I think everyone can relate to having those moments of being so nervous and awkward but to just lean into it and admit it really takes a bit of courage and vulnerability, which is nice though because unless you're in a room full of monsters it's a lovely reminder that we're all just people trying to do our thing 💖💖
I like that he also addressed how we need to create environments where people can bring their whole selves. It's up to the organization as well as the individual!
when he opened up about being hella nervous during that book meeting even though he was tryna act all cool, that's so damn relatable, we've all been there putting on a front.
Sometimes I daydream about just quitting it all, getting an old van, and spending a year driving around listening to whole albums front to back. That would be the most authentic version of me
You could really tell he genuinely believes compassion is key for creating those safe, nurturing environments where people can excel. More leaders need to embody that energy.
This is the state of the world- we need to be reminded that we are human and should live as humans in all aspects of life. We have been trained to forget ourselves.
This redefines the meaning of professionalism for me. I love the idea that incorporating our true selves into our work doesn’t make us less professional; it makes us more genuine and relatable. The full on effect that could have for entire workplaces is huge, especially if those in charge are leading the way for it
Hearing about companies like Google and Gap Inc. working towards environments where employees can be their true selves is inspiring. It shows that change in the corporate world is possible.
The emphasis on vulnerability as a strength, not a weakness, is something many of us need to hear. It's strange that it's not a common perspective and you often have to go through troubles and experience it yourself
The reminder that nobody ever has it all figured out is oddly comforting. Like not only does it make me feel better about not having figured some stuff out but it also makes me feel proud for having figured out the things I have, because maybe other people who look better "on paper" haven't sorted out their internal selves in the way that I have.
Loved his story about being nervous but choosing to be authentic with the president of the publishing company. It's a reminder that vulnerability can lead to unexpected positive outcomes.
When he said you can't just understand this stuff intellectually, you gotta actively practice being vulnerable and authentic, something really clicked for me. There’s only so far _knowing_ all this stuff will take you before you just have to start doing it
The natural response to vulnerability is compassion. Good to remember next time you worry about being real. If you are real people will love you for it
The concept of 'Nothing Changes Until You Do' is massively resonating with me. I know it's a simple truth that change starts from within but it's still poignant to think about and I think this talk goes beyond just workplace dynamics, it delves into the core of personal growth and how a mindset shift can be a catalyst for positive change. At least that's what I'm now thinking about lol
There is a shift towards having a quality of life, which involves being real in work. I think this has been pushed since the pandemic, and this talk almost predicted this shift in approaches to work.
It can be really scary to let people see your real self though! Especially if you work in an environment where people love to talk about other people and especially if you aren't even that comfortable with yourself
When we bring our whole selves to work, we bring our unique perspective and experience to our work, and can develop sustainable behaviors that help us thrive personally and professionally.❤️
readings about how other employees and teams have overcome challenges can inspire your team to embrace authenticity at work. Organize a suggested reading schedule with weekly or monthly time-markers. 📚
Bringing our whole selves to work means approaching our jobs with a sense of playfulness, fully aware of our own (and everyone else’s) flawed humanness. It means daring to be distinct.
So glad to have come across this talk! I'm just starting my professional career and maintaining who I am is really important to me, thank you for the advice on how to do that!
Not gonna lie, this gave me a lil motivation to start taking more risks and embracing vulnerability more. The rewards seem worth leaning into that discomfort.
This just makes me feel so sad for all the people who have opened up in the past and not been received well enough that they want to keep being vulnerable. Must be so hard for them to open up again
I agree with what he's saying here, being in a professional environment comes with so many assumptions and expectations but when you're able to break free from all of that and show your co-workers your human side it's like it puts everyone at ease or something, and then some really awesome flow starts to happen, it's pretty cool stuff
Heartbreak is your greatest teacher, anything that strikes emotional pain can take you to light or to darkness. You choose consciously or unconsciously.
I am that person. I am that person who says exactly how they're feeling. I remember when I had my first day of work with a new company some years ago being so nervous and when I said that to my new colleagues and boss they looked at me shocked, then laughed "well at least your honest!" I didn't want them to think I was always that jittery and chatty....
Oh wow this really raises the bar for what's expected in a workplace! It seems like a lot of this kind of content is going around and it makes me hopeful that things might change positively in the coming years!
Mike, your openness about the nervousness we all feel before presentations struck a chord with me. It's refreshing to know even successful speakers like you go through it. Your honesty creates a relatable atmosphere that many of us can connect with, making this talk not just informative but deeply personal! Well done.
I wish more people realised how when we are transparent in our struggles, it allows others to let their guard down and be open as well. That would make the ultimate working environment, people would probably care more and be more productive.
"You'd be surprised how little people think of you" seriously true. I'm always thinking about myself as it pertains to the perception of me in the eyes of others. Only makes sense that many would also be doing the same.
We spend so much time at our jobs, if we can't be comfortable being ourselves there then we're sacrificing those parts of ourselves, putting them away to bring out only when the time is right... I can't help but feel that must do something to our brains and sense of selves on a deeper level that we're not really considering enough
So Mike is an absolute King. Not only is great thinking moving forward after these last couple of years but his way of delivering this incredible talk, such ease! And comforting confidence. I like this dude and he clearly knows what he's talking about.
YES! Mike! This whole perspective on work-life balance, transparency and the need for humanness in an environment we spend so much of our time... You should definitely feel like a pioneer in this considering it's been 7 years since you did this and there are changes happening
I loved his story about meeting the head of his publishing company. That's something I would do as well, just address the way I'm feeling and hope it goes down well!
I always enjoyed communicating with people who are without masks, they show their real feelings (even the bad ones) and I always feel like I can trust them. If they're brave enough to show who they are, it's at face value.
Mike, sharing this on all my socials because I really feel like that this is a way for more success to be achieved not just be the big guys, but us little guys who keep the engine oiled. We gotta be real.
The balance between high expectations and nurturance that he talks about is crucial. It’s about pushing for excellence while also supporting and valuing each individual's uniqueness.
I think that if we were able to show a more human side of ourselves at our workplace that we would be so much more productive and I even think morale would boost!
I think it's important to understand there are just some work cultures that do not want us to bring our whole self work and although I'm all about sticking it to the man - there are many people that if were to take on this perspective, would easily find themselves without a job.
I think it's really important to acknowledge when there's some weird dictated disparity between people based on their roles, especially within a professional setting. Like yeah sure you might be a CFO and I'm just a manager of one department but at the end of the day we're all just people and I think everyone can appreciate being related to on a human level... that is unless the person in a higher position and is one of the sorts who loves to make people uncomfortable or exercising power over them
This talk has inspired me to try and be more open and vulnerable in my daily life. Hopefully I'll still feel this way when it's time to put it into practice 😅😅
When I was younger and working in a bar to fund Uni, I remember everyone I worked with was always super real and transparent, never much BS, just saying like it is. Fast forward 15 years and I can honestly say I miss the rawness of those colleagues, I have yet to work along side another team that had each others back like they did.
Had a similar experience when I was studying in college as well. We use to say that everyone should have to do 1 year in the service industry straight out of high school... I think it'd be really humbling for a lot of people.
Personally I think there's a fine line, like you can come into a place with every intention of being "real" but maybe that's not actually what they want. I think there has to be some level of feeling things out before you start up with that vulnerability
It only takes one person in a working environment to make a change like this, once one person lets their guard down it's like a domino effect, and a good one too!
I think it's awesome that more and more people are starting to adopt this mindset and honestly I think the pandemic had a lot to do with big companies starting to place a lot more value on the mental health of their employees, and that in turn has created this understanding that we're all people who can struggle with the pressures of daily life... and when someone shows up in the way that Mike is talking about here it definitely just lifts the energy to a point where people can stop pretending they're immune to all of that
So many people lost their jobs where I'm from last year and I've noticed that there are many of us who after having nearly a year in solitude, we can't face the idea of having to go back to work and putting on the mask of fakeness. It was really refreshing hearing this, I hope that as we continue to figure out what is important we can see real human's being celebrated and encouraged in all facets of themselves.
I think everyone can relate to having those moments of being so nervous and awkward but to just lean into it and admit it really takes a bit of courage and vulnerability, which is nice though because unless you're in a room full of monsters it's a lovely reminder that we're all just people trying to do our thing 💖💖
I sure can...
Sometimes we go through it
I believe that you become even stronger as an individual after that
a great message to all
I could not have said it better myself
"Nothing changes until you do." Such a simple yet profound statement.
"Nobody ever has" - damn, what a simple but heavy closing line! A whole perspective shift from just surviving to actually living your life. Impactful.
I like that he also addressed how we need to create environments where people can bring their whole selves. It's up to the organization as well as the individual!
I knew I saved this one for a reason, definitely need to come back to this from time to time as a reminder. So helpful
Beth, THANK YOU!
yep agreed
love that you sent this, even if it took me forever to open it.
Great talk, indeed.
Me too!
You can tell he's been studying this stuff for years by how well he talks about it. He really practices what he preaches.
when he opened up about being hella nervous during that book meeting even though he was tryna act all cool, that's so damn relatable, we've all been there putting on a front.
This has me shook for some reason. Brilliant thinking right here.
Sometimes I daydream about just quitting it all, getting an old van, and spending a year driving around listening to whole albums front to back. That would be the most authentic version of me
You could really tell he genuinely believes compassion is key for creating those safe, nurturing environments where people can excel. More leaders need to embody that energy.
Thank you! Yes, I do :-)
This is the state of the world- we need to be reminded that we are human and should live as humans in all aspects of life. We have been trained to forget ourselves.
This redefines the meaning of professionalism for me. I love the idea that incorporating our true selves into our work doesn’t make us less professional; it makes us more genuine and relatable. The full on effect that could have for entire workplaces is huge, especially if those in charge are leading the way for it
Hearing about companies like Google and Gap Inc. working towards environments where employees can be their true selves is inspiring. It shows that change in the corporate world is possible.
I like the fact we put on a show at work, I don't want people to know the real me in my professional environment.
The emphasis on vulnerability as a strength, not a weakness, is something many of us need to hear. It's strange that it's not a common perspective and you often have to go through troubles and experience it yourself
I felt that point he made about really bringing your full, authentic self to work instead of hiding pieces of who you are.
Totally impressed by his vulnerability, admitting he was nervous trying to impress her.
Compassion and empathy in the workplace can change everything 💜
The reminder that nobody ever has it all figured out is oddly comforting. Like not only does it make me feel better about not having figured some stuff out but it also makes me feel proud for having figured out the things I have, because maybe other people who look better "on paper" haven't sorted out their internal selves in the way that I have.
Authenticity at work is underrated. Thanks for highlighting its importance!
I'm glad this kind of progress is being made in professional spaces!
Loved his story about being nervous but choosing to be authentic with the president of the publishing company. It's a reminder that vulnerability can lead to unexpected positive outcomes.
Thank you!
The internal process of change is hitting home. It starts with us.
Courage to be vulnerable is the real deal. It's where growth happens.
Everyone having a laugh and exhaling would have immediately raised the energy levels and made people more receptive. Great strategy
Compassion and empathy, in the workplace? That's a refreshing perspective...
Loved the part about self-compassion. We often forget to give ourselves a break.
When he said you can't just understand this stuff intellectually, you gotta actively practice being vulnerable and authentic, something really clicked for me. There’s only so far _knowing_ all this stuff will take you before you just have to start doing it
Thank you for the reminder that it's about practicing, not just understanding. It's like the difference between words and actions.
"You can't get to courage without walking through vulnerability" amen brother
It's amazing how honesty can transform a simple meeting into a pivotal moment.
The natural response to vulnerability is compassion. Good to remember next time you worry about being real. If you are real people will love you for it
This talk is a game changer. We all need to hear this, especially those in leadership positions.
Thank you! Feel free to share it far and wide 🙂
The concept of 'Nothing Changes Until You Do' is massively resonating with me. I know it's a simple truth that change starts from within but it's still poignant to think about and I think this talk goes beyond just workplace dynamics, it delves into the core of personal growth and how a mindset shift can be a catalyst for positive change. At least that's what I'm now thinking about lol
Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. Truly powerful words.
There is a shift towards having a quality of life, which involves being real in work. I think this has been pushed since the pandemic, and this talk almost predicted this shift in approaches to work.
Loved that his book is about being authentic and bringing your self to work. Depending on the culture it can be a difficult assignment.
It can be really scary to let people see your real self though! Especially if you work in an environment where people love to talk about other people and especially if you aren't even that comfortable with yourself
Work is what keeps me going....
When we bring our whole selves to work, we bring our unique perspective and experience to our work, and can develop sustainable behaviors that help us thrive personally and professionally.❤️
What it does mean is that the “you at work” should also be recognizable to and coherent with the “you at home.”
readings about how other employees and teams have overcome challenges can inspire your team to embrace authenticity at work. Organize a suggested reading schedule with weekly or monthly time-markers. 📚
Bringing our whole selves to work means approaching our jobs with a sense of playfulness, fully aware of our own (and everyone else’s) flawed humanness. It means daring to be distinct.
The take home message for me was, "healthy bar of expectation" not obsessive but realistic. I can live with that.
This talk really made me think about how I present myself at work. Authenticity is so important! 🤔
I think for many of us who had a stint of WFM, going back into the office has been refreshing. There seems to be a lot more transparency going around.
Being seen, heard, and valued-spot on! That's what everyone craves at work
So glad to have come across this talk! I'm just starting my professional career and maintaining who I am is really important to me, thank you for the advice on how to do that!
What an absolute legend.
This is the truth! Hate working with people who are just mindlessly going through the motions
Not gonna lie, this gave me a lil motivation to start taking more risks and embracing vulnerability more. The rewards seem worth leaning into that discomfort.
As someone who's just starting my career, this talk gives me a lot to think about in terms of who I want to be. Thanks!
This just makes me feel so sad for all the people who have opened up in the past and not been received well enough that they want to keep being vulnerable. Must be so hard for them to open up again
I have a few friends who have side hustles that they would NEVER mention at work, and for right reason!
I agree with what he's saying here, being in a professional environment comes with so many assumptions and expectations but when you're able to break free from all of that and show your co-workers your human side it's like it puts everyone at ease or something, and then some really awesome flow starts to happen, it's pretty cool stuff
The story about speaking up to be yourself is inspiring, I know how much courage that takes!
Heartbreak is your greatest teacher, anything that strikes emotional pain can take you to light or to darkness. You choose consciously or unconsciously.
Yes...we always have a choice, for sure. Thanks for checking out my TED talk and for this comment.
It seems to freeze in fear and keep my head down.
Wow so true.
Liza perfect!!
will it all be different now?
Gap Inc.'s approach to employee well-being sounds awesome! 👌🏼🔥
Not just to work, to EVERYTHING!!!!!
I am that person. I am that person who says exactly how they're feeling. I remember when I had my first day of work with a new company some years ago being so nervous and when I said that to my new colleagues and boss they looked at me shocked, then laughed "well at least your honest!" I didn't want them to think I was always that jittery and chatty....
It's very worthwhile to learn how to be vulnerable, even in a workplace
I’ve read "Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken" - it’s a fantastic book. Highly recommend!
Thank you 🙂
Needed to hear this, I have been motivated at work for months.
I did too.
Oh wow this really raises the bar for what's expected in a workplace! It seems like a lot of this kind of content is going around and it makes me hopeful that things might change positively in the coming years!
Mike, your openness about the nervousness we all feel before presentations struck a chord with me. It's refreshing to know even successful speakers like you go through it. Your honesty creates a relatable atmosphere that many of us can connect with, making this talk not just informative but deeply personal! Well done.
Thank you!
Mike Robbins is an absolute legend.
He has some brilliant POV's
I need his book.
I wish more people realised how when we are transparent in our struggles, it allows others to let their guard down and be open as well. That would make the ultimate working environment, people would probably care more and be more productive.
it builds community, no doubt about that.
"You can't get to courage without walking through vulnerability." Wow I've definitely experienced this but I've never heard someone put it this aptly.
i have also
You do have a teacher like him, here he is, right here right now!
Only now are we realising the "whole self" has a lot more to offer then just the work self.
"You'd be surprised how little people think of you" seriously true. I'm always thinking about myself as it pertains to the perception of me in the eyes of others. Only makes sense that many would also be doing the same.
"Be yourself, everyone else is already taken." Such a powerful message!
This talk gives me so much hope for the future of the corporate world!
“Vulnerability’s not bad, it is just hard”. So true.
Truth! When we don't have to mask, we bring so much more to the table. Absolute truth.
I appreciate the emphasis on vulnerability. It's true, courage is the key!
We spend so much time at our jobs, if we can't be comfortable being ourselves there then we're sacrificing those parts of ourselves, putting them away to bring out only when the time is right... I can't help but feel that must do something to our brains and sense of selves on a deeper level that we're not really considering enough
So Mike is an absolute King. Not only is great thinking moving forward after these last couple of years but his way of delivering this incredible talk, such ease! And comforting confidence. I like this dude and he clearly knows what he's talking about.
couldn't agree more, ended up here after his other talk. forward thinking gentleman!
Easy to bring your whole self to work when you love what you do!
Great talk Mike! Everyone should feel encouraged and confident to be who they really are, even in a professional setting.
YES! Mike! This whole perspective on work-life balance, transparency and the need for humanness in an environment we spend so much of our time... You should definitely feel like a pioneer in this considering it's been 7 years since you did this and there are changes happening
i am all about this. i hope the others watch it. this is kind of the whole thinking we want to bring to the table.
I loved his story about meeting the head of his publishing company. That's something I would do as well, just address the way I'm feeling and hope it goes down well!
Very true, bring your whole self everywhere...
Love his closing statement! I think that's something a lot of us don't realise enough.
I always enjoyed communicating with people who are without masks, they show their real feelings (even the bad ones) and I always feel like I can trust them. If they're brave enough to show who they are, it's at face value.
Yes...me too!
i have always appreciated that of "what you see is what you get" too
They also inspire me to be more authentic myself
Mike, sharing this on all my socials because I really feel like that this is a way for more success to be achieved not just be the big guys, but us little guys who keep the engine oiled. We gotta be real.
Truth
The balance between high expectations and nurturance that he talks about is crucial. It’s about pushing for excellence while also supporting and valuing each individual's uniqueness.
Being genuine shines through all situations- people really appreciate it.
Could be should be, bring your whole self to everything!
We are brought up in a society where vulnerability is not something you show. Great talk Mike!
Thanks Bency. Yes, we have been trained not to show vulnerability...let's change that.
@@mikerobbinsvideo Really appreciate this talk man, I see more and more people willing to be more vulnerable
@@lefthandcharlie - thank you!
I think that if we were able to show a more human side of ourselves at our workplace that we would be so much more productive and I even think morale would boost!
Yep! We should show Tony this hahaha
I agree Ava!
I've worked at a place like this and it's true
I think it's important to understand there are just some work cultures that do not want us to bring our whole self work and although I'm all about sticking it to the man - there are many people that if were to take on this perspective, would easily find themselves without a job.
I think it's really important to acknowledge when there's some weird dictated disparity between people based on their roles, especially within a professional setting. Like yeah sure you might be a CFO and I'm just a manager of one department but at the end of the day we're all just people and I think everyone can appreciate being related to on a human level... that is unless the person in a higher position and is one of the sorts who loves to make people uncomfortable or exercising power over them
The 'Nothing Changes Until You Do' concept is hitting me deep, powerful stuff fr
This talk has inspired me to try and be more open and vulnerable in my daily life. Hopefully I'll still feel this way when it's time to put it into practice 😅😅
When I was younger and working in a bar to fund Uni, I remember everyone I worked with was always super real and transparent, never much BS, just saying like it is. Fast forward 15 years and I can honestly say I miss the rawness of those colleagues, I have yet to work along side another team that had each others back like they did.
Had a similar experience when I was studying in college as well. We use to say that everyone should have to do 1 year in the service industry straight out of high school... I think it'd be really humbling for a lot of people.
Me too TD, lovely thought.
@@destiny-cole 👍
Personally I think there's a fine line, like you can come into a place with every intention of being "real" but maybe that's not actually what they want. I think there has to be some level of feeling things out before you start up with that vulnerability
You are so right, it's hard to feel vulnerability.
hard to SHOW i would say, we all feel it even if we dont realise it
It only takes one person in a working environment to make a change like this, once one person lets their guard down it's like a domino effect, and a good one too!
yeah it's true hey, never thought about that.
I think it's awesome that more and more people are starting to adopt this mindset and honestly I think the pandemic had a lot to do with big companies starting to place a lot more value on the mental health of their employees, and that in turn has created this understanding that we're all people who can struggle with the pressures of daily life... and when someone shows up in the way that Mike is talking about here it definitely just lifts the energy to a point where people can stop pretending they're immune to all of that
Love this message and also the idea of workplaces where people can just be who they are and connect on a human level with one another
Yep, most people are obsessed by their own thoughts of self. No time left to think about you.
had never even thought that something like being real at work would make a difference but it would
Well done Mike for bringing your authentic self to this talk.
So many people lost their jobs where I'm from last year and I've noticed that there are many of us who after having nearly a year in solitude, we can't face the idea of having to go back to work and putting on the mask of fakeness. It was really refreshing hearing this, I hope that as we continue to figure out what is important we can see real human's being celebrated and encouraged in all facets of themselves.
Yes...this has been such a challenging period for so many. And, when we do get back to working in person, let's continue to bring our whole selves!
Beautifully put!
The great resignation is upon us