The one regret from high school that I still think about all these years later
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Girls: he must have moved on
Boys 50 years later:
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That never happens boys move as fast as women move
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“Embarrassment lasts a moment. Regret lasts a lifetime.”
Good quote
That ain't true. I still have embarassing moments race through my mind every day even decades after it happened.
@@KillTheLamb1 literally me
@@KillTheLamb1 Then embarrassing moments have been bigger than regrets.
Jesus saves.
Romans 10:9
Convinced me to tell her that I loved her. She said the same. Thank you so much
Huge
Good luck for your future, mine was bad
good job, soldier
Congrats man, and may your relationship last if it is to be Gods will, God bless you❤
Congrats dude
Lack of confidence is a killer, literally
"I am 63 years old and I still think about her and I still think about that night".
This sentence shook me to my core.
this is unhealthy
@@dungeonmaster6292I mean, you don't know that. Most likely, it's not like he sleeps every night with that memory haunting over him. He said his teenage years were terrible and that one experience probably marked a defining moment in his life. I don't think he is thinking "I should've gotten her", it's more like "how many things did I miss out on because of my fears of failure?", that experience being the enlightenment. I don't know him either, it is totally possible this is a deep-rooted trauma of an old man who might've not gotten to live his childhood, but I'm not here to make assumptions about him.
@@FSCreations168 nice response.
instead of admitting that you are wrong you try to evade it with complimenting the guys comment thats sad@@dungeonmaster6292
@@FSCreations168great comment
Moral of the story is, it is better to regret doing something than to regret not doing it.
IDK, I shit in a mop sink once while working at a 7-11 on 3rd shift, and I still regret that. I can't imagine regretting NOT doing that.
@@chipthamac😂😂
@@chipthamacAt least it's a funny memory.
better to try and fail, than not to try at all....
I wouldn't regret that at all! It means you're hilarious@@chipthamac
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Truly
What
Same here
Why is this man’s voice so incredibly soothing and peaceful
Thank you
@@lwall6710your voice really is!
One thing I can appreciate is older people telling the younger generation about mistakes they made it helps prevent them from happening again and makes us all better people. Thank you for sharing your story with us sir.
Thank you so much.
@lwall6710 you are very welcome keep it up!
Truly precious
@@lwall6710 :)
@@ElisPalace actually, i'm 14, and this video really change my perspective and my way to think about it
The fear of socializing is far less than the regret of a missed oppertunity.
Well said
It's not fear of socializing, alright, they socialized plenty. Laughed jokes teased he said. It's the fear of going after what you want because of the small petty things in life that hold you back, like an insecurity. Or poor self esteen. Ask out that girl. Apply for that dream school. What hurts more than not trying is your resulting self esteem.
I feel that. I will always be haunted by what I missed out on.
I don’t worry about enjoying my youth I wanna be great
@@brandonbeck6596 you can do both lol
Thank you grandpa I just turned 17 a few weeks ago and this video was quite a torch, regrets are the worst and I'll try my best!
That makes worthwhile for me I'm glad I helped.
@@lwall6710me, too
@@lwall6710 Listen to this young man. Take his advice like he took yours. Look for her. Have no regrets. you'll do fine.
If you are just 17, you should concentrate on your school and lessons, not girls. And you should be drinking your milk, play hide and seeks, soccer, learn to play musical instrument, etc. That is all.
@@mine1685 Haha honestly your right, it’s better to keep it simple instead of over complicating it 👍
Bro because of this video, I hope she’s at work today. There’s this girl I really wanna talk to, she seem intimidating as hellll but fuck it, her smile just does something to me. You done taught me a lesson today bro. I love you man ❤
Good luck
Go for it and good luck. Let me know how it went.
Can u tell us how it went
Sooo I guess im letting nature run its course a bit but me and her have started talking a whole lot more and flirting I guess?? I think it is at least. I’m not gonna wait for the right moment anymore but I definitely wanted to feel her out a little bit, so tomorrow will be the day cause she’s not here at work today so wish me luck on the morrow! 🫡
@@prcsn9618good luck you got this
This video has made me realize im wasting my early 20s by being so afraid of socializing. This video will change my life from now on
Same bro I’m 20 this is perfect timing
I wasted the past 2 years by staying in my comfort zone and avoiding social events and stuff, but now i realized that i was in the wrong path and wasting my adult life, i started to show up to social stuff and i'm willing to join university clubs, talk to more people and stuff... best of luck bros
Man I just suck at starting conversations
Man! If I was where y'all were, I'd invite you out to dinner 🙂
@@ryan_3113gotta start somewhere
we really need more elderly people recording videos of themselves and uploading them to youtube!! You guys have a lot of untapped wisdom from your accumulated experiences in life. Thank you for your story.
lol, no
Most boomers are dangerously out of touch with modern reality.
@@youcantbeatk7006 the video he made didn't have anything to do with life advice, so saying most boomers are out of touch with reality doesn't apply anywhere. it was just a story from his early years about something that he really regrets. it is up to each one of the viewers to interpret it the way they see fit. i also believe that it would be nice if more elderly people, and people in general, start sharing videos of stories like these so everyone realizes that it's a part of life to regret some choices you've made in the past. maybe, this way you might even find people going through situations similar to yours.
@@dimitrisg63 I'm not commenting on the video directly. I'm replying to this main comment. My reply entirely applies and is relevant. What are you talking about?
@@youcantbeatk7006 you're dangerously out of touch if you truly believe that
It could be like a only fans for old guys.. they could make hella money off there wrinkled juicey wisdom knowledge brainzzz… 😂😂
its so criminal that guys are expected to make the first move all the time
It’s in our blood, the hormones should drive us if their balanced. Guys lead, girls follow, it’s biology.
I hear ya on that!
It's why I say he dodged a bullet. You don't want to be with a woman that's going to lecture on how you need to treat her because she's entitled to it as a woman. The women that put in as much as they expect are the only ones worth dating.
bc they are.
That's the nature of attraction, it is not criminal. It is how it is.
Dang this really shows that sometimes you really just need to stop worrying about what others think and just live life.
Yeah man have to learn regarding caring about ourselves
My dad once told me
A coward dies a hundred times while a warrior only dies once that made change my outlook at life
What does that even mean?
Make it Make sense
Ur dad's wrong its actually the opposite. In my case every setback i get, everytime society stomps on me I come back stronger. I say if uve only "died once😅" then u are a coward
Elaborate
@@thetruth8857if you don't make a move you will make out a thousand possibilities none of which would be real
But if you make your move their would be only one possibility, the reality
Got rejected in my senior year but I’m glad I at least tried. The thought of what could’ve been would haunt me if I never tried.
It's always better to try, I learned the lesson that night
@Iwall6710 Hey, i wish the best for you
Same, if I never tried I never would've known
It was more straightforward back in the day without social media. If you got rejected, that's the end of the story. Nowadays, if the girl was really mean, she could brag and post about it on her social media and really make you the laughingstock for everyone to pick on. Moral of the story, courtship was more refined and dragged out before the days of the internet, when landline phones were the closest thing you have to a two-way communication back then.
Same bro same but atleast we can say we tried that’s what matters most live life with no regrets
I watched this video last night before going to bed. I have been going back and forth this is pretty girl in the gym but never really did anything past that. But today I talked to her the entire class and then after school walked to her car with her and managed to get the courage to ask for her phone number. This video has changed my outlook on life and I just want to say thank you for inspiring me.
This is why I do these videos. I wish you luck in your new relationship.
@@lwall6710 Thank you
good luck soldier
are you guys dating now?
Are you married yet?
I remember looking a woman in the face and her smile and eyes have just been stuck in my head since that day. Lost contact with her but I think about her often. She was so beautiful
Her eyes were almost black her pupils were so big. Just the small ring of blue as she looked into my soul
I saw a girl like that i still think about her but i know she dont want me
@lovechants you won't know until you try:)
@@infectieonYou think that you know, but you don't know!
I have no idea why this video got recommended to me, but listening to your story actually hurt... There are so many cases of this happening, it's wild. Thank you for sharing this advice with the internet, sir
o7
@@r_adG7 gang don’t relate
@@immanuellasco3152 nah i’m saluting
Jesus loves you!
Same man
i can feel the pain in his voice, he's reminiscing about an experience he had dozens of years ago, a small encounter that sticked to his mind, regret sucks.
more than dozens almost 50 years ago
Hence the plutalisation, I assume. It only take 4 dozens to get there..
brutal
stuck
Hey there. The biggest mistake and regret you can make is not following the God that created you!
The purpose of your existence is to be joyful, peaceful, and fulfilled bringing glory to God your creator!
Jesus Christ says:
"Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest." -Matthew 11:28
For more info, open the Bible to John 1.
May God bless you! 😊
I'm 41. We've all been there dude. It's just the sad reality of life. You didn't do anything wrong. It's in the past. Your best days are always ahead of you. Never forget that.
This man had married at 56 ,what he was doing before getting all the time , you better know brother , he has that regret which eat him from inside.
The main regret we will all have is not loving others enough, thank you for sharing sir.
Thank you for watching and commenting.
you have no idea the impact that this three minute video has had on millions of adolescents. and from this, i know for certainty you have made an enormous impact on everyone around you in your time just made felt by your presence. a “thank you” is just not enough for the gratitude we all feel for having you.
Thank you so much. It's amazing that I seem to be helping so many people. It's exceeded all my expectations. I appreciate everyone who watches my videos. I also enjoy reading and responding to the comments.
@@lwall6710nice name 🤙🏻🤙🏻
I don’t know you but I feel your regret . Thank you for your message , the only thing we have is time my friend. Much love to you from a small town in New Zealand.
As a man with anxiety disorders and pretty low self esteem, I feel your pain man. Socializing is hard
i would get anxious just going out to hang with my best friend and i hate parties and people i dont know i feel worried about what to say too much, ur not alone
Hey guys, if youre really planning to improve your social skills, then hating it is going to bring you nowhere
I used to be this way. I used to HATE going up to people.
But let me tell you, im reaping the rewards now. Im going in on social situations comfortably now and talking to whoever i want
This is my advice:
Youve got to love it. Learn to love it.
I know its hard, but you HAVE to change the doom and gloom mindset.
How are you going to get what you want if all you expect is disaster and discord?
Replace negative thinking with positive thinking. Trust your gut. Move when it tells you to
From here on out, its down to you guys if you wish to improve or not.
Only way to beat anxiety is to literally force it out your system. Put yourself in those uncomfortable social situations and face them head on. Once you realize everyone is as pussy as you are when it comes to talking you’ll feel way better
@@Patrick-pu6xg I imagine an awesome alternate universe where everyone plays Twisted Metal instead of Call of Duty
Agreed.
I'm 22 years old, and my love story began in 9th grade when I fell for a girl who was a year younger than me. Back then, I was a shy old bastard, hesitant to make a move. Over the course of three years, she and her friends knew about my feelings for her, yet my own fear and shyness kept me from expressing them directly. But as my 12th grade was nearing to an end, I realized that if I continued like this, I'd lose her forever. Summoning all my courage, I finally approached her. Since then, in 2024, we're still happily together. So, to all those held back by fear, take it from me: face your fears and embrace the opportunity for love
😭😭 i believe she's for you, brother! may you both spend loveliest years together! love lots 💞💞
anxiety and self esteem is no joke and it really is so hard to just deal with. I don’t even the tiniest bit blame younger you. you were scared and shy❤️I feel like she had some sort of expectations too. I don’t think she was in the right honestly. bless your soul❤️❤️
I’m a 29 year who works in an ICU. It’s a painful reward witnessing how short life truly is.
Best way to spend life is for God. If you believe in Jesus Christ you will have eternal life in His kingdom! 😊
@@Jesus_Christ_loves_you_alot bruh
No you won’t. And your comment proves you’re only believing in it because you’re scared of dying and can’t accept that you’re not eternal. It comes from a place of ego and selfishness.
@@Jesus_Christ_loves_you_alotBest way to spend life is for yourself. If you believe in yourself, you can have in amazing life in YOUR world.
@@SuperYtc1 Actually the truth is that God has a chosen, set apart and holy people who Christ was specifically sent for, which is what the Bible teaches, as well as other historical writings. Not everyone can know God and his people do have eternal life after death.
A lot of young men need to hear this. Thank you Lawson.
You're Welcome, and thank you for watching and commenting.
Guys are not “supposed” to make the first move 🤦♂️ woman can equally as easily do it, she coulda gone and sat next to him
@@jms9605okay but typically men do the first move if you gon wait for a girl to make the first move then you gon miss out on a lot and be single for a long time
@@gguerrero6063 as much as i hate to admit it this is facts
@@gguerrero6063plus girls have way more options than a guy would have. They can live with that mentality because they know another guy soon/immediately will be waiting to ask them out. A guy however if he screws up once letting a girl he really likes slip away because of fear it is damaging. May not get another chance for a long time depending on the type of guy.
You know what though? He’s right: there’s a good message for younger people that it’s better to take a chance than to live a life of regret. But nobody ever gives any advice to older people, so let me take a shot. I’m 47 (younger than you but not young) and I’m successful with a wonderful wife and daughter. And I have lots of those regrets from my youth. A gorgeous girl I worked with in college who every guy wanted. She never paid attention to any of them. On her last day, before she moved across the country, she told me she’d spent all of this time waiting for me to ask her out. The failures and regrets are part of what made you who you are. Anything you’ve accomplished or that makes you happy now, might not have happened if it weren’t for the things that happened before. So for old guys with regrets, life is short and full of mistakes. Give yourself a break and let it go.
She sounds dumb. Why didn't she at least try to initiate anything with you then😂
So do you never think about her ?
You didn't miss out on much. She threw a tantrum over one mistake you made. If I had not forgiven the stupid stuff my boyfriend did when he was nervous to take me out, then I'd have missed out on the greatest man I could ask for.
he didnt make a mistake. girls can make a move too. guys have fears and emotions too. its so disgusting that mens feelings are just disregarded from birth to death.
@@BULD0SISFACTS
@BULD0SIS true
Exactly (both to @AshleyFoltz and @BULD0SIS). Also, we never know if that girl would be a good partner/wife, maybe she would be totally awful, not forgiving even a simple mistake, so living with her would be a total nightmare.
As an introverted , shy guy with low self-esteem this story is like a wake up call for me
pipe ya sh1t bud, just coz someone doesn't look good don't mean he can't pull 🤣 @@djwizzwizz1800
@@djwizzwizz1800exactly lose some weight for bare minimum, pretty easy
My advice would be to go on long hard runs, once you’ve done long cardio you won’t care about anything because you’re completely exhausted, then go approach people and girls
@@peezy1942bro said “ppl and girls” like females aren’t ppl too?😭😭😭
@@peezy1942 sooner or later you'll burn fat and your facial features become more prominent which can lead to looking more "handsome"
Lawson: A quick glance at the comments will tell you that your story has positively impacted tens of thousands of young people who are currently going through struggles similar to those that you dealt with as an adolescent. I would encourage you, from here on out, to think of that rather than the shame and regret that currently accompanies thoughts of that story. Thank you for your courage and willingness to share this with us. God bless!
This exact video happened to me, and im only 18
theres only 996 comments.
@@user-tq4qu8rf6y Yep but the comments give the general mood of all the people who watched the video, over 100,000 of them.
@@user-tq4qu8rf6yit just hit the algorithm this shits boutta blow up
@@user-tq4qu8rf6ydoesn’t mean people didn’t see this video and learn from it. not everyone comments buddy.
Mr. Wallace, I'm glad I finally clicked on your video. It helped shed light to my life, and for what its worth, thank you.
You're welcome, I'm glad I was able to help.
Nawww feel better sir! I’m a woman and I feel no shame from being the one who made the first move cuz I noticed that my now-boyfriend was really shy and had a lot of self-doubt. Best decision that I had made my entire life and now we’ve opened up to each other and even joke about it ❤️
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Women like you should exist everywhere. ❤
Regret is an illusion, you're creating fantasies in your mind of what could've happened and about what happened in that moment. And in the moment you didn't make any moves because you were too busy fantasizing in your mind about what could go wrong. So the lesson is.. stop thinking about the past and the future and live in the moment. One moment from the next thoughts arise and pass and so do emotions. Don't let that shit define who you are.
your comment is worth its weight in gold
But if I'm like 90 years old, then what's the point in living in the moment? I would rather live in the past and just think of the old times. Sometimes, it's just too late to live in the present.
@@space_quartz That's the whole point, you're 90 years old, your chances of dying or falling ill every day are grim. That is why you should focus all your efforts into doing as much stuff that you wish you could've done as you can that you weren't able to do.
Thank you for the summary
This comment is gas. living in the past is irritating to me.
It's really incredible how one decision could change people's course forever.
its not just one, what if things worked out but she would cheat later on?
Perfect example of the butterfly effect
@@lxsr7021 be optimistic :), always
It doesn't really. But your ego loves that you believe it.
brutal
i’m grateful to have stumbled upon your video
I'm glad you found it, and I hope it helps.
the best way to conceptualise regrets is to understand that no matter what could have been chosen, there will still be regret. and most importantly it is a natural part of being human
This hit me hard because I had some girls flirt with my in high school but my self esteem was so low due to emotional harassment from my “friends” that I didn’t think I was good enough for them and I was convinced they only saw me as a friend. Even when girls alluded to wanting to hang out, I still felt completely inferior. The idea of a girl liking me was not fathomable until I left high school and dropped my crappy “friends”. I even had a particular girl that I knew 1000% she was into me but I still was too scared to ask her out or anything. I think a scary amount of people can relate.
But on the bright side of things, those experiences taught me that I can’t go through life being scared of petty stuff and I needed to develop a stronger mental frame.
You’re a very tough soul to express your emotions like this to the world and I would love to shake your hand or even give you a hug.
Thank you :)
Man I can't relate to anything closer then this.
Relatable..
Literally me, dude hate those type of “friends, they ruin you.
Same man. I kept people around who put me down constantly simply for fear of being alone.
Then when I was genuinely alone, and was able to really dig deep and reflect, it didn't take long to figure out my problems were all self inflicted.
@@Tisrokyeah some friends like those who put you down are a waste of time. You’d rather be alone. Your a better friend to yourself than anyone else.
To all my brothers across the world, go for it! We aren’t going to get handed a family, we have to go for it. Stay confident and stay positive fellas 🫡🙏🏾
But if we do make a family, there is over a 50% chance our family will be stolen away from us.
@@CruceEntertainment Don't have that mindset about it, Just do it!
@@CruceEntertainmentey. Life’s a risk homie
no im not going to embarrass myself over delusions
@@arctickore6601you are limiting yourself by saying that, just go for it if you get rejected just move on I got rejected by 2 guys just these past 3 months I’m telling you it’s not a big deal(btw I’m a girl)
I'm 22. Sadly, I couldn't summon the courage to confess to her. My loss.
I love when people share their wisdom like this. It helps us younger folk who like to listen. Thanks Lawson!
You're welcome, I'm glad you liked my video.
@@lwall6710 thanks Lawson! Much love
theres a girl liked since i was in 4th grade. I've been too scared to ask to her out, in im 11th grade now. hearing this gave me the courage to ask her on a date.
Edit: I asked her an she said yes!
Good luck bro, hoping you succeed 🙏💯
Did you do it?
YEAH!
NICE
King
a teacher in middle school had a poster on the wall that i remember vividly. the poster had a quote that has stuck with me for 10+ years. “better to try and fail, than to never have tried at all”
It's a true statement.
That's exactly my outlook in life. I get livid when someone says they won't do something (that may be good for them, like going to sleep, or tidying up your room, or studying) because "I don't want to" like what? It's happened multiple times in my life and I just cannot comprehend how one doesn't even try to try.
@@chrome8418 Bro, google chrome is spitting some facts right here
Better to love and lost than to never have loved at all
My dad regrets a lot of life decisions and saw me doing the same mistakes, I wanted to pursue some dream of mine but I fear the long road ahead and the huge sacrifices then he told me that quote "better to try and fail, than to never have tried at all". We were sitting on an empty beach watching the sunset and soaking our legs in the sea.
CZcams won't stop recommending this video to me, so here we go.
Same bro but im too scared 😭
@@miintyfreh4943 I never got around to actually watching it
4 years passed, I still think and love her. I am just 20
It’s been 2 years for me still think of her everyday 🤦♂️
hey man, im currently 16 and am struggling with a lot myself. you make me feel normal and i just wanted to thank you for it!
Become Walter White. Get an ego and use it to fuel your confidence.
Proud of you G 🤞
@@langolingoworst advice. There’s a fine line between arrogance and confidence
@@genabrianna7267Sometimes to find that balance you need to experience both ends of the spectrum.
@astoncreg I think you didn't finish the show my guy 😂
Being a teen in the 70s was always a unachievable dream of mine. Turns out guys experience the same social problems and issues we have today.
If anything it was worse with more stigma around mental illness. You couldn't turn to the internet too to find that millions of other people were experiencing the same problem. Sounds like hell honestly.
I always got rejected so now I just take care of me!!
@@stevo6891what would they say or do?
@@66777jasonYes, but you also didn’t have the internet to entertain and distract you constantly, you pretty much were forced to approach people otherwise you were just gonna be alone. That’s why more men than ever are lonely
lmao little timmy did you think the 70s were exactly like the movies?
You just gained a new subscriber, I could listen to your stories about anything
Thank you so much
I have to thank those guys at CZcams, one hell of an algorithm, to bring me here at 1 am
330 am here lol
I'm pushing 30 and I still regret not dating Tiffany in 9th grade. I'll never live that one down.
F..mate
You think she got banged already by another dude? Or do you think there's a slight chance Tiffany is still thinking about you and possibly waiting on you?
Her name is Tiffany... Trust me you dodged a bullet
@@runecape465right he prolly would’ve divorced her by now😅
@@runecape465hahaha I was looking for this comment
This hits so hard. You making these videos is helping a lot of us young guys not to make mistakes and to take the risks. Thankyou Sir
She was probably with some chad.
yesh its much better to get rejected by the girl than by your own conscience when the opportuntiyy passes
Its funny bro life goes on, who cares if u didnt start a girl in high school i didnt start a girl who wanted to kiss me.. life goes on
@@BigRoqq most likely on the carousel. literally
That’s why I never use a rubber or pull out.
It's been 8 years. I keep thinking about her, and the worst thing is that i will continue doing so until the day i die.
this video inspired me to tell her i got friend zoned but im glad i tried thank u
Im in my 20s and i appreciate you sharing this. I used to be like this, but i realized something: you miss 100% of the shots you dont take. And that percentage only gets lower by taking shots. And no one remembers you for the shots you miss, only you do. But they remember you for the one you made.
Fuck yeah dude
Hey nowww!!!!
TRUE
You cannot "miss" if an action does not take place. That is like saying you missed a flight that you never even attempted to "catch."
@@Iamonepercent .... uh yes. That is partly the essence of it and its point. the chance of success only comes by action. no action, then youve guaranteed failure before you even attempted.
I think the biggest thing that has surprised me in this life is that getting older doesn’t solve anything. I am 24 now and still have the same fears and insecurities that I did when I was 14. Courage does not come at the absence of fear, but in the midst of it rather. We translate our feelings and impulses into something we convince ourselves to be true. Truth is beyond anything that we think/feel. Are you afraid? Then choose courage, even if your feelings don’t match. We have to choose things of value and shape our lives around such things, if you are waiting for the feelings to come you will be waiting until you die having accomplished nothing. I am 24 and not yet old to most, but the irony is If we have the same fears and anxiety all of our life then what difference does age make? It’s the choices we make and the lessons we gain from them.
I'm 17 and scared of becoming old
@@iiCounted-op5jx15 and same
@@iiCounted-op5jxunfortunately mate it inevitable
@@iiCounted-op5jxjust live life to the fullest go out to them social events,ask that girl out,go for that job cause realistically we only have one shot at this thing
@@jackwalker2074 its too late for me, there are no social events to be attended, no girl to be asked out because I never see anyone my age and haven't seen a real person my age since before the pandemic, I will forever be destined a life full of loneliness and depression, I already missed out on high school because I had to be homeschooled, I won't be going to college because I can't do the work and also can't afford it, its truly over my dude
I am 20 years old now,and i regret not making the first move,it has been 5 years since i met her,3 years ago since last time i saw her and the idea of her still haunts me till this day.
I’m currently a junior in high school. I just wanted to really thank you for this video, mainly because this year has been really tough, and so seeing things like this really just brightens my day to see others giving advice and sharing stories like these to the younger generations. Thank you so much for this
Man I feel you all the way, junior year really has been tough
As a girl, I appreciate all the comments saying it’s okay for a female to make the first move. I’ve only asked out one guy in my life and I was rejected so hard, I feel I got ptsd from it lol. He basically told me it’s the guys job to ask me out, not the other way around. Then looked me up and down and said “so.. what’s wrong with you?” He then told his friends and they all laughed at me for the rest of the school year so yeah.. good times lol. My social anxiety shot up from there and I patiently waited to be asked out ever since. (Ps. It never happened and I got too comfy being single so my fate is sealed 😅)
He wanted to boost his ego by putting you down. That's all there is to it. There's nothing wrong with asking a guy out first, I do it all the time. The issue is, you should ask guys out when they show some type of interest first, like engaging in conversation and overall looking like they enjoy talking to you. Both girls and boys are put aback from being asked out completely randomly. Typically, you notice them, they notice you, you notice them noticing you, then you can make a move. Walking up to someone with no prior banter or connection is a sure fire way to get rejected.
@@girlthattalkstoomuch9425 Yeah, I agree but you’re assuming I asked out a random which again, my social anxiety could never. I was classmates with the guy for years. He always played around with me in class calling me cute nicknames and what not. Pretty much gave mixed signals the last year of high school so I said why not and was curved hard lmao. Forgive me for trying 😭
@@Remss777hey wanna hang out?
@@enesakn9252nice try, brother 😂😂😂
95 percent of women are chasing the top 5 percent of men. Not all women but alot need to lower your standards respectfully said 👏
this girl I met in the military was damn near the most beautiful girl I ever met. She liked me and I liked her. Didn’t make a move. This was 4 years ago but I still regret not making a move. I don’t regret things normally but damn. I understand the feeling man.
If she liked you, that's on her as well.
Is it too late to try reaching out? Or are you scared she'll think less of you for it?
@@joshuarobert7192 oh she’s married now with kids. No way I’m reaching out
@@ReckSaber3664 I’m telling you man reaching out might give u some closure!
there are more important things in life than lying about being in the military bro. youre a loser
Thank you for sharing your story. Right from the heart. I hope this lady you speak of, sees this video and contacts you. Put a closure on the past. God bless and good luck.
After the video went viral I looked for her on Facebook. She died a year ago.
Thank you so much❤ because of you i was able to overthink a lot of stuff.
You made me Even more realize that you only have this one life. ❤
I remember having a crush on a girl that I lived near at 16 and I think the feeling was mutual but was too afraid to let her know, I figured I was young and eventually I would break out of my shell and let her know. We both had summer school together and she was killed in an auto accident during a break in between classes. The guilt that I have for feeling like I could've stopped her from getting in that car as well as not just letting her know and getting past my fear of rejection still haunts me and it has been 23 years now.
If you have the chance to do something do it, there are very few things that I have mustered up the courage to do that I look back on it and go "man, that was as bad if not worse than I can imagine" and live with regret for doing it. I will always live with the regret of what if and will never be able to turn that part of my brain off.
Wow that was unexpected. So sorry to hear that, i hope you are doing well
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Jesus man. Nothing like that’s ever happened to me but I can understand that feeling. That’s terrible man I’m sorry that happened
@@machclip Thank you, I appreciate the kind words. Not trying to bring the mood down but just something that has stayed with me and if I can help someone else from having to go through that then it was worth the time to post.
@@WestonSpicer Thanks for the kind words. Felt if it could help someone it might be worth posting 🙂
the fact that you have the courage to talk about your own mistakes and things that you think you did wrong in your life really shows how much you matured, thank you for that video, it really made me think about a lot of things
Hey could u explain what did he said ?
@@YuvrajSingh-ol9gu He went to highschool in Japan for some time. While he was there, he met a girl that he liked, but he was very shy and insecure about himself. Because of that, they never got into a relationship. He still regrets this very much. He also said he wrote a book about it, which i think is in the bio of the video.
@@seffuncken ohh sad to hear that ! Thanks tho
Thank you for sharing this story Mr Wallace!
This has inspired me to finally tell the story of an experience from around the same time in my life that I haven't been able to shake. Thank you for sharing, and thank you for the much needed motivation.
It's crazy to think that the immediate fear and pain of going for the approach and putting yourself out there is scary until you get the REGRET bill later and it's recurring (unless you let go). I've had moments like you did and that was enough pain to start socializing and ask girls out even if I look dumb or get rejected. It's nothing compared to the regret you feel later.
Yeah I don’t think people should be so quick to neutralize these feelings. They’re there for a reason, our mind thinks about what could be for a reason, “living in the moment” is often false/premature enlightenment that makes people feel like they don’t have to do anything.
How do deal with the rejection I asked one out and got rejected, now I see her alot in public and she's told her friends and they giggle at me everytime I see them,I feel a deep shame and regret for asking even if it was months ago
That's why I choose not to live with regrets. It's not all that healthy. I don't choose to run at the same speed as others. I have my own path to follow.
@@ballchinian838Anyone who would do to you is a sad human and you dodged a bullet with that one, It’s merely a reflection of them and not yourself, That’s if they are laughing at you, They may not be and you’re just thinking it, our brains love to lie to us and make up situations that’s aren’t true, Regardless keep trying man, It’s really all you can do the shame will lessen and lessen the more times a person puts themselves out there, You need to have the mindset of whatever I tried if it doesn’t work out, a wise man once said you miss every shot you don’t take, Take them all at least a few will land and whichever ones don’t really don’t matter in the long run anyways, Not everyone will like you and that’s just reality but in the end you will get what you need and the majority of times you didn’t get what you wanted because you deserve better, Hope some of my advice helped you all the best👌
@@ballchinian838tell her to stop laughing about it
i'm glad I've come across this video at 17. I too have made some mistakes, but thank you for letting me know to take that chance. Thank You sir you may have changed my life 🙏
I regret not finish college😢now at 26 I can’t find a job , I’m dependent on my parents, it sucks
Please don’t play with your studies
fr just remember that if your sitting their worried about possible bad outcomes, none of those matter compared to what good can happen. Ive made some mistakes but once I started just going for it its SO much better to find out by trying then just worrying or regretting what could have happened.
same.
@@belle3055 "There are people who pursue a career at 60 or older; 26 is a very young age. There are people who would kill to be your age again."
@@belle3055 you can’t find a job? I promise you that you can find a job literally anywhere you just choose to not work bc u don’t like the idea of the jobs that are available to you
I am 29 and I've never asked someone out in person before. There was this woman at work I've always been so interested in but too afraid to ask and after watching this I finally just bit the bullet and asked. It didn't turn out the way I'd hoped but this helped me realize regret is way worse than momentary fear and embarrassment.
This video and the person who made it are precious. keep being precious man.
Get yourself surrounded by extrovert people who do not judge anyone and you will have the best time ever
That's actually good advice, thank you.
i agree thats an awesome idea. im sociable and know how to socialize but im not a social butterfly so i stay to myself mostly. i had a really great friend (he passed 2 years ago. RIP KG) who was the social butterfly and connected so many ppl together because of his energy. he would invite me out when he does go out and id just enjoy being out and amongst others even if i didnt know any of them :)
and how do i do that?
quit being so sour@@fybsss
I’m an introvert myself, I can tell u guys, it’s not easy to get ur self surrounded by those type of ppl.
I hope this man goes viral
He probably will in a few years
He will
Lol it’s already happening
Damn hype is real
He will be viral
I love this and your story ❤ God bless you! And may you find everlasting peace 😊
Thank you for sharing this story. I have learned an important lesson because of it. I'm sorry you have lived with such regret. Sending love.
I'm 22 and I wasted my teenage years through high school doing the exact same thing, and only now am I trying to make amends for it and be more outgoing and keen to social queues and it's given me experiences that I never would have thought myself capable of enjoying. I've met someone that I truly love and I hope to never lose that. In a sense I regret not doing this sooner but at the same time I would have never met her if I hadn't. I'm not old by any means, but it's never too late to try :)
It's never too late, the important thing is doing it. Thank you for watching and commenting.
Same, we all made mistakes and regret in our lives but it doesn't mean that our journey is not over yet. We all have our own battles and facing our demons.
brother,I'm also 22.I too regret alot of things I did not do in my life,seriously looking for a girlfriend.I hope I make one by the end of this year.
dont be desperate and choose someone who's not meant for you though, take your time, find the one for you@@jaskiratsinghsaddal4728
I'm in the same situation. 22 now, had almost 0 female interaction till 20 mostly cause i wasn't happy with the way i was and had major insecurities and confidence issues, but i worked on myself, went to gym + bit of personality change, and now i finally feel like giving it a go. Did fall for a girl and took my chances with her last year, didnt go well, but i'll keep trying
I always try to tell myself that other people won't remember anything I do, and I will forget it all sooner than later as well. But when I see this, I doubt it. The thing is, though, not having tried is usually much worse than having done the thing ending up awkward/weird/cringy. But it's so much scarier to take that chance.
This is true. I'm in my mid 50's now. My wife and I were following this same trajectory. Last two years, I pulled out my money and invested with her wealth manager. Not catching up with her profits over the years, but at least I earn more. I'm making money even before retiring, and my retirement fund has grown way more than it would have with just the 401(k). Haha.
I think this is something I should do, but I've been stalling for a long time now. I don't really know which firm to work with; I feel they are all the same but it seems you’ve got it all worked out with the firm you work with so i surely wouldn’t mind a recommendation.
Insightful... I curiously looked up her name on the internet and I found her site and i must say she seems proficient, wrote her an email outlining my objectives. Thanks for sharing.
Mistakes are burdens to carry on through life so they can never be redone, not to cause suffering to oneself but to cause remembrance for future encounters.
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing what many of us are too embarrassed to admit. Much love :)
This made me realize the gift of not being shy. Sometimes we take for granted what others may spend their whole lives wishing they could have. Thank for you sharing your profound story 🖤
Narcissistic
As someone who’s been very quiet and introverted my whole life, thank you for your comment. I feel sometimes people don’t realize we don’t choose to or want to be quiet, we just struggle with talking and being more social. Never take anything for granted
@@Mv-bb5ou I was actually replying to Ray, but this reply was very nice, so thank you! Keep being yourself too bro, don’t change for anyone :)
im jealous of you. I’ve been blessed with looks but cursed with shyness
@@Mv-bb5ou Honestly yeah. As someone with social anxiety my whole life and panic attacks this kinda is a bit insensitive in my opinion.
These three minutes helped me more than years of school. Im currently 24, soon 25, and this short speach was so powerful so I am motivated to chase my dreams. Speak with people. I have full empathy for you. But I dont want to make the same mistake. Working on my self more. Sir I really needed this speech. Thank you.
These kinds of responses make my day, thank you so much.
Im turning 24. Im scared man. I really wish i was not born in this time or to be exact, i really wish i have more experience and daring to do things.
And relating to the man in video, on my birthday, i am want to send an apology letter to a girl from highschool too. We had a thing but i left her hanging. I might send it but who knows because im still hesitating.
@@lwall6710 you’re a great guy and I’m so sorry this happened to you. Don’t let it eat you up anymore. You never know what coudve happened, in a relationship things change drastically IMO. sometimes things work out certain ways for certain reasons
@@heyykenn9099 I just got to know your situation from your short text. hence i am not well informed but if you asked me i would send it. worst thing is that nothing happens. dare to jump over your shadow, give yourself more reasons to be proud of yourself. you can do it
@dasgelbevomei1 okay. I will send it. And also i forgot to add, we have the same birthday. Thats why im sending it in out birthday. I just want to say that im sorry for what i did and my goodbye. Theres no need for her reply or forgiveness. Shes got every right.
Thank you so much for motivating me. The video and all the comments here
love you for sharing that man! I wish to have that kind of boldness to share such stuff at your age
as a girl with social anxiety and tons of insecurities, i fricken' wish i could change for the better. i'm aware that i'm wasting my teenage years due to these fears, but it's hard to know where to even begin when you've lived like this for so long and never gotten any help or really even talked about it. i'm forcing myself to be nothing but miserable when i should be having the time of my life at this age. i've already tried several times to improve my health but it always ends in failure. it all just feels hopeless at this point.
i feel the same, how bad is your social anxiety on a daily basis?
This is my regret as well. It's been roughly 15 years and I can't stop thinking about my crush, even though she knew that I liked her. The pain of being rejected may last as long, but it will never be as bad as the regret of allowing those precious opportunities to slip away. I would give anything to go back now. Hearing your story makes me feel very sad.
Same here but got rejected.
If your tripping over your crush rejecting you you need to focus on yourself more
@@randomdude4946how? She told her friends afterwards and they laugh at me everytime i see them feel awkward asf, made me regret asking 😢
@@ballchinian838 eye openning isn`t it? Just made you more sure that she was never the one to begin with, move on with your life. Hope you the best
get over it
I’m 20 years old a junior in college and I too think about the missed opportunities in high school and even in college so far. My anxiety has always told me no, and i keep telling myself they were only lessons. Looking back i understand my emotions in those moments, but moving forward, I hope to use those lessons to power my confidence. Thank u for the video sir
You're welcome.
I hope you realise who you are, and what actually matters. then you will also gain confidence
@@lwall6710I pray to God to Bless You 😇
Mr. Wallace, Many of us have made mistakes in our lives that we lived to regret. But, at some point we have to let our regrets go for our own peace of mind. You deserve that peace of mind for yourself in order for you to be able to go forward and to be happy. Mistakes we make in life can be hurtful to us but, you deserve to be absolved of your mistake so many years ago.
The things we regret are usually the things we don’t do
Fact
"Guys are supposed to make the first move!" and then you do that and get rejected brutally in front of her friends OR you get arrested for harassment.
Welcome to 2023 😂😂😂
To his defense though dating was different back then no phones you actually had to talk to people nowadays it’s all online artificial fake bullshit..
stepping out of your comfort zone can be one of the most refreshing things you can experience as a young adult/teenager. don't be content with being scared, there is always something new to experience = )
I appreciate your courage and confidence now. I think this kind of content and wisdom is so interesting and useful.
I saw the title and I was so excited to watch this. It delivered. Thank you so much for telling your story. Love this video. Thank you so much.
You are so welcome!
damn, and yet so many guys share similar experiences, being rooted to the seat and unable to make the first move till the regret arises over time and the realization of missed love. It's another type of pain and disappointment to oneself after seeing the very same person ending up uninterested, so uninterested that they don't even look into your eyes anymore or look somewhere else as soon as there's eye contact.
Missed love that sounds very selfish… I’ve got other important things to worry about getting out of poverty finding my career and taking care of my mom that’s first..
Lawson, I'm gonna be real with you. You should feel bad about the action you didn't take that day, and all those times when you potentially could've taken action and possibly changed your life for the better; however, you shouldn't continue to ponder over what could've and would've happened if you had all those times, and instead you should focus on what you can do now. It's a common misconception that once you get past a certain age, who you are and the choices you've made defined you and now you're stuck at where you're at now and there's nothing you can do to change it. That's not true. You still have a long life ahead of you even at 63, and you should take time to realize how fortunate you are to have experienced what you have so that you can learn from it and become a better person to yourself and to others. I'm not sure if that day haunts you because you haven't changed since, or because it's just one of those nights you can't forget, but if you're struggling through life right now and thinking about what could've been when you were younger, don't bother. Focus on the now. There's a light at the end of the tunnel for everybody, you just have to feel your way through the darkness to find it. I wish you the best and I hope you choose to continue enjoying the beautiful life you've been gifted.
yup hes gotta use the internet and find a club. Its out there bc hes not the only one in that demographic.
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@@AdelAlam-vx8xg😂
Basically what i got is learn from your mistakes and move on
bru hes like 60.
The part that I felt the most was when she said "Guys are supposed to make the first move".
I can only imagine how much that stung dude.
It stung like Hell.
This man is a true legend. Genuine and full of wisdom.
Thank you for sharing your experiences sir
You're welcome, and thank you for watching and commenting.
Hey Lawson,
Just found your video randomly somehow. But I had a similar high school experience, I was always terrified of making the first move. Not just with girls but really in all aspects of life because I was constantly in my own head worried about “what if this happens?” “What does everyone think about me?” It lead to missing a lot of opportunities up until my Senior Year I swapped schools and I don’t know what changed but I decided to fake being outgoing and confident. And I finally got the courage to ask this cute girl out behind me in 4th period. Next thing you know that fake confidence and outgoingness isn’t so fake anymore and we are still together and our 2 year wedding anniversary (12 years together) is coming up. So I guess what I’m saying is if anyone’s feeling similar to Lawson or me in Junior year, just fake it because it really is all in your head. If you fail a couple times no one’s going to remember. But if you don’t even try you will always wonder what could have been.
danm bro congrats
bro won
that’s insane.
life ends after high school and/or college
@@iiCounted-op5jx damn
You’re an amazing dude man. You have probably saved more people than you know.
I realize now that I wasn’t shy because of other people, it was myself. If I put myself out there into the flow of life at the school I went to, I would’ve been fine and found friends to jam out with on guitar, maybe even a girlfriend. But I felt the classmates I was with wasn’t for me, and the horrible school I came from shaped me that way.
I thank you for commenting this and helping me reflect on it. I thank the lord for leading me to this moment, and to this guy that uploaded this video and shared his experience because I wouldn’t have seen this and never heard this story. I’m 15 now, so I hope I can change my old ways.
Living with regret will tear us apart. I’m sorry you’ve had to live with this for so long.
Thank you for sharing this. This seriously taught my a valuable lesson. A lot of times i’m too nervous to approach people. I overthink a lot. But i think it scares me a lot more to miss out on potentially good relationships.
Glad it was helpful!
your a legend ty man@@lwall6710