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As a 1w2, the most difficult part of therapy is talking out loud about the parts of myself that aren't "good" or "kind". I'm often ashamed to admit my "shadow" side that experiences anger, envy, irritation and resentment. I'm constantly trying to perfect myself and, until some years ago, my goal was to erase the parts of me that didn't align with what I considered to be "a good person". I'm working on it and I'm getting better at accepting all of me. Therapy has helped a lot with my anxiety and has taught me that life isn't only about self-improvement, but also about self-acceptance.
Type 9 here, and I've definitely said those exact words đ
"I'm not depressed, I just" *goes on to list several symptoms of depression* "but really it's fine probably"
As a 5, I can def say I've slide into doing this as well. Not alone, lol!
@@mwatson4970 I also related a lot to when the 5 uses the last 3 seconds to blurt out what is actually bothering them đ
I do that often as well. Like, "I know I've spent the last hour saying I'm fine, but I'm actually maybe not. Okay, bye!"
I could see a 9 doing that too!!
honestly tho i've been saying "i'm not depressed, i just dont feel like i want to live anymore." and i still think im not depressed, just want to be alive. there's a difference i think lol.
Literally me with anxiety. T__T
As a 4, I LOVE going to therapy. It feels nice to talk about my feelings đđđđ
totally!!!
Me too
As a 5 I totally recognize withholding information from my psychiatrist up to the point of telling them so little I feel like my therapy had little effect at all.
Same, especially since as an INTP I just don't talk feelings more than absolutely necessary
@@NemoK I'm a 5w4/4w5 and same lol
Type 5 here - I used to save my teenage breakdowns until late at night, so that bit at the end of the session hit close to home.
thanks for sharing your perspective, Virginia!
I'm type five too, I also do that.
Oh, same. ~ 5
Type 5 here,I used to do that in my teenage years too.
As a 5, when I went to therapy, I didn't know if he was going to be able to tell me anything I didn't know, since I was a psychology major in college. However, even though I "knew" what I needed to do, what was going on on a psychological level, for some reason it wasn't clicking. Talking w/ the therapist weekly for over a year ended up helping me SO much & hearing the things I "knew" being directed AT me, helped them click finally. We debated theories a lot đ
But I definitely dropped bombs at the end of sessions lol!
isn't that so weird how you can "know" things in your head, but it takes timing, phrasing, and atmosphere for it to fully CLICK for you?? I feel that a lot in my own therapy sessions.
I am a 5 and I vouch for this answer.. even though I am not a psychology major but I devoured all the books, videos and resources available relating to my condition.. I honestly went to therapy just to vent and discuss my latest findings đ
This 4 goes to her psychologist and is too self-aware and educated in Psychology for her own good. I just talk the whole time and show my feelings and explain my conceptual understandings of the meaning behind all my reactions and motivations, and it's more a conversation with my psych than her giving actual hard-hitting insights haha
Edit: actually discovered I'm a sx/so 9, possibly 9w1, anyway carry on
Edited again: lol I'm actually a 2 guys you can all go home
wow I feel so seen
Maybe you'd be better doing CBT than talk therapy as it can limit self indulgence and you might see results a bit quicker.
I'm a 5 and I literally made a powerpoint analysis and brought it to my doctor before my first appointment. She didn't even need to analyze me anymore. I blatantly told her what my condition was and the why, with psychological theories and time table. Tbh I just needed her for the medical tests and prescriptive drugs because I wanted to understand my conditions better so I could treat myself. I did that because I wanted my sessions to be as efficient and informed in the least amount of time possible. She was, literally, a pill vending machine for me.
WHAT OMG ME TOO
Oops turns out I'm actually a sx 9, anyway the sentiment still stands
As a type one, I started therapy and HATED it. I felt like no one had the right to âjudgeâ me and âfixâ me. Then I found a new therapist who specialized with OCD and PTSD, both of which I have. This helped SO MUCH. I took comfort in the fact that she was prepared and I felt secure because she was well trained. Grounding therapy has really helped and leaning in to my OCD to help function but not let it take over my life has been a huge help! Also, the fact that we get to talk about enneagrams in therapy! Love your videos!
Your therapist sounds really gd, do you mind letting me know who they are? I'm looking for a good one. I could give you my email?
I actually learned about enneagram in therapy. Also the therapist happened to be a type 1 as well, so she really understood me. She knew how to gently introduce criticism in our sessions. Lol.
Iâm a 2, at first I wasnât relating and then you said âI made you lemon bars, you mentioned them 2 months ago so I made them especially for youâ and felt personally called outđ
Type 1. I asked my therapist about attachment styles and she told me that only kids in foster care can experience attachment issues later in life. Needless to say, I take everything she says with a grain of salt now.
As a self-preservation 4 with balanced wings, I think therapy is the best spent money. To be able to unload all my feelings on someone who has no agenda for my life guilt-free is the greatest blessing ever, and a kind think for me to do for my friends and boyfriend. đ€Ł
3w4 here. My therapist no longer assigns me "homework" because she is evil....and also to help me not focus on "winning at therapy". LOL! Your 3 in therapy was pretty much right on for me.
glad it resonated!!
I'm a Type 4 who found my therapist thanks to my best friend Type 2 constantly saying her therapist was "the greatest therapist ever".
As a 9, there was no reason to be dragged like that in the first two seconds of this video loooollll
LOLOLOL
I am a therapist, this is so great to watch! đ
love hearing from a therapist!!
Iâm a 2........ wing 1.........my therapistâs biggest goal was to help me see my needs and learn self care.......but all I wanted to do was ask her about HER!!! She told me I wasnât allowed to do that.....lol......she wanted me to just focus on me.......hardest thing ever!!! Thank you for your channel â€ïž
I'm an 8w7. I've made therapists have panic attacks....đ€Ł
I need to comfort my therapist by the end...
Hahaha as type 9 i would be like that if i meet a therapist.. saying"i don't know" yet telling the obvious simptoms and denied by telling i'm okayđlove itâ€ïž
âYou must have gone to school for 6 years and gotten your mastersâ the amount of times I wish I could say that........(as a therapist)
I felt like I need to hear someone tell me that aha
I would love to have a therapist tell me this so then I could say, "actually yes I did, got my masters in counseling and worked in the substance abuse field for 5 years."
However, I usually always tell my therapist from the first session that I used to be a counselor just so we can skip over the whole "limits to confidentiality" speech.
4w3 here - been going to therapy for almost 2 years now. Some of the things I've learned:
- It's ok if people don't like me, even if it's members of my own family
- realizing that I need to learn how to be happy. I've spent so much time in my life being depressed/anxious that feeling consistently happy is a very unnatural feeling and takes actual practice
- learning to not be so hard on myself, not put so much pressure on myself, forgive myself for the ways I've hurt people
- reversing this idea that I'm automatically inferior to others and learning where that assumption comes from
...and more I'm sure
SUCH đ GOOD đ LESSONS!
Those are great lessons! I'm trying to internalize them as well. It's strange isn't it, that feeling happy or safe doesn't always feel safe... At least not to a 6 lol. I also have to practice allowing myself to feel good things even when it's uncomfortable. Live more in the moment instead of always waiting for the other shoe to drop...
Yeah it's odd how feeling depressed can feel comforting and like 'home' because it's been the default for so long.
Type 5 here! I prep notes so that A) I have a reference for everything I was thinking and feeling earlier in the week/month to just hand to them and B) so I donât self-sabotage and save everything until the end đ it works... usually
Iâm a 1w9 and as Iâm listening to my therapist I often find myself thinking, âthat doesnât sound rightâ or âI already knew that,â but I donât voice it because my peacemaker wing is pretty strong.
As a 1w2 I need therapy to allow myself to feel the feelings I repressed and didn't allow myself to feel. It usually helps me to process and understand what I'm feeling and why I feel that way.
I'm a 4w5... always have had trouble going to therapy because I worry that the therapist won't "understand" who I am as a person. When I have gone to therapy and felt like opening up, I talk about my feelings very intensely...in the way that a stereotypical type 4 would lmao. I have difficulty trusting therapists because I know I feel things very deeply and I don't want to overwhelm or burden anyone đ
Iâm a 8w9 and when I first went to therapy it was like the flood gates opened! I really learned how to express my feelings and change the bad records in my life. Itâs been an important experience.
I already feel called out and this hasn't even premiered yet (4w5)
Hahaha! Honestly the 4 was my favorite scene to make đ
I agree I'm 4w5 too!
đ married to one of those lovely types đ guess I was âholding applejacks...â as well.
I'm a 4w5.....
I'm a 9w1 and this is spot on. I actually almost didn't start going to therapy because I was suppressing my emotions/problems so much I thought they weren't that big of a deal and worried I'd be wasting my therapist's time.
Absolutely. It literally took me decades before I contacted a therapist...
I laughed so hard when the type 1 dismissed CBT, as an 8 it's the only kind of therapy that actually did something for me.
I'm a 5 and i agree. I studied so much on CBT and took psychology in school just to understand myself better and it just seems to work better than other methods.
Im a type one and actually I used to ignore cbt exactly the same way:) but after awhile I tried to study psychology more seriously as a major and it changed my view! Umm if I just dont suddenly get critical about the whole point of science and positivist psychology thođ€
LOL. Was snacking on some of my "emergency trailmix" while watching this video. Then the type 6 scene came up. I. AM. SHOOKETH. TO. MY. CORE. Bahaha
Haha as a 7 that loves herself some therapy I felt very called out at âIâm not fixed yet??â I do like 3 sessions and think Iâve got my life down, wait about a year and realize I should probably go back to therapy. Maybe by then itâs a thrill again.
The type 5 part about pushing everything that's important to the very end or not even mentioning it is SO true!
ahhhh!!
2w1 here :) my biggest learnings were 1. it's not (always) my fault. 2. setting boundaries is not only acceptable but actually healthy. 3. my ugly, non-perfect sides are okay. there are people who have seen the worst of me and they stayed by my side.
also, I once made my therapist Christmas cookies, so I felt called out in this clip đ
3 wing 4 here! I basically told my therapist I had fixed all my problems in two weeks and I was all good. I was just suppressing my emotions and people pleasing lol.
About two weeks ago I talked about a youtuber with my therapist. She said "but you don't even really know him". I said "I know!". What I truly thought was " But he lives in Paris and has a delicate soul"
HAHAHAHA "But he lives in Paris and has a delicate soul"
7w8 and I actually love therapy! I always have a million things to say and I have to write out the issues before I go or else I will rationalize the bad feelings before ever expressing them to the therapist! i.e. âI lost my job this week but itâs okay because that opens me up to a better fit and I wasnât happy anyway. On to better things :)â haha
100% true for the enneagram one. I never follow what the therapist says because itâs not âthe wayâ I do things.
thanks for sharing your perspective, CD!
I am a type one who has been to therapy and for my experience instead of trying to tell the therapist what to do, I was always really concerned with if I was doing therapy ârightâ. If there was a suggestion, Iâd try it and then worry that I might be doing it wrong. Just another perspective of a type one in therapy though!
I have a 1 in my life and could see them doing exactly this. She doesnât so much as correct others, she worries if sheâs doing everything perfectly.
Yes to this! I am a type one and I wonder if I am remembering everything they said and whether Iâm doing my part to make paying for therapy worth it.
I'm a type one to and went to the comments to see if someone has already said this because I do the same.
I am constantly trying to improve and worrying if I'm being the best version of myself I can be
But finding the right therapist was also important
Same! Iâm a 1 and I actually enjoy the therapist input because if i had everything in my life perfect, I wouldnât need a therapist
type 4w3 - i always feel like therapy sessions end too soon because i have SO many FEELINGS i want to talk about!
I'm a 6w5. I'm constantly worried that I'm not making sense, or what I'm saying is being taken the wrong way, or that my therapist secretly hates me. But I tend the leave the important stuff to the end, like a 5. I need time to "warm up." I also write down my thoughts after a session so I can analyze and refine my thinking. I'm never really done with any subject because my thoughts and feelings keep evolving the more I reflect on them.
I'm a type 7, everything's fine - never needed therapy lol
i'm fine this is fine *fire burning around me*
Sooo true! People kept recommending therapy to me, and I always said I didnât need it, lol I was doing great
*Me thinking about therapy*
*Iâll have to ask them for their credentials*
*Type 6 shows up.* âYeah I need a print out of your credentials.â
Yikes đ
Wow, Iâm a type 9, and have had almost that exact conversation with my counsellor.
I know I was about to say....I felt called outđđđ
no wayyyyyy
did they give you a feelings wheel??
@@AbbeyHowe Haha yeah đ
âYou Mean Iâm not fixed yetâ- omg I FELT this- I have literally been to 2 sessions and Iâm expecting it to get magically better, and itâs not and thatâs ok too. Just had a break up, and for once Iâm actually letting myself feel my emotions fully, but after 4 days Iâd like to say Iâm over them (because rn iâm feeling like I am) so maybe I am still ignoring feelings but now Iâm too self aware of my own coping mechanisms for them to fully work as coping mechanisms like is it so much to ask to be in denial again?!
I had it before where I literally had an hour session and then was like âok Iâve done that counselling thing. Iâm all good nowâ and my friends were like âyou know you have to keep going rightâ and I was just like âprobably, but I donât think I need it, Iâm all good nowâ spoilers it did not magically go away and itâs taken a good year to admit I needed it and then try it again. But I am feeling like I want to just be fixed and then to be fine. But part of maturing as a 7 is realising you canât run away from every negative emotion.
Enneagram 2, Best thing I learned was that I was anger!!! đ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
Type 6w5 here. On the first session I'd try to guess if the therapist doesn't know anyone I already know. I don't think I'd be able to talk about my problems either đ
I'm a 7 with anxiety and my fatal flaw with therapy is my complete avoidance of feeling any sort of negative emotion. Anytime something that is emotionally uncomfortable comes up I instinctively burry it and put on a happy face. I do this subconsciously and I'm really good at it and I dont even realize I have all these pent up emotions. I'm using all my emotional energy to keep the bad feelings at bay that the second something interferes with my facade I spiral. So my default is to distract, distract, distract. So I keep myself busy, seek out new experiences or stay social to distract myself.
Edit: typo
Sounds familiar. I'm a 7w6. I also have ADHD and Asperger's.
9w1 here. During therapy I often said: "Yeah, that absolutely makes sense. That's what I probably should do. But it makes me feel so uncomfortable to actually do it...". And by the next session I had almost forgotten what we had talked about.
And yes, naming my feelings was one of the hardest exercises.
I just discovered the enneagram last week and I've been obsessed from watching your videos to reading articles on famous people of today and through history type has been really fascinating.
Itâs so fascinating! Once you learn about it, itâs hard to stop!
2w1 here! Iâm also an empath, so I tend to wrap my emotions and how IâM doing into how everyone around me has been doing, taking on otherâs emotions instead of figuring out my own.
For exampleâŠ
Therapist - so how did this last week been go for you?
Me - Well, my dad got laid off, and my sister failed her math test, so our family has been in kind of a rough patch.
Therapist - ok, how are YOU feeling about all that?
Me - âŠmy mom is trying to lift my dadâs spirits, and Iâve been helping my sister study more when Iâm not at work.
Therapist - *probably sighing internally* đ
It was a really eye opening challenge every week for my therapist to ask me how Iâm feeling apart from everyone elseâs emotions and agendas. It also helped me make sense of a lot of trauma Iâd definitely been ignoring in order to keep pleasing everyone around me as the âperfect childâ.
Ow I'm a five watching this right before my therapy where I don't tell the therapist a single important thing....I just don't like it get out of my head man đ
LOLOLOL #sorrynotsorry
Haha yesss. I'm a type 6 and 8 (not sure which yet). I relate to bothhh!!! I really do hide my emotions with humor and sarcasticness, which leads into not opening up a lot and yes
As a 2w1 I've recently had to go back to therapy for Situational Depression. I just notice that I'm pretty dutiful, with the homework, like a Type 3. Therapists have also commented that I come across as sunshiney and upbeat even when I can have some serious cracks in my foundation....
Literally same!
Me too!!!
The irony of seeing this video while I'm questing for a therapist! Thank you!
The type 9 right off the bat in the beginning hit too close to home. How dare you. đđ
When I - a 4w5, I think - went to therapy I was very depressed and with a lot of anxiety (OCD), and just cried and cried feeling hopeless, and afterwards I used to feel drained, unsettled, almost unable to stop crying and ashamed. At last, after many years with therapy that didn't work, I got a new therapist - a nurse - who was actually smart and knew what she was doing, and had some techniques that really helped. So everything got more positive, and finally I made progress. It was life saving.
Type 9w8. Iâve never been to therapy because I think I have everything under control and donât want to waste time or money on therapy when therapists are in short supply and the demand is high. Iâm proud of being able to take care of myself and definitely donât think anything going on in my life merits a therapist.
9w1 - *Its not that I can't sleep, it's that I don't want to sleep. Nobody has any expectation of me at night.*
This is particularly funny to me because I'm an 8w7 and I'm a therapist. These are spot on, have experienced everyone of them as a therapist. Can't wait to show this to both my clients and therapist friends. It definitely took me longer than other types to let therapists I've seen over the years into my vulnerabilities. Never really did with my first therapist but she did a good job at chipping away at first layers. Second therapist several years later was male and in order for me to feel safe enough to be vulnerable, my husband went with me which strengthened our relationship because I could let my guard down, he had my back (he's a 1w9). The most recent one I went to was a therapist who is a 2, if a 2 is safe and stable, not needing me to protect them, I can be vulnerable pretty quickly with them, which was true with her, plus I've been a therapist for 15 years so letting myself be more vulnerable is much easier than the 25 year old therapist I started as
Type 4 here, and the whole âthey donât have emotions, they ARE emotions!â Almost made my McLaren Vale Shiraz shoot out of my nose. Spot. Freaking. On! Situationally, I have found myself leaning into both the w3 and w5 at times, loving the stretch (stress?!) of personal development and I can easily fall into the habit of âdocumentingâ my process/progress on social media. I donât find it particularly healthy for me. In times of deep stress, I go into hard core Research Mode, which seems a balm to frazzled nerves. Iâve done some evaluation with the Enneagram Institute, and they pointed out a security-threatened 4 can go to an average 1, and those perfectionist, overly critical tendencies come out to play. Yeah, thatâs true for me. So super interesting!
Obviously I don't know your take on 3s at therapy yet, but I immediately remembered that my first therapy a few years ago didn't help me as much as it could have because I tried to be "good" at it and dont get setbacks or admit that some things just didn't work outđ
Looking back that was probably a very three thing to do
đ oh gosh I can totally relate to this!!
Yeeeessssss
Wait you can comment before a video is posted?
@@TylerSimonds Yes, because it was a premiere :)
7 w8 here, The only time Iâve gone to therapy is when my husband made an appointment for us. the we went to one session I loved it and wanted to go back. We never did but it helped us.đ
OKAY feeling called out with the lemon bars (type 2). I had a coworker mention a kind of treat she used to like but hadn't had one in a while and I spent the next day googling recipes for that treat so that I could make her some. đŹđŹđŹ
okay but lemon bars are so good đ
I'm a 6 and I would also do this lol. I must keep my support system happy!
Totally get that!!!!
Iâm a 4w5 and I love going to therapy and talking with a grounded person. Iâve seen a good number of therapists unfortunately and some of them were super idealistic; and when youâre feeling like you fell into a pit and broke a leg and thereâs a ladder to help you out but literally your leg is broken it does you no good, idealism is not the most helpful. My current therapist has helped me to challenge the things my mind has told me are unchangeable facts about myself, and start hacking a path from where I am to where I want to be.
9 - went to talk about my anxiety - quit when she asked me about a conflict Iâd rather just pretend doesnât exist.
Thanks for calling me out like that. Lol. The 1 and the 9 are pretty spot on. (Iâm a 1w9. I didnât realize the 9 was so strong until I related with everything about the 9.) Your videos are actually more accurate than most and Iâm glad to see theyâre not just stereotypes.
thanks for saying that TayTay!
Iâm a 1w9 too!!! And, every therapy session starts with me not knowing how I feel in true 9 fashion...
I'm a type 4 and apple Jack's are my favorite cereal
I'm a 4, and I'm not sure if my wing is 3 or 5, but I resonate both with pushing your feelings aside in order to be productive (even though I don't do it all year long) and wanting to be the best at therapy, and with waiting for the very last minute to drop the bomb đ
(Perhaps my istinctual subtype can help make sense of this: i'm a self preservative 4)
You: 8s are afraid of being betrayed.
My ears: Perk up!
I'm an 8, both wing, who has never done therapy, but could definitely benefit from it. đđđ
therapy is so helpful!
When I'm unhealthy (5w4), 8 seems a little too familiar, and 6's anxiety+super planning is in line with not being incompetent... so, yeah. But the 5 was also spot on! Oh dear...
You got this!!
Iâm in therapy since months and I always question whether Iâm a 9 a 6 or something completely differentđđ
I could relate so well to the e9 sketch: I always experience internal panic whenever my therapist asks me how Iâve felt throughout the week. Iâm also always worried about giving accidentally the wrong response and slowing down the process.
Iâve also needed 3 sessions to test my therapist, trying to figure out whether I can trust him with my time etc - âBut, you know, thereâs a lot of harsh critique against this kind of therapy onlineđ§âŠâŠ.â
And like the 5 in this video, I often overthink what Iâm going to say/what Iâm not going to say until the last few minutes of therapy and then suddenly say something along the lines: âOh, I wanted to talk about X and Y and Z with you but I guess we donât have enough time for that anymoreâŠâ
Dropping bombs at the end of sessions?! Oh no, DEFINITELY not me... đ đ As a five, I feel personally called out.
I also struggle with trusting the process because I researched all the methods. My therapist might say, "Let's try this effective method of PTSD therapy that involves rapidly moving the eyes while..." and I cut her off with, "Oh, you mean Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing?" She was just too much in shock to actually treat me. My knowledge of psychology from endless research on the matter fascinated her and ended up breaking the therapist/patient boundaries. She started to consider ME as a friend and ended up with more chatting than therapy, unfortunately.
This is BRILLIANT! As an enneagram 4 beginner on a journey I love your hilarious and kind insights into all types.
Thank you!! đ
Type 6 was spot on! đ
woo hoo!!
For sure! I often use humor to deflect or avoid negative feelings (and my therapist will call me out on it lol). I think that's also partly my pain avoidant 7 wing as well. It's been a challenge for me to learn to sit with my fear, pain, and other unpleasant emotions. Also, I'm always drinking water in sessions (instead of eating snacks lol). It's some sort of coping thing I do when I get anxious.
i am a 2w3 and i struggle hardcore with the issue that you placed. me and my therapist will do an exercise and ill spend the next how many minutes inflating their ego and making sure they understand how helpful and needed they are. while also being super cooperative and upbeat so i can be the "best client". takes me a while to stop and think "who is the one in therapy right now?"
hmm interesting. thanks for sharing your perspective. Maybe bring that up with your therapist next time!!
2w3 here. Not therapy, but very similar to when I had just delivered a baby and the doctor and nurses said "great job!" And I pulled an Oprah pointing to everyone, "No you did a great job! You did a great job! Wow, you guys are the best! Thank you so much!" My husband was embarrassed đ
âDid I win therapyâ HAHAHAH
I haven't been to therapy and im holding back a bit, im a type 5 and I can't help being curious and unsure of what to expect if I do, like do I go in already knowing what to talk about? Go only after some sort of incident? Are there things I shouldn't mention? How do therapy sessions start if its ones first time, what type of things can therapy help with? How much is the average cost? So many questions and hence holding back from looking for a therapist.. đ
Iâm a type 4 and asked for a mood ring as a gift this Christmas. Now watching this⊠đđđ»
Depression makes your food tasteless, that explains a lot. I still own my mood ring from childhood.
i'm an 8, but also really relate to 5 and 3 here đ (every therapist gets a different side of me, lol)
Iâm a four and Iâve always loved mood rings. I want a mood shirt, or a mood dress. That finger nail polish that changes based on your mood/body temp is also so cool to me.
I love therapy just as much btw.
Type 8 here. This is literally a snapshot of my therapy sessions. I research and implement techniques throughout the week and use my sessions as opportunities to report my progress. I need to learn to listen to my therapist more.
Yep lol!!! đ
I don't even therapy right! I am a 4 and never been able to therapy right. As a child I basically grew up in family therapy. Got one-on-one therapy and the BEST therapist I had I ran away from because I was like 12 and had a huge breakthrough and she made me discover my forest of issues (literal a forest in my head) and face the walls and I was scared. I was a kid! I wasn't ready for that. And I regret it all the time. She also was sex-positive and taught me how to appreciate myself and look at ALL of my body and be okay doing that, even when I am not really okay.
In therapy I tend to downplay everything and it's hard to really work through the emotions because they are so consuming. I'm still trying to find a good therapist for me because of how I am, but knowing my enneagram I hope will help them better understand me from the start, cuz it is me to a Tee in things.
Also: EVERYONE SHOULD GO TO THERAPY! Even if you don't think you need it, it can be so healthy!!!!
Thanks for sharing your own perspective as a 4! That therapist sounds AWESOME and I'm so glad you had those experiences there. Also, totally agree that everyone should go to therapy! (it's not just for when you're sick)
Ok... I like this... I don't have emotions... I AM emotions đ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł so accurate
Iâm a 7 but I donât really relate 100% to the one for my type. The impatience is real, but I donât personally mind doing routine things (maybe itâs my dominant 6 wing that makes me like that idk)
For me the biggest struggle with therapy would be not wanting to actually experience any of my emotions and preferring to just talk about them in a removed and logical manner
I loved the type 3 therapy dance! đ
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I am a type one ,my first appointment ever was just like that .I just had exchanged a lot more words with her that ended the same way. " the authors book doesn't apply to our treatment plan here.20 years later and i still would rather take the books advice.
So 5 and just got a new counselor. She specifically told me I don't get to drop bombs at the end when we discussed my personality type.
Iâm ENFP type 4 w 3 (as you might already know by now haha, I keep commenting on your videos đđ). My tritype is 478 - The messenger.
I feel like the therapists donât take enough time to see the full picture and get all the details to truly understand whatâs going on. I had a therapist tell me I did all the work on my own and donât need therapy. She told me I should be proud of myself as most people wouldnât come out the way I did.
I do feel like anyone can use therapy for something thought, so if ever I find a therapist who can actually help me with something I havenât already done myself that would be amazing! (I tried a couple but I know myself so well that I have yet to find one who can help me more than I can help myself.)
Truth is though, sometimes I honestly just wish I had a therapist to talk to about everything going on in my life and just bounce ideas off of them. I mostly just get sad or depressed when I get too lonely and it goes on for too long. Or when I constantly get tired of being misunderstood at work or stressed about dating etc. Or forced to do things I donât want to be doing for too long. So Iâd want a therapist to just give me company when I feel alone or sad and need someone to talk to ahahaha. Then Iâd feel better!
But even then Iâve learned coping techniques and now make sure to schedule time with close friends regularly to prevent this, meditate, eat well, exercise, snuggle with my cats etc. I also learned to worry less about being accepted by everyone and I stick with small groups or 1 on 1 and avoid large groups if possible. Stick to people who are true friends and accept me for who I am. Then Iâm happy! Large group event? Okay Iâll enjoy it for a bit then disappear for like a week to process all my feelings and recharge.
Ps- I do have a strong 5 wing so Iâm incredibly analytical and introspective, however Iâm still a wing 3 predominantly I believe my 5 developed as a result of my life experience and spending a lot of time alone (despite wanting to be with people haha). I learned to appreciate my alone time but I need the balance for sure.
9W1..... I resonate a lot with the 6 in therapy but Iâm guessing this is bc 9s go to 6 when out of alignment. All of them were spot on
glad it resonated! and yes 9s go to 6 in stress paths!
As a 6 I actually struggle with 9 issues as well. Beth McCord calls it the blind spot path. Not something I hear much about in enneagram discussions, but it's very true for me. I think 3, 6, and 9 just bounce around the triangle, lol.
I loved the therapists clapback for type 1 xD
Type 1 is so me. Iâm a 1w9 so I relate to not knowing what Iâm feeling but being incredibly interested in psychology regardless⊠whoops.
Oh yay... new labels for people.. this is great
As an 8, that is 1000% correct. LOL đ - I need someone to take control & ask questions.
3w2 here. I tried therapy and didn't feel like it was going anywhere because my therapist never gave me anything to do. He kind of just sat there and let me vent. It didn't seem to be helping, but maybe that's because I expected it to be more work and less just unloading. I also really relate to what you said about 5s. I had a real hard time even explaining why I felt I needed therapy.
there's SO MANY different types of therapist. it could be that it just wasn't the right fit!
3w2 is my type as well (self-preservation subtype) and roughly my initial experience. At first I kept trying to assign myself homework! Instead he'd just want to talk about what I feared would happen if I didn't . Eventually I realized he was acclimating me to looking past my anxiety, and also to the idea that failure was neither inevitable nor catastrophic. It has (slowly) made a difference, mostly in forcing me to turn my skills inwards to learn to understand myself and my feelings. But most sessions still feel like I'm just finding words to express myself or to vent. đ
Yes! Give me action steps!!!
The *"BLINK TWICE IF I WON THERAPY!"* line got me XD
Enneagram 1 here đââïž Letting somebody else be in control is the hardest part of therapy for me, hands down! You were spot on. (Btw I have also researched the methods Iâve tried and definitely told my last therapist that I was skeptical about the methodâs legitimacy).
Iâm a type 6 with a strong 7 wing. I resonate with what you said about the 6 and 7 so much! I have gotten so frustrated in my life when Iâm still struggling with something after trying to work through it. Itâs hard for me when things donât get better very quickly. And then because Iâm a 6, Iâll jump to the worst-case scenario that it wonât ever get better and then feel super anxious.
Explaining trauma and dealing with trauma through humor is something I do really often (and something I have definitely done in counseling many times), and I had no idea it was a 6 trait until I saw it in one of your videos a few months.
Ok. Soooo called out as a 4. I literally spent 45 minutes in therapy telling my shrink all about this guy I met at the club and smooched.
And she asked me why I havenât called him, and Iâm like âAre you kidding? How could I possibly know if he likes me? Plus, Iâd just go all 4-psycho in love and hate my life shortly thereafter. Like⊠get your head out of your ass, Freud!â
And she just looked at me and said, âyouâre scared to ask him out and heâll say no, so you rather fantasize about him?â
Me: âyup.â
As a type 1w2 I would not say that I relate to this portrayal, but I tend not to identify with a lot of the type 1 stereotypes which portray type 1s as unconceding and well prefectionist. I can be controling and I am certainly morally driven, but this is mostly targeted at myself. I am vocal in team settings if I feel the project depart from my values, but I tend to approach this through dialogue. I find in therapy and my relationships that I desire input from others as a way to navigate if I am translating to others the way that I believe I am. I find in therapy that I like to have a therapist that is equal parts structured and open. I like to be pushed in my therapy sessions. I think if anything I am often have alot to dig into and an hour long session rarely feels like enough time... Anywho, I thought I would share my feedback.