5 Ways the World Works Against Autistic People - and How To Help in 2024 (No Music Edition)
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- čas přidán 31. 05. 2024
- 🔍 Understanding Autism | 5 Ways the World Works Against Autistics 🧠
What are some challenges of everyday life on the autism spectrum in a neurotypical world? How can we improve this in 2024? Many parts of daily life seem to work uniquely against autistic people, and today I'm going to break down just a few of those that you might not think about regularly. I also offer some quick and easy ideas for how everyone could help make the world a bit more autism-friendly.
Whether you're a parent, educator, colleague, friend, family member, or anyone who encounters autistic people (which statistically would be basically everyone), or if you're someone autistic who would like to hear how others experience the challenges of the world, this video is for you!
*NOTE: This is the same awesome video as "5 Ways the World Works Against Autistics" - without the background music, by popular demand. Enjoy! (If you want the version with background music, here it is: • Being Autistic Is Hard... )
📍 Timestamps:
0:00 - Intro
0:19 - Processing Time
1:13 - Misconceptions Related to Eye Contact
2:38 - Morning Schedules for Night Owls
3:44 - Inflexible Work Environments
5:26 - Mental Health and Work From Home Days
6:07 - Social Challenges of Autism
7:49 - Complexities of Social Norms
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Seems like you're a relatively new channel, welcome Chris and Debby! I'm from Thailand, knew that I was autistic at 34. Thanks for being another voice for us with invisible struggles.
Cheers!
Thank you so much for this video! I’m in the midst of the lengthy diagnosis process, and the major hurdle that made me look into ASD was losing job after job to burnout. Now I drive for Lyft, and that flexibility has made a huge difference. Bonus: Since everyone’s facing forward in the car, I don’t have to make eye contact with passengers!
I just found this channel, and I think it’s great. I predict lots of growth in the near future. Much love from Colorado. ❤
I can relate to losing job after job. It was the same for me. So I decided to start my own companies and do what I love!!
I’m really glad you found my channel!
I try to give a perfect order so the server doesn’t have to ask questions after I’m done. If they surprise me with choices, I’m likely to give what I think is an acceptable answer instead of trying to decide what I actually want.
YES! How many times have I ordered coffee or a late, and I'm not supposed to drink caffeine? I just get nervous and babble out the first thing I can think of. Do you laugh about it afterwards though?
I can so relate to this too. I always research the menu and options so I know what to say ahead of time. If things aren’t the way they are on the online menu and the actual restaurant I was panic or get super, irrationally angry. Sadly, I haven’t been able to laugh about it yet. Hopefully soon!
When i was in high school, I normally listened to what was going on in class discussions, while reading a book or doing homework for another class. The history teacher got upset with me because I "wasn't paying" attention to the class discussion. He was a bit shocked when I rattled of the previous fifteen minutes verbatim. And told him If I pay close attention to the discussion, then I start bursting out with correct answers and telling people they are stupid, and their opinion is badly thought out. His choice. he never bothered me again.
And after I aced the first test and explained American history is easy, who did we fight when over what, he really didn't bother me. (The longest period of "peace" is the great depression, which was laying the foundations for WWII.)
I had similar situations, only I wasn't great at reciting things back verbatim. So I learned to look like I was paying attention, which was hard and made actually paying attention even harder, and also to worry. Worrying helped me pay attention, but it led to some horrible chronic anxiety. When I think about my experiences in high school, I get angry. The teachers really bothered me. I know a lot of people with autism needlessly suffered.
@@ChrisandDebby I doodled and looked at the teacher periodically. Then I could pay attention and the teachers didn't complain as much since I was glancing their way.
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My goodness I simply love your videos. I see so much of what you speak about in my son. I love him to pieces but worry about him all the time. He’s smart, witty and has the biggest heart. I hope his dream becomes a reality… and that my boys open their business together because they will be kind, sensitive and aware of these challenges that so many face. You are gifted 💕🇨🇦
Thanks so much for kind comment! I'm glad my videos are helpful. In the future, my wife and I are going to make videos specifically for parents. Very excited about it, because that's actually our area of expertise.
Being autistic has plenty of challenges, but if given the right support, your son(s) could grow up to do absolutely amazing things! I bet they open up their own business and thrive. Autistics bring so much to the workplace. We have a very different way of thinking (important to avoid that herd mentality), are honest, work hard, avoid gossip, and truly believe anything is possible. It's okay to worry about your son (that's part of your job😂), but I'd encourage you to spend time researching and figuring out ways you can help support him.
I'm also very curious...how old are your sons? For your autistic buddy, what is he interested in?
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As someone with ASD, I face every difficulty you mentioned. It may surprise you, but while I understand where you're coming from, I feel you're placing too much responsibility for assumption on the NT world. It's not wrong for your example of a server to assume you can decide in 30 seconds what you want to drink. If you think we become exhausted just trying to decide what we want throughout a day, think of how exhausting it can be for someone like the server to have to learn to read every individual they serve to determine how to interact with them. There's no way they can know I have ASD/ADHD unless I wear the label on a shirt, so to eliminate assumptions on both sides, I've found that by asking myself "is this moment really worth me taking 5 minutes to study the menu to decide if I want tea, soda or water?" Is what I want, or think I need, more valuable than the moment? Sometimes it is. In the server/customer moment, no, I feel I lessen my anxiety by placing value on the importance of a moment. Concessions have to be made on both sides, but they need to be realistic.
Thanks for posting this. It's an interesting perspective and I agree with what you are saying to an extent. I'm with you in that I don't think NTs should have to do everything to accommodate each autistic individual. That's unreasonable and impossible. I also get it that most people in the world are NT and the rules created should be ones that benefit the majority. Shouting out unreasonable demands and then complaining when we don't get them isn't helpful. With that being said, the issues that I mention in the video regarding processing time were never a problem when I was in Australia or Ireland. I never felt rushed or judged because I needed a bit longer to process. And I'm not advocating for 30 seconds of processing time to order a drink - that's unreasonable. A server can't stick around for 30 seconds or longer waiting. That would be a situation where they could leave and come back to check. But I've found that if I don't respond within 1-3 seconds, that's when people start to get uncomfortable. Just one or two seconds more and I've got it... just a little bit longer. And it's not just the servers that get impatient. I've had situations where the people at my table were getting uncomfortable and giving me weird looks.
I really believe that spreading awareness is the best method moving forward, because the small changes NTs could make would be of little to no sacrifice to them, yet the benefits for us autistics would be tremendous. I believe that most people, if they knew more about autism, would be happy to make small adjustments (like being a bit more patient or having slightly different expectations). This has been my experience.
I really appreciate you being here and sharing. More videos on this topic coming. I'd be very interested to know more of your thoughts and experiences.