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WHAT IS EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION? - time.com/54116...
SIGNS OF GASLIGHTING - www.vox.com/fi...
AM I IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP? - www.womensaid....
WHAT IS COERCIVE CONTROL? - www.womensaid....
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“Courage doesn’t mean you’re not afraid. Courage means you’re not going to let fear stop you”. Couldn’t have said it better, and we’re so happy you’re back! 💕
Someone has has said it better since she stole this quote and didn't give credit to the original author.
@@Julie86Mac I'd be bored to death if she had to credit every quote she mentions, let's not be silly please.
@@Julie86Mac who? I think I read something similar in Harry Potter? But I'd hardly be worried if Rowling isn't given credit lol, she's so rich already
Wow...I really loved this quote..it's true..
@@a73387 It's all about integrity, as she could have said," i heard this great quote, etc." instead of stealing the quote and leading others to believe they are her words, when she knows they aren't. It is always important to give credit where credit is due, regardless if you agree with it or not.
She was about to cry the whole time. Stay strong sister sending virtual hugs.
Ok simp
@@niggafromthesewers4019 lmao
@@niggafromthesewers4019 you're the true simp, simp.
@@niggafromthesewers4019 You clearly don't understand what simp means
what is simp😅
I'm a teacher. In my professional life I gave everything. To the outside world I was strong. At home I was being physically and mentally abused by my husband. You were tired girl. I got out. We got out. You're not a coward and you're not weak. I don't even know you and I've never watched you before but I want you to know that sis. You got this.
Sam Tastic we love you teach!
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Miss Isle idk I feel like the mental abuse can stick with you more, physical wounds can heal, but the mental wounds may not ever heal, even if it’s physical abuse, it’s still the pain of knowing and feeling the pain mentally that sticks with you, not the actual physical pain. Maybe that makes sense. But whether it’s mental or physical abuse, it sticks with you in your mind for a very long time
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I s a b e l l a Yes. I still have the mental pain of growing up as a CHILD around domestic violence. My mental innocence was taken from me before I even had a choice. Maybe it wouldn’t have been as bad if it hadn’t left my mother mentally ill/mentally abusive.
You will never regret leaving a bad relationship. You will always regret staying.
*completely false*
*you possess an evil corrupt mentality. Daughter of lilleth.*
The best and only option.
True
It's always the most selfless people that end up with the most selfish people.
Sleepy Ughhh I think because as women mostly we tend to be agreeable and taught to be like that and we tend to mix rudeness with setting boundaries and I also believe that we can read ´weakness ’ signs in people infront of us ..
Abusers tend to look for victims who are selfless and are willing to be kind and give everything
@Miss Isle and after the hit I really want to be rude and a bad girl but my heart does not want that and I end being soft and easy girl who would get hurt by a single stone. HELP 😣 😢😢😭
A narcissist can see an empath coming from a mile away : (
Damn this is so true it hurts
I was in a mentally and physically abusive relationship for nearly three years. The adjustment and uncertainty about yourself coming out of it is crippling. You’re so courageous for telling your story and lending a voice to those of us who never really had one. I wish you all the happiness and love your heart can hold. You are valid and deserving of it all
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Sending you so much love, friend. These traumas have pleasured my family for generations and they're honestly life shattering, life altering, and so difficult to navigate because everyone's situation is so so specific to them as an individual.
Such a strong and powerful comment! I appreciated just reading it! 💕
900th like!! ❤️❤️❤️
I'm so sorry u had to go through that, everyone is beautiful and special in there own way! Stay safe ya'll xx💜
“I’m making this video because I want my life back, I want my career back, I want my world back” darling you deserve that. You deserve to get back everything you lost and more. I can see the hurt in your eyes and it’s awful, but look at you starting to reclaim your life!!. You are much stronger than you think you are, you will get all of it back and more, I promise you this. And in the process you will help many people along the way 💕
This must have been so hard for you. You are brave from escaping, talking about it, and helping others. Thank you for sharing. I love you
Bless you , stay strong . Wonderful to have you back . 🌺
Totally agree👆🏽 Sending all my love 🧡
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Such a sweet comment 💕
I love how this comment section is full of people sharing their own experiences and struggles and comforting each other. Cheers to all of you 💕✨
Yes, it strengthens and encourages - it is a good thing we can do that for each other -" let's go forward " is the sentence for everyone here 🌞🕊
I wish schools would start implementing real world issues into their curriculum so that young kids would know how to deal with it if they encounter this in their futures
this!
I think that's the parents' job.
100% this
UK schools do :)
Ilona Bell not really
When I heard "I was in a relationship-" I thought 'say no more'. I completely understand. Comming forward and speaking up is a big step. Getting the help and support you need is tremendously hard and I am SO proud of you for stepping up and speaking out about your situation and shedding light on things. I truly hope things get better for you love.
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This is so difficult to watch. I attempted to get out of a relationship about three years ago which turned bad instantly. I was abused when I was trying to get out, during the actual breakup and even years afterwards. I felt tiny, I felt evil, I felt hopeless and I felt scared because he wouldn't let me go, yet he'd blame me being in his life for his troubles and hardships. He called people at my job, people who had offered me jobs, the state and even my mother, telling lies about me to take all away from me. You are wonderful. You are phenomenal. You are brave. Welcome back, this time, as you, fully.
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you are brave!!! stay happy!
Omfg mine was extremely similar to yours. I’m so sorry
I am going through a similar thing, you gave me hope I will make it....sending virtual hugs..
Luca Cirene we do
I was in a relationship with a narcissist and it almost destroyed me.
Sorry to hear that. Same with me. :(
My mum was in a relationship with a narcissist. It almost destroyed both of us, (I still haven't recovered). My little brother thankfully doesn't remember his dad though so that's good...
Im still standing with you sister. He nearly literally cost me my life, if not my sanity. I hear you
I'm only just parsing some of the shit from my first relationship over a decade later and realising what a number it did on my head.
Same :(
I love how her face brightened up when she started talking about her friends and family, and her current relationship. The video started with her being on the verge of breaking down and to be honest, while I was watching, I couldn't help but let a few tears of my own shed, it was hard not to.
The transition to her more cheery explanation is absolutely beautiful. I don't know her personally but she seems like such a sweet and kind hearted person, she didn't deserve to be treated that way, nobody does. I'm glad things are looking good for her now and that despite everything she stays optimistic. I sincerely wish her the best.
i cried every single day while i was with my ex, i was just 17 and it got to the point i no longer loved myself, he pointed out flaws in me that i never even knew existed, my lips were too dark, i had texture on my face, and i started hating myself. It's been 3 years since i broke up with him and still every single day i can't help but notice these little flaws and feel worthless but I'm trying everyday to change the way i feel about myself.
You are very beautiful
Girl those rare marks or textures or lip colour, those “flaws” is what makes you, you. Special. He not the person who should be defining you, it should be you. I know it easier said than done, but ignore what he says because it not true. Don’t live your life how other people (him for example) want you to live it, live it the way you want to. And if you want to flash your dark lips then do it.
You're super pretty
Girl,he didn't love u.One who will love you truely would make u feel special,u r beautiful ,sister. Love urself ❤️
You are beautiful just the way you are. I know it sounds cliché but I really mean it. You being you is what makes you beautiful. No one can add or reduce your value because your worth is immeasurable. Immeasurably grand. He is just insecure about himself and projected it on you, who was kind enough to open your heart to him. He's clearly is not deserving of your attention and love. May you find beauty in yourself and be able to love yourself the way you deserve.
Welcome back Em. You’re so strong and brave for making this video, you won’t be bruised forever. Time will help heal things. BIG LOVE. You’ve got this. 💛
OMG hiii cherry!! Love your vids❤
hey cherry! I love you and your videos!
Cherry hiii
It took me 7 years, to leave my abuser. I’ve had therapy 3 times. Rachel Williams is amazing to follow for her advice and she’s got a twitter page. You are strong x
I am so, SO happy for you. That's incredible what you did and it took incredible strength.
Hi, sorry to comment negativity on your post, I’m glad you’ve been able to have the courage to leave after so long!!
However, I know Rachel Williams personally as her husband and son were extreme close family friends.. although, yes what happened to her was very very bad, she was also just as much to blame for the DA. She drove her son to suicide at the age of 16 texting him things like “go and kill yourself” the police have released all text messages and info where she was searching on her laptop “ways to get someone to kill themselves” all the evidence is with her sons grandmother which I have seen with my own eyes. Maybe find someone else to follow for advice as this person isn’t as genuine as they make out x
"I'm making this video because I want my life back". Beautiful, that hit deep. I massively wish you all the best and as someone who has been in this situation, I am here for you wholly while you get yourself back however long that takes. We all are xx
I love this ❤️
I was mentally abused for 4 years and when I finally found the strength in me to leave, he did everything he could towards the end of our relationship to keep me, that included trying to get me pregnant. It was an awful end but I did everything I could to fight the manipulation And force. I’m happily married and in a healthy relationship with my spouse and most importantly with myself. You’ll be ok. THERE IS a light at the end of every decision you make in this life. Love yourself always ♥️
I spent 10 years in an abusive relationship. It started as a ‘perfect’ relationship, he seemed strong, caring capable but changed so gradually that I didn’t even see the small changes. It’s destroys you, I didn’t even recognise myself by the end, I was terrified to leave as I truly believed that I couldn’t cope alone, I couldn’t provide for my children. For the first 6 months after I left, I was a complete wreck. It’s been 3 years now and I’m still affected but can usually get past the issues inside me. You WILL get stronger, you WILL be yourself again, you WILL survive.
Stay strong! I divorced my husband this year and it was the best decision I ever made. Me and the kids are so much happier now! ❤
omg girl yess yall deserve it!! 🤍🤍
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My mom got into a 14 year long relationship and when they broke up everything felt brighter
heyyy she looks way way better now compared last year
Was he abusive?
Bow Legged facts lmao
I was also in a relationship that was mentally, emotionally, and eventually turned physically abusive. It takes everything you have to just make it through the day. It takes so much strength to leave. You are strong and we support you!
I want to cry when I hear her voice trembling while she is trying to hold her tears... I am so sorry that you have been through this awful situation! I hope you will be better eventually, time will heal you! Don't blame yourself, you did nothing wrong! You deserve so much better! Hugs xo
You say “ I want my life back I want my career back” , and I get this strong feeling that YOU will get your life back and your career too, but this time YOU are back stronger, brighter, and happier♥️ Dear brave lady we miss you so so much, and we are so glad that you’re back again🦋
people will never understand what emotional abuse, domestic violence unless they have gone through it. sometimes youtube, fans etc dont understand about what they youtuber private life needs today. this is all a learning journey for all of us. thank you for speaking your truth, keep taking the time for yourself and remember your not alone xx
You were the reason why I learned to love my pimple scars in the first place, that it's okay to have imperfections. You are a great inspiration to women and men, young or old. Please stay strong because you are a beautiful and brave human being and we need more pure souls like you. 😭😭😭
Such a sweet comment!! 💕
Sweet precious Em - the fact that you were willing enough to be transparent about your struggles and bear your demons in the light *proves* the amount of strength you truly have.
There is absolutely zero shame in the struggles you’ve had and you are not alone. I pray you are getting the support you need to heal and rebuild trust in others and yourself.
You are strong.
You are brave.
You are beautiful inside and out.
You are cherished.
Your online fam is here to support you - we’re here. 💖
Oh god this was hard to watch. You never know what goes on behind closed doors. Very brave woman ❤️
Idk if you will ever read this but I hope you are happy and surrounded by people who treat you like the angel you are. You are a beautiful soul inside and out. Don't forget to do the things that make you happy. Whether that is painting, walking in nature, horseback riding, getting a vacation. Etc. Whatever it is, just keep doing the things that make you happy and surround yourself with people who lift you up. Thank you for sharing! My kids and I love ya!
"every cloud has a silver lining." The sky after the rain is always beautiful.
❤️ I can’t put into words how it feels to watch this, other than thank you ❤️ Thank you for sharing this.
Oh God, her voice was completely shattered and broken. I wish I could hug you 😭❤️
A very warm big hug
I was in a 5 year relationship with someone who was mentally and emotionally abusive, I didn't realize it until he walked away from me and I had to really examine those 5 years of my life. I have a PhD and a good job and good friends and it still happened to me. It can honestly happen to anyone. Everything he did, there was an excuse. I apologized for so much crap that was NOT my fault. You are absolutely not alone and in talking about this it helps validate the experiences of other women who have been through something similar. It's been a little over a year since my relationship ended and I'm still processing a lot of it, be kind and gentle with yourself. So proud of you for making this video Em.
Eurgh i can totally relate to this. My ex was absolutely vile, i was constantly apologising for situations he had conjured up. Hope he is rotting rn
I was in a mentally abusive relationship for more than 2 years, my close friend who knew what was going on kept asking me to leave but I felt like I couldn’t as I was trapped in the relationship and I was so afraid to change (was in the same workplace with my ex as well) i finally had the courage to leave one day when he was away for a work trip... that was one of the best decisions I’ve made in my entire life, I didn’t know the world was so beautiful, and I’m so much happier now! You’re a strong woman, and you’ll find someone who loves you as much as you love yourself ♥️ love from Malaysia 🤗🥰
It's so easy to let yourself be overwhelmed when deep in the darkness. I am glad you have found your way out. Love and strength 💖
I've been in a relationship where I was emotionally abused, It's been a week since I broke up with him and it was the best decision that I've made, currently healing and I'm doing better already. I promised my self that I'm gonna be the best version of myself, I'm happy you're back love ❤❤❤ sending virtual hugs.
You go girrrrl ! You deserve so much better !!!
So glad you got out of that relationship babe and give your self all that love babe because your so beautiful ❤️ I hate men when I was 14 I stared dating this guy and he started abusing me mentally and physically and sexually and if I said We are braking up he said he will kill him self and hurt me I was so scared and man I won’t go into the shit he did to me as a little 14 year old girl and then after 2 years I found out he was cheating on me the whole time. And now I live with mental illness because of the shit one man put me through :((
Much love for you too girl!❤❤❤
@@flavimir15 thank you girlfriend ❤❤
@@ashleebates5708 awww thanks babe and I'm so sorry to hear what you've been going through, I'm praying for your wellness and peace of mind love, and I know someday you'll be better. Sending lots of love. ❤
I was in a controlling, emotionally abusive relationship and for the majority of it you don’t even realise they are gaslighting you. You just end up with no friends, no family and no opinions.. unless it’s agreeing with them. They are always in a mood about something and you’re always treading on egg shells. They tell you that they are the only one that loves you and no one else does. They control all the money so you have nothing. No money, no friends, no family, no confidence, no social skills, no hobbies, no thoughts, no opinions. I ended up mute for a couple of days completely unable to talk because I believe I had a breakdown. I still have the internal scars and ugly thoughts from 14 years ago. Probably a mild case of PTSD 🤷🏻♀️
I won’t be bullied ever again. Nothing is worth that absolute torture.
My life...
No opinions right?? I felt so empty at the time (still do sometimes)
I hope you’re ok and we are all here for you. Take the time you need post when you want. Do what’s best for you 💛💜
So happy you’re back. Take all the time you need on and off camera to heal. And this video says it all, you ARE extremely brave and courageous. An abusive relationship does not determine your worth.
I'm a year out of getting away from my abuser. So so so happy that you're here and living life again 💟
i’m so glad you informed us, you didn’t have to yet you were respectful of us. thank you💓
I’m so happy that your coming back 😘
I just want to reach through the screen and give you a big hug. I am so sorry that you have been dealing with this and I commend you for coming on here to share with us. People need to realize that it can happen to anyone and is so prevalent. You are beautiful from the inside out and I hope you keep sharing with us here, but take care of yourself first and foremost!
You will get your world back - you've already made those steps. Do YOU at your own pace xx
This is beautiful
I agree
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Yesss! Beautiful! 💕
You and every other girl/person that has been in a toxic relationship and has gotten out of it are one of the most strongest people there are!!!
You all have soo much courage and now that there are others who have been through this and gotten through so you can too!!!
So are people who haven’t gotten it not strong? I get what ur saying, but word choice is important when talking about serious issues like this.
i'm sorry to hear you've been through something like this. we are so many in the same situation, it's actually shocking to me to see that people cannot offer the bare minimum in a relationship.
i've also been in such a situation, for more than a year, almost 2 with my ex bf. he would constantly gaslight me and blame me for everything, and whenever we had an argument, he would just ignore me for DAYS. even if we did not have an argument, he would ignore me, sometimes 1 or 2 weeks at a time. i was going insane. then he would come back and act sweet and like nothing happened. FOR 2 YEARS. and much more.
the most he ignored me for was 2 months and he left to another country without telling me, but still wanted to keep in touch ONLY when he felt like it. if i was sad or needed to talk to him about something, i'd just be overdramatic. when we were in the same city, i could not spend more than 1 day at his place, because he wanted space.
i started becoming more and more miserable, and cry myself to sleep, right next to him sometimes and he wouldn't do anything. he was completely the opposite of the man i had known in the beginning, when he was so sweet and caring.
i started to become more paranoid about what he was doing due to what he was doing to me and literally having panic attacks because of it almost every day.
all my friends were telling me what he's doing is not normal but i did not want to listen. i finally had the courage to break up with him after he left the country and ignored me for 2 months.
he came back a few weeks ago, (after 1 year of no contact) saying he still loves me, but he slept with only one person that he had no feelings for, like this is supposed to make me feel better (considering i did not even go on 1 date). i was stupid enough to fall for it once more and we flirted and everything was so natural and normal, like we were together again so it sort of made me happy because he was my first guy, my first love, my first sexual partner.
then... one day. he started becoming distant again after everyday messaging and calls. he ignored me again for no reason for more than 4 weeks. he would constantly post pictures and videos of his "girl friends" dancing half naked. he has only 1 guy friend. i always had a feeling that my gut was right. he flirts with his supposed girl friends on their pictures.
i unfollowed him everywhere. yesterday, he came back again and messaged me again, laughing at me that i unfollowed him and asking me why. it was so hard but i did not reply to him. he still hasn't unfollowed me and constantly checks what i post and replies to my posts.
it seems like just a story to people, like letting go is easy, but it's not.
i've had depression and anxiety for years, but he made it worse to the point i had to get professional help because i was one stop from committing suicide. i tried many times, but it didn't work and i was mad it didn't. i literally did not see any way out, i wanted to die so badly, like never before, it's hard to explain. my mother took me to the doctor and they gave me meds starting with a low dose, which did not work at all and they had to constantly increase it.
i used to go to the gym everyday, i was fit. i had anorexia before.
during this time and due to what happened with my ex, i started to binge eat in order to feel something because i felt so numb all the time. so naturally, i put on weight.
ever since problems started in our relationship and he became abusive, i lost my period. i would get it every 3-4 months, sometimes more.
in addition to this, my hormone levels got so messed up, that i also had to get treatment for this.
from the terrible mental health state i was in, my body started to stop working and get damaged as well.
i am under a lot of treatment and supervision now. i am still not okay, but i am better than before, even if i just managed to take 2 steps, i'm not in the same place.
but sometimes it feels like it's never going to get better. i have nowhere to tell my story in full so i decided to do it here, hopefully someone will read it all. my friends and family got tired of me ALWAYS talking about the same thing over and over again, and i understand them. so i don't do it anymore, but it's so hard to keep it in. i am literally writing this tearing up because the wounds are so fresh. this is what the man i loved the most did to me, i gave him a place to stay, to eat, i passed him university (we met at university), i never expected anything in return but i got all this.
i pray not even my worst enemy feels like how i felt and still feel. death is more peaceful than all this. it really is.
i pray you are strong and not think of anything negative because of it, i hope you're not like my weak self because you deserve so much better.
i really hope you will easily put this behind you and find better.
i apologise for this is so long long, and i thank those who take the time to read it.
sending lots of love and hugs to everyone, especially people who have been in extremely abusive relationships and are not well to this day
Em, it breaks my heart that you had to go through this 😢 I can only imagine how hard it must be to come and admit this to the Internet. I’ve been in three very toxic and emotionally abusive relationships starting from when I was very young, and have finally found happiness (like you have!) with someone who treats me like everyone deserves to be treated 💕 can’t wait to see your comeback!
Same! Thank you for such a sweet comment! ❤️💕
I’m an Outreach Worker for a Domestic Abuse Organisation. It’s so important to talk about abuse (when the survivor is ready of course). Everything you have said is completely normal to feel when in an abusive relationship. If you haven’t, please read “Living with the Dominator” by Pat Craven. Knowledge is power and if you understand the tactics perpetrators use in order to control someone then you will realise that none of what’s happened is your fault and by doing so you will hopefully start to feel more confident in every aspect of your life . Im so happy that you feel empowered to make this video and using your massive fan base in order to spread the word of DA. Please remember that you are not a “Victim” of Domestic Abuse, you are a SURVIVOR!!!!
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I hope she reads this!
Absolutely. I hate the fact that she feels like she needs to apologize for even speaking up because it might be taken as libel, etc, although I completely understand why that need exists. I hope she reads your comment.
Everyone is amazing and unique in their own way and shouldn’t be judged for that 😔
AGREED! 💕❤️
I was a very judgmental person for a while and I was miserable in my relationship, didn’t feel useful at work and felt like a failure as a daughter, sister, aunt. I didn’t realize the correlation until I did the hard work to clean up my life. Now when I find someone who is judgmental I assume that they’re probably miserable.
No, I’m fat and I should definitely get body shamed everyday to lose weight be skinny and worthy
You can just hear the pain in her voice. You're strong, babe. We love and support you, always.
Darling you've been brave, courageous and honest about yourself. Well done you beautiful soul. You're loved and you're welcome here. Take it gently, we're here for you. Xx
It makes me sad to see how many people say they are or they were in a abusive relationship 😢
When you talked about not trusting yourself to remember or interpret things correctly, that's exactly kept me trapped in my situation. Childhood baggage had me convinced that I was more than likely to be wrong most of the time so I was so vulnerable to the gaslighting. Sending you all so much love, whoever is reading this, if any of your video resonates with you. I'm so sorry if it does, and thank you so much Em for sharing your story.
I was in a relationship with a narcissist and it near killed me mentally. It takes so much courage & strength to get out of any type of bad relationship. Feel for you! Thank you for speaking out. I hope it will help at least 1 person 💜 wishing you every happiness in the world
Yes! Loved reading your sweet comment! 💕
Came to your channel though Hyram's video on you. We, women, we need to heal from unhealthy paradigms that have been forced upon us. To watch such a beautiful and gorgeous woman talking about her unhealthy and abusive relationship, truly breaks my heart. To all sisters out there: never EVER compromise your self worth for other people, family, friends, romantic relationships, boss, teachers, doesn't matter who. Life is way too short to live in suffering. Break from the chains, break the cycle and to all of you BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELVES. From the bottom of my heart, wish you all happiness.
This 🌎 has many broken-heart people who always try to heart. On the other hand, 🌎 has good people who wish the best, too. Blessings! 🕊
Your next relationship is with yourself, be able to be alone not lonely but able to be with yourself.
I'm so sorry that you had to go through this. I'm sending you all the best. We love you so much ❤️
When you said that you felt like you might be overreacting, it made me shiver. I completely understand this and am having to deal with this a lot at the moment. It's been years but recently I've started to remember the things he used to do to me and I realised how abusive he was. Your feelings are valid, you're not overreacting, it's not your anxiety, it's not your fault.
I looked up to your strength with acne, never did i think we would also share this emotional trauma. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
a reminder for anyone who shares these experiences:
you are not a bad person. you are a very good person, who bad things have happened to.
Can't wait to watch your videos again 💓 we can heal together. xxx
You are strong. You are beautiful. You are brave. It takes so much to leave an abusive relationship, not matter how long it takes you, as long as you manage to get away. There's no timeline for healing either (I'm 12 years out of my own and I still haven't healed). But honey, sharing your story may have saved someone. And it takes so much to be able to talk about it openly. I am so happy for you.
Welcome back.
I was is an emotionally abusive relationship. He was my first love and in the end I had no self esteem, I withdrew myself from my family, work and friends for 6 months before we broke up. We broke up 3 years ago and I still ask myself “why did I stay with him for 3 years?” “Why didn’t I see the signs earlier?”. I’m really glad you’ve found yourself and come out the other side and found yourself a man who loves and takes good care of you. X
when you said you apologised for everything it triggered such awful memories for me but it made me happy that i am no longer like that. I never apologise for anything that makes me happy now unless it’s necessary... you are amazing and so strong for posting this 💛 it gets easier everyday 💛
It’s ok we still love you
Your beautiful the way you are
Your skin isn’t paper don’t cut it
Your heart isn’t a door don’t lock it
Your body isn’t a book don’t judge it
Your life isn’t a movie don’t end it
You don’t need makeup to be pretty your pretty the way you are
u stoled that comment
@@tomiekaira7986 And? 😅🤔🤷🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️
Alex Violet this is beautiful ❤️
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Btw this is my comment so if YOUR not happy you can leave 😁 👍 👌
I'm in a relationsship with a narcisist now. Can't find the strenght to leave, mostly because I'm cronicle ill. And i'm ugly crying hearing your story. A lot of it sounds so similar. So happy that you are out on the other side much stronger. You really rock girl. 🙏🏻❤
I feel you..
I feel you and when i was going through emotional abuse, i kept pushing myself so hard to stay and thought something is wrong with me. I remember I couldn’t even put my words together and I only very recently it happened due to extreme mental pressure and depression!! I started working on myself and focused on self awareness and self improvement and i am so glad i did and now i started helping people with self growth because I remember how it feels to not have anyone to talk to and explain what you are going through. The pain is real and only who has gone through it can understand 🙌🏻 Much love x
When I was 17 (I’m 32 now) I got my first ‘real’ boyfriend. We were together for nearly a year and I cried every single day of that ‘relationship’. I will never forget the one time I mentioned one of my friends looked really pretty on a night out and for 3 weeks after I was bombarded with calls night after night with him crying telling me that I was a lesbian and not only was I lying to him but myself about my sexuality. He also said I was too close to my family and that it was ‘weird’ that I enjoyed spending time with my brother. He was so incredibly toxic and I am so glad I got out. I have never felt more exhausted in a relationship before than with him, completely drained of everything. I am so glad I got out. I’m with a wonderful man now and I’m so glad you are happy too! I wish you all the best 😍
I am happy that you got out of that darkness. ❤️
So glad you got out of that relationship babe and happy for you that you got your self a good man now ❤️ I hate men when I was 14 I stared dating this guy and he started abusing me mentally and physically and sexually and if I said We are braking up he said he will kill him self and hurt me I was so scared and man I won’t go into the shit he did to me as a little 14 year old girl and then after 2 years I found out he was cheating on me the whole time. And now I live with mental illness because of the shit one man put me through :((
@@Qejt I have this same thought :(
I've been through all of this. My father is a narcissist. I have managed to escape this toxic environment, next week I'm gonna move out. For everyone out there experiencing the same, there's hope, you will heal, you will find true happiness.
I'm going through the same thing (can't escape the situation for now, unfortunately). Wish you all the luck in the world! It's so overwhelming to see someone get out of the similar situation. I am so happy for you!
It’s been 12 years since moving out of my narcissistic father house. Life will get so much better. ❤️❤️ Look up the gray rock method and therapy so you don’t jump into a friendships or relationships that’s has the same tendency of your dad. You got this!! This was the hardest step for me.
let us know when you move out and settle in safely! good luck!
@@kitakashia Same. My boyfriend is in the same boat too and it's just... so heartbreaking to see other people go through it too.
You go girl! Enjoy your freedom. May the bridges you burn light the way! Stay safe sweet thing!
You didn't have to explain, but thank you ❤ It must have taken a massive amount of courage to upload this video, know that we are here for you. You have inspired me since I watched the first video of you and still continue to inspire me to this day. You got through it so now you can do anything :)
I keep coming back to this because I’ve never seen the abuse I went through being described so well. It was too hard to find the right words. I’m so sorry you experienced that. Good luck on your healing and thank you so much for sharing. ✨
I am so sorry 💔 it takes courage to even talk about abuse. I’ve experienced this and it’s very hard to put it to words :( We are here for you ❤️ sending a virtual hug.
This video really stood out to me. 3 years ago I ended a 2 year relationship, those 2 years were the worst of my live. He tried to drive me away from my family, my friends, he would bully me and belittle me, and because I have Aspergers, he thought he could take advantage of me. It was exhausting day in, day out trying to stay in his good books, trying not to upset him. The emotional manipulation I went through was appalling. After those 2 years I was finally strong enough to leave and it was the best thing I have EVER done to this day. I have my life back now and I’m stronger than ever. You will get through this! You’re amazing, and should be so proud of yourself for walking away from this. Don’t ever give up xx
Omg, I’ve realised once and for all that I’m in one too! This describes my boyfriend and more 😭
Ugh he took away something that you love and that means something a lot to you: your career!
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It's good that you spoke up because narcissism is a plague and raising awareness of it is key.
I wish this was around when I was in this situation. 10 years later Im still working at rebuilding my life.
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I'm 19 have never been in a relationship and they scare me. Once I felt brave and got Tinder to warm up by talking to guys, started talking to a guy that showed dislike for my lack of social life and hobbies because education is number 1 for me. Made me feel really bad about myself. Other can influence us a lot. Love that you could post this, it's so important ❤️❤️❤️💕💕💕
It's been a year since I left my abuser, and I almost quit everything because of him.. (I am a cosplayer and he kept encouraging me to quit by telling me my craft is useless and shit.)
He made me feel bad and forced me to apologise for everything. He abused me financially, mentally, emotionally, s*xually and physically. He literally tried to conditioned me to be his slave.
I broke free and it was the best thing I ever didm
It's taking me a while to recover, but I'm with a healthier person and environment now.
You are one of my favorite gurus on CZcams and you are extremely brave for this. We love you, queen.
im proud of you
thank you for talking about this and being truthful. i have been in an emotionally abusive relationship. it destroys you from inside. but it does get better. it’s going to take a while to heal, but you’ll learn to trust others again. it’s going to get better!
we welcome you back. there is strength in vulnerability. in fact, vulnerability can be strength itself. we hope you get back on your feet, whether it's on youtube or not, whether we see it or not. love you Em ❤️
I just want to give you a big squeeze hug.. please dont feel you are alone. This isn't in your head narcissists are experts at making you feel like you are losing control.. it takes time and give yourself that time..
I've stumbled across your video by accident, and out of all of this remember you are a nice person with your heart in the right place.. I can tell how you speak how level headed and such a cherished heart.. stand in your own power.. and take the power back..
Your courage is astounding, Em. Thank you for voicing what you’ve been through. You’re truly a beautiful person inside and out.
I was in a relationship with a covert narcissist last year and although I’m out of it now, live in a different country and have an amazing job and friends, it still haunts me to my core on a daily basis. I see you and I hear you. Thank you for raising awareness and being a voice for so many of us. Love ❤️
Oh honey, seeing all of this, this makes my heart break for you. No woman or man deserves to be in a relationship like the one you survived and escaped. You are courageous and strong! I’m now subscribed to you in order to see how become stronger. Lots of Love from Colorado!
"I was not brave, I was not courageous, I was not unapologetic about who I was" this broke me.
I'm sorry for all you've faced and I hope you feel strength, courage, pride and happiness, believe that those words aren't true. Abusive relationships can break you far more mentally than anything else and it's so important that those around you and you start to rebuild yourself up again. You deserve to feel stronger and empowered for getting through such a hard time ❤️
I've been in an abusive relationship, my brother is also one of my abusers, he's beaten me up a lot. The police have been here for me no matter what, they ring me monthly to ensure I'm safe and ok, it's horrible to go through abuse, I've had it all my life and I just wish I could hug you💜
Pls leave the situation one day x
🤗 hugs all around
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. If you feel the need to talk to somebody about your experiences there are many charities who can offer emotional support, if you give them a call/text/email. It's not your fault for what your brother did to you. You don't deserve it. All the best to you
So glad you got out of that relationship babe and I am so sorry your brother thinks he can do that to you :( I hate men when I was 14 I stared dating this guy and he started abusing me mentally and physically and sexually and if I said We are braking up he said he will kill him self and hurt me I was so scared and man I won’t go into the shit he did to me as a little 14 year old girl and then after 2 years I found out he was cheating on me the whole time. And now I live with mental illness because of the shit one man put me through :((
I’m so sorry these things happened to you. I love you and I just said a prayer for you 🤍
You will heal. You're doing so well already. I'm 9 years free from my abusive relationship and as each year has passed it has become easier and easier. I am now married to my best friend and we have two beautiful daughters 💖
I hope you are in a much healthier place. Please know that you are brave and resilient. Sending you light and healing.
I also was in one for 6years and I didnt even realize how toxic we became. And the Breakup was such a mess.
Wow. I can totally relate to this. I completely lost myself, I was literally a shell. I felt insane. I went down into a spiral of anxiety and depression and I had never been down that road before. I went from a crazy confident person to literally apologizing for taking up space in the course of 6 years. I did the same things, I couldn’t do anything for myself. I second guessed myself on everything. It was horrible. I get so mad at myself still for not having the courage to get out of there sooner but I was convinced everything was my fault and it was me that was the problem. This video made me cry so much. It’s been almost 3 years since that relationship and I still can’t bring myself to get into another one but I have worked so hard on myself and that has helped get my confidence back!! Love you so much and thank you so much for bringing this and putting this out there. ❤️
I'm in the exact same spot😞.. almost 6 y relationship, we are living together in his apartment and it's too hard to leave, i'm so trapped.. to deep..especially due to my anxiety, panic attacks (and i think they will be much worse after the break up and won't be able to be on my own) Can't describe the fear of living and sleeping alone (i can't) in my apartment.. (my parents live in other places) it's so hard.. can't put into words...
I was in a relationship like that, too. It feels like a whole new big world when you leave. You're awesome, Emily💙
I can't imagine the pain you've been through, I'm so glad you took the step to come back to what you love.
Omg girl, I went through the exact thing. And still struggle sometimes. There are so many ppl who are here for you. I’ll be praying for you and everyone in the comments 💖
My father abused me and my family our entire lives, we finally had to just leave one night December of last year. I’m still dealing with it so I can sympathize with how you felt/feel. Just know you are loved ❤️
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Stay strong babe. Proud of you 🖤
I was in a mentally and physically abusive relationship as well. I was a teenager. I still feel the affects of it today. It leaves a permanent mark. But it does get easier. It takes a lot of bravery to talk about this and I can't thank you enough for speaking about this. Endless thoughts, prayers, and good vibes being sent your way.
I went through this for over 8 years... i know 100 % what are you talking about girl ❤️
Was interested in why this was in my recommended and after reading the comments I know why, I was only with my abuser for 1 year but I had known him for 12 years. I was stopped from doing ANYTHING. I feel for you.
I was in a relationship with a narcissist for almost a decade... three years ago I went no contact and I‘m still in the recovery process. Wishing you all the strength and confidence in the world - you‘ll gonna get your life back eventually.🍀❤️🍀
God bless you ❤ I was in an abusive relationship in 2010. The scars are still with me, but it definitely gets better. You don't have to forgive or forget to move forward. Your anger and pain are valid, and sometimes they can be fuel. I wish you and the other survivors out there all the best.
I left my narcissist ex a month ago after 9 years. I stand with you.
Wow, you're a very strong lady♥️
I had a suspicion it was something like that from Twitter ..there were odd things said which led me to think that. I have missed your videos so much..well done for looking after yourself and putting yourself first. You look so well...now just keep going! You are safe with your community here we love you! X
I've literally never heard of your channel. This was in my recommended. This is heartbreaking. I've been there. 17 years. Good for you for getting out. You're going to be ok, sweetheart. Take care of YOU for a while. ❤
I can feel the pain when you said you wanted your world back. He took everything from you. Before this, you were happy, confident, brave. Now, he’s taken every bit of your soul. I understand how that feels and I hope we both can do better and be happier in the future. Sending you warm hugs and wishes from Malaysia x