The REAL reason why you are so anxious at work.

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  • čas přidán 13. 01. 2020
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Komentáře • 439

  • @blackbellanow
    @blackbellanow Před rokem +353

    When I do a good job at work, I feel relieved. I never feel joy. A few weeks ago you asked me if I ever felt like I was doing a good job and I honestly answered “no”. I live in a headspace on constant evaluation of what I’m doing wrong. I’ve been strong arm ing my way through, but I am severely depressed. I feel very trapped and pulled in several directions.

    • @sarahlee8832
      @sarahlee8832 Před 10 měsíci +28

      It’s because we have heard so many stories of people getting fired especially in the recession we are in right now and doing a good job just only feels like the minimum expectation. Companies put so much blame for even a small mistake.

    • @brendansstorytime7552
      @brendansstorytime7552 Před 9 měsíci +11

      Omg we are the same 😢

    • @BillyBob-xw8kf
      @BillyBob-xw8kf Před 7 měsíci +15

      You have articulated how I have felt and still feel having worked in the corporate world for 20 years. All of my behaviours is fear based related to real life financial stress.

    • @tomrushton8038
      @tomrushton8038 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Yeah guys I’m the same. On an apprenticeship and I’m already messing up and I’m trapped in my head and don’t wanna tell my parents because they’re gonna be pissed. I keep getting upset but people around me tell me not to worry

    • @MsSimpleMovies
      @MsSimpleMovies Před 3 měsíci

      ​@@tomrushton8038 Your know your parents better than I do. But, I'm always trying to drum it in my children's heads: Come talk to us, because we're your most loyal and committed friends. You don't need to impress me. I'm the coach behind the scenes, helping you to navigate out there in the world. At home, please share your struggles, because we've got the benefit of perspective. Let us help!

  • @chandrikadas9163
    @chandrikadas9163 Před 6 měsíci +161

    That's EXACTLY how I feel. I feel like I'm stupid, I don't seem to GET things quickly, in a new role, I'm a mess. I feel like I'm not smart enough, not good enough, it's just so hard feeling this way. Anxiety is soul destroying. I hope i can get through this.

    • @user-eg1xw6rj3k
      @user-eg1xw6rj3k Před 5 měsíci +23

      Just know that you're not alone in feeling that way. I feel that way at work too, even though I know I'm intelligent. I'm sure you're smart, but the way we're often forced to learn at work isn't conducive to efficient learning. It can be hard to pick things up at work but that doesn't mean you're not smart.

    • @chandrikadas9163
      @chandrikadas9163 Před 5 měsíci +4

      @@user-eg1xw6rj3k thank you for such comforting words. ❤

    • @enlightenment5279
      @enlightenment5279 Před 5 měsíci +8

      I start a new job Tuesday and thought about writing before even starting because I feel like I’m incompetent. The anxiety alone is paralyzing. It takes me forever to learn new things and I want to save myself the frustration and embarrassment. I’m bracing for anything and everything.

    • @prabhatjoshi-hg2te
      @prabhatjoshi-hg2te Před 3 měsíci +1

      i am feeling same and dont have idea what to do. this job is new and i am taking time to learn

    • @chandrikadas9163
      @chandrikadas9163 Před 3 měsíci +4

      @@prabhatjoshi-hg2te i truly understand, but I promise , it will get better, with time. For me, I think I feel worse when managers seem a little harsh and not very understanding. But, please put the effort in and you'll see a difference. Try to be patient with yourself and have faith in time it will all come together. Wishing you all the best of luck 🙏

  • @jackieburns5257
    @jackieburns5257 Před 2 lety +219

    Anxiety caused by the possible financial impact of job loss happens, so it really is tied to survival.

    • @AlannaEMurdoch
      @AlannaEMurdoch Před rokem +16

      I thought about that too. However if I did get fired I know I wouldn't be out of work long I would look for a job until I found one. Even if it wasn't in the same industry. yes it would make me sad but I would survive

    • @ATMcGWriter
      @ATMcGWriter Před rokem +17

      @@AlannaEMurdoch I think you are totally right. We don’t give ourselves enough credit for how resilient and adaptive we are.

    • @Highlander9740
      @Highlander9740 Před rokem +4

      @@ATMcGWriter I agree. We always find a way.

    • @gwenwalden-coker8608
      @gwenwalden-coker8608 Před 9 měsíci +4

      I’m one month in to my first job in 3 1/2 yrs /covid when I lost my job. All day at work I worry about losing this job. I get stuck on a certain task then I’m in a constant cycle of negative thoughts “I can’t do this. I should know this. I should be quicker. The trainer thinks I’m too slow.” I can do the job…but once I get in that headspace it’s almost impossible to get out of it.

    • @lokendrakumar16
      @lokendrakumar16 Před 9 měsíci

      ⁠Is there any solution you find for this problem?

  • @danny-li6io
    @danny-li6io Před 5 měsíci +119

    Anyone who has the self awareness, courage, and desire to watch a video like this is very likely doing so much better than they think. I would call that being a very conscientious and caring person who unfortunately is constantly scrutinizing, comparing, and criticizing themselves. Employers and coworkers LOVE that, as opposed to the 80% who are way too arrogant or just insulated by their pride/egos to improve themselves or to even care. Don’t be so hard on yourself.

  • @na27000
    @na27000 Před 11 měsíci +42

    I feel my anxiety at work comes mainly due to lack of knowledge and proper training. I do my best to be prepare for the calls with my clients but I aleays feel that I don't know enough or as much as I should and therefore I just constantly want to quit.

    • @Relaxthemind0
      @Relaxthemind0 Před 4 měsíci +3

      Omg, i'm literally feeling the same way. I haven't got proper training. It feels like if i learn something or someone is calling me out for something i didn't know or they have never told me proper skills. It feels like im a failure and i had to know certain things. But unfortunately i started with nothing expierence or training, but i will never give my new colleague so much lack of training.

    • @na27000
      @na27000 Před 4 měsíci +3

      @@Relaxthemind0 I always help the newbies but not everyone has the same luck unfortunately. I hope it gets easy for you, wishing you all the best in 2024.

    • @Relaxthemind0
      @Relaxthemind0 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Thankyou!@@na27000 wishing you also all the best wishes for 2024 🫶!!

    • @annafringetree
      @annafringetree Před měsícem +1

      You summed up exactly how I feel and function at my job.

  • @speaklife9176
    @speaklife9176 Před 4 měsíci +18

    I have so much anxiety about work, I have panic attacks the night before work. Thank you for this video.

  • @cdawnlewis
    @cdawnlewis Před 3 lety +363

    I’m literally in awe of how on point this was for me!! I thought I was crazy for having such high anxiety that no one seemed to understand. Thank you so much!!

  • @Pinesol605
    @Pinesol605 Před rokem +21

    I am off and thinking about work! I hate it

  • @buhaysabahaykubo8052
    @buhaysabahaykubo8052 Před 2 lety +21

    I thought I'm the only one who's experiencing it. I'm really super stressed because of work lately😔 that I sometimes question myself worth.

  • @jalu8334
    @jalu8334 Před 2 lety +43

    My anxiety is fuelled by the fact I can't read over 1 page, I have mental fatigue when I read due to the fact I struggle to understand what I read. My understanding tends to be limited and I usually misunderstand what I read. I don't remember what I read, don't even get clarification after asking thousands questions...and my writing sucks, I have to write many document and often don't know where to start and to write. It seems everyone writing is best than me, and my Manager told me that my coworker is a good writer that made my anxiety go up as I know I lack that skill.

    • @hejhhopp
      @hejhhopp Před rokem +3

      I feel like this is something I could have written a couple of years ago. I hope you are doing better now!

  • @lakenmarie8142
    @lakenmarie8142 Před 6 měsíci +36

    I feel so seen. I left a job partly because I felt attacked and disrespected by a coworker. I could not understand why he would treat me that way and it really festered. I felt rejected. Im feeling that way in my new job now, so it must be me. I understand coworkers don't need to be best friends but could at least be friendly in passing. Everyone is in survival mode and I can't expect everyone to mask. Thank you for helping me understand this

    • @datnohi8612
      @datnohi8612 Před 5 měsíci

      No weapons formed against thee shall prosper. ISAIAH 54:17. just know you are not the problem they are

    • @fineweather4569
      @fineweather4569 Před 5 měsíci +5

      Modern working world is awful - people are just robots, and technology is making work worse as you have to complete tasks faster and faster. Trick is to train for something else that you might enjoy better and gives you more autonomy and control. Working for yourself rather than in an office is far better. Look at options and retrain.

    • @Edgesofnowhere008
      @Edgesofnowhere008 Před 5 měsíci +1

      ​@@fineweather4569
      Thank you for actually elaborating and not slamming a Bible verse in my face.

  • @lenhan1125
    @lenhan1125 Před rokem +66

    If ur in this situation you know how hard it is to actually function in the workplace, although deep down you know ur not that stupid and you can do it. Its a struggle, but journey to overcome it starts now

  • @Sparkymag
    @Sparkymag Před 3 lety +81

    Never thought of it this way. Just left a job because of this...🤦‍♀️ Now I'm starting over again, increasing my stress - maybe for nothing. Oh boy... I need to move into resilience, compassion, instead of fear, panic, etc.

    • @khakikohii
      @khakikohii Před 2 lety +5

      hello, how are you now?

    • @allyson--
      @allyson-- Před rokem

      how are *you* now?

    • @Sparkymag
      @Sparkymag Před rokem +11

      Doing much better. Still a bit anxious at work meetings and more complicated tasks but this position, despite more work, is a much better fit for me. 👍

    • @skyerobinson7988
      @skyerobinson7988 Před rokem +2

      @@Sparkymag really proud of you! you give me motivation for my new job

    • @rosetigga2077
      @rosetigga2077 Před 7 měsíci

      Amazing video ! Keep up the great work and content … never looked at this way

  • @gypsyaspen1297
    @gypsyaspen1297 Před rokem +9

    People get called dumb when they have performance anxiety and trying to people please

    • @tonyacanada
      @tonyacanada Před rokem +2

      RIGHT!!!!!!! Which is why I hate asking for help often and that gives me anxiety.

  • @jasmina3753
    @jasmina3753 Před 2 lety +11

    When you say this loud, it kind of feels like a relief.

  • @missk8teu
    @missk8teu Před rokem +70

    Sitting here on a Sunday afternoon under a weighted blanket trying to calm down after a full on day....on Friday. I've had anxiety all weekend. I started a new job 7 weeks ago and i feel i cant cope.
    I feel slightly better after watching this

  • @smokymom7670
    @smokymom7670 Před 3 lety +64

    I just started my new job week ago in new role and it stressed me out to the point of crying. I never thought about cause of my anxiety was because of primitive survival. I want to able to over come my work anxiety so I can be productive and feel confident.

    • @mstwelvedeadlycyns
      @mstwelvedeadlycyns Před rokem +1

      Do not put so much effort into it. Ask for help from those that will. Give them a deadline when work needs to be done.
      Pace yourself.

  • @Martlin
    @Martlin Před 6 měsíci +17

    Someone told me once that you need to mentally defend yourself just as if you were an attorney instead of convicting yourself for every little thing. I need to practice that more, but this was a great video. Thank you for giving me even more tools to work with.

  • @TheFluquency
    @TheFluquency Před rokem +40

    I’ve had 10 jobs in 4 years from me getting them, then becoming anxious and doubting myself and quitting within 1-6 months. I’m tired of feeling this way, I need money, and it seems like I only quit when I finally get comfortable with the tasks because I get anxiety about “what if I’m never as quick/efficient as my coworkers?” or “what if I forget things even after I’ve worked here for months?” I don’t know what to do…..😔

    • @Fleon47
      @Fleon47 Před rokem +5

      feeling the same way. Feel ya. Getting a new job made me even more insecure. Feel like it pushes it. the uncertainty is what makes this feeling.

    • @karissakline6765
      @karissakline6765 Před rokem +10

      I’ve been doing what I do on and off for 15+ years and I still get those fears. I also struggle with wanting to quit often because I have PTSD from being fired many years back and I feel a need to ‘protect’ my ego from that and pull the plug if I feel they are not happy with me. It is a viscous cycle and I hope you are able to overcome it, myself included.

    • @thesaexplorer
      @thesaexplorer Před rokem +6

      You are not alone. I always get thoughts of "what will they think of me if I'm not catching on to this job as quick as they or anyone else would" and fear making mistakes or not being as busy or doing enough as others.

    • @mariyanedelcheva2967
      @mariyanedelcheva2967 Před rokem +2

      I am on the same boat. Recently started new job and I never felt so anxious as I am feeling now. I cannot sleep, I have no time to eat and I am constantly doubting myself. On top of that my boss is a bully and scream most of the time to people. 💆🏻‍♀️

    • @damonherring136
      @damonherring136 Před rokem

      Sounds like you may have a anxiety disorder very much like me it makes you doubt yourself. I was diagnosed genralized anxiety disorder 1 year ago I recommend therapy before it starts to destroy your whole entire life from job to relationships and everything you have.

  • @Skyedior324
    @Skyedior324 Před 5 měsíci +13

    I watched this right before work and it was spot on! I always get anxiety 20 minutes before clocking in and it would carry on throughout the day and take it home with me. My boyfriend always says to not let things affect me and I always tell him I wish I knew how to turn it off, so this really helps me identify the feelings I’m having and how to fix it ❤

  • @savvyguy1353
    @savvyguy1353 Před rokem +6

    Office politics is real and there are actually people that can be out to get you or blunt your career growth. Vigilance and planning is super important to work through this stuff. Many talented people are made to feel anxious at work so that they never leave

  • @shakoe1943
    @shakoe1943 Před 4 lety +88

    This feels like a therapy sesssion! Thank you so much. I started crying when you named all the points like “too hectic” “my boss has too high expectations”....

    • @erinMfoley
      @erinMfoley  Před 4 lety +16

      Lucy! I am so glad you tuned in. You are NOT alone in feeling this way! Start to understand this is your mind creating drama because it's panicked. The more you practice reflecting on things and getting perspective the better you will get at it.

  • @lisac6139
    @lisac6139 Před 2 lety +149

    I literally managed to relax and let go of my anxiety in my new job today. I also made a mistake but corrected it, without too much stress. So proud of myself. Thank you so much for your insights.

  • @scottedwards807
    @scottedwards807 Před rokem +54

    I don't know if you will see this comment being that you made this video a couple of years ago...but I have slow processing skills. When I was in grade school, they would say that I'm a slow learner. At work, the faster people will get aggravated because I'm not picking up as fast as I should or if I make a mistake that most people with fast processing skills wouldn't make. This has done a number on my self esteem feeling quite stupid at times. Thank you for the video.

    • @wselenag45
      @wselenag45 Před rokem +9

      It takes time to catch on to things in a new environment, that's my take on it, just continue to do your job until you get better with it.

    • @mariyanedelcheva2967
      @mariyanedelcheva2967 Před rokem +4

      Same here

    • @mstwelvedeadlycyns
      @mstwelvedeadlycyns Před rokem +5

      We all make mistakes. They ones who appear faster refuse to allow anyone to see it.

    • @cassidymitchell9412
      @cassidymitchell9412 Před 2 měsíci +1

      I literally feel like this too. I’m at a new job , started 3 weeks ago I’m 25
      .. and I process things so slow. It’s the worst :(

    • @scottedwards807
      @scottedwards807 Před 2 měsíci

      @@cassidymitchell9412 Yes it’s the worst because there isn’t anything I can do about it

  • @himadevaraj7760
    @himadevaraj7760 Před 6 měsíci +5

    i am so happy I'm not alone in feeling this. Reading this comments really makes me feel understood

  • @5thgentexantexasforever982

    I go home in tears from work sometimes. I just started a new job about 2 months ago at 52 yrs old. I know the on the job training isn't the best and I've been trying to learn as much as I can about my job on the side. I'm usually a confident person but the 2 things I have fear of is 1, failing and 2, the office manager tasked to train me. She is easily agitated and is contradictory at times. She has told me the company has a "do it right the first time policy and if I need help, ask". But there are times when I do, she gets agitated..openly. Another issue is when ahead makes a mistake, it's perfectly OK but if I do, it's a huge issue. I've even caught her making a mistake and then she blames me. The other new girl that just started has said she's scarey. Now I have a fear of making any mistake or asking her more than one question. It's as if, because she told me once in one scenario, I should know exactly what to do in a completely different scenario. I don't know what to do. Quit and find another job in this field or stick it out hoping to get better.

    • @jacquelineclarke264
      @jacquelineclarke264 Před rokem +7

      I'm 57 in a new job 3 weeks. Anxiety through the roof. Stick it out. Don't let a strangers personality put u out of your job. Best of luck to us both and all other new oldies.😊

    • @Bluefroggy84
      @Bluefroggy84 Před 10 měsíci +3

      How's your job going now?

    • @5thgentexantexasforever982
      @5thgentexantexasforever982 Před 10 měsíci +5

      @Bluefroggy84 actually, it's way better now. The office manager ended up apologizing one morning for "being such a bitch". I knew she had a lot on her shoulders, being there by herself and doing everything while also trying to train me. When she lightened up with the critical remarks, my brain switched from fear to a more relaxed state and I started learning more. They hired another girl that just got her license and now, the other girl and I have split the alphabet and focus on service while the office manager can focus on life & health. She (the office manager) took a week vacation and we only had to call her once. Now that we've gotten, for the most part, p & c, I'm going to start studying for my life & health. Thank you for your concern. I really appreciate it.

    • @americasariesson1862
      @americasariesson1862 Před 8 měsíci

      @@5thgentexantexasforever982GOOD!

  • @theonetakeshowbykaustubhsr3526

    I am tearing up as I go through this video. Surprisingly, I feel self-assured and hopeful of being able to solve the issues that make me this anxious. Incredible video.

  • @JesusChrist5000
    @JesusChrist5000 Před rokem +16

    Office politics have something to do with it as well. When you unconsciously or consciously know that you are on the low rung regarding office politics, this can cause anxiety, especially if there is someone on the higher rung flexxing their muscles against you.

    • @savvyguy1353
      @savvyguy1353 Před rokem +4

      Absolutely. The whole point when you are out of the loop is to let you know you are low value at work and to make you anxious

  • @Abhishekyadav-kb3wq
    @Abhishekyadav-kb3wq Před 3 lety +174

    Thank you so much. This video exactly shows why I am so tensed. I am a person who always gets tensed whenever I get a new task at job. I am currently working from home. I take tension about unnecessary things. I have been doing this since college. In college I thought everything would be ok once I get a job. But now I see that college stress was nothing compared to the one I am getting at job now. I always keep on thinking about how am I going to meet the deadline of the next task instead of focusing on the current task. I keep checking the same task again and again but I am never satisfied and think that there is some flaw in it. There is this guy in my office. We both studied in the same college and are working in the same firm now. But he handles things without much problem no matter how much work he gets. I don't know how people do it. Me on the other hand doesn't feel motivated to do the work and just keep waiting for weekends so that I can relax and sometimes end up doing work on weekends too just cause I wasn't working properly on weekdays. But I will try working on these problems and will write down the things that are keeping me from performing properly. Thanks again for making such videos❤️

  • @jilsnajyothi6869
    @jilsnajyothi6869 Před rokem +9

    Heyy folks out there,
    I just want to reinstate that you are not alone! Cliche! I am always anxious about everything and being 6'2 feet does not pretty much help to get along! I am anxious about things usual people do hands-tied. I wish I could live that way. Right now, new workplace! No one to talk to. Career path change! New city! Too much to be anxious about 😐

  • @Fleon47
    @Fleon47 Před rokem +14

    we live in a world even if you have a good job you may constantly feel insecure to lose that job if you are not good enough. I am constantly worrying about my tasks in my job. What if I will make mistakes the most terrifying thing is then you have a problem and seem not to have a solution for that. People say I need to relax on that, nobody will judge me for things I could not do but I always judge myself for being not productive enough.
    This way is of thinking is always part of my life. This type of thinking is very hard to change and there are so many people like me, who seek their entire life a solution for that and try to solve it, by watching and understanding content like yours.

    • @robtektek
      @robtektek Před 6 měsíci +1

      the answer is self love self compassion and self acceptance. its something i had to learn and is awkward at first, but you can slowly change your relationship with yourself. just think of your innerchild and how it feels right now (spoiler: its terrified of you). what would you tell that child so that it can feel better? my journey to more self acceptance and self love has been a true game changer. im way less harsh on my self and i can forgive myself for mistakes. and it doesnt mean that i stopped trying to do my best every day. it just means that it's ok if i dont perform well constantly.

    • @Fleon47
      @Fleon47 Před 6 měsíci

      @@robtektek thx you for sharing these words, it's still hard but the are also days where I feel good then I can help someone with their issues at work. I'm still very harsh on thinking. I'm actually don't know how take what I think not to critical and self reflect in a good way. Maybe because how I felt in my last job. Self acceptance is a key you said, might need to work on that.

    • @brianna3239
      @brianna3239 Před 3 měsíci

      Yes I work in finances and handle car repossessions so i’m not allowed to make any mistakes. Well these last few weeks I have made Several due to so many policy changes that I can’t seem to keep up with. I am scared everyday

  • @mozhy5013
    @mozhy5013 Před 11 měsíci +5

    I am literally mind blowed that how much is accurate for me. I think I am not smart enough at the work that I am doing, while I actually observe how smart I am in other places and different circumstances. I experience such a fight or flight situation at work that even when someone starts to speak a bit louder than usual in our open office, I jump suddenly and my heart rate goes to the top then I get a headache.

  • @iam._.lou7877
    @iam._.lou7877 Před rokem +8

    I honestly dread going to work all the time because my anxiety sky rockets. this video really resonated with me

    • @MattDaniel-jz3tl
      @MattDaniel-jz3tl Před 3 měsíci

      Like me :( Are you better now or same?

    • @iam._.lou7877
      @iam._.lou7877 Před 3 měsíci

      @MattDaniel-jz3tl it gets better. You will still have a bit of anxiety but once you keep doing shifts I found it got better

  • @nathananderson8720
    @nathananderson8720 Před 8 měsíci +4

    This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my CZcams channel 6 months ago about self development. Now I have 347 subs and > 100 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.

  • @artivarma7057
    @artivarma7057 Před 2 lety +44

    I really needed this. It got so overwhelming that I thought there’s something wrong with me and I’ll never be able to cope up with it. Thank you. I hope this video finds it’s way to others who might be feeling the same.

    • @shad8623
      @shad8623 Před 2 lety +3

      I was sitting here telling myself that I have ADD, smh

  • @carpediem4413
    @carpediem4413 Před 11 měsíci +11

    Wow, this really hits home as I have been searching for months trying to figure out why I am so panicked and anxious at work. It’s gotten so bad that I am on meds to cope. Yes, my boss rules out of fear and the company is struggling so I think that’s part of it. Very high expectations -but- always have a fear/challenge with authority.

    • @robtektek
      @robtektek Před 6 měsíci +1

      you might want to consider to leave that place if you boss is actually an asshole and the company is toxic. it might not be just your primitive brain but external circumstances. This is very individual and this video cant give you the answer if you need to leave.

  • @spyane86
    @spyane86 Před rokem +32

    Heart racing right after boss says let’s talk. Working on a task under a deadline assuming the world’s gonna crash if I fail to complete it on time, I made a typo what will the client think !
    This is on point. Thank you Erin.

  • @Angela-ne9cy
    @Angela-ne9cy Před 11 měsíci +8

    Wow, this helped me SO MUCH!!! After 18 years in my job, I'm still having anxiety when anything goes wrong. I absorb my boss's emotions when he's unhappy with something (whether it's my fault or not) and I live in a state of panic. I've known it's disproportionate to the actual situation....but this is the FIRST TIME I've never had it clearly explained why. THANK YOU!! This makes so much sense. I literally felt myself ease the longer i listed to this.

  • @auntykiki8161
    @auntykiki8161 Před 2 lety +11

    Oh my…my whole life at the moment. Thank you! It’s awful. I feel so stressed and overthink everything and then get called out for overthinking the work which is crucial to get right! My brain could explode! :(

  • @elise2961
    @elise2961 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Oh my goodness, where were you 6 months ago when I felt EXACTLY like you described!! I feel so relieved to find someone that gets me, and how I can process it better

  • @homebody61
    @homebody61 Před 3 lety +37

    Thank you for your videos! Yesterday was the first day at a new job for me. After work I had a major meltdown. Your videos literally saved me!

    • @nickjackson2910
      @nickjackson2910 Před 3 lety +2

      I start my first day in 1 hour

    • @homebody61
      @homebody61 Před 3 lety +1

      Nick jackson I hope all went well!

    • @user-in4mz9go4d
      @user-in4mz9go4d Před 5 měsíci

      I'm 1 week old at my new job were everything is new, even how the job is done to new to me. I haven't met anyone I can ask for help, this makes me feel like I'm dump and unworthy but I also know no one was born knowing everything and that it's all new to me so how I'm I supposed to know it all. Ugh I like in constant fear of if I will be able to do it.

    • @homebody61
      @homebody61 Před 5 měsíci

      @@user-in4mz9go4d I totally understand. Give yourself patience.

  • @strictlycommentary
    @strictlycommentary Před rokem +27

    Watching this video is the first time in my life that I actually felt the weight lift and the anxiety start to melt away. You will never know how much you helped me. I want to thank you with my WHOLE heart for publishing this. I'm going to watch it over and over!

  • @hellojan3600
    @hellojan3600 Před 2 lety +7

    I am listening to this and I am feeling like you are reading my mind. Everything that you said is how I feel everyday about work.

  • @mkhidir93
    @mkhidir93 Před rokem +62

    I'm 3 weeks in my new job, and there's a lot to take in to a point that I get anxious and made mistakes and at the end stressing myself.
    I find that writing things out, listing out the things I need to focus on really helps. Just like she said, once you write it all down, it slowly starts to look simpler/easier. Cos for me, if it stays in my brain all the time, things get cluttered and I can't make out what I really need to do. And the other thing that helps is, sometimes when I get scared of not knowing how to do a new job, I just went ahead and start doing it. Most of the time, it's not as hard as I think it is. Just start doing it, instead of worrying and procrastinating.
    I'm currently still trying to cope with my current new job. I wish the very best for everyone in coping with each own challenges. We can do this. :)

    • @johnboy6594
      @johnboy6594 Před rokem +1

      Great Advice. Write it down. So now that its on paper its out of your head. This way your brain is not trying to remember everything at once. And then eventually everything catches up and everything matches. What great advice.. The internet is an amazing tool. My kids have no idea how mind blown i am by this amazing invention.

  • @SiphokuhleMakhamba
    @SiphokuhleMakhamba Před rokem +5

    This is literally how I have been feeling the whole time. Thank you for this.

  • @houdine123
    @houdine123 Před 4 lety +7

    I'm actually in the same situation ,I feel worthless and demotivated cheers from Morocco 🇲🇦

    • @erinMfoley
      @erinMfoley  Před 4 lety +3

      I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I hope this video helped you to shift your mindset. The belief that you are worthless is a very demotivating belief. Consider the possibility that you are deeply valuable in this job. Each day look for evidence/examples of how this is true. As your mind starts to see that you are valuable, you will likely start to feel more motivated.

  • @ProfreshionalLifeBeyond
    @ProfreshionalLifeBeyond Před rokem +7

    I've never been anxious till recently. After being made redundant a few years ago, I found myself struggling with starting new work. Your video explains my misery. I know I can do my job but somehow I am always on the overdrive. Thank you for your instructions. Best wishes from Melbourne Australia.

  • @J3Diva
    @J3Diva Před 9 měsíci +3

    Definitely need to learn how to master my primitive brain. I’m on a new job after leaving a previous job of 13 years. My anxiety has been so so high and I feel like I’m in survival mode all the time. This is helpful and I will use this in my daily thinking. 😊 Thank you!

  • @madhuravi6953
    @madhuravi6953 Před 8 měsíci +1

    OMG this is me. I am so glad CZcams suggested this video to me.

  • @ProfoundFamiliarity
    @ProfoundFamiliarity Před 7 měsíci +3

    Erin doesn't understand that for most people, job security does equate to food, shelter and survival.

  • @Linda-dc7rl
    @Linda-dc7rl Před rokem +2

    This was truly amazing Erin, I’m so grateful for all the nuggets you shared 🙏🏾

  • @TheLukeguy7
    @TheLukeguy7 Před rokem +1

    Brilliant brilliant video! One of the best on CZcams, thank you

  • @ANokes1
    @ANokes1 Před 2 lety

    OMG!!!! Thank you! I have been ruminating about my supervisor's behavior after hours! This gives me hope!

  • @mrm.s.4500
    @mrm.s.4500 Před 2 lety +3

    Erin this is the best video I’ve watched in a really long time. I just found your channel and couldn’t figure out how you don’t have 200k subscribers!

  • @realliving7340
    @realliving7340 Před 2 měsíci +3

    This is great stuff! Will watch daily until I get my primitive mind in check.❤

  • @linhd1899
    @linhd1899 Před 11 měsíci

    🙏🏻 I'm so grateful I've found you. Thank you so much !

  • @SamLowe4271
    @SamLowe4271 Před rokem +3

    You may not read this being an old video, but thank you for this. This explained so much. Been struggling with anxiety since I was a child over various things. Now I see that they could all have been traced back to my primitive needs and primitive mind.

  • @crazykaitlyn
    @crazykaitlyn Před 10 měsíci +1

    😢 I literally have been calling the advice nurse line, texting the crisis line, had a telehealth visit with a doctor, and this video was all i wanted. thank you so much and thank God for youtube

  • @Satsui_No_Hado
    @Satsui_No_Hado Před rokem

    Probably one of the better videos I've listened to in a long time, bravo 👏

  • @cemarie709
    @cemarie709 Před 3 lety +3

    Erin, Thank you so so much for this video. You have helped tremendously.

  • @neildoyle77
    @neildoyle77 Před 2 lety +11

    It's like you literally read the inside of my mind and my situation and explained all of it perfectly. This video could be groundbreaking for me so thankyou so much.

  • @aveywilliams7761
    @aveywilliams7761 Před rokem

    I'm so glad that I stumbled upon your your video. My anxiety has grown tremendously since I started my new position. And even my toned has changed. I'm usually an upbeat cheerful person but this position has made me become very hard and callus.
    I'm working on not being so anxious all the time and reacting defensively out of fear. You taught me that .... Everything doesn't deserve a negative reaction and not everything deserves a reaction. Thank you, I do feel better. You've put my mind at ease.

  • @hetalmistry4845
    @hetalmistry4845 Před rokem +1

    Thanks for the amazing video! I felt my anxiety unravel as I watched this. This is truly life changing and I am forever grateful! This totally made sense. It is great to know the root cause of emotional issues and try to work through them. I though that changing jobs would help me however I was aware that I would feel anxious in the next job also. I can relate to myself from a view of self compassion and take care of myself better now. Yr amazing! Thanks for helping sooo many people! 🤩👍⭐

  • @johngabriana7154
    @johngabriana7154 Před rokem +4

    Omg thank you I was just promoted recently and the job is very different and I'm having a hard time to cope up that it's giving me anxiety. This helped me to realize those emotions

  • @SteveGia80
    @SteveGia80 Před rokem +1

    I’ve played this 3x already. I just started a new job and I needed to hear this.

  • @glen458
    @glen458 Před rokem +3

    I have no words!!!!! This is completely amazing and is 100% me. Thank you 😢

  • @startrackertrax6493
    @startrackertrax6493 Před rokem +1

    I agree, this makes a lot of sense. Makes me realise im not the only one suffocating in the modern worlds idea of "freedom"

  • @anissaholmes4495
    @anissaholmes4495 Před rokem

    This is exactly my problem! I’m so glad I listened to this.

  • @user-hz7tn5qc5s
    @user-hz7tn5qc5s Před 3 měsíci +1

    Thanks for sharing and helping me with this kind of fear I'm having ❤❤

  • @leonardoscodeler5875
    @leonardoscodeler5875 Před 2 lety +2

    This is the best and most assertive explanation I have found about my problem with my career which I am struggling with for 12 years.

  • @asgw12
    @asgw12 Před 2 lety +4

    I've listened to this so many times now, it's very helpful. When I'm a bit more stable I will definitely contact you for coaching. You're brilliant!

  • @belindajane2173
    @belindajane2173 Před 2 lety +2

    You are incredibly informative and so knowledgeable. Thank you so much for sharing this to us viewers, it is greatly appreciated. From a viewer in Australia 🇦🇺

  • @gohtashiraishi9157
    @gohtashiraishi9157 Před 3 lety +8

    What a fascinating video, thank you! It goes to show that our society is changing much faster than our biology, and we’re physiologically not able to keep up!

  • @lomont6786
    @lomont6786 Před 2 lety

    You have no idea how much this will help me

  • @highpriestess3380
    @highpriestess3380 Před 11 měsíci +4

    This was so helpful, and resonated with me so much. I suffer from this on a daily basis, and I always self doubt, feel inadequate and fearful. It feels incredibly liberating to know so many others feel this way.
    You have really helped me identify something that's been a major struggle for me for as long as I can remember. I've never heard about this, not even from a counselor. Thank you.

  • @nishantkamal6339
    @nishantkamal6339 Před rokem

    Wow, that is a great analysis, I can totally relate. It has really helped me understand the reason and work on it. Sincere thanks!

  • @faherty87
    @faherty87 Před 2 lety +2

    just started a new job. I'm flop sweat central. these videos are a godsend.

  • @nicolesteele6000
    @nicolesteele6000 Před 2 lety +32

    I think this is a great concept but there are some toxic workplaces. What is the best way to be able to judge this? Just get out if the heightened state so that I can make a more rational judgment? I'm currently in a workplace where other people are also getting extremely stressed and leaving. I still blame myself as a failure for not being able to handle it

    • @rickytikitavi4101
      @rickytikitavi4101 Před rokem +3

      Same.
      I'm 2 months into my job and a part of me knows I'm in a toxic place because even very experienced workers eventually gave up and left. I hear from employees who've been with the company for 40 years that "it's never been this bad". But I also can't help but judge myself for being incompetent (which I probably am, because the company is in such a bad condition that it's only able to attract newbies or people with few other options). I want to give up because I feel I don't have what it takes for this job, but I'm afraid that if I keep giving up when facing challenges I'll never grow and never get ahead.
      I wish there was a way for me to distinguish my low self esteem from a situation where the challenge is objectively too big for me to overcome😔

    • @JimmyJaxJellyStax
      @JimmyJaxJellyStax Před rokem +1

      Absolutely - had plenty of toxic coworkers that are constant trouble everyday.

  • @aliciaaltom6652
    @aliciaaltom6652 Před rokem

    Literally everything youve said is hitting every nail on the head. 😢

  • @nicoleraphael2010
    @nicoleraphael2010 Před 6 měsíci +1

    The concept of beings aware of my primitive brain is so powerful. Thanks for giving me a new tool to help me manage my anxiety

  • @denissemedina4619
    @denissemedina4619 Před 4 měsíci +1

    I have been going to therapy and I talk about this with my therapist. At work I feel like I’m not good enough even when I rarely make mistakes. I just don’t allow myself to make mistakes and it does not help that my boss is very neat picky and strict at times. I have a hard time accepting constructive criticism at times, it all depends how it’s said. Now that I think about it I have always had trouble dealing with authority, like dealing with managers or high ups always makes me feel nervous like I really value their input whether it is good or bad and I let define me. This makes me go into overthinking and I end up with headaches and starts doubting myself a lot. I do give myself a break and then look at my thoughts from the outside like you said and they don’t seem as accurate, but at the moment my brain truly convinces me that I’m a total failure :( also when I do something good I feel good about myself for the rest of the day, but if I do something wrong it messes it all up or even if I had a good day, I can have anxiety the next day because what if I make a mistake today :(

  • @ginagoesto9668
    @ginagoesto9668 Před 2 lety +2

    This really hits home! Please make more videos 🙏

  • @dennischanay7781
    @dennischanay7781 Před 3 měsíci

    Oooo-kaaay... This, is definitely stuff I need I'm super happy I found this channel.. Subscribed!! And looking for more of your resources!

  • @lainsimple5285
    @lainsimple5285 Před 5 měsíci +6

    Wow this is so helpful!! I’m in a new role and really struggling with it. You laid out exactly what is going on in my brain. When I have a bad workday or a lot of anxiety I start panic applying to other jobs because I’m desperate for a change, but that of course creates more anxiety. I’m going to try your suggestions and see if that helps!

    • @Meeeee_1
      @Meeeee_1 Před 5 měsíci

      Hey, I just saw your comment and that it's pretty brand new compared to other people's. I was just wondering if we could maybe exchange numbers and speak about this only because I do struggle with anxiety and I don't have many friends lol if you wanted to make a new friend and vent x

  • @Fatty1957
    @Fatty1957 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Thank you for sharing Erin, very helpful insights! It's my second week at a new job, and this really helped me!

  • @mfrancisco_850
    @mfrancisco_850 Před rokem

    this is so true but so hard to overcome as well but i love this video you are very right about this.

  • @ZaraDurrani
    @ZaraDurrani Před rokem

    Love this video. Thank you for doing this. Watching this on a day I needed it.

  • @sanabaig9484
    @sanabaig9484 Před rokem

    Wow 🤩 I relate to this word by word!! Thank you so much for sharing ❤makes me feel im not the only one!

  • @chaii_latte
    @chaii_latte Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you so much, you just talked me out of a panic attack..

  • @carolineb7796
    @carolineb7796 Před 6 měsíci +2

    This video is amazing, thank you so much for sharing this. It was like you had directly into my own brain and spilled out the contents in a video. Such great insights, and advice - thank you ❤ Anxiety has plagued me for years, and I am so sick of it. Hopefully with this advice (on my way to buy a journal right now) and some regular professional help I can kick it for once and for all. X

  • @ccash4nj
    @ccash4nj Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you Erin, that was really helpful

  • @runewizard2143
    @runewizard2143 Před 3 lety +3

    Invaluable information, thank you so much for offering such help.. for free.. with so much passion! All the best

  • @higherpurpose1212
    @higherpurpose1212 Před 2 lety +9

    Thank you so much for this. Yes, my primitive brain is so stupid that it's wreaking havoc on my life and health. I need to re-watch this over and over for the ideas to stick in my stupid, primitive brain!
    I learned in some videos that telling one self that life is short and you will die anytime so why bother about anxiety is the way to go. The question is, should a person tell and convince himself that he will die anytime soon and that life and energy should not be wasted being anxious?

  • @xdemgeo3581
    @xdemgeo3581 Před 10 měsíci +1

    When you gave examples, everything was me.

  • @mikaylahumphreyy
    @mikaylahumphreyy Před 2 lety

    i am absolutely obsessed with you and this video

  • @JKimmi_
    @JKimmi_ Před 3 měsíci

    Very relatable! This is helpful to shift my perspective!! I constantly feel I like I need psychological help or there is a lack in me, that my brain is running on burnout. But this new paradigm has opened my eyes. Will do all the steps and hopefully, make the coming work days less fearful for me.

  • @angelaomondi913
    @angelaomondi913 Před rokem

    Thanks alot for this Erin. So helpful

  • @wilgr2103
    @wilgr2103 Před 2 lety +1

    Omg this is me!!! Thank you!!!

  • @joshuamaue8004
    @joshuamaue8004 Před rokem

    My promotion started with a loss of 2 younger siblings passing only 2 months in. I kept the pain hidden but it definitely effected my work. Then I was coached on how exhausted I was and low energy, after finally deciding to be an adult and see a Dr. , I was diagnosed with sleep apnea. Wasnt getting adequate rest, go figure. On top of not feeling appreciated or wanted by my boss. Everything you said explains my day to day. Some are worse then others but feeling inadequate is a norm. There are things I can learn to become a better employee for sure, but this helps a lot. Thank you for your caring message.❤

  • @hannahleo332
    @hannahleo332 Před 2 lety +1

    This was really helpful! Thank you!