You've done the "Annoying things that each ennegram do"...but can you do "the awesome things of each ennegram"? I'm struggling with certain ennegrams types and I want to see the positive side of them. Thanks Abbey
@@AbbeyHowe I'm a 9 and I really struggle with domineering personality types. I'm hoping that if I see the positive side of these ennegrams it will help me feel more understanding and less frustration and judgment. Thanks!! I seriously love your content. 😊❤
As a Type 4 (spending a LOT of time INSIDE my head,) I would much rather DAYDREAM about achieving my goals (and you know those daydreams include long & detailed conversations I plan to have with individuals I’ve yet to meet. 😂)
Oof. 4w5 - I do both of those things compulsively if I don't control myself. Dreaming things up forever without actually *doing* anything, and creating system on top of system on top of perfect system to prep for all future possibilities. Dreaming and prepping are tripwires if I'm not watching out for them.
When you gave advice for type 4s, I felt like you were talking to me directly. I really do get all hyped up about my goals, then quickly lose steam when reality sets in and the initial excitement wears off. I like your suggestion of making goals a habit. I’ll try that. Thanks!
The 4 is definitely true. I recently restarted keeping a journal, and then fell off for a few days.😜 But I caught myself and now I'm back on it. It helps me to schedule the things I want to work on into my day/week. 😊 I liked the skit for 4 too.😅👍
I’m a type 5 and this is definitely true. I have a minimalist mindset but get overwhelmed by the thought of actually organizing and decluttering. I have multiple books on the topic, and have watched many videos about it. I finally last week started a full reorganization and declutter of my kitchen and it feels amazing.
Once again, I resonate with both 4 and 9. I don't usually set goals because it requires so much effort. Also, I don't always feel passionate enough about something to set a goal. That being said, in alignment with the 4, when I get a burst of inspiration I can really get passionate about a goal. I can do it from anywhere from 2 days to 2 months. It goes well until I get bored of it or I start to forget what inspired it in the first place. Then I go back to being goalless. A viscous cycle. I need to set a time each day to work at something, even if it's only for 10 minutes, but I also feel like I need accountability, and as I live alone, that's hard to find.
"I'm either doing it correctly or I'm failing." As a type 1, it's nice to be seen. And Imma need you to quit spying on me Abbey :-) UPDATE: I'm actually a type 4 who mistyped as 1 (but type 1 is my stress / growth path so the comment is still relevant). But since authenticity is important to me, I had to include this edit :-) Type 4 skit hit me between the eyes, I'm LITERALLY fighting to keep my writing schedule these days. As a 4w5, I either get lost in creativity (type 4) or research / analysis (type 5).
1w9 - I definitely used to beat myself about not completing my goals. However, I also have learned to give myself grace. I also always choose too many goals and struggle to be consistent with any of them. My type 9 side also makes it hard for me to push myself in certain goals. I often make goals too easy or give myself too much grace and therefore I don't reach my goals very fast (if ever).
Yes ,as type 3,i found that working on one task at the time increases my productivity so much, with increased quality, but while i find my self more than one or two goals at once i can't complete any of them on time
I am a 2w1 and I really relate to both of them. It starts with something distracting (usually a friend who wants or needs something) and then ends with the Type 1 reaction.
Type 6 is the truest. I'm a 6, and my anxiety is HIGH. My biggest anxiety is that literally everything is going to kill me. This fear was greatly increased by watching final destination. So my goal was to basically never ride a rollar coaster ever again. So my family went to holiday world for my biggest sister's birthday, and I chickened out for most of the rides. The only "ride" I rode was The Mayflower (I was scared in there so much I couldn't actually scream) but I thought I was never gonna ride a Rollar Coaster there. True to this video, I did not succeed this goal. I rode the The Legend and screamed throughout the ENTIRE thing.
My husband (6) is the healthiest person I know; however, he’s SURE he’s going to drop dead of a heart attack! I’m at eight, so I’m kind of wondering when already😂😂😂😂😂
Also a 4 (w5) and Same.. I will say that finally realizing I likely have ADHD has at least made a lot of my life make so much more sense! Is it the same for you? In my case it doesn't help that I also have a couple of chronic illnesses that have gotten worse in the last few years, and left me with much less of the emotional and mental energy needed to develop or use coping strategies. How about if either of us comes up with a brilliant solution we come back here and share it with the other!?
Abby our family loves your videos sooo much. It has helped us understand our adult children and in-law children..wow Im a type 2 and every time u talk about 2s I get teary (and I hate getting emotional) but I feel like oh.my.goodness someone understands me..there are other people like me.
Oh the joy of starting on a new project...followed by the boredom of going through the humdrum. I guess all 4s are feeling outed by this vid (I'm not a 4 and even I'm feeling SO outed). As usual, great job Abbey! You have nailed all the types!
I'm a 2w3 ENTP and this is pretty true, but I can see 1s and 3s to be very similar, because they both want to achieve in life, so choosing between wing 1 and 3 is very hard.
As 1 I can't agree more to what you said. What is funny and sad I know you are right that done is better than perfect BUT inside me there is a big NO 😂🤣 If I dont do sth the best I can I feel like I should just not do it at all. Thank you for your words, maybe they will be helpful during wars with the inner voice 🤣
Type 1 was intense 😆 I see progress as getting closer to my goal and it gives me the feeling I'm doing something that works for me. That's how I met my weight loss goal years ago. 😀
Hi Abbey! I love all your videos but I was wondering something. Do you remember doing these wing videos? I think you stopped with the 4 wings. Are you planning to do wings for types 3, 2 and 1? Really looking forward to those.
I feel so called out as an 8. Lol at first I was like which one is the 8 and then I realized the one in the robe sounds just like me. I'm sure I've said the same exact thing before lol!
I liked the withdrawn/assertive/compliant grouping angle of this video! :) I'm not a 6 (though I thought I was one for a while; feeling torn between both the individualistic novelty seeking of 7, and 6's deep yearning to belong in a group as a panacea for isolation and anxiety, was perhaps a clue that I'm a 4) but maybe finding a support system, app/online community, or habit buddy would work well for a 6 as well? Also, as an aesthetics driven 4, I find romanticising my goal with celebrities/historical figures, literary and movie quotes & images (tumblrish moodboards lol), as well as a pretty visual tracker - combined with the structure of a tiny daily goal as you very rightly said - helps a lot with motivation. For Type 2 helpers, I think it would also help to consider how taking care of your own goals and mental health can benefit others (especially those closest to you). Just some suggestions to add to your already brilliant vid :)
Ahh I love this. My type 4 spouse has been stuck so this will help. And type 8 here - now I know why I’m an all of nothing person 😂- good point on changing from a results perspective to a process.
Even tho I'm a Type 4, I relate to Type 6's goal setting issues. I tend to procrastinate a lot. But I am getting good at keeping habits. I'm doing yoga every morning and writing in my bullet journal every night! Now I just have to figure out how I can apply this to publishing my novel and becoming a full time teacher.
SMART goals are super helpful for anyone who struggles with procrastination!! And I love that you're doing yoga and writing in your bullet journal! That's amazing.
Thank you for the video Abby ,as an Enneagram type 4 I found it was so insightful, cuz I wondered why I get so inspired,but never get things done. Also I wanna say that when you explain each Enneagram type it's much better, you do it so well and I can understand why I do this or that and how can I help myself ❤❤❤
Lol you're definitely right about the 9. I still have trouble putting myself first. Except when my 8 wing comes out lol. My mom's a 6w1 and that's what I love about her. She can go from super serious goal-oriented to fun-loving like that, so cute! ^^ But also the 1 wing. She wanted to lose weight and everything was ruined when her goal wasn't met!
i dont think your mom can be a 6w1, mostly because wings are the next or previous number (for example 1w2, 4w3, 9w1, etc.) but maybe it's on her tritype or similar (idk much about it so i cant really help)
yeah it gets underestimated that 7s can actually be quite effective when they want to. My mom is a badass business lady these days, just one that wears more silly colorful clothes compared to her 3, 1 or 8 counterparts xD Not sure that the accountability partner thing would work for me, tho, because its like... ugh, another obligation/ unpleasant conversation to have if I screw up. I've given it a try & it didnt rly do much. (Might work better for a social subtype I guess) that said the "make yourself do a little bit every day even if you dont feel like it" strategy that you name for 4 *did* help me somewhat in the past; & another tip that works for ppl that do not respond that well to external motivation is that when you randomly get the faintest urge to do a thing (like clean etc.) always follow it, like doing the thing while the motivation is still fresh instead of sitting & thinking about it cause that rather keeps you from a physically mobilized state, you 'use up'/'tamp down' the charge of the impulse or feeling by going into thinking/planning/analyzing mode. I have by no means cracked the secret to making yourself do stuff though
I think i am type 3 with 2 wing,and i think that i like to work on my goal right after i wake up in the morning, do i can feel productive and i enjoy my achievement at the end of the day
My spouse is a 9, and my Bestie is a 5, and well... I've definitely poked them both about their goals on occasion. Once, I even threatened my 5 with taking the books back that she'd borrowed if she didn't commit and finish the thing by a certain date 🤣 It worked!
@@piratedash oh my gosh that’s hilarious!! And also one of the reasons I encourage types 4, 5, and 9 to pick types 3, 7, and 8 as accountability partners!
Once again, Abbey... I'm cringing at how on point you are, once again. As a 5, I'm always preparing for something that I don't actually do.... and if anyone says "are you going to do that...?" I tend to get offended😂.... Ah.... the viscous cycle.
Hmmm not sure about E4, my type. In one hand, I can work in my projects with perseverance, following a timetable and finishing it. In the other hand, sometimes I become so obssesionated for being disciplinated that I become mechanical, and I need to stop and breath, because you cannot create or prepare creative lessons being disconnected of yourself or the environment... Sometimes I feel like I learnt to be disciplinated (which is really good in the results, by the way, I leartn from my E1 boyfriend xD) but, at the same time, sometimes it just doesnt fell "natural"... Dunno xD Oh, and I've felt so reflected in E8 actitude. Any other E4 out there who feels the same way? Abbey, I love your videos, thanks :)
As a 9, my goal this year is to not set any goals, because if they get in the way of someone else, we'll just drop and forget about them! ... whoops...
I’m thinking type 3’s are more likely to start vlogs/channels. A wondering if most of your comments come from type 4 since they may be most likely to be watching to know themselves better...identity wise
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You've done the "Annoying things that each ennegram do"...but can you do "the awesome things of each ennegram"? I'm struggling with certain ennegrams types and I want to see the positive side of them.
Thanks Abbey
@@emilybaker6193 YES!! This is a great idea, Emily!
@@AbbeyHowe I'm a 9 and I really struggle with domineering personality types. I'm hoping that if I see the positive side of these ennegrams it will help me feel more understanding and less frustration and judgment. Thanks!! I seriously love your content. 😊❤
As a Type 4 (spending a LOT of time INSIDE my head,) I would much rather DAYDREAM about achieving my goals (and you know those daydreams include long & detailed conversations I plan to have with individuals I’ve yet to meet. 😂)
Oof. 4w5 - I do both of those things compulsively if I don't control myself. Dreaming things up forever without actually *doing* anything, and creating system on top of system on top of perfect system to prep for all future possibilities. Dreaming and prepping are tripwires if I'm not watching out for them.
As s Type 5 i learned that its better to not have goals. Rather have self-improvement on what you can manage.
When you gave advice for type 4s, I felt like you were talking to me directly. I really do get all hyped up about my goals, then quickly lose steam when reality sets in and the initial excitement wears off. I like your suggestion of making goals a habit. I’ll try that. Thanks!
The 4 is definitely true. I recently restarted keeping a journal, and then fell off for a few days.😜 But I caught myself and now I'm back on it. It helps me to schedule the things I want to work on into my day/week. 😊 I liked the skit for 4 too.😅👍
thanks, Stephanie!
I’m a type 5 and this is definitely true. I have a minimalist mindset but get overwhelmed by the thought of actually organizing and decluttering. I have multiple books on the topic, and have watched many videos about it. I finally last week started a full reorganization and declutter of my kitchen and it feels amazing.
Can you do Enneagram Types as Leaders? I'm very curious about each types leadership styles.
Once again, I resonate with both 4 and 9. I don't usually set goals because it requires so much effort. Also, I don't always feel passionate enough about something to set a goal. That being said, in alignment with the 4, when I get a burst of inspiration I can really get passionate about a goal. I can do it from anywhere from 2 days to 2 months. It goes well until I get bored of it or I start to forget what inspired it in the first place. Then I go back to being goalless. A viscous cycle. I need to set a time each day to work at something, even if it's only for 10 minutes, but I also feel like I need accountability, and as I live alone, that's hard to find.
"I'm either doing it correctly or I'm failing." As a type 1, it's nice to be seen. And Imma need you to quit spying on me Abbey :-)
UPDATE: I'm actually a type 4 who mistyped as 1 (but type 1 is my stress / growth path so the comment is still relevant). But since authenticity is important to me, I had to include this edit :-) Type 4 skit hit me between the eyes, I'm LITERALLY fighting to keep my writing schedule these days. As a 4w5, I either get lost in creativity (type 4) or research / analysis (type 5).
That part about 4s wanting to bring more personality into their lives really resonated with me! I think I needed this video so thank youuuu! ☺️
1w9 - I definitely used to beat myself about not completing my goals. However, I also have learned to give myself grace. I also always choose too many goals and struggle to be consistent with any of them. My type 9 side also makes it hard for me to push myself in certain goals. I often make goals too easy or give myself too much grace and therefore I don't reach my goals very fast (if ever).
I'm 1w9, do you know your subtype. I'm self preservation
Yes ,as type 3,i found that working on one task at the time increases my productivity so much, with increased quality, but while i find my self more than one or two goals at once i can't complete any of them on time
This, all of it, is PRICELESS 😂
I am a 2w1 and I really relate to both of them. It starts with something distracting (usually a friend who wants or needs something) and then ends with the Type 1 reaction.
I laughed at the Friends reference in the end and for some reason I said, “I love you Abbey.” 🤭 1w9
Ooooooh! Befriending all of the neighborhood canines!! You are a gift!!
Type 6 is the truest. I'm a 6, and my anxiety is HIGH. My biggest anxiety is that literally everything is going to kill me. This fear was greatly increased by watching final destination. So my goal was to basically never ride a rollar coaster ever again. So my family went to holiday world for my biggest sister's birthday, and I chickened out for most of the rides. The only "ride" I rode was The Mayflower (I was scared in there so much I couldn't actually scream) but I thought I was never gonna ride a Rollar Coaster there. True to this video, I did not succeed this goal. I rode the The Legend and screamed throughout the ENTIRE thing.
My husband (6) is the healthiest person I know; however, he’s SURE he’s going to drop dead of a heart attack! I’m at eight, so I’m kind of wondering when already😂😂😂😂😂
Abbey to 4s: Make it a habit and stick to it! Me, actively seeking an ADHD diagnosis: Well I’m screwed 🤷🏻♀️
Also a 4 (w5) and Same..
I will say that finally realizing I likely have ADHD has at least made a lot of my life make so much more sense! Is it the same for you?
In my case it doesn't help that I also have a couple of chronic illnesses that have gotten worse in the last few years, and left me with much less of the emotional and mental energy needed to develop or use coping strategies.
How about if either of us comes up with a brilliant solution we come back here and share it with the other!?
@@amandabaker4678 Sounds good lol! For the record I’m also autistic so that doesn’t help XD
Abby our family loves your videos sooo much. It has helped us understand our adult children and in-law children..wow
Im a type 2 and every time u talk about 2s I get teary (and I hate getting emotional) but I feel like oh.my.goodness someone understands me..there are other people like me.
Oh the joy of starting on a new project...followed by the boredom of going through the humdrum. I guess all 4s are feeling outed by this vid (I'm not a 4 and even I'm feeling SO outed). As usual, great job Abbey! You have nailed all the types!
I'm a 2w3 ENTP and this is pretty true, but I can see 1s and 3s to be very similar, because they both want to achieve in life, so choosing between wing 1 and 3 is very hard.
2 here I had no idea I was in the “compliant zone” It makes sense… I hope I can get out of it
As 1 I can't agree more to what you said. What is funny and sad I know you are right that done is better than perfect BUT inside me there is a big NO 😂🤣 If I dont do sth the best I can I feel like I should just not do it at all. Thank you for your words, maybe they will be helpful during wars with the inner voice 🤣
you're so welcome... hope they help even if in a small way
I can so relate to 5s and 4s
Type 1 was intense 😆 I see progress as getting closer to my goal and it gives me the feeling I'm doing something that works for me. That's how I met my weight loss goal years ago. 😀
Hi Abbey! I love all your videos but I was wondering something. Do you remember doing these wing videos? I think you stopped with the 4 wings. Are you planning to do wings for types 3, 2 and 1? Really looking forward to those.
I feel so called out as an 8. Lol at first I was like which one is the 8 and then I realized the one in the robe sounds just like me. I'm sure I've said the same exact thing before lol!
as a 9 my only yearly goals relate to the number of books I'm going to read, very accurate.
I liked the withdrawn/assertive/compliant grouping angle of this video! :) I'm not a 6 (though I thought I was one for a while; feeling torn between both the individualistic novelty seeking of 7, and 6's deep yearning to belong in a group as a panacea for isolation and anxiety, was perhaps a clue that I'm a 4) but maybe finding a support system, app/online community, or habit buddy would work well for a 6 as well?
Also, as an aesthetics driven 4, I find romanticising my goal with celebrities/historical figures, literary and movie quotes & images (tumblrish moodboards lol), as well as a pretty visual tracker - combined with the structure of a tiny daily goal as you very rightly said - helps a lot with motivation.
For Type 2 helpers, I think it would also help to consider how taking care of your own goals and mental health can benefit others (especially those closest to you).
Just some suggestions to add to your already brilliant vid :)
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So good! Feel very seen as a 7. Love how nuanced these depictions are. 🙌✨
I had no clue where you would be going with type 9, but as soon as you got there I 100% felt that lol.
Ahh I love this. My type 4 spouse has been stuck so this will help. And type 8 here - now I know why I’m an all of nothing person 😂- good point on changing from a results perspective to a process.
“Let’s see how enneagram 1s deal with their goals-” *SCREAMING*
Even tho I'm a Type 4, I relate to Type 6's goal setting issues. I tend to procrastinate a lot. But I am getting good at keeping habits. I'm doing yoga every morning and writing in my bullet journal every night!
Now I just have to figure out how I can apply this to publishing my novel and becoming a full time teacher.
SMART goals are super helpful for anyone who struggles with procrastination!! And I love that you're doing yoga and writing in your bullet journal! That's amazing.
bullet journallll (fellow 4 here)
Thank you for the video Abby ,as an Enneagram type 4 I found it was so insightful, cuz I wondered why I get so inspired,but never get things done. Also I wanna say that when you explain each Enneagram type it's much better, you do it so well and I can understand why I do this or that and how can I help myself ❤❤❤
Goals? Are 9's really supposed to set goals? 🤯
Every video of the yours just further affirms that I truly am a 9 🤣
Lol you're definitely right about the 9. I still have trouble putting myself first. Except when my 8 wing comes out lol.
My mom's a 6w1 and that's what I love about her. She can go from super serious goal-oriented to fun-loving like that, so cute! ^^ But also the 1 wing. She wanted to lose weight and everything was ruined when her goal wasn't met!
i dont think your mom can be a 6w1, mostly because wings are the next or previous number (for example 1w2, 4w3, 9w1, etc.) but maybe it's on her tritype or similar (idk much about it so i cant really help)
yeah it gets underestimated that 7s can actually be quite effective when they want to. My mom is a badass business lady these days, just one that wears more silly colorful clothes compared to her 3, 1 or 8 counterparts xD
Not sure that the accountability partner thing would work for me, tho, because its like... ugh, another obligation/ unpleasant conversation to have if I screw up. I've given it a try & it didnt rly do much. (Might work better for a social subtype I guess)
that said the "make yourself do a little bit every day even if you dont feel like it" strategy that you name for 4 *did* help me somewhat in the past; & another tip that works for ppl that do not respond that well to external motivation is that when you randomly get the faintest urge to do a thing (like clean etc.) always follow it, like doing the thing while the motivation is still fresh instead of sitting & thinking about it cause that rather keeps you from a physically mobilized state, you 'use up'/'tamp down' the charge of the impulse or feeling by going into thinking/planning/analyzing mode. I have by no means cracked the secret to making yourself do stuff though
I think i am type 3 with 2 wing,and i think that i like to work on my goal right after i wake up in the morning, do i can feel productive and i enjoy my achievement at the end of the day
Oh. My. Gosh. That's.... That's exactly what I'm like as a 7. 😮
no way!! 🤯
My spouse is a 9, and my Bestie is a 5, and well... I've definitely poked them both about their goals on occasion. Once, I even threatened my 5 with taking the books back that she'd borrowed if she didn't commit and finish the thing by a certain date 🤣 It worked!
@@piratedash oh my gosh that’s hilarious!! And also one of the reasons I encourage types 4, 5, and 9 to pick types 3, 7, and 8 as accountability partners!
Once again, Abbey... I'm cringing at how on point you are, once again. As a 5, I'm always preparing for something that I don't actually do.... and if anyone says "are you going to do that...?" I tend to get offended😂.... Ah.... the viscous cycle.
Oh my lord the TWO!! 😳 *it’s me*
I love your content, especially when you are being serious. So helpful.
I'm the running streak one 😅-5w4
Great tips for each type that others can also benefit from 👍
I’ll sign up to Truity thru your aff link. Thanks!
Omg have you done the enneagram types for the Friends characters? Because that would be interesting.
One of my first videos hehe czcams.com/video/msEmFm1CXsg/video.html
@@AbbeyHowe ooh thank you I'm gonna watch it rn!
can you please talk about the tritype
look, in all honesty i often find your 8 a little off…..but this was spot on. definitely felt that. oof.
Hmmm not sure about E4, my type. In one hand, I can work in my projects with perseverance, following a timetable and finishing it. In the other hand, sometimes I become so obssesionated for being disciplinated that I become mechanical, and I need to stop and breath, because you cannot create or prepare creative lessons being disconnected of yourself or the environment... Sometimes I feel like I learnt to be disciplinated (which is really good in the results, by the way, I leartn from my E1 boyfriend xD) but, at the same time, sometimes it just doesnt fell "natural"... Dunno xD
Oh, and I've felt so reflected in E8 actitude. Any other E4 out there who feels the same way?
Abbey, I love your videos, thanks :)
As a 9, my goal this year is to not set any goals, because if they get in the way of someone else, we'll just drop and forget about them! ... whoops...
Great video!
This video stings a little bit... (i'm a 4)
Everything you said about the enneagram 1 and 2 is so me. :/
Type 9 here. What are goals? lol
Y'all are going to hate because I'm an #8 and I have an army of go-to #2's
I’m thinking type 3’s are more likely to start vlogs/channels. A wondering if most of your comments come from type 4 since they may be most likely to be watching to know themselves better...identity wise