Ask Better Questions to Build Better Connections | Amber L. Wright | TEDxCSULB

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  • čas přidán 21. 09. 2020
  • Asking better questions isn’t simply another way to make small talk. Instead, it’s a path to creating real connection with the people around you, in a thoughtful and genuine way. This talk by communication expert and certified life coach, Amber L. Wright, explores how to ask better questions and invest in one of life’s greatest currencies: relationships. Amber L. Wright, CSULB Alumna, is a communication expert, certified life coach, and speaker who helps people find their voice during moments that matter. An award-winning educator, she holds a master’s degree in Interpersonal Communication. Well versed in the power of storytelling, she is known for giving dynamics presentations on how to communicate effectively and live authentically.
    Amber has shared her expertise on what it means to speak, live, and lead with confidence in notable media outlets such as Forbes, Mashable, Fast Company, and Black Enterprise. She is the host of the Talk to Amber Podcast and author of, “Can We Talk? 10 Life Lessons on Finding Your Voice and Finding Yourself,” a wildly popular personal development book. She is a married mom of two, proud lefty, and a card-carrying member of Beyonce’s BeyHive. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Komentáře • 99

  • @roolshool
    @roolshool Před 2 lety +75

    Criminally underrated talk

    • @wordswellsaid
      @wordswellsaid Před 2 lety +6

      Wow, thank you so much, Ruhul!

    • @50tenspro
      @50tenspro Před 2 lety +6

      Agreed Ruhul! So glad this came across my feed. Dr. Wright gets to the crux of what constitutes meaningful communication. Thank you Mrs. Wright. 😊

    • @tomherald
      @tomherald Před 5 měsíci

      I agree!

  • @januarsalonga2170
    @januarsalonga2170 Před 2 lety +116

    "I'm not doing my best today but I'm trying my best." Powerful. Thank you Amber,

    • @wordswellsaid
      @wordswellsaid Před 2 lety +2

      Thank you for watching, Januar!

    • @EngrushOfficial
      @EngrushOfficial Před rokem

      @@wordswellsaid Thank you for enlightening us through your valuable words. Love you from India.

  • @MrValod818
    @MrValod818 Před rokem +15

    So much compassion in her voice.

  • @silondilejali5473
    @silondilejali5473 Před rokem +11

    I did yesterday, I wasn't having the greatest day and when asked how I am - my response was "I'm not having the best day but I'm doing my best". And let me tell you how goooood that felt, to be honest and vulnerable yet still able to maintain my privacy. Thank you Amber

  • @spyram31
    @spyram31 Před 3 lety +20

    Wow, “Communicating with intention”, I love it.

  • @MissHuergo
    @MissHuergo Před 2 lety +29

    Thank you Amber, what an amazing speech.
    I had the same situation a week ago with my very close friends or (Big Sister) Pamela. I always smile even when I cry but this time I was sinking from the inside. We gather up at her house and we’re talking about life. For the past weeks and months I wasn’t fine and she took the momentum to not ask me but to tell me; I know you are not okay. WOW! that was powerful I literally couldn’t hold my tears., It was a very emotional time. My best friend committed suicide two months ago and after that day I been so aware of these feelings, so harsh.
    If you are reading this and consider yourself a good friend pay attention and good luck 🍀

  • @yassirislam5223
    @yassirislam5223 Před 2 lety +11

    An excellent talk..warm, engaging ,and full of insight..thank you!

  • @91choudhariazam
    @91choudhariazam Před 6 měsíci +3

    Love you Professor. You are the best one.

  • @inyango9055
    @inyango9055 Před rokem +4

    Just love her energy and her voice

  • @CEOLife
    @CEOLife Před 19 dny

    Thank you so much! These are great, community is everything!

  • @tashajackson6751
    @tashajackson6751 Před 3 lety +30

    I saw this talk live several months ago (pre-covid). It has stayed with me. Truly inflicted the way I talk to my youngest. Thank you for this gift. Your talk has had impact! 🙏

  • @user-rf5cm2if2t
    @user-rf5cm2if2t Před 2 měsíci +1

    Meaningful speech, thank you Amber ❤

  • @mrterrygivens
    @mrterrygivens Před 2 lety +15

    What a wonderful explanation of this skill. Thank you Amber.

  • @ajordan1847
    @ajordan1847 Před 3 lety +10

    Amber you are such an inspiring communicator!!! Grateful to be able to witness your, "genius zone" in action. I plan to implement what you shared with others, the intentionality in questioning and showing empathy, resonated. Awesomeness all around.😊 (by the way this is Alethea J from class).

  • @kristinedreimane1454
    @kristinedreimane1454 Před 2 lety +2

    Absolutely love this speach! Thank you ❤

  • @VernettaRFreeney
    @VernettaRFreeney Před 3 lety +11

    Great talk Amber. Definitely need to do better asking better questions myself.

  • @aqmeriamen-wint6313
    @aqmeriamen-wint6313 Před 4 měsíci +1

    This is really amazing! Thank you Amber!

  • @frany7493
    @frany7493 Před 2 lety

    Brilliant, sweet, caring, powerfully humble and effective.
    Thank you 💕💕💕

  • @raeg5257
    @raeg5257 Před rokem +1

    This was incredible!! I have been feeling like my relationships have been superficial the last while. And it made me feel like for some reason I was at fault. But I’m going to try to ask more insightful questions. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences!!

  • @reginabass4515
    @reginabass4515 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for helping me through your speech recognize it is okay not to be okay.

  • @roopakurup3931
    @roopakurup3931 Před rokem +2

    Such a powerful and amazing talk. Loved it.
    Thank you Dr Wright for such an inspiring talk .

  • @pranayraycha9974
    @pranayraycha9974 Před 2 lety +2

    I had been wondering for a long time how to connect things in order to remember them and how to remember to connect things. And suddenly I see this video in my recommendation and yeah I found one answer. Thank you.

  • @JOwens
    @JOwens Před 3 lety +7

    Love this, Amber Authentic Communication bonds, builds and helps us grow positive relationships . Thanks - it’s the best mentoring.

  • @AmeliaFeng-rd4nc
    @AmeliaFeng-rd4nc Před 11 měsíci

    Thank you so much for this talk!!! Just what I was looking for. Very well presented.

  • @dorothyedwards7225
    @dorothyedwards7225 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Thank you, that was uplifting and connecting.

  • @yordanostemesgen1417
    @yordanostemesgen1417 Před rokem +2

    This is such an interesting topic to talk about !!

  • @jordantoronto863
    @jordantoronto863 Před rokem

    I love this talk so much!!!!

  • @user-xd7gd6rg8j
    @user-xd7gd6rg8j Před 7 měsíci

    Love every single words of this

  • @ajinkyadeshmukh6324
    @ajinkyadeshmukh6324 Před 6 měsíci

    Thank you so so much for this info! It changed my perspective and made me think deeply about relationship building!

  • @user-cj7xw4bk6j
    @user-cj7xw4bk6j Před 3 měsíci +1

    I love her.

  • @06.phamvomybinh44
    @06.phamvomybinh44 Před 9 měsíci

    love your talk. really inspired. thanks a lot amber

  • @flossa1960
    @flossa1960 Před 7 měsíci

    this talk is amazing, it’s really changed my outlook! thank you amber

  • @Abahale11
    @Abahale11 Před 2 lety

    Its amazing how deep we are in this "education narrative", besides accepting the fact that we all are learning and all we can do is try to communicate this learning to others. There's no such thing as "teaching".

  • @darchabennett7917
    @darchabennett7917 Před 11 měsíci

    That was awesome and much needed, thanks for the transparency 😊

  • @trameldavis7763
    @trameldavis7763 Před 4 měsíci

    Well said Ms. Amber.

  • @priscaisimoya
    @priscaisimoya Před rokem

    I really enjoyed this speech!

  • @justinaez4029
    @justinaez4029 Před 2 lety

    Đã là fan thì mãi mãi là fan😉💗

  • @kaimurphy7953
    @kaimurphy7953 Před rokem

    GREAT TED TALK!!!

  • @caneysherfield
    @caneysherfield Před rokem

    Very insightful thank you for sharing!

  • @Sky_11029
    @Sky_11029 Před 3 lety +6

    One of the best ted talks I've seen I wonder why so little visibility

  • @kwamechristianesq.4558

    Incredible talk!

  • @eclips3354
    @eclips3354 Před 2 lety

    Amazing talk!!!

  • @wildfireol
    @wildfireol Před 2 lety

    Brilliant talk 💜

  • @ambermack7243
    @ambermack7243 Před rokem

    I loved this

  • @maureenclement2553
    @maureenclement2553 Před rokem

    Wonderful!

  • @michelleb4035
    @michelleb4035 Před 3 měsíci

    Wonderful advice.

  • @carololiveira6889
    @carololiveira6889 Před rokem

    Just beautiful !!

  • @carmensumlin4294
    @carmensumlin4294 Před rokem

    AWESOME!

  • @strainwashed
    @strainwashed Před měsícem

    Thank you amber

  • @tebogoikaneng727
    @tebogoikaneng727 Před 10 měsíci

    Love the talk, and I learnt a lot...

  • @tomato3347
    @tomato3347 Před rokem

    Amazing talk, learned Hundred things

  • @Ms76Cocoa
    @Ms76Cocoa Před 3 lety

    This was so good Amber! Thank you!

  • @rosedevereux2391
    @rosedevereux2391 Před rokem +2

    4:18-7:30 💝💖💞
    "You young AND you old at the same _toime_ " Sooo Cali!!

  • @tushararan9222
    @tushararan9222 Před 5 měsíci

    Beautiful!

  • @tamannaarora8892
    @tamannaarora8892 Před 2 měsíci

    You are phenomenal

  • @prenapoetry
    @prenapoetry Před 6 měsíci

    Thank you

  • @NaturalieOne
    @NaturalieOne Před 3 lety +1

    Ambert is amazing.

  • @jameskovach1210
    @jameskovach1210 Před 2 lety +2

    Much appreciation Amber, for sharing, and for enduring and/or moving through whatever obstacles “could have” stopped your work from getting to the rest of us. Is the phenomenon of -the entire universe being made up of nothing but answers (the only action necessary is to ask Questions [quality questions] to receive them) a common observation?
    Is this observation incorrect?
    If individual people are an aggregate that make up a more complex being, then you are a healthy cell and I’m grateful.
    Being Human is weird huh? Hope you enjoy these questions and many thanks.
    Is a “rhetorical question” just a phrase for a statement? Why are there so many important definitions for the word “just,” such a commonly used word? Sorry for yammering, I JUST have so many questions. 😂
    Your speech has brought about an action in me, to make an effort to be aware of questions asked-and to react in a pleasant way to the curious and information seekers encountered throughout the day. To be aware when I am making statements rather than connections and so much more.

  • @mosytube
    @mosytube Před 11 měsíci

    Solid. Very.

  • @ContentCanvasYT
    @ContentCanvasYT Před 2 lety

    This is profound.

  • @joshaquino8189
    @joshaquino8189 Před rokem +1

    thoughtfully curious

  • @TheStreetsurfer06
    @TheStreetsurfer06 Před 2 lety +1

    Amazing

  • @Hervebutoyi
    @Hervebutoyi Před 2 lety +2

    Way too few views! thanks for the talk Amber. All the way from Denmark.

    • @wordswellsaid
      @wordswellsaid Před 2 lety +1

      Thank you for watching, all the way in Denmark!

  • @danaa.leblanc2543
    @danaa.leblanc2543 Před 9 měsíci

    Excellent. Clear and concise. Thank you.

  • @BobF510
    @BobF510 Před 7 měsíci

    This is an amazing reservoir of knowledge. A book I read with similar wisdom was a paradigm shift for me. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

  • @bizhustle3741
    @bizhustle3741 Před rokem +3

    Perception shattered, Connection made... Nice!

  • @TellSamyra
    @TellSamyra Před 3 lety

    Helpful

    • @wordswellsaid
      @wordswellsaid Před 2 lety +1

      Thank you, Samyra! I'm glad you found it helpful.

  • @jasonhewitt2150
    @jasonhewitt2150 Před 8 měsíci

    You are good

  • @HilalIbnKhalifat
    @HilalIbnKhalifat Před rokem +3

    "Relationships are life's greatest currency" can a metaphor be more American than that 😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @antjr54
    @antjr54 Před 10 měsíci

    Interesting

  • @christinadone774
    @christinadone774 Před 2 měsíci

    Today is all I have

  • @catchyme135
    @catchyme135 Před rokem

    7:40

  • @catchyme135
    @catchyme135 Před rokem

    10:05

  • @catchyme135
    @catchyme135 Před rokem

    3:30

  • @user-mx5vr5ce7m
    @user-mx5vr5ce7m Před 25 dny

    Kendrick Lamar is even talked about in Ted talks 🔥🔥🔥🔥 drake stood no chance

  • @MekonenMeteor123
    @MekonenMeteor123 Před 4 měsíci

    I lose sleep by that opener of this talk I have the worst icebreaking questions

  • @robrobusa
    @robrobusa Před 6 měsíci +1

    I wonder - how does one stop oneself from oversharing, then? :D

  • @Arachne-qw1vr
    @Arachne-qw1vr Před rokem

    Nah. I used to be like that. It's only good in micro doses.

  • @pazzodi3
    @pazzodi3 Před 24 dny

    This is corporate nonsense. True meaningful questions are the most difficult ones to ask.. how about asking, what's the most difficult thing about being you, what's the hardest thing about being a child/sibling/young, what's the easiest thing about being you? Etc.... Superficial questions will lead to superficial relationships.

  • @parisrealick
    @parisrealick Před rokem +1

    "Go deep, not wild" @tykwondoe