‘Feminine energy cannot exist when there is not safety in the body’ . Exactly. I’m 46 and just now allowing myself to embrace my feminine energy and outward femininity… took me this long to inhabit my beautiful woman’s body and feel safe and secure within myself ( in boundary-keeping, standing up for myself as needed etc)
It’s crazy because i can only feel safe in my body when i’m in my room or alone. I have to step into my masculine to get things done. But it’s fine because I know i’ll get back into my feminine routine when I’m done.
To those who are in college and are about to get into stressful courses like medicine or law just remember that this demands a lot of the masculine energy that jillz talks about but don't forget to take atleast an hour or two off to really appreciate yourself and embody your feminine to the highest degree. Try things like skincare, dressing up or whatever makes you feel secure and feminine. if not, on the long run you'll be burnt out.
I really needed this , I am getting into med school , even though school hasn’t started yet my aunt started stressing me out to study and prepare ‘cuz she is a doctor and thinks that’s the best for me so thank you ❤
@@J.A.S.6congratulations! Medicine is very interesting, you will enjoy that for sure, but now try to relax. You will learn everything in its time eventually. But your health and well-being is more important than any studying. If you keep that in mind, you won’t be too stressed and burnt out. Lots of love and luck to you, your 3rd year med student😊🤍
Jillz, you're young enough to be my daughter, but I'm learning so much from you. When I watch your "feminine energy" videos, it explains so much about my own life. Never heard about feminine energy before. My generation was the first after the women's movement. We were encouraged to go after the big career, "lean in", put your career first," have it all." I was a total failure at all that. Just couldn't make myself do it. i tried. But all I really wanted, deep down inside, was a peaceful, quiet, slow life. Now I have it and I'm allowing myself to enjoy it and no longer beating up on myself for not having that big career. I do work, part-time, at a library. (I'm semi-retired.) It's the perfect job for this time in my life and I love it!
Same here. I am a baby boomer, came of age in the 1970s and was driven and motivated by those same ideals for decades. More recently, 70 hour work weeks, tremendous stress and pressure, frequent nightmares, etc. A few weeks ago I hit a wall and realized I had to get out for my health. I put in notice and retired earlier than planned. This is only my second week at home and the shift has been powerful -- I'm slowly starting to blossom and heal -- mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually. Now, here I am learning these life lessons from a woman young enough to be my daughter as well. Lol. Your part-time library job sounds wonderful. I wish I'd learned this lesson a long time ago. Nothing is worth the pain of a career that makes you feel like you're going into battle every day.
It's because the "masculine/feminine energy" thing is far-right propaganda to distract from the fact that late stage capitalism is grinding everyone into the dirt. What she describes as "masculine energy" - ie only caring about success, money, pushing yourself constantly - is capitalist brainwashing. Of course everyone's mental and physical health would improve if we didn't have to slave away at jobs we hate and could rest and recover. Women get more stressed and burnt out because the expectations that were put on men were then put on women on top of all domestic and emotional labour. I totally understand this creator's reaction to her stressful life but it's sad so many miss the point and instead turn to this "masc/fem energy" bullshit that only enforces the harmful gender roles that got us here.
This is similar to me. I think had a nervous breakdown and became very sick and in a lot of pain. I had teens, a bad marriage, I was working two jobs. I am currently trying to figure out how to heal so I can work again.
I lost it few years ago, life forced me. I escaped from a toxic relationship, I got cancer, I lost a job, corona time started, my mom got cancer and died. I live alone in Germany and yes, all happened at the same time. Thinking that I got a second chance for living I forced myself to build my life again. After 3 years, of hard work, I realised how much I changed, I am super proud of me but I feel that it is time to balance my feminine energy. I need more relax time, accept to receive and enjoy my life. Thanks for this video
This is a beautiful perspective of healing the feminine. But there are some caveats. 1. Becoming feminine can easily lead to submissiveness of the emotionally and physically destructive type. There has to be a balance, cause not all of us have the luxury of having a guy who will appreciate us/protect/ support us. I come from a culture where women don't stand up for themselves due to perceived female roles, and domestic abuse and femicide is rampant. 2. Becoming feminine should not mean you quit working entirely, because relying on a man leaves you in the dust if he decides to cheat and leave you. We all have stories of the women in our past (moms, grandmas, great-grandmas who suffered greatly due to this). Jillz still works technically, with YT ads and sponsorships. Not everyone can just go ahead and be a YTer. 3. Becoming feminine should not mean you become a housemaid. Point blank. Our grandmothers from the old country are obvious examples of what a miserable life that was. You can't romanticize your life, be in cute clothes, and run around frolicking if you are constantly cleaning up after the people in your life. As Jillz said, get creative. Do art. Do something that ISN'T just caregiving. 4. Do not make the mistake of "becoming feminine" with the wrong partner. This leads to much suffering. 5. Not every woman is meant to be feminine. Nature has made us mutable. We can be strong. We can lead. We can direct. We can be loving. We can be compassionate. We can be creative. We can be communal. Life is NOT just black and white.
Yeah I was wondering that, I definitely feel my soft/feminine side has been wounded and I want to fix it. But I got really uncomfortable during the relationship part of the video when she talked about letting her man lead her. Of course that's totally okay if that's what makes her happy! But I don't want to be led, I always found it somewhat degrading/dismissive of my own capabilities. I want to know if there's a way to lean in to the soft feminine side while still not being a "follower." I want to be independent and lead myself, while still being soft and empathetic, intuitive and creative. Is there any way to do all that and if so how? Lol
@@april-zz9pqI think yes, it just looks different for men and women. Women usually won't get anywhere by giving out orders and being "domineering." If you find a good guy who leads, he will still ask your input for every important decision and he will not make any decisions that cause you to suffer. We just need to go about it in a different way. I know it can be scary to trust someone, but we have to find that person we can trust to listen to us and consider us in every decision.
It's so funny, I did so many of the things you mentioned when I was healing from depression without even knowing what feminine energy means. I guess I inuitively got back into my feminine energy because that was what felt good to me.
SAME! I did want to hear her address depression and burnout. Burning out in grad school forced me to do exactly as she did... without calling any of it feminine. Simply loving and nurturing and valuing my Self, as is, here, now. I gave myself that safety by healing my traumas and re-evaluating what I was supposed to be doing with my life, getting spiritual. Replacing perfectionism with "good enough" and gratitude and appreciation. Etc!
Oh and somewhere along the way, I had come across the idea of staying soft. Not letting life's struggles to make me hard, judgmental, critical, defensive, blah blah blah. I suppose that's "feminine". But honestly, I feel like men could use all this wisdom just as much? I dunno.
Wow! That was powerful. I realized that over the years I became full of masculine energy. I am the CEO of a startup, always driving, always pushing, leading men made me tougher, I ran marathons listening to a bunch of hardass military guys like David Goggins and Jocko. I always wear armor trying to be strong. This year I am trying to find my feminine energy without quitting my role. I believe it's possible. Thank you for the great video. You spoke to my soul!
Hah! This is me right now too. Let me know if you found anything that works! As a CEO I’m often the least experienced on my team in their job, so I need to let my team lead at what they do best, while supporting them with the context of the company/market/info they need.
It's completely possible. You can do your role as a CEO. Just spend an hour or two to get in touch and feed into your femm energy. Could be simple things like beauty baths, or makeup and skincare. But more than anything, just the state of being. Like a huge Tree. It can be treated as masculine energy, the way it struggles to germinate and persists to grow, fulfilling the needs of other creatures under it. But the femm energy, it is beautiful for just existing. Being a part or even the main focus of the picture. Its isn't growing for anyone elese said so. ❤
I'm a woman in spite of the user name- I have a ritual of leaving my feminine at the door as I walk in to work, and picking up the masculine, like putting on armor. Then at the end of the day, I have a similar ritual at the door- dropping my armor and masculine energy, then picking up my feminine. I relax, lean back, listen to meditation, and I even have a "place" where I go in my mind. My own beach where I walk in a flowy dress, ankle deep in the warm water, smelling the salt air and roses in the air. There's a forest nearby, a rose garden, and a bed with curtains where I can lie and watch the waves or the sky. I go there mentally until I have found that feminine energy and become more laid back and letting things happen. If I'm super stressed or if it's Friday, I go browse at a store with scents in it, or art - I may go to Target and look at lingerie... It sounds silly, but I didn't know how to be "feminine" until I practiced. I got a sweet little teddy bear hamster who was super tame, and I'd relax holding him and feel warm and cuddly. All this has helped me. Eventually, I did get out of that world and went in a new direction as a writer, and took a lot of time off, spent time in relaxing hobbies like salsa dancing and kayaking, hiking with a club, none of this competitive!
I feel like so many women including myself fall into this trap of working hard, achieving, and fixing everything trying to be super women. This also hurt me too. I took a year off and it was the best time of my life when I didnt have to do anything that I didnt want to do. And you know what happened, I got to know ME. I did not know who I was. I knew myself through what others thought of me. When I got to know ME, I realized what a beautiful feminine person I was. Its a beautiful feeling for sure.
@27:46 *_The feminine energy wants to feel loved, they want to feel cherished and that is not just the job of the man in your life it's your job as well!_* 🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼 This line was the most eye 👁️ 👄 👁️ opening for me. Thanks for sharing this. I love it and feel grateful for spending my time to listen to this in my hectic schedule. It's worth my time. 💗💗💗
You're exactly right. We have to insist on it, even if by simply leaving the situation in favor of finding others who will realize that is what we deserve and who we are. It has taken me years to realize that, and I'm making the changes I need to live in that parameter for myself.
I feel this so hard. I quit my matrix job in June 2022 and since then, I have been slowly healing my feminine energy. Part of the work was tapping into my inner child and playing. I’m healing from a SA so the sensual and feeling beautiful aspects have been a rollercoaster for me. I do things I love like cooking, rollerskating, being creative, dancing and being outdoors. It’s really helped me to step up in my true purpose on this Earth. Similar to what you said, I had to reframe how I thought about success and being seen. I had to get comfortable being seen as myself, no matter how society views me. Leaving my job and going on this journey has been the best thing I’ve ever done for my adult self! I started my own spiritual business and Im so excited!
I feel you! rollerskating dancing and being outside as well as making art have healed me from years worth of corporate burnout, ed and anxiety. too bad i didnt apply them sooner:p
I'm 52 years old. I work in IT. My life has been defined by firsts...first grandchild first black at my Catholic school to win in forensics, first black to be a majorette at my high school, first college graduate in my family, first at various jobs to accomplish this or that. Let me tell you how your words healed me. Yes, the love of my life for 7 years finally told me why he is challenged with marriage with me...my masculine energy is serious and I'm not a submissive woman. 😮 Gut punch. This video has given me insight on that point of view. I doubt if marry him, but I think I will marry myself. This is so much more and it is life changing. This video is life changing for me sweetie. Thank you!❤🥰🥳🍾💋
Why is it so important to men that their women be submissive? After all, men are human beings too (as wonderful as they may be). They are also prone to making bad decisions and being bad at certain things.
@@blue4u2054 I think this is a very good point. I also think that sometimes when men say this, what they really mean is 'receptive,' as in being open to their ideas, as opposed to just being subservient.
@@rachelmilloy7640 If that were true, then they would just use the word "receptive". But they don't. So, I am sure (from social media experience) that those men do indeed want subservient wives. I just can't understand why.
@@blue4u2054 Hmm... Maybe it's a way of feeling some sense of power in their lives, especially for those men who feel disempowered in some way, and haven't found a path to healthy masculine power?
@@rachelmilloy7640 Exactly. And that is precisely why I have a problem with this whole thing. People associate femininity with "submission" or "taking a backseat". But it's really about taking charge with grace, strength and confidence.
I feel like this is where I am at right now.. I am 28 and have been in my masculine energy since 16. Trying to stay afloat. Take care of myself, pay rent pay bills etc.. and Now I am trying to take a step back and be more feminine/explore my feminine energy
this video was meant for me! perfect timing. I've been in my masculine energy all my life due to growing up in a dysfunctional broken family environment, just starting my feminine energy healing journey recently after diagnosing what was wrong with me. yes I have the health issues as a result of the imbalance too. praying I will heal completely soon. and frankly I'm tired of the rat race and being in flight or fright for so long, and I hate how so much career pressure is placed on us women when the fact is our delicate bodies are not designed for this. therefore, I just want the soft life now. to simply look after my home and family, that would be my dream life.
I resonate so much with jumping into masculine energy to find security & pushing myself to my limits to feel "good enough". Thank you for sharing these insights!! Healing our feminine energy is so important 🤍
When you mentioned imagine yourself as a child and how you would treat her, that really hit me. I have recently embraced my femininity and it has truly changed my life for the better, including my relationship :) x
@@SS-rg5di it feels like I am more at touch with who i am. Like it's what the universe wants me to do. I am more positive, and i feel more spiritual, and feel special and powerful as a woman. I barely feel dissociated anymore, when that used to happen daily. I am open to receiving, to being loved, to being cared for. I treat myself and i let others treat me. I wear bright colours and I stay away from people and places that give off negative energy. I am doing the things I love where i can be creative, like pole dancing, and appreciate the little things. I now guide myself primarily using my feelings rather than logic. Ultimately, it feels like you are aligned with your body and your innate self, which has always been there, waiting to be accepted.
Because of my situation, I have found that embracing going make-up free and not fixing myself up (however, still have proper grooming, of course) has been one of the key things to stepping into my own divine feminine - being comfortable and feeling good in my natural-body, with minimal enhancements. Which, I think is especially important, what with the fact of my desire to be a wife and mother, and all the fears I had developed around such, due to my upbringing, family, and all around circumstances. Myself, my husband, and my kids are the only One’s who will be around me when I am both beautiful and frumpy. When I am strong or breaking down. It’s been necessary for me to accept that - and trust I am always worthy of being and receiving love, loyalty, and support, no matter how I look/present myself.
I love this so much. I am miserable working full-time and pursuing my university education. I feel like I'm obsessed with my goals, to the point where they have trumped my personal time, self-care, and taking care of my body. I strongly want to focus on my classes which I love, but so scared to quit my job with all of the amazing benefits it has... And I do love my job as well. I'm just tired from doing too much.
I feel for you. I myself am a college student (it’s like a field specialized high school in my country) and I lived very miserably past two years there. My only reason to live and keep pushing was the hope to get into european university and escape the toxic system and society I live in. To the extent when I do not pay any attention to my body and mental health anymore. But the final project for the college ended yesterday and now I’m thinking of leaving the place or even taking gap year to reconnect with my true self, instead of that agressive persona I wear to feel protected from the toxic community in the college.
I’ve gone down this rabbit hole of fixing my feminine energy, and I cannot express enough how grateful and hopeful it makes me feel. Everything you mentioned hit me to my core. Thank you for sharing!
I lost my mother when I was 15. With that I lost a lot of the feminine energy in my life. The part where you talked about telling your past self and your future self telling you things was so helpful for me. Thank you so much.
I’m so sorry you lost your mother. I also lost my mom when I was 15 and haven’t realized until now how much that drained my feminine energy. I lost my dad at the same time so I was forced to take on both the role of mother and father to myself. I’m glad we are both on the journey to reclaiming our feminine energy 💕
I did not realise how much I needed that video until I watched it, thank you so much for sharing all of that with us ! Healing doesn't seem so hard anymore 🌷
This video is really helpful. As someone who is on their journey of healing, I find that everything you said was a confirmation. I quit my job and I’ve been stressed about money ever since but during that time period, I leaned so many things about myself and the things that bring me gratitude and joy.
I found your channel at the right time. I’ve had an incredibly hard 3 years (deaths, family mental health crises, stressful job) - with the last 9 being the hardest. I reached a turning point when I said “I will stop taking care of others and I will start really taking care of myself” while also going through some hardcore therapy (seeing two therapists and a coach) and also leaning into what my personality thrives in. I have never felt better than I do now. I still have that stressful job but I no longer let my anxiety take the wheel. And yes, I am using my feminine energy more - more mentorship and diplomacy. I love wearing this super smooth lipstick that I wear in my desk, for no one but just me. I am writing poetry. Your videos are now what I need
This video is incredible. How you put in words EVERY aspect that i’m working on…just make me feel so secure about what i’m doing and also doesn’t make me feel alone. Now I know that i’m not the only girl in this situation. Thank you.
Thank you for this video. I did the same, closed my business that put me in the masculine and changed the mindset that I need to prove myself via my career. Now I have all the time in the world to be in the moment and embody feminine energy, never regretted quitting work.
Jillz I just wanted to say I started watching your videos in January, right around when i lost my job and I’ve been living alone since I was 18 so losing my job was very scary for me because I was very independent and always acting in my masculine energy by doing everything on my own and not letting anyone help, making things worse. My overall relationships were draining, my health was going down a rabbit hole, I gained weight, I wasn’t bettering myself. I had lost my feminine energy without even knowing. In January when I started watching your videos I realized my energy had been wounded and needed to fix it. It’s been a rough journey, but finally my feminine energy is repairing, my mental health has improved, I’ve been going to the gym for my own sake in health and high esteem, I’ve been asking for help from others when in the past I couldn’t. Im is glad you’re helping these women out and that you could help me. Empowering women is definitely your calling. Im glad I stumbled upon your videos, somehow the universe just knew I needed your help. So for that, i appreciate you so much :) keep doing what youre doing ❤️
I feel like this is exactly the struggles I’ve had and needed to hear this! Everything you said about yourself I was like “this is me”, such an insightful video!
Thank you Jills ❤🙏 I do need to slow down, relax, embrace and nourish my feminine energy. For the last 2 years I had a feeling that I drove myself into a dead end. I don’t want to fight anymore. It is enough. I’m ready to find the way home ❤
I can resonate with this fully and are feeling this way now. This video couldn’t have come at the right time. I feel like if I don’t have everything right now or have my ‘ducks in a row’ then I’m not successful or look/feel right. Amazing content hun xx
This video really resonated with me. I typically never comment on videos but felt very touched and in tune with your words. I have also been stuck in my masculine energy for a long time and have a very similar experience with always focusing on everything external and feeling like I need to compete, I worked very hard since high school and currently work in consulting engineering. I was feeling miserable and out of touch with myself and the pandemic gave me an opportunity to tune more into myself and realize I wasn't living the life I wanted. I am still in the same career but partly working from home and getting a puppy this past year has truly made a huge difference. I still struggle to find time to do things that truly give me joy and find myself always going to work even when I have free time. Thank you for inspiring to continue this journey to finding myself and completely healing my feminine energy!
I can really see how strong you are and have been through this transformation of yours! The way you turned your life around in this practical and loving way is very inspirational for me who is going through something similar. I’ve had this fight and flight and masculine response for a long time even though it’s much better healed now. Thank you for the reminder to make life enjoyable again and take the time needed for balance and recovery ❤ P.S this wasn’t easy to hear at first but it really got to me. Hope everyone reading this will have a great day
you know, you enlighten us women about embracing our feminine energy . After listening to you, you brought out a lot of positive and inspiring thoughts that resonates with me. Thanks for sharing .
This is PROFOUND. I believe this is one of the reasons why so many young women are either A) Angry or B)Commit suicide. They are immersed in an environment and taught in school to hate their Feminine Energy and operate in Masculine Energy. They are taught that Masculinity is Toxic and is the same as Bad Patriarchy at the same time being encouraged to embrace masculine actions/ behaviors. This creates discordance and discomfort. So sad and such a waste of lives well spent! Bless you Jillz for this lesson. I am 60 and desperately needed this RIGHT NOW. We need to spread this message of healing.
Thank you so much Jillz for sharing your experience and gems of wisdom. You have truly been an instrumental part of my own healing journey. I am so grateful and inspired by you. Thank you again 💕
This video was uploaded just at the right time, Jillz. Thank you! 👌 Many things you listed were things I needed to hear right now. I especially liked the point about journaling how the day went - I can already see the potential in it to better my own life. One thing I started doing some time ago and that really helped me was speaking more kindly to myself. ❤
Thank you so much for posting this video. I’ve been trying to listen to podcasts, journal, etc. and nothing seems to be working to break the barrier which is myself. In all seriousness, I cried at the end of your video, because your words and your advice are so powerful and have the ability to create so much change. Thank you.
I feel blessed to have found this video - Divine Timing ✨ I am at the precipice of my healing journey and this video is so amazingly put together and I can not wait to begin a life of finding and embracing my feminine energy! Thank you for putting this out in the universe - I really feel like it’s a gift 🎁
I am twenty one and I already knew most of the things you mentioned. However it still helped me a lot because I feel secure now in what I do. So thank you for this video!
Wow this video so so needed and good! Really appreciate it, my dad passed last year and I definitely noticed myself stepping into a masculine role for my family and my body and self have changed so much! Here is to healing ❤
Jillz thank you so much for you amazing and joyful vibe. I’m so glad the you speak of true femininity. It’s very hard on CZcams to find women that aren’t afraid of talking about submission, nurture and softness. You’re brave and I respect you for that. You are an inspiration for me. I wish you the best for you and your marriage. Thanks for being on this earth with us 🙏🏻 💕
You’re lovely and I think it takes a specific type of person to acknowledge that. Many women nowadays function on a masculine energy and they don’t even realize it
This resonates soooo much! All that striving to prove yourself... ignoring body, soul and intuition... utterly exhausting. So glad I've moved beyond that now. I'm still learning though - thank you so much for your content!
Great video, Jillz. For me, the path has had ups and downs, too. But, my favorite step to overcome those was to learn to love myself much more. Self-love is the base of everything else and truly changes how we perceive the world. Rediscovering, reconnecting, and retraining our feminine energy is always a worthy pursuit. Thanks for sharing your process.
Thank you so much for sharing your own experiences! I feel disappointed in many aspects of my life now and I'm so tired of controlling my life and being so strict to myself. I'm working to heal myself and your video really helped me feel safe. Thank you so much : )
So cool! Yes, please do a video on leaning back in relationships! Also, I recently switched companies for my career because I realized that the environment was creating TOO much of the masculine energy within me. Whereas in my previous environnment I was in my feminine energy WAY more and life was a hell of a lot easier, so I've gone back to an environment like that one and can't wait to start!
I feel healing anxious attachment is a bit trickier because it literally hijacks your nervous system and makes it incredibly difficult to act as if. It's the anxiety and racing thoughts that are just SO strong. I feel as though avoidant attachment isn't AS charged on the nervous system as anxious is.
Only saying this because I am on the journey of healing it to become more securely attached!! If anyone has any pointers on healing their anxious attachment let me know! Xx
I have just come across your channel a couple of days ago and I have to say you are already helping me so much I really needed this video and you are opening a whole part of me that has been lost since my divorce 4 years ago. I've had to be strong and be the provider and ,protector at home for my daughter , a manager at work, and more. I have completely lost myself and you are getting me back on track. All I can say is thank you. I love your energy and I love the balance you have and that's what I want.
Thank you so much for this video, I think I had started also to lean more and more into my masculine energy, doing hardcore boxing twice a week, and heavy weights at home sometimes. Always doing a workout every day in the week.. I sprained my knee 2-3 weeks ago and that really made me slow down so much more and reconnect to my soft feminine beautiful energy and aspect of myself so thank you for this video ❤️❤️❤️
I really loved this video Jillz. So much of your journey mirrors my own return to health and vitality. It’s taken me longer than you but it’s still wonderful to reach a place where I now love and accept myself as I am. I refuse to bend to other people’s ideas of how I should live. Nothing good has come from that for me. I’m naturally very feminine and the way society pressures woman to conform into what it perceives as successful doesn’t fit with what makes me healthy and happy. People can think what they think of course, I’ve learnt to care less about that too. I have stepped into a place of empowerment, a place where I follow my own guidance, my own inner compass. I sense a lot more queen energy within me now. Naturally of course, my health and wellbeing has improved drastically. Thank goodness for that strong intuition and the urge I felt to follow it! I also now give in to all my innate passions, one of which is also astrology ❤
The more videos of yours I watch the more I’m beginning to understand. Little Jill didn’t feel protected. And there have been other times throughout my life when I didn’t. When I’ve tried to be,look, act more feminine, my masculine energy quickly grew tired of it and it didn’t feel authentic. I love being a woman but always feel the need to protect myself. I’m now blessed with a husband who values me and wants to protect and that was the beginning of my understanding that I really want and need that. I downloaded your meditation and workbook and will be starting today. Great work Jillz. 🌷💖
I felt the most feminine and at peace with myself when I stayed home during covid. My husband also seemed to step more into his masculine when I was home. Unfortunately, financial strains can force us to forfeit this. I've had so many health issues since returning to work. You mentioned how the divine feminine needs to feel safe and supported in order to thrive. It seems unfair that our well-being is so contingent on factors outside of our control. While men benefit from the feminine influence, it seems not as essential in order for them to step into their divinity. How are women supposed to flourish if we're not supported?
I hear you, I’m sorry you have those issues. I don’t know what you are struggling with today exactly. Or how to solve it, or if you feel seen and heard at all. I don’t want to preach to you but God cares about you, especially when you feel small and feel ‘useless’ or unloved. Again I’m not trying to preach I just care about you and I’ll pray for you
It seems to us women that it’s seems not as essential for men to step into their masculine divinity because right now we are living in a man’s world. This world is designed to support men and men are thriving. The world isn’t designed to support us women, unfortunately.
I have been in masculine energy throughout my entire life. Right since early childhood. And I realised this only last year . However even with the realisation , I had not started dropping my masculine shield. The fact that I was single and completely responsible for my own finances didnt help either. This video however has made me re- realise the need to now work on my feminine energy ❤
Wow, this is exactly the mindset change I need right now. Thank you so much for this video!!! This makes so many things in my life make sense and click into place. Looking forward to making some intentional changes and the joy that will come with them!
You have such an art in explaining things in a way that resonates. The last part about loving yourself and looking back in 30 years time made me cry and realise I need to do work in this area 💞 thank you 🙏
Okay I didn’t realize this was so me until I watched this video. Thank you so much for making this and opening up my eyes to understanding where my masculine energy is coming from, and where I can grow my feminine energy to better my relationships with myself and others
If you can, a video on mothering your significant other like you mentioned would be so good I think a lot of us would benefit from your knowledge on that topic 🥰
Really thank you... as a student, i really identify with the "go go go hustle" as you mentioned, to just kinda "exist to achieve something", and I never actually connected THIS with suppressing the feminine energy. I noticed that I am "fired up" so easily and getting angry fast :( Thank you for reminding me what and who I am...and to just kinda get back to myself
Man that last point was the straw that broke the camels back for me. That really hit home. I really appreciate you making this video I’ve been noticing I’ve been struggling and this came just in time not to mention the coincidence that this was posted on my birthday. Please keep making videos they really help❤️
This. Is. Everything. These were the answers I have sought for so long. I never understood myself so I couldn’t expect others to understand me. Being in the military and constantly “grinding” made me burn out. I am now embracing the soft, nurturing side of me and healing what I thought was broken. Thank you so much, I am sincerely grateful for you and all the other ladies out there on their journey. 💕💕💕
This is so enlightening. I found myself being the masculine one in our relationship. After watching this, I decided to take a small steps back and let my husband take on his masculine power again. Thank you Jill for sharing your light 🤎✨
You're just so high vibe, Miss Jill! ☺️ I caught myself smiling while you say that "I truly love myself more". That's just a sweet reminder, that, yeah, let's truly love ourselves, girls! We deserve it. 🤎✨
At the end of the video, talking about your inner child and everything I started to cry, I think this was an emotional fully present moment, thank you, this is the first time I see your videos
I am so lucky to have bumped into this video, I been seeking to build my feminine energy and let go of the strong shell I had to work in - the masculine energy. Thank you for reminding me, the basics to happy girl tings. Roller blading has always been my thing but bike riding and Dancing is the missing part of me I think.❤ I needed this channel
I was about to go tell my boyfriend he needs to get out of bed, but then got to the part of your video that said don’t tell him what to do 😅 it’s so hard to stop myself though
I totally get you. I am in a long term relationship and soon going to be married. And I am glad that I am getting to know my feminine side before marriage. I have been a tomboy all my life. To me cooking, cleaning and household stuff felt like a task. But lately I’ve been really enjoying cooking and stuff. And I am actually really happy about it. I have started to dress more feminine , started taking care of my body externally and internally. I have never felt so relaxed and happy. Big corporations have started to make women believe that this fast life is what will empower them. When in reality living a slow life, not competing with random strangers, living the life at your own pace is something I feel is true happiness and empowering . (Atleast to me) . Ik it might me different for some people and that’s okay❤
Watching any of your videos for the first time and honestly, it's BEAUTIFUL. Calm, warm, and sweet. Thank you for creating this one. Love from a Pakistani woman ❤
WOW JILLZ I AM SO IMPRESSED!!!! YOU DID A TOTAL LIFE TRANSFORMATION. CONGRATULATIONS!!!! YOU TOOK YOUR POWER BACK AND YOUR LIFE BACK. PLEASE KEEP US UPDATED. TOTALLY AWSOME VIDEO AND EDUCATION. THANKS FOR SHARING.
Thank you for this , I am currently trying to learn more about how masculine and feminine energy attracts and repels one another . I think it’s a little hard to tap fully into feminine energy when we have to be ‘equal partners ‘ and put in 50/50 say, work wise , because we both need to work really hard to make ends meet and that brings out my masculine energy daily . Like you said , not everyone can take a break from work and/or life . That’s the current struggle , how can I balance feminine energy while having to ‘get sh done ‘ 😕
Why does it matter live how you want to live. Doesn’t matter if your feminine or not it just gender roles do what makes you happy. Personally I like working and being in school because I like a challenge I like to be mentally stimulated and I just don’t find that being a stay at home wife or mom no offense to those moms out there that’s fine for them it just doesn’t do it for me I would even say that at one point in my life when I did do that I was the most depressed and unhappy that I’ve ever been. It’s not for everyone remember that just because your a man or woman shouldn’t determine your roles. Do what works for your own life because your the one that has to live and deal with the consequences and challenges nobody else!
Hi Rachel, just thought I would clarify she isn’t talking about feminine and masculine as we understand them in traditional gender roles. It’s more metaphysical, for example in Traditional Chinese Medicine and/or Ancient Yogic traditions that we all have yin/yang, right/left, masculine (active, fire, sun) and feminine (night, moon, yin) energies. This is what she’s talking about. It’s not the physical aspects of “makeup or not makeup” “corporate job or less aggressive industry job” it’s a higher level of divine feminine energy. Masculine = control, aggression, fire, pushing, giving, doing Feminine = receiving, being, passive, flow, intuition I hope this helps!
thanks for posting this. It resonates with me. I feel like ive been semi trapped in my masculine energy forever (due to having to be very independent growing up). I am 39 and still single. I keep attracting mommies boys and men who are not ready or still attached and trying to heal from exes. I realised it may be because im too in my masculine energy. I guess it feels convenient for those kind of men to be with an independent women who takes care of herself
Embracing my feminie energy has changed me so much... I was seriously burnt out and went more and more into my masculine energy thinking that would fix me. It was only when I was so deep into my masculine energy that I broke down (after a long abusive relationship), and finally gave up and learned to find happiness in my feminine energy. I'm so much happier, I wish this was talked about more 😢 thanks so much for your videos x
As a self improvement man, it really made me happy to see that there were still feminine women out there and that it wasn't just me who thought women changed by modern feminism extremely unattractive. My girlfriend asked me a couple of days ago how she could improve and since that day I have been searching. I think this is the most comprehensive guide to really attracting a quality man. Just thank you very much for helping so many people
‘Feminine energy cannot exist when there is not safety in the body’ . Exactly. I’m 46 and just now allowing myself to embrace my feminine energy and outward femininity… took me this long to inhabit my beautiful woman’s body and feel safe and secure within myself ( in boundary-keeping, standing up for myself as needed etc)
yes
So true, whenever I feel anxious I just relax my body, feel.soft, and then focus on feeling safe and I manage to 🙌
@@higherselftarot4304 nice idea
It’s crazy because i can only feel safe in my body when i’m in my room or alone. I have to step into my masculine to get things done. But it’s fine because I know i’ll get back into my feminine routine when I’m done.
How did you do it ?
To those who are in college and are about to get into stressful courses like medicine or law just remember that this demands a lot of the masculine energy that jillz talks about but don't forget to take atleast an hour or two off to really appreciate yourself and embody your feminine to the highest degree. Try things like skincare, dressing up or whatever makes you feel secure and feminine. if not, on the long run you'll be burnt out.
I really needed this , I am getting into med school , even though school hasn’t started yet my aunt started stressing me out to study and prepare ‘cuz she is a doctor and thinks that’s the best for me so thank you ❤
@@J.A.S.6 same here!
Got into a medschool today and I'm so excited to be in this field
@@J.A.S.6congratulations! Medicine is very interesting, you will enjoy that for sure, but now try to relax. You will learn everything in its time eventually. But your health and well-being is more important than any studying. If you keep that in mind, you won’t be too stressed and burnt out. Lots of love and luck to you, your 3rd year med student😊🤍
Great advice. I felt so masculine after engineering school. That degree was HARD and i was always stressed out and hyper independent
Ooooh I’m a 3rd year med student who LIVES for academic validation 😭😭😭 thank you! Love this comment🥹❤️
I felt more feminine when i started to accept my flaws, working on my insecurity and just relaxing.
Jillz, you're young enough to be my daughter, but I'm learning so much from you. When I watch your "feminine energy" videos, it explains so much about my own life. Never heard about feminine energy before.
My generation was the first after the women's movement. We were encouraged to go after the big career, "lean in", put your career first," have it all." I was a total failure at all that. Just couldn't make myself do it. i tried. But all I really wanted, deep down inside, was a peaceful, quiet, slow life. Now I have it and I'm allowing myself to enjoy it and no longer beating up on myself for not having that big career. I do work, part-time, at a library. (I'm semi-retired.) It's the perfect job for this time in my life and I love it!
Same here. I am a baby boomer, came of age in the 1970s and was driven and motivated by those same ideals for decades. More recently, 70 hour work weeks, tremendous stress and pressure, frequent nightmares, etc. A few weeks ago I hit a wall and realized I had to get out for my health. I put in notice and retired earlier than planned. This is only my second week at home and the shift has been powerful -- I'm slowly starting to blossom and heal -- mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually. Now, here I am learning these life lessons from a woman young enough to be my daughter as well. Lol. Your part-time library job sounds wonderful. I wish I'd learned this lesson a long time ago. Nothing is worth the pain of a career that makes you feel like you're going into battle every day.
Thank you Alexia 😊your comment resonates with me. X
It's because the "masculine/feminine energy" thing is far-right propaganda to distract from the fact that late stage capitalism is grinding everyone into the dirt. What she describes as "masculine energy" - ie only caring about success, money, pushing yourself constantly - is capitalist brainwashing. Of course everyone's mental and physical health would improve if we didn't have to slave away at jobs we hate and could rest and recover. Women get more stressed and burnt out because the expectations that were put on men were then put on women on top of all domestic and emotional labour. I totally understand this creator's reaction to her stressful life but it's sad so many miss the point and instead turn to this "masc/fem energy" bullshit that only enforces the harmful gender roles that got us here.
I'm the same but never had any inclination for 'feminine energy' what a crock. Took early retirement after 35+ years as a healthcare professional.
This is similar to me. I think had a nervous breakdown and became very sick and in a lot of pain. I had teens, a bad marriage, I was working two jobs. I am currently trying to figure out how to heal so I can work again.
I lost it few years ago, life forced me. I escaped from a toxic relationship, I got cancer, I lost a job, corona time started, my mom got cancer and died. I live alone in Germany and yes, all happened at the same time. Thinking that I got a second chance for living I forced myself to build my life again. After 3 years, of hard work, I realised how much I changed, I am super proud of me but I feel that it is time to balance my feminine energy. I need more relax time, accept to receive and enjoy my life. Thanks for this video
This is a beautiful perspective of healing the feminine. But there are some caveats.
1. Becoming feminine can easily lead to submissiveness of the emotionally and physically destructive type. There has to be a balance, cause not all of us have the luxury of having a guy who will appreciate us/protect/ support us. I come from a culture where women don't stand up for themselves due to perceived female roles, and domestic abuse and femicide is rampant.
2. Becoming feminine should not mean you quit working entirely, because relying on a man leaves you in the dust if he decides to cheat and leave you. We all have stories of the women in our past (moms, grandmas, great-grandmas who suffered greatly due to this). Jillz still works technically, with YT ads and sponsorships. Not everyone can just go ahead and be a YTer.
3. Becoming feminine should not mean you become a housemaid. Point blank. Our grandmothers from the old country are obvious examples of what a miserable life that was. You can't romanticize your life, be in cute clothes, and run around frolicking if you are constantly cleaning up after the people in your life. As Jillz said, get creative. Do art. Do something that ISN'T just caregiving.
4. Do not make the mistake of "becoming feminine" with the wrong partner. This leads to much suffering.
5. Not every woman is meant to be feminine. Nature has made us mutable. We can be strong. We can lead. We can direct. We can be loving. We can be compassionate. We can be creative. We can be communal. Life is NOT just black and white.
Thanks a lot for these caveats, they are as wise as the message from the video❤
Yeah I was wondering that, I definitely feel my soft/feminine side has been wounded and I want to fix it. But I got really uncomfortable during the relationship part of the video when she talked about letting her man lead her. Of course that's totally okay if that's what makes her happy! But I don't want to be led, I always found it somewhat degrading/dismissive of my own capabilities. I want to know if there's a way to lean in to the soft feminine side while still not being a "follower." I want to be independent and lead myself, while still being soft and empathetic, intuitive and creative. Is there any way to do all that and if so how? Lol
@@april-zz9pqI think yes, it just looks different for men and women. Women usually won't get anywhere by giving out orders and being "domineering."
If you find a good guy who leads, he will still ask your input for every important decision and he will not make any decisions that cause you to suffer. We just need to go about it in a different way.
I know it can be scary to trust someone, but we have to find that person we can trust to listen to us and consider us in every decision.
No. 4 is key
Amazing comment!!
It's so funny, I did so many of the things you mentioned when I was healing from depression without even knowing what feminine energy means. I guess I inuitively got back into my feminine energy because that was what felt good to me.
I can relate to that!
Same!!
Wow I actually thought the same!
SAME! I did want to hear her address depression and burnout. Burning out in grad school forced me to do exactly as she did... without calling any of it feminine. Simply loving and nurturing and valuing my Self, as is, here, now. I gave myself that safety by healing my traumas and re-evaluating what I was supposed to be doing with my life, getting spiritual. Replacing perfectionism with "good enough" and gratitude and appreciation. Etc!
Oh and somewhere along the way, I had come across the idea of staying soft. Not letting life's struggles to make me hard, judgmental, critical, defensive, blah blah blah. I suppose that's "feminine". But honestly, I feel like men could use all this wisdom just as much? I dunno.
Wow! That was powerful. I realized that over the years I became full of masculine energy. I am the CEO of a startup, always driving, always pushing, leading men made me tougher, I ran marathons listening to a bunch of hardass military guys like David Goggins and Jocko. I always wear armor trying to be strong. This year I am trying to find my feminine energy without quitting my role. I believe it's possible. Thank you for the great video. You spoke to my soul!
Hah! This is me right now too. Let me know if you found anything that works! As a CEO I’m often the least experienced on my team in their job, so I need to let my team lead at what they do best, while supporting them with the context of the company/market/info they need.
It's completely possible. You can do your role as a CEO. Just spend an hour or two to get in touch and feed into your femm energy. Could be simple things like beauty baths, or makeup and skincare. But more than anything, just the state of being.
Like a huge Tree. It can be treated as masculine energy, the way it struggles to germinate and persists to grow, fulfilling the needs of other creatures under it. But the femm energy, it is beautiful for just existing. Being a part or even the main focus of the picture. Its isn't growing for anyone elese said so. ❤
Sincere Kindness is a good place to start along with removing the ego.
I'm a woman in spite of the user name- I have a ritual of leaving my feminine at the door as I walk in to work, and picking up the masculine, like putting on armor.
Then at the end of the day, I have a similar ritual at the door- dropping my armor and masculine energy, then picking up my feminine.
I relax, lean back, listen to meditation, and I even have a "place" where I go in my mind.
My own beach where I walk in a flowy dress, ankle deep in the warm water, smelling the salt air and roses in the air.
There's a forest nearby, a rose garden, and a bed with curtains where I can lie and watch the waves or the sky.
I go there mentally until I have found that feminine energy and become more laid back and letting things happen.
If I'm super stressed or if it's Friday, I go browse at a store with scents in it, or art - I may go to Target and look at lingerie...
It sounds silly, but I didn't know how to be "feminine" until I practiced.
I got a sweet little teddy bear hamster who was super tame, and I'd relax holding him and feel warm and cuddly.
All this has helped me.
Eventually, I did get out of that world and went in a new direction as a writer, and took a lot of time off, spent time in relaxing hobbies like salsa dancing and kayaking, hiking with a club, none of this competitive!
I feel like so many women including myself fall into this trap of working hard, achieving, and fixing everything trying to be super women. This also hurt me too. I took a year off and it was the best time of my life when I didnt have to do anything that I didnt want to do. And you know what happened, I got to know ME. I did not know who I was. I knew myself through what others thought of me. When I got to know ME, I realized what a beautiful feminine person I was. Its a beautiful feeling for sure.
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*_The feminine energy wants to feel loved, they want to feel cherished and that is not just the job of the man in your life it's your job as well!_*
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This line was the most eye 👁️ 👄 👁️ opening for me. Thanks for sharing this. I love it and feel grateful for spending my time to listen to this in my hectic schedule. It's worth my time. 💗💗💗
You're exactly right. We have to insist on it, even if by simply leaving the situation in favor of finding others who will realize that is what we deserve and who we are. It has taken me years to realize that, and I'm making the changes I need to live in that parameter for myself.
I feel this so hard. I quit my matrix job in June 2022 and since then, I have been slowly healing my feminine energy. Part of the work was tapping into my inner child and playing. I’m healing from a SA so the sensual and feeling beautiful aspects have been a rollercoaster for me. I do things I love like cooking, rollerskating, being creative, dancing and being outdoors. It’s really helped me to step up in my true purpose on this Earth. Similar to what you said, I had to reframe how I thought about success and being seen. I had to get comfortable being seen as myself, no matter how society views me. Leaving my job and going on this journey has been the best thing I’ve ever done for my adult self! I started my own spiritual business and Im so excited!
Love this! Wishing you the best with your new business ❤
I’m so excited for you!! Sending you lots of love!! 💕💕
I feel you! rollerskating dancing and being outside as well as making art have healed me from years worth of corporate burnout, ed and anxiety. too bad i didnt apply them sooner:p
@@JillzGuerin no music
This is exactly what I’m feeling right being an unemployed woman who left work in January.
I'm 52 years old. I work in IT. My life has been defined by firsts...first grandchild first black at my Catholic school to win in forensics, first black to be a majorette at my high school, first college graduate in my family, first at various jobs to accomplish this or that. Let me tell you how your words healed me. Yes, the love of my life for 7 years finally told me why he is challenged with marriage with me...my masculine energy is serious and I'm not a submissive woman. 😮 Gut punch. This video has given me insight on that point of view. I doubt if marry him, but I think I will marry myself. This is so much more and it is life changing. This video is life changing for me sweetie. Thank you!❤🥰🥳🍾💋
Why is it so important to men that their women be submissive?
After all, men are human beings too (as wonderful as they may be). They are also prone to making bad decisions and being bad at certain things.
@@blue4u2054 I think this is a very good point. I also think that sometimes when men say this, what they really mean is 'receptive,' as in being open to their ideas, as opposed to just being subservient.
@@rachelmilloy7640 If that were true, then they would just use the word "receptive". But they don't. So, I am sure (from social media experience) that those men do indeed want subservient wives. I just can't understand why.
@@blue4u2054 Hmm... Maybe it's a way of feeling some sense of power in their lives, especially for those men who feel disempowered in some way, and haven't found a path to healthy masculine power?
@@rachelmilloy7640 Exactly. And that is precisely why I have a problem with this whole thing.
People associate femininity with "submission" or "taking a backseat". But it's really about taking charge with grace, strength and confidence.
Dancing! You forgot to add it to the list. It’s one of the most sacred feminine and healing activities
I'm reporting you for coming up with the best comment! Yes I totally agree! Dancing is brilliant!
I feel like this is where I am at right now.. I am 28 and have been in my masculine energy since 16. Trying to stay afloat. Take care of myself, pay rent pay bills etc.. and Now I am trying to take a step back and be more feminine/explore my feminine energy
this video was meant for me! perfect timing. I've been in my masculine energy all my life due to growing up in a dysfunctional broken family environment, just starting my feminine energy healing journey recently after diagnosing what was wrong with me. yes I have the health issues as a result of the imbalance too. praying I will heal completely soon. and frankly I'm tired of the rat race and being in flight or fright for so long, and I hate how so much career pressure is placed on us women when the fact is our delicate bodies are not designed for this. therefore, I just want the soft life now. to simply look after my home and family, that would be my dream life.
Aw you will get there, I’m sure
As a guy I feel this info is important for all parties involved in the human experience.
Thank you for sharing ! 🙏
I don't need to prove anything, I am worthy as I am ❤ Thank you so much!!💗💗
Yes!! 🤍
I resonate so much with jumping into masculine energy to find security & pushing myself to my limits to feel "good enough". Thank you for sharing these insights!! Healing our feminine energy is so important 🤍
When you mentioned imagine yourself as a child and how you would treat her, that really hit me. I have recently embraced my femininity and it has truly changed my life for the better, including my relationship :) x
How does that feel exactly... "embracing ur feminine energy"
@@SS-rg5di it feels like I am more at touch with who i am. Like it's what the universe wants me to do. I am more positive, and i feel more spiritual, and feel special and powerful as a woman. I barely feel dissociated anymore, when that used to happen daily. I am open to receiving, to being loved, to being cared for. I treat myself and i let others treat me. I wear bright colours and I stay away from people and places that give off negative energy. I am doing the things I love where i can be creative, like pole dancing, and appreciate the little things. I now guide myself primarily using my feelings rather than logic.
Ultimately, it feels like you are aligned with your body and your innate self, which has always been there, waiting to be accepted.
I struggle with being avoidant and I feel like it's kept me from being more feminine. Thank you so much for sharing how to heal this 🤍
Because of my situation, I have found that embracing going make-up free and not fixing myself up (however, still have proper grooming, of course) has been one of the key things to stepping into my own divine feminine - being comfortable and feeling good in my natural-body, with minimal enhancements.
Which, I think is especially important, what with the fact of my desire to be a wife and mother, and all the fears I had developed around such, due to my upbringing, family, and all around circumstances.
Myself, my husband, and my kids are the only One’s who will be around me when I am both beautiful and frumpy.
When I am strong or breaking down.
It’s been necessary for me to accept that - and trust I am always worthy of being and receiving love, loyalty, and support, no matter how I look/present myself.
Stopping the news is such an underrated self-care that needs to be emphasized on. So grateful to hear that I'm not the only one
I love this so much. I am miserable working full-time and pursuing my university education. I feel like I'm obsessed with my goals, to the point where they have trumped my personal time, self-care, and taking care of my body. I strongly want to focus on my classes which I love, but so scared to quit my job with all of the amazing benefits it has... And I do love my job as well. I'm just tired from doing too much.
I feel for you. I myself am a college student (it’s like a field specialized high school in my country) and I lived very miserably past two years there. My only reason to live and keep pushing was the hope to get into european university and escape the toxic system and society I live in. To the extent when I do not pay any attention to my body and mental health anymore.
But the final project for the college ended yesterday and now I’m thinking of leaving the place or even taking gap year to reconnect with my true self, instead of that agressive persona I wear to feel protected from the toxic community in the college.
I’ve gone down this rabbit hole of fixing my feminine energy, and I cannot express enough how grateful and hopeful it makes me feel. Everything you mentioned hit me to my core. Thank you for sharing!
I lost my mother when I was 15. With that I lost a lot of the feminine energy in my life. The part where you talked about telling your past self and your future self telling you things was so helpful for me. Thank you so much.
I’m so sorry you lost your mother. I also lost my mom when I was 15 and haven’t realized until now how much that drained my feminine energy. I lost my dad at the same time so I was forced to take on both the role of mother and father to myself. I’m glad we are both on the journey to reclaiming our feminine energy 💕
I did not realise how much I needed that video until I watched it, thank you so much for sharing all of that with us ! Healing doesn't seem so hard anymore 🌷
This video is really helpful. As someone who is on their journey of healing, I find that everything you said was a confirmation. I quit my job and I’ve been stressed about money ever since but during that time period, I leaned so many things about myself and the things that bring me gratitude and joy.
I found your channel at the right time. I’ve had an incredibly hard 3 years (deaths, family mental health crises, stressful job) - with the last 9 being the hardest. I reached a turning point when I said “I will stop taking care of others and I will start really taking care of myself” while also going through some hardcore therapy (seeing two therapists and a coach) and also leaning into what my personality thrives in. I have never felt better than I do now. I still have that stressful job but I no longer let my anxiety take the wheel. And yes, I am using my feminine energy more - more mentorship and diplomacy. I love wearing this super smooth lipstick that I wear in my desk, for no one but just me. I am writing poetry. Your videos are now what I need
This video is incredible. How you put in words EVERY aspect that i’m working on…just make me feel so secure about what i’m doing and also doesn’t make me feel alone. Now I know that i’m not the only girl in this situation. Thank you.
Thank you for this video. I did the same, closed my business that put me in the masculine and changed the mindset that I need to prove myself via my career. Now I have all the time in the world to be in the moment and embody feminine energy, never regretted quitting work.
I'm watching your videos for one year now.. and because of you - I healed my feminine energy🥰 Thank you!💞
" I have nothing to prove. I'm already perfect just the way I am "
Journaling what makes you happy
Jillz I just wanted to say I started watching your videos in January, right around when i lost my job and I’ve been living alone since I was 18 so losing my job was very scary for me because I was very independent and always acting in my masculine energy by doing everything on my own and not letting anyone help, making things worse. My overall relationships were draining, my health was going down a rabbit hole, I gained weight, I wasn’t bettering myself. I had lost my feminine energy without even knowing. In January when I started watching your videos I realized my energy had been wounded and needed to fix it. It’s been a rough journey, but finally my feminine energy is repairing, my mental health has improved, I’ve been going to the gym for my own sake in health and high esteem, I’ve been asking for help from others when in the past I couldn’t. Im is glad you’re helping these women out and that you could help me. Empowering women is definitely your calling. Im glad I stumbled upon your videos, somehow the universe just knew I needed your help. So for that, i appreciate you so much :) keep doing what youre doing ❤️
I feel like this is exactly the struggles I’ve had and needed to hear this! Everything you said about yourself I was like “this is me”, such an insightful video!
Thank you Jills ❤🙏 I do need to slow down, relax, embrace and nourish my feminine energy. For the last 2 years I had a feeling that I drove myself into a dead end. I don’t want to fight anymore. It is enough. I’m ready to find the way home ❤
I can resonate with this fully and are feeling this way now. This video couldn’t have come at the right time. I feel like if I don’t have everything right now or have my ‘ducks in a row’ then I’m not successful or look/feel right. Amazing content hun xx
Glad you liked it 💕
Thank you for this! I’ve been avoiding looking deeper at myself and you have helped open that door without bringing shame, but inspiration and love!
This came at just the right time for me. I’ve been realizing the desire I have to nurture and be creative and finding joy in the everyday. Thank you!
This video really resonated with me. I typically never comment on videos but felt very touched and in tune with your words. I have also been stuck in my masculine energy for a long time and have a very similar experience with always focusing on everything external and feeling like I need to compete, I worked very hard since high school and currently work in consulting engineering. I was feeling miserable and out of touch with myself and the pandemic gave me an opportunity to tune more into myself and realize I wasn't living the life I wanted. I am still in the same career but partly working from home and getting a puppy this past year has truly made a huge difference. I still struggle to find time to do things that truly give me joy and find myself always going to work even when I have free time. Thank you for inspiring to continue this journey to finding myself and completely healing my feminine energy!
This felt like therapy. Thank you so much Jillz. You are beautiful inside out❤
Aw thank you. Glad you liked it ❤️
I can really see how strong you are and have been through this transformation of yours! The way you turned your life around in this practical and loving way is very inspirational for me who is going through something similar. I’ve had this fight and flight and masculine response for a long time even though it’s much better
healed now. Thank you for the reminder to make life enjoyable again and take the time needed for balance and recovery ❤
P.S this wasn’t easy to hear at first but it really got to me. Hope everyone reading this will have a great day
you know, you enlighten us women about embracing our feminine energy . After listening to you, you brought out a lot of positive and inspiring thoughts that resonates with me. Thanks for sharing .
Hey Jillz! I’m on my way to heal my feminine energy. Your tips and experience help a lot on my journey. Thank you very much ❤️
So glad! 💜
This is PROFOUND. I believe this is one of the reasons why so many young women are either A) Angry or B)Commit suicide.
They are immersed in an environment and taught in school to hate their Feminine Energy and operate in Masculine Energy.
They are taught that Masculinity is Toxic and is the same as Bad Patriarchy at the same time being encouraged to embrace masculine actions/ behaviors. This creates discordance and discomfort. So sad and such a waste of lives well spent!
Bless you Jillz for this lesson. I am 60 and desperately needed this RIGHT NOW. We need to spread this message of healing.
A yes,,,
I really needed this today. I have started doing a lot of what you are talking about already, and now I can get into it more and be happy about it.
"protecting my peace" this is gold. i dont feel safe and bow i know what to focus on. brilliant thanks!
Thank you so much Jillz for sharing your experience and gems of wisdom. You have truly been an instrumental part of my own healing journey. I am so grateful and inspired by you. Thank you again 💕
Aw you’re welcome, I’m so glad you’ve gotten value from my videos 💕💕
This video was uploaded just at the right time, Jillz. Thank you! 👌 Many things you listed were things I needed to hear right now. I especially liked the point about journaling how the day went - I can already see the potential in it to better my own life. One thing I started doing some time ago and that really helped me was speaking more kindly to myself. ❤
Glad you liked it! And yes speaking kindly to ourselves can make such a huge difference 💜
Thank you so much for posting this video. I’ve been trying to listen to podcasts, journal, etc. and nothing seems to be working to break the barrier which is myself. In all seriousness, I cried at the end of your video, because your words and your advice are so powerful and have the ability to create so much change. Thank you.
I feel blessed to have found this video - Divine Timing ✨
I am at the precipice of my healing journey and this video is so amazingly put together and I can not wait to begin a life of finding and embracing my feminine energy! Thank you for putting this out in the universe - I really feel like it’s a gift 🎁
I am twenty one and I already knew most of the things you mentioned. However it still helped me a lot because I feel secure now in what I do. So thank you for this video!
Wow this video so so needed and good! Really appreciate it, my dad passed last year and I definitely noticed myself stepping into a masculine role for my family and my body and self have changed so much! Here is to healing ❤
Sending love, light and prayers.
@@mindfulmoments3937 that’s so sweet thank you💕
I feel this SO MUCH - so eloquently put 🙂 thank you ❤
Jillz thank you so much for you amazing and joyful vibe. I’m so glad the you speak of true femininity. It’s very hard on CZcams to find women that aren’t afraid of talking about submission, nurture and softness.
You’re brave and I respect you for that. You are an inspiration for me. I wish you the best for you and your marriage. Thanks for being on this earth with us 🙏🏻 💕
You’re lovely and I think it takes a specific type of person to acknowledge that. Many women nowadays function on a masculine energy and they don’t even realize it
Maybe it’s because many man look at a feminine housewife as a gold digger.
This resonates soooo much! All that striving to prove yourself... ignoring body, soul and intuition... utterly exhausting. So glad I've moved beyond that now. I'm still learning though - thank you so much for your content!
we were all taught in public schools to ignore our bodies and intuition so we must forgive ourselves and our parents who were raised the same
Great video, Jillz. For me, the path has had ups and downs, too. But, my favorite step to overcome those was to learn to love myself much more. Self-love is the base of everything else and truly changes how we perceive the world. Rediscovering, reconnecting, and retraining our feminine energy is always a worthy pursuit. Thanks for sharing your process.
Thank you so much for sharing your own experiences!
I feel disappointed in many aspects of my life now and I'm so tired of controlling my life and being so strict to myself.
I'm working to heal myself and your video really helped me feel safe. Thank you so much : )
So cool! Yes, please do a video on leaning back in relationships! Also, I recently switched companies for my career because I realized that the environment was creating TOO much of the masculine energy within me. Whereas in my previous environnment I was in my feminine energy WAY more and life was a hell of a lot easier, so I've gone back to an environment like that one and can't wait to start!
I feel healing anxious attachment is a bit trickier because it literally hijacks your nervous system and makes it incredibly difficult to act as if. It's the anxiety and racing thoughts that are just SO strong. I feel as though avoidant attachment isn't AS charged on the nervous system as anxious is.
Only saying this because I am on the journey of healing it to become more securely attached!! If anyone has any pointers on healing their anxious attachment let me know! Xx
I have just come across your channel a couple of days ago and I have to say you are already helping me so much I really needed this video and you are opening a whole part of me that has been lost since my divorce 4 years ago. I've had to be strong and be the provider and ,protector at home for my daughter , a manager at work, and more. I have completely lost myself and you are getting me back on track. All I can say is thank you. I love your energy and I love the balance you have and that's what I want.
This was incredibly helpful and validating to me. I am in the middle of this healing. Thank you for sharing something that's kind of vulnerable.
Thank you so much for this video, I think I had started also to lean more and more into my masculine energy, doing hardcore boxing twice a week, and heavy weights at home sometimes. Always doing a workout every day in the week.. I sprained my knee 2-3 weeks ago and that really made me slow down so much more and reconnect to my soft feminine beautiful energy and aspect of myself so thank you for this video ❤️❤️❤️
I really loved this video Jillz. So much of your journey mirrors my own return to health and vitality. It’s taken me longer than you but it’s still wonderful to reach a place where I now love and accept myself as I am. I refuse to bend to other people’s ideas of how I should live. Nothing good has come from that for me. I’m naturally very feminine and the way society pressures woman to conform into what it perceives as successful doesn’t fit with what makes me healthy and happy. People can think what they think of course, I’ve learnt to care less about that too. I have stepped into a place of empowerment, a place where I follow my own guidance, my own inner compass. I sense a lot more queen energy within me now. Naturally of course, my health and wellbeing has improved drastically. Thank goodness for that strong intuition and the urge I felt to follow it! I also now give in to all my innate passions, one of which is also astrology ❤
Yessss love this 💜💜
That journaling idea is so brilliant, feels like just what I need! Thank you ✨
The more videos of yours I watch the more I’m beginning to understand. Little Jill didn’t feel protected. And there have been other times throughout my life when I didn’t. When I’ve tried to be,look, act more feminine, my masculine energy quickly grew tired of it and it didn’t feel authentic. I love being a woman but always feel the need to protect myself. I’m now blessed with a husband who values me and wants to protect and that was the beginning of my understanding that I really want and need that. I downloaded your meditation and workbook and will be starting today. Great work Jillz. 🌷💖
I felt the most feminine and at peace with myself when I stayed home during covid. My husband also seemed to step more into his masculine when I was home. Unfortunately, financial strains can force us to forfeit this. I've had so many health issues since returning to work. You mentioned how the divine feminine needs to feel safe and supported in order to thrive. It seems unfair that our well-being is so contingent on factors outside of our control. While men benefit from the feminine influence, it seems not as essential in order for them to step into their divinity. How are women supposed to flourish if we're not supported?
I hear you, I’m sorry you have those issues. I don’t know what you are struggling with today exactly. Or how to solve it, or if you feel seen and heard at all. I don’t want to preach to you but God cares about you, especially when you feel small and feel ‘useless’ or unloved. Again I’m not trying to preach I just care about you and I’ll pray for you
It seems to us women that it’s seems not as essential for men to step into their masculine divinity because right now we are living in a man’s world. This world is designed to support men and men are thriving. The world isn’t designed to support us women, unfortunately.
I have been in masculine energy throughout my entire life. Right since early childhood.
And I realised this only last year .
However even with the realisation , I had not started dropping my masculine shield.
The fact that I was single and completely responsible for my own finances didnt help either.
This video however has made me re- realise the need to now work on my feminine energy ❤
Wow, this is exactly the mindset change I need right now. Thank you so much for this video!!! This makes so many things in my life make sense and click into place. Looking forward to making some intentional changes and the joy that will come with them!
You have such an art in explaining things in a way that resonates. The last part about loving yourself and looking back in 30 years time made me cry and realise I need to do work in this area 💞 thank you 🙏
I love hearing about your journey and what worked and what didn’t work for you. I’m trying to embrace feminine energy and so far it’s feeling good 🌸
Love to hear that ❤️
@@JillzGuerin no music
I gave up on the news ages ago to and that gives me more peace. Also working on being more feminine and plan to continue.
Okay I didn’t realize this was so me until I watched this video. Thank you so much for making this and opening up my eyes to understanding where my masculine energy is coming from, and where I can grow my feminine energy to better my relationships with myself and others
Loved it. Going through the same kind of healing journey right now, so it helped a lot. Thank you!!
If you can, a video on mothering your significant other like you mentioned would be so good I think a lot of us would benefit from your knowledge on that topic 🥰
Really thank you... as a student, i really identify with the "go go go hustle" as you mentioned, to just kinda "exist to achieve something", and I never actually connected THIS with suppressing the feminine energy.
I noticed that I am "fired up" so easily and getting angry fast :(
Thank you for reminding me what and who I am...and to just kinda get back to myself
Aw Jillz that last part about contemplating what your future self would say to your current self actually made me start crying. Thank you ❤
Man that last point was the straw that broke the camels back for me. That really hit home. I really appreciate you making this video I’ve been noticing I’ve been struggling and this came just in time not to mention the coincidence that this was posted on my birthday. Please keep making videos they really help❤️
This. Is. Everything. These were the answers I have sought for so long. I never understood myself so I couldn’t expect others to understand me. Being in the military and constantly “grinding” made me burn out. I am now embracing the soft, nurturing side of me and healing what I thought was broken. Thank you so much, I am sincerely grateful for you and all the other ladies out there on their journey. 💕💕💕
This is so enlightening. I found myself being the masculine one in our relationship. After watching this, I decided to take a small steps back and let my husband take on his masculine power again.
Thank you Jill for sharing your light 🤎✨
I love your story and feel I am on a very similar path at this point in my life. Grateful for your gentle guidance - thank you for sharing!
You're just so high vibe, Miss Jill! ☺️ I caught myself smiling while you say that "I truly love myself more". That's just a sweet reminder, that, yeah, let's truly love ourselves, girls! We deserve it. 🤎✨
At the end of the video, talking about your inner child and everything I started to cry, I think this was an emotional fully present moment, thank you, this is the first time I see your videos
That was great... 67 & still finding the Feminine path ❤
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you did an incredible job explaining everything in this video, i relate so much and appreciate you taking the time to make it ♥️
I am so lucky to have bumped into this video, I been seeking to build my feminine energy and let go of the strong shell I had to work in - the masculine energy. Thank you for reminding me, the basics to happy girl tings. Roller blading has always been my thing but bike riding and Dancing is the missing part of me I think.❤ I needed this channel
I was about to go tell my boyfriend he needs to get out of bed, but then got to the part of your video that said don’t tell him what to do 😅 it’s so hard to stop myself though
@@AngeldelaMuerte1313 it can be true 😂😢
@@AngeldelaMuerte1313Having a job isn't masculine or feminine 😂
I totally get you. I am in a long term relationship and soon going to be married. And I am glad that I am getting to know my feminine side before marriage. I have been a tomboy all my life. To me cooking, cleaning and household stuff felt like a task. But lately I’ve been really enjoying cooking and stuff. And I am actually really happy about it. I have started to dress more feminine , started taking care of my body externally and internally. I have never felt so relaxed and happy. Big corporations have started to make women believe that this fast life is what will empower them. When in reality living a slow life, not competing with random strangers, living the life at your own pace is something I feel is true happiness and empowering . (Atleast to me) . Ik it might me different for some people and that’s okay❤
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Watching any of your videos for the first time and honestly, it's BEAUTIFUL. Calm, warm, and sweet. Thank you for creating this one.
Love from a Pakistani woman ❤
WOW JILLZ I AM SO IMPRESSED!!!! YOU DID A TOTAL LIFE TRANSFORMATION. CONGRATULATIONS!!!! YOU TOOK YOUR POWER BACK AND YOUR LIFE BACK. PLEASE KEEP US UPDATED. TOTALLY AWSOME VIDEO AND EDUCATION. THANKS FOR SHARING.
Thank you for this , I am currently trying to learn more about how masculine and feminine energy attracts and repels one another . I think it’s a little hard to tap fully into feminine energy when we have to be ‘equal partners ‘ and put in 50/50 say, work wise , because we both need to work really hard to make ends meet and that brings out my masculine energy daily . Like you said , not everyone can take a break from work and/or life . That’s the current struggle , how can I balance feminine energy while having to ‘get sh done ‘ 😕
I feel so connected to you. You always affirm my thoughts and encourage more self love ❤️
It’s so hard for me to let go of proving myself :(
Your videos are so helpful! Thank you❤
So much great stuff in here. Glad to be spending my time with you, even if just through this one-sided virtual medium. You're a great influence ❤
Why does it matter live how you want to live. Doesn’t matter if your feminine or not it just gender roles do what makes you happy. Personally I like working and being in school because I like a challenge I like to be mentally stimulated and I just don’t find that being a stay at home wife or mom no offense to those moms out there that’s fine for them it just doesn’t do it for me I would even say that at one point in my life when I did do that I was the most depressed and unhappy that I’ve ever been. It’s not for everyone remember that just because your a man or woman shouldn’t determine your roles. Do what works for your own life because your the one that has to live and deal with the consequences and challenges nobody else!
Me too.
Hi Rachel, just thought I would clarify she isn’t talking about feminine and masculine as we understand them in traditional gender roles. It’s more metaphysical, for example in Traditional Chinese Medicine and/or Ancient Yogic traditions that we all have yin/yang, right/left, masculine (active, fire, sun) and feminine (night, moon, yin) energies. This is what she’s talking about.
It’s not the physical aspects of “makeup or not makeup” “corporate job or less aggressive industry job” it’s a higher level of divine feminine energy.
Masculine = control, aggression, fire, pushing, giving, doing
Feminine = receiving, being, passive, flow, intuition
I hope this helps!
thanks for posting this. It resonates with me. I feel like ive been semi trapped in my masculine energy forever (due to having to be very independent growing up).
I am 39 and still single. I keep attracting mommies boys and men who are not ready or still attached and trying to heal from exes. I realised it may be because im too in my masculine energy. I guess it feels convenient for those kind of men to be with an independent women who takes care of herself
This video is pure gold! 😍 I've been thinking about this and then your video comes out! 🥰 You've summarized everything so well. Thank you ❤❤❤
Embracing my feminie energy has changed me so much... I was seriously burnt out and went more and more into my masculine energy thinking that would fix me. It was only when I was so deep into my masculine energy that I broke down (after a long abusive relationship), and finally gave up and learned to find happiness in my feminine energy. I'm so much happier, I wish this was talked about more 😢 thanks so much for your videos x
Unrelated but straight hair looks so good on you 😊
Thank you ❤️❤️
As a self improvement man, it really made me happy to see that there were still feminine women out there and that it wasn't just me who thought women changed by modern feminism extremely unattractive. My girlfriend asked me a couple of days ago how she could improve and since that day I have been searching. I think this is the most comprehensive guide to really attracting a quality man. Just thank you very much for helping so many people
She could improve by getting some self esteem to the point of not asking such questions