As the years go on, my friendships seem to dwindle. That could be for any number of reasons, but perhaps it's a normal and even necessary part of life. Everything is not meant to be eternal, and that's ok.
A black man expressing his feelings. Wow. Salute my brother. Transparency and honesty is a undervalued trait. You’re going places. Just keep ya head up gang ❤❤
@@gastarbeiter8384let me just simplify it for you….black men, when they’re young, are told to not show their emotions, man up if they’re crying. Crying is for girls. So, when a BLACK MAN shows his emotions as an adult, it’s a good thing! He is not ashamed to be vulnerable
@@D_A_Marv yea and that’s only a exclusive black man behavior right? 😂 wtf literally every man on this planet is growing up with the same stuff no matter what skin color you got. No matter where u go, europe, russia, china, australia every man is told to man up and dont cry. But you don’t get it because your stuck into your little racedefined world
@@gastarbeiter8384 They have a valid reason, but you didn't think before you posted. In many black communities a male being this emotionally honest is seen as a weakness more so then many other demographics.
@@D_A_Marvthat’s very true. It’s all about culture. We all grow up in different cultures and it is a big factor in how you turn out as an adult. Although I do always believe in self-accountability.
@@Comporio Straight facts. I cut off everyone besides 1 friend, I can definitely say I've never been happier. Although I do wish I had some friends to play games with once in a while.
This isn’t true… humans are social animals, relationships are core to what we are. Believing this statement is not useful to you. Sticking with solitude is your own way of protecting yourself. Reach out to your childhood friends and cousins, share stories, be honest, and keep open minded to new people. Hope this helps
Im 21, had maybe 4 "friends" in high school, and I use quotes because I never hung out with them outside of school. I have 4 contacts in my phone, just immediate family, I'm broken, and I've almost ended it a couple of times. I never thought it could get worse, but my god, it doesn't stop getting lower. Seeing these types of videos helps me to try and keep going.
Hey Sal, I definitely understand how that feels. I moved states in middle school so going into high school I never felt comfortable because I thought everyone already had “their” friends. I eventually found an amazing group of like 8 kids. One girl ended her life our senior year of high school, 2 girls spiraled into a dark depression and have been in and out of treatments, and 3 others moved to separate states across the country. I only talk to the last 2 friends from that group and other than family they are the only 2 people in my phone. I’m only 20 so I can’t give much life advice but I understand how you feel to be broken. I’ve failed out of school, struggling to pay bills, find a better paying job, and can’t seem to hold on to any type of healthy relationship. Everyone I know sees me as the most bubbly person on the outside because I don’t want them to know how I really feel inside. I tell myself that tomorrow could be the day I get my big break and that it will be worth going through all the tragedy. All I can really say is plan ahead for you future but take life day by day, you will never see a rainbow until it storms and the harder it storms the prettier the rainbow will be. Please keep your head up and stay strong!!
Going off what the other person said, everyone has their days that can stretch on for weeks, months, etc. Really, the most important thing to do is to keep pushing with hopes for something better. You can't give up this early; you've just started. I'm only 19 myself and about to turn 20 in half a year. I've been a marine for longer than I've been a high schooler, so I've had shittier days/weeks/months than the majority of people will ever have. I try not to make friends, but somehow always attract them in the weirdest ways. 😅
I’m In the same position as you even with 1 million subs. No girls, no attention, no parents or family. Just grinding from the bottom and it hurts me inside everyday
you just need to find something that drives you some sort of passion that keeps you going or at least thats what i do. stay positive brother that's all you have at the end of the day, your mind
@@Ashleyunfiltered fuck god, he doesn't need any more imaginary friends, he needs real friends. real people, who don't know who he is and want to learn who he is.
Im a 30 yo woman and I have no friends nor boyfriend. I had friends before, I thought we were very close but it turned out it was just me who thought so. I’ve dated before and got crushed too much too many times. Now I isolate myself from interacting with any human as much as possible. I know there are good people out there but im just not lucky to be friends with any of them
Yes definitely but then we need people, we are humans. When people are isolated it had detrimental effects long term . I blame the society we are continuing to build, less community more isolation and individualism
When I was 23 (I’m 33 now) I reconnected with an old friend by reaching out to congratulate her on graduating. We are now best friends and talk every day. Don’t be afraid to reach out to old friends especially if you have something in common with them.
But be wary of contacting old friends, especially if you fell out with them for a reason. Nobody loves to see your downfall more than an ex friend who thinks they know everything about you, because you used to know each other
As a 51 yr. old dad with 2 teen kids I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts and feelings. My kids struggle with loneliness. However, looking at you and your strength I am sure they will find their way. As will you. All the best to you!
Friendships take effort to maintain over time. You have to make a point to deliberately nurture & support your relationships. Just hanging out for fun isn't enough -- you have to help each other out in hard times too, & be willing to learn & evolve from conflicts.
maybe this is why i don’t have friends… having a friend isn’t hard but maintaining it is. I don’t like texting everyday , i just feel exhausted and drained how do have so many friends
It does NOT speak volumes about the loneliness epidemic. This fact only means a lot of people find it interesting enough to want to listen to it, no matter who is the guy speaking. I'm just pointing out that your statement is realistically invalid. Yes, this is an everyday guy (looks to be in a good state) venting and has a ton of views, rare but it does happen to people here and there. Yes, you can definitely argue there is a loneliness epidemic. But no, they are not related whatsoever. Maybe whatsoever is harsh, but there is no direct connection, they just both happen to be independently "true". Sorry.
Keep your head up bro. As a 40 year old man with 10 years of his life incarcerated until 2022 I too have no friends. Everyone I knew were dealers, thieves, and armed robbers. I cut them all out of my life to better myself. You’re going to be fine. Chin up, If they aren’t about who you are as a person. F em.
Im on the younger side , 19 and what you said is some real. I had a small circle of friends that I knew since elementary. We grew up in poverty and yet even though they make bad decisions i sticked with them. Now at 19 that same group are addicted to fentanyl and are locked up. Glad I left them when we were 16 I probably would of been homeless if I didn’t man up.
Hey brother. I was falsely accused of assault and there is a chance I might have to spend 11 years in prison. I might have to cut off everyone I know including my family if I receive jail time. Any advice on what jail is like?
23 and never related more to a video or someone in my life. i just watched your other vids and had to come back to this one and really just say how much i appreciate your mindset. it’s truly amazing to be able to connect to someone like that fr
Kim, I can mostly relate I am 37 with no friends 90% my choice for real. I do have IG but I only follow Carhartt and Cabela’s. With all respect, where are you from?
everyone is selling you dreams and false hopes. our geneation is cold and only seek clout or money. our attention span is worse than a fricken fish bruh. I'm sorry you're going through this. i don't know how you or I are going to get out of this situation.. we are in this together. You're not the only one. I'm also lonely and have no friends and seeing lots of fake demons around. i'm here for you
I’m glad that I listened to this video, this reminds me so much of the difficulties that I faced in my mid 20’s. I grew apart and lost contact from a lot of my friends, and I also had to distance myself from toxic people. You are growing as a person and the best people are yet to enter your life and you will find friendships with those who you least expect 😊
I am 21 and currently feel like this. I’m so relieved to see this being spoken on. Thanks for your transparency and letting it be a safe space for everyone. I hope it won’t be like this forever, I’m healing from my friendship PTSD. From having girls steal my clothes, talking to guys I was dating or just in all not being a genuine friend… it’s hard out here. I have been falling more in love with my alone time though and being more appreciative of it. My advice would be to continue to do things that make you happy try new hobbies, movie nights, find scenic parks, travel & explore your city, self care etc..
I feel like our generation is dealing with this the hardest. I'm seeing so many people my age struggling with a lack of relationships. I'm turning 22 in a couple weeks and I relate a lot to everything you're saying
@@KorerynI hear you but we're talking about how this stuff effects our growing stages. We were raised on the internet and many of us are missing out on our youth because of it
i’m glad you’re speaking on this. i’m new here, but i’m 34 and have no friends, no real relationships that are mutually respectful or supportive, no connections… for a lot of reasons. most of the real homies passed away, friends who didn’t deserve the title, friendships that fade over time. it’s pretty hard to face not having anyone left in you’re corner, especially in a time in life where it’s hard to form friendships- with other impacting factors (like i’m autistic, and won’t mask to hang out with someone). but im glad more younger people are being open about it, i can’t imagine going through my 20s without people to share experiences with, places to go form memories, realize what makes a true friend too. the world has changed and the impact on human connection is a problem if you ask me… we all need someone, we’re social creatures at our core.
I relate to this so heavily. I’m 19 nearly 20 and I feel so alone. I’m adjusting to it but my mental health has been in the gutter since I started uni in sep, it makes me question my worth. I love your vulnerability and bravery to make the video so others can hear ur story and apply their opinions too. I wish us all well💕
Man whats happening to people today. Can we not develop some thick skin and learn to love others. If you want friends then show yourself friendly. If you want friends then initiate. Get your eyes off of yourself a little and learn to appreciate those around you. Theres nothing good in simply loving yourself as most people do that anyway. Loving others is hard work but rewarding because we are all creatures that need others whether we want to admit that or not.
@@Qrr0wned yes you can. Depends who you're loving. If your focus is Jesus and you know that love of Jesus who gave his all, his very life for you, you will find it easier to love others and yourself. Why? Jesus death demonstrates the enormous value God has placed on human life. His forgiveness of sin demonstrates his willingness to forgive you and me and therefore we can and should be in good relations with others. In the book of proverbs (somewhere) it says, "he who wants friends must first show himself friendly"
@@thatbaileygirl No, I meant “man” lol. I wasn’t saying “you’re speaking for a lot of us men”, I was saying “hey MAN, you’re speaking for a lot of us”. I see why you’re confused lol.
You are so real for making this. You seem like a genuine person & good for you for staying true to who you are & knowing when a person isn’t for you. I’m 25 almost 26 and I’m in the same situation. It hurts sometimes but if they were the right people then they would stay. Hope you’re well 🌸
I respect this guy for even coming out like this on CZcams and giving his time and stories on his experience. Men today shut down and decide not to say anything about they feelings. It’s inspiring to see some people have so much courage.
Thank you for sharing this. I am a 30 year old woman, my friendships have dwindled down and I no longer care. I have been protecting my energy because a lot of people are not rooting for you. I want to be focused on the goals I've set for myself and that requires working in silence. You will find people who match your energy and are on the journey you're on. It requires being patient, selective, and the relationship needs to be consistent. I am no longer running after people for attention, acceptance, or to be loved. I've done that majority of my adolescent years. I've always cared about what people thought of me. Use this time to find a small community of people to have some social life. It can be as simple as joining an adult sports league, outdoor activity, artistic circle, then come home and focus on yourself.
This is a very negative and false message. A lot of people can root and care for you, and you just have to find them. I wouldn’t encourage people to isolate themselves or not pursue friendships as a result of past friendship trauma…
I am not going to lie. I saw this video title, and I got so excited because not enough people talk about this!!! Too many people in this world genuinely don’t have friends don’t know where to find them. Don’t know what it means to be a friend and their whole sense of community is lost I admire you for speaking out.
socializing sucks for 10000 reasons. I once heard that you need to talk to maybe 100-500 people before you finally meet at least one person who you actually get along with and I totally agree.
friends set you up for massive disappointments. i have known people for 25-30 year who randomly just decide to throw the friendship away after all that time over some TOTAL BULLSHIT like me not responding to their whatsapp messages inside of an hour. people are losing their minds out here...
I am 43 with no friends. It sounds like you have focused on achieving and have lost friends along the way. Just know once you get into the fields you studied in you will make new friends and try reaching out to old friends if you feel the need to. Life is ever changing and has a way of making your friends grow with you,
I relate to this a lot. These days, I just personally go with the flow, whether that means staying lonely or continuously making new friends, time will tell. Also, I think people just get mentally exhausted of always checking up on each other, which is why you start to feel the both of you slowly depart. Thanks for speaking about this, and sharing your experiences with us! Best of luck to you Zo!
As a 29 year old, same. My “friends” started falling away from me around 23-25, and since then I haven’t made any new ones, and barely revisit the ones I had in the past. I think it’s normal for me, but hearing other people dealing with this too makes me feel less alone in dealing with it. Thank you for sharing.
I can relate 100% with this man. I had to cut friendships because it was necessary, and other friendships just died out. I really only have two friends. One who I've known for 14 years and the other who I met in college 3 years ago, but lives far.
thank you for sharing and for being so vulnerable❤ I'm almost 22 and I feel you. I have just a few friends, could count in one hand, and sometimes I really miss having a group of friends like I had in highschool.
I’m 28 and I feel like I have people I associate with but not like people I can call on just to talk. So I definitely understand. I’m also an introvert but can be extroverted around the right people.
I'm 30 and I don't have any friends. Highschool was horrible for me and it really affected my ability to be social, even a decade later. And now trying to find a partner is hard because many people don't understand and think you must be a weirdo because you have no friends. Reading the comments made me feel like I'm not alone. Thank you for this video!
@@eleonanyc784 wow I'm so sorry you went through that traumatic highschool experience. You know, it really does make perfect sense that our childhood experiences affect us so much into adulthood because our brains are still forming and our bodies are still growing so trauma is literally engrained into our heads and has a continuous effect on us. It's horrific how cruel people can be, especially teens. I hope we can all find the happiness we deserve, at the very least some comfort so we can get through life a little easier. I wish you the best my friend, keep utilizing therapy if that's what works for you❤️
I had a lot of friends in high school but had some rumors go around about me that ruined everything. Ever since then I feel like I cant be myself socially and now I can’t make friends while im slowly losing the ones I had which is somewhat typical. I broke up with my gf of three years so now im really feeling it and i cant seem to find new people to make my life full again
I'm also 25 and have no friends so I can relate. I have not had a single friend since I was in High School, and since it's been so long since I have had a friend, I have completely lost the ability to socialize properly which has been preventing me from making new friends. It sucks sometimes because you feel like you don't even exist.
You dont make friends, you connect with people. Dont put so much pressure on yourself to be noticed by other people. An attitude like that stinks. Get passionate about something
@@wayy2much311spot on bro. Tbh at one point I made multiple female friends when my guys went off to college and some of us stayed in NYC for school. I will say having a strong male group is very Important but also don’t put too much into it bro…sometimes extra people are a beadache
Nobody at your work you like?? Shit they don’t even have to be physical. I have tons of friends on PlayStation that I don’t even know in real life, but we know each other as if we did!!
When you start paying attention to people's eyes.. its crazy the vast amount of us actually have 'depression' in our eyes.. from youngens to even olders...
@@YoungTCash been there.. well i stopped looking into the mirror, broke it with a punch lol.. get some sunlight vitamins and magnesium supplements do help too, a lot .. do someyhibg fun with other people.. and maybe the gym could help too.. i did that for a while, got tired of it but it helps too.. just go out there and be you. The reflection in the mirrior don't define you brother.
Hi I'm 50 and i don't have friends. I have a couple acquaintances and people i chat with at work but not people i share my deep thoughts with. I was never the type of person to have a lot of friends but life and negative experiences made me a much more reserved and private person. It's hard to find people that are really interested in who you are as a person and what that means. Most people nowadays are fake and do things to get something and im not down with that. I've grown very comfortable with the fact that i spend so much time alone and honestly have come to prefer it that way. People are complicated and i prefer simple and drama free. Thanks for posting this video.
Bro. I can relate to you. From the first to end. I havent met anyone who shares this topic. And it feels good to know that there's someone who I can relate with. Thank you for sharing it. I am just living thinking it will get better.
That is damn sure the truth . It seems especially so if you’ve moved for work like myself and know zero people in the area you’re in . I just have taken it like you said the older you get the more normal that tends to be .
As life goes on you learn that jobs will come and go ,people or “friends” will come and go, seasons ,situations will come and go .You have to learn to be content with yourself ,and don’t rush anything in life or compare yourself to other people’s path.Everybody is living a different life .
Fr thats true shit you got maybe 1 or 2homies for life that youre close with and others that you dont see long but youre still good amd got youre back 💯
this is a big problem and so many people in our generation are going through it right now. It's admirable that you made this video, not enough people are open about these struggles. The only way we can solve this is together as a community
I feel you man. That’s one of my biggest setbacks aswell. Ever since I graduated high school it’s been harder than ever to make new friends and it sucks because I’m also shy at first so that makes it even harder. I just try and be myself and maybe I’ll bump into some people eventually. Good luck man ‼️
the balls this guys have are gigantic. Respect for witnessing a current social "problem". Friends aren't nescessery, family and self-confidence is the KEY. 💪❤🔥
Confidence is key, but we are social creatures and friends are needed. I hope you gather yourself a trustful pack as you navigate through life. Someone you can mentor and be mentored by.
ima actually disagree, i think freinds are neccicary, but thir not #1 yanno what i mean? their very important. meaningful connections and to experiance life celibrate happines and struggle thru pain with another human being will just idk it makes life awsome. that said, its not the number one. wich by the way, thank god its not the nuimber one, our society is making it hard to grow freindships, just look at the data, more peopole YOUNG peopol especially feel lonly than EVER BEFORE IN HISTORY. so yeah, we gotta get creative and escape the downward spiral
Friends are definitely necessary. I mean why else would people make video's expressing these feelings? It's not as if this video is a testimonial for succes. Friendships can lead to a more healthy/wealthy life because friendships can often lead to opportunities for jobs, relationships, entertainment, and overall better self-esteem as a consequence of mentioned opportunities. It is a lesson I had to learn myself and I'm glad I pushed myself to reach out to better(!) friends. Cut ties with your bullshit friends, those who f*ck with you, take too many dr*gs, those that space out into fantasies to much, and those that stab you in the back. People attach too much meaning to the word "friend". A friend does not have to be "your life-time" buddy and knows áll your insights... I met someone on a vacation who I will probably never see again, but we clicked so well, I will not hesitate to confidently call that person my friend. If you f*ck up with me, your not my friend anymore... So what I learned is that the word friendship is way more fluid, fragile and short-termed than I thought before. Don't raise the bar so high, or else friendships will always be this unreachable deep battle. BTW, the dude in the video seems super chill! I think I could definitely vibe with him.
I haven't watched the video, but I want to say having friends is a very good thing. Have 1-3 very close friends that will do anything for you and you will do the same for them.
Just thought I’d come say something because your story really struck a cord with me. I hope you find your path and some solid friends along the way because you seem to be a solid dude yourself. Good luck on your journey and thanks for sharing.
Man I can here this dude at the verge of tears after like every sentence, this making me really sad. I hope this guy can find some people or just a person who he can really just be around and be comfortable.
He just need to accept what is, don't be upset or sad about it, learn to be at peace with it, you are enough. We can want a friend si bad not knowing that person can be our worst nightmare
@@Clearbluesky771I think it’s common for us humans to wanting to make connections and to feel a belonging. By nature humans are social creatures. I certainly think yes it’s okay to be alone and necessary for growing up to learn about yourself but being alone for too long can affect somebody’s well-being
Well some people need a stable connection/friendship(s) more than others. Some people's mental health and just general well being can depend on whether they have that feeling of community and like they belong, it's natural. @@Clearbluesky771
i’m 20, almost 21. i graduated HS in 2020 when we didn’t get a graduation, prom, or grandnite. The majority friends i had are doing their thing. I basically have no fiends, nobody texts me first, and spend many weekends alone. I find it tuff to deal with because i’m socially awkward and i always wished i could easily connect with people, but i struggle greatly. So making friends, too, is always tuff. I am starting to grow a drinking problem cuz every weekend i cope with my loneliness by drinking and watching movies. Hopefully we all gain the strength to accept loneliness and make it beneficial. I haven’t found my strength but i’m hopeful. Prayers up brother🙏🏼
It’ll be better days bro trust don’t destroy yourself off of substances for a quick and temporary way to try and ease the struggle keep pushing all love🖤
Same, I relate a lot to this and I also just turned 21 (tho my drug of choice is weed). Just hang it there, it will get better, more people are lonely than we think. For what it’s worth, you’re not alone in your loneliness.
Bro I am 23 and I feel that way too. Especially after high school I felt like a lot of friendships fell off and I had nobody. I deleted all my social media 2-3 years ago aside from linkedin and youtube to cleanse my mentality and focus on the important things in life. That really showed me who cared or didn't because plenty of people had my number or used to claim we were really good friends but nobody really hmu unless I texted first which is a crappy feeling.
This is true!! Every single one guy or girl only responds to my texts but never start the text first it’s sad to see which is why I stopped texting and I’m 23 just like you. I have a career etc
ya a girl I wentt to school with when I was pregnant w my first baby and came and saw my baby works in the building next to me and we park next to eaxchother and she and I both know.. I messages her twice..she only responded once.. literally was in my car after work the other day saw her walk out we locked eyes.. she acted like she dint know me.. I waved anyway.. still acted like she didnt see me...
You're not alone!!! I definitely can relate. To be perfectly honest I just gaven up on it all now, try my best not to think about it anymore. Don't get me wrong, I get on with lots of people that I come across on a daily basis. I tried to keep myself busy by running my charity on Thursday which filled any void and which given me some comfort. I think Lord made it like this for me. So, that I could focus more on him. To show me where my focus should be. So if I get friendships I'll probably know how to appreciate it.
I'm 30 and I have no friends. As I've grown and matured my standards for who I want in my life have tightened to the point where nobody's left. I don't tolerate phony people any longer. I would encourage anybody to break off their half ass friends. If any of your "friends" talk to you, and treat you in a way you wouldn't treat them. They're not your friend. Some of us are too compassionate and need to realize that compassion is wasted on some people. Took me a long time to realize that. Because there isn't a strong character and integrity behind it, all the fake love they claim to have for you doesn't mean shit.
I can really relate. I will be 25 in december and as most people in the comments here i also dont have friends nor a gf and it doesnt bother me. I ended my friendship with last group of people i knew 2 weeks ago it was a guy i met in school when i moved to a new country 6 or 7 years ago and when i moved back to this country in January he introduced me to his gf and one more girl from their school and 2 weeks ago we all were about to move to a new apartment they found. Me and that dude were talking about start making music together because sometimes i make EDM music as a hobby and im still learning always searching for videos about music but idk what snapped in me and one day i texted that i will not be moving in with them and i kinda dont want to be associated with them anymore and mainly its because they dont do anything they just pretty much go to university and smoke weed all day and he never tried to even make music all he does is just saying if we need to make music get rich but never does anything. So i can really relate when i started to mature and have standarts the circle became very very small.
Friends and family I can loose them all and not feel anything except for my mom Now a dog you can never replace a dog Dos is better than any family or friend
Good Stuff Lil Broski !!! I love your energy and humble nature! You gon do this world good and I appreciate you. I was you about 15 yrs ago! Love you God!!❤
Hi Zo, I'm 51 and losing friends is a normal occurrence. I've been betrayed early in my life by friends, so I started keeping folks at a distance. I have levels to people. There are acquaintances but few friends. Having friendships takes work. Sometimes one person gives more to the friendship than the other, but true friendships never die no matter how long your don't talk or distance. Having one quality friend is better than having 20 useless, selfish, narcissistic acquaintances. Be a good person always. You'll attract what you are inside eventually, but you'll definitely kiss a bunch of frogs along the way. Bless you for sharing your story. I don't believe we put here to be alone. Finding good people to do life with is hard, but don't give up.
My advice is, work hard, and do great things, and become friends with others who are also grinding, it happens when you are grinding, for example, When I started leveling up in my gym and training, i started gaining more friends, (not alot ) but a good few quality, 1 by one over time, because I guess when you are healthy you attract other hustlers to be friends. the same thing with other areas in life. Family relationships signinficantly improve when you take care of your addictions and just live the life you are suppose to live, even if it's hard.
I relate to this so much. I’m 28 turning 29 in January and I have no friends. Once I stopped partying and going out as much everything died down. Focusing on yourself and self care is truly a lonely journey. Thank you for expressing your feelings ❤
Bs, youre normalising the human engineering that the powerful are trying to create, you know theres something wrong, when you feel lonely its an indicator and reflection of how society is being shaped
Same!! 28 to 29 I met a couple people that changed my life and made me realize that I didn’t have friends, I just had opportunist and bad influences in my life. Now I have been alone for 2 years and it has been so amazing and yet so lonely. I really wish I had done this when I was younger, but better late than never I guess. I will never forget those people that genually cared for me and not what I had to offer them.
Thanks so much for posting this! I’ve never been a person so have many friends. I just finished high school and my only friend moved away our senior year and still we have stay in contact but it’s only been like a year since I graduated. Anyways this video made me feel less alone by reading the comments and by what u had to say in this video. Stay blessed.
Damn bro, I also struggle to make new friends this video felt rly good to hear someone else feel the same way. Hope you’ve found some friends bro u seem like a rly chill person
I'm 30 and I feel the same. My guesses are: 1 - We've matured and learned that not everyone was a "friend", we just happen to be around each other for long periods of time. 2 - Work really consumes people. Social life takes a toll when after graduation, going out stops being fun when you are constantly tired. 3 - Social media has people only texting. We barely have real face to face humans interactions like our parents did. Lastly, society has changed so much. When I was a kid my little town used to be fun, regular parties and events happening throughout the year, there was always something to look forward to where you'd meet people and socialize. The last time there was something like that I was like 15, now not a single celebration type of thing ever happens. The fun town I remember is no more.
My life peaked like 2 years ago - I had many good friends, spoke and played games with them every day. I had a girlfriend. I had a good job with a cool boss. Worked out, got slim. Got a nice haircut, clothes, fragrance etc. It was the best time of my life, I finally felt like I belonged somewhere. Then it all started to go to shit, my job changed, friends started disappearing one by one because of things in their lives, and even though I was always there for them, it turned out they were never there for me. I eventually broke up with my gf. Got fat again. Stopped caring about my looks. Have a job that I hate. And my life is just miserable. I can't even speak with anyone. I have literally no one. I never had many friends, but I never had ZERO friends. But at least I have a youtube comment section, where no one will ever read my comment, but at least I can rant and let off some steam. Life just sucks. What's the point of it if you don't even have anyone to care about.
Just know that a stranger on the opposite side of the world is feeling like you do. No friends, no job, no partner, no life direction. At least it hurts a little less when the pain is shared. We’ll go through this hopefully.
Bro I ain’t had friends in so many years. But I love you for exactly what you are and you are enough, and I believe in you. Sometimes we just got to walk our own way, I relate to everything you’re saying but stuck to the light
I’m sorry you feel the way you do brotha. Be happy you felt confident to be able to express your thoughts. I’m a 27yo black man from the city and when I came to the same moment you have now, I looked to icons of the past for the answers to how I felt. I highly encourage to rediscover your roots my man. Whatever is you feel you can change, just know you always have the power to change your circumstances. Research our iconic ancestors like MLK, Malcolm X, Huey Newton etc. Read their stories and you might relate to them and don’t be afraid to wonder. Free thinking brotha and peace be upon you.
Yes exactly I am grateful that I have good parents to talk to and hang out with but not everyone has that but family does not have to be blood related family are people who would be there for you when nobody is there.
Come unto me, all ye that Labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30
@@ayoolukoga9829Please delete this, you are offending my beliefs with this comment, not everyone has the same beliefs as you, it's not fair to those with different beliefs to have this shoved in their face everywhere they go, you should really try to be more considerate of others..
I’m 26 haven’t had “friends” since after high school, I was always a loner. I use to think something was wrong with me but I’ve come to accept I’m just the way I am. But I’m never alone since I have 8 younger siblings. Lucky for me because if I was the only child I’d probably have a different mentality.
Family is always more important than anything. I have one close friend that I’ve manage to have left in my 20s and we talk about how we don’t talk to anyone anymore except each other. Everyone just moved on in their life or we just knew moving forward that there is certain people we couldn’t take on in life, when we’re both busy we have our families to and we both talk about the importance of having that bond with a family that will always be there for you.
I’m 24 turning 25 in 2 weeks same for me. I jux stay to myself . I always been like that ever since a kid and in school . I’m not the person to go out in party or anything I jux work and make money . And on free time play videos and I’m cool with that to be honest .
hi hon, im learning in my psychology courses at college from a wise professor that changed my life that besides the “viscious cycle”, we often forget that there is such thing as the “virtuous cycle.” it’s about doing good for others that in turn make yourself feel good. it’s actually amazing how easy and simple it is- participating in volunteer work like food drives, helping homeless, animals if you like, anything charity related. i think you should try it. it’s an opportunity for you to meet people, and then write about how you feel after when you come home!thanksdoc
Big shout out to you to speak bout ur feeling this aint easy and u r doing it great! Keep going fam u r killing it and im sure that someone will either like u as a friend or a woman will love u frl. Keep your head up ❤🫡
I feel the same at 30 sometimes. My brother is 21 and dealing with the same. You are not alone. Thanks for sharing, you have a lot of courage and transparency
Girl same and it feels nice to know as a black woman that other black people are going through the same thing as me. Being alone isn't the issue. It's loneliness that's the issue. Anyone can feel at peace being alone. 24 here and seeing other melaninated folks talk about these things means a lot to me.
I'm 33. I have "friends", but I don't fit-in with them anymore. The things we used to bond over do not excite me anymore. I'm more focused on my walk with God while my friends love worldly things. I'm learning to accept it. I do have family. I have a husband. I have children. I have loving parents. I have a brother. I also have coworkers that I hang with from time to time. I become depressed sometimes because I'm not as close as I used to be with my childhood friends, but I just have to let go and let God. 🙏🏽
I wonder if we have the wrong expectations for what it means to have friends in adulthood. I am in a similar situation as you, except I do not work right now and so I don't have coworkers to hang out with. I am 36 and I am learning that I still have enjoyment of life with my hubby and family even though I no longer have the close bond that you find with childhood friends. Maybe this is just the nature of growing up and maybe if I change my expectations, I can get even more enjoyment out of a life of loneliness @@thebibleisrightperiod
I’m 26, being totally alone is starting to feel like the new normal. I have been disrespected by family, friends, girlfriends multiple times and I’m realizing that my life is less stressful alone. Would I like to have a family, friends, and a girlfriend I could thoroughly enjoy being around? Of course.. but I haven’t had that once in my life and I don’t know if I will ever have all 3, or even 2 of those things.
You aren't alone because God is Alive and Truly with you. Jesus Christ says in Matthew 11:28-30: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” 🙏✝❤❤❤🙌🕊
Yes me too it’s just the disrespect I can’t take ! I’m way happier alone . Of course no one wants it this way but people come with so much now in days it’s like you have to pick your poison
As a 30 year old I look back and see all my friends from high school as only friends because we were around each other every day. I learned the hard way that people grow apart. Adult friendships require a lot of work to maintain but are much more satisfying
Honestly this is what comes with getting older; friendships become something you've gotta put a lot more effort in than when you were in school and was pretty much "forced" into a closed environment with the same people everyday. With life's responsibilities and just general adulting, it becomes harder to maintain them.
On my soul bro. If you not in high school or college its very hard to maintain friendships especially since most friends either get locked up or are raising a family.
I appreciate your honesty and bravery as a young Black Man in presenting us with your life. I know it had to be difficult considering the western world has continuousy discounted our experiences and feeling. Having "friends" unfortunately can be a blessing and a curse depending on your perspective. In time you may find individuals who will willing share parts of your journey with you and have good intentions.
Hey man, I want to let you know that things are going to workout. Keep working on yourself, live a good life, be a good man. I'm 26 and will be 27 end of this year. When I turned 25, I felt the same as you do. I didn't celebrate my birthday, didn't have a girlfriend and didn't have any super close friends. Just 18 months later, and I couldn't be happier. Established some real relationships with people and also found the love of my life. Hit me up when you wanna talk man. Trust me, just 18 months ago I could have done this kind of video as well.
@@kulolal Hey man, i'll be glad to share my story with you. I was always self-conscious about my body, being fat/overweight basically 90% of the time. About 4 years ago I was at my worst, I felt the ugliest, was the most overweight, quit University after 2 years because it was too hard and had to change to another University. Not much changed immediately after that, but in 2021 during Covid, I really went down a rabbit hole of self-improvement. At that point, I did not really have any close friends, I barely went out or even got invited. The past 2 years I have been fully focusing on grinding, improving myself and my mindset and becoming who I truly am. This meant a lot of isolation, which sometimes made me feel depressed - but I know I was doing something good for myself and that at the worst case at the end of this self-improvement journey - I'll have a better mindset, better physique and more confidence and love for myself. Becoming my authentic self meant that I began approaching people with a newfound sense of character, a quality I had lacked in the past - I actually felt like I had no character at all. Nowadays if we talked, you would probably not forget me very easily and see me as "that" guy. Approaching people with my now more refined and defined character meant that I now would only make friends who I liked and who also liked me for my now more outspoken and direct personality. I don't have tons of friends - I don't care about that - but I have 2-3 very close friends who I spend a lot of time with working, going to the gym etc. The essence of this may sound clichéd and unremarkable, but its truth remains undeniable - work on your fucking self. Find out who you are, what you are. Improve your mentality. Take care of yourself physically and mentally. Look clean. Behave like a good man. Dress well. Speak slower and more confident. Look people in the eyes. Walk around with your chest up and shoulders back. Be thankful to God. TRUST ME - it adds up. I had no relationship before recently at the age of 26 - and now I have found the love of my life. Life is undeniably good-perhaps almost too good right now for me. However, I remain mentally prepared to embrace the lessons that Life and God may still have in store for me. Whatever you do - live a good life. Become a good man. Respect everyone - but most importantly - RESPECT YOURSELF. I kept this story short, a lot of details are obviously missing, but I hope you get the idea.
Going off OP, every time I isolate myself it takes a lot of time and effort to start reaching out to people again. Small baby steps, like remembering how to even just have conversations by tiny small talk with one person at the store counter or a dog walker etc. Stuff like looking up one or two of your hobbies or potential interests (anything!) and try to start slowly going to groups and testing it out. It’s awkward and draining at first but bit by bit you get into the swing of things. Initiating things with people who you’ve fallen out of touch with! Ultimately, isolation is torture for humans (that’s why solitary confinement in jail is such a punishment). Isolation severs our connections and makes us bitter, and while that hurt can be in response to genuinely hurtful things a lot of that times, isolation BLINDS us over time, and makes us more and more bitter as time goes on. Slow progress to undo the patterns of behaviour that enable further loneliness helps to undo
so relatable, i've been on my own since my college days, and now at 24 i've noticed that as i've grown older, my circle of friends has significantly changed. i had friends from high school, but honestly, i never found much comfort being around them. letting go of these friendships was a decision i made, but it's difficult because of how crucial and unhealthy loneliness can be
But man there is so much other things to life. For me personally I’m 21 right now and I slowly drifted away from all my friends from highschool. But it didn’t brother me or make me feel any typa way. My biggest concern now is what do I want to do with my life what am I going to do for a career. Cause at the end of the day nobody is going to be there for you when ur trying to earn money or make a living, or when your trying to find ur career path. Once you got all that figured out, if u still have no friends then start focusing on that. But for me personally friends are the last thing that is on my mind. I’m a lone wolf type. I’m not seeking friendships.
This comment is SO FUCKING RELATABLE. I'm in college currently but I've actively decided on breaking away with the bonds I didn't feel comfortable with. At this point of my life I currently have a friend who I consider to be my best. Nth else really. Everyone else is just surface level
Hi, when growing in your new chapter in life it’s time to tune out the distractions and focus on you and what you want! When u grow apart from friendships it just means your growing apart from those old foolish ways. God bless you
Tbh i think as long as you have hobbies especially if they get you outside and you have self confidence being a loner feels like the most freeing thing ever. You can go into almost any social setting and just feel comfortable being yourself and people actually gravitate towards that confidence and sense of calmness.
The fact that I’m 25 now and have been through the same exact things you’re describing. I really thought I was the only one who was like this at this age. Thanks for having the bravery for coming out to talk about this stuff, and the comment section here is oddly motivating for me to go out there more. We all might have more in common than we think
29 here and I have no friends. I am very much a “loner” personality. I like doing things on my own, how I want, when I want. I got family so that helps a lot. I also work 60 hours a week and get all the socializing that I require at work. When I’m not working I like being alone. I am friendly and make small talk at the stores or say hi to people I pass but otherwise I am very introverted and like it. I think society/social media makes it seem like if you don’t have friends you are the odd one. But you’re not. I do hate tho when people ask me who I hang out with or what things I do with others on the weekend. I don’t. And they don’t understand.
I honestly feel the same. Had really close friendships with people from middle to high school. Like we would always hangout during the weekend or have parties with each other, always helping each other out. Then when they graduate it all changed. I would be lucky if one of my old friends even read a text message i sent. I honestly wish people who are in this same boat could meet up and become friends. Anyways thanks for posting. Videos like this make me feel less alone in this world. Theres only so much hobbies and grinding at work can do to fill the void of loneliness
I don't have any friends really either. You're not alone buddy ❤ I think it's better to know yourself and to be comfortable with you, most importantly and then from that you will attract the right circles. I hope life treats you kindly and you find all that you are looking for 🤗
Someone once said "Friends are in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime". Once you understand that friendships aren't the rosy concept purported by movies, letting people go and move on in their lives won't be as hard. I sympathise with your words, mostly because I was deeply betrayed in my youth, but I am working on trusting people again as I regard very few people outside of my family as true "friends".
Jesus Christ says in Matthew 11:28-30: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” 🙏✝❤❤❤🙌🕊
@@starstumpPlease delete this, you are offending my beliefs with this comment, not everyone has the same beliefs as you, it's not fair to those with different beliefs to have this shoved in their face everywhere they go, you should really try to be more considerate of others..
@@chaos-tech67.1im gonna be real with you there’s no need for this. You are being mean to someone just because of their faith knowing good and well this person is not the reason your acting like this. Don’t blame the actions of others on another just because they belong to the same group. I’m not Christian and i dont mind because its the internet. You reported him for trying to spread love to another person in the best way he can because thats how he grew up. And not only that but Christianity it the majority religion in the United States. You sound very hurt, hurt enough to report someone for a quote that is supposed to support others. If you dont like how Christian’s treat others then dont do the same. Idk what faith you are or what core values you have but i hope you really dont agree with religious censorship
Don’t worry, your very handsome man. I’m so sorry that you are going through this difficulty. Trust me man, you aren’t the only young man going through this. A lot of us Adults are going through this friendship recession in the West. Western countries are feeling and succumbing to loneliness, we are just going through a friendless epidemic and it is feeling so worse everyday. A lot of Americans in this country of 365.7 million are feeling so lonely, we in the United States are going through a loneliness epidemic crisis. A lot of American adults nationwide in the U.S are feeling very isolated and very anxious. My heart goes out to man, I’m really sorry that you are going through this. I just want to let you, that you are not alone in this loneliness epidemic. ❤️❤️
Stay strong bro we have a similar story. What helps me though I was finding a couple hobbies and then just finding people who like the same thing naturally
I’m 17, and I too am dealing with the same thing too. I know people say my moment will come or I just have to wait. But it doesn’t feel like that. I seriously thank you for being a person that is so vulnerable on such a toxic platform. ❤❤
@@novus1589 I’m sad but glad In a sense that we can have a better understanding and mindset on this type of situation. All my love goes out to all of us having to deal with this ❤️
You’re still young bro you’re in school, just do your best to socialize, never be awkward, ask questions and start conversation off of it, be friendly but not too nice, make sure you reciprocate energy in the right way
This touched me. I thought i had friends and when i found out that most of my relationships where one-sided. I pretty much spiralled into depression and was one step away into commiting suicide. But then my father died the next day. I ended up accepting this reality and started to make the best of my life. Im hopeful that ill find people like you. Keep faith in your heart.
I used to care too much about having friends especially a best friend, but as I got older I got more comfortable with being alone. And I actually don’t mind it because it’s better that way. I’ve had bad experiences with people, some with hidden agendas, some moved away and my best friend in high school passed away from lupus. Ever since then I just stopped caring, I only have 1 good friend and my sister. That’s all I need
I'm 37 and was blessed to have a few friends that I lost along the way. Always remember some people come a season some last a lifetime just remember the good times you shared. 💯
A black man expressing his feelings. Wow. Salute my brother. Transparency and honesty is a undervalued trait. You’re going places. Just keep ya head up gang ❤❤
Why y’all always have to mention the skin color? Man y’all obsessed with that its unbelievable
@@gastarbeiter8384let me just simplify it for you….black men, when they’re young, are told to not show their emotions, man up if they’re crying. Crying is for girls. So, when a BLACK MAN shows his emotions as an adult, it’s a good thing! He is not ashamed to be vulnerable
@@D_A_Marv yea and that’s only a exclusive black man behavior right? 😂 wtf literally every man on this planet is growing up with the same stuff no matter what skin color you got. No matter where u go, europe, russia, china, australia every man is told to man up and dont cry. But you don’t get it because your stuck into your little racedefined world
@@gastarbeiter8384 They have a valid reason, but you didn't think before you posted. In many black communities a male being this emotionally honest is seen as a weakness more so then many other demographics.
@@D_A_Marvthat’s very true. It’s all about culture. We all grow up in different cultures and it is a big factor in how you turn out as an adult. Although I do always believe in self-accountability.
Im 28 and no friends. Im fine with it, people nowadays dont know what true friendship means or is unfortunately.
fuckit
no nigga they just dont like u
Including you.
@@Comporio Straight facts. I cut off everyone besides 1 friend, I can definitely say I've never been happier. Although I do wish I had some friends to play games with once in a while.
This isn’t true… humans are social animals, relationships are core to what we are.
Believing this statement is not useful to you. Sticking with solitude is your own way of protecting yourself.
Reach out to your childhood friends and cousins, share stories, be honest, and keep open minded to new people.
Hope this helps
25 with no friends or family. I’ve woken up to zero text messages for two years now… it’s lonely but it’s peaceful
sending hugs 🫂
Idk you but I’m gonna think about you every once in a while and send u positivity
@@belladcunha1077this made me believe sweet people are still out there 🥺imma do the same for you now
Yeah just keep telling yourself it’s “peaceful”
@@Pluralofvinylisvinylsyou can enjoy life by your self
Im 21, had maybe 4 "friends" in high school, and I use quotes because I never hung out with them outside of school. I have 4 contacts in my phone, just immediate family, I'm broken, and I've almost ended it a couple of times. I never thought it could get worse, but my god, it doesn't stop getting lower. Seeing these types of videos helps me to try and keep going.
Hey Sal, I definitely understand how that feels. I moved states in middle school so going into high school I never felt comfortable because I thought everyone already had “their” friends. I eventually found an amazing group of like 8 kids. One girl ended her life our senior year of high school, 2 girls spiraled into a dark depression and have been in and out of treatments, and 3 others moved to separate states across the country. I only talk to the last 2 friends from that group and other than family they are the only 2 people in my phone. I’m only 20 so I can’t give much life advice but I understand how you feel to be broken. I’ve failed out of school, struggling to pay bills, find a better paying job, and can’t seem to hold on to any type of healthy relationship. Everyone I know sees me as the most bubbly person on the outside because I don’t want them to know how I really feel inside. I tell myself that tomorrow could be the day I get my big break and that it will be worth going through all the tragedy. All I can really say is plan ahead for you future but take life day by day, you will never see a rainbow until it storms and the harder it storms the prettier the rainbow will be. Please keep your head up and stay strong!!
Going off what the other person said, everyone has their days that can stretch on for weeks, months, etc. Really, the most important thing to do is to keep pushing with hopes for something better. You can't give up this early; you've just started. I'm only 19 myself and about to turn 20 in half a year. I've been a marine for longer than I've been a high schooler, so I've had shittier days/weeks/months than the majority of people will ever have. I try not to make friends, but somehow always attract them in the weirdest ways. 😅
And if you need someone to listen just say the word broski.
always be patient. healing takes years, decades, lifetimes. just give it a chance
How are you doing? God saves
I’m In the same position as you even with 1 million subs. No girls, no attention, no parents or family. Just grinding from the bottom and it hurts me inside everyday
I hope you either already know God or get to Know God
Omg
you just need to find something that drives you some sort of passion that keeps you going or at least thats what i do. stay positive brother that's all you have at the end of the day, your mind
@@Ashleyunfiltered fuck god, he doesn't need any more imaginary friends, he needs real friends. real people, who don't know who he is and want to learn who he is.
You're still breathing though 🤷💯
The fact that this video blew up so fast just proves how so many people can relate to you and that you're not alone. Love from an Indian brother!
💯
For real
cap
Honestly I feel him dude I'm 21 and feel 1000 percent the same way
what does you being Indian have to do with the message?
Im a 30 yo woman and I have no friends nor boyfriend. I had friends before, I thought we were very close but it turned out it was just me who thought so. I’ve dated before and got crushed too much too many times. Now I isolate myself from interacting with any human as much as possible. I know there are good people out there but im just not lucky to be friends with any of them
Wanna be friends? I'm from a whole another continent but still, I'd like to be someone's friend and why not you.
@@usus1811I’d be interested in being friends as well. I’ve never made friends on the internet but I’d like to start
I will be your friend,I live in N S W. 😃
I have no friends, no GF, no social media, no car, no residence, no doctor, no bank account, etc.
I'm basically a ghost.
You should have just said you’re free. Respect.
You are saved my brother, consider to go all into Orthodoxy and serve our Lord Jesus Christ in this life.
I basically one bad day away from that too
Having a relationship with yourself is one of most important things
Yes definitely but then we need people, we are humans. When people are isolated it had detrimental effects long term . I blame the society we are continuing to build, less community more isolation and individualism
I personally think this is all by design. The last thing they want or need is a people united standing in their way.
❤💯
@@vanessay4agree
Peace in Christ surpasses all understanding 🤟
When I was 23 (I’m 33 now) I reconnected with an old friend by reaching out to congratulate her on graduating. We are now best friends and talk every day. Don’t be afraid to reach out to old friends especially if you have something in common with them.
Yo wtf is the first comment. Also good for you girl.
This is what i tell my 25 year old daughter to do.
who said we all have old friends to reach out too?
But u just disappointed when u tryna contact them , they don't give af
But be wary of contacting old friends, especially if you fell out with them for a reason. Nobody loves to see your downfall more than an ex friend who thinks they know everything about you, because you used to know each other
As a 51 yr. old dad with 2 teen kids I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts and feelings. My kids struggle with loneliness. However, looking at you and your strength I am sure they will find their way. As will you. All the best to you!
Friendships take effort to maintain over time. You have to make a point to deliberately nurture & support your relationships. Just hanging out for fun isn't enough -- you have to help each other out in hard times too, & be willing to learn & evolve from conflicts.
Nah can’t help people who don’t wanna help themselves
maybe this is why i don’t have friends… having a friend isn’t hard but maintaining it is. I don’t like texting everyday , i just feel exhausted and drained how do have so many friends
The fact that this is a normal everyday guy venting and there is close to a million views.. speaks in volume about the loneliness epidemic.
Big facts.
It does NOT speak volumes about the loneliness epidemic. This fact only means a lot of people find it interesting enough to want to listen to it, no matter who is the guy speaking.
I'm just pointing out that your statement is realistically invalid. Yes, this is an everyday guy (looks to be in a good state) venting and has a ton of views, rare but it does happen to people here and there. Yes, you can definitely argue there is a loneliness epidemic. But no, they are not related whatsoever. Maybe whatsoever is harsh, but there is no direct connection, they just both happen to be independently "true". Sorry.
Keep your head up bro. As a 40 year old man with 10 years of his life incarcerated until 2022 I too have no friends. Everyone I knew were dealers, thieves, and armed robbers. I cut them all out of my life to better myself. You’re going to be fine. Chin up, If they aren’t about who you are as a person. F em.
Thanks bae 😥💅
Bro I feel your pain.40 here too and no real friends . I’ve learnt to live with it and rely on myself only .
Im on the younger side , 19 and what you said is some real. I had a small circle of friends that I knew since elementary. We grew up in poverty and yet even though they make bad decisions i sticked with them. Now at 19 that same group are addicted to fentanyl and are locked up. Glad I left them when we were 16 I probably would of been homeless if I didn’t man up.
This is real shit .. u just have to push a new road for yourself and then new circles will levitate around u
Hey brother. I was falsely accused of assault and there is a chance I might have to spend 11 years in prison. I might have to cut off everyone I know including my family if I receive jail time. Any advice on what jail is like?
23 and never related more to a video or someone in my life. i just watched your other vids and had to come back to this one and really just say how much i appreciate your mindset. it’s truly amazing to be able to connect to someone like that fr
I'm 32 with no friends, a single mom no social media it gets lonely but honesty it's been the most peaceful ❤
❤ don’t isolate yourself too much. U can have social media w/out needing close friends. Just go on there to watch videos etc. 🙂
Yes, your free. You get it
Kim, I can mostly relate I am 37 with no friends 90% my choice for real. I do have IG but I only follow Carhartt and Cabela’s. With all respect, where are you from?
everyone is selling you dreams and false hopes. our geneation is cold and only seek clout or money. our attention span is worse than a fricken fish bruh. I'm sorry you're going through this. i don't know how you or I are going to get out of this situation.. we are in this together. You're not the only one. I'm also lonely and have no friends and seeing lots of fake demons around. i'm here for you
I hope you will find a true friend
Bro your face looks like a meme
Bro you need to relay this information on your channel, instead of acting like everything is ok
what about your friend LeBron James??
Subscriber bot. 2 million subs and an average 10k per video lol
I’m 27, I have nothing, no friends or family. Thanks for sharing bro, stay strong ✊🏾
I’m here for you
Same no friends or fam . Holidays have just been a regular day for years
@@mgene8093 🫂
I can be your friend if you want 😊
You are strong
I’m glad that I listened to this video, this reminds me so much of the difficulties that I faced in my mid 20’s. I grew apart and lost contact from a lot of my friends, and I also had to distance myself from toxic people.
You are growing as a person and the best people are yet to enter your life and you will find friendships with those who you least expect 😊
I am 21 and currently feel like this. I’m so relieved to see this being spoken on. Thanks for your transparency and letting it be a safe space for everyone. I hope it won’t be like this forever, I’m healing from my friendship PTSD. From having girls steal my clothes, talking to guys I was dating or just in all not being a genuine friend… it’s hard out here. I have been falling more in love with my alone time though and being more appreciative of it. My advice would be to continue to do things that make you happy try new hobbies, movie nights, find scenic parks, travel & explore your city, self care etc..
I feel like our generation is dealing with this the hardest. I'm seeing so many people my age struggling with a lack of relationships. I'm turning 22 in a couple weeks and I relate a lot to everything you're saying
Older generation of men have the same issue.
man im 22 now and feel you
@@Koreryn No doubt but we struggle more cause of the internet and how it makes us so much more detached from reality
@@JudaCash You think we don't use the internet and aren't detached from reality? I use it 18+ hours a day as well.
@@KorerynI hear you but we're talking about how this stuff effects our growing stages. We were raised on the internet and many of us are missing out on our youth because of it
I love how raw and real this video is. The fact that so many people relate is just the cherry on top. I definitely relate.
Keondra, hon.. it really sux tbh , life is unfair. i'm boutta cry
Of course all of you do it's so natural and important.
I have no friend, anyone want to make friends
Do y’all have cousins, colleagues, neighbors, anyone? Gym buddies?
@@coreejacobs4780 none of them matter enough. Be sensitive and understanding because you're highly privileged by comparison. Walk on eggshells.
i’m glad you’re speaking on this. i’m new here, but i’m 34 and have no friends, no real relationships that are mutually respectful or supportive, no connections… for a lot of reasons. most of the real homies passed away, friends who didn’t deserve the title, friendships that fade over time. it’s pretty hard to face not having anyone left in you’re corner, especially in a time in life where it’s hard to form friendships- with other impacting factors (like i’m autistic, and won’t mask to hang out with someone).
but im glad more younger people are being open about it, i can’t imagine going through my 20s without people to share experiences with, places to go form memories, realize what makes a true friend too. the world has changed and the impact on human connection is a problem if you ask me… we all need someone, we’re social creatures at our core.
I relate to this so heavily. I’m 19 nearly 20 and I feel so alone. I’m adjusting to it but my mental health has been in the gutter since I started uni in sep, it makes me question my worth. I love your vulnerability and bravery to make the video so others can hear ur story and apply their opinions too. I wish us all well💕
I’ll be 40 in February. It gets easier, y’all. The biggest lesson I can pass along is be a friend to YOURSELF. Don’t sleep on that!
I totally agree
the only person that will always be with you is yourself. So loving who you are makes living with only yourself happier.
Man whats happening to people today. Can we not develop some thick skin and learn to love others. If you want friends then show yourself friendly. If you want friends then initiate. Get your eyes off of yourself a little and learn to appreciate those around you. Theres nothing good in simply loving yourself as most people do that anyway. Loving others is hard work but rewarding because we are all creatures that need others whether we want to admit that or not.
@@RestingonHopeyou can't love others if you can't love yourself, you always come first.
@@Qrr0wned yes you can. Depends who you're loving. If your focus is Jesus and you know that love of Jesus who gave his all, his very life for you, you will find it easier to love others and yourself. Why? Jesus death demonstrates the enormous value God has placed on human life. His forgiveness of sin demonstrates his willingness to forgive you and me and therefore we can and should be in good relations with others.
In the book of proverbs (somewhere) it says, "he who wants friends must first show himself friendly"
You’re speaking for a lot of us man. There’s a reason this video blew up.
Stg
"Men"
@@thatbaileygirl No, I meant “man” lol.
I wasn’t saying “you’re speaking for a lot of us men”, I was saying “hey MAN, you’re speaking for a lot of us”.
I see why you’re confused lol.
😝yeah
You are so real for making this. You seem like a genuine person & good for you for staying true to who you are & knowing when a person isn’t for you. I’m 25 almost 26 and I’m in the same situation. It hurts sometimes but if they were the right people then they would stay. Hope you’re well 🌸
I respect this guy for even coming out like this on CZcams and giving his time and stories on his experience. Men today shut down and decide not to say anything about they feelings. It’s inspiring to see some people have so much courage.
Thank you for sharing this. I am a 30 year old woman, my friendships have dwindled down and I no longer care. I have been protecting my energy because a lot of people are not rooting for you. I want to be focused on the goals I've set for myself and that requires working in silence. You will find people who match your energy and are on the journey you're on. It requires being patient, selective, and the relationship needs to be consistent. I am no longer running after people for attention, acceptance, or to be loved. I've done that majority of my adolescent years. I've always cared about what people thought of me. Use this time to find a small community of people to have some social life. It can be as simple as joining an adult sports league, outdoor activity, artistic circle, then come home and focus on yourself.
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I agree 100%
Amen 🙏🏾🎉❤
Same
This is a very negative and false message. A lot of people can root and care for you, and you just have to find them. I wouldn’t encourage people to isolate themselves or not pursue friendships as a result of past friendship trauma…
I am not going to lie. I saw this video title, and I got so excited because not enough people talk about this!!! Too many people in this world genuinely don’t have friends don’t know where to find them. Don’t know what it means to be a friend and their whole sense of community is lost I admire you for speaking out.
Well said!
Agree… as u age it gets worse. Buckle up😞
socializing sucks for 10000 reasons. I once heard that you need to talk to maybe 100-500 people before you finally meet at least one person who you actually get along with and I totally agree.
@@nettiea9384most friendless people have a good heart
friends set you up for massive disappointments. i have known people for 25-30 year who randomly just decide to throw the friendship away after all that time over some TOTAL BULLSHIT like me not responding to their whatsapp messages inside of an hour. people are losing their minds out here...
I am 43 with no friends. It sounds like you have focused on achieving and have lost friends along the way. Just know once you get into the fields you studied in you will make new friends and try reaching out to old friends if you feel the need to. Life is ever changing and has a way of making your friends grow with you,
I relate to this a lot. These days, I just personally go with the flow, whether that means staying lonely or continuously making new friends, time will tell. Also, I think people just get mentally exhausted of always checking up on each other, which is why you start to feel the both of you slowly depart. Thanks for speaking about this, and sharing your experiences with us! Best of luck to you Zo!
All you can do is just be you. Better to not have fake people around u. Stay focused on your goals
That mindset is why he will maintain no friends
changing yourself to fit in where you don’t is one of the lamest things possible
@@lamarkP22 only if you aren’t the problem. If you are the problem then you will have to change.
@@demontiming3234the normal average person isn’t problematic. Your assertion makes no sense at all.
@@jewel_throne2950lol he’s the problem getting upset over a word then complaining he got no friends
As a 29 year old, same. My “friends” started falling away from me around 23-25, and since then I haven’t made any new ones, and barely revisit the ones I had in the past. I think it’s normal for me, but hearing other people dealing with this too makes me feel less alone in dealing with it. Thank you for sharing.
Damn you pretty
Friends overrated some of em be in competition with you for no reason it’s wasteful energy
why friends fall away from you when you were around 23 to 25?
@@andyng5321 I got married/was married at those ages
@@Owatupcuz!! Wasteful
I can relate 100% with this man. I had to cut friendships because it was necessary, and other friendships just died out. I really only have two friends. One who I've known for 14 years and the other who I met in college 3 years ago, but lives far.
thank you for sharing and for being so vulnerable❤ I'm almost 22 and I feel you. I have just a few friends, could count in one hand, and sometimes I really miss having a group of friends like I had in highschool.
I’m 28 and I feel like I have people I associate with but not like people I can call on just to talk. So I definitely understand. I’m also an introvert but can be extroverted around the right people.
With that last sentence, that sounds like a Virgo trait.
@@1Dub79 lol definitely not a Virgo, but I’ll take it as a compliment
Omg I’m the same fucking way. But I don’t have any associates. Ima Aries and it def takes the right people to get me out my shell.
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Same here. I have co-workers that I'm friendly with but I don't really hang out with anyone.
I'm 30 and I don't have any friends. Highschool was horrible for me and it really affected my ability to be social, even a decade later. And now trying to find a partner is hard because many people don't understand and think you must be a weirdo because you have no friends. Reading the comments made me feel like I'm not alone. Thank you for this video!
I’m in the same situation mate. Live another day. I see you.
@@eleonanyc784 wow I'm so sorry you went through that traumatic highschool experience. You know, it really does make perfect sense that our childhood experiences affect us so much into adulthood because our brains are still forming and our bodies are still growing so trauma is literally engrained into our heads and has a continuous effect on us. It's horrific how cruel people can be, especially teens. I hope we can all find the happiness we deserve, at the very least some comfort so we can get through life a little easier. I wish you the best my friend, keep utilizing therapy if that's what works for you❤️
I had a lot of friends in high school but had some rumors go around about me that ruined everything. Ever since then I feel like I cant be myself socially and now I can’t make friends while im slowly losing the ones I had which is somewhat typical. I broke up with my gf of three years so now im really feeling it and i cant seem to find new people to make my life full again
Same Situation, 33. Too much Work, too many Hobbies, too little Time.
That's an assumption on your part, no one actually told you, you were weird, you feel that way. Change the way you look at things
You're so brave for speaking out about this! It's quite common in reality but not talked about ❤
Hugs to all those who are alone ❤️
I'm also 25 and have no friends so I can relate. I have not had a single friend since I was in High School, and since it's been so long since I have had a friend, I have completely lost the ability to socialize properly which has been preventing me from making new friends. It sucks sometimes because you feel like you don't even exist.
This I relate whole heartedly
You dont make friends, you connect with people. Dont put so much pressure on yourself to be noticed by other people. An attitude like that stinks. Get passionate about something
@@wayy2much311great advice bro
@@wayy2much311spot on bro. Tbh at one point I made multiple female friends when my guys went off to college and some of us stayed in NYC for school. I will say having a strong male group is very Important but also don’t put too much into it bro…sometimes extra people are a beadache
Nobody at your work you like?? Shit they don’t even have to be physical. I have tons of friends on PlayStation that I don’t even know in real life, but we know each other as if we did!!
I can see depression in his eyes. I’m proud of you for sharing.
When you start paying attention to people's eyes.. its crazy the vast amount of us actually have 'depression' in our eyes.. from youngens to even olders...
@@bartpatton3409man fr bro, I can’t even look myself in the mirror because I can’t recognize myself anymore being depressed
@@YoungTCash been there.. well i stopped looking into the mirror, broke it with a punch lol.. get some sunlight vitamins and magnesium supplements do help too, a lot .. do someyhibg fun with other people.. and maybe the gym could help too.. i did that for a while, got tired of it but it helps too.. just go out there and be you. The reflection in the mirrior don't define you brother.
Want cookie?
He looks tired lol
Hi I'm 50 and i don't have friends. I have a couple acquaintances and people i chat with at work but not people i share my deep thoughts with. I was never the type of person to have a lot of friends but life and negative experiences made me a much more reserved and private person. It's hard to find people that are really interested in who you are as a person and what that means. Most people nowadays are fake and do things to get something and im not down with that. I've grown very comfortable with the fact that i spend so much time alone and honestly have come to prefer it that way. People are complicated and i prefer simple and drama free. Thanks for posting this video.
Bro. I can relate to you. From the first to end. I havent met anyone who shares this topic. And it feels good to know that there's someone who I can relate with. Thank you for sharing it.
I am just living thinking it will get better.
I’m in my 30’s. The older you get the more friends you lose and the harder it is to make friends
facts, of life...just gotta find your few and cherish and nurture it.
That is damn sure the truth . It seems especially so if you’ve moved for work like myself and know zero people in the area you’re in . I just have taken it like you said the older you get the more normal that tends to be .
@@lonniephillips8517 it’s so unfortunate. With all this social media, it’s hard for us to meet ppl in real life
Its not harder tbh people just have less energy over time
You shouldn't be focused on being popular, this isn't high-school. Your free
As life goes on you learn that jobs will come and go ,people or “friends” will come and go, seasons ,situations will come and go .You have to learn to be content with yourself ,and don’t rush anything in life or compare yourself to other people’s path.Everybody is living a different life .
I've heard that so many times, but I often forget and I find my negative thoughts keeping my self-esteem low.
Fr thats true shit you got maybe 1 or 2homies for life that youre close with and others that you dont see long but youre still good amd got youre back 💯
this is a big problem and so many people in our generation are going through it right now. It's admirable that you made this video, not enough people are open about these struggles. The only way we can solve this is together as a community
I feel you man. That’s one of my biggest setbacks aswell. Ever since I graduated high school it’s been harder than ever to make new friends and it sucks because I’m also shy at first so that makes it even harder. I just try and be myself and maybe I’ll bump into some people eventually. Good luck man ‼️
the balls this guys have are gigantic. Respect for witnessing a current social "problem". Friends aren't nescessery, family and self-confidence is the KEY. 💪❤🔥
Yoo how you know he has big balls 🤨 i mean I’ve personally witnessed it but we gotta keep it to ourselves bro 😉
Confidence is key, but we are social creatures and friends are needed. I hope you gather yourself a trustful pack as you navigate through life. Someone you can mentor and be mentored by.
ima actually disagree, i think freinds are neccicary, but thir not #1 yanno what i mean? their very important. meaningful connections and to experiance life celibrate happines and struggle thru pain with another human being will just idk it makes life awsome. that said, its not the number one. wich by the way, thank god its not the nuimber one, our society is making it hard to grow freindships, just look at the data, more peopole YOUNG peopol especially feel lonly than EVER BEFORE IN HISTORY. so yeah, we gotta get creative and escape the downward spiral
Friends are definitely necessary. I mean why else would people make video's expressing these feelings? It's not as if this video is a testimonial for succes. Friendships can lead to a more healthy/wealthy life because friendships can often lead to opportunities for jobs, relationships, entertainment, and overall better self-esteem as a consequence of mentioned opportunities. It is a lesson I had to learn myself and I'm glad I pushed myself to reach out to better(!) friends. Cut ties with your bullshit friends, those who f*ck with you, take too many dr*gs, those that space out into fantasies to much, and those that stab you in the back.
People attach too much meaning to the word "friend". A friend does not have to be "your life-time" buddy and knows áll your insights... I met someone on a vacation who I will probably never see again, but we clicked so well, I will not hesitate to confidently call that person my friend. If you f*ck up with me, your not my friend anymore... So what I learned is that the word friendship is way more fluid, fragile and short-termed than I thought before. Don't raise the bar so high, or else friendships will always be this unreachable deep battle.
BTW, the dude in the video seems super chill! I think I could definitely vibe with him.
I haven't watched the video, but I want to say having friends is a very good thing. Have 1-3 very close friends that will do anything for you and you will do the same for them.
Don't feel bad. I'm in my mid forties and I also have no friends. Folks nowadays are draining. I just need my peace and quiet.
Agree
Just thought I’d come say something because your story really struck a cord with me. I hope you find your path and some solid friends along the way because you seem to be a solid dude yourself. Good luck on your journey and thanks for sharing.
I felt this 100%. Cheer up man, I got you dawg.
Man I can here this dude at the verge of tears after like every sentence, this making me really sad. I hope this guy can find some people or just a person who he can really just be around and be comfortable.
He just need to accept what is, don't be upset or sad about it, learn to be at peace with it, you are enough. We can want a friend si bad not knowing that person can be our worst nightmare
@@Clearbluesky771I think it’s common for us humans to wanting to make connections and to feel a belonging. By nature humans are social creatures.
I certainly think yes it’s okay to be alone and necessary for growing up to learn about yourself but being alone for too long can affect somebody’s well-being
It sucks 😞😞😢😢😢😢 I hate this world but we don't have a choice.
We all have now all things to connect but we still feel isolated and alone. People have changed a lot makes us feel more desolated
Well some people need a stable connection/friendship(s) more than others. Some people's mental health and just general well being can depend on whether they have that feeling of community and like they belong, it's natural. @@Clearbluesky771
i’m 20, almost 21. i graduated HS in 2020 when we didn’t get a graduation, prom, or grandnite. The majority friends i had are doing their thing. I basically have no fiends, nobody texts me first, and spend many weekends alone. I find it tuff to deal with because i’m socially awkward and i always wished i could easily connect with people, but i struggle greatly. So making friends, too, is always tuff. I am starting to grow a drinking problem cuz every weekend i cope with my loneliness by drinking and watching movies. Hopefully we all gain the strength to accept loneliness and make it beneficial. I haven’t found my strength but i’m hopeful. Prayers up brother🙏🏼
It’ll be better days bro trust don’t destroy yourself off of substances for a quick and temporary way to try and ease the struggle keep pushing all love🖤
I pray for you because I honestly understand
I feel you...the same situation with me
Same, I relate a lot to this and I also just turned 21 (tho my drug of choice is weed). Just hang it there, it will get better, more people are lonely than we think. For what it’s worth, you’re not alone in your loneliness.
same situation, I hope we find friends soon. covid really changed a lot
You are very brave talking about what so many of us hide inside. Thank you!
I pray you find a great circle of friends like you deserve, stay encouraged, things can change at any time! 😊
You seem like the type of channel that would blow up because of how relatable you are. Keep going man.
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like sneako before the craziness
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Bro I am 23 and I feel that way too. Especially after high school I felt like a lot of friendships fell off and I had nobody. I deleted all my social media 2-3 years ago aside from linkedin and youtube to cleanse my mentality and focus on the important things in life. That really showed me who cared or didn't because plenty of people had my number or used to claim we were really good friends but nobody really hmu unless I texted first which is a crappy feeling.
Damn same experience here 😢
This is true!! Every single one guy or girl only responds to my texts but never start the text first it’s sad to see which is why I stopped texting and I’m 23 just like you. I have a career etc
ya a girl I wentt to school with when I was pregnant w my first baby and came and saw my baby works in the building next to me and we park next to eaxchother and she and I both know.. I messages her twice..she only responded once.. literally was in my car after work the other day saw her walk out we locked eyes.. she acted like she dint know me.. I waved anyway.. still acted like she didnt see me...
@@High_Class_Celebrities I’m sorry :( yeah life’s very interesting with the way stuff plays out. Stay up 🙏🏼
@@silentx9709 awe yeah I felt that! Having a career is a huge time commitment as well. I hope you find some quality co worker friends.
very well spoken and emotionally intelligent, thank you for the insight
You're not alone!!! I definitely can relate. To be perfectly honest I just gaven up on it all now, try my best not to think about it anymore.
Don't get me wrong, I get on with lots of people that I come across on a daily basis. I tried to keep myself busy by running my charity on Thursday which filled any void and which given me some comfort.
I think Lord made it like this for me. So, that I could focus more on him. To show me where my focus should be. So if I get friendships I'll probably know how to appreciate it.
It’s crazy how we think we are the only ones, until we actually say something. Best to you and your well being broski😌
I'm 30 and I have no friends. As I've grown and matured my standards for who I want in my life have tightened to the point where nobody's left. I don't tolerate phony people any longer. I would encourage anybody to break off their half ass friends. If any of your "friends" talk to you, and treat you in a way you wouldn't treat them. They're not your friend. Some of us are too compassionate and need to realize that compassion is wasted on some people. Took me a long time to realize that. Because there isn't a strong character and integrity behind it, all the fake love they claim to have for you doesn't mean shit.
I can really relate. I will be 25 in december and as most people in the comments here i also dont have friends nor a gf and it doesnt bother me. I ended my friendship with last group of people i knew 2 weeks ago it was a guy i met in school when i moved to a new country 6 or 7 years ago and when i moved back to this country in January he introduced me to his gf and one more girl from their school and 2 weeks ago we all were about to move to a new apartment they found. Me and that dude were talking about start making music together because sometimes i make EDM music as a hobby and im still learning always searching for videos about music but idk what snapped in me and one day i texted that i will not be moving in with them and i kinda dont want to be associated with them anymore and mainly its because they dont do anything they just pretty much go to university and smoke weed all day and he never tried to even make music all he does is just saying if we need to make music get rich but never does anything. So i can really relate when i started to mature and have standarts the circle became very very small.
Friends and family I can loose them all and not feel anything except for my mom
Now a dog you can never replace a dog
Dos is better than any family or friend
i love you
Best advice I can give is enjoy that time, and don’t have a kid with a girl you don’t want to be with. I’m miserable over here dealing with this bs
I love this
Keep your head up man. Just keep open to new connections and do be afraid to open up and be vulnerable
Good Stuff Lil Broski !!! I love your energy and humble nature! You gon do this world good and I appreciate you. I was you about 15 yrs ago! Love you God!!❤
Hi Zo, I'm 51 and losing friends is a normal occurrence. I've been betrayed early in my life by friends, so I started keeping folks at a distance. I have levels to people. There are acquaintances but few friends. Having friendships takes work. Sometimes one person gives more to the friendship than the other, but true friendships never die no matter how long your don't talk or distance. Having one quality friend is better than having 20 useless, selfish, narcissistic acquaintances. Be a good person always. You'll attract what you are inside eventually, but you'll definitely kiss a bunch of frogs along the way. Bless you for sharing your story. I don't believe we put here to be alone. Finding good people to do life with is hard, but don't give up.
Appreciate you for sharing, this is solid advice!
aw thank you
Good advice.
My advice is, work hard, and do great things, and become friends with others who are also grinding, it happens when you are grinding, for example, When I started leveling up in my gym and training, i started gaining more friends, (not alot ) but a good few quality, 1 by one over time, because I guess when you are healthy you attract other hustlers to be friends. the same thing with other areas in life. Family relationships signinficantly improve when you take care of your addictions and just live the life you are suppose to live, even if it's hard.
couldnt agree more!
I relate to this so much. I’m 28 turning 29 in January and I have no friends. Once I stopped partying and going out as much everything died down. Focusing on yourself and self care is truly a lonely journey. Thank you for expressing your feelings ❤
I felt this, Especially now that im following God and not world;y things. My friend group is barely none.
The self care journey really is lonely sis but we have done the right thing for ourselves, I hope you’re well 💖
@@mslondonlove1435 thank you love I appreciate that and yes I’m doing good ❤️
Bs, youre normalising the human engineering that the powerful are trying to create, you know theres something wrong, when you feel lonely its an indicator and reflection of how society is being shaped
Same!! 28 to 29 I met a couple people that changed my life and made me realize that I didn’t have friends, I just had opportunist and bad influences in my life. Now I have been alone for 2 years and it has been so amazing and yet so lonely. I really wish I had done this when I was younger, but better late than never I guess. I will never forget those people that genually cared for me and not what I had to offer them.
Thanks so much for posting this! I’ve never been a person so have many friends. I just finished high school and my only friend moved away our senior year and still we have stay in contact but it’s only been like a year since I graduated. Anyways this video made me feel less alone by reading the comments and by what u had to say in this video.
Stay blessed.
Damn bro, I also struggle to make new friends this video felt rly good to hear someone else feel the same way. Hope you’ve found some friends bro u seem like a rly chill person
I'm 30 and I feel the same. My guesses are:
1 - We've matured and learned that not everyone was a "friend", we just happen to be around each other for long periods of time.
2 - Work really consumes people. Social life takes a toll when after graduation, going out stops being fun when you are constantly tired.
3 - Social media has people only texting. We barely have real face to face humans interactions like our parents did.
Lastly, society has changed so much. When I was a kid my little town used to be fun, regular parties and events happening throughout the year, there was always something to look forward to where you'd meet people and socialize. The last time there was something like that I was like 15, now not a single celebration type of thing ever happens. The fun town I remember is no more.
So sad. Especially your last point, it stopped when I was 10.
Try moving
Find new community if that doesn't help sorry, I'm thinking of moving same reasons
4. You're a bad person who nobody wants to be around
My life peaked like 2 years ago - I had many good friends, spoke and played games with them every day. I had a girlfriend. I had a good job with a cool boss. Worked out, got slim. Got a nice haircut, clothes, fragrance etc. It was the best time of my life, I finally felt like I belonged somewhere. Then it all started to go to shit, my job changed, friends started disappearing one by one because of things in their lives, and even though I was always there for them, it turned out they were never there for me. I eventually broke up with my gf. Got fat again. Stopped caring about my looks. Have a job that I hate. And my life is just miserable. I can't even speak with anyone. I have literally no one. I never had many friends, but I never had ZERO friends. But at least I have a youtube comment section, where no one will ever read my comment, but at least I can rant and let off some steam. Life just sucks. What's the point of it if you don't even have anyone to care about.
Hey man hopefully things get better. Life sucks, but it can always get worse.
You are not alone there. Things can change so quickly, so hopefully it can also change for the better again. Best of luck.
Tough times seem endless, but just know that you're appreciated and you matter
Just know that a stranger on the opposite side of the world is feeling like you do. No friends, no job, no partner, no life direction. At least it hurts a little less when the pain is shared. We’ll go through this hopefully.
Stop with the self pity, and make the change that u need. Bc nobody is going to do that for u but urself?
Bro I ain’t had friends in so many years.
But I love you for exactly what you are and you are enough, and I believe in you. Sometimes we just got to walk our own way, I relate to everything you’re saying but stuck to the light
I’m sorry you feel the way you do brotha.
Be happy you felt confident to be able to express your thoughts.
I’m a 27yo black man from the city and when I came to the same moment you have now, I looked to icons of the past for the answers to how I felt. I highly encourage to rediscover your roots my man.
Whatever is you feel you can change, just know you always have the power to change your circumstances.
Research our iconic ancestors like MLK, Malcolm X, Huey Newton etc. Read their stories and you might relate to them and don’t be afraid to wonder. Free thinking brotha and peace be upon you.
“Family bonds is something we all need but we all don’t have.”
Felt that shit on a spiritual level my brother.
Yes exactly I am grateful that I have good parents to talk to and hang out with but not everyone has that but family does not have to be blood related family are people who would be there for you when nobody is there.
Life seems harder when your not close with your parents, wish I had that option but at the same time makes me feel like a lone wolf
I wish dude. I don’t have a bad relationship with my parents, I just have a bad relationship with myself
Come unto me, all ye that Labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30
@@ayoolukoga9829Please delete this, you are offending my beliefs with this comment, not everyone has the same beliefs as you, it's not fair to those with different beliefs to have this shoved in their face everywhere they go, you should really try to be more considerate of others..
I’m 26 haven’t had “friends” since after high school, I was always a loner. I use to think something was wrong with me but I’ve come to accept I’m just the way I am. But I’m never alone since I have 8 younger siblings. Lucky for me because if I was the only child I’d probably have a different mentality.
Family is always more important than anything. I have one close friend that I’ve manage to have left in my 20s and we talk about how we don’t talk to anyone anymore except each other. Everyone just moved on in their life or we just knew moving forward that there is certain people we couldn’t take on in life, when we’re both busy we have our families to and we both talk about the importance of having that bond with a family that will always be there for you.
I’m 24 turning 25 in 2 weeks same for me. I jux stay to myself . I always been like that ever since a kid and in school . I’m not the person to go out in party or anything I jux work and make money . And on free time play videos and I’m cool with that to be honest .
Wish i had as many siblings i only have an older sister
its actually a lot of people who dont have friends, because after hs everyone focused on there life
hi hon, im learning in my psychology courses at college from a wise professor that changed my life that besides the “viscious cycle”, we often forget that there is such thing as the “virtuous cycle.” it’s about doing good for others that in turn make yourself feel good. it’s actually amazing how easy and simple it is- participating in volunteer work like food drives, helping homeless, animals if you like, anything charity related. i think you should try it. it’s an opportunity for you to meet people, and then write about how you feel after when you come home!thanksdoc
Big shout out to you to speak bout ur feeling this aint easy and u r doing it great! Keep going fam u r killing it and im sure that someone will either like u as a friend or a woman will love u frl. Keep your head up ❤🫡
I feel the same at 30 sometimes. My brother is 21 and dealing with the same. You are not alone. Thanks for sharing, you have a lot of courage and transparency
Girl same and it feels nice to know as a black woman that other black people are going through the same thing as me. Being alone isn't the issue. It's loneliness that's the issue. Anyone can feel at peace being alone. 24 here and seeing other melaninated folks talk about these things means a lot to me.
❤your very gorgeous
I'm 33. I have "friends", but I don't fit-in with them anymore. The things we used to bond over do not excite me anymore. I'm more focused on my walk with God while my friends love worldly things. I'm learning to accept it. I do have family. I have a husband. I have children. I have loving parents. I have a brother. I also have coworkers that I hang with from time to time. I become depressed sometimes because I'm not as close as I used to be with my childhood friends, but I just have to let go and let God. 🙏🏽
I wonder if we have the wrong expectations for what it means to have friends in adulthood. I am in a similar situation as you, except I do not work right now and so I don't have coworkers to hang out with. I am 36 and I am learning that I still have enjoyment of life with my hubby and family even though I no longer have the close bond that you find with childhood friends. Maybe this is just the nature of growing up and maybe if I change my expectations, I can get even more enjoyment out of a life of loneliness @@thebibleisrightperiod
I do not have Friends either you're not alone. I see a lot of people online saying the same. I am wondering if you're an introvert like myself.
I’m 26, being totally alone is starting to feel like the new normal. I have been disrespected by family, friends, girlfriends multiple times and I’m realizing that my life is less stressful alone. Would I like to have a family, friends, and a girlfriend I could thoroughly enjoy being around? Of course.. but I haven’t had that once in my life and I don’t know if I will ever have all 3, or even 2 of those things.
You aren't alone because God is Alive and Truly with you. Jesus Christ says in Matthew 11:28-30: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” 🙏✝❤❤❤🙌🕊
Hope you attain all of those things my friend, hang in there
@@starstumpAmen🙏🏽❤️
bro that resonated with me. I'm 28
Yes me too it’s just the disrespect I can’t take ! I’m way happier alone . Of course no one wants it this way but people come with so much now in days it’s like you have to pick your poison
I appreciate your authenticity 😊❤
Raw and real thank you for sharing your experience I feel lost sometimes it feels nice to hear feelings
As a 30 year old I look back and see all my friends from high school as only friends because we were around each other every day. I learned the hard way that people grow apart. Adult friendships require a lot of work to maintain but are much more satisfying
Honestly this is what comes with getting older; friendships become something you've gotta put a lot more effort in than when you were in school and was pretty much "forced" into a closed environment with the same people everyday. With life's responsibilities and just general adulting, it becomes harder to maintain them.
Valid point 💯
I SWEAR this is so true.
On my soul bro. If you not in high school or college its very hard to maintain friendships especially since most friends either get locked up or are raising a family.
Exactly 😢 I’m 47 & struggling with depression and loneliness
Very well put
Real talk >. Thanks for sharing, dude. Best of luck
I appreciate your honesty and bravery as a young Black Man in presenting us with your life. I know it had to be difficult considering the western world has continuousy discounted our experiences and feeling. Having "friends" unfortunately can be a blessing and a curse depending on your perspective. In time you may find individuals who will willing share parts of your journey with you and have good intentions.
Hey man, I want to let you know that things are going to workout. Keep working on yourself, live a good life, be a good man.
I'm 26 and will be 27 end of this year.
When I turned 25, I felt the same as you do. I didn't celebrate my birthday, didn't have a girlfriend and didn't have any super close friends.
Just 18 months later, and I couldn't be happier. Established some real relationships with people and also found the love of my life.
Hit me up when you wanna talk man. Trust me, just 18 months ago I could have done this kind of video as well.
Bro I'm at the same age as you and it would be great if you could share why there has been such a change in such a short period of time.
@@kulolal Hey man, i'll be glad to share my story with you.
I was always self-conscious about my body, being fat/overweight basically 90% of the time. About 4 years ago I was at my worst, I felt the ugliest, was the most overweight, quit University after 2 years because it was too hard and had to change to another University. Not much changed immediately after that, but in 2021 during Covid, I really went down a rabbit hole of self-improvement. At that point, I did not really have any close friends, I barely went out or even got invited.
The past 2 years I have been fully focusing on grinding, improving myself and my mindset and becoming who I truly am. This meant a lot of isolation, which sometimes made me feel depressed - but I know I was doing something good for myself and that at the worst case at the end of this self-improvement journey - I'll have a better mindset, better physique and more confidence and love for myself.
Becoming my authentic self meant that I began approaching people with a newfound sense of character, a quality I had lacked in the past - I actually felt like I had no character at all.
Nowadays if we talked, you would probably not forget me very easily and see me as "that" guy. Approaching people with my now more refined and defined character meant that I now would only make friends who I liked and who also liked me for my now more outspoken and direct personality.
I don't have tons of friends - I don't care about that - but I have 2-3 very close friends who I spend a lot of time with working, going to the gym etc.
The essence of this may sound clichéd and unremarkable, but its truth remains undeniable - work on your fucking self. Find out who you are, what you are. Improve your mentality. Take care of yourself physically and mentally. Look clean. Behave like a good man. Dress well. Speak slower and more confident. Look people in the eyes. Walk around with your chest up and shoulders back. Be thankful to God.
TRUST ME - it adds up. I had no relationship before recently at the age of 26 - and now I have found the love of my life.
Life is undeniably good-perhaps almost too good right now for me. However, I remain mentally prepared to embrace the lessons that Life and God may still have in store for me.
Whatever you do - live a good life. Become a good man. Respect everyone - but most importantly - RESPECT YOURSELF.
I kept this story short, a lot of details are obviously missing, but I hope you get the idea.
@@kulolal Because he trusted in the Lord
@Queen... You can do it! Keep going.
Going off OP, every time I isolate myself it takes a lot of time and effort to start reaching out to people again. Small baby steps, like remembering how to even just have conversations by tiny small talk with one person at the store counter or a dog walker etc.
Stuff like looking up one or two of your hobbies or potential interests (anything!) and try to start slowly going to groups and testing it out. It’s awkward and draining at first but bit by bit you get into the swing of things.
Initiating things with people who you’ve fallen out of touch with!
Ultimately, isolation is torture for humans (that’s why solitary confinement in jail is such a punishment). Isolation severs our connections and makes us bitter, and while that hurt can be in response to genuinely hurtful things a lot of that times, isolation BLINDS us over time, and makes us more and more bitter as time goes on.
Slow progress to undo the patterns of behaviour that enable further loneliness helps to undo
so relatable, i've been on my own since my college days, and now at 24 i've noticed that as i've grown older, my circle of friends has significantly changed. i had friends from high school, but honestly, i never found much comfort being around them. letting go of these friendships was a decision i made, but it's difficult because of how crucial and unhealthy loneliness can be
same
But man there is so much other things to life. For me personally I’m 21 right now and I slowly drifted away from all my friends from highschool. But it didn’t brother me or make me feel any typa way.
My biggest concern now is what do I want to do with my life what am I going to do for a career.
Cause at the end of the day nobody is going to be there for you when ur trying to earn money or make a living, or when your trying to find ur career path.
Once you got all that figured out, if u still have no friends then start focusing on that.
But for me personally friends are the last thing that is on my mind. I’m a lone wolf type. I’m not seeking friendships.
Society achieved its goal of separation... 😢stay woke
@@HoopLifee try to keep your friends especially if they care for you
This comment is SO FUCKING RELATABLE. I'm in college currently but I've actively decided on breaking away with the bonds I didn't feel comfortable with. At this point of my life I currently have a friend who I consider to be my best. Nth else really. Everyone else is just surface level
This was one of my worst fears and I am also living it. We support you
Hi, when growing in your new chapter in life it’s time to tune out the distractions and focus on you and what you want! When u grow apart from friendships it just means your growing apart from those old foolish ways. God bless you
Tbh i think as long as you have hobbies especially if they get you outside and you have self confidence being a loner feels like the most freeing thing ever. You can go into almost any social setting and just feel comfortable being yourself and people actually gravitate towards that confidence and sense of calmness.
I got hobbies but i dont got the self confidence 😢
@@ApexGaming100 REAL
@@darker2920 theres a lot of hobbies that are solitary
@@user-wr1jj6xx7w you can be social with yourself, if you cant entertain yourself then you're pretty boring tbh
@@oshurus9137You can only be social with yourself for so long man, but when you actually believe you are alone completely, it messes you up seriously
The fact that I’m 25 now and have been through the same exact things you’re describing. I really thought I was the only one who was like this at this age. Thanks for having the bravery for coming out to talk about this stuff, and the comment section here is oddly motivating for me to go out there more. We all might have more in common than we think
29 here and I have no friends. I am very much a “loner” personality. I like doing things on my own, how I want, when I want. I got family so that helps a lot. I also work 60 hours a week and get all the socializing that I require at work. When I’m not working I like being alone. I am friendly and make small talk at the stores or say hi to people I pass but otherwise I am very introverted and like it. I think society/social media makes it seem like if you don’t have friends you are the odd one. But you’re not.
I do hate tho when people ask me who I hang out with or what things I do with others on the weekend. I don’t. And they don’t understand.
@@lispendensTrust me I fully understand you basically just described me. I don't even have a Facebook cause I have no family or friends to add
I honestly feel the same. Had really close friendships with people from middle to high school. Like we would always hangout during the weekend or have parties with each other, always helping each other out. Then when they graduate it all changed. I would be lucky if one of my old friends even read a text message i sent. I honestly wish people who are in this same boat could meet up and become friends. Anyways thanks for posting. Videos like this make me feel less alone in this world. Theres only so much hobbies and grinding at work can do to fill the void of loneliness
I don't have any friends really either. You're not alone buddy ❤ I think it's better to know yourself and to be comfortable with you, most importantly and then from that you will attract the right circles. I hope life treats you kindly and you find all that you are looking for 🤗
Someone once said "Friends are in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime". Once you understand that friendships aren't the rosy concept purported by movies, letting people go and move on in their lives won't be as hard. I sympathise with your words, mostly because I was deeply betrayed in my youth, but I am working on trusting people again as I regard very few people outside of my family as true "friends".
I love this because it’s allowing those who actually feel this way to express themselves
Jesus Christ says in Matthew 11:28-30: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” 🙏✝❤❤❤🙌🕊
@@starstump Amen
@@starstumpPlease delete this, you are offending my beliefs with this comment, not everyone has the same beliefs as you, it's not fair to those with different beliefs to have this shoved in their face everywhere they go, you should really try to be more considerate of others..
@@starstumpi reported all your comments btw
@@chaos-tech67.1im gonna be real with you there’s no need for this. You are being mean to someone just because of their faith knowing good and well this person is not the reason your acting like this. Don’t blame the actions of others on another just because they belong to the same group. I’m not Christian and i dont mind because its the internet. You reported him for trying to spread love to another person in the best way he can because thats how he grew up. And not only that but Christianity it the majority religion in the United States. You sound very hurt, hurt enough to report someone for a quote that is supposed to support others. If you dont like how Christian’s treat others then dont do the same. Idk what faith you are or what core values you have but i hope you really dont agree with religious censorship
Don’t worry, your very handsome man. I’m so sorry that you are going through this difficulty. Trust me man, you aren’t the only young man going through this. A lot of us Adults are going through this friendship recession in the West. Western countries are feeling and succumbing to loneliness, we are just going through a friendless epidemic and it is feeling so worse everyday.
A lot of Americans in this country of 365.7 million are feeling so lonely, we in the United States are going through a loneliness epidemic crisis. A lot of American adults nationwide in the U.S are feeling very isolated and very anxious.
My heart goes out to man, I’m really sorry that you are going through this. I just want to let you,
that you are not alone in this loneliness epidemic. ❤️❤️
Stay strong bro we have a similar story. What helps me though I was finding a couple hobbies and then just finding people who like the same thing naturally
I’m 17, and I too am dealing with the same thing too. I know people say my moment will come or I just have to wait. But it doesn’t feel like that. I seriously thank you for being a person that is so vulnerable on such a toxic platform. ❤❤
Seriously this was so raw beautiful and honest
I'm 18, starting college in 3 weeks, and in the same position. I've made peace with my fate.
@@novus1589 I’m sad but glad In a sense that we can have a better understanding and mindset on this type of situation. All my love goes out to all of us having to deal with this ❤️
Youre too young. Once you hit 25 and youre still in the same position we can have that talk. For right now just stay in school.
You’re still young bro you’re in school, just do your best to socialize, never be awkward, ask questions and start conversation off of it, be friendly but not too nice, make sure you reciprocate energy in the right way
This touched me. I thought i had friends and when i found out that most of my relationships where one-sided. I pretty much spiralled into depression and was one step away into commiting suicide. But then my father died the next day.
I ended up accepting this reality and started to make the best of my life. Im hopeful that ill find people like you. Keep faith in your heart.
God be with you. Pls open your hear to know God and He will never leave you or forsake you
I used to care too much about having friends especially a best friend, but as I got older I got more comfortable with being alone. And I actually don’t mind it because it’s better that way. I’ve had bad experiences with people, some with hidden agendas, some moved away and my best friend in high school passed away from lupus. Ever since then I just stopped caring, I only have 1 good friend and my sister. That’s all I need
I'm 37 and was blessed to have a few friends that I lost along the way. Always remember some people come a season some last a lifetime just remember the good times you shared. 💯