10 Behaviors of People with Autism
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- čas přidán 7. 06. 2024
- Ever wondered how a simple day feels when the world’s volume is turned way up? Dive in with me as we explore not just the clinical descriptions of autism, but the real, raw, personal side of it all based on my experiences as someone on the spectrum. For a little background, I have both ADHD and autism, and my diagnosis came quite late in life. Now I'm here to give some insight to help you understand some behaviors that you might see when interacting with autistic people in your life.
From the whirlwind of sensory overloads to the solace found in routines, and yes, even those unexpected quirks that sometimes make my day or throw a wrench in the works. We're diving deep!
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📌 Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
0:18 Difficulty with Social Interaction
2:04 Focused Interests
3:50 Repetitive Behaviors
6:45 Literal Interpretation of Language
7:17 Sensitivity to Sensory Stimuli
9:40 Adherence to Routine
11:42 Executive Functioning Difficulties
14:13 Emotional Sensitivity
18:37 Challenge with Eye Contact
20:05 Difficulty Understanding Personal Boundaries
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I'm entering the diagnostic process on the advice of a psychologist and watched many vids about autism. Can't relate to all issues that you mention, but background music irks me since forever!
I was talking about this video with my husband... ASD son overheard me. Now "shy" is happening in our household.
Oh man that’s awesome! Shy!
Can you respond to this comment thread and send a link to your channel? I like your content and I think others will too. Also, I notice you are improving with each video you make. You look so natural and comfortable on the camera in your recent videos and it’s awesome! You should be super proud of yourself!!!!
Omg you crack me up! The 'I am shy' 😂 ...*echolalia unlocked* 😂fab content!
I have all of these behaviors. Your videos make me feel heard. I love your style.
Glad you like them! And more on the way soon
I was also late diagnosed, at age 38 in April of this year. I just wanted to let you know that I relate hard to a lot of what you talked about as your personal experiences. One thing that's helped me with the emotional regulation was doing "Trigger Tracking" which is similar to chain analysis in DBT. Basically you write down the date, time, six things that happened before the event (meltdown, shutdown, etc), what you felt, and then i take those things that happened to determine what my triggers are and then i log them. I think my obsession with lists and data analysis is because of my neurotype for sure!
Thanks for the comment! I've read it three times already and shared it with my wife (she loves it too). The Trigger Tracking idea is the best idea ever. I love lists and data too! I do journaling and some documenting, but your approach sounds better. Do you use a regular notebook or make your own spreadsheet? How often do you go back and reread over past entries?
@@ChrisandDebby I use a bullet journal and have a little format / layout for the tracker then take the themes from the tracker and log it in a spreadsheet for similarities. Also in the spreadsheet i have other data such as medication, types of therapy and effectiveness, etc. I go back through my journals (which have more than just the trigger tracking) around once a quarter or twice a year. I track things such as stuff i've accomplished in a day, what meetings i have for the day, etc which also helps me keep track of everything. I have ADHD-C as well as an Anxiety disorder on top of being Autistic :)
Forgot to add - I also have a listing of things i struggle with, accommodations, and sensory strategies. There is also a crisis plan in my journal for quick reference.
Wow!! The ADHD and ASD combo is a tough one. And anxiety adds a whole other layer. I deal with all three of these as well. But it sounds like you are really organized and use your data for self-reflection. That’s so important if you want to keep growing. Good for you!!
If you don’t mind, I would love to know (and probably others too!) what are some sensory strategies you use.
@@ChrisandDebby Great question, I have quite a few sensory issues. To help with them I have some things i carry with me every day (earplugs, ANC headphones, Sunglasses, Baseball cap, candy, soft plushy in my purse, a handheld fan, gloves, hand sanitizer, lotion, etc) and there are some things I have setup in my home office / safe room (my den) like defuse lighting, blackout curtains, galaxy projector, personal tea kettle and tea set, air purifier fan with heater (dyson), etc. I keep brightness down, turn down the white point on my phone through accessibility, and I also trained my dog to give me pressure when i'm upset. These things help greatly as well as choosing textiles that are soft touch for the bed i have in my safe room. Hope this helps!
Aahh I loved that you shouted out Australia for our birds, thank you!! Maybe that's part of the reason as to why birds ended up being one of my special interests 😇
We absolutely loved the birds (and people) of Australia!
WOW, just wow....Really amazing; you nailed every point and explained why better than anyone I have ever seen. It was one revelation after another for me. Thank You! You are very introspective and that makes you amazing at explaining this stuff. Please keep them coming, you are the perfect guide for a 47 year old male like me.
Wow, thanks so much! Glad it’s connecting with your experiences! It’s why we wanted to start the channel and it’s hard to share at times, but this makes it worth it. It can be easier telling it to the camera than to people sometimes. More on the way soon!
@@ChrisandDebby Your insights are pretty amazing to me. This has been one of the most fascinating parts of discovering I am autistic. The fact that there can be people in the world who understand you better than the people closest to you. It's wild! Some of the autistic creators are so similar in their autism profile that they could be siblings.
Yes, the variation but also the similarities (esp in experiences) across many people who are autistic is really fascinating! It makes me better understand myself but also feels great knowing other people can connect with shared experiences
The eye contact thing - I work in food retail at the moment, and the customer service is so challenging I had to tell my manager that I couldn't manage it for more than half an hour at a time. I think it's that when lots of customers come, I focus on them and absorb sooooo much information (their eyes, clothes, tone of voice, body language etc etc). Imagine doing that with hundreds of people all day...
I eventually realised that I can mitigate that absolute horror of too much info from people (I could only bear it to the point where I would shut down and not be able to talk at all, or need to cry in the bathroom, feeling overhwhelmed and nauseous) - if I avoided making eye contact with the customers! Such a helpful revelation lolol. I feel a bit bad for not giving them my full attention, but it means I have to deal with far less information/energy from each person and allows me to carry on and finish my day.
Once I got on a bus, the kind where you have to close the door behind you yourself. After I closed it, the driver said, "You couldn't shut it any harder?" So I did. That's when I discovered he was being sarcastic.
For headlights and street lights at night, I use anti-glare glasses to reduce it. It is not perfect, but I know how much it hurts my eyes if I took the dang things out of the car and left them at home. If my eyes are really tired, I sometimes will put on a lighter shade of sunglasses over them. We have a freaking fluorescent light in our bathroom, we are in a rental, in the colder months that thing is slow to turn on and it flickers. It drives me crazy! I never thought I was light sensitive, until I started to pay attention. I knew about the noise, but not light.
Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for watching!
I don't have to always do the same thing (I don't really have a lot of long-standing routines) but when I had an idea to do something a certain way, and I'm happy with doing it that way, having to suddenly change doing something else can be very stressful.
I'm also not really sensitive to sensory stimuli... But difficulty with social interactions is a huge thing and I have a couple quite interesting stimming behaviors.
So I think I'm in some middle ground where like I'm somewhat autistic but not a whole lot lol. Makes it difficult to relate to people sometimes.
Debbie sounds like a saint! Thanks for this video... Many things for me mirror what you have talked about here, and in many other videos you put together. I feel so much more accepting of myself, now that I understand myself a bit more... Videos like this, sincerely help! Thanks so much Chris, for all your honesty and for sharing what you do... And thank you to Debbie, too!!!😅
You’re very welcome! Thanks for friendly comments! Debby is amazing. She’s my best buddy and I’m really excited for her videos to start getting posted. I also have several videos in the works highlighting how important it is for autistics to be with the right people.
This is my second time watching this. It's so funny! 😂 And I totally relate
You are an amazingly funny individual and your content is perfect! Go Aspie’s!
Thank you so much for producing this content! I’m experiencing extreme burnout handling daily life and I am searching for ways to be functional without completely depleting myself. It’s a hard balance to strike!
Yes it is! I’m currently in the middle of autistic burnout and it’s been a struggle. I spend a lot of time staring into my fireplace and also sleeping. Some days I don’t talk because it’s too hard to put together a sentence. My current accommodation doesn’t have a bathtub but I wish it did. The important thing is when burnout arrives, we must listen to our bodies and minds and be patient.
What things are you doing to accommodate yourself now? Are there any adjustments you or others close to you can make? Burnout seems to be a frequent occurrence for us, but we’ve got to take initiative to improve how we are treated and treat ourselves. We are worth it!
The other thing I forgot to mention that really helps is giving yourself time to spend on your special interests. At least do things that you enjoy and help you relax. I’ve been exploring 3d wooden puzzles and it’s helped a lot!
@@ChrisandDebby Thank you so much for taking the time to reply! I think one of the biggest issues I face is finding time to recover. I feel like I have pared my life down a good bit but work, family, friends, and my partner take a lot of my time. What’s frustrating is that I do want to spend this time but it’s also incredibly draining. I’ve really been thinking about expanding ways to reset during the day, so that fatigue does not sneak up and is not so incapacitating. Maybe I need to leave my desk every hour for a few minutes and just be in the bathroom with a closed locked door. Maybe I need to sit in my car for 20 minutes before driving home. For me having time to transition helps a lot. If I can get home and shower and change before talking to anyone else I feel much more capable of handling more interaction. I also want to find more time to read, books are my passion and I would spend my life in my home library if I could 😭 I really appreciate the videos you make, they are so illuminating and helpful! They make me inspired to try to find ways to take care of myself rather than to keep struggling to just make it through each day. I hope you get plenty of time to recover from burnout and get to relax and feel like yourself without the weight of fatigue!!
@@londonlemons just wanted to follow up and see how the holidays went for you - I found that my recovery has taken (and is taking) a long time, so I have worked to readjust my own schedule more so that I don't reach this stage too often. I can completely understand the need for transitions and having time to spend on your own! I hope you were able to get some rest and reset time so that you can (gradually) get back to a more manageable spot. I'm working on being really clear with my own boundaries and making sure that I am getting the time I need - helps everyone around me, and I have realized that the ones who are most important will understand.
😂 i just noticed i do something similar. I will repeat the last sentence I've said but in a silly voice or in song. I wasn't really aware of it until today. I also wasn't aware of the hand flapping. Luckily for me I think the majority of people i work with have some sort of neurodivergence! The Postal service in the UK is the lost and found department for all of the eccentric people in the uk
Looks like you've found the best place to work!!
I didn't know I repeated words people just said until my husband pointed it out. He said it was funny because he would think of that kid from The Middle everytime I did it 😂
Hello truth tellers. Just a reminder, you are all beautiful; please handle the world your way, you do not need to explain. You are more normal to me then the expert masker people. (The judgey people.) You are just a truth teller. The world needs you. (just watch what you say around children and and authority.) You exist for a reason. You are wonderful. Enjoy your safe space.
Thank you for this message! We appreciate the encouragement - hope you're doing well and let us know if you have any suggestions or ideas for what you'd like to see more of in 2024!
Executive sensitivity, the CEO is near I can feel it.
Sounds like you have a 6th sense!
I'm not sure if mine would be considered a special Buddy. I have a plushie from my childhood but he's in my closet and I refuse to get rid of him. But I don't sleep with him, carry him around, etc
Looks like it’s time to dig him out from the closet and give him a change of scenery!!
I have issues with my alarms 😭 I have like 20 alarms for different things 😂 I didn't think anybody else had this issue!!
I don't have a Debby so i check the calendar multiple times a day. When Alexa becomes AI Alexa THEN I will have a Debby. Standing by. 😅
We all need a Debby 😊
it would be great for the neurodiverdity movement to drop the functioning labels. then we can work on weird, crazy and nuts. all sanist sane-ist? language. highly inappropriate. i know its hard. i try to think about the people im hurting when i use offensive words.
clanking dishes feels like electricution and tags feel like fire ants to me as well. LED lights made me give up night driving. when i was constipated, i wished for diahhrea
This background music is really overwhelming... But, is this the truth about autism or the truth about you? This is a list about things YOU do, but is it really all about autism???
This is the truth about me and the truth about autism. Do you have different behaviors? How does autism look for you?
A new version of this video will go up soon with no background music.
@@ChrisandDebby - It is not the truth about autism it is YOUR truth about autism. We are not the disorder, the disorder manifests though us differently. I think titles like this are misleading, you should state that this is YOUR version. I clicked expecting to see something about autism, not YOUR autism. And please, kill the background music, it is distracting and it makes it very hard to pay attention to what you are saying. I also have a diagnosis of autism level II and ADHD, that is why I was drawn to another video of yours, but I wish you would change the title to improve people's expectations.
@@montycora sure, I can see your point - The reason I chose this title was because a lot of the behaviors that I mention in the video are ones that other autistic people and lots of books and research about autism mention as being characteristics that are often present across the spectrum, even though they can look different (or not appear at all) for different individuals. So here's an example: one behavior of early human beings is that we were hunters and gatherers. How individuals or groups of people went about that behavior varied, but they were all still called hunter-gatherers. So if you are saying that these behaviors that I mentioned don't exist across all autistic people, I can see your point. But I also didn't say these are 10 behaviors of ALL people with autism, and the ones I chose seem to be fairly prevalent based on feedback, experiences I know of others with ASD, and lots of research.
But THEN I reread your comment and realized - it seems like you are referencing the beginning of the title about "The Truth" - and I see your point! Going to adjust that now - thanks for watching and keep the ideas coming. I'll also update when I have the version with no background music uploaded for you!
@@ChrisandDebby - Hey, Chris, sorry for taking so long to reply!! Thank you, I am so glad you understood perfectly what I meant, and I know that as an autistic person yourself you do enjoy precision in semantics as much as I do!!! I really do hope you won't take my criticism as a hurtful thing, I just wanted to point it out and debate! I really like your videos, but I am, unfortunately, a very pedantic person who loves to pick on things, but I am really pleased you understood and saw no offense!!! I will probably do it again in the future, so please, know it is not to hurt you.
@@Oshiiiiiiiiiiii - It is not harsh, why? He understood and even agreed with me!!! And we have been talking in other videos, he knows I don't mean to hurt him.
How do you get this help, when NOBODY will help you get this help?? Ahhhhh😢
It takes time to build awareness and to meet the right people who can provide support. There are tons of amazing people out there who are knowledgeable about how to support autistics. I’m currently working on classes to help spouses and loved ones of autistics learn to better communicate and provide necessary support. There’s also great therapists available who will do sessions over the phone. You never have to see them! Many of the therapists are autistic so they understand the challenges we face. I will make videos about this issue in the near future!
OK. But most people exhibit at least one or two of these behaviors at any given time in their life. How many of these manifested behaviors would indicate autism? For instance, some people have two of these characteristics, but not the others. Are we just giving individuals labels to excuse them from otherwise anti-social behaviors.
You bring up a really good point! I’m not a doctor, so I can’t diagnose which is important to note. I would suggest that an individual experiencing most or all of these behaviors seek out a medical professional. I do think that ppl with high functioning autism tend to have many if not most of these behaviors (and actually quite a few more) and the behaviors are capable of greatly interfering with our lives. I would also think that there are plenty of individuals who have, like you said, one or two of these behaviors at any given time during their life. The symptoms might not indicate ASD. ASD is difficult to diagnose in adults.
Define ”anti social”. Do you mean those people spending 20 minutes of nonsense talk before they get to the point? Or perhaps people who are communicating through riddles instead of explicitly saying what’s on their mind? Or maybe those who lack the ability to go their own way and actually accomplish something new? Or maybe people who laughs just because they think they are expected to, even though nothing funny was being said? I certainly agree that these defects add nothing to society
@@holmavik6756 just had a conversation with Debby about this and we are working on creating a class about communication between autistics and non-autistics. Came across some interesting information and also agree that the standard definition of what is "normal" for conversation is almost entirely from non-autistic perspectives, which is probably why people have labeled autistics as poor communicators for so long. However, new studies have shown that when autistics communicate with other autistics, we actually communicate at almost the same "success" rate as when non-autistics communicate with other non-autistics. But where the difficulties arose was when autistics and non-autistics were trying to communicate. That was when communication really was a struggle! So I can completely understand the frustration you've probably had for many, many years (and I've shared that frustration as I reflect after my diagnosis on exchanges where I felt like I was at fault for not "doing it right") when communicating with non-autistics. One of our goals is to help with that! So there will be more on the way. On a side note: I found this comment to be highly entertaining and I laughed out loud, so thank you 🙂
Thanks again for your feedback! Hope 2024 is off to a good start for you
@@ChrisandDebby many thank’s to the two of you for your kind responce. I am happy that you saw the irony in my comment 😄For sure, many autistic people do have behaviours that might be non-constructive, but the same is true about neuro typical people. I work at a mathematical department at a university, and while a small minority of us are neuro divergent, most are not. Yet there has developed a culture where social small talk and similar behavours are only accepted up to a certain level. I guess one could say that our work environment has kept the best of two worlds
The behaviours of nt people are much more awkward. Stop talking about asd-people like that…
Thanks for sharing! I’ll talk about whoever I want however I want.
@@ChrisandDebby of course you do! I did not mean it as a command, but rather as a suggestion of an alternative way of thinking about non-nt people
There will be more videos coming from my wife’s nt perspective. I point out all the time to her how awkward and pointless a lot of what she says and does is. 😂😂 But I’m awkward and weird as well and much of that is due to my audhd. I love being nd and I love all the nd people I’ve met. I know personally how tough it is being nd. You should try living in Taipei!! I’m not intentionally trying to upset anybody. My wife and I get a good laugh everyday about how different our brains are. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being awkward or weird. You keep watching our videos and post in the comments anything that’s on your mind! Much of the feedback I like and learn from.
@@ChrisandDebby I reached a point where I had enough of hearing about how different I and other nd people are. Think of a red ball and a blue ball, one mile apart. We have learnt to accept that the red ball is far away from the blue one. My point is that it would be equally true to say that the blue ball is far away from the red one. We should stop thinking about ourselfves as being ”different”, it does not add any value to our lifes. I will indeed keep following your vids, and perhaps trying to not be so direct in my comments…😉
@@holmavik6756 we don't mind the comments, and I think it's okay if we sometimes agree to disagree 🙂 Thanks for being here!