r/AmITheA**hole For Abandoning My Kids to Go Party?
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 26. 07. 2024
- r/AmITheA**hole I genuinely can't believe the woman in today's story. She has 3 kids: a 17-year-old girl, another daughter is recovering from surgery, and her youngest is a special needs child. OP wants to go off TO ANOTHER STATE to party with her sisters, leaving her 17-year-old in charge of her younger siblings. The 17-year-old is upset because this means that she will miss out on a school dance. OP basically says, "Sorry sweetie, but mommy's party time is more important than your party time." Is OP the butthole?
0:00 Intro
0:06 Do my parenting for me child
5:39 Walk out
8:37 There's vegan, and then there is this
13:48 Mistress or step-mom
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#reddit #AmITheButthole #funny
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Mama's gonna go party, good luck recovering from your surgery kids LOL đ€Ș
When having alcoholic parent is better than this BS excuse of a parent.
Edit: I meant workaholic, but its partly true, my mom is workaholic andy pa is the one with alcohol. And I lived with my mom after a messy divorce.
Your response to that story was EXACTLY what I was thinking. Holy cow! I just canceled my trip to MT bc I'm uncertain my 4 year old son can handle more than one night away from home. Parenthood = Sacrifice. Period. Jeez. YTA OP.
For someone who is normally quite receptive about having all the info i think you screwed up on the first story. You have no idea about all the details. in this case i'd give r/slash 2 out of five buttholes for making a judgement with far to little information.
@@mommabear1986 Exactly, my brother and I both have different levels of autism, and my parents had to put all their plans on hold to raise us. My mom even had to put her college decree to be a teacher on hold so she could raise me and take me and my brother to therapy. She couldnât even go back to college until all her kids were in high school. When we could cook and clean for ourselves. They didnât even go on an expensive vacation alone until all the kids were grown up and moved out.
Bad take. She makes it very clear, rest of family lives out of state. No other time to see family.
I don't see the problem here. As a kid who basically did the same thing, taking care of my special needs little sister so my parents could meet family for a weekend, it sucked I couldn't be with my friends, but it really wasn't that bad. Plus it really helped my parents to relax knowing if stuff went down, I could handle it. Not to mention: there are more dances, there's only one family meeting.
This is also With the understanding that it was for a weekend. It's not like I was expected to care for my sister after my parents passed or anything.
On the real though, people really have to stop acting like the children in a family are the most important part of the family. Most important part of the family is always the parents, the kids are to learn by example that being an adult is fun, and every once in awhile parents should treat themselves. After all, the other 99.9% of time, parents sacrifice everything for their kids. We really need to stop acting like telling a kid they can't go to a dance because they need to babysit is such a bad thing. That's literally part of your role as an older sibling.
A parent: *mistreats their kid*
Rslash: so....you have chosen *death*
That's the power of being a dad
@@DefensiveQueen dad instinct
@@Ddleosl3 Ultra Instinct Dad?
@@songohan3321 the power of ultra dad instinct
@@Ddleosl3 the power of ultra mega hardcore dad instinct
You know its bad when rSlash ACUTALLY says "he's an asshole"
Bruhhh I was just going through comments before finishing the videoâŠ. Now I know whatâs gonna happen now :| :)
@@SwegDoggy69 ur responsibility
He said asshole like 5 times didn't even censor it lmao
Rslash broke in this video. So many asshole said in the last story
@âœïž đ0êê âŸïž he fr snapped
She says âsacrifice for the familyâ yet she is the only one who benefits from it because she can go party. Smh.
Agreed. It's not like has to work also I call bs that she doesn't have a back up adult who can help out (a mom with another special needs child, a retired teacher, etc. ) while her daughter goes to the dance.
Neither of you have any idea how much that single mother has sacrificed for kids. I'm not saying you're for sure wrong, but quit being so damn presumptuous.
@@Luciendar2k Maybe you should stop being so pretentious and re-listen to the story... There are so many reasons why that mother is awful for what she did. Why would you leave a special needs child and another child recovering with a teenager for the whole weekend last minute? I get the feeling she's done this before and that's the kind of parent that treats their kids as miniature parents to take care of the younger siblings while they go off and live their life.
@@InkHyaena I'm not the one being presumptuous, you are since you think you know what kind of mother she is. This is an out of context story. Yes, it makes the mother look bad, but just like they say history is written by the winners, this is only one side of the story. The only thing I did was say don't be judgemental. None of us know the whole story or if the facts are straight here. But sure, jump on the hate train. I how no one ever lies about you only to have everyone believe it without evidence and slander you left and right.
@@Luciendar2k that fair but consider this: she's literally leaving someone recovering from surgery (which can be very painful, and often requires special care) and a nonverbal kiddo with a young girl. This also means said young girl can't go to an event that she only has one chance to go to, unlike the party which they could do another day in the future or just do smth without the sister that is always busy.
Yes, I understand she might be making sacrifices but this ISNT the day to take some time off
Oh!! The vegan story made me so mad. As a vegan, Iâd be so incredibly thankful if someone took so much care into planning a menu just for me! I would probably blush the whole night. The man in this story is so thoughtful! The âveganâ is just rude. Youâre not vegan, vegans eat whatever doesnât come from an animal. đŒ And weâre grateful!
Seriously I'm always willing to accomodate if you tell me the requirements Ive been cooking for 18 years. I make a wide variety of vegan, vegetarian, pescetarian, keto, low carb, no fat, no Sugare and damn near any combination of the above. But I need to be told what your diet actually is.
Here here!
Lets just hope that girl doesnt ever go on a Trip to Italy because Olive Oil is actually Very common to find there as a Salad Dressing
I was a vegetarian and my husband was a meat eater. He has Parkinson's and about 5 years ago, he announced that he was switching to a vegan, no oil, no processed food diet. I had to laugh because he can't even boil water. I mean, in the past he's baked (burned) a few frozen pizzas and that's it. He tried to boil eggs twice in the past (pre-vegan era) and both times forgot about them and all the water cooked out and the eggs exploded. So I said, "So what you are saying is I'm going to be cooking a lot?"
I went vegan too because it's just easier. I cook batches for him because he can warm things up in the microwave. His Parkinson's symptoms improved enough that his neurologist was impressed and said she was going to recommend all her Parkinson's patients try a vegan diet for a month, and I lost weight and my skin is gorgeous so it was a good thing for both of us. That being said if we are eating with someone, I suggest restaurants we can afford or offer to bring things to people's houses. It is our weird diet, not rules we impose. If someone made this, we'd be so grateful. He'd probably skip the salad dressing but we would not complain at all. We would so appreciate someone being this kind.
I've recently had shoulder surgery and I tried to talk him through some basic packaged ramen cooking for me. Even though I went step by step he put in too little water and overcooked it. All I could say was that his ramen has nowhere to go from there but up (hopefully not in flames).
We have reasons to be on this diet, but we don't expect anyone to cater to us. When we go to a restaurant, I tell the server we are vegan and usually get a look of dismay until I explain that we know what we want, and will only ask for minor changes (one place puts kale on their veggie burger and I prefer normal burger lettuce because kale on a burger is just weird to me kind of changes) but I want them to know we are vegan because if we order something that isn't vegan, please tell us. I've had several servers tell us that we were the nicest/easiest/least pain in the ass vegans ever so I guess lots of vegans are difficult like this person.
If they go out of their way to list ingredients and make sure all things are vegan, I leave a great tip and a thank you note. If you explain what you need and enlist their help, servers and cooks are your allies, not your enemies.
It sounds like she's actually WFPB Whole Food Plant Based. It's like a vegan diet, but even oils cannot be consumed. Nothing processed is allowed. Oil, white bread, sugar, etc.
That first story "I need her to make a sacrifice for the family." No, you need her to make a sacrifice for YOU.
**you need her to sacrifice you
you WANT her to make a sacrifice for YOU. it's not needed and it's not for the family
Lol the more I think about it the more that line sounds stupid. So a sacrifice for the family for you to go on vacation. Hunny no just no. Like Slash said, if she needed to drive her other kid to a surgery appointment then yeah she wouldn't be an asshole, but this is just for a vacation.
I said the exact same thing!!
And then that will turn into "we need you to take care of them forever"
I love how nonchalant the 1st op was about her daughter having surgery and then focusing on the 17 year old. 10/10 great parenting lol
exactly! "oh yeah, and my other daughter had surgery but shes fine. anyways, this girl was so excited for this dance but i need a babysitter (T - T)" like wtf
@@Thebatcavepetfriendlybakery just open heart surgery (just for shits and giggles), nbd! but the dance!!!!!
@@kellywaters643 Iâm a mom of 3 kids and if one of my kids were getting surgery I would be taking sick leave from work to be with my kid and make sure they were comfortable. Hell, when my spouse had hernia surgery last year I made sure that I had no plans for 2 weeks after so that I could make sure he was taken care of.
@@tegantalks9612 you are clearly a competent parent and not a selfish fuckhead. I mean that, you sound like a great, caring parent and I wish more were like you
@@kellywaters643 thank you. To me the parent in this story sounds like someone who maybe got pregnant too young and had to miss out on things due to it. Still doesnât excuse the behaviour; I had my first at 23 and I went to a Metallica concert when he was 1 month old but I planned everything in advance and had my baby been sick I would have ditched the concert for him. I chose to have kids and now I theyâre my responsibility for at least the next 18 years. Heck Iâm 27 and when I was hospitalized last year during my pregnancy my parents moved around their schedule a bit so they could help me with my kids when they didnât have to.
As someone who is the sibling to a special needs child (Turns out I was too, lol) the first story hurts my inner child for all that I have missed out on because of my sibling
My brother and I have special needs too!
Hey Iâm in the same situation too! I havenât heard of anyone else whose been though the same thing as me! My sister had autism so I was parentified by my mother and given so much responsibility I never got to be a kid, but it turns out Iâm also autistic and also needed support but instead got emotionally abused rip. Hope your situation is better now
I also understand that feeling. My brother is autistic as well and while was lucky enough for my parents to go to things like my concerts usually one of them usually being my dad would have to leave early do to my brother hrowing a fit and messing with the baby sitters. and I also haven't gotten to go to a lot of events with family because of my brother.
My brotherâs autistic and has a list of medical needs as long as my arm, but my parents didnât treat me as a caregiver. Maybe itâs because they had me 6 years after they had him-they waited until the family was stable before adding to it. Still, Iâm not inclined to be charitable to this garbage human being.
@@theosaurusofc aye same
Ever since Rslash has become a dad you can just tell when he reads stories when parents are the butt holes he looses it. Especially that last story.
I'm loving daddy Rslash! You tell them!!! Don't hold back!!!
rslash is on the warpath for all posts involving neglectful parents
Iâm willing to fight with him, I feel the same way about it
The first comment I saw was yours. I'm only first story in and completely get what you mean.
He became a dad and he evolved. I'm loving this rSlash.
As he should be.
someday, all evil parents won't be able to escape from his wrath, lol
Story 3: She's not vegan. She has an ED and is using veganism as a cover-up.
100%. Ortherexia I believe it is called.
I believe it's called "whole food plant based" diet/veganism. It is technically a thing. But she definitely should've let OP know about it.
Yeah the fact that she wouldn't even eat the salad makes me think ortherexia. While I can see white bread and pasta with oil not being very healthy being unwilling to eat a salad because it has oil is way overboard.
She is definitely a classic example of an ED. I did research into veganism years ago, and came across a lot of info on orthorexia. Many people with ED are drawn to veganism to use as a cover for their ED. In this case, her behaviour at the table made it blatantly obvious that the issue was not vegan food but her obsession with any fat in food. And her partner is in denial about her ED.
Seriously it was all ok with her strict vegan diet but omg itâs fatty?!?! Which itâs still pretty damn healthy! Im weird (picky) with foods myself like with textures and stuff and bad (wimpy) with spicy food, my mom teases me for having âbaby taste budsâ.
But when im eating someone elseâs home made food I make a small plate and try to eat as much of it even if I hate or dying from the spicyness because I donât wanna look rude and insult the host and their cooking, Cause I know they worked on it all day. If itâs super duper spicy they understand and I can get away with not eating it, I just deal with most teasing me for being a wimp lol idc Iâll take it then die lol but Iâll eat everything else they have and I know itâs on me and my taste buds! Itâs not on them to cater for one (wimp) person! Lol
So if I can put myself and stomach through hell even if itâs not spicy and I just donât like it so can she! But the thing is this all sound realllllly good! Sheâs just has a issue with food and expects others to too like as if her weird eating habits or likely eating disorders is normal, itâs not and it not normal for just being vegan! And if she canât and holds others to her high and strict standards then she should be hosting the meals instead of holding others to her RIDICULOUS standards. Seriously what did she want like celery sticks with water as a dip?! If itâs not a eating disorder then itâs something else like serious control issues!!!
But I could she her hosting meals everyone being like me and eating a small plate then after goes out to actually eat lol opâs brother has to know she has a issue with food like he sees what she eats or does she hold others to a higher standard then what she makes for herself
In the vegan fiancee story, it sounds like she's not vegan, but whole foods plant based. The animals don't care if you eat olive oil or white bread. There's no way for OP to have known that she'd want to only eat whole foods unless she specifically told them.
Reminds me of that vegan girlfriend from awhile back (not sure if it was on this channel) who, despite the OP being willing to make a vegan meal for her, wanted OP to get all their ingredients from very specific places. That one and this one are beyond vegan. It's like the unholy cross between a stereotypical vegan and a stereotypical hipster.
Can you explain a little further? Iâm confused.
@@DravenGal Yeah, veganism is a philosophy and way of living which seeks to exclude-as far as is possible and practicable-all forms of exploitation of, and cruelty to, animals. However, there is something called the whole foods plant based diet, which is basically a vegan diet, but excludes a bunch of other foods which are usually processed. When someone says they're vegan, this can't tell you whether or not they eat processed foods, only that they don't eat animal products.
@@sentientdarkness1306 So they only eat foods that contain a whole plant? đ
@@DravenGal Kind of like that, yes.
That last rant about the cheating father and his mistress⊠right on. Good for you, rSlash. đ
Yeah, and I like to think the mistress had brainwashed him into believing that OP's mother is really awful and is nothing but a waste of time and he wants every single person to feel for him for this and be glad he found a much better person, even OP, his daughter he had with his previous wife and why he's upset at OP not staying and instead walking out quietly is undeniably because he's upset at her still remembering her mother when he wants her to forget about her and be happy for him just like what the rest of the family has already done and are upset at her too.
Right? Im on OPs Side in this. Like, i cant think of a Single way that Amanda ISNT the Mistress. She was the Dads Affair Partner, that LITERALLY makes her the Mistress
"OP you made the side piece cry!" Um, So? Ridiculous father and grandparents
Fun fact: In europe, writing op up for getting hospitalised would get her boss to jail.
Same for here in the states. OP is protected by fmla
@@emberbear Very true. If it were me, I'd have let them fire me, then sued their asses for breaking FMLA.
@@emberbear Except for the jail part, anyhow. Though that does sound like a good idea, at least for the more egregious offenses.
Bro Europe isnât a country no every European country has the same laws
@@apollyon1987 True but most European countries have similar sets of laws overall, especially if they're in the EU.
Becoming a father has really given RSlash perspective on bad-parenting stories hasn't it. Totally agree on the last story. He was an asshole. If I'd been the daughter I'd be PISSED. Makes it even worse that her mother died.
I know right! I actually gasped out loud when he was reading the speech. I wouldn't give OP a a-hole score even if she had caused a scene after that, because that's one of the most offensive things a grieving daughter could hear.
The dad essentially said he regrets her existence by saying that his entire relationship to OP's mom was a waste of time
That last one had me gripping my pillow out of anger. I resent my father for causing my mom so much pain. And they're still together, so she has to go through so much every day with him. He doesn't care about his wife, or 5 kids, he's made that very clear to us. I almost cried at OP's post. All I could see is my father doing exactly what OP's father did. It frustrates me to know that he's not the only one like that, but it also comforts me to know that other people know how I feel. Thank you for listening to this pointless rant, feel free to ask questions
Edit: I give OP's father 10/5 buttholes. His actions were so buttholey, the butthole rating broke
I once had a friend who had just about every severe allergy I've ever heard of. She handled it exactly the diplomatic way you described, but because my mom is a really good cook she made accommodations anyway. She actually gave my mom a list of foods she COULD eat, and then whenever she came to our house, she made meals including only those ingredients. I was super glad she wasn't also a vegetarian because meat was on that list.
You can always tell when R slash is truly pissed because he doesn't try to censor himself. And I totally get where he's coming from because people and human beings are really wack sometimes.
As well you can tell this comes from a place of passion and care as a parent and decent human being
Story 4: No idea how Dad expected OP to be fine with that vile statement.
OP should cut out that part out family
OP would have made a scene (and rightly so) for that vile statement. I wouldn't be angry for OP for that.
OP should cut that part of the family out like a cancerous tumor.
Op acted better then i would have, i'd have punched the jerk and the "mistress" cried because op called it like it was she's the mistress like it or not.
"Your dad has a message he wants to give you."
"Yeah, I heard it loud and clear, asshole."
That vegan woman story: u shouldâve just gave her an apple, a tomato and a bell pepper. Low in calories and vegan lol
Yummy
@@rain1676 fr very yummy :3
"Did they use pesticides on the apple? DDT, wax? Were the tomatoes greenhouse grown or in soil? Was animal manure used to grow the peppers?" There's a negative out for every positive in for some people.
That first story broke my heart because I went through the same thing when I was younger. I was forced to make sacrifices for my family and I always had to beg my mom to do anything but half the time she said no
That cheating father called HIS KID a waste of his time by implication when he verbally shat all over his first marriage. Any reaction to that is warranted. OP showed class.
Fr I woulda hit. Like you aren't going to disrespect me and my DEAD mother to my face. OP is a hero for not going to jail that day cause I sure as hell would have
Yeah, that guy cheated because he hated his previous wife. That's fine, but he should've just filed a divorce on her and say things aren't working out. I wonder if he was actually manipulated by the girl he went with instead and she convinced him that his wife is terrible and the whole thing is a complete waste of time. Actually, that makes a lot of sense.
@@spydersoup8447 That's super common with cheaters. They convince their side piece that their current partner is just so awful and horrible to get sympathy and make the other person not care to be aiding a cheater. I don't understand why people do it and never will
@@nashidragneel4980 And it seemed like the other family members ended up believing what OP's dad believed in and he wants his daughter to believe in him too, but of course, she didn't give into it and that's why he's angry at her.
Coming from someone who is easily hot headed, I would've told Amanda "piss off! You're not my mom" as I walked out. I lost my mom a couple years back as well. So I felt this. That's like my stepdad saying he wasted his life with my mom. They were already split but not divorced (bc he refused to sign the papers despite having a gf already). I'm not close with him but yeah.
OP: *"So, am I the butthole?"*
Comments: "Yes, you are the butthole."
rSlash: *Basically berates the crap out of OP for bad parenting*
OP: *Suprised Pikachu Face*
I hope she's watching this lol
â@@gerrard1144 She'd probably reacted with "HOw DaRe yOU! i Am a sInGlE MoTHeR AnD I dEsERrRRRvE THiS TrIP!"
@@dracko158 âI deserve thisâ, in a snotty entitled voice.
Lol ok karens
@@SeanWinters âHOW DARE YOU, DO YOU KNOW WHO I AM ?? I KNOW THE *MANAGER* â
1st story, no,the only people willing to watch him aren't just his sisters and grandparents; the only people willing to watch him FOR FREE are his sisters and grandparents.
The last little "expecting her to be there for the family" let's me know that op went into this thinking she wasn't wrong, she just wanted other people to call her daughter the a-hole so she could show her
I can imagine that it backfired on her because he was labeled as an a-hole, she got blasted in the comments and she ended up stop replying all together. I wonder what OP's going to do now that this obvious plan to make sure Bindi will do what OP wants her to do has backfired.
Story about Amanda is an example of a common theme: if you won't accept silence or polite evasions when they are offered, be prepared for absolutely brutal honesty. If I'm trying to avoid answering your question directly, there's probably a reason. And it's usually pretty obvious whether you're going to like the truth if you force me to speak it.
Exactly! See, I'll ask three times "Do you really want me to answer that?" I'm all for just being supportive and offering words of comfort, but I'm not holding my thoughts back if you ask for them
YES. I feel like there should be at least a comment saying as much to the person before unleashing it: "Trust me, this is the polite-er way of being annoyed at that statement that guy made" or something like that.
For once a situation where brutal honesty is appropriate and not a butthole move.
I have one correction for rSlash: the fourth story's father wasn't talking about his ex-wife - he was talking about his _late_ wife. They hadn't even finished the divorce proceedings before she died!
Somehow that makes it feel even worse
That one word makes all the difference
@@scmontgomery yeah the father in the last story now gets like 100/5 a-holes because he effectively killed his late near-ex-wife.
I agree. Although, even if she was his ex-wife that was still alive, what an awful, awful thing to say. He didn't even have to mention OP's mother. He could have acknowledged OP and thanked her for being there and then talked about how great his fiance was. Also, I predict that either one or both of them are gonna cheat.
@@pollypockets508 once someone cheats, they wonât stop, no matter how much they have to lie through their teeth to make you trust them.
@@nightblossom2625 Well, I cheated on my boyfriend twenty years ago at my family reunion when a bunch of us went out to the bars. I made out with a dude I met there. No sex. I told him as soon as I got home and he forgave me. I have never done it again. I felt so awful. So I think sometimes it's just a mistake.
The mistress or step mom story really hit home for me. I can relate to that one very well. My mom passed away when I was 15. Anyways, if my dad would've talked like that about my mom on his engagement party... Honestly I probably would've thrown hands. I fully respect the writer for not making scene and just walking out. My mom was everything for me, losing her made my whole world crushing down. So if my own father would ever talk about her like OPs did I would've lost my shit. Well done OP, you were amazing!
Another point about story #1: OP says she knew for ages that this party trip was happening, yet she only notifies her daughter about it right before it happens? I mean, even if she *had* notified her daughter earlier, OP would still be an a-hole, but leaving it to the last minute so that her daughter made plans of her own is just unnecessary.
Why can't the first OP have bailed out of the trip?
The first one is insane. Knew someone like that, she was basically never able to go outside and experience life because she was stuck being the mother. Letâs just say⊠things didnât end well for anyone
War
Second story: Depending on the country, penalizing an employee for sick/medical leave is highly illegal. Even with a points system like that is considered predatory in the eyes of the law.
That's what I was thinking about.
this is most likely the usa and unfortunately this happens here, my husband works does this, and it messed up
It's not illegal in America because people aren't people in employers eyes
@@Tom-dg6pg it's defs illegal in America. OP just had to get a lawyer and that boss would have started begging for forgiveness
@@admrs6822 oh, you mean like making new mothers go back to work less than a week after giving birth? Or making people in the service industry work for tips, rather than an actual livable wage?
story #1 is the story of my life. i'm the oldest of five, and i'm 8 years older than the second oldest. from age 8 to 18 i was pretty much free babysitting for one, later two little kids. (third sibling was born when i was 18, fourth was adopted when i was 24.)
my parents never understood why i decided to go child-free.
I would've told them "being the mom at 10 was hard enough, I'd rather not do it again." But that's probably just me
Right? I'd have kids dumped on me all the time, starting at a pretty young age, and my mom or grandma would "joke", "it's great birth control!" Which would be repeated when I would get overwhelmed by the children. And this was before I even knew exactly how babies were made
Then as soon as I turned 18, the statement became, "where are the grandbabies?!"
I'm like, you can't do that. You can't be trying to make me miserable one minute then the next asking why I don't want kids
â@@justtherandomguyThat's what I should start doing
@@scheneli000 the petty approach is always the most fun :D
Can we talk about how the mother just stripped a once in a life time memory from their child....think about how much fun she could have and be a kid (even if they're 17)
but she needs to go on an anytime in a lifetime vacation
Ya know Rslash is angry when he forgets to censor himself in real time and in editing.
Also Rslash, just to cleanse your pallet of all these terrible excuses we call human beings in these stories, maybe have an episode of r/humansbeingbros or something else wholesome to get the stench of stories like this out of your mouth, at least for a day.
Third story: Why do I got the feeling that that woman just wanted to cause problems? And is true, that woman isn't vegan, she really has an eating disorder because OP really made the effort and she basically flipped OP the bird metaforically.
Vegans like those give the rest of us a bad name
Yeah, I was over here yelling WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH OLIVE OIL? Youâre totally right; that gal has an eating disorder as well as being-a-royal-pain-in-the-ass disorder.
@@marinacruzchueco3768 I was going to say the same thing. This woman is the person all those entitled vegan jokes are about.
I don't think she has an eating disorder. I think she's taken the vegan lifestyle to the extreme, or maybe that her vegan diet is combined with paleo diets in that she only eats "whole foods". Hence the white bread flour and olive oil thing. However, olive oil IS paleo. She may be basing her judgements solely off of it being "processed" foods and not well versed in what does and doesn't comply with the diet. However, GF is still a massive AH for spitting in the face of all OP's hard work and research.
@@evonneacevedo6578 I'm not vegan but in my opinion as a Greek olive oil goes with almost everything
i was raised by a narcissist like the first OP (i was the Bindi) and i'm perpetually glad that rslash gets as mad about this shit as i do.
The sad part is that there are actually parents like this. Including mine, my parents would completely agree with all these toxic parents
You know rSlash's anger meter is going off the charts when the censorship is completely turned off... đ±
it shocked me when he started cursing at a post
@@yeetman826 your name has inspired me to do many things, thanks you.
He was bothered before, but ever since he had his baby girl his bullshit tolerance for bad parenting is absolute zero
@@weewooooosh9420 Ain't dat the truth. Seeing rSlash (or as he often states as himself, Dabney) just take the time to REALLY feel how someone's offspring feels because of a bad situation just warms my heart, cos now with his new family he's seeing things way differently.
@@yukikursosaki200 Agreed 100% I just wish all parents were as involved. The world would be a much gentler place :)
Story 3: Picky Eater
If you have dietary requirements, it is YOUR duty to tell other people. Whether it is because you don't eat meat or have a fatal peanut allergy, it is your job to tell people.
That being said, the brother's gf seems a bit off. Maybe she loves being a martyr or there's something wrong with her dietary concepts.
I heard that story and as a person with almost exactly the same dietary restrictions (ie. Vegan, health nut etc..) i always tell people my entire diet if they are cooking for me or inviting me somewhere for situations like this and thats the normal thing to do it actually makes me mad when people with restrictions on the more extreme side aren't telling people about their restrictions and then get pissed whenever their food restrictions arnt accommodated.
Iâm an extremely picky eater and when I go to a place that I didnât realize we were gonna eat/have things I donât like I just politely decline and eat something later. I donât like to make a fuss because obviously not every person can bend to my every will and desire, itâs just selfish
What the fiancĂ© did was so rude and entitled honestly like maybe op went a bit far to call her diet an eating disorder (which could be true with the way she picked at everything) but it still doesnât excuse HER for her behavior to think that they shouldâve known how to prepare the food exactly how SHE likes it
(Edited for spelling)
Yeah, if you're that picky of an eater, you just need to not go to other people's homes and expect to be fed. I'm willing to accommodate a vegan guest, and thats about the same kind of thing I would have served. The difference is, I wouldn't have sat there looking at this woman tearing up the bread and playing with it like a child, I would have asked her to leave.
I agree with you. I don't eat pork or beef. I usually don't like to talk about it, so when my employers brought in pizza or other things with pork or beef in them I wouldn't be mad. They would always ask me why I wasn't eating anything and that's when I would explain it. They would always remember that for the future. So, there's no way I'd be apologizing to the picky eater.
exactly. you have a mouth, so use it. especially for something other than eating and oral.
The bachelorette: the man who's wife died was named West. And he brought her a compas to "find your way West. Back ro me". It was one of the sweetest contestant moments I've ever seen. He was on Ashley Herbert's season.
I love how much parenthood has given Rslash perspective on bad parenting. I'm still hoping he reads the one I found recently where the father wanted to run off to Vegas for three whole days while leaving his wife who just gave birth with their toddler and newborn child, completely alone and without help. She got labeled the A-hole by Redditors, but I feel like Rslash would've given a much different verdict.
Man, I'm still upset about that post.
Kids deserve parents but some parents don't deserve kids
SHE got labeled the A-hole?!?! What??
I used to be the oldest daughter in the first story (my parents didnât go party, but both worked to keep us afloat) and I missed out on so many things I looked forward to, planned for and put work into because I had to care for my younger siblings. It hurts to always need to push your own occassions aside. (Itâs better now, though!)
It really hurts when you get to see your siblings do fun things but youâre stuck watching the other one. I missed out on so many things that my sister did not. She never had to watch my brother it really sucked so much. And we were poor so that didnât help either I never got to do those fun trips to theme parks or homecoming.
At least you had to watch your siblings because your parents were working. (not saying it wasn't bad, but at least reasonable) The OP is making the older child watch their siblings because she wants to go party.
Yes, but there wasnât much your parents could do in that situation. Considering they were working in order to keep your family going, I can understand why you may have had to fill the parent role. Iâm not saying it isnât neglectful behaviour, however they had a reason
A well deserved 5/5 in the last story. He basically called his daughter a waste of his time. đ
Not basically. he outright did
As for the last story, my parents are divorced. My mother once told me that she never loved my father and she only had be because she knew it was the only thing that would make her happy. I always saw it as her being selfish. She only had me because it would make HER happy? Sucks to know I wasn't born out of love, but because SHE wanted a baby
I don't know your situation, but that sounds like that was meant to be a reassuring statement from your mom.
It's like saying, "The only good thing that came from my marriage was you, kiddo."
@@CatacombD I think I understood that later, but it definitely hurt. I think the wording may have been a bit off unintentionally.
Regular people : "Wow, RSlash is so lucky to have such an easy job as a CZcamsr!"
RSlash : "Why do I have to read so many stories about so many awful people ? It hurts :'("
Becoming a parent comes with a lot of responsibilities, sometimes you'll have to make sacrifices, and u should NOT expect your children to do that for you.
You should be teaching your kids that sacrifices go all ways, not just one. A mom who needs a break is disaster waiting to happen. The daughter who I'm sure goes out at leastly weekly can sacrifice one weekend for her moms mentality. But hey...you go ahead and keep condoning teaching kids to grow up being entitled little snots who can't do anything to help the family. Ever.
@@Rhaenarys she is a terrible mom she literally forced her daughter to look after a child who just had surgery and an autistic child, itâs not like itâs a normal family situation and itâs not like the mom was leaving for a valid reason she just wants to have fun
@@Rhaenarys I'm guessing you're either an entitled brat or the same type of parental figure that's being shown here because why does the daughter, who the mom birthed to take care of, need to do the mom's job
@@Rhaenarys
@@moosimus4957 i guess since I'm speaking from a daughters perspective, entitled brat. But funny....don't think entitled means thinking about your mom and the struggles she's gone through trying to raise me and my siblings. You might want to check your dictionary on the definition, because entitled brat would the teenager right here...feels entitled to go out, because...why again? Oh right....a Halloween dance that isn't even one of the main dances of the school year...and just a quick way for the school to make a few extra bucks. I mean...I didn't think our society has grown to be so crappy that they can't think of their mother, but of themselves....id be ashamed of myself if I treated my mom like that after all the hard work she's done...alone, at that in this case. Sorry you're such an entitled brat to have no consideration for your own mother. Or...sorry your relationship with your mother is so crappy going no contact is better than being a thoughtful child of their mother. Not all of us hate our mothers, though. Sad you do, actually....
For that first story, take the dance out of the equation for a moment. First of all, OP can afford a weekend getaway, so why is it impossible for her to pay for a CNA or a trained caregiver for the weekend? It is not safe to leave a child with a severe disability alone with their teenage sister for an entire weekend. Many things can go wrong in that time. Also, the reason OP is TA is because she's prioritizing her vacation over the safety and wellbeing of her children. Yes, parents deserve to get away from it all for a little while, but not at the expense of their children. What if her son has a severe meltdown that winds up severely injuring someone? Then what's OP going to do?
Also, I get the feeling, based on how the post was written, Bindi was under the assumption that she wouldn't be expected to babysit that weekend and then OP dropped the bomb the minute Bindi made plans. I wonder if OP's done this before.
However, if Bindi was an adult and it was a Halloween Party, I might say differently. However, she's still a minor. And it's the only high school Halloween dance she'll ever attend.
Sadly i feel like if that did happen (Fritz having a meltdown and injuring someone or himself) OP would say something along the lines of
"Well, Bindi was the one watching them so it was her responsibility to keep her siblings safe"
I completely agree with you comparing it to her being an adult. The mom can spend any time with her sister, Bindi doesn't get that time back. So far it seems lile her highschool memories are her at home taking care of her siblings while her mom does what Bindi wishes she was doing.
If anything, that may make Bindi never want kids. (i don't know if she does or doesn't without this story happening) but this happening may make Bindi never want to have a kid.
I have a feeling if thag happened OP would say "why not?! I did so well with you and your siblings"
@@justtherandomguy Definitely. OP is so out of touch and detached from reality, and her kids are paying the price for it.
In the comments of that post, OP says that Bindi babysits her siblings about 3-4 times weekly. I imagine OP to be one of those parents who says "parenting is so easy". Well... it is when YOU aren't the one doing any of the actual parenting like sacrifices of time and money for your kids.
Uh i still think rslash picked op ip wrong Her partner is dead� Her children are sick and autistic has anyone not thaught about how fucking exsausted she probably is i mean shes a mam to an autistic child⊠tour really undermining the sistuation and your really just tryna black and white the post having an autistic child is probabaly the most beautiful thing but probably the most difficult thing anyone can deal with especially non verbal you have to nearly fight with them to try and understand what theyre saying sometimes why cant her child missed a silly stupid dance that she can probably go to again and shes 17 shes nearly an adult shes fully capeable of looking after her cousions stop tryna make out that her daughter is dumb
Oh I get this. The mother should have planned this better . There are agencies for special needs children . It may be pricey but worth it for peace of mind I get she needs a break but as r slash said the brother isnât her daughterâs child . Iâd feel more secure myself with a nurse or trained professional present especially with another daughter recovering from surgery .
The first story is weird for me because my parents have been making me be a baby sitter for years, sometimes paid but that's only on special occasions. They constantly expect me to cancel my plans to take care of my step and half siblings. Not to mention if my dads the only one home with the kids I have to step in cuz my siblings will be making messes, getting food all over themselves, or screaming... mean while he's alseep on the couch. So after years of this (since I was 11, I'm 17 now) I completely refuse to baby sit even if they try to bribe me with money. I sometimes feel bad because I know I take better care of the kids then my dad, but it's my last year to be a child myself and I don't wanna waist it. It's so unfair how my life gets put on hold because they don't wanna watch there kids or spend extra money sending them to an actual baby sitter. On the rare occasion I do it paid its much much less then a sitter would be paid too.
Last story: She should have said: "Just tell Amanda to stop being a crybaby and get over the past!"
After that last story, I feel like RSlash needs a hug. And possibly a long break from r/AITA
Would you believe stories like this are concerningly common in other reddits like RelationshipAdvice and especially SurvivingInfidelity?
@@ExDragonMaster Yes. Yes I would.
We all need a week of Malicious Compliance and Pro Revenge to relax. lol
Is there a reddit with cute kitten and puppy stories? Maybe he can make videos on that for awhile.
r/humansbeingbros
The third story - Before OP even brought up ED I was thinking it could be one disguised as veganism. One of my oldest friends had a lot of ED issues and then became a vegan to further restrict herself. She is still a vegan but a very healthy and balanced one now.
Glad to hear your friend has recovered!
ED? What is that?
@@jeremystone5946 ED is short for eating disorder
@@jeremystone5946 eating disorder
Took me a minute to realize you were meaning Eating Disorder and not Erectile Dysfunction
I have a 17 year old a 9 year old and an autistic-schizophrenic 12 year old. My oldest had never done more than watched the boys while I ran to the store. I'd never expected him to watch his brothers while I went off to have fun or for hours... that's just terrible.
Not just in the hands of a 17 year old, but a 17 year old that's gonna be unbelievably pissed at mom and probably have some of that rub off on their siblings. Recipe for a neglectful night.
*"You roasted the veggies in olive oil?!"*
What is that supposed to mean?
Did she want them fried in mineral oil?
Should've responded with "oh you wanted them roasted in motor oil?"
@@cuddlestsq2730 YESS?!?!!! Thatâs what gives them the smoky flavor so you know NOTHING about culinary arts??!!?
She probably wanted them air-fried or something like that
Nah she wanted em boiled in holy water then have the steam condense on the branches of Yggdrasil and then wanted the droplets sprinkled on top so she could have a "holy vegan diet"
i heard you can heat up gasoline and cook things with that, iâll have to try it tho iâll get back to you
Listen. Iâm vegan and if someone made me just ONE dish vegan where I was Iâd be SO THANKFUL. I have friends who accommodate me being vegan and I also accommodate my friend who is diabetic when we cook and bring food together. That girl has an eating disorder hidden by veganism.
Exactly! I either speak with the host or bring a dish to share!
I think she has a eating disorder focused on calories. I recall rSLASH saying the calories bit after the questions on if its vegan or not.
Totally agree with you on the Vegan story. I have a lot of food allergies, and would be SO blown away with gratefulness if anyone put in the effort to make me such a thoughtful meal- no matter what the food was.
Just saying, itâs not a siblingâs job to babysit. They didnât decide for you to have another child. Having them make sacrifices for your decisions is not okay.
Slick Spades on a RSLASH video??????? Are my eyes lying??????
I get that, but at the same time a vacation that took months into planning. Suddenly is canceled because of a spur of the moment dance that the child wanted to go to...
Most places like that require a deposit so chances are they already had money put down. Plus if the parents had to cancel, it would not only ruin their trip but the other families trip as well. There's way more people involved. Now if this dance was mentioned ahead of time before the vacation was even planned and they did this then I can agree, but as far as we know, no it's not unreasonable for them to ask what they did. Especially if this is a one-time thing that chances are won't be able to happen again
@@The..Boulder yeah, and going to prom is like a one time thing in everyoneâs high school. For all we know, she did tell her mom early on, and for all we know there is no deposit. Your whole point is theoretical and none of that is stated in the post. Not only that, but did you listen to everything else he said? What if a fire did start? What if someone broke in? Does she know how to do the Heimlich in case her special needs brother chokes on food? CPR? More than likely, no. Which is another reason why children should not babysit other children. You have no idea what is going to happen. The mom just sounds downright neglectful, because things CAN happen that no one can prepare for.
@@The..Boulder not the childâs fault for having no other option
@@WolfBlackNinja exactly my point. There's not enough info here to fully blame the parents, or blame the girl. And for all we know, it could have just been a regular dance, not the prom. As for your other point, what 17-year-old doesn't know what to do if there's a fire or emergency? And any reasonable person who has somebody babysit their kids would make them know first aid. I don't know what generation you or were these people are from, but I was born in 1992 and when I was growing up the very first thing that people would look at when looking for babysitters are if they are able to perform first aid heimic maneuver, CPR things like that.
I 100% expect OP to try and hide the overwhelming "YTA" replies from her daughter and still make her babysit. She strikes me as a person too indignant to acknowledge that she's in the wrong and just hide that reality.
Edit: Yup, OP's replies got downvoted to hell and she's stopped replying.
She aslo most likely got shadowbanned
She's a narcissist
Do you have a link to the post?? I want to see what replies she made. I bet the excuses were horrible.
Something my mother taught me; when you become a parent, its no longer about you. I have 4 siblings and growing up my parents sacrificed things like going out to the bar with friends or just adult trips. And as we got older and were able to take care of ourselves my parents starting going out again. They didn't officially go on a trip, just them, until my youngest sibling was 15, and even then they were only an hour and a half away still in state.
My farther did the exact same thing as that last guy. It was in his vows that his "whole life was a mess until he met" his current wife. The woman he cheated with while married to my mother. Not gonna lie, that last story touched a nerve because it felt so damn familiar.
So for that disconnect, chef with a degree in nutrition here, the ONLY thing that was even close to unhealthy here was the pasta itself for the carbs/ possible gluten allergy, but olive oil is literally one of the healthiest cooking staples.
I think the fiance in this story is suffering from an ED which explains why oil is so hard for her to consume- oil is an extremely popular fear food
Then why the heck do so many companies use soybean oil if they want food to be healthier? I have a minor allergy to soy, and it sucks because they put it in literally EVERYTHING.
@@frosted_glaceon5513 itâs probably cheaper.
She probably has an ED and is using veganism to cover it up
Also, it's delicious.
The comment about the 17 year old in the first story being âthe only optionâ for a baby sitter really rubbed me the wrong way. Rslash mentioned it but thatâs just a way to say âwAaH I DoNât WaNt To PaY fOr A sItTeR!!â which is grossly irresponsible.
Her vacation was planned six weeks ahead of time and she expects us to believe she couldn't find anyone else? đ
@@thunderflare59 right?? Thereâs plenty of people she couldâve hired but she decided to screw over her daughter instead. Smh
Some autistic children that are this sever can not have someone they are not familiar with just come in and take care of them. Bringing in someone new can make it harder for the child to function in his normal capacity. This can cause meltdown, stimming, and other episodes. So it could be that it is not an option. It could be that her daughter works so well with him that it is not an issue.
@@kristinwheeler4128 Yup the younger brother of a Friend is like that.
@@kristinwheeler4128 Still, it's not right to leave a still underaged teenager in charge of their sibling with special needs, like Rslash stated, what if they got an emergency?
Also, the parent could bring someone else the same week planned their "party day", 6 weeks ago, I'm sure there are programs where the person in question will engage with the child with special needs, still not easy and not cheap, but better that than not letting you other children live their lives and have fun once in a while.
It's unfortunately too common that kids get used as free babysitters and housemaids. Went through it myself, it's disgusting and the worst part is they're robbing their kids of memories that shape who they become. You lived your life, let your daughter live hers.
As an autistic person, itâs not ok to make a teenager babysit YOUR child, I never expected my (half) siblings to babysit me when I was younger. The only time they âbabysatâ me is when they (or their dad) wanted us over at theirs.
Also- people arenât entitled to forgiveness and âmoving onâ. People who make huge mistakes, have to suffer the consequences of those mistakes. If you cheat on your wife and your kids refuse to forgive you and accept your new partner, then thatâs the way of it. You made your bed. You chose it
Sounds like OP was moving on... until her father said that her mother (whom she loved) was a waste of his time...
Exactly my ex thinks saying sorry means he should be forgiven for the vile things heâs done I hate people like that.
We should only forgive if we want to be forgiven ourselves.
Totally agree. When I was in my early 20's I got ran over by a guy on a motor scooter a night. It took away my sense of smell. From all accounts, the guy who hit me was remorseful, and stayed by my unconscious body. When given the option of going after the guy, I opted to forgive him as my medical bills were covered by insurance. I wish him peace and happiness and I forgive him utterly.
When I was 14, my biological father told me my mother would have been better off if she aborted me rather than have such a weak and useless son. I will never forgive that piece of trash for the mental and emotional abuse he put me through. He's just a piece of shit!
@@BubbleBunnyy, yep! Apologies don't count unless the offending behavior is changed. Otherwise, they're just placating you with "sorry."
RSlash, Fatherhood becomes you, I love how you are letting us know each and every day how in love with your wife and daughter you are. Also the new edge to your a$$hole parents posts is sharp!
Right!!! I donât remember what video it was but one day he went off on a parent op. I remember thinking what has changed to make him feel so harsh. The next day I figured out his daughter was born. Makes sense! I like the change!
Ikr? It's damn amazing, and it's just shows how much he loves and cares for his family uncondicionally, and the among rage when reading about other children suffering from negletful/stupid parents.
Agreed!!!
Hell yeah I love it!
I feel like rslashâs perspective has changed over time. I love it.
Story 3: I low-key kinda love how OP just claps back at brother, he tells OP to go fuck themselves and they just say "yeah, fair." So chill.
First story is 100% parentification and all 3 of those kids are gonna end up NC with their mother.
Third story is so bizarre. Olive oil is one of the healthier oils, so it's used constantly in vegan cooking. The eating disorder comment was kind of assholish, but so was the gf's behavior so turn about is fair play.
Last story is NTA - dad was needlessly cruel in his toast.
first story: 2 kids, poor fritz is stuck with his mom unless Op or her sister get him out.
Last story: What Dad? That's no Dad...
I'm vegetarian and I eat vegan often enough.
Outside of the olives, which I'm allergic to, I would've LOVED what was on the table! It's so nice and well-thought out to accommodate to my dietary means in such a huge way! Especially for a first meeting where you didn't had the chance yet to talk about what kinds of food I prefer or not.
I remember when my mom and I became Vegetarian, vegetarians and vegans were still an extreme minority, it wasn't "hip" yet, and there was next to nothing in the meat-alternative department - ESPECIALLY not in normal grocery stores. So when we ate outside, people often asked us "But, what CAN you eat then?"
Then we were on vacation with out family in the south (of Germany) and since we were only there once a year, of course we basically ate at another family member's house each day of the week, because everyone invited us at some point (We live here now btw), and EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. We got a pasta dish with tomato sauce. Because they didn't knew what else to cook for us. At the end of the week we didn't even want to THINK of pasta anymore.
But we didn't complained. We didn't made a fuss about it. Because they prepared a meal SPECIFICALLY for us, and they were unaware of the fact that they all had the same idea XD
So how could we blame them? Accommodating us was super nice!
This girl is just spoiled rotten and the fact that her fiance supports her in her behavior is... sad.
That's an adorable thing
Honestly she was really nice and did a lot more than I've done in the past đ
So I had never even met anyone who was vegetarian or vegan before my 3rd year of College when I transfered to UC Berkeley. During summer after my 3rd year I invited one of my friends to my mom's house because she was having a BBQ. My friend was vegetarian and she barely had any good options. I told my mom her diet and she mentioned getting tofu dogs, but she didn't get them. My mom puts meat in everything. Even greens and baked beans etc have smoked ham and bacon/ground beef respectively. We're southern and black and no one in our humongous family has common allergies. ( except ONE cousin with shellfish allergy. )
So we aren't used to thinking about the restrictions of what family members individual diet needs are.
Anyway looking back I should have gone to the store and bought some tofu dogs, because all she ate was salad, bread and desserts. I kinda want to call and apologize, but I think I should have a dinner party myself and make food just for vegetarians and make her feel accommodated.
The first story just reminded me of my whole childhood. My mom was a single parent for a while and I basically had to parent my brother and it sucked. Heâs autistic and I had to walk him home, and cook him food and take care of him all the time so I missed out on a lot of after school things. It strained my relationship with him a ton. Iâm really trying to mend it because I kind of treat him like a parent and I donât like that I do that. I have issues now as an adult because of me being a parent at a young age to my brother and then also my mom telling me way too personal of things and things that weighed on me heavily because she didnât tell stuff like that to other people. She should have went to her best friend or her sisters for those kinds of conversations like her issues but no it was me a 12-18 year old. It happened for so many years. She still overshares and I hate it.
God that story sounded like my whole childhood lol.
i really love the total passion that comes over sometimes when discribing how much of an a**hole people are...
The vegan girlfriend sound more like she's one of those 'I'm a princess and the whole world needs to bow down and kiss my feet or else' types of people
Honestly though, hat story legit annoyed me. OP went above and beyond to accommodate her and then she went and spat on all of OP's work because it was too "unhealthy". Then eat small portions or something ffs
I've worked with a temp who was like that. They think the world owes them, and will act accordingly.
Sounds like most vegans on CZcams or tik tok.
It sounded delicious and I'm neither vegan nor that into veggies. And just that he made the effort would make me force it down even if it was way out of my taste-comfort zone.
@@johanhalvarsson2148 The same here I'm not that into veggies{except broccoli and sprouts} but whenever we visit the inlaws I always eat most of the veggies. If someone puts the effort into cooking the least you can do is try and eat it.
What kind of parent abandons a nonverbal special needs child and a teen whoâs recovering from surgery with someone who isnât qualified to take care of them and canât drive in case of emergency? This is highly illegal. This is child neglect and child endangerment. I recommend that bindi calls the police.
Yes! All of this. Also this cause her to resent not only the mom but possibly the brother as well and that just makes me sad.
just say disabled, we aren''t special
@@aatelophobia146 T Y
I love the rant about the mistress! Ppl have no shame and itâs awful
in regards to the walk out, OP could of definitely sue his employer for Violating the Family and Medical Leave Act of 1993 since it was a medical emergency and the employer was made aware
The first story, you can't have kids and force the eldest to be the babysitter while you abandon them, you shouldn't have had kids in the first place. And the last story, she should've stood up and said, "I'm leaving because apparently, I'm a waste of my father's life and he's better off with his mistress that he cheated on my late mother with."
The father definitely deserves a slap in the face from his child for dissing the late mother he had a child with.
If your kids can't sacrifice one weekend so mom can have one night out, then the kid doesn't need to go out anyways, as she still needs to learn gratitude to those who stay in all the time...to care for her. And her siblings.
This is pretty ridiculous and toxic thinking that OMG MOM GOES OUT ONE TIME! SUCH A HORRIBLE PARENT! For real. Its toxic and straight up ignorant. I'm sure the daughter has had many nights out. She can suck up one weekend for her mom.
@@Rhaenarys no, she's not the parent or a babysitter and is still underage herself and can't be expected to become a surrogate parent for a kid who has special needs and another that has just undergone surgery. I think CP would agree that this is straight up negligence. It's just like reckless parents leaving their kids with neighbors to get wasted and then get surprised when their kids get abused or molested.
@@HaloJumper7 babysitters aren't surrogate mothers. If you can't tell the difference between the two, then the conversation is pointless. Like...that comparison seriously made anything else you said not even count, cause wow!
@@Rhaenarys exactly, and you trying to state that they are the same and not being able to comprehend the use of "or" or the meaning of surrogate/substitute (not to be confused with a surrogate mother, that you just pulled out of thin air, whose only job is to get pregnant for other women who can't have kids of their own) is a classic straw man.
Here's the definition:
sur·ro·gate
\-ËgÄt, -gÉt\
noun
: a person or thing that takes the place or performs the duties of some one or something else
Full Definition
Usage: often attributive
1 a : one appointed to act in place of another : deputy
b : a local judicial officer in somestates (such as New York) who has jurisdiction over the probate of wills, the settlement of estates, and the appointment and supervision of guardians
2 : one that serves as a substitute
3 : surrogate mother
Examples
He could not attend the meeting, so he sent his surrogate.
The governor and her surrogates asked the public to support the change.
They had their baby through a surrogate.
First use: 1603
OP: *tells her oldest kid to watch 2 kids that needs special attention*
Oldest kid: no!
OP: mmmm. Taste like disrespect...
Thatâs what they all say too, but sorry âmomâ, itâs not disrespect just because my answer isnât the equivalent of worship and reverence and blind obedience.
rSlash: mmmm. Tastes like parental neglect...
@@ramenbomberdeluxe4958 I mean, what tf are you doing if you can't even babysit your siblings for one night? What kind of a sister/brother are you? A Spoiled brat, that's what.
@@SeanWinters I mean, what tf are you doing if you can't even reschedule your bar-hopping for one weekend? What kind of parent are you? A neglectful one, that's what.
@@TwighlightLugia It's not that she can't reschedule, it's that the rest of the family can't. What kind of daughter are you that you can't let your single mom go on one trip to see her mom and sisters because something YOU want came up AFTER the trip had already been planned? A spoiled brat, that's what.
What world do you live in where having your oldest kid babysit makes you a butthole? Sounds like you're just as entitled as this daughter is. Like seriously, this single mom spends 99.999 percent of her time, energy, and money on her kids, taking care of her special needs child as well, and a single weekend this daughter needs to babysit and mom becomes "neglectful"?!? How old is this girl again, 17? Jesus people, grow up. If you can't sacrifice one night for your parents then you are a horrible person.
The last story: All đđŸ Of đđŸ This đđŸ Energy! đđŸ. đ€Ł
The entire episode was great but I had the exact same energy as rSlash for the dad and his mistress. How could anyone expect OP to sit there, listen to their mom basically get bashed and then say good things about the person that insulted her. Itâs pretty ridiculous for anyone to be upset at OP.
Yeah, it's clear that they want OP to completely forget about her bio mother just because her father considers her to be nothing but a waste of time, making him want to cheat and her walking out quietly and peacefully means that she still remembers his previous wife and that's why they're upset at her.
Who else thinks this âdanceâ is literally this girlâs prom?
it said it was a halloween dance/costume dance.
The first story⊠OP could have just hired a CNA who is payed for this exact situation
CNA?
Not a bad idea. A 17-year-old upset over a Halloween dance is childish. Prom would be different.
@@supervegito2277 - Certified Nursing Assistant. Not a nurse or RN, but skilled enough to provide care.
@@qdllc Ah. Assume this includes Pedagogical (sorry for not knowing the english word properly) skills as well?
@qdllc She IS a child and should be allowed to enjoy her childhood
Second story, I'm siding with rSlash, typical gaslighting, if they say they would terminate you for that, yet beg you to return... It shows they wanted to punish you for the sake of punishing you even if it was out of your control
Imagine u have the audacity to post it on reddit and get approval from ppl, but it backfires haha
When youâre a mother of three but act like a childless 20 year old party girl lol.
My father died more than a decade ago. My mom has finally found another person. None of us lie about my father's failings, but my mother never viewed their relationship as a mistake. You did the right thing OP
If you have dietary restrictions, it is YOUR job to inform the cook! I know, that sucks, but people aren't going to assume your diet. Plus, you clearly tried to accommodate her! Nta.
That's not a dietary restriction because those are vegan food just not her type of food...
@@khaeldeguzman7762 it's a restriction she's placed on her personal diet. It's a dietary restriction.
that wasnât restrictions, that was being a complete bitch for not reading minds and going well beyond being vegan
@@DarcOne13 key word: personal. she never told anyone about her PERSONAL restrictions, she expected her to just know what she would and wouldnât eat.
@@DarcOne13 not really, because she could still eat the food because it's vegan, and if she is watching her weight she could just eat small portions and not be a b word and make a deal out of it... She's was a guest in a home where she was accommodated but she chose to be a Karen...
Mistress or step mom story: As a wedding present send them a high quality blu ray of "Hamlet" with a note to think it over.
The Kenneth Branagh version.
makes sense, Hamlet with the gender reversedâŠHollywood needs to make that happen!
op: 'i need her to make a small sacrifice for the family'
It isnt a sacrifice for the family, its a sacrifice for you
People need to realize how life changing having a kid is. Itâs not some dog you can leave at home with a bowl of water and food while you go out and have fun. As soon as you have a child your life is no longer about you until they are 18. Your happiness is not about you. Itâs about their happiness. These are two lives you brought into this world and you have to do everything in your power to give them the best life possible. Going on a girls not out is not worth someoneâs childhood.
I swear RSLASH...you're the parent we all need
imagine having a father that speaks English but you're a some random polish kid who doesn't understand anything what he sais
what a great parent this would be
/s
@@MOCHERlK Eventually you'd learn. They would teach you it at school and if you came from two cultural family, your parents should and probably would teach you both languages.
I am kind of getting the impression that rSlash needs a vacation from all the toxic people :D Maybe do a week of only wholesome subreddits?
oh yes, wholesome november :D
I agree, reading all that negativity can't be good for your mental health. also, due to the vegan story, I wanna make vegetable enchilada's lol.
I'd love to hear him go through r/guysbeingbros
@@raeowlsworth2435 hell yeah :D
@@velvety2006 ok that's literally what I'm eating right now, this was so trippy to read
Also it's not a 'small sacrifice' for Bindi. Postponing your girls weekend is a small sacrifice, there will be other weekends. OP herself says that this dance is only for juniors and seniors, Bindi is 17 so I assume she's a senior. If so, there's not going to be another Halloween dance for her. Bindi isn't getting another shot at making that memory, OP is asking her to throw out an invaluable memory. It might be a while before OP can have her weekend, but it will come, there's no great difference between one or the other for OP. There is for Bindi.
I identify with that pure RAGEFUL ending rant rslash had. Perfect rant!
3rd story: either the gf wanted to be a Karen or she may be using being vegan as an excuse to hide an issue
I really think itâs to hide an issue which probably triggered something when they said eating disorder. Orthorexia is an eating disorder, having fears of unhealthy or dirty food is huge and thatâs really sad. I hope she gets over her issues.
@@BubbleBunnyy It's sad how too much of something good can be bad. Being aware and make the best possible choices for healthy living is a good thing in itself. The obsession, however...
There is something called whole food plant based ,no oil no sugar no salt. Many people do this way of eating. But let others know first that you don't have oil. I don't eat oils, or added sugars or salt and whole grain. I don't have an eating disorder. But also if I'm eating at someone's house I either am lax about the oil or bring my own stuff.
Re: story 1 (special needs care)
In the USA, most health insurance plans cover autism spectrum disorder respite care. That means childcare. Free. From professionals. Depending on your childâs needs, that might be a PCA, CNA, HHA, or a number of other options. They can help you find these specialists through their network, or you can hire someone to be trained (paid training) at no cost to you.
DO NOT make your childâs disability something to hate. A 17 year old WILL blame this on you and/or the autistic child. Your other children may grow to hate autistic people as a whole or be traumatized and fear the disabled. This is NOT NORMAL. This is a result of YOUR parenting. Not their attitude.
I donât like judging parents. Everyone has a different style. Every case is different. But this one particular issue? Iâve never seen an exception. You need to be the parent. You cannot blame the able child for the disabled childâs behavior or needs. You cannot just say âhe doesnât know betterâ unless youâre actively trying to teach him. You cannot expect your able child to be a 3rd parent. They can help, but they cannot be a parent. You must give them attention of their own without the disabled child present occasionally. You need to make sure their needs and wants are also considered. If you fail at any of these, your child WILL rebel, become mentally ill, and/or hate you or your disabled child.
Youâre not breeding a second pair of hands. Youâre raising children. Act like it.
Source: disabled person with siblings, PCA for 5 years, special education aide for 10 years
God that last story hit way to close to home. And her grandparents who don't see a weight of those words that came out of the mouth of their son; things begin to make sense and reveal some things that can never be taken back. Fall as far from the tree while you have that momentum.
You know heâs mad when Rslash drops the âbuttholeâ and starts throwing around âassholesâ lol
I cannot with the mom in the first story. She's conveniently forgetting that SHE is the mother, not her daughters!
I'm literally fuming right now, that post has to be a troll or a joke
This problem is very strong with delusionals like the mom. They cannot see civilized human reason and admit that they're wrong. The only saving grace she has is the fact that she at least ASKED (if she's the asshole) out of some form of self-doubt. God damn...
@@Feynix4 it's also not uncommon for parents with extra needs kids to rely more heavily on their children. And that's not always a bad thing but it can go too far.
Why is it ok to mom shame?????? She is a single mom that planned a trip WEEKS in advance with her SISTERS and the dance wasnât a known thing. Parents get free time too.
@@midajahhayden She doesn't have to take the kids with her, she can stay back. And I am sure that this isn't the first time the eldest daughter has been asked to babysit the younger siblings.
rSlash forgot that the fiancĂ© in the food story completely wasted OPâs food because she outright didnât eat any of it so I think she shouldâve gotten at least a 3/5
I'm sorry, but that eating disorder comment fucking KILLED ME đđđ
Two things R/Slash hates with a passion: HOAâs and parents who are mean to/abuse their children.