How To Be a SOFTER WOMAN *without losing who you are*
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- čas přidán 1. 08. 2024
- When you’re trying to learn how to activate your feminine energy and how to be more feminine, you need to tap into your inner softness. We all have it - and you don’t need to change who you are to bring it out. So if you want to know how to be a softer woman and how to live a soft life, these tips are for you!
Your divine feminine energy is very magnetic, and your softness can be your strength. Learning how to be softer as a woman will not make you weak - it can actually make you feel more powerful!
I hope you enjoy this video! ❤️
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CHAPTERS:
0:00 How to Be a Softer Woman
0:25 Reminder about feminine energy + softness
1:27 Which woman are you? (and why I’m bringing this up lol)
3:03 Tip #1
4:22 Tip #2
5:51 Tip #3
7:05 Tip #4
7:52 Tip #5
8:53 Tip #6
9:52 Tip #7
10:46 Tip #8
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Strangely enough, as a man, listening to your videos inspires me to be a better, more masculine man to be a match to that feminine energy.
Aw this comment made me so happy 😊
This brings me joy
That's amazing ❤️
I love this!
That's so awesome!
Finally a channel about femininity that doesn't make me feel so uncomfortable, i always wanted to be a soft woman but people talking about it always made it seem like being weak and submissive and always meek and sheepish and sometimes even dumb and that's just not who i am, love your channel and your content so much
Ah well I’m so glad you found me!! 🥰🥰
Agree with you. Millions of people (more men and few women) are asking women to become feminine (=submissive, surrendering, cheering only her husband, being a housewife and doing all the household chores and not expecting the man to do anything because he's "providing, etc etc etc).....and their asking or preaching is so imposing on the women...I hate them.
I agree ~
I totally agree. Conservative religion really made femininity a liability. This channel has really helped me heal and appreciate my femininity. You can be equal and feminine at the same time.
I haven't had a mother figure in my life. I used to be afraid of femininity because it was foreign to me. But through your videos femininity radiates warmly and Jilian, because of you, I'm bravely embracing it.
I struggled as well. I had a mother but I didn't live with yet full time. I really struggle with being feminine, motherhood and what both look like to me
This is another great video. I struggle with aggression. I have more masculine than feminine energy. I really would like to be more soft and feminine, but I have behaved this way for so long, change is hard, but I am working on it.
Glad you enjoyed it 💜💜
Yeeees I feel you! Same struggle. Things that helped me recently were slowing down my movements, toning down my voice, and LOTS of self-care
I'm trying to give genuine advice and i know this is easier said than done, but after I watched Mean Girls I started channeling my aggression into volleyball, life changer. Maybe you can find a gym or just go on a run a few times a week to help. Best of luck, I hope you find something that works for you !!
@@spacebar9733 I have tried both, but am not consistent. I'm working on that too, but thanks for the advice.
Same. I have to work so hard to tone down my aggression so that I don't use it on my kids because it's usually my first instinct for everything in my life. I'm doing better than I used to but it still sneaks out sometimes.
Yes indeed, the soft life is the life for me. Feminity in it's healed and pure state is a woman's silent but blaring strength. She is empowered to express it. Thnx a ton, Jillz! Bless✨
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"Feminity in it's healed and pure state is a woman's silent but blaring strength". Yes!
Alright I have to say this, START A PODCAST I wanna be able to listen to you in a walk, long drives, on my way to school
I second this!
Yes! I was thinking the same!
I live with my mom, sis and grandma. So we are like 4 women living together without a man. Sometimes the going gets tough because of this and i find myself becoming more aggressive and masculine to compensate the lack of men in our family. But everytime i behave more aggressive and manly, i feel out of alignment with who i am. Your videos are helping me get in touch with myself and being soft and feminine and not having to constantly fight to be seen and to prove myself. Thankyou from the bottom of my heart, Jillz🙏❤
Sometimes when I’m listening to you I just cry… not because I’m sad! You’re just so beautiful and radiate so much love! Thank you for being you 🤍
Walking away or being silent by not responding to negativity/negative people is a soft energy that is a powerful strength💥
Slowing down your movements is the best advice. It does work, 100%
I love being a woman. It is an enchantment all its own. I can use my femininity to both create and destroy. I choose to use my feminine wiles for good, but I am very much aware of the ability to use it otherwise. I would say I have a healthy respect for the darkness and shadow aspects of my femininity, but I intend towards the light and softness. It is a strength all its own. A quiet, cozy, smoldering blaze... But it burns all the same, no?
Love the way you worded this 💕
Beautifully said ~
I love you jillz. My feminine energy heals in real time as I watch your videos. I can literally apply everything you’re saying to my life and that’s very rare for me. Thank you for sharing your journey and to the angelic beings behind your beautiful testimonies. I just started following and I already feel like the woman I need to always be. You know, this energy is so complex sometimes and I’ve felt myself rushing through it most, if not my whole life. Feeling uncomfortable with it even, when I should definitely feel more uncomfortable in the opposite energy but it became a norm. Most of my astrological energies are masculine lol, my mother and older sister (the only women I had growing up to be an allegory of femininity) seemed to be so in their masculine. So I honestly didn’t see the use in or why I should even like pour more into my feminine nature. Im extremely goal oriented; a mix between hot and cool.
This feels invigorating. It’s crazy now it seems weird to be so hard and on fuckin edge 😂 I definitely rather be soft and in control of my inner world. The other way around.. I can be so nervous, angry, and honestly just those two drive me crazy; it interrupts and clouds my inner soft dialogue. Then somehow turns it into monologues of me talking myself out of this state which sinks me deeper so to say. 😂 it’s been a tough ride and I’m just happy to see beautiful women like yourself during the quest. Thanks again queen 💚
definitely a hot woman, and i came into a point in my life where i realized I need to be more soft and in my feminine energy. which is what led me to your videos a month back. so wonderfully said, as always thank you for the content! ☺️ always make my sundays.
Aw yay so glad!! 💕
Same with me!
The example of the hot and cold woman made so much sense!
i’m definitely hot and cool and the example you gave was perfect! i’m sicilian and i noticed most mediterranean and latin women are like that perfect blend of hot and cool. very sensual, confident, passionate and opinionated yet at the same time extremely nurturing, soft, and motherly. something ab the culture allows women to love and embrace their nature and express it very freely i’ve always been grateful for that
its just that pure venus energy that makes men go wild lol. you gotta have heat to you or you will be seen as weak and bland. but if you don’t have any coolness, you will be seen as a liability. i think like you mentioned about mother nature it’s important to have both and that makes an ideal man or woman imo
Jillz ~ you are sharing things in a way that really brings it home to me. I am 68 and have been quite 'hard' my whole life, mostly as a means of survival. Your other video about reinventing myself and this one have given me so much inspiration! May you be abundantly blessed for your sharing of these beautiful concepts.
I appreciate how these tips cater to everyone bcs most femininity tips I encounter always suggest changing a part of who I am or how I act so this was refreshing!! Thanks for the great vid 💕
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Ugh!! This video is amazing and so helpful! So glad I found your channel!! I really love all the tips and wisdom you had to say!
Definitely cold woman. I love the way you introduce the subject by bringing in the vast expansion of what a woman is. This video is more than amazing!! Thank you so much 💙🌸✨
So glad you liked it!! 💖
Love your videos ♥ Appreciate the knowledge being shared 😊💖
Such a wonderful video! I can totally relate to feeling as if everyone is constantly trying to put me down, or come at me.. it makes being laid back so much harder!
Thank you, Jills 😊❤️
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This is the second video I watched of yours. Just these words as a concept used to make to make my whole body recoil. The way you share about this is so warm…I sincerely thank you. ❤
I need it! Thank you. I love it.
I would say I’m quite a balance of both firey and cold. Thanks to videos like these I have learned to be a softer woman ❤️
I love you so much.this video is life changing. Thank you so much!
I like your videos so much! 😊It's exactly what I need because I am not familiar with my feminine energy. When I was a little girl, my dad left my mom and wanted to take my brother with him. He said that he didn't need a daughter, he always wanted to have a son. And my mom always told me that boys are smarter and better than girls in so many ways. I even thought that I am a transgender and want to be a boy because of that! Because I was so afraid to be rejected because I am a girl. And it made me didn't want to become a woman. I wasted so much time trying to prove to my mom that I am smart enough by competing with guys and showing that I can do the same. Now I am a grown woman but people still think I am a teen because I am not in harmony with my feminine energy. And I finally feel that it's time for me to heal my childhood trauma and not be afraid to wake my feminine energy up. Your videos helping me a lot! Thank you!
So glad they’re helping you!! 💙
im hoping the best for you and i hate your dad for being the worst human ever.
Thank you! Things gets so much better in my life now. I accepted myself as a woman, I am not afraid to be feminine now and happy with myself.
My Dad was not a good dad for sure. But I look for a good side of everything. Thanks to that difficult experience I came to my true nature from denying who I am at first. It helped me to become a very deep feeling & thinking, accepting and not judgmental person, and it attracted to me many wonderful people from other countries and I very happy about it. In my country it's very common for dads be not care of their kids and men here often has a very low emotional intelligence.
Clark Kegley, and Crappy Childhood Fairy are both CZcamsrs that have helped me through something similar to what you describe. and Read "the untethered soul"
@@justinegreen7509 Thank you very much! I will check those CZcams channels and the book.
I’m so glad to have come across your videos I think growing up and going through so much we forget our softer side and we have been thought to act tough and we do tend to forget Thank you for the tips
Definitely agree! 💕
@@JillzGuerin beautiful💋💋💋
I'm so happy I found your channel. The quality and work you have put into this is so very much appreciated.
I'm on this internal journey fighting these damaging ideas that femininity, humility and vulnerability is a sign of weakness. The pressure that is placed on us to perform and conform to masculine ways can feel almost strangling, so your words truly feels like a breath of fresh air. My heart feels lighter already.
Thank you so much!
Aw I’m so happy you found me too!!! ❤️❤️
I needed to hear this so much. Thank you!
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You are definitely a woman who has a soothing and calming effect on others.
When I watch your videos, I feel reassurance, calm and peace.
I too am a calm woman.
I needed this video in this moment so much ❤
Haven’t even watched yet but I NEEDED this topic!!
I thought i was a "Hot" woman until you said "Usually extroverted" 😅 Definitely not that but i am more passionate, even explosive about my feelings. Sometimes i'm too aggressive with my words that it comes out harsh. I'm working on chilling and mellowing out. It all starts with being self aware and actively working on being softer from the inside out. Thank you Jillz, i was actually avoiding this video because i thought i never wanted to be the "Soft" woman. So i'm soooo happy you pointed out that you don't always have to be soft nor is it an entire personality, just a small trait that comes out in a few situations 🤍
Yeah I think so many women resist this idea of being soft because it almost sounds like being boring or a pushover or weak. But it’s so much more than that 💕💕
I didn’t know how much I needed this video. Thank you Jillz!
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Same!
This was a great video. I've listened to it several times!
Aw so glad you liked it! ❤️
Thank you for this topic😘
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Jillz I love all your videos❤ You are wise beyond your years, and so inspiring. Thank you for being you and sharing your light xxx
The critical comment hit me hard. I'm so so critical of myself and have always been such a perfectionist. While it gives me an awesome work ethic, it makes it impossible to live up to my own expectations. I've been working on that so I don't put unrealistic expectations on my kids, husband, and friends and family. I also constantly preach to the girls that I mentor to give themselves grace, but I have a hard time doing that myself. I guess I have a hard time reeling it back because I don't want to go so far that I become lazy and apathetic towards things, so it's been hard to find the happy medium where I'm allowed to set goals and have standards, but don't allow them to define me as a failure and maybe learn how to adjust them when it's needed.
I loved all the tips! Very well put.
Thank you! So glad! 💕
Auch a good Video thank you!! I know I’m in my masculine energy because I’m very critical and harsh with myself and this way naturally hardened. I feel like everything is my responsibility… I hope I can turn my internal self around.
Glad you liked it!! ❤️❤️
Greetings from Brazil! Just found your channel and it’s awesome. Thank you 😊
So glad you found me!! 🥰
Great video. Thank you.
Completely a cool woman. I get a lot of comments about how people feel calm in my presence.
You are beautiful. Thank you for existing.
I love this channel.. I played basketball all my life & watch at least one of your videos everyday & I appreciate you so much for helping me relax & soften myself. Thank you 😊
Hope u share about choosing the right shade n more beauty natural hacks ♥️
Thank you for your videos!!!
You are so welcome! 🥰
I love your videos! 💜*
Loved this!!! Thank you :-)
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You make it sound so easy.
I love the way😂you bring your Self love out of you,, when you explain for us to understand relationship nice work Jill. Stevens
Im both, i love helping people but i also can get hot headed
Tip #8 🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣
I love your content Jillz, im going back to the beginning lol
The resistance part though! It’s the root of all my anxiety
I hear ya on that one! ❤️
Yess I love watching your videos because you are more soft and a lot of women making feminine energy videos are more fiery and thats not my jam haha I want a nice mix of both but leaning more towards soft.
Lovely video, Jillz. Great invitation to soften ourselves a little without losing our authentic selves. Thanks for sharing it.
Thank you 💕💕
You’re radiant ☀️ Thank you so much for the content you create. 🙏 🌸 I think I’m more hot but can be cool too depending on the situation.
Ah thank you!! 💕💕
Jillz, enjoying your videos so much! Any chance of converting your videos to a podcast? I’d love to listen on the go!
Your hair is so beautiful! Drop the hair care routine please🤍🙏🏻
Thank you!! 🥰
You're the best❤️
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Can you do a video about body types and describe which colour palette goes with which body type. I want to know about it in detail 💜 love you ✨.
Thank u❤
Omg-
this color looks stunning on you !
Ah thank you! 💕
Everyone should just balance masculine and feminine energy in themselves.
Not really. I think it depends on what your natural inclinations are, but if you are a naturally feminine woman, being more masculine will not be what males you happy. Of course you will need to be more masculine frok time to time, because life is like that, but the goal shouldnt be to develop the masculine energy, but tu improve upon your strengths
Love you jillz ❤❤
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I struggle with defensiveness and needing to be understood/ prove Myself
I only get hot when I feel unsafe or in a trauma response but my baseline is cool
Jillz that thumbnail!! 🔥💫💓⚡️🔥💖
Ahhh thank you!!! I really liked it too 🥰🥰
Best video!
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A video explaining the the basics of what feminine energy is, also versus masculine energy, would be very helpful.
Like if the masculine energy is doing and the feminine energy is being...then what do I actually "DO" if I'm just supposed to be "being lol.
Iam both. Fire and cool. Depends on situation.😃🙏
im defenitely like you, im cool and I am really good with calming people down.
I think I am both? I am soft and calm but I like to encourage and compliment people which makes them fire up haha I listen more and ask questions more and it makes people talk more and express themself. I just throw in some comments here and there.
love your videos! one question: is it possible for a woman to be lacking masculine energy? is there anything as too much feminine? would love a video on the topic! ❤️
Yes definitely! I’m hoping to do a video on this eventually! 💕
Im naturally a soft woman and need to learn to be more confident
Yes dress 👏🏽
Cool ❤️
Is CZcams reading my mind and my heart..even my life? Your Channel suddenly popped up and I clicked it and....every video from you is giving me slap in the face...wow
Haha so glad you found me!! I hope my videos are helpful for you!! ❤️❤️
Hey, could you do a video about Femininity in the work place?
I hate feeling harsh, rough and uncomfortable in my own skin just to be able to set my boundaries. 😢
Where do you find dresses like those in the background with the fluffy short sleaves (one in light pink, and some in blue...?)
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I've been trying to be more vulnerable. Found out the hard way that I had a narcissistic crazy best friend and it totally destroyed my relationship and that fake friendship.
You are getting me through a tough time 😕
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How do you talk more softly to self ? Kinder and to surrender and trust and not control LoL I'd like to know that one - Thank you for the video :) very informative
How do you know which you are fire/ice.. I was raised with strong masculine energy from both parents .. never learned softness .. environmental conditions make it difficult
Cool woman🙋🏾♀️
Somebody reads Louise hay😻
As a woman, love yourself before loving the world.
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I have a genuine question.
I have started lifting weights currently and while that is great I am struggling to feel strong yet feminine at the same time. Like I am struggling to associate muscles with femininity. Because we have it engrained in our brain that to be feminine is to look "soft" as well. Would love some tips 🥺
I love your eyes ❤
I think, I am a cooler person rather than hot) I've been struggling to accept my calmness last years cause I wanted to be more energetic and exciting but that state is super exhausting for me personally. After being active energetically I need to rest for a longer time😅...
I've always been the fiery woman but because that's interpreted as being 'a problem'. I've always wanted to be a cool woman. My mom was barely five feet tall and 100% fiery lol she had that passionate, fiery expression you see in like Italian women 😂 my mom was Acadian (French Canadian but our family came from France, on her side). She was a tomboy, but she wore red lipstick when she went out lol. She was a business owner, but also raised the kids at home (our house and business were maybe 20 steps apart 😂).
I want to be soft, and I can be.. But I lean fiery and against the grain.
It's hard to accept it, but I think it was actually something my husband fell in love with lol so, I don't want to lose it.
I'll figure it out, but the inbetween is tough lol
I really like the idea of the hot woman and the cool woman. And I really appreciate saying they're different aspects to the woman. I think that's makes it interesting. Part of my problem is being too calm cool alll the time and maybe not showing enough feelings are vulnerability. That may be why it's soup. 2 parrot child therapist patient with my ex-boyfriend. That I was ine up and he was one down.
Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Wonderful !!!! xxoxoxoxo
I definitely think I am a cool woman with hot woman tendencies! Absolutely loved this video 💕
Yay so glad you liked it!! 💜💜
Hot woman! I have a lot of passion for everything I do. But men are always scared and don’t understand my passion,even though I am very feminine and kind
I know this video is not about this but how do you get this hair color? Thanks :)
This is my natural hair color but I added super subtle babylights to the bottom half of my hair!
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what is your recording equipment, jillz??
This is what I use! www.amazon.com/shop/jillzguerin/list/8BG2QS7NT0KO
Im definitely a HOT woman, so the idea of being soft…just didn’t seem to make sense. But now it does 💖💖💖
I am definitely a cool woman.