How can we be happy ?
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- čas přidán 22. 01. 2015
- A friendly discussion on one of the more or most important things in life "happiness", why we are not happy and what are the roots of it, cause of it, and how we can be happy.
#Breakup #heartbreak #happy
Mehran Dadbeh (Author)
Break-Ups, Life & Your Psyche
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After 2 years I watched this video again and I can't make comment again cause in my life this video helped me so much . I can't stop waching your videos . You showed me how we can be happy and I always appreciate your time and effort.
Another great video! These videos are really helping me in the healing process of getting over my last relationship. Yes freedom is about having things and say you don't want them. Please make more videos on how to just be happy with yourself they help a lot. Many thanks!
Thank you dear, I am glad you enjoy them and find them helpful. Click on like button when you like them, in this way more people will get to see it as it moves it up for easy find and recognition on the engine and the viewing list . :)
I'm having a cup of tea this morning and listening and enjoying this talk very much! thank you Mr. Mehran !
I am glad you find them helpful Mika.
Please feel free to visit and like my FB page : facebook.com/mindthatseekstruth/ where I have my announcements for Live Q & A Talks, and place supportive posts and videos. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and to which age category you belong to. It would be wonderful if you would share the videos you like on your social media to help others know that there is support after break-Ups and bring more exposure to what this channel is all about. Be good to yourself always. With thanks, Mehran
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Beautiful, beautiful words!! I'm so glad I found your videos. This really gave me an awesome new outlook on my life and this really picked me up from a dark place! Thank you :-)
fefejay You are welcomed dear. I am glad they are helpful to you.
Guys, this man right here is gold.
I know you watch his videos and he helps you with the content he posts. Just look at the ratio of views and likes here. A therapist will charge you a fortune for the knowledge he shares here and all he needs is to help more and more people. So even before you start, at least drop a like and comment.
Just like we need his support, he needs ours too.
Also doc, you re amazing
Amazing. Loved it
Thank you, your videos always cheer me up. I understand what you are saying intellectually but getting your heart to believe it is another story! I am trying to think more with my head and less with my heart :)
This is very helpful especially if you are going through a lot of things in your life.
Great Great Great!!! Always again!!!
Hi. I think your videos are JUST WHAT I NEED RIGHT NOW.
Thank you SIr!
One of the best videos. Or, probably truly the best one!
Glad you found it and enjoyed it, Victor.
Great video Mehran :)
Yes this is the one! Thank you
Thank you for taking time to do these videos. I'm 43 and my girlfriend of six years left me 3 months ago. I think your videos are aimed at younger people, but they still remind me that there are other places to look for happiness......just need to figure out where again :)
The videos are for every body and any body who is going through a break up and wants to know about why it feels the way it does and wants to move on and be happy. :) I am glad the videos ate helpful to you Chris.
I like this philosophy. Thanks :)
Starting to watch you every morning before work, now. I feel like I've slipped up and back to depression.
Ok good idea. Yes being happy is also a conditioning that we need to purposely affect on ourselves so it will become automatic to gravitate towards activities and decisions that would bring about such results help us to accomplish what we want to be nurtured by, that state of motivation, contentment, happiness, through appreciation of the little things in all little moments of the the now ( present moments) in life.
Secret to Happiness - 28:10 - 28:33
I love how you explain every subject very clear that it touches my heart and I can use it in my everyday life .Thank you so much.
You are so welcomed dear :)
I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS!! You are so wise and have such a great viewpoint and analogy of life and how we look at things
I am delighted that my messages are coming through clear and enjoyed by you all. thank you for the kind words, glad the videos are helpful to you. Be good to yourself always. Mehran :)
This video blew my mind wide open.. wow great thoughts as always
Glad you enjoyed it Dale :)
wow, great insights! thanks for uploads! god bless you!
Thank you Shree, glad the videos are helpful to you. Please let me know from which country you are watching the videos and which age category you are in. Be good to yourself always, Mehran :)
You had me at every direction has its own possibilities....
Good Jas. Glad you got it.
sir , this video is awesome .Every time i noticed that your tea
couldnt completed :) Your face expressions are superb.you helped
me a lot. May god bless you. Have a long and healthy life. Thanks
for mentioning my country name in last. Thanks from india
There are no problems when you live in the present moment. Problems are in the head. When you judge the situation negatively. It's a challenge. All situations are neutral.
Lovely video. :)
I'm a procrastinator,then I finally do, or I don't. Then I'm inpatient for outcome
Thank you so much sirBy your approach towards view of life n love the whole concept of mind made me changedAfter a getting 4months hard time.now in 15days my minds whole scenario is changedBut i m getting addicted towards your vedios
Lol, thank you. This addiction to knowledge about how the psyche works is not bad ! :)
please share the videos you like on yr social media so others will also know about the support available and more exposure to what my work is about.
Please feel free to visit and like my FB age where you will find posive posts and Live talk schedules when you can ask questions and listen to answers to other people's questions from around the world.
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Be good to your self always.
Mehran
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you are just awesome doctor Mehran !
Thank you dear, but remember I am not a doctor of medicine. But thank you for the honorary title! :) Please tell me from where you are watching the videos and which age category your are in dear.
I can't believe you just answered my comment.I do know that you are not a doctor of medicine since I just watched your video about high blood pressure in Farsi.I 21 from Iran living in the US .I am really in need of your hepl for some advice about break ups I know that you have great videos about them but my case is different .honestly I am still shocked and suprised to be able to write to you.I'd be really a great hepl if I could talk to you or contact you even for a copule of minutes .would you please tell me a way to do it ?
Hello Omid, Try me on the weekend dear as there are always scheduled appointments and I need to find a few minutes in between the scheduled appointments for us to chat . Or you could if at all possible for you visit my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com and book a Skype consultation appointment. All relationship problems can be overcomed Omid, so regardless of how unique the situation may seem to you, most all of us have gone through one type or another of such situations and we all have eventually came out of it fine ad better and stronger and happier than before and ready to meet some one new. It may take a bit of time but it always does get managed and the emotions will heal. :)
Great video. I agree in general. However, there are people who are discriminate by the society. For example people from the lower caste in India faces job and social discrimination. Can these people be happy?
Dear mehran, i have come to watch majority of your videos, just watched 4 this morning:") thank you so much for your help your advice put a smile on my face, i hope for the rest of the day i can use this technique, thank you for planting that seed, also, i would like to order your books do you ship to the UK??
Ps i love Indian movies , jab tak hai jaan is great, i wish to recommend you watch devdas' the movie is quite interesting!
Dear Delilah, I am delighted that the videos have brought stronger days for you and I am sure you will use what you take from them to better understand the human psyche and bring about happier and more confident days and life. Make sure to share the ones you like along with me newly added landing page of my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com on your social media introducing the recent seminar at Capilano University on "The end of fear " as well as soon all 3 books becoming available in e-book formats ( for more universal affordability ). Be good to yourself always, Mehran :)
lol. I am glad it makes you happy dear :)
Mehran Dadbeh you are amazing, can't say how much I admire your attitude and the way you see life. I'm honoured that we have such an amazing Iranian people who cares about helping people for free. I appreciate your caring for young people who are going through a very dramatic period after breakup including me. sometimes I just keep listening to you rather than talk to my friend.
Thank you dear I am glad they are helpful to you .
Mehran Dadbeh The only reason that stopped me being happy is having the feeling of contempt because of the cheating that he did. I feel contempt so bad that I am not able to forgive my self of forgive him at any time. Although I said "I don't want him anymore, or I don't definitely want him back" long time ago but I hate to feel worthless and someone who was thrown in the bin. I have difficulty to let this go because I want my pride back.I've lost my self-esteem and I think how awful I was that someone who was badly in love with me after 2.5 year stopped loving me and looked for other girls when he was still in a relationship. I question myself and I only blame my self that if he couldn't continue loving me as a girlfriend, then every other guy would do the same to me.Could you do a talk on how to resolve this issue in our mind. for people who's been cheated on them. I appreciate it.
sara rjnejad Dear Sara, my apology for not having seen this message of yours or perhaps saw it long ago and meant to do something about it and forgot ! :) I just read it now ( for the first time I think ) and will try to do a short talk on it one of these days ( not too far ). Hope you have completely recovered by now anyhow. Be good to yourself and thank you for your kind words dear. Do visit my FB page " Mind That Seeks Truth " and my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com please share the site on your social media as my books will be arriving tomorrow or the next day and could use the exposure :) With thanks, Mehran
Makes me think of a crying child in a toy, or candy etc store. Kid Changes rules Kid becomes a shoplifter. Gets wants :) my wants and needs. My wants and needs: myself not to be alone. But I was I was alone with her,
you mean to say people have high expectations
so
how do I set up goals, if I don´t want anything?
You can want things and strive to get them, but the wants, the things you want should not be a prerequisite for happiness. They must be kept separately and happiness should be independent of achieving or attaining things!
Thank you for your answer. I guess this makes sense.
I just broke up with my girlfriend a little while ago and now I´m trying to get a new on since I feel like I want one in my life and what you are saying is just, that I should keep trying, but not make it necessary to feel happy?
Yes achievements and things that we want in life is one thing and being happy is a different thing and not dependent on getting what we want to become happy. Happiness is an art and a choice and not a by product of other things that we get or achieve or buy or gain. Criteria and reasons for happiness must be the most basic needs of life. Food to eat, clean water to drink, a safe and clean place to sleep and something clean to wear. These would be what is needed to be happy and since they are so basic then there is a high chance that these will always bee available to us, therefore we can be happy every day and all the time and then strive to get all those things that each one of us wishes to get, accomplish and achieve. Happiness is independent and is not dependent on what we wish to have, to get or achieve in our lives.
sir what you say makes perfect sense but the subconscious keeps overriding it. Not sure how to convince it.
It's not your subconscious, it is your conditioning! Change your conditioning, change your understanding of life and happiness, focus on how unimportant other people's opinion is when you are a decent human being and doing what you like to do and do ing your best. Lots to talk about on this, either watch more videos on my channel or go on my site www.mindthatseekstruth.com and make a Skype consultation appointment and we will ex[lore it one on one.
this sounds like the law of non attachment.
How can someone send an e mail to you, to ask for some advice?
Thanks
You can add me to your Skype with Skype address of : md.trading1 or email me through : dadbeh.ca
Ok thanks
Mehran Dadbeh Thanks. I sent it via your
website.
Dear mimiboo501, ( let me know yr name and age and area you are writing me from ),
You have no situation , you have no problems.
It is simply a case of having realized an out fit ( clothing ) which for one reason or the other did not like or found it unfitting , changed your taste, style, design, cut or simply not functional for your purposes and life style and put it out not wanting it any more and now seeing some one else interested in it regardless of you no longer wanted it, makes you think that it was more valuable, suitable or fitting than it was and make you feel as if you may have made a mistake and as if you should have like and continued wearing something that you clearly knew and know you do not like or know that does not suit you.
When we see some one else pays attention or wants what we did not and do no longer want , we get a second thought about it. to get over this mistake, we either have to put what we threw out back on and see again how unfitting it is for us as our size and figure and taste and use of clothing style and needs are still the same and reasonable as it was which would only make us regret why we are trying it again and become more clear as to why we did not want it in the first place or simply remember all the legitimate reasons we have for severing the relationship.
This is not a real feeling of having lost anything that was our preference to have, this is an illusory feeling of having been left behind.
Like when a group of friends want to go some where and you do not wish to go for one reason or the other you find it neither appropriated nor suitable to your taste or reasons to go with them, but when they have all left in their cars and seemed excited or happy to be going where they are going , now you think you should have gone with them even though you clearly know you did not like where they were going, but you get the feeling of having lost something, a chance or been left behind. and that is all what is happening and nothing else.
Your reasons as you explained to me was very reasonable and legitimate for not wanting that relationship and rightfully so severed it. that must still stand as it was a correct decision.
You simply feel replaced but replaced by whom, by choice of some one whom you did not want and then that is not the same as being replaced. So she seems beautiful to you , and what does that supposed to mean in real value of a human being ? that physical beauty is the extent of development and value and worth of ours in this life ? who cares how some one looks ?
You have created an image of their relationship in your mind and you think the image you have made of their relationship in your mind is the the same preferred relationship and hopes that you envisioned for your self with some one that you may prefer or find some day and you think what they have just because now they are together or have a post on face book is actually what you have been imagining your relationship should be.
Non of what you are thinking or assuming is neither real, actual, or relevant even if they are good together or not. it just measn that two people seem to have found some kind of relationship together but that does not mean that it is the best form of relationship or the type of relationship that you would like yours to be nor anything else. and what if they are happy ? so be it who cares? be happy for them and go on.
You need not to focus on what ( good or bad ) relationship others have. Just focus on what you want in life and what your taste and preferences are and stop imagining or paying attention to what other people are doing or have or have not. You are to focus on building your life and your relationship with the right person which will present itself. your decision as far as I can see it was a very correct one which may have very well saved your life and freedom from the limitation of some religious belief which would have possibly dictate your life and make everything roaming around and regulated by some imaginary belief due to a choice of acceptance of such belief by some one who thinks what they believe is the absolute truth. and whenever any one allows religion to completely or in any major part rule their lives other than relying on their wisdom, then there would be division in their relationships for ever .
You are free and you can chose and build your life as you see fit and that is the most important thing that you should be focusing on and be happy for. :) Even if a nice smelling flower grows on a shallow ground or too hard of the ground ( an unsuitable ground for such plant ) , should not make one believe that the foundation on which this plant has bloomed will last. The flowers may bloom almost any where but how long it lasts depends on the foundation and the quality and the suitableness of the ground it has sprouted it’s roots on and if the the ground are not suitable which obviously your relationship was not benefiting from a good and suitable common ground , values and fitting base and foundation , it would not last long and would perish at some near future point anyways regardless how good it might have felt at the time.
Go on and be patient and you will find your choice sometime later when things are ready. Go celebrate that you made the right choice and continue your daily life duties and positive activities and enjoy your life. You will be fine and you have nothing to worry about and you are not hurt only the image you have made for yourself in your mind seems hurt and that is not a reality just imaginary and it will pass :)
Thank you very much for having taken time to read and to answer my e mail. I think this will help me a lot. My name is Estelle I'm 23 years old and I live in France.
Thank you Mr meh ran .. It's Onley so far help me.. Can I have your Skype its .. All you talking about its happend to me o have been every day keep watching your video about to months now .. Still I'm stuck in unhappy not confident at all
My Skype address is : md.trading1
Dear sir i have sent you an email on your email adress . i would be eternally greatful if you would be willing to read and reply to it.
thankyou for the videos.
max babilo Max, I can not see you're-mail. please resend it and , I will respond as soon as I get a chance dear.
max babilo Max are you in Manchester England ? I received an e-mail from a young man of 29 from Manchester. Is that the same as you ? is that your e-mail then as I do not have one for Max Babilo but I have one from the young man from Manchester.
yes sir that would be myself.
max babilo Ok dear will read it carefully and will e-mail you back. Just need a bit of time as few things are still need to complete before I get to it. :) In the meantime just be patient and know that nothing devastating has taken place regardless of the situation and that all will be understood for you and you will be just fine.
Mehran Dadbeh
thankyou sir. if you are willing i would be honoured to talk to you via skype or some other form of communication. thank you for taking the time.