How To Eliminate Self Doubt Forever & The Power of Your Unconscious Mind | Peter Sage | TEDxPatras
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- Why do seemingly intelligent people procrastinate? Are there really hidden patterns and belief systems within us that conspire against our best intentions? In this talk, human behaviour expert, Peter Sage, exposes some of the hidden reasons and unconscious patterns that cause us to self-sabotage and explains what we can do to change them.
Visit TEDxPatras at www.tedxpatras.com. Peter Sage is a well known international serial entrepreneur, author, philosopher, personal growth expert, and teacher. His unique way of looking at and relating to life has inspired millions of people worldwide to reinvent themselves. Whether by improving or turning around a business or developing a new and empowering psychology through practical yet profound shifts in awareness, Peter hopes his insights and teachings can offer something of value to those who seek it. To find out more about Peter, visit his website www.petersage.com and subscribe to his CZcams channel at / petersage007 This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” ~ Carl Jung
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That shicked😍
Aww I love that!
Thats by far my favorite quote thank you for sharing this
Carl could express the repressed..
Been listening to a lot of TED talks recently while I’m doing chores and they make my mood so much better. I highly recommend them for anyone who’s trying to be in a positive mindset.
Thanks
I totally agree!! Every TED I listeng to I find incredibly penson behind them.
I do the same 🤣😅 or in traffic .
It puts you in a good mood because you are experiencing BETA MIND your mind is constantly looking for this you have to feed this beta and you will live the life you couldn't even imagine.
Thank me later
@Seth Martin & everyone... So many good Ted Talks... and my friends! Consider taking your time with these Ted Talks. Too many in 1 week, and most of it gets forgotten as there isn't enough time to reflect and consider where to apply any advise to your life. Reflection is as important as the Ted talk hitting your ear drums in the first place.
Be well and Happy.
" If you don't become the star of your own movie of your life, you'll be an extra in somebody else's." # I felt that.
Guess that's why girls know their place
One of the important things he said:
By mastering our sense of self we’re able to walk into a room where everything’s descending into chaos and retain our center. When everything’s breaking down around us with the eye of the storm, it’s like “ move, I’ll handle that”. That’s the best way that you’ll be able to handle uncertainty.
This is also one of the most misunderstood. This DOESN'T mean to take the power away from others to solve their own problems. It means to have the ability to stay calm and grounded when others are in chaos. The "move, I'll handle that" could be read as taking control - and while that's certainly necessary sometimes, especially in an emergency - it's most often a bad idea, for both the self-reliant person and for others. Not only does it contribute to burnout, feeling a lack of appreciation and overwhelm on the part of the self-reliant person, it can cause others to feel a lack of self ability and self worth, lack of resilience and co-dependency for those whom the self-reliant person is "saving." So all of the people in the situation come away feeling hurt, misunderstood and unhappy.
Helping others build resiliency through your calm example and support on the other hand is a very healthy and good thing for all involved.
As a recovering "fix-it" person, this is a very powerful and important distinction. Without it, that calm center is neither genuine nor long-lasting, and can be blown away with a single adverse event. Repeatedly. Sometimes, fatally.
A state of equanimity
@@IrisCrain yeah i learned that from being a co-founder for an ecommerce brand... things went sideways and i went into my "gotta save the business mode" and i ended up making my partner feel like he is not contributing and ended up burning myself out... but it was hard because every task he under took... it was always subpar... i am wondering if his confidence was blown
Batman Mode
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Perfectionists can be procrastinators because they haven’t failed if they haven’t tried.
How dare you talk to me like that!
@@megasbaladoros ha ha me too! Felt like taking a bullet when I realised it.
Procrastinaters are perfectionists anyway because they always wait for perfect time to do things in a perfect way, which unfortunately never comes.
I've been noticing that about myself a long time now. Still working on changing that 😩
@@zeehuss7275 you know, I've noticed that in me and I'm trying to change it :) and I've progressed a lot
"People never rise above their opinions of themselves" - deeply insightful.
I felt that too
And in a way, hurtful when you don't have a good opinion of yourself and you believed that you just needed to see that you're better than you thought
Can someone explain this? :)
@@TheCureIsMe Without knowing it, we can have poor opinions of our own worth. We silently (sometimes not silently) question our value to the world and that gets us behaving in ways to try to prove to the world (or mostly ourselves) that we are worthy. Those behaviors of constantly striving for approval and acceptance, prove counter-productive to rising in our lives. If I think poorly of myself, I will frequently self-sabotage my life. When my worth is no longer questioned, I can meet my potential and become a greater version of my self. I've seen this said this way too "We live up to our identity, not our potential."
@@LarryTartisel Thank you for taking your time explaining this, it makes perfect sense now!
I enjoyed the reminder that we will not succeed beyond the levels of our own self-perception, and we will not be loved more than we love ourselves. Powerful lessons!
I struggled with the concept of loving myself for years until I realized I can and should love the LIFE I’ve been granted, that is inside of me.
"I have no clue what's going on in the world. But I have a clue what's going on in my world"
OMG that's the best motivation I've ever got
Notes:
1. Stop putting the wrong things in (your brain/body). - 11:28
2. Start putting the right things in. - 14:31
3. Get the things that shouldn't be in there, out. (Find a mentor who can help you navigate) - 15:17
Quotes:
1. People never rise above the opinion of themselves.
2. No one can love us more than we love ourselves.
3. Environment trumps intention.
4. Love your family, choose your friends.
5. If you're not acting as the star of the movie of your life, you'll most likely be an extra in someone else's.
6. Be the change you want to see.
Thanks much...... seeing this makes it stick way better 👏👏👏🙌🙌🙏🙏
If you ever notice, sometimes we become friends with a very vulgar person. They say the worst of the worst words but you never curse in front of them. Eventually you will see they will think twice before doing so. Seen it many times and they do it automatically
Nicee
Thank you ! For putting it in words
Thank you :Pray:
“If you don’t become the star of the movie of your life, you’ll be an extra in somebody else’s.” Pure gold.
This may be one of the best TED Talks on the net.
Damn
That's a great sound but the whole talk did nothing for me.
@@stratosphere2323 This is the reason we must recognize and respect how finite we are... yet, remain in the present. As long as suffering exists in the present, our choices, actions and how we spend our lives matters.
This is the best Ted Talk ever
@@souleater0815 of course it did nothing. You need to something, not the Ted Talk
1. Love your family, choose your friends
2. Be the star of your movie
3. Start putting the right things in
4. Get the things that shouldn't be there out.
5. Commit to self mastery
6. Inspire people by being the change
jonesarikpo85...
It's funny to see that each of us "captured " different points. My take was:
1. Stop putting/viewing the wrong things into our minds/body meaning program ourselves to listen better , by not being a passive listener
2. Peer group....
Change it. Love your family, but don't allow them to control you and with that cultivate good friends that understand you .(not manipulate you)
3. Re-magnatize your compass (your inner-knower)
4. Know that your decisions are Your own choice.
5. Get things done (stop waiting for the world to change...
6. BE THE CHANGE.
Live Life to the fullest. ❤
Impossible with toxic family
"Stop programming yourself with why the world won't work, and start taking charge of where you point your flashlight."
"You will never rise above the opinion of yourself" There has to be that conscious effort and reawakening. Thank you
Wow🙌🤜🏻👏💪🏼👌🏼
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Anyone who drives a vehicle deserve to be in debt coz they are hurting Earth..
Many mad man like David Attenborough have no rights to express how he feeling about da world when he is part of the problem
Patience, perseverance, and persistence are coming to win your goals. Yes to you who is reading this. Good things are coming your way, my friend. Sending you good vibes. Now go and visualise
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Thank you my friend, same to you
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@@PriyankaGupta-ew1li pleasure priyanka
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Drop down the baggage of expectations, past failures, from your shoulders, it will make you feel at peace and content. Be ready for experience good or bad doesn't matter, you are here only to experience things, belive me good or bad, both will make you better in person. You can never make everyone happy and you are not here to impress people. Live your life the fullest.
Clicking on this video 4 months ago for the first time, changed my life in a way I never thought possible, and it’s just the beginning of so much more. Thank you.
How so? What happened?
I always liked the phrase, "We accept the love we think we deserve". I've found that to be very true.
i love that book so much
What book is it
@@asmitaacharya5731 the perks of being a wallflower
I'm not sure I fully understand what this means. Could you explain a bit further please?
@@JiihaaS It's a bit difficult actually. But I guess it's rooted in your self esteem. If you don't value yourself, other people read your body language and don't respect you either. And you're OK with that because that's what you feel you deserve. Someone mentioned, The Perks of Being a Wallflower, an underrated but very deeply thoughtful movie. That's where the phrase comes from. Watch it.
"No one can ever love us more than we love ourselves" so true
False, Jesus loves us more than we love ourselves
Wrong jesus DOES
Jesus is I am. and I am Jesus
@@sadimoney only If you have the holy spirit loving in you then you are able to do great works as jesus did. But it's a slippery slope claiming the I Am bc only Jesus is the true I am. When u allow him to work through you not taking any credit for yourself but giving him all the glory then ur statement could be somewhat true. But it's still a slippery slope. Hey I'm just saying it bc I've been there with the I am and dabbled with the occult and new age. But once the love of God speaks to ur heart, u realize u were nothing without him and u are made in HIS IMAGE to rule the earth and have dominion over it. But he wanted to work hand in hand w u, never for u to do it alone. So its depending on how ur using that statement...."I am" at least in my eyes speaking from experience. But I'm not trying to argue or have a debate. Or say that you are wrong. Only that Jesus Loves you more than anything and he knows you, and you were never created to do this life alone. ♡ much love to u
Not true, sometimes others can love us more than we love ourselves
I loved his comment "start taking charge of where you point your flash light." Making a conscious decision to choose to see and embrace the positive in our world.
“ to be midwives of each others dreams not stealing them “ wow such a inspiring quote I’m at a loss of words
I was blown away by the statement "People will never rise above the opinion of themselves ". My entire life accomplishments (or lack thereof) just instantly and absolutely clicked into place with a deep seeded understanding after seeing/hearing that. I need to acquire a much better opinion of myself. I know that I am my own worst enemy and critic. Just like he said, I have allowed my environment and those around me reinforce a negative perception of myself. Brilliant TED talk.
Thank you !
Thank you Derek for your authenticity and vulnerability. I'm very humbled that you allow me to hold up a small mirror to remind you of your own greatness. Peter Sage
guy was wrong - low opinion of ones worth drives greatness.. high opinion of ones worth - they will never rise
@@ezrc9294 Not true. Having little inspires action, but only in those who feel they're worth it. Schwarzenegger is a perfect example. If you don't feel you are worth it, you simply take your lumps. What you are talking about is that "I'll prove you wrong attitude", or when others don't believe in you...but it is only capitalized on when you believe in your SELF.
@@tourproven 100%. That is the statement that changed everything for me.
Why could someone who has my talents and abilities actiks I do?
A deep lack of self worth.
Someone give this man a medal already! One of the most important and inspiring 18 minutes of my life. This talk is exactly what he means by the right kind of programming!
IM THINKING THE SAME. This is one of the most important Ted talks.
@@capri2673 I actually wrote this comment after watching it for the second time, that is two weeks ago. I had originally watched it almost two months ago, practiced what he suggested, and the results were magical in the first week itself. Now its just something I do without an active thought. Just try it 🙂
@@sathyadeep156 what did you practice specifically? I might try it too
@@exchangeofwisdom8475 Basically his first two points.
1. Stop putting the wrong things in - I've uninstalled all news apps and stopped following the news in general. And yet, the news that is truly essential, always came to me. I've also uninstalled all kinds of social media - Instagram, Facebook, quora. The first week was hard, but the benefit of a calm, peaceful and a positive mind? I'll take that any day. Now I don't even think about these apps.
2. Start putting the right things in - I watch a lot of Ted talks similar this talk. That's all I mostly use CZcams for. Anything negative, people or channels, gets unfollowed or deleted. I also have been reading self improvement books. Two books I highly recommend are - The power of the subconscious mind - by Dr. Joseph Murphy and - Attitude is everything - by Keith Harrell.
3. Ripping those hardwired programmings out - I don't really have a mentor, I use self affirmations heavily and meditation to change these negative thought processes and habits. Another channel you should definitely look into is Adam Roa.
Hope I was of help :)
Damn, I am really frustrated with the way things are going with my portfolio. I just hope this bullish move will hold for sometime so I could take a little percentage off the market, I have lost a lot. 😞😞😞
@ChinHwa Dave please Who is your mentor???
@Vicki Sams That's impressive I will look her up ASAP
Put this on repeat for twelve hours and live it today and tomorrow!!! Do it now, allow good and beautiful things to come into your life! I love you, I hope you live a joyful, prosperous life forever!
Proctor Gallagher Institute 24/7 Live Stream on You Tube same stuff
Most of the Ted talk seem pointless but this has to be one of the greatest.. thumbs up man.. you are describing 90 percent of the people in the world... always doubting their self because of the way they were raised..... the only person stopping you from success is yourself
@Darcy hahahahahaa
I do think this is one of the greatest ted talks. It's not as fun as Simon Sinek's, but it's more important. (Atleast I think)
I'm in love with him after listening this talk.
Absolutely, this is gold. So glad I ran into this today 🙂
Happy 400 likes
"you can stand in front of the mirror and say that you believe in yourself but if you live with someone that is pulling you down somebody who reminds you of why you aren't good enough, you are gonna start to believe it" living through that rn
being well aware of it is a start
Be aware of people feeding you negativity. If you can, separate yourself from that person. Love yourself, be patient and don’t be critical to yourself. Pray to God to give you the strength, to help you deal with negative people, to help you with self healing, to release your self limiting beliefs and be grateful for being you. Be patient, practice talking positive about yourself and being grateful for what you have, you’ll regain self esteem/ confidence. God bless.
Me too bud, me too. Hang in there
You are enough!!!!
People will never rise above the opinion of themselves. It's a good thing we are Programmable by Design! Thank you, Peter Sage!
My Biggest take from this is to stop allowing the world to program my thoughts. I will rise above the negative opinions & thoughts by being selective with what I put in, I will put in only the right things that build me up. Very profound. Thank you for sharing...truly!
tips mentioned in the video
1. Stop putting wrong things in.
2. Start putting positive things in.
3. Switch off media , take control of where ur focus or energy goes.
4. Gandhi - " be the change you wish to see in the world "
5. Work on yourself - be ur own master , take active control of ur inner compass n point it in the right direction..
One of the most important thing left out. The environment influence over you, and the influence of the others on you....
6.change your environment
@@lucasdias9557 well spotted Lucas
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How much time did you save by using ur instead of your?
Being a midwife for each others dreams. How beautiful is that ....
Yes, I love it!! Our real Work here is to listen to people and to ask about their unborn dreams.
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Yes
Which part of the video did he say that?
Why did he say that?
@@exchangeofwisdom8475 10:53 he says this because you need to surround yourself with the right people (positive people) that help you ‘deliver’ your dreams
I’m a perfectionist in every way, but I don’t procrastinate. I keep taking risks, so that I can keep growing. What I do instead, is to perfect my previous mistakes, or I make sure I never ever make them again. Period.
"The media is not a charity."
he nailed it with this little phrase.
at 23 years old this is everything i needed to hear, this resonates in so many ways. 10/06/2021
I just turned 23 and I completely agree, really shifted my mind
Me at 25
knew this but right know i learned a lot after seeing this video in 24.
I see the people that you follow and the videos you post, you are capable of growing and becoming what you want to be . Whether you’re doing it for fun , money or fame . I think you’re capable just keep pushing and uploading your vids . Even when you feel like it’s not going anywhere don’t give up and try to find a way to reinvent yourself . I highly you recommend you pick up this book called “How to Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill . I’m about halfway through rn and it’s been changing the way I view myself .
Turned 23 five days before
“Stop putting the wrong programming in.” This talk is the right programming, thank you!
Just make sure to get off CZcams now... :) (I have to say this to myself, I know haha)
@@bastian6173 haha, yes, watch with intent
Man that hit hard when he said you’re not worth it. That’s exactly how I felt as a kid with my step parents and my dad who didn’t care about me at all. Except to beat me
In my mid30s, just started taking charge of my life, God help me.
I came here at the correct time. I'm currently going through a divorce, I was retrenched from work last year, I'm at a point of restarting my life. My confidence levels are at an all time low. Thank you for this video.
You got this 🙏👍
Good luck ! 🤘
Everything will turn out great! Trust! 👊🏻
Be encouraged. Without knowing you or your situation, I can still assure you, with confidence, that there is a new life awaiting you. You posted a day ago, from somewhere in the world...and I found you this morning from where I am. We didn't meet by accident. Life is like that, my friend. Many people have traveled this similar road before you...and there will be many that will find it long after you've healed from your challenges. Learn as much as you can from these experiences. We are all students and teachers...simultaneously....and you will have great stories and lessons to share with those who follow behind you.
If you've ever been in a dark room, then you know from experience that it takes time for your eyes to adjust to that darkness. But once your vision adapts to that environment, you begin developing the ability to see the room again. Yes, it's still dark, but your senses will work together and you'll find that you're able to move freely in a place that once confined you. Give yourself plenty of time to "adjust" to your current dark place, pal. You'll start to see again soon, I promise. I wish you every great blessing for you and your future. Be well.
@@stefanlane4517 Love this reply, thanks for posting 💯☺️🙌🏾🌇
"My father says that almost the whole world is asleep. Everybody you know. Everybody you see. Everybody you talk to. He says that only a few people are awake and they live in a state of constant total amazement."
-Joe Versus the Volcano
This is one of the most valuable epiphanies in our conscious evolution! I am so unbelievably happy to be able to witness this event in our ongoing experience. It just gets more exciting !
This was incredibly insightful to listen to. Thank you for sharing these wise words and great quotes! I think most people live a life of mediocrity because they don't know how to rise above the opinion of themselves and feel trapped by their negative thoughts/feelings. They operate as if they were sitting in the passenger seat of their own life instead of the driver seat because they don't learn how to control their emotions so their emotions eventually begin to control them. Mastering your emotions is extremely difficult. It's a journey and it is something that takes a lot of work.
“You can’t watch the news and be positive. It’s like saying ‘I want to be healthy but i smoke’”
yeah😁
My dinner mate is frequently talking about all the awful events she watches on the news, and discusses it with others at our table.l pretend to listen, but am enjoying listening to happy music on my earbuds, trying to tune out the negative things that she's reporting from the traffic news she's heard and watched on T.V. l often eat out instead to avoid this negative conversation, to help keep my mind in a more positive frame of thought. Trouble is, l really like this person, but what she often talks about disturbs me so l often try to avoid the situation. Any thoughts, advice from anyone reading my report, please ?
@@suziquestionable2845 i mentioned this in another comment but isn’t having a conversation about these issues what brings knowledge to the general public sparking change through voting, activism and more.
@@suziquestionable2845 Maybe try taking an interest in these topics.🤷🏽♀️ Being positive is not about zoning out important things and living in your bubble of ignorance. (not trying to be rude). You dont have to be interested in every topic out there...but just make a habit of reading the news paper and then try to understand the problem and think critically. but dont let those events ruin your state of mind. and thats where positive thinking comes in...in order to think positive your mind has to be challenged.
@@suziquestionable2845 Seems like it's an incessant need of your friend to grab attention and full-fill their own needs of awareness, so that's why she already has this habit and need to constantly talk about the negative stuff happening around just to have a topic and something to discuss on. I would nicely ask her to not pour / share unnecessary negative news with you since it brings you down and it's something you didn't ask for it, it's just dumping negative energy on you, if she's really your friend, she should be more aware of your needs. Also, people say you have to watch all the news to know what's going on in the world bla bla, yes for sure, but one thing is to know generally what's going on and another is being glued all day reading all the catastrophic details, wasting time and putting in bad mindset, especially if you can't do anything about it, personally. If there's a specific topic that is truly close to your heart (any activist issue), then by all means go for it. But just blabbing about issues and wasting time in negative things without any real solution, is just none sense.
"People will never rise above the opinion of themselves." Thank you for the awakening and the inspiration.
That holds so much truth
Really I like this too 👍
Powerful Statement ❤️
"I know exactly what's going on in MY world" and "if it's important enough it will find me"
I got so excited when he said that I've been trying to explain that to people for so long, but his wording was completely on point.
Could u explain the "if it's important enough it'll find me" part? I get it, but I wanna be sure I grasp in proper context. Thanks!
@@A....S.... If you don't learn your lesson The First Time Life tries to teach it to you, don't worry because there will be more opportunities! (Lessons are repeated until they are learned)
"No one can never love us more than we love ourself"
I see a lot of so called life coaches doing talks, and it's all about them. Peter delivers genuine insight in this talk that is about me or us, and ways to not just cope but to find the best us.
You’re supposed to learn from their story and take things away
@@lilid5016 I know
After they get their hands on some of your hard earned money of course
I'm so sorry you have terrible experience with life coaches! I believe in energy exchange for the transformation that you want to see!. When I coach it's never about me it's always about the other person. I'm not in it for the money I'm in it for the transformation and raising the Vibes of the entire planet! Depending on what problem is you want to solve and how much money might be wasted on this problem it could be a good time to think about investing in solving the problem. This is energy Exchange. It's not for everybody. But on the other hand everybody has a coach! Whether we're paying for it or not somebody is guiding us in our life. We are learning. We are earning. I think it's about the energy we put on money. And of course the come from. Where is the intention coming from? Living 40 years with the conditions.... I have invested in myself to unlock higher purpose. And it is an energy Exchange. School children have coaches. The elite have coaches. I believe life coaching is just now becoming available. Hopefully on a sliding scale as I believe everything should be. Depending on what the needs of the community are. As I coach earn money to help transform the lives of others.... to better myself. To better my community. The shift and raise the consciousness especially for people who've never experienced the elitist life. I work through subconscious to that place of worthiness . Investing in ourselves could be the smartest investment we make. People will spend over $20,000 on a car and think $1,500 to improve themselves for 3 months it's too much money! I'm sure if you add it up how much your problem is costing you it's more than $1,500 for 3 months. Have you ever read books about the energy of money? Sending much love and just sharing my opinion. Hopefully my work will never make anyone feel yucky or like I am taking from them. It s about the come from. And the problem u want to solve
“Love your family, choose your friends” who is this man ??? 🤩 He was so prepared and spoke from the gut. I have to watch this again.
You can also or maybe should love your family from a distance!!! If they are not supportive of your goals!
I agree with you. He is brilliant. You must be brilliant too.
Ohhh I resonate sooo much with the latter, “choose your friends” they can be your downfall if you are not careful. Blessings to you🦋
@@drmikep23 Olli ox& lo88
It's cause He has SelfMastery. Hes badass!😂
“I have no clue what’s going on in the world, I have every clue of what’s going on in my world and if something’s important enough, it’ll find me.”
My mind exploded when I heard him say this quote 🤯. So profound and true, not just for the news but social media as well
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Behind in life: career, relationships, money, adventures.
Lots of self-doubt
Good talk. Gave me a new way of thinking.
Let's see where this goes.
Update?
Any updates
I like his statement "Love your family, choose your friends". This TED talk summarized a lot of important topics in a short presentation.Well done.
Agree!
1 - Choose to live an integrous life. Integrity in your daily routine.
2 - Choose to pass your wisdom on not your suffering, your woe, and/or your trauma. Your Wisdom or your woe - choose your wisdom.
3 - Choose to take risks don’t wait for proof. Don’t default to regrets. The majority of your fears don’t come true. Don’t look backwards for guidance - don’t look fir over to chart new … who you were doesn’t know. Seek the unknown as the possible in your newness…and nowness.
4 - Choose new words. Every word is a new universe at your service. These words have power to heal, frequencies to restore, vibrations to revitalise, energy to empower, momentum to transform.
5 - choose to get up every day and bless your day. Base your gratitude for your new day on your being alive. This day will never come again.
Caroline Myss
Thank you for amazing qoutes
These are all beautiful words to live by. Thank you for sharing
Peter Sage's wisdom and guidance on conquering self-doubt resonate deeply, making it a must-watch for anyone seeking personal development and self-empowerment.
“So I have no clue what’s going on in THE WORLD, I have every clue what’s going in MY WORLD, and if something is important enough, it’ll find me” 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
"As human beings, our nervous system is hardwired for comfort, whereas the essence of what makes us us, is hardwired for growth". FACTS 1:44
This is criminally underrated
This is exactly what I'm thinking about! Only catchy bold titles seem to make these people click.
Totally agree. Hope this video gain more attention because I learn a lot from this talk alone :D
I agree, it's an important video.
(Advanced too)
CZcams don’t want to many people watching this.
@@jayking4636 The algorithm is terrified of this man's overwhelming, sultry powers
The line. "The first law of personal growth" and the subsequent explanation... shook my world and opened my eyes to so much
This is one of the best TEDtalks I’ve heard in the history of TEDTalks. It’s one of those speeches that we ought to replay once a month.
I have a friend who's the smartest person I've ever known. He graduated at the top of his engineering class and became VP of a large company by the age of 28. However, he came from a family devoid of emotion and seemed to seek some kind of emotional support and care. In university he fell in love with the love of his life and married her at 25. He absolutely worshipped her and worked hard to giver her everything she wanted.
Five years later she left him after having an affair with her co-worker. He was crushed and never recovered. It's been a few years, but last I heard, he was on welfare living on and off the streets. Seems to me he was limited by his opinion of himself.
It happens a lot unfortunately. I have heard similar stories. Once we lose belief in ourselves it is hard to get back there.
Would be great if someone could help him get on his feet.
@@jjbarker7450great thought
This is so heartbreaking to read. I don’t know who this man is, but I’m sending him my prayers and so much ❤️
People are always surprise when I tell them about some homeless guys in my town that were doctors.
Tell you what, this showed up at the right time. I feel like everything is collapsing and I have no control. I can see now the pattern as I slip down this rabbit hole.
yes me too.
@@idimarus3278 lol meet you for tea with the madhatter
@@jeffgoldygold haha
Same here
So how are you guys doing today?
Oh. My . God. This was one of the most bewitching and sobering videos I' ve ever watched! I really loved it, this man talks so wisely. It makes me want to listen again and again to catch the deep meaning of the things, he talked about. Thank you very much Mr. Sage and TED for this opportunity to get this knowledge!
This was an AMAZING message I have already taken the time to share this with my mother. While many of the tools shared were in accordance with teachings my mother tried to pass down to me it took someone else reiterating the same message for things to sync. Being older and wiser I can see the great impact having a positive mindset can have on every area of your life. The explanation of the human brain was kind of triggering as I sit here reflecting I am now charged with the assignment of holding myself accountable when interacting and speaking to my children ages 4 & 6. I only want to speak words that bring forth life and not curses of death and have to be mindful that even during times of frustration or complete chaos I am setting the tone for the way in which my children will view themselves later on. My favorite quote you said was "PEOPLE WILL NEVER RISE ABOVE THE OPINIONS OF THEMSELVES" like wow!!!! Thank you for making this available unto us all.
"No one can ever love us more than we love ourselves".
I'm setting a lower bar for everyone else.
“Be the default in your life so you don’t end up as an extra in someone else’s”
He said that on the Video?
I dont understand the quote😶
default characters are just the main characters in a story, extras are just randoms
Be the star in the movie of your own life, or play an extra in someone else's movie.
Unconcious mind is so powerful, and self sabotage so destructive. Thanks for your insights on countering these problems
I just watchded 9 Ted talks in a row and this one's definitely the one that will stick with me most. Will definitely come back to it. So much valuable information and advice
I think the answer is simpler: we don't have a good "connection" with ourselves and our goals let alone people in our lives. We just do many things without REALLY thinking about them.
WHAT WE NEED is to spend some time with ourselves everyday planning the next day. That's the first step. We don't need a notebook, mobile, nothing.. just a broad visualisation of who you are and what you'll do tomorrow. Make that connection.
Countless of my students have found this working better than different MODELS and STEPS and other complicated ways.. JUST have a walk and visualise. You'll also move a bit that will release the right hormones for you to have a positive connection with the next day's purpose!! Best of luck guys!!
Thank you !
This sounds like a good tip
This should be the 1st lesson taught in all schools. We are our thoughts. That is our reality, and how we CAN change it. We are the one we've been looking for, it has been there from the beginning.
we are not our thoughts. we are the ones observing them.
Our lives are the results of our thoughts feelings and actions. We ARE not any of them.
You only have control on your thoughts and actions , when you will realize this is gonna be ok
The man is kicking wisdom
The Bible says watch your thoughts because it runs your life
This talk really did connect with me. I’ve never heard of Peter Sage but will endeavour to find out more. Love your family but choose your friends moved me deeply, to tears in fact. Still trying to make out why.
“if you don’t start filming like the star of the movie in your life, you will soon start being the extra in someone else’s” wow…
This is fantastic. You can’t pour from an empty cup. I’ve been on a self mastery journey for over 20 years.The roots of self education are bitter but the fruit is sweet.
"The undisputed first law of personal growth is this, that people will never rise above the opinion of themselves"
I grew up believing that i only deserved love when i was over achieving, so i did this to get what i needed to survive. Meanwhile, i sacrificed my own identity and mental and physical health. Now when im not at my best, i feel undeserving of love. This really helped reframe my mind.
"I've no clue what's going in the world, I've every clue what's going in my world and if something is important enough it will find me " ... Really hit me
This is brilliant👌🤗
One of the greatest TEDx talks I’ve ever watched in years. Thank you
One thing that I observed here is how calm and composed he was and at the same time his speech delivery is really good, which includes his way of speaking, voice modulation, right pauses.
"Constant Negative News." He hit the nail on the head there.
Explains how my physical abuse as a child has made me shy, timid, passive, feeling like I don’t deserve success, with low self-esteem
i feel you brother me since a little child bern abused by my own siblings and people around me everyday and there’s no single day in my life that i didn’t hear any mockery or belittle words from them
Amazing! Love the content and really looking forward to the session later today! Thank you for being so insightful!
Thank you for this. I needed to hear this tonight. I know all of these things but as you say sometimes we drift away from what we know and yes I needed to hear stay conscious
“He was saying YES to too many things, putting too much on his plate......THINKING he needed time management.” Peter Sage, everybody💯✔️
IM CURRENTLY ON THIS JOURNEY I LOVE THIS....I WISH EVERYONE IN THE COMMENTS SUCCESS TOWARDS SELF MASTERY
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Same to you. Thank you!
He is speaking straight to me and my upper limit issues. Thank you
absolutely incredible. So grateful for the inspiration and the invitation🙏🏻
I am a serious procrastinator and have been seeing therapists for that. He is absolutely right. They just like to teach me skills of goal settings, but they ignore the root cause is having low self esteem.
This talk inspires me so much more than my therapist.
Hang in there and do your best!
"Environment always trumps will" .... thanks for that nugget alone!
Yeah got that right...
yes I see that too
I really understood that too.
I don't think always, sorry, there are those that face whats around and defy the commonality of the environment. Dont agree.
@@daphnefish small % Daphne very small
Great insights and clear guidance to get our thinking right. Thanks Peter.
Just in time! I needed a reminder that we are all amazing & worthy in our own way! 🙌🏽
I have been watching CZcams videos for 10 years and I have never commented any. But if there is one that is worth commenting it's most definitely this one. Great speaker, life changing message.
This is the best of the best Ted Talks on CZcams ❤️
People will never rise above the opinion of themselves. No one can love us more, than we love ourselves. Environment trumps will. If you’re not acting as a star of the movie of your life, your most likely an extra in someone’s else’s. Love your family, choose your friends. Be the change you wish to see in your world.
In a 'brave' attempt to try and understand my own in-grown negative mindset, I find this TEDx talk very, very succinct.
"We are programmable by design. We can only chose how we gotta be programmed"
So true.
That behavior and those words of my parents IS the root of my big problems now! It's really in subconscion because even if I work on myself it always find the way to come back!
You too grown get over it
It is called Conditioning my friend...it takes a very long time to get out of your mind's conditioning....
@@MentalCraxk I wish you couldve have said a more considerate one. It's true we are too old for that but it's difficult to overcome it completely. There are times it comes back but twice stronger than the previous one. We relapse to our old unhealthy ways. however, i can translate your words into encouraging one.
" Get over it... Because you've got one life to live the best of it. Your struggles are always temporary. Keep bracing yourself. Lastly, what you feel is valid.
Work harder. Work really hard because the harder you work the more resistance from your conditioned mind. But I guarantee that you will win if you don't quit.
Life is not suppose to be all about hard work tho. Why live in resistence 24/7? Rather try creating your own ideal environment (home) ; ground yourself in nature and around animals. Balance ur physical, mental, spiritual and emotional life most important
The environment thing got me,I fell into a unmotivated life, my whole rooms a mess and I sleep in that, you inspired me to clean it and keep it clean, I bet I'll see a difference
Key things he said:
1. Stop putting the wrong things in. Consume the right content, hang around the right people, etc…
2. Start putting the right things in. Focus on the good, focus on the POSITIVE!
3. Get the things that shouldn’t be there, out. Work with a mentor/coach, that can reach in and find unconscious patterns to rip them out.
“People will never rise above the opinion of themselves”. Excellent!
"be the change you wish to see in the world" so true! and i feel like it's happening now, kindness, self reflection, self care, education - are all coming to the forefront for the first time in a long time.
I was having a bad evening and decided to watch some Ted talk videos, this video blessed me. To whoever is in the dark, be strong, love yourself and believe in the power within you to ignite your light. Love & light
One of the best TED Talks I have heard. Very clear message that gets right to the point and gives you a place to start on the road to self mastery. This one is going in my library.
Agreed. Very captivating and solid.
Seriously, intelligent people procrastinate. I feel exposed.
Hahaha
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This is the most underrated TEDx talk(in terms of views)
You are a great role model Peter, looking forward to learn more from your experience.