I’m 22 and I Have No Friends.
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- čas přidán 29. 03. 2024
- years went by and my circle got smaller until no one was in it but that’s okay, we are still going to go up it’s really good so i don’t have to worry about snakes in the garden while I continue to work on myself.
This hit so close to home. It’s not like u hate ur old friends or anything, there’s just a point in time where ur interests ain’t theirs and ur kinda checked out of forcing urself to be something ur not. I love that ur able to record urself despite what ur old friends may have said, because that is wt makes u happy. True friends should support u in ur interests if they’re healthy and not hurting anybody, and they’ll tell u respectfully when they don’t agree with something ur doing. It’s hard to find genuine people out there, not to say that everyone’s not genuine in their own way, but I mean genuine in the sense to where u can sit down and share a piece of ur humanity with them and vice versa. Not forcing anything. Friends should enhance ur life not control it. Respect to u for speaking out man, I feel like so many of us feel this way but u had the courage to make a video about it and as u can see it’s touched so many peoples hearts. Keep doin wt ur doin man, it’s inspiring honestly.
Dang, 3 minutes ago with a pin? Dude is dedicated.
@@cainthegreat3056 I was just as surprised as u lol this guys the goat fr
kinda cool
Never had a more relatable video randomly get suggested
This is so true. This feeling just happened to me.
who wants to be his friend
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I'd be his homie anyday. Dude's seem solid.
Fuck it's sad knowing so many of us are alone
Stay strong out there
me fr man
yall chasing shit stfu and be real
I'm in his boat that's why i focus on CZcams, to feel less lonely, but there might be many peoples that want to be his friends, but how many of them are really going to be friends? Is what i ask my self too, when you're not know or have something useful for someone they don't care to be your friends sadly.. I'm 26 years old, and i'm with no friends , Never i had a friend, i tried , but i always end up being insulted back by the secrets i shared about my self.
Be careful who you trust and tell your problems to because everyone who smiles at you is not your friend
I never had genuine friends. It was ten years of 'drinking buddies'. When I stopped drinking, they stopped calling.
Same here but with weed, once I stopped smoking for Like A month or 2 they never hit me up.
Amen to that. My friends from the last 7 years only wanna get together to drink. Now that I’ve stepped away from that life, they pretty much never reach out.
Similar situation with me. Coworker who I thought was my friend used to drink with me every weekend after work. We had rounds of beers together and told each other personal life stuff and talked about how work could be better, etc. He was recently offered another position at a different location and decided to take it. Other than one brief text I never heard from him again. Coworkers are just that. Coworkers. They're not your friends. Lesson learned.
@@josebro352 that’s life bro
Depressing tbh but you'll see who there for you for you
Im 22, i had the same experience at my highschool graduation. Nobody was there for me and I walked by everybody taking pictures and drove home. Ill never forget that
Cold
if it makes you feel better i didn't go to my middle, high, and college graduation.
i also pretty much stop celebrating my birthday around high school.
Me too
Im the same. At my HS graduation I left while everyone took pictures with each other. My best friend stood me up at the graduation after party. I never felt more alone. And when I come back to my hometown I have no good friends. I just sit at home waiting to go back to college.
Exactly my same experience
you genuinely expressing yourself and not cutting the vid all the time feels authentic and nostalgic kinda like the real friend you always had fun and serious conversations abt
thanks family ❤️ that’s means a lot to me
nice catch friend, I also felt what you mean... these kinda talk if it weren't a video, it would be a very meaningful interaction, a kind of interaction would fill the emptiness.
not complaining, not gossips, not pretending, just being authentic and talking heart to heart.
The realest people are alone 💯
Real
Thats not true
@@pumpkincoffeeits 100% true
Cap thats delusion if you real then why ppl dont like you make it make sense yall just be bitches irl if you got a problem wit everybody YOU the problem work on yall selves
@@pumpkincoffee Is true, i saw on some of my exes, and past friends, when you swallow and lie others you can gather peoples, if you're sticking to your self peoples will hate you.
It makes my heart bleed for people who actually suffer from this type of loneliness where the person actively seek friends but are unable to make any. That is the true struggle.
This made me realize how pathetic it sounds to people
This is me. My heart hurts so much from it all.
Did you not watch the video
He’s not actively seeking friends lol he just said he would like to have some
Same, No friends just "Buddies". There is a strong difference between Buddies and real Friends, Real Friends are hard to get.
Especially after elementary school
I’m 25. It’s starting to take a toll on me. It’s been a few years I just feel sad not having anyone to make plans with or get asked
Man I know what you mean. The other day my cousin asked me to bring him $80 cash and I got so excited cuz I actually had a reason to go out and do something with someone.
Was short lived tho cuz all I did was give him the cash and left but that’s the level of lonely I’ve reached.
Running an errand for my cousin got me excited lmaoo.
Volunteer. When you give back to the community, you will be blessed in more ways than you can imagine. Those are the people you want to be around. People who enjoy helping others. Also try making friends with people that are shy especially females. They don't have many friends and will value your friendship if they open up to you. Ignore the street types and focus on the so called squares. Square women become good mothers and they play less games because they aren't as deceitful. You are old enough where the right female companion can fill many different voids. She can be your friend, the mother of your child and possible wife. Look for people who are really shy and approach them. The more shy they are, the better for you meaning if you earn their trust, you will be a big part of their life.
@@Rockyroad321 make sure u cousin aint taking advantage of u. stay strong and i hope u find some good friends bro
@@zxorizonn_3111 oh nah he just needed physical cash, he E-transferred the 80 to me before.
Jesus loves you. i was the same. God fills that void
Being your own best friend is a super power most people can’t achieve
That’s true, I hate myself or atleast some parts in my mind do. Some parts of my mind try to convince me to feel suicidal, some little parts in my mind art seeing the good. I think i am depressed deep down because at school my friends only see my happiness because I hide my sad side. I could never be friends with myself
@@-ghostdeeri- I am feeling the exact same way as you.
💯💯As a 42 year old man i learned this the hard-way 🙏
I dont hate myself really. Other people say i hate myself, but im not them, and they got issues.
@@-ghostdeeri- If it's any consolation bro I feel the same. I alternate between liking myself and hating myself on a daily basis. I've always related to that line in Lord of the Rings where Gandalf says about Gollum how he 'hates and loves the ring as he hates and loves himself. Smeagol's life is a sad story'. Hope you have bright days ahead bro. Peace.
Never forget when I lost my friends. Soon as school ended that was it, not a single word ever again.
this is so real. my aspergers made it difficult for me to connect with people on an enjoyable basis without it being uncomfortable. almost all my friendships feel forced, or artificial, i sometimes see them outsid eof church or school but rarely do i ever chat or hang out with them, and the frieds who i did have who were like brothers to me have either moved on/away or just dont have the same intrests anymore. the only people I really talk to are people online, adults at my school, and other people on the spectrum but none of that feels like friendship, and being unable to read peoples emotions visibly and mentally has taken its toll on me. I also try to stay out of the wrong crowd as well. I dont smoke, party, or chill somewhere
all i do is just wake up, go to school mon-fri, sleep and play video games all weekend
I hope you find those friends you can relate to, or who share similar intrests
gl man.
Welcome to adulthood friend. What you're experiencing is fairly common, where you realize friends you have are just friends of proximity and not of spirit. It feels rough at first, then you find REALLY good friends after that, because you get to know the real you, and THAT'S what people will gravitate towards.
my father warned me of this when i was like 14 years old, he told me few if any of the people i called my friends would stick around. absolutely preposterous i thought, how could he be right and i be wrong. more than 20 years later i'm long past the point where i realized he was right of course. we drifted apart. someone got married. someone died. i just observed it from afar. as you said, i have new friends now and for proximity there's colleagues at work. but when you enter your twenties it's a normal thing to struggle with i guess.
alright but where do you get your real friends from ? bc personnaly i dont like going out ( like party i like to cruise around in the city or chill somewhere but not go out partying ) and like idk where ppl like that are...
I graduated in 2017 and haven't really had a friend since.
No you don’t find good friends after that. You don’t find friends at all.
@@Smitty_7truth
Not enough people talk about how lonely your 20s can be. Thanks man
20s that’s nothing wait til u hit 30/40s real life starts there
@@Hintvision yeah but you can get kids, wife, etc.
@@outis439-A only if you are that lucky. if you have no friends at 20's, it gets harder to develop friendship and social circle, to get to meet people and meet your girl friend / wife.
Im 27 now and am confinced that your 20's are supposed to be lonely. You usually got alot of shit going on whether it be grinding at something (hobby, school/work, sports) or even mental because the early 20's are very rough IMO. As you get older you'll become more collected and actually find the energy and time to make friends. That's my theory anyway, Im still a lone wolf but I wouldn't wan't it any other way as of right now
@@Hintvisionwtf, it gets worse??? What is life bruh 🤦🏾♂️
Man this is so real. Throughout high school I was always the type that could easily get along with others but kept more to myself because I didn’t have the same interests as most people and it led me to try and fit in. After high school I started my own business and drifted with all of them completely because they don’t have to same interests and goals. On top of it all I don’t like speaking to new people, I stay close to those I really fw so finding new people is almost impossible
This probably the most relatable message that I have heard in all my life. Thank you so much man for sharing and I pray that the group of people that surround you will continue to grow forevermore.
Don’t feel bad bro. I’m 25, no friends, hardly no family, no girl… it’s not even my choosing. I needed a change in my life and God started molding me into the man I am today. Take this as a sign. If you don’t have nobody near you it’s cause God wants you to spend time with him. Stay strong, speak to father, grow closer to Christ. You got this and welcome to the club homie. It’s tough but the process is definitely worth it💪🏻💯
that’s a fact
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Ts sound so lonely
@@Jasouf it is… still is. Been at this now since mid December… just gotta keep swimming like Dory says
@@brandonlewis1245haha thats pretty funny.
I've only ever had 2 friends in highschool. They ignored me a few days after graduation, so I moved on. I had no friends for around 11 years. I only have 1 good friend now. It's the quality, not the quantity.
facts
How do you find a good friend if you don’t mind me asking?
@@javiergaona215i wish i could answer you. try finding a friend through what you like? if you like football, join a football team for fun. what are your hobbies, what do you like to do?
@@javiergaona215 I wouldn't say there is a way. Kinda just happened for me.
@@javiergaona215 It's the same thing I say to people who "need" to have a romantic partner. If you are looking for it, it can happen. But you're also forcing it, which risks a lower quality relationship that won't last. A real relationship will happen whether you meant for it to or not. People gravitate towards each other most when they're not trying to. If I reach out to you, it's because I want to reach out to YOU. Not because I need someone, anyone so I just settle for you. lol
Just got recommend this video and what you described hit so close to home I teared up. The way you're able to bluntly acknowledge the very real pain that comes with loneliness, without downplaying it, and still be so forward thinking and hopeful is inspiring. Thank you for sharing this
I'm 15 and I feel everything said in this vid the exact same way. I moved away in 2019 when I was in my last years of elementary and I really wanted to stay because I had so many real friends over there and I knew life would only get worse for me after I moved so I tried my hardest to stay but I wasn't able to. On that last week of school I matured and completely changed as a person. I did things I never did and I felt emotions I never did before. It was like dying. But I joined in a club and joined a competition, got my name up in the school. I said goodbye to all my friends and it was over. It's crazy to think I haven't stepped foot in the building since. And I don't know how more than half my friends from there are doing. I have about 4-5 and we don't live in the same hood anymore, we barely even text. Even with my day 1 we only play and talk once a week because high school is a pain for everyone. But during the first year in the new school I was with a bunch of rich people that didn't relate to me and I had no interest in. And I learned what it was like to be alone. Throughout the entirety of middleschool I didn't make a single real friend. If anything it was a "hey" or a convo. But there were more days that I sat alone at the lunch tables than sitting with someone. Even if they weren't a person I knew. I sat alone. It hardened me and all I had to rely on for communication was just paying attention to other people. Maybe I could get a gist of what they're interested in. But that wasn't gonna be the case. All the people I had convos with went silent on me the next year as if they got brainwashed any memory of me during the summer. I see my real friends about once a year but we never have convos about how we feel or what we thinking of. It's just games and whats happening right now. And I hate to say but I think thats the part we don't relate in. I learned that things would change heavily and people will leave BY MIDDLE SCHOOL. And I see people talking ab how they loose their friends after highschool. I'm afraid that me losing my friends on the start of middle school was only the first wave. I'm afraid that after highschool ends I'll truly have nobody. With everything I've learned about being alone I use it with my family because they really all I have left. I always know when somethings wrong now. My dad says I matured quicker than my older siblings. I'm already able to participate in adult conversations and give reasons. I just learned. And because of that I feel I lost my soul or spark, whatever it was that made me myself. I don't feel that or a vibe. Its just boring/depressing. I've just been searching for things that could help me find that spark again or build a new one. A new version of myself. I can't help but think I was once a happy kid with no insecurities, friends and healthy. And now I've come to this. It almost feels like its 2 different lives. I feel like it wasn't me. Or maybe it was and I'm just not myself right now. I was alone in silence for 5 years because I moved and when I moved covid was just starting to lock us down. Made me unhealthy. I tried working out but idk if its because I'm afraid of the public and insecure or if it's not what I want to feel but its just not for me right now. I don't think I'm willing to change just to fit in for others. But I just wish some people would try to break my shell and get me to talk. But nobodys that real anymore. Nobody gets the signs and if i yell for help ill just look like im seeking for attention. Living in my teenage years just feels like a tournament. I feel like I gotta pick cards on every action I do. Plan shit. Even when I'm talking I'm deciding on the shit to say like picking the dialogue on a damn video game. My feelings are endless and there just really isn't a point of talking about something prolly nobody gonna see so imma stop now. But I wish it wasn't like this and I wish I didn't have to feel this way and be on this video's comment section. No offense. I just wish I knew how to give myself the chance to be free longer.
Same here. No one cares about me. I just have those "school buddies". Them people become ghosts once that bell rings. No one ever asks me out. Shit makes me feel so damn lonely. I just dont understand why no one gives a fuck about me. Im a genuine guy fr. Recently, i ran into this old friend of mine, who plays in my football team. We started going to practice and games together, and i was actually starting to feel like i finally found a real friend. Last week i wanted to walk to practice with him, but when his real friends showed up though, i realised that i was just being his backup the whole time. Bro just left me alone and went with his friends.
ah man that's sad to hear, i have a few school friends too. But i also have one real friend that cares about me like i am his brother. I hope you will find someone like him too, God bless you!
@@fisch.130 Thanks man, take care and may god bless you too
Spend more time with your family while you still have time.
@@RealJavierEscuella i spend as much time as i can with my family, as they're the only people who truly love me.
@@boo4644 Bro you're lucky that its your siblings. If you want my advice, go tell them how you feel about their behavior. Its way more easy than doing it with friends
yo u being outside when u talk idk why, but it makes it seem so much more personal. love it my man. fr keep this up.
i gotchu brotha 💪🏾
back to the playground
Duke dennis?
REAL QUEEN
I just really love to see how you express yourself in this vid. That shows so much strength brother, u a real one 🔥💪
that ceremony part hit, finished high school, it felt so empty seeing everyone happy and celebrate
"I make content to help y'all out because I know what it feels like to not be helped out".
I'm in a similar situation but I never took that point of view. You're inspiring man.
I really want to help people in that same way. So many people just want someone to hangout with but it’s too hard to go out and find someone u can really connect with. Sometimes u need someone to reach out and give u a real chance and when nobody does u feel alone, I want to give people a real chance.
Saw your face, read the caption, and knew bro was going through the same thing I am right now. I started reading I stop playing video games. I started eating healthy, hitting the gym, actually working towards the person I wanted to be and I watched everybody I loved fall away. Don’t worry bro you’re not alone sadly, in the end we’re all we got so we have to make ourselves the best version possible it’s not always gonna be like that but inevitably it will.
keep going family you on the right path 📈
@@jaylinjenkinsonlywayisup trust family I’m right there with you/ you. God/Universe gave us the vision for a reason ain’t nobody else supposed to understand it.
This the one ☝🏽
I saw something in his face, too, but didn't know what.
I'm trying to quit videogames and weed but it's tough because I don't have enough hobbies. I love playing sports and guitar but I get bored easily because of my adhd
the way you spoke so freely and effortlessly really was art. some beautiful and real thoughts have fallen troughout the video which i think ill come back to in my later life. the topic about real friends or brothers as you call them has been on my mind from time to time and i feel like in order to build a real connection with people you gotta be real with youself first. building on something your mind doesn't percieve as you being your true self can never result into a real connection from your side. working on yourself before commiting to friendships or relationships even will give you in my opinion the best starting point.
well said brotha, be safe out there and you don’t need anyone to be happy make your self happy. only put energy to the ones you trust and think will be good friends. 🤞🏼💪🏼
I'm 14 with no friends. I sit home every single weekend when I'm not in school. When I get to school, i hang out normally when I'm with my friends. But when that weekend comes, it's just me. Alone in my room. Nobody to talk to, nobody to text, absolutely no one to hang out with and completely restless. All I've ever had is school buddies but when I switch schools it's like I switch friends too... And it's not like I wanted it to be like that. I just don't want to be alone anymore. And I'm jealous of all the other teens my age that get to experience their childhood while im stuck in my dark room. It feels like I'm missing out and I know I'll never get these years back. I feel forgotten. I feel ashamed of myself for not being better.
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Thank you so much to everybody for replying and taking their time trying to help me out in these comments like fr I really needed it rn. I felt like I was the only one but now after reading every single reply I don't feel the same anymore and it's such a relief. I'm so grateful for y'all.
Same here man and I'm 20, missed most of everything
Same I got nobody that want to hang with I’m about to be a sophomore 🫤🫤
When I was a kid an adult told me to cherish my time because high school was the best of times. I'm 34 now and I can honestly say that is nonsense. Maybe for some people it was. Maybe they live in their past and for them that was the last time they were happy. But it was a hard lonely time for me.
I wasn't mature enough to find my own inner happiness. It was a struggle just to seem normal and fit in. I think more kids struggled with that than I knew. And that's probably true today.
People put on acts in public to seem normal. The people you think are having the childhood you want may have an entire inner struggle you'll never see.
Not to say your feelings aren't real. But you'll never be happy measuring yourself by what you perceive another person's success to be.
Measure your success by your past self. If you hate being in your dark room every weekend then go outside. Even if it's just for ten minutes. That's a win. Celebrate it. You don't need other people to be happy. Just keep stacking up little wins day by day. Find things that spark little joys. They'll flourish eventually.
It isn't easy. And the struggle never ends. But it does get easier. And you aren't alone in feeling like this. You got this.
It’s a shame really, I’m 18 abt to graduate and I have the exact same story, my advice early before you lose it is to get a productive hobby or get a job. Shit is really hard from the start but it gets better
You don’t have to be stuck in your room, try talking to new people and making an effort to build outside-of-school relationships. You’d be surprised at how people will give you a chance at friendship if you just speak to them about random stuff. It’s sound cliche but, don’t take making friends too serious just have fun with it because you’ll look back years from now and most of it wont matter.
I’m nearly 20 with no friends. Sometimes it’s hard. But then I remember that a lot of people don’t have your best interests in mind. You’re the only one who knows how to make you happy. You’re the only one who knows what you like and how you are. It’s best to be alone than to have friends who hate you
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U do need some kind of social interaction or else you go crazy.
@@longestvideoeverwell not really
@@longestvideoever He obviously doesnt mean that he just stays inside, there are many people that go to the gym, have a good lifestyle and have a nice job but have no friends because they can keep themselves happy
@@longestvideoever nah facts
You're not alone man. I've been through the same. But it gets better. Continue to attract your own circle.
Brother, you spoke so honest that you even made me cry... Lots of love from Spain and you will get what you want because of your good heart and your honesty... Best of luck and a hug❣❣❣❣❣
I'm 26 with no friends lol - I get looked at like if I'm the reason I have no friends when I tell people sometimes lmfao ... like no - some of the people in the world my age mindset's be on toxicity or unloyal levels. and I don't care to waste my time on that or sacrifice my peace for that . I fee you - that's why I'm so heavy on family ❤ stay up 🙌
only way is up ❤️🤝🏾
yep 💯
Hi there! God can be your best friend!
Jesus Christ loves you. He is the only way to heaven. He also says "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest."
May God bless you!
@@Jesus_Christ_loves_you_alot Jehovah God is my best friend - thank you 🩷🤎 imitating Jesus is the way to go to paradise , I’m not 144,000 flock that goes to heaven - I’m not anointed - I’ll be in paradise tho 🥹💚 hopefully lol
Damn, this hit it right on the spot. I’m about to be 28, no friends, and don’t talk to anyone in the family… needed this
Same
hey men my name is mohamed i live in germany im 29 years old i found your video randomly in youtube and men you really spoke to me from my soul. That's exactly how I feel, no friends for years. I just wanted to write it and say that even if we never come into contact, you still have someone here and I have your back and hope that you get asap exactly what you are missing in your life.
Damn bro, hoffe alles klappt für dich ebenfalls.
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Ong bro I’m 20 and I’m the same. Gods giving you this alone time to help you figure things out and become the best version of yourself. He’s keeping you away from people that’ll bring you down. Then he’ll bless you with people who are likeminded and real like you. All in due timing💪🏽🙌🏽
I feel this, I am a 17 year old who goes everywhere alone at this point because i have literally no friends! I’ve been in this position since i was 13 refusing to smoke, misbehave & hang out outside of school with people i didnt trust. It always felt like i stood out from the rest and it felt like i developed socially slower than my peers. It seems sad but i gave up on finding people my age to hang with and just walk the world alone, I think being alone has helped self-reflect more than anything, I got so much kinder and down to earth spending so much time with myself, It makes me think that if people come across me now they get the best version of me. I hope you’re doing okay and i wish you much happiness 💯
I hope I can follow in ur footsteps bro
I was in a similar position around your age, and I'm currently in that position now that I'm a couple years in college and it'll pay dividends. Don't get me wrong I've got a group I could go to at any moment, but being selective in who you put around you and reflecting on yourself will make you a much deeper human, and eventually you'll find yourself in places where there are people just like that. You just gotta be patient, and keep doing you!
Wish I could think like you I’m also 17 in the same predicament you basically just wrote my life
same except I'm 16, I used to have lots of friends but now none except for online, ima make an effort to stand out and talk to people next year
You made me cry dude the part where you said you left the room all by yourself after getting graduated hit home 😭🥺
i feel this hard man. all i ever want in life is to know what true brotherhood feels like. to have that one friend that i kno would ride for me til the end no matter what may happen. its rare to come by but it feels good to know i ain’t the only one that feels the way i do. the same homies that said they had my back wasn’t there when i needed them the most. thats why family over everything man.
Your intelligent and wise to have followed your own path. I have no doubt you will make good friends in your life, you have a lot to offer. ❤🙏
19 going on 20, I got no friends. I felt that!
same , turned 20 last week
Happy birthday guys I just turned 16
@@HannahBrowsley Congratulations , Happy Birthday to you too
@@HannahBrowsley happy borf yall, literally turned 16 too 2 days ago
@@blades50 Happy birthday !! I turned 2 weeks ago now
been feeling like this lately. im 19 about to turn 20 in september and am coming to the realization that i really have no one to talk to. no one to schedule plans with, no one to go and hang out and explore a restaurant nearby, no one... I see ppl who are my age that go out every weekend and have an established friend group and i feel very much of an outcast. i know God has something in store for me though, as well as he has something in store for you too.
I’m 20 and this is my exact situation. I used to hate it in the past but now I’m at peace with myself because it’s better to be by yourself anyways. And you’re right, God has a special plan for us!
Hi there! God can be your best friend!
Jesus Christ loves you. He is the only way to heaven. He also says "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest."
May God bless you! :)
Feel this. 19 boutta be 20 in Dec
This is my exact situation right now
Nah just be the one standing out and If i did hang around yk what I'm sayin not sayuibn AI had no friends at school but that graivaster towards goal year ot year because at 9th grade then 10th grade then then so so this ammount then uhmm 11th grade come then in this then this then we yk and I guesss this is because idk its just certain thing that just fall off yk what I;'m sayin cuz yk I would love to have friends ai havent have 2020 yuh 2020 yuh 2020
i love this, man.
stay true to yourself and keep your values close, I'm in the same boat as you right now and have no doubt in my mind that we will find the people that think the same way.
much love brother
I feel that too bro everyone I surround myself with has never stay when I stopped showing interest in the things they wanted. Happy you shared this no one goes though struggles alone
Loneliness doesnt always mean that you dont have anyone, sometimes it means no one has you. I been strugglin with this and you're speaking my mind bro
I had no friends at 20. Moved to a new city . Joined ymca and got a job as a delivery driver. Fast forward I ended up making friends at the ymca. My best friends till today. I joined the Air Force , that was I was training for. Went intel, traveled the world , made best friends for life, got my degree, got six figure job and now I’m a techno dj in NYC.
Yall never know. Don’t give up and go out and make friends by having similar interest.
I’m alone most of my time now, I’m 33, you end up appreciating it
thank you for making this video, it definitely helped alot, and i hope youre okay ❤
reflecting like this i think is important to keep your mental healthy, and i commend you putting your self out there by posting your raw thoughts on youtube. you seem like a honest man i think you are confident in the path you want to walk. i wish you the best finding people you feel a sense of community with.
Protect this man at all cost
I resonate with everything you said my brother. I honestly think we're blessed so that we can walk our own path and keep a clear mind. God bless you sir
thanks family , God bless you as well
"If you my friend you my brother" put into words what I've been trying to voice internally so damn long bro.
Much love and thank you for sharing your perspective and story 🫶
Appreciate the video bro, I feel understood, know you’re not alone. I’m turning 23 in July, no friends in sight, still single, and this has been on my mind heavy.
Keep going!
Honestly, cut out friends who didn't have the same ideals as me and I ended up with a handful of friends who I genuinely like. The best piece of advice I ever heard was "having a few high quality friends is better than having many low quality friends"
Tbh u can have friends that have different ideals than u. If u cut off people couse u disagree with them idk bro but thats not a healthy way to live. This just my opinion tho idk if its even compatible for ur situation
@@MARTISTICTENDENCIES generally i think this is true, but there are some ideals you can't compromise on
@@gills10975 ofc I agree
@@MARTISTICTENDENCIES Some people definitely do what you are saying based off stupid meaningless things like arguing in a video game however, if you guys disagree about something fundamental and you now know they think a certain way its way harder to EVER see that person as a true friend ever again unless one of you truly changes who they are. Whats worse cutting them off and finding new people or dealing with people who constantly think fundamentally different from you? Some people their entire life is based on religion, as someone who did not grow up with many religious values I find I will never become true friends with someone who bases everything off of "god did it" because I only truly believe in science and explanations like that will never make sense to me. Thats just one example and there are many other things, this does not mean I can't get along with these kind of people, they can never just be a true friend so why not cut them off and look for real people who think like me?
@@yungchimp i get what ur saying but i feel like a defference in vieuws should only be a problem when it interferes with yall relationship a lot. and i feel like people focus on those vieuws too much. im a very strong atheist too but I have friends that are religious and i can have open conversations about it but even outside of that topic we talk and do a lot of other stuff. one vieuw thats not the same shouldnt push people appart imo. if you cut people off that have different vieuws u dont agree with thats dangerous because u will stop challenging ur personal vieuws imo
We have a lot of love to give as (good) people. It hurts when there’s no one to give it to. I feel you dude 🤗
This happens because we don’t belong to the world, so the world rejects us no matter how hard we try to fit in. We belong to our Father and He is all that we need. At 23, I finally found friends out of nowhere! Don’t be disappointed, we all have our own paths in life. Also shoutout to you for sharing this! You’ve touched so many people who are going through the same thing, I guess we’re not ever truly alone.
Exactly!
I believe this too but I say God instead and it’s very true
The world isn't rejecting you the same way that you are rejecting the world because at the end of the day most of us too selfish and self centered to care enough about other people you just gotta find the right ones the ones that care about without fault and it takes alot of trial and error
@@wkkqewqaver7766 well said it’s true some don’t take their own accountability it’s a fault on both parts
Jesus Christ
I always try to make sure I don't follow the wrong people, making friends gets so much harder as life goes on. Many bad people to watch out for in this world.
95% of people in this world at least in North America are just straight up selfish, rude, egoistic, shallow…I currently work parttime at a library where I have to look after little kids and if there’s anybody that deserve my positive energy is these children, just so pure, cute, wholesome and whenever you show em love it’s guaranteed these lil angels are gonna show you love back, unlike most adults who would take your kindness for weakness
@@praneeldeb2087 I completely agree with you, I hope your job is going well. You seem to be a nice guy around those kids.
listening to you speak makes me feel like i'm looking into a mirror. i have all the same experiences, i'm not lonely because i have learned to enjoy my own company and would always rather choose to be alone rather than hang around people that i know i don't vibe with. i never enjoyed partying and such, i grew up in a lot of chaos so i enjoy the peace now. i get your feeling, it's like you're not sad about it, but if someone good came around it'd make you happier. this definitely made me feel less alone, you seem like a good man! i would be your friend for sure
if i get to know somebody then i wanna be close, i don't just like to be good friends i wanna bonded yknow, maybe that's why it can be hard for us when people don't want to share the same level of depth we desire
I just founded this video today and it really hits me in my feels bc I really don't have no one to talk to. I been going through some serious suicidal thoughts and since I have no one idk how to deal with it. But you sir really showed me that I'm not alone. I know I might sound corny but this is a really good video
Suicide is never the answer, try to allways stay busy, focus in the thing that motivate you and if you dont have a passion try new things, and in the process you may find people to hang with and be friends with. But one thing you have to know is that nothing comes at you if you dont chase it. Sometimes even if you are shy you have to be the one who starts the conversation because you never know when you are going to meet your best friend or the love of your life. Good luck bro. Hope all gets better.
hey dude if you wanna talk just lmk ill send you my insta or something i promise it gets better mate one foot in front ot the other
Stay strong brother
You have God and that is more than enough ❤️😘
aye bro, suicide never the answer!! we need ya here on this earth fr, you might not know me but if you ever wanted to vent to a stranger, myself and I'm sure many other people wouldn't mind!! everyone needs to talk yk
I have autism and I also have no friends, I’m polite, I have acquaintances that I like to keep in contact with ...but actual connection and friendship is just too exhausting !
In addition to my autism, I’m also introverted . I’ve always found peace with being alone, i can only deal with socializing for brief amount of time.... there’s nothing wrong with enjoying being alone, however if you used to be more sociable and are experiencing negative emotions, or are used to be more social and are withdrawing, then that’s when you know there’s something ls wrong, but if you’ve always been like that, it’s just who you are ❤
Bro…mad respect for you putting your complete honest feelings on the internet. Brave guy and be proud of that man! Friends are important and like you opened up in the video they should be there to do that kinda shit! Its shit that you’ve had peak friends in school and in your past but those guys do not define you, you are the same sick guy if that happened to you or not! Your mindset is the most important shit, do things that make YOU happy, if you think having friends will make you happier than choose to make the first step in meeting some new people, you gotta be sure of yourself for other ppl to be sure of you. You clearly a very strong dude, and TRUST ME I know u got this bro u can do anything u put your mind to with enough motivation!! Love brother❤️
You have a big heart brother ♥️ just wish everyone was a Lil bit just like you ❤️
Glad this popped on my timeline. In a similar situation sitting at the lunch table alone all that and having graduated may 2023 with 3 friends that was mostly rocking with me in school. Stay on your grind it'll all come in due time. Prioritize your Peace and Mental everything else will fall into place. Stay safe God bless 🙏🏿
same to you my friend 🌟
I wish I could just go through the screen, dap you up, and give you a big hug bro. You're a real one. Keep pushing through.
This really resonates with me. Life’s really lonely sometimes, but I think there’s ebbs and flows in it, not just in terms of it being good and bad, but also by how many people you have in it. We just gotta keeping thugging it out a little longer, it’ll be ok again soon
Things you talk about in this video are really connected with my journey. I'm 21 gonna be 22 soon, my highschool friends went other way than me as well. These people went for so wrong direction (hard drugs abuse, not doing shit for whole day etc. etc.) and I wanted so much to help em, ig they didn't want it. I decided to move out from city I was living in at that time. Best decision of my life fr. I have 2 people in my life that I call my brothers, and one of them is actually my brother. To be honest I feel blessed with being alone for most of the time. I just had to get my head right and being alone become something natural to me. I just hope y'all happy no matter if you do have friends or you don't, remeber that happines comes from you, not the people around you. Keep ya head up G, keep on grinding.
Showing love all the way from South Africa. Crazy how i found myself contemplating about the very same thing on my way home today, after having to spend time alone everyday at school. But through him we believe that its Only The Chosens Ones.
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I'm 23 just graduated colege. I dont fw nun ah the people from my college or home town anymore. Most "Friends" in school or at work or just going out dudes were never real friends. Last couple months I been locking in with my younger cousins and blood family. Our society says we need to meet all these new people. Your family has always been there, knows your good and bad and it's just easier. It's weird going out to the bars with my cousins I knew since they were kids but its still mad fun and you know they wont just ditch you. Going to hoop will always bring solid dudes too.
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Im 23 too, its no joke very sad how fake people are, its like its getting worse with time, our age group is wild as fuck with how snakey they act. I feel you on family bro, my cousin is one of the few people I really chill with.
@@clunt2548 Seriously platonic or not, its just so many fake people
@@TheRelaxingWind Honest to god bro
@@clunt2548facts bro i’m genuinely tired of it. everytime you try to be as loyal as you can, they backstab you the second they get the opportunity . all u need is ur self and family
I'm glad the algorithm led me to this speech because I've been having this thought for a minute. although our lives and situations are very unique, this touched the soul.
I'm 18, i have people to talk to at school but none of them are my brothers (people i talk to and hang with outside of school) and its been that way for a while. I'm graduating in a few days and I'm even moving out of state for college so I'm left with nobody, they're all partying and failing their classes.
i feel like they are my actual friends like we have similar humor and interests, at least when i first met them, but quarantine changed my life like many others would say and the things we had in common were just going completely left which would lead to moving on completely. i choose to be by myself because my environment doesn't allow for me to make friends that would grow with me, not entirely because i enjoy being by myself.
I always felt this way, never had any real friends before but I learn to enjoy time alone.
this video deadass made me feel like i was sat wit u, u got a calm vibe my dude and i feel this video on a personal level like fr fr. i needed this and i preciate u twin.
You make me feel so heard! Thankyou for posting this
I know how you feel bro. Stay true to yourself and in the end it will all be worth it trust me🙏
As someone who can relate to this I made it my goal for the friends I had in my circle that their goals including mine were always doing something in life and what I mean by that is investing in ourselves. But when we come together it feels like we were always hanging out. I grew out of the norm with people who just align themselves with having things in common that require substances or objects. It’s hard for me to find or make new friends because a lot of people aren’t on the same wave length as me. I don’t like small talk but having someone who does small talk but are on the same wave length as you. You can instantly sense the commonality between the both of you. I like to learn and research things because that’s life but I know for other people it isn’t the same they get stuck in the loop hole of having the wrong things in common. In this day and age it’s a dime a dozen to make friends.
You're pure man. Keep sharing love, we blessed ❤
Christ is always there for u bro, this was happening to me too, ima pray for u and just know He is above all, God bless
Bro exactly the same here. I feel like sometimes you just outgrow toxic people that arent adding value to your life. It feels like loneliness but it will all come back around 💪🏼♥️
Thank you for this video! I’m 23 (feel like the last 4 years have passed me by) and I am struggling with this right now. No one in my life has the same goals or ambitions and it makes it very difficult to keep pushing when you are your own support to move forward. I am moving forward but it feels like I’m in slow motion. I know there will be light at the end of the tunnel but it is TOUGH to say the least. I hope everything you and anyone who sees this has ever wanted out of life makes its way to you and keep moving forward. We got this!
I have no friends too man and it’s unfortunate in a time where I really need reassurance and clarity in my life and just a bit of freedom from the life I’m currently suffering in by the family I’m surrounded by, it genuinely sucks. I’m 22 just like you are and I too have left a group of ppl that never reached out to me nor ever included me in anything, it’s like at times I feel like a ghost people can see and hear but I’m never understood in what my heart wants which is just the love and understanding from another person in the world. It really hurts being alone in the world and the people in my circle really don’t even understand or care how truly isolating it feels to be in a position like that. I’m trying to get better but it’s just difficult when all the progress you gotta make an effort to be better in has to be development you make on your own.
Love this. Im so glad to see this. Honest and genuine. Hope you find some good people you click with ❤
I agree with you 100% man, I’m 21 and I probably never had good friends since childhood I had some “friends” who blocked me irl and online because I just wanted to reach out to them…it truly sucks, I go to this school and I hate it, classmates, students or even teachers sure their good people but they don’t feel like my friends. I’m looking forward on graduating this year so I can move on with my life and I hope everything works out alright in you’re journey bro.
For real for me it’s the same I hope you will friends that last and care what goinon in your life much love💜🧸
realeast video i think i've ever watched. this resonated with me so hard and im gettin emotional right now im legit going to a concert on my own in a month because i cut off a lot of my friends who seemed to be going down the wrong path and ain't treat me right. outside of school, i realized i aint got any real real friends fr.
that’s how it is but that means your in the top 1%
bro everything you said is exactly me rn, I’ve really learned to embrace that I’m doing things I enjoy and I don’t need a group of people to do it with.
You a real one when you can do stuff alone like that. It’s character and strength building. It’s also good you don’t sacrifice your morals for the actions of others.
thank you brother this is exactly how ive been feeling this past year but ive had no way to express this you lowkey opening my eyes to the reality of how i feeling
Thank you CZcams algorithm for blessing me with this gift of a video. Reminded me I’m not alone in this struggle and there’s still hope for all of us. Much love from Australia.
Love what you are doing brother, I feel the same way honestly. Never do something that you might regret just to keep friends if y’all locked in tight working towards a successful future in a modest way that is the kind of friends that stay with you for life. And I was just like as you said very stand off ish just in my own lane not going around with the others but, still a couple people that my ideals align with came back in my life a couple years after high school and have been a huge part of my life helping me become better and until I didn’t have them, the ones I consider my friends were my ma and pa and god, brother and essentially that is all you need just trust the process and keep your head up🤞🏼🪷
this is one of the best and most relatable vids i have ever seen. so much real preached in this. much love man❤.
I feel what you saying bro, all i can say is on to this feeling & never forget it even when you’re successful
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feel you homie, it'd be nice to have just a few genuine people to hang out with and share convos with. work, along with growing up in general really shows the real ones who you call actually call brothers. but yeah, most of the time its just being alone. especially if they have a significant other in their life and you don't. i love the 2 homies that i got and we check up on each other every once in a while but idk i just still feel alone most of the time. all good though, just gonna continue getting my money up and living life. great vid man, and its invaluable to have self awareness like you do. keep doing you!
remember that you're not the only one in this situation, I personally am going through the same process and yes it sometimes is quite sad or demotivating, but at the end of the day people like me and you and everyone else going through stuff like this at least understand this and understand that not everyone can be friends with everyone, and finding the right person to be friends with is better than doing stuff you don't enjoy or support.
Youll deffo find the right people, just gotta keep looking and keep being you!
I keep getting recommended videos similar to this subject this is the first I've engaged with, I think CZcams is trying to let me know that I haven't got any mates 😂
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Lmaooo me too they sneak dissing fr😂
currently looking for a job, and my phone is listening to it and recommends this all over YT.
LOL same
finna graduate in 10 days. throughout my whole high school years i always wanted to fit in until this year. i had many people i thought i could call my friends last year. now that they see i dont drink smoke go out too much or "have fun" they all never text or call. Ive recently been learning how to deal with rejection and loneliness, but i can finally say im starting to see the peace in it. I felt this on personal level bro, and i hope your future is bright and successful🙌🏾
Dont get too comfortable being lonely, its still good to seek out companionship. Waiting too long will decrease your social skills and itll just be harder and harder to make friends after that, especially not being in school. Its kinda like when you finally get over a break up and really enjoy the freedom, but eventually you know that you want a partner.
hopefully, if you plan on going to college/university take that opportunity to meet people and go outside of your comfort zone. Im not saying to get drunk every night, or smoke weed all day, But go to a party find people to hanguout with, take the opportunity in classes to make actual friends and not just classmates.
I relate to the things you were saying heavily, and my experience with school friends was looking back, what gave me alot of my self destructive tendencies now due to what was essentially being bullied by people I called friends. Only 2 of my school friends are my genuine best friends now, one of which didnt go to the same secondary as me. Its important to find people who make you feel good about being who you really are, you dont have to have all the same interests but big each other up and respect each other, enjoy each other’s company and support each other when you need them, life is too short to surround yourself with those that make you question your friendship and trust. Nothing is more important than genuinely being yourself and fucking with people who reflect that same energy with you.
You're not alone mate. Keep going strong and you'll find the right people on your way. Wish you all the best. Love
My story couldn’t be explained any better. I’m 17 and felt every word of this. Except I got "out of school friends" who weren’t doing anything good for themselves. I followed the wrong crowd to fit in just to realize that I’m meant to stand out.
follow your purpose
@@jaylinjenkinsonlywayisup forgot to reply but instant subscription after watching this. Watched your other videos "like the things of my past still haunt me" I would definitely like to personally talk to you in a dm.
Man I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels this way. Girls/relationships boyfriends can also break alot of friendships
Getting closer to 30,
Feels like the only 3,4 people i would call friends still mostly ask me if they need something or need a talk. Nobodys asking if i need something or how i am. Atleast they are sometimes there for me when im struggling and i appreciate that alot. My whole life i didnt knew and still dont know where im fitting in.
Just feels lonely at some point.
I can just tell you keep it up, i lost alot of motivation the last few years because of my depression and i feel alot of times that the only purpose in my life is to try and help somebody and maybe get a "thank you" from somebody.
For anybody reading this,
Dont loose your faith. You still have alot of time and time can heal almost everything(thats what i keep telling myself) Keep it up, u are not alone out here. I wish u the best for your future and thank you for taking your time and reading this. ❤
I know this may not pertain to you, but sometimes caring about people first is what gets people out of their shell and asking about you first. Most people nowadays are the same way as you where they have a history of people not making the first move so they just give up. No one is going to talk to each other if everyone has that issue. You will find that people will most of the time automatically care about you if you and ask how you are doing when you ask about them first and invest in their life. MOST OF THE TIME
You’re gorgeous, & you seem very sweet and down to earth☺️
Mannn, this is the realest shit I've ever heard. Just recently a "friend" that I was hanging out with have been on and off for the past 2 years I could barely call us friends anymore. Finally, I told him how I want to grow and become a better version of myself, how I didn't want the same things, activities anymore; we ended up "breaking up" our "friendship". I got told "You've Changed". I thought I was the only one, since the beginning I didn't get invited to sleepovers, hangouts, parties. That was until I stumbled apon you. Never had REAL friends, the struggle is real, but I can't compromise for a shitty situation.
Wish you the best, I can tell you're a genuine cool guy. Bless ya
At first, when I stumbled upon this video, I figured it was some cry for help and unrelated to me in any way. As I continued to hear you out, man it made me think. For my childhood up until 5th grade, I mainly kept to myself, playing video games all the time, taking pictures of anything and everything under the sun. My true friends were my cousins, yeah I had people at school, but they never clicked with me n I never cared to click with them. I was shy, but incredibly happy all the time, never outspoken, but the expressions on my face did the talking. Eventually I started writing music and stories of my life, even making short films on my DS, and spending time with my family nearly all the time. I can say for sure that life was great. The turning point for me was my envy for the people who had friends outside of school, the envy of everything they had…it consumed me. My depression kicked into overdrive and before you know it my life had turned completely upside down. Then, nearing the end of the 5th grade school year, this kid, who I had only talked to a couple times in elementary asked me a question on the way home on the bus, he said, “ Yo, you live around here right?” I replied, “yeah, in that neighborhood” he said “you should come over to my place, I got a trampoline” and in an instant my eyes lit up and my mind was free, this kid had ultimately changed my life in the most absolute way. Had it not been for him I believe you and I my brother would be in the same exact boat. You see, life is circumstantial, a chain of events that lead a long winding road. Today that kid is my brother, along with eleven others. However, the lonliness still resinates, still is a part of who I am, will always be a part of who I become. My point is bro, you may be cut from a different cloth, built to weather any storm, but you are whatever and whoever you are regardless. Through this I have learned that although I am surrounded by people, I will always be alone within my mind, because in that headspace, deep within my soul, I know that I will carry on…always. We are constants my brother, and we will never let the outcomes of life alter that. Stay true to yourself and may God protect you and your endeavors.