The power of appreciation: Mike Robbins at TEDxBellevue
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- čas přidán 14. 11. 2013
- Mike Robbins (www.Mike-Robbins.com) is the author of two books, Focus on the Good Stuff, and Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken, as well as the forthcoming book Nothing Changes Until You Do. He's an expert in teamwork, leadership, and emotional intelligence who delivers inspirational keynote addresses to audiences throughout the world. His clients include Google, Wells Fargo, Twitter, Gap, Adobe, the US Department of Labor, Stanford University, the San Francisco Giants, and many others. In this heartwarming, humorous, and thought-provoking talk at TEDxBellevue, Mike talks about "The Power of Appreciation." As Mike discusses, there is an important distinction between "recognition" and "appreciation." Leaders, teams, organizations, and individuals who understand this distinction can have much more impact, meaning, and productivity in their lives and with the people around them. He also discusses some important research in the field of positive psychology that exemplifies the importance of appreciation.
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That's right. If you don't feel appreciated you won't work at your full capacity. Even money won't fix a situation like that
I have had so many jobs where I have run myself into the ground for them yet it was never enough. One time, they decided to show me their gratitude by giving me a $50 voucher….sweet, yup, that didn’t even come close to the overtime I had given to them that day alone. I didn’t need a gift voucher, I wanted to feel that my hard work had been important and appreciated. They was the moment I stopped doing any over time and started drawing boundaries. Suddenly they were very interested in my well-being because I wasn’t doing all the work they had come to just expect for free.
Thats my life too!
Creating boundaries was the best move ever. It probably saved your sanity, maybe your life, and possibly got you a promotion. Thanks for your words.
Saving. Sharing. This is a good one.
“I could have used some appreciation, not for what I had done, but for who I am” This hit me hard.
The more you appreciate the more you see Love in you life and the more you can give Love away to others.
Yes
I don't think people realise just how important is to be aware enough to recognise the trials and suffering someone can endure - appreciating some one's journey is how we create more empathy.
this is rad Shawn, awesome views here.
Empathy is something I'm just starting to understand.
The care factor is so important, not just in business relationships but all. When we appreciate, respect and understand, it sets us up for much more fulfilling connections
Couldn't agree more - anytime I have felt or seen genuine care from a person it has allowed me to put trust and faith into the person, which is rare
Noticing the past few years that it is becoming trendy to be kind and care again, which is nice to see
I am an engineer. I focus almost all of my time on climbing the corporate ladder and I have made it very high up and now I can finally life without worry of finances. I realize that I am fortunate to be where I am.
After watching this I realized that I have always brushed off my accomplishments and any gratitude given to me. Always thinking, "this accomplishment doesn't deserve recognition" and "I could have done better" and just focused on climbing the next step of the ladder.
Though I have always celebrated the accomplishments of others, I now think it's appropriate for me to celebrate myself also.
I appreciate, appreciation!
This is a man sharing his experience so we don’t have to live through it to learn the lesson. Much appreciated.
The things he talks about around 7:30 are an especially important part of this! It's easy to appreciate someone when they're doing well but letting them know they're still important and valued when they aren't performing at their best is way more difficult.
I think an inability to appreciate others comes from insecurity. If someone is doing well, it feels as if you are not doing well enough, or if they make a mistake despite their efforts, it can validate and made you feel like you are right and ‘better’. Someone who is secure in themselves has no fear, experiences no loss and actually greatly benefits from others succeeding and being their wonderful selves.
Appreciation. Such a tremendous word, but often is forgotten...
I thoroughly believe this should be at the forefront of all relationships - work, family, neighbours. If we just appreciated each other a little more, appreciated the differences in journey and skill, we would all get a lot more out of life.
Thank you! Yes, a little bit of appreciation goes a long way.
I appreciate appreciation!
I love positive reinforcement and appreciation. I am such a more relaxed person when I know my energy and effort is going un-noticed.
This is important in every aspect of life!
So many of us think and feel kind things towards people but never say anything. Listening to Mike's talk I realise that so much of why we aren't being more supportive of one another is not knowing how to articulate half the time.
Thats true we do!
Saying please and thank you and verbalizing is so important!
Indeed
every word you said..is so true
I couldn't agree more about appreciating something while it's happening.
Lots of heart in this talk.
10:20 To appreciate doesn’t mean to like, agree with or lets be friends. It is about seeing the value of what a person offers. This is a lesson I am still learning, to appreciate and value someone even if I personally don’t bond with them.
YES! and gratitude which I guess is the same thing in ways.
I really love this guys story and demeanor. It would have been so easy for him to get wrapped up in the defeat of his injury and become a miserable person. The fact that he's done the opposite is such a great display of resilience!
Appreciation and gratitude puts many things in perspective.
how so
the whole world needs to see this
I appreciate this talk! 😀 😃 😄 😁
Thank you :-)
I love the distinction he makes between recognition and appreciation! They are definitely two very different things.
Appreciation is a feeling., The trick is to tell people as you think and feel it.
This is so needed right now at the end (we hope) of this terrible Pandemic!
yes, thanks for the send
I could not agree more with this talk, expressing appreciation for a thing kind of allows you to experience it on a whole other, deeper level.
Such a simple thing that offers such fulfillment for people!
This talk was given 9 years ago but is still so f*&!ing relevant.
eh look at us seeing the importance in basics again! heck yes!
A friend sent me this, really nice surprise, great talk. Well done Mike?
When I feel appreciated it always lifts me up.
Terrific send Myles!
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Society focuses so much on what we haven’t got and struggling to get more. SO rarely do we stop and appreciate what we actually have and what we have achieved. We need to learn to appreciate ourselves more often!
And appreciate others and their struggles, also very important.
I just needed to hear that showing appreciation is not a thing I personally grave but something that is good management practice if not just a great way to be with another human being. Because I don't receive it doesn't mean that it is not valuable. I will apply it to my life wherever it makes sense. Thank you for this wonderful talk.
People connecting with people. It is such common sense yet we keep missing the mark on this and focusing on accomplishments and successes. Being understood and heard as a human being rather than your results is empowering.
and liberating!
Good link to send Shannon, thanks for the share.
Saw this in group too Shannon, very cool.
@@bigthinking1715 it is isnt it?
How quickly we forget about common sense though
He's definitely right about how we often don't appreciate the things we have while we have them. Such a shame that we take things for granted so quickly.
To appreciate, is to respect. Regardless of class, circumstance and the like.
Hahahah! I always compliment back; it is so hard to not deflect!
I wish ppl could be this kind and understanding in day to day life but it's just so hard
Scheduling in appreciation might seem a little disingenuous at first, but even the effort to Scheduling in the reminder is an act of kindness. I like this.
When there's appreciation there is understanding and respect and these are things that really help in every day life.
Indeed
I always remember how appreciation is important. It helps me in my private life as well as in my career. If you show your appreciation people usually shows it back!
takes a lot of the discomfort out of life being appreciative.
This changed my life
Appreciation can lead to so many good things. Appreciating someone's experience, their drive, their story, their journey, their abilities or their weaknesses. I was stoked to see this come up on suggested video. Mike is on point. I mean, what he had to go through to get there is pretty unfortunate but it's funny that when we think we are at our lowest, it's when we find our purpose. Excellent topic, excellent speaker.
Great talk. I thought he was going to say his mom passed away before his story was published and to appreciate people while they are with us.
I think expressing appreciation for a person is also really important because it means they're never going to feel like you're taking them for granted.
I have spent most of my life looking ahead. This talk makes it so clear that real life is here and now. Thanks Mike!
You are amazing Mike. Lovely way of story telling. Positivity all around. Thats the power of appreciation. Love it.
Thank you very much!
An important message for people in leadership roles and who want to make a real difference in their work
I am a manager and I have about 50 people I have to manage. This talk gave me the insight that I had I forgotten how important appreciation is. I forget that when I graduated from university and started my first job. I had a manager who came to me, patted me on the back and said that he believes in me. I still remember that moment.
Similar experience here, a manager I had from 20 years ago is still why I think kindness and guidance are the best tools when managing people. I'll forever appreciate that.
Important taok at a really important time for me. I love TED talks I always seem to hear what I need. Maybe I am appreciating this!
The arm blow out story happened really early in this talk. This is how I knew it was going top be a good one
So many athletes must go through this in some capacity. You don’t just cruise your way through to retirement in sports, you gotta perform.
I try to teach my children that when their teachers or friends do kind things for them, to always tell them thank you and why they are thankful. I believe appreciation is such an important part of ability to make long last connections and learn all that we can from each other.
I love to hear that, you are teaching them well
Appreciation can carry a whole team as far as I am concerned.
how so
I predict that Mike will be at the forefront of ensuring morale within huge companies is kept high and that works are actually treated as people
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@@Chelsea-Chelsea I hope ya'll showed him this clip!
The difference between recognition and appreciation was a great insight. I had never really thought about that before. And I felt it viscerally- I can remember times in my past where I have been recognised for my work and how ‘functional’ it felt, versus feeling truly appreciated.
This is such a nice talk, and so true! It's such a lovely concept, not just feeling appreciated but also expressing appreciation. It's amazing how a small compliment or even just acknowledgement can totally lift someone and make them feel valued.
“Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars, and see yourself running with them.” ― Marcus Aurelius
I love that quote
So sad that not many managers use appreciation. It can motivate people to work, give their all, feel valued and be helpful to the company everyday.
I am hoping those managers are becoming a thing of the past!
This is being shared right away. Especially as we are coming out of the hardest time for most of us, or still in it. We need to appreciate more!
Thanks so much! Yes...so important for us to appreciate, especially right now.
I have had many jobs where I was given little gifts, like gift cards or something after I had done some significant work. Usually the gift was minuscule in comparison to the work and effort I had given, it was symbolic and felt like a strategic move on the part of the company to keep me calm and keep me giving more than what my job description entailed. It was only recognition, I never felt appreciated by my management, it was never acknowledged that I had given so much of myself and my time. That was the elephant in the room because the minute they appreciated me it means they were admitting they had asked too much.
Appreciation has an amazing influence on people. That's for sure.
Yes indeed, it does!
When we can stop to appreciate the small things, the big things and just each other - life seems to have a much natural flow and it's a lot easier to cope.
@@jeffgoldygold yes true!
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The power of appreciation and gratitude is immense. The only problem is that I keep forgetting about it, then when I bring it back into my life I am amazed all over again. Thank you for this reminder- I found this video at the perfect time
You are welcome. Yes...appreciation is so powerful, and simple to practice (when we remember)
I highly recommend this talk to my clients about the power of appreciation. A very powerful speech! Thank you Mike Robbins
What a journey and what a message. I appreciate this and appreciate we are becoming kinder and more considerate beings.
and I appreciate you sending this!
We were literally have a team building day last week and discussing how we could all tackle burn out and one of the things was through transparency! I can't wait to show my boss this!! Thank you!
What a fantastic message. Needed for everyone, not just those in business!
I have just started listening to Mike's podcast "Bring Your Whole Self to Work" and I am just so inspired by it. When he spoke about his TED Talks, I had to hunt them out once again, love, love, love the content. What a beautiful story to round off a great TED Talk! Thank you Mike for all you bring into the world. You new book is on it's way to me in Australia and I can't wait to read it.
Mike, you are onto something here! This would be a great talk for schools and work places.
I appreciate this man so very much. What a great POV
It's such a lovely feeling when you know you're being appreciated, sort of like you have even more desire to do the things people will appreciate. Like you might have done them anyway but knowing they get noticed and actually mean something to another person makes it that much more worth it.
So true
I like this a lot, it wasn't all rah rah like other motivational speakers. It had guts and usable stuff in it. Great talk Mike!
Same! He is great!
This is powerful. I am not the person to cry easily but, this hit home. I appreciate you making this video for us. Thank you
This gave me a burst of hope for humanity that I've been lacking recently.
That is nice to hear!
Amazing things happen on a team or in a relationship when all parties involved feel appreciated, heard, respected. I want to read Mike's books! I think this perspective is so important as we so much dis-ease everywhere, from home, work.... All of it.
Thanks for watching the video Lola and your interest in my work. Yes, appreciation creates amazing things.
hence the title i suppose, there is serious power in appreciation
This is the most powerful message I have watched! My word for the year is gratitude and I try to write a few cards a week to send out to those that I am grateful and appreciative of! Your story is so powerful I will continue to watch it as it's a great reminder to show our appreciation and to be gracious when we are complimented and to just say Thank You! Thank you!
We don't live if we don't give, true!
an amazing sincere and real talk, reignited sparks. putting "appreciate someone in your life" into my morning routine.
Thank you for sharing your perspective Michael! It takes such courage to work through the kind of moment he talks about at 1:15.
Grass is always greener though. Often at the end of an experience we remember it with rose colored glasses. Live in the moment, accept the past.
i cried 😭😭 this is awesome thank you for inspiring us
@Mike Robbins...hey thank you for Sharing your Story. The most powerful lesson I have yet seen of on Appreciation.
"Don’t it always seem to go that you don’t know what you got till it’s gone"
Loved it. Tears in my eyes... Thank you for this meaningful talk and video. 🙏 ❤️
You are welcome! Thanks for your kind words
That's fantastic speech!!! Deserve our time to listen it again and again!!! Appreicate your sharing!!!
I appreciate you grace!
I can't imagine how difficult it would be to refocus your purpose after literally dedicating your whole life to doing that one thing that you now can't.
His hand movements really add to the experience.
Thank you very much :-)
Truth!
I love what this guy is saying, can't wait to check out his books.
I'll share this video all around my HR department, very useful, thanks! Or I'll get fired!
Thanks for sharing this! I hope you don't get fired :-)
far out. it really says something that we live in this fear of our employers that we literally can't share or look to solve problems without fear of retaliation. what mike is so important in order for us to move forward, thrive instead of survive.
I had no idea that an appreciation can influence people that much
And that's another thing wrong with our world
Thank you Mike, yes we all need to feel and know we're appreciated, our inner self feels gratitude when this process takes place, it encourages us to do more without thinking about the process.
Lecount Holmes - you are welcome!
Before seeing this i made a “people” list. Based on who has given me the best memories and care since I was young and even recently... I’m going to make sure I show them I appreciate them and what they have given me. I feel like I’ve been so worried about myself and achievements, this the piece of life I am missing.
That is great...reaching out to let those people know you appreciate them will make their day
I've actually thought of doing this myself!
@@maddoxreynolds - sounds like a simple yet powerful thing to do. Have fun.
Maybe even the people who aren't high on that list could use that appreciation too, spread it further
@@pierrevilleneu - that is also true...everyone wants and deserves to be appreciated.
Very simple ideas about very important things
I have seen another one of Mike's talk and I have to say, after coming across this one I cannot WAIT to read his books. Definitely starting with the Be Yourself one.
Thank you for sending this to me
He's a brilliant man!