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- Three years ago I created 'YOU LOOK DISGUSTING', and shared my story with the world. Now I'm putting my career on the line to answer one very real, and very hard question... 'If we change the standards of beauty... do we change how we see ourselves?'
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External "beauty" is temporary.
Internal "beauty" is eternal.
No lmao cuz we die
If you don’t have external beauty you won’t get the chance to show your internal beauty.
As if I'm Not insecure enough now i have to work on my inner beauty too shit.
Well said. Very well said.
And this is a bullshit.
I can tell you right now that there’s a lot of us here sitting and thinking “but these women are stunningly beautiful!”
Yep
Nope
All makeup
Actually yes
Ikr I was like what a wonderful thing to see after I got sad (cuz I was sad) and that made my day
Btw beauty doesn't rlly matter... What rlly matters is the inside
@123fort andbree don't be mean and if you had anything like this u would be proud of them standing and saying what they r saying rn
And I noticed that if you *don't* have anything in common with them, then ull say ew or ugh and if u did then u would be happy for them and how they stood up and talked especially that BEA-UTIFUL woman who talked about how she didn't want to see here mother because of how she looks.....
*Ppl these days....*
I think people with vitiligo are absolutely stunning.
@thematic I mean, It's really pretty and literally no one can be racist to you about your skin colour lol.
same!
remy list why are you making this up you insulting them you know it’s not beautiful stop the lies
@thematic Tbh nobody really cares about what men find attractive. Women and men are beautiful in their own way and nobody should have to tell them differently.
@@liyanibernier5720 what? Everyone is beautiful but I think people with vitiligo are beautiful aswell, im not lying.
anyone else get really really pissed off looking in the mirror after an instagram scroll-through
hahaha i can relate
Having Instagram made me suicidal. Not joking. I’m suffering from hormonal acne. Looking at those beautiful pics of girls with clear skin on the explore in insta made me so sad. I have started to delete insta app and only use it to text friends. Honestly more people need to talk about this :(
unfollow all those 'influencers' i promise you will feel so much better!
@@Hisuik omg same exact thing with me hun x
ME ALL THE TIMEE
When the woman say I wanna be a white woman It really made me sad
🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹
Black women are also beautiful 😊💖 just learn to appreciate yourself 💕
XXX vdeo
Kir By lmaoo
How Ironic it is for Rihanna to be black-ish, right?
To the people who say that men also suffer from this: go ahead and make a Video about the problem. THIS is for women. A platform for women to speak freely.
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Ikr
The fact men can speak here means men can also speak freely.
Why do they have to be separated? If this is a video about beauty, BOTH men and women should be included, since both experience problems.
They won't create a video about men, not now, not ever. They don't value men's emotional problems as much. These separate videos only divide men and women further away from each other rather than approaching it as a universal issue regardless of gender.
@@charl7346 because women's problems with body dysmorphia and the perception of beauty are much more severe and common than men's. Of course, a good amount of men have body image issues, but again, they're definitely not as bad as women's.
I feel like when we see those airbrushed, facetuned pictures online, we not only think "I want to look like that" but we also think "why DON'T I look like that?" We turn it into a negative on ourselves rather than simply admiring or hoping toward something.
yes!!! and also why it has more of a negative impact
@@user-gx4zs9mr8n* sends a pic of Bob Marley
I feel like when I do that it’s coming from a very egocentric place inside. I wonder why I think another woman’s beauty diminishes mine?
I got tears on my cheek. This video had a special place in my heart. Bcause I know what they been through. I have acnes on my face also.. since 12yo, now I'm 28yo.
Me too 😢
Samaaaaa sis. Nangissss pwol
Your kidding...I had it since I was 9...😢😞
I'm in tears as well.
I'm 32 and still have acne. Not as much on my face as I used to, but still. And I've got it on my neck, chest and back still, despite all kinds of treatments and countless appointments with dermatologists.
I've only started accepting it 3 years ago, and now I don't wear foundation anymore. I'd been wearing it everyday since I was 13 and freaking out in situations that could remove it, like sports, pool, rain... I'm okay now, but I still can relate to the feeling shown by these women, because I had it for over half of my life.
Strangest thing is, I know why they feel that way, I know the mechanism, but I look at them and think "they are pretty, though, it shows and yet they can't see it". It's easier to see that others are beautiful despite their "flaws" than think this about yourself.
@@owlnemo im sorry to hear all of your sadness cause of that. but you are sooo freakin beautiful. sometimes in life we have to accept this is maybe the test of life and believe u can pass it and you will be moreee get an "A+" for your life test. keep it up and you are not alone!
The chinese girl with pink hair is stunning. that made me so sad she was never told that
ChloeFloral IKK
@@da14a49 why would you even think about leaving a comment like that are you okay with how you look and your mind? Did you even watch this wow .
She kinda blew things up/lie. In Asian definition she would be quite pretty not idol/star pretty but good looking for a normal person.
all of the girls are stunning wdym
demi hammond yes i know i never said they weren’t but i just felt bad for her cuz ppl didn’t tell her she wasn’t stunning xx
It can't be just me that thinks the girls are actually so pretty?
They are the most beautiful and strong women i've ever met xx
Of course you're not the only one thinking that. They are beautiful!
I understand the points this minidoc is trying to put forward and applaud this attempt.....but you're right - most of these women, in spite of their skin issues, are in the generally accepted group called "objectively pretty or attractive". My point being that people who do not qualify for this exclusive group have a much harder time in life than these women who are basically "ok". I accept they have insecurities but they have no idea what life is like for someone whom makeup won't help at all......
Sara They're so beautiful
They are beautiful 🌹
Why are people in the comments missing the point? I understand that men have higher suicide rates and they also suffer problems of anxiety and how they look etc etc. However this video is focused on beauty standards and the beauty industry. It is focused on the likes of make up and such. Please just watch the video and be inspired. If I was watching a video where they were addressing the issue the male face, I would not comment "Oh, girls go through that to". Or "Girls suffer more than guys". I would not comment anything along those lines. I would watch the video and be inspired. I would watch and understand the boys and their problems. So, men who are commenting "Men go through this as well" please just watch the video and understand the female mindset put on this video. I would do that for both the genders.
Yeah ikr like man have these problems too, BUT THIS VIDEO IS ABOUT WOMAN (It's as if someone said "we need to protect elephants and then people would say "but we need to protect tigers and all the other endangered species too... Like yeah cool but RIGHT NOW I AM FOCUSING ON THE ELEPHANTS THAT DOESN'T MEAN I DENY THAT OTHER SPECIES ARE ENDANGERED TOO AAARGH)
@@yerma6149 Right. It's so irritating when people do that.
The problem is men feelings are often not validated. When people say beuty problems they think of women and not both. Plus you dont really see those videos be as popular as this. And it's so irritating when I see someone saying this stuff cus you either have to be ignorant, stupid or just a bad person to not know this.
Ok, so feeling more inadequate due to media's misrepresentation of beauty or handsomeness is a human issue. None the less, I'd say the primary focus on being perfect IS aimed more frequently at females, in a way most men cannot really relate to or have to understand.
Gay men go through that too! Makeup and shit I mean.
I know what you're thinking:
"But these girls are all pretty..."
Yes, they are, but don't even compare yourself to them, because you too are pretty. You might not believe it, but you are. The problem is, we can't see our beauty, but yet we can see everyone elses. Here's a tip for your confidence: quit comparing yourself to others. Love yourself. God made you who you are for a reason. Be proud of it. Don't feel judged everytime you go out. Don't feel like you have to put on makeup to even call yourself pretty. Don't feel like you have to change yourself just to be considered beautiful. Because you already are. We just don't see our beauty until we're already trying to change ourselves. I think you're beautiful, whether you do or don't, and I am here if you ever need to talk 😊.
That was so sweet💖💖
@Lyzzy AAww, no problem hun 😘
Tori C God bless you love ❤️❤️❤️
I eont know why but with I read that you would be there to talk i wtarted to tear up. I think its because ive had to keep my situation a secret from most people my whole life except my mom so when i saw that someone that was outside the bubble im always trapped in it made me happy. I know this comment didnt make much sense to you hut i just wanted to let you know that this made me feel a little better.
Thank you❤
Yes girl. This was one of the hardest things for me. I could feel pretty good about myself until I saw some one else. I always felt plain. And wanted to be darker. I am learning to love myself and the way God made me. Its a struggle but I'm learning.
My best friend has acne. She doesn't wear Make-up. And to me she is the most beautiful human being in this World.
That's really sweet, I am so touched
Your an amazing friend
That was obvious sarcasm thanks for the likes anyways
everyone needs a friend like you
@@_alina5392 Dankee bist Deutsche, kann das sein?
Humans will always want what they don't have.
If they always look on the surface level yes. But if they look from within and fix that first they will forever be feeling they're enough or contempt, this is what it feels to fully heal or Zen
@@NetiNeti-gm5bz the influence of base desires are incredibly pervasive, and this idea of just meditating yourself to perfection is nonsense. Sure, meditation is brilliant in many ways, but the biology is not just a magic zen wand away from disappearing.
Trumps my oppa your um- username? 😂😂jk jk
@@naeema8673 😉
No body should have to want to not be put down by others
I think I'm going to school tomorrow without make up
:)
You go girl
@thematic hey you obviously didn't understand the message of the whole video. I can wear Make Up it I cannot wear Make Up. The Thing is that I should decide that by myself and not because if the expectations of others. So stop being so judging.
@thematic omg in which country are u loving? North Korea???? That's literally the stupid thing I heard today. Let Kids be whatever they want. I'm seventeen and when I want to wear red lipstick in math then that's absolutely alright because it's my body and I can do whatever I want with it. Why should adults be allowed to wear make up and "Children" not? I'm able to get a Child why shouldn't I be able to make this decision myself?
@thematic Omg you really think "Children" are not worth the same as Adults. Somebody like you should definitely not work in the environment of children. I'm pretty sure that I already reached higher degrees then u and that I'm obviously ways more intelligent. So it's my absolute right to be a know-it-all when I know it all 😘 You proof by the way again that u don't understand the message of this fantastic Video. I wear make up for myself, because I like it and I have fun with NOT for any boys or to attract somebody.
I started crying when the black girl said that white people are more beautiful…
How? Why…? My heart is broken…💔
I cannot understand this, black women in my opinion are far more striking
I think they can both be pretty 🤷🏻♀️
Every race is beautiful ❤️ that’s just her thoughts and it’s sad
Vanessa Labuschagne racist every race is gorgeous
I’m very fair skinned and I think darker tones are far more beautiful
Yeah. This is awesome. You are all doing something incredible.
Hi dodie, you're amazing and soooooo talented lol 💙
How?
OMFG DODIEEEEEEE ILSYM
John P ??
For who?
“Mostly like a white woman” that hit me 😭💗
Why do you think she feels that way?
Except melanin in darker tones maintains skin integrity, maybe beauty. Less sun damage etc.
she's gorgeous
@Majesty Hill Yeah, sometimes I do feel like my skin is too pale. It kind of hit me hard when she said that.
I honestly have felt like this also majority of my life I always wanted to be pale women with pale blue eyes always looking in minor but seeing a brown skinned girl with dark brown eyes and I hated myself
That’s why I’m no longer on instagram so I don’t get insecure about myself anymore again
Jana Amen. Social media is destructive. I’ve removed myself from all of it, except CZcams. Not worth it.
You are beautiful and I can agree with you having Instagram affects your self-esteem that’s why I deleted it
Yeah I still have insta but I always tried to avoid using it for too long otherwise I'll keep comparing myself to them
good for you! That's great maturity and self knowledge.
Same. I also deleted TikTok as well to prevent comparing myself to the creators.
There's a dark skinned girl with BLUE eyes. That's so rare and breathtaking
Susan Raymond she’s wearing contacts. Still breathtakingly beautiful.
Peach Macabre That's not what she meant.
@Peach Macabre ur stupid if u see someone with colored eyes it hits different i have brown eyes btw
@Peach Macabre also she said its rare so😋
Yeah idk what the big deal with coloured eyes is I think brown eyes are even more beautiful
People without acne have no idea how demoralising it feels to wake up in the morning, and feel another painful spot appear....with the many that join it. I remember feeling so upset by my acne that I stopped eating, wouldn't sleep right and even stopped going to work for a small amount of time due to my acne insecurity. I use to look at acne free people and be in awe of their clear skin. I remember one incident where I sat next to a young guy at a bus stop and looked at his skin thinking, "why is my skin not that clear? Why I'm I like this?". I'm cured of acne now. I met my husband when it had cleared up and I've told him how awful it was to have acne. It's funny but all my work friends said they never realised my acne was there when I had terrible big ones! It makes me realise now that no one noticed it! If you have acne please don't become depressed...its only temporary...like everything in this world. I saw it as a learning curve in my life and that life is too short to cry about it.
Thank you for sharing this :-)
@@kajalgiri1870 thank you and blessings to you!
hes never had the pleasure of bursting a beauty and squeezing until the blood turned brighter, I used to enjoy that. Maybe im a bit odd
@@richierex haha I agree haha he's never had that pleasure...the only problem after popping them, is the scars they leave *sigh*
@Mitch Rynn works to certain extent and then your skin gets use to the cream, so you're prescribed another cream.. bloody annoying
For me, a perfect woman is someone who know how to value others!
Thanks.That’s part of my personality,but my heart grew trapped by some incidents and I swore I would not let another human being just waste my time,leave me hanging,be shady with me,and leave me like trash even though I treated them with decency and that’s what I get in return.
A.X. R.M. Same same same here! But on the flip side, it’s making us stronger!
which none of these morons do. they're all too busy subliminally judging beauty while trying to make it look like they're not.
Who knows to value herself and others well
Ashley Pennington I’m a woman and I’m straight! :) but you can always be a friend
There’s part of the film where she has captured all the girls laughing, and without exception they all just look beautiful.
I know it’s hard.
The ironic and slightly cruel twist to being a woman is that when you are young, and probably the best you are ever going to look, and the slimmest/fittest you will ever be, that you have such low self esteem.
I was not truly accepting and loving of myself til I was in my 40s.
Now in my 50s and heaviest I have ever been, but having fought breast cancer and come out the other side, I am in awe of my chubby knackered body. It is stronger than I thought, and I need to take better care of it.
Love yourselves first, ladies. Always.
Very inspiring comment!
I literally love you rn. our bodies our amazing and they have been through a lot, thanks for making me remember that
When my acne was at its peak, I wouldn't leave the house. I couldn't even go buy my groceries because the people that saw me looked at me like I was an animal. I rarely ever saw anyone with acne as I had, and it isolated me. All I wanted was for people to not look at me. I didn't even want to look at myself.
But then a shift in my mindset changed. I began to become a lot more grateful for my life and the body I had. I put in an effort to love myself and smile back in the mirror. It got a lot better. It's not the best, and it's nowhere near the same skin I used to have. But I'm healing. I go out now with a smile on my face. I pray that anyone struggling with self-love can begin their healing process, too. Sending love out to ya'll.
Hey Makayla, you're a very very strong girl! I can tell just through your comment! You're beautiful and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. NEVER EVER change anything about you for anyone other than yourself😊 love from India🥰
When the girl was talking about her mum with her Skype and she didn't answer the Facetimes
That is really sad to see
And when the pink haired gorgeous lady was saying what her family said to her was so emotional
Every single one of these girls are gorgeous
And it's social media putting them down and sometimes their family
I feel for them
What breaks my heart is that ALL of these women are beautiful and I’m not just saying this to be nice
I know
Ur blind
Oh shut up
@@ThatCarGuy1983 omii your evrywhere
Honestly I was wowed every time a new person came on screen
the tears came when the black girl said "most likely white women". i think she looks beautiful, it breaks my heart when someone says they're not pretty.
without makeup: bullied
with makeup: bullied
why is society like this?
Hoseology because we have to stop caring so much about people’s opinions
People who gets bullied are better than people who bully them, they cannot reach your level that’s why they are jealous of you.
The only way to win is by not caring.
It’s 7am where I am now, and watching this as I get ready for another day in high school. I have had cystic acne for years, but cannot take certain medications for it because I am on other necessary prescriptions. People constantly point out my acne, tell me to change my already balanced diet, or to go to a dermatologist, even though I’ve seen several over the course of a few years. Thank you for making me feel not alone. I’ve surrounded by what seem like Instagram models all day long, and feel like I’ll never measure up to that in any way. I know I don’t have to, it’s just a constant battle. Love you, Em.
Same I am also in high school and I have struggled with acne for many years. I experienced all of the things you described. People can be horrible, sometimes even your friends or family (unintentionally). Everyone judges you without knowing or caring what's really going on. It really sucks, but we will get through this. It might sound silly, but I even feel like I am a stronger person now, even though I still cry at least once a week because of my acne.
Hey Lucy,
I myself have also struggled a lot because of Acne. I tried so many things.. different beauty products with only natural ingredients, not eating sugar/fat/milk products, I went to many different dermatologists...
exercising and changing my diet helped me a little, but it didn’t completely get rid of my acne... but what I can say what cleared it up almost entirely was birth control pills. I started to take those purely for that reason (I specifically asked my gynecologist for the type that also helps with bad skin, mine is called Maxim btw) and within a few months my scars faded almost entirely & I barely have bad breakouts anymore
I‘m not sure if it will have the same effect on you as on me, but maybe it‘ll help. Give it a try, if you want :)
Hope this helps. And remember, inner beauty is what really matters ❤️
Skin issues usually occur due to an imbalanced gut. If you take a good Probiotic and readjust your diet to rebalance your gut flora then you may start to see changes on the outside, but good skin is an inside job :) look up stuff on the gut and and how it effects skin and stick to natural skincare! Hope that helps ❤️xx
Eat only meat, been doing it for 3 months, my acne as completely cleared.
I love how Lucy explained that she is tired of people pointing out her acne and giving unsolicited recommendations (despite her seeing multiple dermatologists)...then people still comment giving her advice on her skin. Wow, just wow.
Another incredible film Em! it feels like this is the start of a new movement and you should be so incredibly proud x
Thank you so much xxx
Hi how r ya??
Will you marry me?
I am persian guy
All the men saying how they suffer too is completely true however, she made this video based of her own experience being a woman and how other women feel based of how society portrays women. she can’t make a video of how men feel while being a woman. Maybe a man should make a video based of their experience and other men instead of commenting negatively on this beautiful video.
It's really annoying. Men, if you want to have a video on this topic with men, then make it happen! Stop acting like it womens responsibility to cater to your issues and shed light on it. The thing you'll find though is that men dont actually care about mens issues, they'll just bring them up when women are talking to make it all about them and to shut women up.
This video is NOT about them, why do they always want the attention. We know men have problems too but women have it worse periodt.
Kayden Samuel but women do do that so ??
Arnold Avila God.
@@thomasfrank132 the truth is that men are socially engineered to hide their emotions. always telling them to ' man up' its easy to say UuUuuu wHy DonT TheY MAke ThEir OWn VDieos but men dont have it as easy as women do....
"White women.....yeah. Probably be my idealized western woman the most"
You don't know how this hit me hard like a hammer. I appreciate her for speaking out her feeling as if I was there pulled out the truth in my feeling. I feels absolute insecure about my beauty...my skin...my nose. Never had I ever look at myself in the mirror and say nice thing to myself instead of calling myself a "Shit trash".
I've found that when one can see her unique essence, she is going to embrace it. I hope my futureself will appreciate the many stories went through. #growingupugly.
Even as a young man... I honestly relate to what the young women with acne in this video have said.
Acne is truly awful, I cover it as much as I can. My acne is always deep in the skin and can be quite painful, as soon as one spot goes another one appears. I HATE going outside with my acne on show, even if I just pop out for a few minutes my anxiety can heighten.
Even though this video was primarily dedicated to women. I still want to say thank you for creating it. I'm sure a lot of young women/girls AND young men/boys will find this useful.
I would be extremely interested in seeing a group of men and their perspective on this subject. We are exposed to these "perfect bodies" like women, but a vast majority of men just do not talk about this stuff - around friends, family or anyone.
Beauty aside, we more often than not keep all our issues to ourselves - which is likely why suicide is the largest killer of young men in my country.
Still, thanks for this video. Very thought provoking! I hope people find use out of it.
@Miles Latham
My acne is cystic, I don't get as much acne as some people but I always have at least 3-5 spots on my face and they all leave dark marks/scars that take ages to go.
Accutane will probably be the last thing I get prescribed but I will 100% ask my Dr about it.
Will check that channel for sure. Thanks!
Jay Wood.
...the ‘observer effect’ tells us, that when we look at a thing, we change the nature of that thing, just by looking at it.
Therefore all human beings are ‘physically perfect.’
@@AgentDigits I am not a good looking guy. I think us men have more options available to make ourselves attractive, and probably care less about being attractive. Our confidence is not so directly linked to being pretty. But I do think that acne is one thing that will challenge anyone's confidence, male or female. I don't know anything about acne but I have had some friends kill themselves. I'm not sure why they did it but I don't suspect it had anything to do with their appearance.
@@chesterdonnelly1212
I'm sorry you lost friends. Truly, it's awful.
I didn't link a mans lack of confidence in their appearance to be the sole reason for suicide...
But it is a reason non the less.
I just meant that men (in the UK) don't talk about anything in-depth or how it makes them feel. Their appearance will be one of those things. Sure not all men are the same but some will hate how they look and struggle everyday to find confidence.
As I said, suicide is the biggest killer of young men in the UK. There is a reason for that, we keep quiet about everything and the anxiety and depression those things cause drive people to do things.
It's important for us to open up about what bothers us as much as possible so we can find help... Appearance is just ONE of those things. Health, family, sexuality, addiction, relationships etc. are others.
A video with men (like this) talking about their insecurities and how they conquered them could really encourage some people to think about seeking help. Regardless about what those insecurities are.
The whole "men don't cry" or "man up", "be a man" crap needs to stop. It just damages a person mentally. Stuff like this is also a huge factor for why men stay shtum.
@@AgentDigits I totally agree. I do hope that's changing but I'm not certain that it is. Being told to man up often comes from their mum or wife. I don't think suicides are coming down. Women talk a lot and generally in a relationship they want to talk and don't want to listen. If you talk too much as a man you get called a woman. When your wife doesn't want you to go out you can get cut off from your friends. If then she is being cold to you it can get very lonely. Then if the relationship breaks down you have nothing. I encourage my wife to have friends and go out, but she stops me. I can understand why some people take their own lives or give up and drink themselves to death. Especially if they haven't managed to get a decent career. Life can be lonely.
Crying watching this. Feels like the never ending story for us who deal with low self esteem issues. Hope we can all some how find peace with who we are because truly we are all we have
Aww, that's so sad I cry my heart out for you guys every day
Beauty is....
The truth in your smile
The shine in your eyes
The confidence you have
Your health
Your kindness
Not just your body or your hair or clear skin or your height or how many people find you pretty or even the symmetry of your face.
Beauty is who you are and how you live life and treat others
That is beauty.
Thats bang on how i see beauty in other people not in myself tho worst critic lol
"I want to be a white woman" i choked. Im pale white and almost burst in tears! GIRL, ARE YOU EVEN AWARE OF HOW PRETTY U R?!!!!
And i dont even mean to make u feel better. U have perfect face features and beautiful beaaaautiful eyes.
Omg plz dont ever say smth like that 💔
Such a beautiful film. The biggest congrats on this whole project, and you should be so proud to have become such an incredible role model for all women xx
Thank you so much Vic xx
Thank you so much Vic xx
lion king
I really really needed this.
I have acne on my face, neck, chest and back. I’m constantly covering up my body and some days don’t even want to wake up and look people in the eye. The impact this can have on mental health is astounding. I love the positivity here ❣️
Im crying right now. This video is beautiful. I’ve been dealing with severe acne since I’m 10/11 and I’m 15 now. I’m now taking the pill (because it’s hormonal) and it’s gotten better. I’m feeling confident again. But I hate that I have lived with so much insecurity for 2 years (it was really bad 2017-2018). I couldn’t look people in the eyes, i didn’t wanted to go somewhere near the sun because then my skin would be very noticeable and didn’t wanted to be on ANY pictures. My friend once told me at the time that I wouldn’t get someone to love me because my acne was that bad.
On Instagram we see all those people with clear skin standing in front of the mirror with beautiful light and no pore or pimple to be seen. Most of those pictures are face-tuned. We live in a lie.
I’m only 15 and I’m insecure about how wide my hips should be and how big my breasts should be. Thats not normal at all. Social media is eating us.
After this video I’m going to unfollow EVERY girl that I just follow because I like her face or body.
Queen Chanty i feel u. I wanted to commit suicide but i am still fighting. I wanted to live at the same time i wanted to die.
@@karencruz1598 Please don't commit suicide Jesus loves you and I love you, Your life matters and you are very worth it please take it easy on yourself, I also have low self esteem and often compair myself to others, but I'm ready to change and to start liking who I am and accepting myself for the way I look.
That girl with those bright blue eyes 😍😍😍 those eyes look incredible on her, especially with the contrast between her eyes and skin colour.😍😍
contacts
Please Lord enough with social media killing girls self esteem. Please redefine pretty please xxx
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@thematic so how can i delete people around me?
these people are like "rEdeFinE PrEtTy'' no, just let people like what they want. pretty is different for everyoune. there is no definition and people are allowed preferences. Also these girls crying for acne while other people, me included, suffer from actual health problems.
@@goofygoober7248 Well there is a mostly stablished perception of what's beautiful and what isn't and they seek to widen it for others to fit in and lower them to reality. Acne is very important in the context of how much beauty is valued by women. This doesn't mean other more harmful health problems aren't important, they are.
I'm a guy who is really self conscious and struggles from body image issues. I'd love to see videos like this that aren't gender-specific.
Yes. Exactly what I just commented
The James Bay Courier what is this based on exactly? Men have a much higher suicide rate than women.
Nix yes and women’s suicide is constantly mensoned
@@nix2939 because men actually succeed in killing themselves because they don't want to fail since that's seen as weak
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When she said that she's afraid to video chat with her own mother ..I'm having the same kind of situation ,afraid to go out from my bedroom..
😥😥Just know you're beautiful and Jesus loves you🤗🤗❤❤
How are you now? Hope you're doing better. Because people don't care much it's just the way we see things..
My acne got better but i always find something to not love at myself..so just working on accepting myself. It made me cry when my daughter told me I'm pretty.😭
I can truly understand the pain they're going through...
I have very low self esteem,sometimes I want to vanish...
This is amazing Em! I am 25 and suffer with hormonal acne, and I am starting to embrace my natural face. You are the reason for it. You showed me I have nothing to be ashamed of. You taught me that I am worthy of love, regardless of how I look. You are a wonderful human being, and I hope this has a positive impact on the beauty community. Makeup is wonderful and fun, but so is our natural face. The makeup industry needn't feel threatened by you, so long as they stop photoshopping everything. I adore brands like fenty and aerie where it is real people, not airbrushed to some other unachievable standard.
So much love for you! ❤️❤️❤️
Em, congratulations on this amazing film. It is brilliant on all levels, so much needed, and extremely empowering. Bravo 👏
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"Empowering" ...For who?
Black women...
@John P LmFaO! As funny as that is ironically this brainwashed moron actually WOULD go ahead and do something like that im certain of it! 😂
We need a male version of this as well, my cousin year ago comitted suicide and later we found out he was bullied and i know he was a very good guy ❤
That is so heartbroking,May he rest in peace.
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*"In the end, we won't remember the most beautiful face and body. We will remember the most beautiful heart and soul."*
It feels just like I'm listening to my own story. This is so inspirational and meaningful. Thank you all for your great work.
Me also
As a male i just wanted to say that every women in this video is truly beautiful.
I wish i could give them all a big hug and tell them how beautiful and strong they can be and are.
NitroCorn why u lie
@@cocoqtpi I know his type. He pretends to be nice so he can try to bone them.
Lol wow!
@@chesterdonnelly1212 if he wants to "bone" them... surely he thinks they are attractive?
@@mandowarrior123 he only wants to smash and dash. How's that going to help their confidence?
Many people lose their beautiful soul and begin feeling depreesed while looking for beauty standards. So i love how girls in this video are charming, strong and brave to tell us their journey
When she said “it’s almost like you’re not good enough even if you’re talented” that just hit different
I'm a man, and I know the pressure on women is so different, but I loved this and it really spoke to my experience with a 'beauty' standard. I also had really harsh acne that scarred my face even now it's gone and it was a really demeaning experience to have people fun of me or constantly point it out. I already hate that there's such intense pressure on women all day every day. Itt's so great to have something like this made so I can share this video with everyone :)
thanks for being so open about it. my boyfriend has suffered similar issues and i constantly have to point out to him that his scars don't make him any less beautiful to me. and i'm sure you'll find someone out there that will feel the same towards you :)
I'm 29 years old & suffer from acne. I have low self esteem & often cry because I don't like my appearance. I'm crying my eyes out watching this. You're amazing for doing this Em.
Same as me i m 24 i m suffering from acne since 4 years..it my confidence soo low
I'm 28 and I too feel the same way. Can't imagine how much money I've spent on skincare. I'm also self conscious about my appearance as I'm weighted too. Damn pcos! Just know you're not alone xx
Girl you are so beautiful I'm sorry that you are feeling that way . ❤❤
My cousin has cancer. Get out there and start dating. You don't need to like it, and shouldn't. Otbers need to. Go find them.
@@mandowarrior123 I'm married but thank you!
2:18 lets get this out the way, HER EYES ARE LIKE THE PRETTIEST THINGS I HAVE EVER SEEN!!!!! 😍😍😍😍
If you are talking about the colour they're contact lenses. But if you are talking about the shape then yes
Those are contact lenses unfortunately 😕
@@mlagv4045 how do you know they're contacts?
Alastríona you can see the black ring of the contacts - real blue eyes don’t have that
@@FlexiAlexiLove also the color part of a contact lense looks liek it rests more on the surface of the eye. Wheras a real colour area is almost inside the eye.
Social media didn't create low self-esteem and body image issues, but no one can deny that it's made the situation so much worse. It's easy to say we shouldn't compare ourselves to others, but the problem is that our brains automatically make those comparisons, and it's not something we can control. If you look at a picture of someone who looks impossibly perfect, and then you look in the mirror immediately afterwards, your brain will perceive you as being less attractive than if you had not looked at the picture before.
The same stuff was being said about the media b4 social media. All that hype about everyone becoming an anorexic bc of magazines and models etc.
Yeah but the media fix’s photos to a ideal.
Thank you Em for allowing me to participate and share my story, I feel so blessed to be a part of this project & thank you to all the brave girls that came together to create such a meaningful video xoxo
Misakaly ur beautiful
So happy to be part of this! I'm at 4:58, briefly 😂 the shoot was amazing and the message so incredible!
Beauty fades but a kind heart and honourable character is timeless.
Focusing on looks is to place excess value on the superficial and fleeting, yet so many neglect to nurture their character.
Don't let mainstream media, cosmetics companies or any other company that profits from your low self-esteem affect how you see yourselves.
Kindness, honour and integrity are all far more beautiful qualities than skin
Couldn't agree more. To a large extent this issue is caused by constant brainwashing from the beauty industry.
When that one woman said she was 33, I was in disbelief. She looks like a teenager! Wow, she is blessed!
Not only girls expirience this.
chamberlui dddxxwww bb m
I have it too unfortunately
Yup. Exactly what I just commented
Yeah girls and gay guys worry about that
chamberlui stop it men don’t care for this they meant to be strong and messy 😂
damn how does the darker girl have such beautiful blue eyes?
Lenka Chládková
Contacts
They are colored contacts. but she is beautiful regardless
They are her natural eyes that's why she has anxiety towards the way she looks
Contacts
@@potatosmileys6637 they are contacts look at her after the scans
I stopped wearing make-up 2 months ago and have avoided mirrors since then. This gives me hope with therapy I will be able to face my bare face soon, although I still have acne.THANK YOU!
This comment is a year old but it really spoke to me. I go to therapy because of how awful my self-esteem was and now I'm glad to say I can look in the mirror ^^ How have things been holding up?
blub blub blub blub My skin is clear thanks to Roaccutane and diet changes. I still get the occasional pimple, but who cares? The biggest change, though-is in my mind. I am trying to “re-programme” it so that it isn’t attached to the idea of beauty as seen by our society. You are gorgeous sister, don’t let anyone (especially yourself!) convince you otherwise
Oh my goodness! But they are all uniquely beautiful! That’s real beauty right there!
I started crying about 15 seconds in and am still crying after I've finished watching. I'm absolutely floored Em, I don't think this could have turned out any better. I have no words, or at least none that are coherent but this was even better than I was expecting. Thank you, thank you, thank you! ❤️
Oh ❤️😭 thank you so so much
I'm touched and I'm crying watching this video. I forced myself to be brave enough to show people my bare face once in a while just to let my skin breathe and trying to be confident with my own skin as I suffered with acne scarring that is so hard to go away from my life. But it kept crushing me when seeing people looking at me like something is just wrong with my face, and sometimes they asked what is wrong with myface.. It is so cruel until one time, I decided to be me, and just me alone. I suffered with anxiety, so I had enough to be struggling with my own mind to do anything I want, I'm not gonna let just because of my skin condition to be another weigh to my shoulder. I always bare in my mind that DIFFERENCE MAKES US BEAUTIFUL. This what makes me be more confident with my own skin. And I was inspired by you Em.. ❤😘
What a positive message. I have vitiligo and find it so hard to cope with, it's hard to be accepted by others. I need to be strong like you.
ching ching darling you can too dear! At first, yes, it’s really hard to do. But sooner or later you can adapt any way. What’s important is to accept your difference. And keep seeding your brain that you’re special. Beautiful is subjective. If you have pretty heart, and beautiful from inside, and people who knows you through that will appreciate for who you are, no matter what’s you looks like. At the end of the day, these people are real and true to be with. 😘❤️ be strong okay! 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
@@TyaAmir Thanks so much for your encouraging reply, we need more people like you in this world. God bless you.
This will probably get lost in the comments, but I'd like to add my own thoughts.
I've been interested in what I find beautiful for a while. I noticed that what a lot of people call beautiful, I'd more call 'attractive, a.i. the features you're born with. However, the more I look at people, the more I find that a smile is what makes someone really gorgeous. Even people with the perfect features looks dull and unattractive to me, compared to someone who smiles.
A well meant smile can make someone so pretty. I also love to watch people talk about things they are passionate about, I'd love the glow up people get from that, even if I don't find that topic particular interesting myself.
I wished the media, and social media focused a lot more on what makes people happy, and feeling good with who they are, than the constant almost demeaning focus on looks alone.
All these girls are literally beautiful😫💘💞💗💖💖💓
thank you for all you do from the front lines to make a point about what is realistic. I hope the beauty industry realizes this is the change we need rather than making us strive for photoshop unrealistic expectations.
Thank you so much xx
no honestly Em, thank YOU.even from the health and diet niche that I am part of I had to get so used to brush stuff of and "man up" and the fact you went as far as testing and providing hard data is such invaluable facts you are bringing to the table. I stopped the presses today from my usual schedule to tell all my viewers to come watch this, cause as positive as I try to be seeing so many women just like me feeling just like I do is what sparked the lightbulb moment and i do want to believe this genuinely can start making us think into redefining our standard of what is beautiful even to our own selves. Cause critiques are never as hard as the ones that just repeat out loud what we are thinking about ourselves first. Thank you from the bottom of my heart Em, truly. xx
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I love you i miss you
Ginger's Keto In The UK nobody “makes” you strive for anything.
This video took my memories back to high school. Back to the laughing, pointing, bullying, whispering, suggestions that were told to me countless times, crying the night before because you know it’s going to happen all over again. Back to the feeling of hate for ones self because you don’t look like everyone else. Back to feeling like nothing I can do about it so just give up. I’m 28, got my first breakout at 12... even then it was pointed out to me by a classmate. From that day on it got worse and worse. I knew it was bad when all my older Aunts making comments about my face. I hated pictures. You won’t find me in any from my teen years. Even in my 20s I rarely took pictures, if I did, I HAD to be wearing makeup. And it had to be perfect. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost a year now.... there’s no pictures of us. Even for special occasions and date nights. Because I know I’m going to look ugly, even if I’m wearing makeup. He tells me I’m beautiful in every way, inside and out. That I, and just me alone, bare skinned, am the most beautiful woman he has ever seen. It’s hard to start believing you’re beautiful when you’ve heard the total opposite for years and years. Yes, I’m insecure, intimidated, jealous and even hateful towards women who I see as beautiful. Something I could never be by definition. But I’m NOT going to let my looks define who I am. Yes, I have acne and scars. But I look like me. I don’t want to look like societies beauty standards... those girls all start to look the same.
Love this! I relate to everything you just said
Every word u said is absolutely correct.
Women (generally, some men too) climb the social hierarchy by putting others down, even family members, whether they know it or not. I'm sorry you suffered from this evolutionary hangup, but remember, you don't need beauty if you have a partner. Your other half really is the only metric that matters. If you succeeded in finding a partner, you already won the war, well done. All you have to do is try to recognise and avoid when you are tempted to do the same to others, for whatever reason.
I relate to that more than you could ever imagine lol
Fighting back tears - maybe I should just cry - beautiful people working on this project
I just deleted my Instagram because of this!
good for you!
Me too
So do i
3 years no instagram and it changed my life for the better
@@selene4065 periodt luv😌💞💅🏾
And for the woman who said she’s never been called pretty.... YOUR NOT PRETTY..... YOUR BEAUTIFUL IN EVERY SINGLE WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!
You’re * you’re *
To the BEAUTIFUL people reading this, I want you to know how amazing and precious you are. Everyday can be a struggle but you can get through it with your amazing personality and I would rather be with a nice person with acne than a ‘perfect’ person who’s nasty. Be YOU.
I agree!
Right!
Vomitous nicey nicey virtue signalling over
No you wouldn't... ☺
1 day ago and only 3 likes?
Daaaamn MUST work harder at my virtue signalling!!
I was expecting over 300 likes by now 😭
lol.
Mockingjay Unicorn awww 🥰 thank you ☺️ and ditto !!! 💕
I relate with the Asian girl... btw shes beautiful... but yeah it's a pretty toxic perception to have in a community.. how they perceive beauty.. I for one was have never been called beautiful tbh, except from my father lol, and yes he is my best friend.. I was raised in a different country and jst recently moved to the Philippines... really i would say beauty standards here is toxic af and people wanting all these whitening chemicals and to follow korean trends is pretty much a big deal. but I'm honestly happy that I'm me and not one to conform to these standards.
I must say that the way your skin look like have a big effect on your appearance. I do have something you could call "clear skin" but what is this for when my facial features are bad and that's something you could never change(only if you want to undergo dozen of extreme surgeries where jaws are broken etc.). These girls - all of them do have so beautiful and perfect face features, symmetrical too. They are all very beautiful to me. Some of them had the problem just in their mind caused by the standards. I never heard from anyone I'm beautiful. The max I could get that I'm... different/strange/interesting which really doesn't help to get better. Quite the opposite. It made me cry when a beauties like this in this video are made by standards thinks otherwise about themselves. You ARE beautiful!
The truth is everyone's going to judge you no matter what happens but we just gotta hustle no matter what happens bc someone's thoughts don't matter at all
Yeah because we just always wish we have something we dont have if we had it we'd probably want something different.
That’s actually great advice :)
Thank you Em for using your platform to spread a message like this ❤️ all of the women who were part of this film are incredibly gorgeous and you could really see their soul shine ❤️ I love this movement you’re creating #redefinepretty
Jolina😍 Schön dich auch hier zu sehen👍
Joooooolina😍😍
I'm 22 now, my perception of beauty has changed so much in the past 10 years.
When the lady said white woman, I was shook bc I always wanted to be darker. Black girls ur beautiful. Every woman is beautiful. Love you all.
Same
I hate being pale
Hee hee, your skin is beautiful, too. All colors and shades of skin are beautiful. But what's more important than looks is personality. The way you treat people, and the way you carry yourself.
Em mate you need a channel 4 doc series haha
😂😂😂 literally made me burst out laughing
That would be amazing!!!
This video could change the world. I'm going to share it everywhere, absolutely everywhere!
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Thanks
I think this just changed my life
I have alopecia and I see hair everywhere so know exactly how this feels, this is incredible. I feel so moved....
This gave me chills. I can´t believe how spot on this was. I've been struggling with acne for 8 years. I went to the best doctors in my country, and they gave me all kinds of medicine. Nothing helped. After going to my school psychologist I found out, myself might I add (no doctor told me this) that it was all hormonal. Being physically and mentally bullied for not looking like the beauty standard sent me down a rabbit hole. It wasn't until last year that I figured out that I had to change my lifestyle. Live for me. That's also when my acne started clearing up. I'm still struggling from time to time, but nothing compared to what it was like five years ago. There should be models with acne and skin problems in the media, in commercials, on television. This is a step in the right direction. Thank you Em
Try out korean's facial routine. It's completely opposite to western recommendations.
I can’t thank you enough for all you do to help women and our self esteem. I had acne from the age of 12 up until about 5 years ago when I was 25/26. People have no idea how much it affects you every single day. I was ashamed to be seen without makeup. Even going to a water park for the day I still had to wear makeup. Drugstore makeup was never full enough to cover the redness and the bumps. I was embarrassed to be seen or have my picture taken. Any time I was around people I felt like all they saw were my pimples and nothing else. Some people would point it out or insinuate that I didn’t ever wash my face or take care of my skin. It was humiliating. Now I’m older (31) and even though I really don’t have acne anymore, I have all the discoloration and scars from when I did and I still feel like I can’t be seen without makeup. I still have that mindset that people only focus on my flaws. It never goes away. I’m so grateful that you acknowledged this with film and scientific evidence. It’s a real problem and we need people to work with us for a real solution. Thank you thank you thank you!! ❤️
This video brought tears to my eyes....I've been suffering with acne since I was 12 years old....I'm now 24.....I just want to be confident in myself and feel pretty. I really wish more people understood us and what we're going through instead of putting us down and saying mean comments.
Hello sweetheart, don't worry about it. Just ignore it. It will get better, you just need to be patient. I had acne too. Luckily, I wasn't bullied that much. But it was a very hard time, so I can feel you.
The girl at 6:25 who said she didn't see her mother for a year because she was so self-conscious broke my heart. I never realised there was someone out there who understood. 💔
Social media is so toxic and unrealistic, thank you Em for showing that we all have insecurities that we don’t need to hide, after all, that’s real beauty 🌸❤️🧡
Sooooo... You DIDN'T know that before?
You needed a youtube video to point that out???
Are you a 10yr old?
That CarGuy If you don’t have anything positive to say, don’t comment. I don’t need to waste my time.
@@user-rp3kn4pr5j I'll comment when and where i see fit
And lfe is NOT always positive is it?
Sick and tired of silly brainwashed people of today walking around in a stupid multi coloured utopian bubble its pathetic and if you can't take someone elses point of view i really think its you that shouldn't comment
Oh and i love how you say "Waste my time"
Look at your comment!
Waste of time indeed.. lol
That CarGuy Well duh life isn’t always positive but this video is about learning to love and accept yourself. If you are going to come on and act like an insolent, bratty 8 year old then you are wasting my time.
I actually cried when the Kurdish girl cried. Also the girl at 6:55 broke my heart. She's actually so pretty though 💔 ❤️
I cried when I saw how much of Professor Vincent Walsh's time was wasted doing this wothless self explanatory experiment.
@@TommyManz Love yourself because inner beauty is what matters 😢😭😭
-every teen magazine
This is a very important topic, I struggled with my skin for more than 10 years until one day I learned that I'm beautiful and I don't need to disguise myself, making myself smaller than I'm. Weirdly enough, after that realisation my skin started to improve day by day. In a year's time I couldn't recognise myself in the mirror. I learnt that my confidence= my skin looking healthy. This is a perfect video to address this topic and accept ourselves aa who we are. And we are all beautiful and should love ourselves unconditionally.
AWWW the girl who said she didn't see her mom through Skype it really made me cry, bless her and the rest
This video is incredible and so so powerful, it's shocking that people are doing things like not seeing family because of it or being told they are never pretty when everyone is. The work you are doing is phenomenal Em. We've already been brought up with a 'cookie cutter' idea of beauty when there is no such thing.
This is crazy because all these girls are gorgeous to me
yeah, theyre not. but act nice for those likes!!
@@goofygoober7248 lmao! just say ur insecure next time
@@user-wp9bi3et7j ??? k mr simp
"most likely a white woman" broke my heart💔
It actually hurt me physically to hear that absoulty stunning women think that being white would be the ideal women. I hope anyone who is of color to know u are absoulty stunning. Color is beauty
I’m a guy and I think all of these women are attractive. Not all guys only like attractive Instagram models.
Woweewoo that’s nice but it isn’t all about what men think
@Kat slater I never said that this is all about what men think. I just made that comment because a lot of women are under the assumption that guys only like girls who look like basic Instagram models when in fact most of us prefer natural looking girls.
Not the point of the video. It doesn't matter if you or anybody else thinks they're attractive they don't and what they feel about it is awful
Woweewoo again, it’s not about what men think😂
wow that's good but I don't
as someone who struggles from body dysmorphia disorder, this was beautiful
me too. it is hell :(
I can relate. I always thought it was kind of a joke condition or like a made up condition, until I finally realised and accepted I have a severe form of it. I have never been able to date because of it. It controls a lot of my day to day functions. it’s interesting because up until recently I just thought the things I wanted to improve were normal and when I got them life could start. I’m 35 and it developed in my teens. Some days are ok and I do feel like I can see myself in the future. The bad days Is struggle not to get caught up in fantasies of ending my life.
O don’t know how the people can dislike this, I mean the message is very beautiful