How I learned to love being alone.
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I'm probably old enough to be your grandfather. I came upon this essence around 45 years ago. I remember the event; having one of those oddly agitated Saturdays alone in my flat. I was drawn to the bathroom mirror where I looked myself deeply in the eyes unflinchingly. Well, we've all had a moment like that but this was next-level. I made peace with myself, warts and all. My life experience pivoted then, like a galaxy pivoting on its axis. Through your work assembling this piece you've put my experience and certainly that of countless others into an audio and video realm, adding textures and smells and colours. Thank you. You're a prince of a guy.
Geeeez the cinematography in this was UNREAL Nathaniel!! The story, the shots, the music: *chef's kiss*!
I've always enjoyed being alone, I'm learning to enjoy being with people. The right kind of people. 💙
Same here! Here’s to us finding/attracting those gems ☺️💜
where can you find the right people. I cant tell if they still exist.
@@jonb6564 they can be random strangers, you come across in ordinary everyday life.
This resonates with me so much. A young guy in his late 20s just learning to enjoy his solitude after years of cultural pressure to be with people all the time. You really re-validated how fulfilling life can be loving your solitude.
More cinematic just like you promise. Beautiful work Nathan. I think vulnerability is such an important part of being human. We’re often closed off to prevent ourselves from getting hurt, but as you say you miss out on so many wonderful experiences when we refuse to give a piece of ourselves to the universe.
Can't agree enough 💖👌✨
Well said! Hurt, pain and discomfort aren't things to constantly run from. They are teachers and also make the good things even sweeter by contrast.
It's all within a balance. I'm learning to offer "bait" to people when it comes to gauging if they are compatible conversationalists or a genuine connection possibility. I've offered too much vulnerability throughout my life. Sometimes people need some time to gradually get used to me too.
@@coolbreeze5683That’s why all the people with PTSD are so happy.
if you believe him. I think he is full of it.
Literally yesterday I was just thinking of "wherever you go, there you are." Love this reflection of synchronicity in our collective consciousness field. Bravissimo!
By far one of the best videos out there. The cinematography is insane.
"A life distracted is a life starved of the time and space to simply observe."
This really resonated with me, thank you Nathaniel!
As someone who is basically a hermit, I enjoy being alone more than anything. I love my freedom, I love the peace and quiet and the space that solitude allows me.
I've always been this way, even as a little kid. I was happiest when I was walking alone barefoot in the forest, talking to the trees and the animals. When I became a teenager and through my early 20s, I thought something might be wrong with me and so I tried to chase relationships and forced myself to be more social, but always felt so much lonelier in social situations.
Getting to really know yourself and understanding what you need is crucial. Be your own best friend. Wishing the best to everyone! 🌲❤️
So I'm not the only one 😂❤
Im the same, but my issue is I dump women when it starts to get too serious and constraining on my freedom. How do you approach this?
@@Staroyfind someone who needs a lot of alone time too and is understanding of yours
same.
@@Staroy do you think avoidant attachment is at play? Also, make boundaries clear in a kind and consistent way.
I never felt more alone than when I was surrounded by people who didn't have similar values as me. Alone time helped me to become my own best friend and naturally attract the right people (so far one person lol) into my life, and I couldn't be more grateful for that! Also I was just thinking this morning that it would be great if you posted a video today and voila, here it is! ❤
Incredibly wise for someone so young!
I am 61 and have been single by choice for most of my life. It's been the right choice for me. It's not always easy but trying to force myself into a marriage or relationship role was awful. It's true that life is short and you need to do you. Not everyone is designed to get married or raise children.
Probably the most valuable ‘skill’ to learn in this life is to be comfortable with being alone. Thank you for sharing the positive and wholesome aspects of being ‘a loner’💜
That's the thing I think not a lot of people get including myself. You're going to be spending a lot of time with yourself, even if you find a significant other. Learn to be comfortable with yourself because you got a lot of time alone. Cheers!
Man! It's a always a pleasure watching someone enjoying our country, Greece! 🇬🇷
I feel this. Many times I've reached out to friends that I no longer connect with for the sake of not being alone or keeping up. Social media doesn't help when I feel like I'm missing out despite knowing I don't have that connection with them anymore. Thanks for sharing.
*“My alone feels so good, I’ll only have you if you’re sweeter than my solitude.”* ❤ Yes! I'm so grateful I'm an introvert because my super power of *enjoying* being alone helps me be selective about who I choose to share my life with. 🌈😃🤓😻😄💖 I unwittingly allowed a lot of non-reciprocators into my heart before I learned that boundaries are the actions **I** take when my needs are ignored, and that it's OKAY to be the one to leave even long-term relationships. Being willing to confront what I feared it said about me to be the one to leave & to reduce my circle so small has opened up so much peace, healing, and JOY. 🤩
It also made room for more GOOD people to enter my life. Huzzah! 😀
This was beautifully written and shot. Orange looks good on you.
I’m amazed Nathaniel, not only by the message you convey, but the cinematography, compositions, storytelling and just overall look of the video. Keep it up, love this new direction you’re heading in ❤
I'm grateful this video came out. Thank you for the kind words, Nathaniel!
Love this! I have always loved being alone, but this year I have really become super content with it.
I’ve been living away from my home and family for a few years now, and I always wondered where “home” was for me. I settled on it being wherever I was resting that night/my partner. But in the last few weeks, I have realised that I am my home. It’s such a beautiful feeling ❤
I think one has to go through uncomfortable times, alone, to take full ownership of your own happiness.
I’m from Somalia 🇸🇴. I love being alone, just like you. You don't need anyone but yourself to be kind and learn about yourself and it's a good lesson
by far, one of my favourite video you’ve ever made.
yeah it's kinda crazy seeing how distracted everyone is, they're distracting themselves from themselves... this was a great reminder to embrace alone time
Being truly alone is a gift but it’s also a practice because there are so many distractions from truly facing yourself in the mirror.
Sometimes videos just find you by happy mistakes. I’ve been watching you for awhile, and sometimes, I find that everything gets lost in the algorithm. The last two weeks have been very rough for me and this video found me at the right time. For such a beautifully cinematic and raw cut of being yourself, thanks!
Eckhart Tolle books changed my life. I’m more present now and live my best life. I have lived alone over 6 years and I have learned a lot about my self and others too.
Such a comfy video man. The storytelling, the cinematics, the music - simply perfect Nathan!
As someone who’s been a loner for life, I relate to this so much! Thank you for making these beautiful videos 🙌🏼
Please do a short a film. The way you frame part of your life is incredibly beautiful and authentic
"...when I am interacting with or reacting to people, there is no space within me to notice or process how I feel. I have to be alone to do that." This is exactly how I've always felt when I am with people. Even during moments when I am genuinely enjoying the company with someone else, I cannot appreciate it fully unless I am on my own and reflecting on the memory. It feels validating to know I am not alone in feeling this way.
I just want to say that I genuinely smiled the whole video through. Thank you for making me feel understood Nat ❤
Your videos are pure gold ❤
I also want to remind Everyone That there is a fine line between becoming alone and being self absorbed
Do you know how much I love your contents? Every video of yours gives me a lesson about life. I get the drive; the boost to direct my life in an even positive path.
Please never stop making these videos, even if it takes you a month/year to make these.
I love your ideas, you're very creative. Much love 🤍
Fellow Nathan here and I really enjoy your videos. I feel like us Nathan’s have a certain melancholy
This message resonate with me so much.
I'm personally feeling this fomo sometimes but still I don't want to indulge in poor quality relationship that leave me mostly unsatisfied and empty.
Genuine connections are hard to find wether in friendship or romantic relationship. The more I age the more I am at peace with who I am and what I want in life. Not afraid anymore of loneliness and not trying to fill the void with meaningless interactions just for the sake of having people in my life.
Nathaniel's self awareness is incredible giving his young age. As much as this is a wonderful thing I'm sure it can feel like a curse sometimes.
My alone feels so good, I'll only have you if you're sweeter than my solitude. couldn't said it better. And it's exactly how I feel. It's 7 years now. In my words: I'll be with you if it's better than being with me.
Beautiful, it is remarkable that art like this can be shared and impact so many around the world. Thank you
Watching this video right after an almost solo trip (for professional reasons) in Strasbourg (east of France) where i met new people and talked to strangers in german in the train (i had not spoken german for at least a year) makes a lot of sense.
Definitively want to travel alone again for a longer period of time because as you said, there is nothing better than this to discover who we really are and to truly connect with people (paradoxically).
A french viewer
You have miraculously described introversion. It's home within and it's the greatest learning experience ever. Bravo!!
There were so many times during this video that I almost stopped to comment that what you were saying resonated so deeply with me.
You are wise beyond your years. As I approach 60, I am so happy that you and the younger generations are discovering what took me so long to get.
Wow, I've been watching your videos for years now, and just CZcams videos in general to for forever, but this is the first time I'm actually noticing the beauty of frames. It is SO cinematographic. A pleasure to the eye. And the message is incredibly good and positive and helpful. Thank you, good job !
I've been following your journey for at least 6 years now. I think this video is possibly the one that hits home the most. I have some thinking to do and some observations to make. Thank you Nathaniel
Thanks so much for man. So much of it struck close to home and was the exact type of perspective I needed at this moment in my life. Appreciate your wisdom and ability to be vulnerable to allow these viewpoints to be shared and benefit others. The impact is exponential.
“I am not a victim of my fears”…or in my case, I am trying not to. I am much older than you Nathan and yet I am learning so much from you. This is very humbling. Merci beaucoup!
This resonates with me so much!
I’ve been solo traveling for a month now and have been feeling and experiencing similar things.
Loved your storytelling 🥰
I've been watching your content for a few years, many topics resonated with me, but this one is truly special.
I am also on the path of learning to be truly alone. Not so long ago I moved to Paris for a job, got no friends here, I know almost no one around. And yeah, as a cherry on top of the pie - I don't really speak the language. Sometimes the reality of being alone out here hits me, despite having so many different people surrounding me.
Nonetheless, I still see this as an opportunity to get comfortable truly being by myself, so when the time comes, I'll be able to fully enjoy spending time with others as well.
Bon courage to anyone who's following a similar path. And thanks for your work, Nathaniel. Keep it up.
I really love your films, the direction, cinematography, editing, and aesthetic is amazing. I love them regardless of the content, but that is always so poignant and profound as well. So thank you for your work and your passion.
I loved this. It really touched me as I felt like I was recently running away from myself. I will definitely be taking the advice offered in this video to better my own life.
Thank you for this brother. It comes at the perfect time. I've been watching your content since 2018 and growing with you, taking steps back at times. I appreciate your presence on this Earth and the content you share. Cheers
Thank you! This is my reality and learning to be ok with the process while alone, doing things that I love more and off my phone. Love your way of telling stories, amazing cinematography brother.
Nathan, this video was something that I really really needed to hear, and maybe I was sort of starting to figure this out, but hearing it in such a clear way, without fear or anxiety is very relieving.
I am just recovering from an intense stress episode that was very difficult for me, and really, it is just beautiful to hear that we are changing creatures, that we can outlive storms no matter how dark or intense they seem, and that we can take baby steps and observe ourselves out of many of the troubling mental states we distract ourselves into.
Sincerely, thank you for this
Nathaniel this video came to me at right time. It was blissful experience to watch it and to listen to your voice. I love the cinematography also. It is simply a masterpiece and I will watch this one maaaaany times, that’s for sure.
Dude, this was tailor made for me. Thanks a million from the bottom of my heart. And cinematically wise…. Absolutely beautiful. Be good and thanks again
i resonate so much with what you said was "the fear of missing out on experience and connections with people, important moments with those people", Nathan. but as you did, i eventually came to the realization that when i act based on such fears-instead of genuineness-the experience and connection that came out of it often feels... forced, inauthentic, or as if it feels like it's never enough. only after i let go of these fears (i.e. loosen up the exhausted ties of attachment I've had with my loved ones) and be fully comfortable with being on my own; only then i was able to cultivate life experiences and human connections in an... organic, authentic, genuine way. the entire process had been hard, heartbreaking, a horror; but we grow so much coming out of it. great content as always, Nathan!
Thank you! I've been reflecting on "alonness" for sometime. I'm convinced it's a craft - being genuinely alone and learning how to source power, wisdom, patience from it. It is hard for me as I live in a fast paced city and actually love it :) taking my time to craft such wise and kind silence inside. Thank you. I think I will watch this video again soon. 😊
Oh boy! Missed this videos! This is the kind of video (albeit with a lot more quality, yes) that changed my life for the good and for good around 5 years ago. Thank you, Nathaniel! You are sincerely one of the most special people in my life. You don't know where you rescued me from back then (and still keep doing it now!).
Beautifully done. It was an absolute joy to watch you making art like this and putting yourself out there. Thank you for sharing this with the world 🙏🏼✨
Excellent video you did! Very insightful. It is important to be in peace first with yourself to be good in company.
Thanks. I was watching videos entitled The art of being alone and then you came to my mind and found this video. It’s soothing in a way. I hope that all of you feel comfortable in your on you own skins and never escape from yourselves.
First of all, the quality of your videos are getting better and better! Absolutely amazing! Secondly, it is so nice to see someone your age going through the same things. It makes you feel so seen and just knowing that your are not weird or just boring, because you are not surrounded by a group of people. The older I get, the more I want the quality time, rather than the time around many people, who don't give me the feeling of belonging. This is absolutely beautiful! Thank you for your videos, I really needed this!
I'm finding this as I age into my early 30s which is a stark difference between my mid 20s! Back in grad school, I was trying to be 100% extroverted and tried to surround myself with everyone lol. Now, I'm 28 and have two creative projects that I want to devote more time to causing me to drop off the social ladder quite a bit. Cheers!
Truly beautiful. I'm definitely guilty of making do with low quality interactions because of the fear of being alone and therefore being lonely. But in a way ended up feeling more lonely surrounded by people and not getting what I needed from the relationships. Great vid man.
My goodness! This is a visual and storytelling masterpiece, Nathaniel! You have done a fantastic job in bringing the audience into your world. Can’t wait for the next one!
absolutely gorgeous shots and colors! and the message is on point as always. bravo and thank you :)
I just love your sound design. Soo nice & story telling too❤❤
THANK YOU, Nathaniel very precisely put with your beautiful honesty. I love you & even though alone with my cat most of the time in recent years, I do not feel lonely because of your videos. Nothing is permanent & soon we can all return to socialising properly but perhaps choose healthier alone time 💜
This is insanely well shot, amazing filmmaking, thanks for an amazing video
Thank you for this... you spoke the words my soul was craving to say... once again, thank you!
I LOVE everything about this video... literally everything!! So meaningful.
I understand this completely! In my 30s, pushing through the FOMO, I began to understand my true ratio of alone time to time with others to be 4:1. I was able to successfully maintain that UNTIL I decided to have a child, and, now 15 years into that adventure, I am beginning to long for getting back to what I know is my true, necessary state.
Man, you're probably one of my biggest inspirations nowadays, and believe me I don't say that lightly. As someone who wanted to study cinema, but couldn't because of personal situations, I realized that the filmmaking world was probably not the right place for me. I felt lost.
Recently, I've been (re)discovering your videos and others by some CZcamsrs I also really admire, and I realized that the reason why I've always loved cinema (its ability to really touch a chord in me, give me ideas, and inspire me to do better) could actually be done in a more personal, entrepreneurial way.
The way your content has evolved through the years is incredible, and I love how in the past few years your content has become more personal, artistic, and even poetic. It's honestly so much like I would someday want to do. Like what I always wanted to do.
So thanks man, for being such an inspiration. For making your own voice in this platform and showing that anyone with something to say can actually say it and reach tons of people.
Thanks :')
I absolutely LOVE how you express yourself Nathaniel!!! Thank you for creating ☀️
I am 15, have loved your work for a while now, and I find your content so inspirational. I always look forward to seeing what you have created and it boggles me how incredible the quality of your work is. Thank you.
I feel the same
It's very interesting, you're the last person I would think that is running from who they are, love the IMAX 70mm feel to your new videos!
The most beautiful and thought provoking video I have watched in a while. Please please never stop making these! Love from India♥️
Beautifully done. Didn’t watch because I feel lonely, just watched because I love the cinematic quality of your vids.
As for being alone - I’d never done so until I was 33! And once I finally had my own apartment, I never felt alone for the 7 years I lived by myself there. I was surprised. Now I realize I’m perfectly fine alone. Yes, I enjoy time with others but I love time spent doing what I want, when I want.
I've been living alone for the past 3-5 years I would wager? It hits different when you visit or live with family for a bit and then go back to being alone. But you get used to it and the freedom it brings. Cheers!
the cinematography just keeps getting better and better, your almost at wes anderson levels of quality now! incredible work.
I love having ME time, it helps me be more present around people.
As always, awesome editing and storytelling ✨
Hi Nathaniel, feels like you're describing the journey that I'm in the last year. I found much more peace within myself while spending more time alone! thanks for sharing your story.
BRO, I love listening to you. Thank you so much. Keep up the great work
Beautiful work, so honest and real.
And the colors are delightful 🧡
Thank you making me not feel so alone, and giving me motivation to keep pushing forward.❤❤
This video felt like a serious step up to me, technically and creatively. Excellent work.
I'm graduating in a few weeks and will be moving my whole life to a new city with job being remote. I know it's the perfect opportunity to find and reinvent myself in my young 20's and beyond. Needed this video as a signpost for how to take in this time and make the most of it.
I've been needing a lot of alone time recently and couldn't figure out why. Thank you for giving me the words to figure out why.
This is one of the most beautiful videos on CZcams. Much love & respect ✌🏻
The vibe and the atmosphere of it is just great. Sitting there, listening to the great thoughts you had. Always love it :]
I can relate so much to what you described. Thank you so much for sharing, keep it up brother.
Really related to this video and you put it all together so expertly
Awesome work
Thank You, Nathaniel !
This deeply resonated with me.. I've always needed time alone to process how I'm feeling and the why behind my actions. It is absolutely liberating. Staying tapped to our internal compass is key for finding that balance between the messiness of the world outside and our inner anchor. Our inner worlds are diversely rich and beautiful.. I guess the external world and relations we have are just a mere reflection of it. I've read somewhere that people understand things till the level they've met themselves. So,not everyone will reciprocate our depths. But that is just fine..
Thank you I needed this
This is beautiful! I needed this so much. I have been distracting myself so badly from reality that I don’t know where I am at or going…. I deleted all my social media yesterday and then you popped up. Time to look myself in the eye, reflect and grow! Also this cinematography is magnificent i neeeed to know the color grading!
This truly is beautiful Nathaniel. The key takeaway here that resonated with me a lot was how being alone has helped me be a better person for others, to connect with them, feel present and provide a genuine listening ear that is a rarity in this world. Only from knowing myself, my strengths and faults have I been able to do this. Being content alone is not to be lonely but to be deeply connected with the most important person you could ever know - yourself✨ Thank you for sharing☺️
That's awesome! I realized that as I age more and focus more on my creative hobbies that I spend more time alone since no one else is going to work on those things but me. I have goals and I need to put in the reps to achieve them! Cheers!
I really needed this video.
I just ended a damaging engagement and this resignation with me, wholeheartedly. Being unafraid to be alone can teach you true self-love, peace and boundaries. “My alone feels so good, I’ll only have you if you’re sweeter than my solitude.”
That made me feel better thank you ❤
Your shot choices are soooooooo nuts my dude. And wow those focus changes. Thanks for publishing your work! It’s inspiring and motivating. Hope you’re doin good 🥰❤️
I love your content mate .
Literally unique .
Thank you.
Nathaniel, it is always a delight to watch your videos. What a masterpiece, visually and poetically.
Nathaniel, this video was so much needed for someone like me. This video was magical with an important message, thank you for your work
Such a great video! Really love the Nathaniel 4.0 path :) And can't wait for all that is to come.