Psychologist Daniel Goleman Reveals How to Strengthen Your Emotional IQ | Conversations with Tom

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  • Did you know that intelligence goes beyond just your IQ? Right within your mind, there is an even greater and more powerful level of intelligence just waiting for you to tap into. It’s known as ‘emotional intelligence’ and by mastering it, you can use it to better all areas of your life. On this episode of Conversations with Tom, psychologist and New York Times bestselling author Daniel Goleman, Ph. D, joins Tom Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they explore why it’s critical you become self-aware of your emotional intelligence and begin to develop it, all while pursuing your purpose and meaning in life. They discuss what emotional intelligence and emotional IQ is, how you can develop and strengthen it at any age, the power of practicing meditation regularly, how purpose and meaning is critical to leading a successful life, the common traits of successful leaders, why you need to have empathy, optimism, love and kindness, and so much more.
    Order Daniel’s book, ‘Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ’: amazon.com/gp/product/B000JMKVCG/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i0
    SHOW NOTES:
    Emotional Intelligence | Daniel breaks down what being emotionally intelligent looks like. [0:27]
    Learnable | Daniel reveals why it’s never too late to develop emotional intelligence. [2:48]
    Training | Daniel reveals what training emotional intelligence looks like. [3:36]
    Emotional Centers | Daniel discusses our brain’s emotional centers and responses. [6:52]
    Children | Daniel reveals the tools he teaches children to become emotionally self-aware. [9:48]
    Adulthood | Daniel reveals what you may need to unlearn as an adult. [11:09]
    Meditation | Daniel reveals how he came to adopt meditation and mindfulness. [13:11]
    Breathing | Daniel reveals the powerful and positive impact of breathing exercises. [21:35]
    India | Daniel shares what he discovered on his journey in India. [24:43]
    Importance | Daniel reveals why it matters that the western world adopts mediation. [29:13]
    Workplace | Daniel shares how emotional intelligence makes all the difference. [30:51]
    Psychological Safety | Daniel shares what psychological safety is. [32:34]
    Social Brain | Daniel breaks down what your social brain is. [35:21]
    Alone | Daniel reveals how meditators are masters of being alone. [39:39]
    Purpose | Daniel breaks down the driving power of purpose. [42:26]
    Meaning | Daniel reveals why meaning, purpose, and beliefs are so important to us. [44:09]
    Heaven & Hell | Daniel shares why living in heaven or hell begins in our mind. [49:05]
    Sheathing the Sword | Daniel shares a story of ‘keeping your sword sheathed.’ [51:26]
    Redefining Success Through Purpose | Tom shares his motivation to help others. [53:29]
    Money | Tom shares why he never focuses his message on money or a ‘rich life-style.’ [1:00:01]
    Life | Tom shares how he balances and blends his personal life and hustle. [1:03:11]
    Marriage | Daniel shares the intertwining connection partners have over time. [1:04:43]
    Find Your Answer | Daniel reveals how you can find and pursue your purpose. [1:06:00]
    George Lucas | Tom and Daniel discuss George Lucas and his pursuit of passion. [1:09:15]
    Where We’re Going | Daniel shares his concerns over where today’s world is heading. [1:14:50]
    Put-Up | Daniel shares how to turn a negative situation into a positive one. [1:17:39]
    Ruthless | Daniel reveals why so many kids can have moments of ruthlessness. [1:19:55]
    Empathy | Daniel shares how empathy is teachable. [1:21:42]
    Optimism | Daniel reveals how optimism is directly tied to success. [1:23:18]
    Your Aligning | Daniel shares what needs to align up to fulfill your purpose. [1:29:39]
    Love & Kindness | Daniel reveals the importance of love, kindness, and empathy. [1:31:22]
    Compassion & Anger | Daniel shares the power of compassion and the types of anger. [1:34:29]
    Left Prefrontal Cortex | Daniel discusses the parts of the brain and our feelings. [1:35:54]
    Men & Women | Daniel discusses the differences between the sexes. [1:37:07]
    Connect | Daniel shares how you can continue to learn from him. [1:39:43]
    QUOTES:
    “…no matter what meditation you’re going to do, if you do it regularly, it does two things. It calms you, it makes you less triggered less often and when you’re triggered, you’re not triggered so intensely and you recover more quickly, that’s the calm, and it also focuses you. Meditation is a direct training of the mind in paying attention…” [17:39]
    “Cognitive control is a stronger predictor of your adult life than your childhood IQ or the wealth of the family you grew up in.” [1:17:18]
    “The first person who benefits from compassion is the one who feels it.” [1:34:29]
    FOLLOW DANIEL:
    Website: danielgoleman.info
    Twitter: danielgolemanei
    Facebook: danielgoleman
    LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/danielgoleman
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Komentáře • 688

  • @Darcy586
    @Darcy586 Před měsícem +2

    Daniel I admire you for tolerating this interviewer the way you did

  • @grahamstoney169
    @grahamstoney169 Před 3 lety +387

    The way Tom keeps interrupting Dr Goleman is emotionally hijacking my amygdala.

    • @MsMiiyaa
      @MsMiiyaa Před 3 lety +8

      😅😅😅same!

    • @narcisussstoicone2275
      @narcisussstoicone2275 Před 3 lety +13

      I was just about to complain about that too. He did the same thing in the Robert Greene interview!

    • @bageshwaradhamanubhavreact12
      @bageshwaradhamanubhavreact12 Před 3 lety

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    • @darrenboyer8077
      @darrenboyer8077 Před 3 lety +4

      I had my amygdala taken out so I don’t have that problem 😳

    • @amitgupta9844
      @amitgupta9844 Před 3 lety +9

      Not a good way of driving things. Looks like he is very egoistic

  • @AhmetKaan
    @AhmetKaan Před 3 lety +51

    *There is nothing more beautiful than someone who goes out of their way to make life beautiful for others.*

  • @LifeNavigation
    @LifeNavigation Před 3 lety +80

    “Emotional self-control-- delaying gratification and stifling impulsiveness- underlies accomplishment of every sort” - Daniel Goleman

  • @ady200003
    @ady200003 Před 3 lety +97

    Tom I respect your chanel and the work you do and I want to aks you to kindly wait for your guests to answer whatever you're asking them. Sometimes you get very excited about a subject and at the end of the day you talk more than your guest.

    • @olgaluolarte5658
      @olgaluolarte5658 Před 3 lety +5

      Totally AGREE . that is the reason Tom invites someone to the show, let them to talk

    • @josephpalmer6844
      @josephpalmer6844 Před 3 lety +2

      This is called “conversations with Tom” The entire purpose of it is to dig down to the questions HE wants to ask and have a real conversation and to challenge people in real conversation. It’s the whole reason he made this apart from impact theory!

    • @harima36
      @harima36 Před 2 lety +1

      tom, give Daniel the talking stick!

  • @globalone2819
    @globalone2819 Před 3 lety +33

    I liked when Daniel (interviewee) tuned into an interviewer, to show to Tom how to handle the interviewing process properly. it pays off immediately and Tom start to give enough space and time for Daniel to finish his statement.

  • @lucasignoretti2714
    @lucasignoretti2714 Před 3 lety +100

    I was impressed by Daniel Goleman attitude. He really showed what empathy is during all the conversation till the point that he starts asking questions to Tom to show how he is interested in the other person! That's a great man and professional, even when Tom is a bit too impatient with his questioning something that could have disturbed more than one interviewee in a normal situation.

    • @AbeerSharaf
      @AbeerSharaf Před 2 lety +4

      Daniel is an exquisite person.

    • @susanmonteiro345
      @susanmonteiro345 Před rokem

      Ll

    • @VolcanTech
      @VolcanTech Před rokem +2

      Every interview is about Tom. He always go to me me me me.

    • @cartergomez5390
      @cartergomez5390 Před 8 měsíci

      Yeah, I just purchased a book called Emotional Self-Awareness by Daniel Goldman and other authors and it was only $4! There are alot of ways to improve in emotional intelligence.

  • @dr.squidwardburr7661
    @dr.squidwardburr7661 Před 2 lety +9

    Anyone else notice how Tom adapted his listening strategy after Daniel asked him about how he got into his current walk & subsequently listened until Tom was totally finished?

  • @tamima9844
    @tamima9844 Před 3 lety +125

    It's amazing how Daniel Goleman becomes an interviewer and Tom the Interviewee in the middle of the conversation.

    • @MotivationalStormvideos
      @MotivationalStormvideos Před 3 lety +1

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    • @kayleighkannthewisher
      @kayleighkannthewisher Před 3 lety +14

      It’s incredible actually because it proves his emotional intelligence and maturity. If a conversation is focused on one individual it makes the relationship feel surface level. Asking people questions who ask you questions helps solidify trust and a bond with that person.

    • @fenellathompson6927
      @fenellathompson6927 Před 3 lety

      @@kayleighkannthewisher qqqq of

    • @fenellathompson6927
      @fenellathompson6927 Před 3 lety

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      V

    • @fernchamberlain82
      @fernchamberlain82 Před 3 lety +1

      Terrific info!

  • @alyxh7360
    @alyxh7360 Před 3 lety +57

    I admire your channel, and it would be a good interview if there weren’t so many interruptions. There’s a time and place to talk about what you want to say, but you’ve got this incredible human to interview and it’s jarring when I’m listening to his response and suddenly bam, it’s completely cut off. Let’s incorporate active listening 👂🏻

  • @bugsea54
    @bugsea54 Před 3 lety +28

    I am isolated alone and I am doing to many self improvement things that I never could do before. It's amazing. Remolding my home, more meditation, more reading, my animals are getting better care, I'm calmer , I'm happier , I am lonely but I know it's temporary .

    • @ratnakunasani4392
      @ratnakunasani4392 Před 3 lety +9

      No
      You are not alone
      The universe is with you
      🤗

    • @ahmedfiasco6412
      @ahmedfiasco6412 Před 3 lety +2

      keep going and come back stronger and healthier than ever

    • @redkap5816
      @redkap5816 Před 2 lety +2

      You will take the world by storm when you reemerge. Improved and focused

    • @harima36
      @harima36 Před 2 lety +2

      you are not alone. you are with you. sounds great what has been happening for/with you.

    • @rainsara2795
      @rainsara2795 Před rokem +1

      Jesus is with you❤

  • @yogeshkulkarni
    @yogeshkulkarni Před 3 lety +13

    Jottings:
    - Theme: Being EQ (Emotional Intelligence) smart
    - EQ: being smart about emotions
    - Self Awareness (knowing feelings, cognitive control)
    - Self Management (put positives forth)
    - Empathy
    - Social skills, relationships
    - EQ more important than IQ for growth-success.
    - EQ is learn-able, so teach in school, better before age 20.
    - Any Meditation works, makes calmer, focuses attention.
    - Meditation shifts from Sympathetic (flight or fight, amygdala) to para-sympathetic (calm, pre-frontal cortex)
    - Social brain: links to brains of others. Invisible influence just by presence.
    - Emotional control: Have ability to take down anyone, but don't do it.
    - Finding inner drive/purpose: by accident, self-awareness, evaluating choices
    - Successful entrepreneurs: growth mindset, visualization, get performance feedback, risk after homework, grit, help others (empathy)

  • @AnaMarcu
    @AnaMarcu Před 3 lety +159

    Tom, I really enjoy your interviews and I am just as impatient as you but you might want to consider letting Daniel finish his sentences.

    • @samailagoje5885
      @samailagoje5885 Před 2 lety +29

      I thought the same thing. But I am glad Tom was interrupting. Goleman has a script, he repeats everytime (which you read in his book(s)). Tom was successful in getting him to go beyond his script. Goleman didn't seem to mind and I suspect was flattered how deep Tom has studied his books. Anyway, the interview gets better, and becomes a genuine conversation towards the middle. Legendary interview.

    • @derikhibbs1689
      @derikhibbs1689 Před 2 lety +1

      My

    • @caroljohnstone4800
      @caroljohnstone4800 Před 2 lety +5

      Zoom wasn’t helping on this one either - so easy to interrupt because of the technical overlap

    • @pure-pisces9470
      @pure-pisces9470 Před 2 lety +2

      Totally agree! stop - take a breath!!

    • @sibonelomthunzi7089
      @sibonelomthunzi7089 Před 2 lety

      A

  • @LulaS
    @LulaS Před 3 lety +41

    "The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you're in control of your life. If you don't, life controls you." Tony Robbins

  • @sabrinaoloughlin6957
    @sabrinaoloughlin6957 Před 3 lety +84

    I love this guy!! I feel Tom is getting better with interrupting his guests but I can only imagine it's hard not to when your so passionate and realize there is alot to learn from them.

    • @mcee555
      @mcee555 Před 3 lety +1

      AGREED!!!!! The fact that he still has this much passion in this area, after all the quality productive content he has curated and released for us, it's honestly super phenomenal and inspirational!!!!!

    • @roycekinniebrew1767
      @roycekinniebrew1767 Před rokem

      I noticed that too!

  • @211enlightenment
    @211enlightenment Před 3 lety +14

    I spent all last year in solitude on purpose and meditated 3 to 4hrs a day. I did not feel lonely at all and felt very calm. At 41:00 I connected to this so much. I came out this year and a different person from having done that. My amygdala was very active due to trauma and now I don't feel anger very often - when I do it converts to compassion within a day.

  • @VictoriaVic789
    @VictoriaVic789 Před rokem +5

    I read Goleman's book many years ago, was very impressed. But in communication he seems even greater, such a wonderful soul

  • @sparkleinco2035
    @sparkleinco2035 Před 3 lety +38

    Another fab interview . I discovered something I do when I can't sleep. I go mentally up and down all the streets in my neighborhood wishing each neighbor who I know " may John Doe be happy" and so on. I keep on until I have visited each house. I have been very happy lately even though in lockdown and do not see these people. Now I understand that there is probably a connection between my practice and my positive emotions.

    • @aqe7914
      @aqe7914 Před 3 lety +1

      Wonderful technique, if you continue this practice and accompany it with a small act of kindness a day like giving a needy some etc, you will transform yourself from scarce to abundance mentality, which actually will increase your wealth health and social status. But please treat them as side effects when they come and dont do it for sake of those worldly side effects ;-)

    • @STONEDKURLS
      @STONEDKURLS Před 3 lety +2

      This is so wholesome 🥺💕 Thank you for existing.

    • @AriesSlagv
      @AriesSlagv Před 2 lety

      Wow!! I will do this!

    • @conlawmeateater8792
      @conlawmeateater8792 Před rokem

      It's an aspect of gratitude

  • @kayg26
    @kayg26 Před 3 lety +2

    For all you professional interviewers out there commenting how Tom should stop Interrupting.... we wouldn’t have gotten nearly as much information in the short time they had from Mr. Goleman had Tom not done his JOB as the interviewer. If you’d like to just hear Mr. Goleman speak go watch a lecture by him. Tom ask some amazing questions. In my opinion this conversation went like best friends enjoying each other’s presence and being excited about what each has to say and I was excited to hear every word.

  • @RemasterYourLife
    @RemasterYourLife Před 3 lety +39

    I'm studying Psychology myself and I'm also a Buddhist, I think the field of psychology could really benefit from more personal experience in deep meditation. The problem is I think most people in the field either do research on others or read research written by someone else, but the more advanced states of meditation can't be understood from a textbook. Maybe more research into the arera would encourage more psychologists/behavioural scientists to try it themselves.

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      @bageshwaradhamanubhavreact12 Před 3 lety

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    • @harima36
      @harima36 Před 2 lety

      psychological self observance combined with gentle meditation, pranayama and little yoga will take you home to the SELF. i like the enneagram for psychological self insight. Helps in understanding others too.

    • @satyam1945
      @satyam1945 Před 2 lety

      Don't follow a cult you are not bhuddist no one is bhuddha is state of mind not person, follow read every one and then leave a information in a bottle and forget it and cry for the one above all . Chant SHRI RAAM.

    • @harima36
      @harima36 Před 2 lety

      @@satyam1945 chill

  • @POSITIVEMILLIONAIRE
    @POSITIVEMILLIONAIRE Před 3 lety +123

    The 1% who's reading this may all your dreams come true.
    ..

  • @shembeliever6095
    @shembeliever6095 Před 3 lety +83

    Excellent interview thanks. Just some feedback Tom do not interrupt so much, let the guest talk and mentally reserve the Qs for after. He had barely even finished his sentence and he is being constantly cut off. Gracious guest 😁

    • @dakotablueskies
      @dakotablueskies Před 3 lety +5

      I liked the measured rate that thus guest delivered his message. Don’t be afraid to let an idea settle before jumping to the next.

    • @deadmanswife3625
      @deadmanswife3625 Před 3 lety +4

      @@dakotablueskies almost unpleasant all the interruption

    • @shineev1
      @shineev1 Před 3 lety +5

      Yes I normally like Tom's interview style but I felt he came across as abrupt here, and didn't respect the interviewee, like me on caffeine 😂 Hard to watch as he was cutting him off at the end of each answer almost demanding more info. Before the last point was complete. Interview held his position with grace and patience.

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  • @cjbobby70
    @cjbobby70 Před 2 lety +3

    Omg!! When the discussion about the o overweight kid and the "so called cool kids".I broke out into tears.I am so emotional and so empathic .I have such a "doomsday" feeling on civilization and where this world is going. So when I hear stories or see situations that have a positive outlook,or compassion,or some kind of defending of the person or situation ,...it totally instills a positive and a faith in humanity.I love your program.You have an incredible sense of what matters to people or what WOULD POSSIBLY INSTILL THE GOOD AND POSITIVE in human beings.This particular program was most inspiring and made for a very positive outlook in my life today.Homeless for the first time,an every day maintenance drug and alcohol user, house burning down then husband leaving and wanting to die.Im in temporary housing,have a 25 yr old son who has suffered throughout his own life(is sleeping on his bosses couch) and a mum over 70 who I used to treat so badly but in the last 10-15 years I have changed that and love her more than I could say in words.A musical,American,Jewish,musical genius step father who also has assburgers,who I love dearly. I feel I have so much to say to people.Maybe that's my ego,regardless, thank you for the start of my day today.

  • @gurudra
    @gurudra Před 3 lety +115

    The mind is a loyal servant but a very torturous master🙏

  • @oliviaolivia7011
    @oliviaolivia7011 Před 3 lety +3

    Please Tom respect your guests and let them talk !!! It’s like you don’t listen what your gust is trying to say rather it’s about you and your questions ... Best interviewer nowadays is Peter Attia, he has mastered it , he listens, he asks appropriate questions in RIGHT TIME , he is calm , relax and full of respect to all his guests !!!

  • @jagrutinaik2282
    @jagrutinaik2282 Před 2 měsíci

    Proud to be Indian , Dr. Goleman came to India , got so many insights about meditation. Meditation comes from India from very ancient Times,

  • @niman6505
    @niman6505 Před 3 lety +1

    I’m eternally grateful to you Tom for your show. A special thank you for inviting Dr. Goleman. Very nice to finally put a face to his amazing book and work 🙏🏻

  • @rachealann6866
    @rachealann6866 Před 2 lety +3

    Tom’s passion for and commitment to helping others are undeniable and evident in all the interviews he has done. He seems to know intuitively the questions we are seeking answers for and does his best to ensure that we get those answers. Such an amazing human being and an inspiration.

  • @sherryloftin2468
    @sherryloftin2468 Před rokem +2

    I have watched this multiple times. I got so many pieces of wisdom from this interview. Thank you Tom for organizing this and hosting the legendary Daniel Goleman who kindly gifts us with his wisdom so we can live better.

  • @seemapatilJapan
    @seemapatilJapan Před 3 lety +4

    Be aware of your emotions, label them that is half the solution. Meditation, purpose. why you do what you do are some of the key words. Tom, you need to bring on one more interview with Dr. Daniel.

  • @TheAceInfinity
    @TheAceInfinity Před 2 lety +1

    Tom - I have watched maybe 2 or 3 interviews and I love this content that you're bringing to your channel. The insightful questions are some of the highest quality, and they clearly provoke some interesting discussions that seem genuine. They appear to keep the interviewee interested in the topics they know best.

  • @smallstepsbysukhi7352
    @smallstepsbysukhi7352 Před 3 lety +1

    One of the best Tom Bilyeu interviews I've heard. Took so much from it!! Defo a one I'll be sharing

  • @mcee555
    @mcee555 Před 3 lety +6

    Let Tom live! He's doing awesome! He can't be 100% all the time. I watch/listen to so many podcasts, and this guy is like top 1% in his interviewing/conversation skills. I think it's more valuable for him to be STILL so completely passionate on these topics, as a long-term educational benefit for us.

  • @amjitkp
    @amjitkp Před 2 lety

    Tom you are just Amazing...When ever I become low with confidence or anxious about tomorrow, I just watch your videos.
    Emotional intelligence and Focus were two of the best books I have come across which helped me stabilise my thoughts when ever I get carried away with negativity

  • @allancurme
    @allancurme Před 3 lety +2

    One of the best conversations yet. Thanks, Tom and Daniel. The interest Daniel showed in Tom was fun to watch. I felt like Tom may wobble a bit with a couple of the questions/insights but, nope, everything he stands for stood true. Brilliant.

  • @AnaGarcia-xd4pg
    @AnaGarcia-xd4pg Před 3 lety +2

    This was one of the best podcast I have seen in a while. Love the conversation between both of them. So interesting!!! Thanks.

  • @nemigam223
    @nemigam223 Před 3 lety +2

    Thanks for having an inspiring amazing guest! Thanks for introducing him. I loved this episode ❤️

  • @Neezy9
    @Neezy9 Před 3 lety +3

    This interview alone is material enough for great significant change...highly appreciated work....🙏🏾 thank you Dr Daniel Goleman for your wisdom.

  • @0caesar016
    @0caesar016 Před 2 lety

    One of your best interviews by far. It felt like a regular conversation most of the time. Priceless

  • @nancydisney1274
    @nancydisney1274 Před 3 lety +3

    Tom! We watch you and subscribe because we like you. You need to change your medication and stop interrupting your guests.
    We totally wanted this guy to finish his sentences once in awhile. Meditate and listen, Quietly. Ask your questions privately. The guy is answering all of our questions, if you will just let him.

  • @kb2014
    @kb2014 Před 3 lety +11

    This is what it looks like to other people when you're self-absorbed. God, I worry that I sound like that...I'll pay more attention in the future. Thanks, Tom, for the (unintended) lesson!

  • @petersireno
    @petersireno Před 3 lety +1

    Another truly thoughtful and helpful podcast. Thank you Tom! You’re a kind soul.

  • @caroc8290
    @caroc8290 Před 3 lety +7

    Dear Tom, I have improved my life because of you! Thank you for bringing your amazing guest!
    You’re amazing, love the clarity of your interviews!
    Much love to you and family 2021!!!

  • @deliap.8456
    @deliap.8456 Před 3 lety +2

    I thoroughly enjoyed the entire conversation and so appreciate Daniel Goleman!

  • @david.walters
    @david.walters Před 3 lety +1

    You are such a beautiful being of love and light. Thank you for being here on earth during this powerful transition :) The universe and God love you unconditionally ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏

  • @showvitta7
    @showvitta7 Před 2 lety

    This video was one of the most POWERFUL I’ve ever watched. Thank you both for imparting your wisdom!

  • @RozzaMindset
    @RozzaMindset Před 3 lety +4

    Great conversation! Love Daniel's definition of emotional intelligence!Thank you for this valuable information!

  • @pochuweb
    @pochuweb Před 2 lety

    Thanks, Tom, for sharing your life’s passions and motivations. I can actually relate to that and for once don’t feel so weird after all. I will always remember what you said whenever I get down on myself for being a little different from the “norm”. Outstanding interview just like all the rest.

  • @casparschneider5198
    @casparschneider5198 Před 3 lety

    I think your work combined with your style is indeed unique as hell and helping plus giving me soo (soo) much. I love the hope, the wisdom, the skills and the joy combined with meaning with is definitely a big one in your talks. Even if we have and probably never will talk, since i am in a full blown different state/age group/background etc. you feel like a friend to me. Thank you very much for everything you have done and are still doing, Tom! I wish you and your wife may be friends for a really long time to go.

  • @rikkenorgaard6634
    @rikkenorgaard6634 Před 3 lety

    💗Loved this interview. Thank you for having a true legend like Mr. Goleman on your show! 🙏 So much love and appreciation for both of you! Will definitely check out your new podcast Daniel Goleman - it's all about 'we' I agree! I'm so excited to dive deeper into your work🌸🌱🙏

  • @nicoletaraduta4061
    @nicoletaraduta4061 Před 2 lety

    One of the best interviews with Daniel Goleman! Thank you for the inspiration!

  • @leilaw8331
    @leilaw8331 Před 2 lety

    Wow, totally speechless! such profound and insightful interview. I am rather appreciative and grateful to you both Tom & Daniel🙏🌹

  • @cpbeauvoir
    @cpbeauvoir Před 3 lety

    I think this is the most powerful interview I've watched on your channel. Thank you so much 🙏🏿

  • @dawnhabeck6364
    @dawnhabeck6364 Před rokem

    All in all, extremely informative interplay between two wonderfully intuitive life-long learners. Bless you both for spending your time teaching us!!!

  • @jacquelinechahine5645
    @jacquelinechahine5645 Před 3 lety

    Ok, I love and have learned and enjoyed many of the talks and info provided here on Impact Theory, but by far for some reason I definitely believe this one is my ultimate favorite... I really, really appreciate this guest... and Tom, I literally feel like your a brother from another mother even though we haven’t met yet... always praying 🙏🏻 for all of us to be guided to acquire better and more beneficial knowledge. Thank you for all that you do.

  • @anarguedas
    @anarguedas Před 3 lety +1

    Great interview! No dout that emotional inteligence is the way to success. I been watching your show now for almost two years Tom and is always getting better. Thanks.

  • @kyleseanyoung9075
    @kyleseanyoung9075 Před 3 lety +1

    This was so Educational, thank you so much to the both of you. Your wisdom, teachings and efforts are oh so appreciated.

  • @manishsubba7313
    @manishsubba7313 Před 2 lety

    Thank you, Tom. It has been delight to listen the insight from Daniel.

  • @carllee5824
    @carllee5824 Před 3 lety +130

    Tom why do you keep cutting this man off bro. It’s like he tells you his observation and goes into theory then you cut him off every time he gets to his premise or hypothesis and you cut him off from his of thought
    Also have you ever heard the idea that if you let someone completely finish what they’re saying and the answer to your question might answer your question before you ask it..... by the way I think your inspiring and an awesome host.

    • @shyiarobinson9758
      @shyiarobinson9758 Před 3 lety +12

      Honestly Oprah does the same thing, but I realized that when you are the one who is steering the conversation, sometimes interrupting isn’t to be rude, but to keep the guest on the subject and that they don’t veer off. Also, I find myself preparing to receive the answer he asked of his guest and sometimes they misunderstand the questions; so he asks them to answer exactly what his listeners want to hear. I hope this helps! 😋

    • @heladds
      @heladds Před 3 lety +16

      Exactly what I noticed. Tom needs to calm down and listen more...or maybe needs more meditation?

    • @heladds
      @heladds Před 3 lety +6

      @@shyiarobinson9758 I don't think he did that at all...I think he interrupts to talk sometimes...almost too excited....

    • @dbsllama6042
      @dbsllama6042 Před 3 lety +3

      Without having seen the video, keep in mind there is a delay/lag virtually, which is not present in-person.

    • @aphs632
      @aphs632 Před 3 lety +5

      I have the same impression, bothered me a little 😏

  • @edwinpilo8267
    @edwinpilo8267 Před 3 lety +1

    Waited for Daniel Goleman for so long, worth it. Thank you Tom!

  • @kittymaui
    @kittymaui Před 3 lety

    lots of back and forth wisdom enveloped towards the end 🙏 Daniel Goldman sounds like a deep, wise compassionate listener emitting peaceful energy and lots of light. Thankful. Thank you Tom for the opportunity to learn.🙏

  • @kayg26
    @kayg26 Před 3 lety +1

    Grateful for all I learned ! About to buy Daniel Goleman’s book on audible! I soo appreciate this channel.

  • @rodicadraws
    @rodicadraws Před 3 lety +4

    Such a good conversation. Thank you!😊🙏

  • @DigitalRapport
    @DigitalRapport Před 3 lety

    wow cool, so cool to see this. I studied EQ back in 2004. I made a basic psychometric test around this for my uni dissertation. It's become the foundation of my understanding of personal development and human behaviour. To paraphrase, Emotional intelligence is the ability to monitor your own and other peoples feelings and emotions and then being able to use those feelings and emotions to pursue and attain goals.
    Feeling grateful I came across this back then as it set a very good foundation for me. So defiantly look into it and learn about it. 🙏🏻

  • @nolanchiat3810
    @nolanchiat3810 Před 3 lety +4

    Great interview. Tom, thanks for training us. I feel the benefits.

  • @onebeardedvet
    @onebeardedvet Před rokem

    That was a low key (Banger) for me. Ever show resonates but some just tweak you! So thankful for the little tweaks that keep me MOVING!

  • @Magnaluyi
    @Magnaluyi Před rokem

    Dr. Goleman is a one of the books and ideas more relevant of our times 👏🏻 Thank you Tom, great job as usual

  • @alir6721
    @alir6721 Před 5 měsíci

    This interview was truly illuminating and extraordinary, leaving me eagerly anticipating future conversations between you two. The depth of insight and the captivating dialogue showcased an incredible awareness that promises more awe-inspiring discussions ahead

  • @siyandankundla-mgudlwa1888

    One of the best conversations. I truly enjoyed it.

  • @osaitileconsultinggroup
    @osaitileconsultinggroup Před 3 lety +2

    I just read Primal Leadership! Crazy how this interview just took place.... the timing!!!!

  • @jacquelinechahine5645
    @jacquelinechahine5645 Před 3 lety +1

    Tom was literally in my head when he asked, “ Can you teach Empathy”? Awesomeness 🥳

  • @dzihanahajdarpasicmisirlic5347

    Cool Golman becomes intervuer That is a real therapist with high interest in people Love them both

  • @erikavv8807
    @erikavv8807 Před 10 měsíci

    One of the best conversation ever. Thoughtful and resourceful. Thank you so much.

  • @kockykowby6401
    @kockykowby6401 Před 3 lety +5

    This was amazing! I was looking for ways to increase my Emotional Intelligence where it relates to romantic relationships. This show really touched on so many points! I find that in the business world my EI is very high and it is easy for me to relate to others. I am looking forward to reading Daniel's books as well as learning more about Tom and the type of business' he runs! :)

  • @TheCorpyShow
    @TheCorpyShow Před rokem

    When ever I find a new interesting person whose videos to watch, Tom always has an interview with them.

  • @salvadorchavez8386
    @salvadorchavez8386 Před 3 lety +81

    Let your guest finish the sentence bro ✌🏽

    • @Bertlorch
      @Bertlorch Před 3 lety +8

      I don’t watch him as much cause he always cut ppl off and thinks he’s smarter than everyone!

    • @jesusperalta2335
      @jesusperalta2335 Před 2 lety +1

      Sadly you don't understand the concept of 'Conversations with Tom' :)

    • @arunmishra3691
      @arunmishra3691 Před 2 lety +1

      @@jesusperalta2335 then why is he posting on youtube and expecting others to watch it. Why dont he use a PHONE rather a Video call if really want to have CONVERSATION with him

  • @nikolakalewis
    @nikolakalewis Před 3 lety +2

    Great timing‼️ Just started reading Emotional Intelligence last week👌🏽

  • @cheekygeek5411
    @cheekygeek5411 Před 2 lety +2

    Tom, I really like your show and content, but for this part, i really think you should learn about active listening and managing silent in conversation to give space for daniel to speak.

  • @patriciarussell8450
    @patriciarussell8450 Před 2 lety

    Reading comments many seem to criticize you for interrupting your guests. Not to be judgmental except to say It has taken you a lot of work to get where you are and I am thankful to have a computer to watch and learn more everyday that you and your guest put out, THANK YOU, Tom☺Keep up the good work, you are valued. ☺☺☺☺

  • @denisecurran2324
    @denisecurran2324 Před 3 lety

    Awesome interview! Love Goldman's book. Your energy as a host is wonderful. It kept me glued to the entire interview!! Goldman sure was comforted by you to ask about your success and getting there. Agree with needing a purpose and being kind.

  • @yvonnekiwior9633
    @yvonnekiwior9633 Před 2 lety

    My most favorite interview! I love your topics.💞Thankyou 🙏

  • @SchuyFit
    @SchuyFit Před 3 lety +1

    Awesome thoughts from Dr. Goleman. Wishing to hear and learn more from his insights about this matter.

  • @fliplaw
    @fliplaw Před 3 lety

    Absolutely fantastic episode! Thanks a ton.

  • @linaaboudheir3878
    @linaaboudheir3878 Před 2 lety

    Loved the interview Tom Thanks so so much for sharing what you shared & insights of Daniel , thanks gor making sure Daniel explains more about certain “ cliche” used 🥰👌👌

  • @safiyamohamed9466
    @safiyamohamed9466 Před 3 lety

    Thank you Tom for the amazing interview, I read for the first time Daniel work when I was studying undergrad psychology I found fascinating.

  • @adriapeet3943
    @adriapeet3943 Před 2 lety

    Your videos are always enlightening thank you for what you do!

  • @mssiluvmusic16
    @mssiluvmusic16 Před 3 lety +1

    Very much to learn from this episode. I like that Daniel G thought of asking Tom about his story :)

  • @xxxxxx-lj3ov
    @xxxxxx-lj3ov Před 2 lety

    I'm very grateful to hear this as it reminds me my own experience of meditation when I was young and greater experience with it. And most importantly I'm proud to say I'm Indian and I dont have to go out and spent money to learn mantras because I definitely alot of it. I wish I could get in touch with you Tom and be able to share my experience about it. As I dont care to share it in public but definitely I'm grateful for every bit of experience.

  • @vinikak8214
    @vinikak8214 Před 3 lety

    Daniel is awesome. Thank you for such a great guest. This is a s a person who really contributed to make this world a better and kinder place

  • @amerkhan01
    @amerkhan01 Před 3 lety

    What an insightful chat. Thanks Tom.

  • @imunghikmah1081
    @imunghikmah1081 Před 3 lety

    I enjoyed this inspiring conversation very much. Thanks Daniel and Tom, for great insights about humanity. I admire you both. May you blessed with abundance of health and happiness.

  • @justworship0570
    @justworship0570 Před 3 lety +1

    Geez this is a true gem! the guy wrote one of the best books about EI, this video is worth of millions views, it's truely underrated so far! Peace from Russia,Dagestan ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @eawil-sunart
    @eawil-sunart Před 3 lety +1

    We all have tough days ...for all of you bitching here ... think about the multiple times Tom has lifted you up ...perhaps this would be a good time to repay him for his free podcasts of some of the greatest visionaries of our time!!! I know I appreciate you Tom even on your bad days !!!

  • @alkalakhotia142
    @alkalakhotia142 Před 3 lety

    One the The best Podcast.
    Thanks 🙏 to both of you.
    I am so blessed that I get to listen to you. Thank you 🙏

  • @thezoneseeker9220
    @thezoneseeker9220 Před rokem

    one of the best interview with Dr.Goleman.

  • @gardencali-arkansasstyle6995

    Yes, I agree, your show have great positive impact on others. Thank you kindly💖

  • @funkXCIV
    @funkXCIV Před 3 lety +5

    Equilibrium in the mind is all we need.

  • @PeterHorrill
    @PeterHorrill Před 3 lety +2

    That meditation method works as it shifts you to "the soulful self" from the personality.. interesting dialogue! Thanks!

  • @MindNow
    @MindNow Před 3 lety +5

    *Emotional intelligence is a valuable skill that everyone should acquire* 🙏
    Empathy and giving importance to the other person is a form of love ❤️ work together, help together and grow together 😊

    • @Virgifus
      @Virgifus Před 3 lety +1

      Or don't give yourself so much importance.

    • @adohmnail6445
      @adohmnail6445 Před 3 lety

      But we are not the same and we want different things. I am not responsible for your feelings and they may have little in common with my peoples.

  • @irondeep
    @irondeep Před 3 lety +5

    Great advice- Asking yourself, “Who benefits? Is it for now or for the future?”. I couldn’t agree more! It is very important to know what you and others feel and how it affects you and other people as you pursue your purpose and meaning in life. Highly recommended video!