Maybe I’m Not "Fuckable"... That’s Fine, I’m Not For You to Fuck: Diane Goldie
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Artist Diane Goldie awakens to the fact that the 36-old-boyfriend she had at 13 was a pedophile and that she used sex to shield her from her pain throughout her life. Now, Diane is a 51-year-old feminist, asserting her visibility with her bold style.
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11:12 "If your body works, stop beating yourself up. There's beauty in just being alive. Stop fretting about getting old, it means you're still here. That's a privilege."
What a message. What a message especially for young women struggling with self acceptance. To hear this from a woman who has lived and can say, "If it works, don't beat yourself up."
I'm so happy she agreed to share her story.
+MissJoyceMD Thank you .
Thank YOU!
+MissJoyceMD this is so beautiful, thank you!!
+MissJoyceMD Word, some people really have 'too much' in life they dont even start to think , how it to live without, or with less, with a body that is sick, loss etc etc. It's weird how many need to lose before they can see or appreciate what they do have. Just thinking, being sincere will get you there, being really real.
Nothing is more sexy than that.
+MissJoyceMD It reminded me of the that "color purple quote" by Celie :
I'm poor, black; I may even be ugly. But dear God! I'm here! I'm here!
"STOP FRETTING ABOUT GETTING OLD, IT MEANS YOU'RE STILL HERE AND THAT'S A PRIVILEGE".
awesome
Thin privilege, that is. Getting old.
DEE J is that money in your picture supposed to be a lot lol it's like 200$
Sophie Harris ZOOM IN AND COUNT AGAIN. GOOD LUCK
My sister died at 49, so yes getting old is a privilege
"What is you favorite part of your body?"
"The whole of it."
"Tell me more about that."
"Do you know why I don't want it to be a part? Because that's objectifying. I'm whole. I'm not bits."
Loved how she said that.
Sandra H this is such a golden truth
"If your body works, stop beating yourself up. There's beauty in just being alive. Stop fretting about getting old; it means you're still here. That's a privilege" - Diane Goldie
I loved those words when she said them, what a powerful way to bring it to a close.
When it stops working, it's gonna be too late.
She mades me cry...I just want to hug her and say "thank you"
"I am whole. I'm not bits."
ive never been so thankful for finding a youtube channel
+Raivthx RIGHT?!?? I love this channel so much!
+Raivthx Holy shit yes. I had tears down my face when she was talking about her abuse. Wow. What a brave woman.
shout out to yeri
I know! I too have a need for my back to be regularly patted.
I am sending this channel to all the young women I know.
This is the nicest comment section I've ever seen
+Christina White I agree!
+Christina White It's a flipping miracle! I'm astonished!
+Christina White For real, I scrolled down ready for all the hate and it's so wonderful when there's just kindness.
Compelling and beautiful Ty
These type of interviews should be on TV, TODAY. Instead of all the bullshit that reinforces humanity to accept all sorts of nonsense.
Yeses!
Agree 100%
+Xzyl2Me Exactly!
Nonsense? SO you want even more nonsense spewed on TV?
"I am whole. I'm not bits."
"Stop fretting about getting old. It means you're still here. That's a privilege."
Thank you for sharing. I fell in love with Diane. So, so many wise words.
When she said "If your body works, stop beating yourself up. There's beauty in just being alive" It hit me really unprepared. Fuck
+Zebra Baldwin Year, powerful woman with a powerful message, blew me away too!
+Zebra Baldwin Same here. Had to pause the video. Holy fuck. How easy and how CLEAR this is yet..WHY?! oh why have I never thought of it?! God..Bless that lady. I did not know anyone could ever free me from ME.
Thank you. From the bottom of my heart.
+Satesh It's an amazing moment when we break through the conditioning huh? Womanhood as cult. Escaping the cult is a truly wonderful moment.
As a man, this bothers me: that there are not more positive responses from men. I am in love with a woman...a woman who I would give anything to and anything for but she, in no way belongs to me. If there is anything that she accepts from me, I hope that it's wings because she could only be more beautiful if she were flying. I've even told her if she ever decides to leave at least gift me to watch her flight from the ground.
+David Boling It bothers me too. But , onwards and upwards!
very poetic and lovely
You are real. God bless you.
So sweet!
That's because you are an adult with a mature sensibility. Selfish, immature males are the ones who feel otherwise.
This brought me to tears oh my God, as a 24 year old woman this is the kind of content I want (and need) to see.
It's crazy how the strongest women have had people try to take away their strength. The resistance and the power to keep going is what makes them strong and amazing.
That is so true! We must fight against the negative energy. We have to choose to be happy every day.
+Samantha Lopez it is no accident that strong people ( especially women ) are targeted. They pose a threat to the status quo. Rape is a very effective means of control.
I am a very strong woman, only weak women can have their strength be threatened. A woman with real strength never has her strength threatened to be taken away because no one messes with them because they know they can't be messed with. The woman in the video is not a strong woman, she is very vulnerable even still.
It takes a lot of strength to be vulnerable. Especially in an online forum like this.
"If your body works stop beating yourself up, there's beauty in just being alive. Stop stressing about getting old, it means you're still here. And that's a privilege."
Amazing words!
Just Beautiful
I cried. I can identify with most of what this woman went through. It's amazing to actually hear a woman being honest about her feelings. Thank you, I feel less alone now.
I would love to be her friend. I love listening to people who are wise and 'real'.
+Sarah Norment That is why I love this series. So many incredible, wise people we never would otherwise get to see!
Sarah Norment seriously had the same exact thought. She just seems like she has so much wisdom and kindness about her. She seems like she was love you and kick your butt at the same time.
"stop worrying about getting old- it means you're still here" wow. Just wow. I've got to remember that quote and live by it. It's so beautiful and true.
She hit so many points that a lot of women think about, the massive responsability that women adopt when we have kids which end up changing a lot of us was the point that hit home the most for me.
Just randomly stumbled onto this video and I have to say that this has to be one of the most powerful, personal, intimate and beautifully introspective videos I have ever watched. Really brave, empowering, and encouraging all at the same time. Well done.
Thank you so much Michelle. My thanks to the StyleLikeU team for offering me this platform to speak.
Michelle Barr i think u are a beautiful women,sensual, and smy man wouls be lucky to have u. I would live to give u all my body,mind,soal, i hope we can be friends 😊
"stop fretting about getting old...it means you're still here..." that part hit me.
"I thought that damage was my identity."
No words have ever been so true and painful.
+Artistoid. Funny thing I read your comment before I heard it said in the contest it has been said. And you quoting her and me reading it without hearing the contest first made me see this line very different. Actually, the identity I have right now is damaging me. My damage is my identity..I am walking away digging into this...oh wow..
one of the best videos in the series so far. I'd love to see more older people, a lot of the videos are of young people
These women are such role models
To who? Not I, not a role model to me, and I'm an independent women in the sciences, I am what feminist want every women to be but trust and believe it is not the golden palace you've been told of. I wish I was more feminine, I wish I was more motherly because I do enjoy the role, it's just not something I naturally do. And what's she a role model for? For being selfish? What type of role models do you look up to? I role model should never be selfish or unapologetic those are very anti-social though patterns. A role model should be a leader not someone who pretends to be one. A role model should be selfless and have great success through hard work and preservation.
Ashley - Psychologist. You need one.
A role model is personal. You don't get to decide on what and who a role model is to other people. And to answer your first question- to me. She's a role model to me. Maybe you wish you were more feminine and 'motherly' or whatever, but there's plenty of us who don't give a fleeting fuck about that. To those of us, she is a role model.
Wish I had a mother figure like her. I feel like this woman is shaking me to my core and telling me what I need to hear instead of what I want. Such a moving video, thank you and goodnight.
One of my faves. I swear these videos are so impactive, they remind me every week to not conform to expectations. Every girl needs to be reminded of that.
We are "Gas Lighted", psychologically abused, from the day we are born. It's extremely difficult when we See, who Finally wake up. Most continue going through the motions of living, without ever living. Thank you for this video.
Absolutely beautiful
Showing this to my future daughters.
+adrian villeda Show it to your future sons as well! :)
Bob Dylan You are totally right. Agree 100%
Just everyone has to see and hear and understand this =)
Good man, you.
"stop fretting about being old, that means you're still here. That's a privilege" I think that mit just be the best thing I've heard all month!
*drops mic
+unFayemous Yeah, check your privilege, old people!
I love her style. That red & yellow dress is divine. I hope I can one day be this comfortable in my skin.
I was sent here (this channel) by Daquanna White's channel..... this whole project is beautiful and wonderful. it deserves much more acknowledgment
Daquana
same I love these videos
Lol
That story with her granddaughter is hugging her telling her she is beautiful. I love that, she is strong and beautiful woman.
I cried so hard when she told the story about her granddaughter
Diane: thank you from the bottom of my heart! I am 42, I live alone for the first time in my life. I can relate to your story. When all my constructs started falling away is when I completely fell apart, I had no more facade to hide behind and it was soul shattering. Now I'm learning that I am not the damage of my past; it took getting rejected by my own society to learn to truly love people, and myself. Thank you for existing I see radiant health and beauty in you and I feel you are a kindred soul!
+Denise King , Be thankful you reached ground zero, not everyone has that moment. Being able to build yourself up from the beginning again in your authenticity, is a beautiful thing. Keep walking in your truth with your head held high. xx
He was seventeen, I was six. Parts of this is my story too.
I'm sorry... Hope you feel better now..
Shon Hill wow. im so sorry!! xxx
This is more often than one could think.... :(
Jesus Christ, that is so fucked up.😥
It gives me hope that women like you, who have suffered abuse and violations of your body, can acknowledge all of the feelings this treatment brings to you and still find kindness, connection, and love. Women are resilient, and strong, and vulnerable, and amazing.
As my mom says, getting old may not be all fun, but it's better than the alternative. Also, this lady is a badass! I love her!!!
I think this has to be one of my favourite episodes yet :)
She's incredible.
As someone who was also molested as a child, everything she talked about really hit me because I didn't realise I had all these thoughts about myself. I've been sitting here with tears just running down my face.
I really hope I can learn to love myself the way she has learnt to.
I wish you all the best in your journey of self discovery , Jes. It took me quite a long time for my body and mind to be ready to face some uncomfortable truths. But know it is possible to be free . Much love. xx
I respect this woman so much, she is absolutely amazing, a good role model especially when she mentioned her grandaughter.
Thank you for doing this, Diane. I am a 54 year old woman who has just recently learned to embrace my body and look upon it as a gift. And it is MINE (finally!).
"Grandma, you're beautiful" Got me tearing up!!!
this is literally my favourite channel on CZcams, seeing the comments make me so happy, I just love to see the comments of us women uplifting and empowering eachother, it's absolutely beautiful
This is THE most uplifting, empowering, emotive piece of media... Thank you with all my heart. Women (and men!) everywhere NEED to hear you speak Diane 💕 much love
Oh my shit. Just woke up. Saw this. Universe provided. I needed this. She's wonderful. I wanted to reach out and hug her so badly 1/2 way through. She's someone I want to meet. Thank you for this.
"I thought that was my identity: the damage was my identity."
Your words are quite stunning. Your look is as bold as you are. Your testimony is so powerful and healing. Thank you.
You are worth so much love.
Thank you so much, Luke.
Menopause is the talk we don't talk about
I cried when talked about being raped and being objectified as a 13 year old.
menopause and miscarriage I think are two things that are considered "shameful" as a woman, we need to talk a lot more about it
Because those two things are surrounding women not being able to deliver children and society views that as the worth and purpose of a woman alongside satisfying men.
KatieWoah24!
sorry, just an automatic touch.
This touched me so deeply.
It's a privilege to grow old, well said!
Impressive; I love how introspective and self-aware she is. Truly a beautiful person.
This makes me have so much appreciation for my boyfriend. Not that I would have lacked it before, but still. He loves me unconditionally. Sometimes I still try to hide my weaknesses, but really, there's no need. She said it well: "it's ridiculous how much this man loves me". That is exactly how I feel. I can't understand how he can love me so much. But it makes me at least like myself more, maybe even love myself, knowing he really loves me to the core, no matter what...
+Zinetha You're blessed to have unconditional love in your love in the form of your boyfriend. He's there for a reason--to encourage you to love yourself. But it (for me) begs the question: if you had truly loved yourself all along, had you been totally comfortable in your own skin long before you ever met your bf, would your paths have crossed in the first place? How will the dynamic of the relationship evolve once you feel as much love for yourself as he feels for you? It's an interesting question, I think.
One day you'll understand that not only do you deserve love but you ARE love; our souls are composed of nothing else....but love. That which holds itself at the greatest possible distance from love is fear....fear of love. And the fear of love is specifically the fear of not deserving love.
writerforlifeify
I didn't understand what you meant with the end of your comment, but I've also thought about my self-esteem and my relationship and how they affect each other. I am probably the most confident now that I've ever been before, not including early childhood when most of us think nothing is impossible. I've been through a lot and a particular experience in my life is one that in general, psychology experts say a person will get totally over when the person is in his/her 40s. I'm 24 on Thursday this week. I'm excited to see how I'll be in 15 years.
I love him, too. He's my soulmate. We match very well. We were friends first for about a year before becoming a couple. We were both in a relationship with other people. Those relationships ended, after that we became a couple. People who meet us for the first time think that we've been together like 10 years or something, but really we just had our three-year anniversary of dating yesterday, literally. We've also lived together for two of those years.
I don't think we'll ever break up. Miracles do happen, but I can't see a possible reason for us to ever break up. :)
+Zinetha It's possible that on a soul level you & your bf have been together forever. You've just been physically connected for 3 earth years...but time itself is a lie, isn't it? The poet, Rumi, said "lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along." So your souls were always entwined no matter where either of you physically were; you were bound together even prior to your respective births, in which case you were 'bound' to meet. How long any couple stays together depends on how long the relationship serves their spiritual growth.
You will both, over time, either grow together OR you will grow apart. And if you ever do part, nothing really has ended other than the relationship....meaning that you'll always be tied on a soul level but your dissolution as a couple will simply morph into other new beginnings in your alignment with your true Self. It's a lifelong journey & everyone you meet on your path is a teacher. It is said that there are basically 2 types of people who will cross your path: those who give you energy & those who take your energy, thereby depleting you. Let go of those who drain you but be grateful for those who in any way help to awaken you to your own Truth.
In the last portion of my prior post, I was referring to the belief that nothing exists outside of love; love is ALL there is. Listen to Jim Carrey's Harvard Commencement speech sometime; he speaks at length about this very theme, especially near the end of the video. Basically, every choice/decision you ever make will be love-based or fear-based--there are NO exceptions, ever. Carrey famously said that "most people choose their career paths out of fear disguised as practicality." Anyway, my point is that you ARE love at your core & the antithesis of love is fear, which is always fear of (not deserving)love. There is ample literature on this subject. : )
writerforlifeify That's beautiful. :)
she really is beautiful
This is think has to be my favourite vide of the entire series since I started watching. Amazing.
This is beautiful, I can't really describe my feelings right now but I mostly feel grateful for this to exist.
This woman is beauty. Everything she said touched me so much. I can only aspire to be so open with myself like her one day.
Such a well spoken, powerful woman. Extremely empowering.
Courageous, inspirational, fantastic. Thank you Diane. When your menopause has subsided, I can tell you that you'll enjoy being you even more! 57 has been wonderful for me.
It's so true that women play in to these roles to fit in, YES! SO true, every girl/woman I know do or have done that - I wanted to be the perfect girlfriend for so long, that I stopped eating, I stopped taking pictures with my very expensive camera (WASTE) I stopped painting, I even tried coke a couple of times to not feel hungry and keep my energy up.. I'm not drinking, I'm not smoking weed to ignore how much I hate myself anymore, and I eat till I'm full, and I won't let any boy dictate who I should be, or how I should act, I'd rather be alone and be social, wich I am now cause I'm not hiding in my home to avoid temptaion like food or alcohol anymore! I'm sober I'm happy and I'm me again. Oh I love this channel
stay happy, stay you
+FrolicFutile Oh my lovely, keep on that path of self awareness . I'm very proud of you.
+Spencer Mitchell Thank you :)
+Diane Goldie I will do my very best, I'm still learning, but I'm on my way! And thank you ever so much for you nice words x
+FrolicFutile all my support goes to you, always know you are worthy and you deserve the best
this made me tear up, I'm only 22 but I can see myself in her story. The part when she talks about love is the most beautiful thing I've heard .
So much of Diane's story is mine; my heart weeps that we've both had such similar journeys. At the same time, I'm so incredibly glad that we are both still here, having survived abuse, confusion, unidentifiable sorrow, self-destructive behaviour, and roads without any maps. We're strong, aware, consciously vulnerable, surviving, loving, flourishing, and *being*.
Thank you for sharing your story Diane. Much love and respect to you.
+emily mbg You are clearly a writer. Your way with words is extraordinary. My story seems to be so many people 's( not only women)story, judging by the flood of messages I'm receiving. Something powerful is going to come out of this, I'm going to make sure it does.
+Diane Goldie I'm a (frustrated) writer ;-).
If there is *anything* I can do to help you/this message reach a larger audience, please let me know. ❤️
Keep in touch and when the project launches , maybe you could add your story to it?
"I thought that was my identity. That damage was my identity." Amazing.
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I really wish she was my mother of grandmother. She is really teaching her granddaughter very well.
This is almost two years old and I still watch it 2/3 times a week. She’s so incredible.
Whilst Diane's fashion sense does not resonate with me, who she is, does. I thought she looked great just in her underwear. Whilst she isn't young, slim, toned, and golden brown, I genuinely still view her as beautiful.
I love you comment because I feel this is how we should be with each other's easthetics. I don't really like your style, but I respect you and who you are. how many people walk the streets looking like her, and we don't give them much depth you know?
+isabelle happyfeet - in response to "how many people walk the streets looking like her, and we don't give them much depth you know?" Could you describe what you mean please? Not meaning to be difficult here but I've never seen anyone who else looks like Diane. She has a unique style that she creates and owns IMO.
+Dave Clarke I just meant that we often judge other people, and assume that they don't really have much to offer, are not really intelligent and wise, or worthy of our attention. I know in the past if I saw someone like her, I'd just assume she probably has her head in the clouds and is just wandering through life. then you see a video like this and it shatters any assumption you have of someone solely based on their appearance
Thank you for clarifying that Isabelle.
Please take a closer look at Diane Goldie - google her name and see what comes up - both in terms of sites and images. She really is unique - there's no one like her!
More generally speaking, I know what you are saying and I think it is a common problem, as you say.
I think capitalism is to blame because the mechanics of the system requires that people are pushed into that kind of thinking - this is so that people spend money on things they don't need, in the never ending quest to conform/ be 'better looking'/'in fashion', etc.
Make-up, hair, cosmetic surgery, the new season's fashionable clothes - the multi billions spent on these things (and more) annually, as well as fashion magazines, advertising and other spin offs - the creation of misery over our bodies is utterly deliberate - the fuel that keeps the fire of capitalism burning.
The system relies on ever-increasing spending' in order to continue functioning. Spending on necessities isn't sufficient to fuel that furnace - spending has to be on things we don't need. The pushing of the superficial has created mass unhappiness with our bodies, faces, hair - judging ourselves (and others) makes us (and them) spend. It's an agenda. It creates judgement and misery - it's great that your eyes have been opened to that by Diane's video. It's a real gift to stop judging others - and also ourselves! Hugs to you :)
I started here and got lost watching as many as I could of this series. Thank you so much for doing this and thank you Mrs Goldie for sharing your wisdom! I'm so thankful for having heard this.
I teared up when she talked about her granddaughter. What a wonderful role model to have ❤️
I come back and watch this every week. It's so beautiful. She is beautiful.
Currently watching in 2017 still
@@Julia-fm6mg You should come watch it in 2019 with me! 🙂 It's still true!
This is the best video on CZcams
+Alexis Mackenzie Don't worry about him... he's saying the same thing to everyone. One trick troll.
+Boots Jew what does this mean???
I wouldn't worry about him. He's a troll.
Literally tearing up right now!!!!!
This was fucking beautiful. Absolutely beautiful and just what I needed to hear! My body isn't bits, it's a whole and it's mine and it functions and its beautiful! I am saving this video, this is just what I need to pick me up when I become so blind sighted by other people, fashion trends and 'who i should be' as society screams at me! Absolutely inspirational, I want to be just like you at 51!!
This broke me into tears... we are all so broken from this system that conditions to make us act and dress a certain way to be "accepted." This is such a powerful and beautiful message. Thank you for being so open about your life, Diane!
Lovely having a menopause-age woman on here.
She has so much wisdom and I'm shocked by what she's been though.
I'm finding myself daydreaming that she is/was my mother and I grew up with her positive message.
Also, what an interesting observation: asking "what is your favourite part of your body?" absolutely relies on the answerer reviewing themself as an object. And usually the answer will be the parts that most fit the socially upheld idea of beauty (e.g. "I like my skinny waist"). I can't imagine asking a man such a question, because we (or at least I) don't tend to expect the average man to objectify himself.
+Those Things That's weird how menopause is considered bad, because when men are in their peak levels of testosterone in late teens and early 20, they cause more fatal car accident and deaths from fighting than anybody else, but when women go back to pre puberty hormone levels which should make them less slaves to hormones, it's considered bad. Women live longer than men and that could be because hormones play less of a part in ruling their life.
Suzanne S That's a interesting point, I hadn't considered it before. It is weird. I can't think of any reason why menopause is or would be considered bad apart from those caused by ingrained sexism...?! (I suppose you could argue that the women themselves might view menopause as bad if they suffer unpleasant symptoms, but I don't think that's the kind of "bad" you're talking about!)
The World needs more inspirational role models like Diane. Wonderful video!
What she said about her granddaughter saying "Oh grandma, you're so beautiful." That's really special, made me cry happy tears. I too have been abused and still struggle with my body being something for me and not others. This really helps to know that things will get better and women can get stronger.
I wish you much luck and support in your journey to owning your body. xx
Yes indeed pink is just a fucking color. A dress or pants ate just cloth. Just that simple
Thandi M Absolutely! Today we have people being judged for wearing too little and for wearing too much. If you shop for children's clothes there is a definite difference in the color selections. It's there for adult clothing too but more with kids. It's so silly. There are actually important things going on in life and in the world but let's focus on making sure everyone is wearing the right colors first. For goodness sake!!! Loved this talk, really enjoyed what she had to say.
It's been awhile that CZcams recommended something of this content. I'm happy they did. Off to watch the rest.
SHE IS GREAT
I have no clue why, maybe because its late or maybe I just have some unpacking to do of myself but I literally found myself sobbing at the end of this. Something about this was so beautiful. I am just so incredibly proud to have the privilege to get a peak into these wonderful women's lives
I do like your shoes. They make me think of Hermes, the Greek messenger of the gods.
I can see why he loves you so much, Diane Goldie. What you've showed us all here is just beautiful. Intelligent, strong, emotional, alive. Colourful. You add bright life to our world.
+Kit Toner that really touched my soul. Thank you.
This is so incredibly powerful.
How beautiful is this, everybody deserves a grandmother like this woman to teach them what life really is about.
I see a lot positivity surrounding sexual liberation and how being a slut is great, and I'm all for it. However, people need to talk about how constant, casual sex can be a form of self harm in certain cases.
Yes off course. And when you have a lot of sex most of the time it IS bad for you mentally. But we are fighting lut shaming. She talks about this man who loves her and asks her if she's happy like this WITHOUT judging. That 'sluts' are damaged a lot of the times is even more reason for me to never judge them. Sexual liberation is about people doing what they want and still being seen as a human with hopes and dreams. Because seeing sex as something bad and dirty and if you have it too much you are damaged goods, is even worse for you.
So ignore the damage and preach the cause as sacrosanct? Subjecting yourself to these damaged people is also damaging, male or female. Someone who's striped their own gears doesn't deserve to demand someone else to fuck up or brag/whine without criticism and outright bully non-compliers. That's exactly what "sex positive" bullshit is about. It rejects critical thought and demands mindless obedience like a goddamn religion. There's nothing liberating about it.
Men don't get to demand intimacy or sex. What's with advocating for self-damaged women demanding special rights to fuck up men's lives for sex and the pretense of intimacy they're no longer capable of? Refusing to date such women sure as hell is regarded as "slut shaming" all by itself.
I refuse to be dutifully blind to danger or have attraction dictated to me for gynocentric politics/fashion. I won't put up with brodurrhood idiots homoerotically dictating to my love life (or life in general). I'm sure as hell not putting up with the festering cisternhood using me as a host/drone for their myopic, hypocritical, and inevitably parasitic causes. I'm a person with my own nature and values that no one gets to outvote.
Also, I'm not anyone's junk-heap. I'm not proud to be crashed on by some (often proudly) cored-out, myopic bitch (temporarily...) tired of the cock carousel. Ubiquitously standard creepshaming of men covers both slutshaming and prudeshaming, and "sex positivists" double-down on that shit for double-binds to enforce female emotion (or claims thereof...) over male existence all the time. Don't want to date a slut? How dare you! Want to get laid but don't want to hang around kissing someone's ass for no sex? How dare you! Notice both only apply if you're male. Female emotion is sacred (unless the local femdom outvotes her), so they get special choices with impunities. It's sick and warped, NOT liberating. Nudging females into intimacy crushing sluthood and gynocentric delusions that dehumanize male relations is just the other side of the dogma's insane costs.
Endoptic I know you're mgtow so it's no use talking about gender issues with you but as a whole I think it would be nice to stop judging both genders for their sexual choices. That's a perfect world scenario. Your own post is littered with Judgement but seems to be coming from a place of pain. I feel sad.
I judge people by their actions. I won't date slag when looking for intimacy because that's stupid and insane. There's this thing called reality. I take it into account when dealing with people. I'm not going to ignore who you are for the sake of an ideology of insanity. Don't try to illegitimize me with your arbitrary passive aggressive rhetoric. You are clearly judging me and trying to influence how others judge my arguments. You're a sleazy little hypocrite advocating a sleazy little agenda while being deceitful about it. Also, love your male+emotion=wrong, while female+emotion=right framing. ;)
There are also asexual people who are being judged because they dont feel atracted to others ...
Cried also! so lovely every one should see this!
I cried also made me look deeper into my being
this made me cry several times... thank you thank you
I love how comfortable she is in her skin. At almost 40, I'm only just now realizing that I have just become my roles (mother/daughter/partner/ex-wife) and I want to find myself and embrace all that I am without caring what others think I should be.
She is everything, but the thing is that anyone walking down the street wouldn't know that. this makes me want to know everyone I pass on the street
this was so beautiful...I cried
I understand where she's coming from, but we should also support women who want to fill the role of homemaker. Feminism is for every woman.
And every man, men are told to fit certain roles I mean house husbands are often looked down upon. Still though brilliant video gotta love stylelikeu
What an amazing human being. I will definitely carry the wisdoms she shared here. I'm 26, I'm not perfect, I haven't reach the pinnacle of absolute self-acceptance yet but I always feel wiser and wiser at every age and more accepting of myself at every age and today Diane made me wiser and more accepting.
Diane Goldie- you are an inspiration....
I am so sorry for what happened to you.
This is my favourite interview. So much beauty and simplicity in Diane's words and wisdom.
I am so blown away by this video. I love the series but I think this video is really exceptionally powerful. Diane is so unashamedly real and frank and wise. She asserts her views in a way that is simultaneously articulate and relatable and even her body language/facial expression reiterates that. The video left me feeling so emotional but inspired at the same time. This is the kind of woman we young women should look up to, not just someone who looks 'flawless' in a bikini
I love it: "Stop fretting about getting old! You're here! It's a privilege!"
OMG this woman is amazing. She made me cry. She is so honest and sincere. What an inspiration. xxxxx
I could listen to her for so much more than 11 minutes.
This is wonderful. Whoever is leading this series is an absolute gem.
All of the women in this series are just amazing
I'm so glad I found this. It's like a real wake up call. I can't speak for all women, but the subconscious alarm bell going off all the time...I catch myself daily questioning every aspect of who I am. Am I good? Am I mature enough? Stupid? Silly? Ugly? Listening to her message was like getting permission to just relax and exist without expectation.