not formally called that now).
You look great in green!
I am obsessive about one actor and movies. I am studying to be film director and any movie awards I care the most and understand the rules and everything. I recently learned that when I get too excited or happy I flap my hands and I am 27
That is awesome!
Love the green.
I have never understood how my sister would independently go to the movies or bank or anywhere alone . I like being home alone but not in public.
I am a dancer, and when I am not dancing I am super clumsy. I think it is because music, which is my overriding special interest.
You look good in green.
Your facial hair styling looks great on you tonight!
Sounds so much like me. I recently asked my GP if I could be tested for Autism & he kind of dismissed me saying that we are all on the spectrum and what would I gain from finding out? .. he offered to send me to talking therapy for my anxiety instead.😞.. where do I go from here? All of my life I’ve felt different. I’m 56 by the way.
Get a second opinion if you can or change doctors which I know anything new is scary. Your doctor is a disgrace and should be struck off. I would complain. Good luck to you
+1 for the second opinion
I agree with below change dr and ask for another appointment
Definitely see a different Dr I'm 42 and always struggled been asking for years now soon to get checked out ,
Thank you for sharing I hsve two sons who are on the spectrum. One has aspergers, adhd, dispaxia,ptsd phycosis. The other anxiety, dispaxia.
This was all very relatable. It annoys me when people who know I'm autistic make fun of me for being clumsy, even if they don't mean to upset me.
Also I love music, but it makes me really uncomfortable being in a nightclub or party with loud music and lights flashing, it's all too intense for me.
Hi I am a parent of a 4 year old recently diagnosed with autism in the fall. Your videos have been very enlightening. I always suspected since I took psych 101 in the 90’s that I had some autistic traits & my husband definitely does as well. We are fully functional successful adults. But it was no surprise to me that our 2nd child was diagnosed. With that said, he did have a speech delay with therapy beginning at age 2. We are continuing to work on it but he is much more conversational now with speech & ABA. I just wanted to point out to any parent who might be worried about the speech delay definitely check out Temple Grandin’s story if you have not yet. And to point out that Einstein had a speech delay as well. So there is hope for our children especially with early aggressive therapy. Also if you suspect your child is autistic please just have them evaluated even if they are as young as 18 months because at least in the USA there is an insane amount of resources opened up to autistic children. And adults. It’s easy to think your child will be stigmatized but they won’t. Since his diagnosis, my son has had so much more help and opportunities opened up to him. ABA is totally covered in most states as you will qualify for Medicaid regardless of income status. Although it can be tricky to navigate the system, just power through the hurdles. Also other interventions such as therapeutic horseback riding is reimbursed at least where I live with his disability status. Anyway I just wanted to throw it out there to any parent with a child suspected of having autism. Even with the diagnosis many parents are not aware of the available resources for their children. Thank you for your videos! They have been so helpful!
Just wanted a shout-out!!
Just yes
Shared the heck out of it
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I laughed when u said No.5 because it's so true😂👍
green is my favorite color!
My husband, in trying to compliment me on my looks, once said to me, "If you were to go to a bar, you'd be the one all the guys would be buying drinks for" etc. I have natural red hair and I wear it long. Apparently, that means something in the social world. 😂 Anyway, when he said this, I replied, "That situation you just described scares the crap out of me." I avoid that situation like the plague. All points in this video are relatable to me but the last one jumped out at me.
True all of them
Green looks fine!
Another genetically linked cormobidity of ASD is Ehlers Danlos Syndrome which can lead to "clumsiness".
I’ve always been clumsy, still am, I trip over myself, when walking.😅
I qualify for everything, except the higher-than-average IQ part.
Nice shirt! :)
Effin love the green….!
Tshirt looking good 👍😊
Thanks dude
Works
Green is definitely a good color on you.
Oh my. This is me...
I reallised resently that i must have asperger syndrome and/or adhd. It becomes clearer and clearer all the time. I cant belive that nobody got it when i was a kid.
i have all of those
Hello...i am an obsessed moron using the internet and i am in need of help...everywhere i search about autism and advantages i see controversial findings...websites claim autistic are nore likely to be pattern finders,engeneers etc. But when i actually find what experts say i find the complete aposite...can anyone explain this?( i do not mean to offend anyone im just really interested )
Yes, I am super clumsy and I tell people I'm convinced my youngest daughter is the only person on the planet who is clumsier than me. Jokingly because I don't know everyone in the world
Green works.
For me, my obsessive subject is bodybuilding. I also have an above average IQ. Also fun fact Elon Musk has Asperger’s too.
Is there a real correlation between autism and dementias later in life?
Does anyone have dyscalculia, but is good with words?
That’s 5 ticks from me!
I'm Autistic but my IQ is only 77 and I am not bright.
I was terrible at dancing lessons. In fact the others would come up and tell me I danced so badly in the recital that I embarrassed them. Also I am not a good shot with firearms, I can’t hit the broadside of a barn from a foot away.
Last but not least I have a nasty case of Dysgraphia!!! You should see my handwriting it is terrible!!!
I know a lot about computers and phones.
One of my obsessions is football ⚽️ 🙌
Sounds familiar? My boyfriend have those traits but he don't mind going out of the house when have our dates he feels safe and he trust me #100.
Social communication is exhausting
I have Dysgraphia which is why I don’t comment much!!!
I trained in dance 5 days a week from 6 yrs of age and had no problems with picking up steps and performing. Watch me eat a meal tho and you’ll see extremely poor co-ordination 🤣😂🤣
Oh so me. Fell down stairs, didn't know why, broke my ankle. Went to physiotherapy where they found I had no balance, didn't know why. Dyspraxia, who knew? Called shy my whole life. Have never felt lonely. Question tho', I don't daydream, never have. Is that a thing?
Um... that's a bit confusing about the IQ. I read that it's pretty much 45% above average, 55% below average in autism.
So, first an unrelated topic - the focus of this video is not up to your usual standards. Please understand that this is an observation, not a judgement of your quality as a you-tuber (I'm sure that you've had to say things like that many times).
- Oh, motor skills, especially gross motor skills.... I run into things a lot, get bruised a lot. My fine motor skills are pretty good, except handwriting, which is terrible. In fact, when I started studying Russian in High School, my handwriting at the beginning was far better in Russian than in English... until I started thinking in sentences, and simply became more accustomed to the Cyrillic alphabet..... now my Russian is as bad as my English.
- I hate parties. They are boring, going out to drink is even more boring, and all wonderful opportunities for me to disappoint the aliens (also not a value judgment) called my peers.
Try wearing pink. lol
You could have said this in one minute. So many words so little content.
Shirt color is ok. Your hat bothers me 🤓
Ha! Thanks
You're not alone with that opinion!
Welp 🥲
Not liking masks! DO you like to see people without faces? Do you like how the mask feels?
I don't understand how any autistic person would like this mask tyranny
@@nuckygulliver9607 I know. I hate having people make demands on me that way too. Some stores make you wash your hands before you enter. EDIT: spelling
As someone with Asperger's, masks don't bother me at all.
anyone with facial recognition problems is screwed
when everyone wears masks that is