Jordan Peterson Talks about YOU (People who Like his Lectures)

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  • čas přidán 4. 07. 2024
  • Psychology professor Jordan B. Peterson specifies what many people who enjoy his lectures have in common. What follows is an example out of his clinical experience with some advice that may not be easy to digest.
    This excerpt is part of Dr. Peterson’s comprehensive lecture “2017 Personality 04/05: Heroic and Shamanic Initiations” you can watch entirely here:
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Komentáře • 895

  • @PsycheMatters
    @PsycheMatters  Před 5 lety +123

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    • @andyonlysmaller6557
      @andyonlysmaller6557 Před 4 lety +1

      I didn't cry when my grandparents passed away. I still haven't, I was their power of attorney and I was there with them as they were dying for years, but relatives that never visited had the most draumatic wailing cries. I would congratulate people on a happy funeral, I simply don't feel that death should be a taboo thing, rather just as we celebrate birthdays and weddings we should also celebrate the eventual death.

    • @Izanagioomikami
      @Izanagioomikami Před 3 lety +3

      @@andyonlysmaller6557 I disagree to an extent. Death is painful and celebrating death would mean make it common and make murderer feeling even less responsible at some point. I see pros and cons to your solution.

    • @andyonlysmaller6557
      @andyonlysmaller6557 Před 3 lety +1

      @@Izanagioomikami death is actually very common, 100% of everything alive in existence will end. This is what makes our time alive unique and special. Murder is painful because it is cutting the life experience short and not because of death itself.

  • @mlgdankfrog9622
    @mlgdankfrog9622 Před 4 lety +1195

    I hope he feels better soon. We want his amazing mind back to academia.

    • @kodexi2761
      @kodexi2761 Před 4 lety +99

      In case you haven't checked it out, his daughter uploaded a podcast with him. He discusses his illness and current recovery. Good stuff.

    • @clsdchnnl9273
      @clsdchnnl9273 Před 4 lety +5

      Kodex I Is he doing better though?

    • @baxheri
      @baxheri Před 4 lety +5

      What happened?

    • @tony_fanta
      @tony_fanta Před 4 lety +6

      hell yeah bro and who found himself in the first seconds?

    • @kodexi2761
      @kodexi2761 Před 4 lety +14

      @@clsdchnnl9273 much better. From what he said, it appears he was in reeaally bad shape.

  • @diegobelingieri9959
    @diegobelingieri9959 Před 6 lety +469

    The weird thing is, when I was 25 years old I told a joke on a bar, with my best college friend, and everything I hear Dr. Peterson tells makes me feel I was spot on with the coment.
    I said to that friend (we're both inteligent, and pretty troubled, and even more at 20 something, at the senior year at our first college degrees - marketing): We're both bright and useless. Like christmas trees!
    Man, it was all anyone had to say about us both. And only after a LOT of change we started to really work towards our goals. Now we both changed our professional directions, I'm a lawyer and he is a neuroscientist.

    • @whothoughtthiswasagoodidea
      @whothoughtthiswasagoodidea Před 6 lety +17

      I actually really like this

    • @anonimus9921
      @anonimus9921 Před 6 lety +22

      Diego Belingieri congrats. How old are you now? (Aka how long did it take you two to go from Christmas trees to professionals?)

    • @chloroxbleach4142
      @chloroxbleach4142 Před 6 lety +7

      Matthew L yup even I wanna know and all I am is bleach! :)

    • @thomasfisher763
      @thomasfisher763 Před 6 lety +12

      Diego Belingieri I'm 22 and I feel like I'm in for a real deep-dicking in life. I'm working in construction, playing in a band (guitar/synth is what I play) and I constantly go back and forth as to whether or not I want to go back to school. Oh yeah and I can dance like an absolute monster haha but uh, other than that I'm a goner if I don't do something. Yup, better get the KY jelly cause this life is gonna have it's way with me if I don't do anything about it lol

    • @diegobelingieri9959
      @diegobelingieri9959 Před 6 lety +30

      Matthew and Chlorox:
      I'm 37, and I decided to go to a law school at 31. Graduated at 35, completed my specialization this year. I'm behind my peers because I'm just starting a career at this age, but at least I'm moving forward. I actually hated the whole publicity industry.
      My friend managed to do it better, he first became a philosophy professor (his masters), then entered a psychology doctorate, but didn't really like it, for he likes hard sciences better than applied. He then abandoned it and went for neurosciences as a behavioral deterministic agent, and with that he managed to link it to marketing, earning a decent income through a consulting company.
      He was more strategic, I almost totally lost my time invested in the marketing and publicity other than, by a small margin, acting in consumer law cases.
      Thomas: There's nothing wrong about having fun and also a blue collar life can be pretty fulfilling if you plan accordingly and don't change your mind later, but you gotta create a strategy, you could even have your own company someday even if you just don't feel like going to college. And if you manage to have a stable, sufficient income, spend your entertainment time with your band and dancing :)

  • @Random-gk8do
    @Random-gk8do Před 4 lety +152

    “If you can’t even think about that, man you’ve got some thinking to do”

  • @ramonmaximiliano3557
    @ramonmaximiliano3557 Před 4 lety +46

    "You wanna be useful in the face of tragedy or do you wanna be.. pathetic? Well... You make your choice.""
    Right in your face

  • @dansmith9724
    @dansmith9724 Před 6 lety +146

    If you cant think about it man, you've got alot to think about.
    Im sorry but that was funny. I like how Peterson tells it like it is.

    • @vivianwill9341
      @vivianwill9341 Před 4 lety +1

      That goes for all the people that dont have an opinion about anything.

  • @TheCptCoy
    @TheCptCoy Před 6 lety +77

    "he doesn't know anything about me" I said.
    - 5 minutes later -
    "goddamn it!

  • @whatdoesthisthingdo
    @whatdoesthisthingdo Před 4 lety +149

    Seeing someone you love die or dead feels surprisingly natural, I think. Almost disturbingly natural. It's when you do something that you used to do with them but they're not there anymore, that's when it hurts. Hits you all at once. Next thing you know you're thinking. "Where did you go? Why aren't you coming back? Why did you leave me? Don't you know that I need you? Come back. You're not allowed to die."

    • @maxmoseley7490
      @maxmoseley7490 Před 4 lety +17

      Quit trying to make people cry with ur comments😂

    • @whatdoesthisthingdo
      @whatdoesthisthingdo Před 4 lety +20

      @@maxmoseley7490 Yes. That was my scheme all along. You got me.

    • @636Knight
      @636Knight Před 4 lety

      @@maxmoseley7490 lmmaaoo

    • @thomasconnolly9033
      @thomasconnolly9033 Před 4 lety +5

      I don’t wanna lose my girl :(

    • @maybe3xcesive742
      @maybe3xcesive742 Před 4 lety +2

      Joe M man my reaction has always been opposite to how you broke that down. It’s interesting to behold someone grieving this way simply because it’s foreign to how I do it but it’s interesting how different the reaction can be

  • @johns.bennett5360
    @johns.bennett5360 Před 6 lety +481

    "They criticize themselves out of existence" OMW I can't stop laughing... it's true

  • @nicktownsend3055
    @nicktownsend3055 Před 6 lety +204

    "As a youth, I used to weep in butcher's shops"

    • @snowwhite7677
      @snowwhite7677 Před 6 lety +10

      Yup. I used to work with a bunch of guys that provided end of life services for lots of people...
      Mostly people in the Middle East...

    • @Gitfiddle
      @Gitfiddle Před 6 lety +5

      Snow White so you worked for the army?

    • @snowwhite7677
      @snowwhite7677 Před 6 lety +1

      No.
      I said a bunch of guys that provided end of life services LOTS of people.

    • @adityyuh
      @adityyuh Před 4 lety

      @@snowwhite7677 funeral services?

    • @Itshardtogetauser
      @Itshardtogetauser Před 4 lety +4

      Snow White hitmen?

  • @obsideonyx7604
    @obsideonyx7604 Před 6 lety +12

    He's literally talking about me. The constant dreams, logical self criticism, tree with damaged branches, everything.

  • @TheAdhdGardener
    @TheAdhdGardener Před 4 lety +20

    He has changed psychology for the better... i listen to all his lectures..i wish I could just sit in your class let alone have a great dialogue!!! I hope he's recovering well

  • @RustinRoark
    @RustinRoark Před 4 lety +14

    "Do you want to be useful when faced with tragedy or do you want to be pathetic?"
    Amazing

  • @ardianacomia2764
    @ardianacomia2764 Před 4 lety +27

    When he talked about your parents death, I felt that. I was in middle school when I started thinking of my parents death. I wanted to be the one to die first. I couldn't even think that I could handle their death if they were to go ahead of me. Years go by, and I still thought of my parents death as I left our family home. I would rarely see them and afraid that if they die, I wouldn't be there and I wouldn't be able to handle it.
    Last year, my dad died. In my arms. I was stoic, and handled it responsibly. We were in a public place and I held him as I waited for an medics and an ambulance. I rode in with him in the ambulance. I watched as the doctors were trying to revive him.
    I didn't shed a tear. I was making sure that everything should be done as it was supposed to.

    • @khyati7733
      @khyati7733 Před 4 lety +4

      Your comment gave me so much hope. Im an only child, and throughout my childhood I'd been extremely attached to my parents and very anxious of losing them. My mom died when i was 13. Im 20 now and with only my dad left, i lie late nights just wishing that i die first. I really want to be the useful one, and not pathetic when the situation arises.

    • @ashleymertens4329
      @ashleymertens4329 Před 4 lety

      Bless you

  • @darkydoors1030
    @darkydoors1030 Před 4 lety +25

    I had a fear of death, wouldn't look in my mother's casket (I was young and afraid) , but years later on a trip to India, I spent an entire afternoon and evening sitting and watching family members wash, embalm and burn their loved ones on the bank of the Ganges. I sat there until I felt all the fear melt away. Changed my view of death forever.

  • @laifuthelife8483
    @laifuthelife8483 Před 4 lety +72

    Atleast I'm that smart to know that I'm not really smart
    Atleast I'm that mature that I know I'm a bit pathetic and I can't do all the things
    Atleast I try my best even though I mostly procrastinate

    • @finnice
      @finnice Před 3 lety

      LaifuThe Life Very much the same!

    • @darintaquito
      @darintaquito Před 3 lety

      The type of people that DONT think like this annoy the shit out of me.

    • @mayar9928
      @mayar9928 Před 3 lety +1

      i feel the same
      but in the end how will that benefit you?
      it won’t,you’re just going to feel more miserable and pathetic every time you procrastinate

    • @krishafyme
      @krishafyme Před 3 lety

      I m you , you are me... Lol , its so relatable, like I know I m not smart but I have a lot to learn n done even if I procrastinate

  • @RedeemedWhispers
    @RedeemedWhispers Před 6 lety +10

    I’ve had dreams so deep, I had to readjust myself to reality when I woke up. Felt like I’d had a month long holiday, and came back with jet lag and an emotional come down. Our minds can do some incredible things, and all we have to do is be alive and functioning to unlock some of that power.

  • @letsgoBrandon204
    @letsgoBrandon204 Před 4 lety +132

    Oh, he's saying embalming. I thought he was saying they were going to see a bombing XD

    • @Adnan-me4uq
      @Adnan-me4uq Před 4 lety +8

      this comment would've been so much funnier if the profile pic was of Bin Laden

    • @DORC101
      @DORC101 Před 4 lety +1

      I mean that could work too hahaha

    • @atlanticocean711
      @atlanticocean711 Před 3 lety +2

      Even I thought that 😂😂😂

    • @gernhard.reinholdsen
      @gernhard.reinholdsen Před 3 lety +3

      @E.V.A V2000 "You have to be high on opiates to like my lectures" lololol

    • @EerybodyIsAnnoying
      @EerybodyIsAnnoying Před 3 lety

      😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😅

  • @desertflax4850
    @desertflax4850 Před 6 lety +19

    Knowing from experience, "initiations" are one of the best tools to have a good quality of life.

  • @Raegus
    @Raegus Před 6 lety +31

    Watching an embalming? Dude has some commitment.

  • @jaydan3034
    @jaydan3034 Před 4 lety +4

    he was spot on about the creative release thing. if u dont make anything, whether thats art, music, food, a piece of writing- anything- you'll really suffer.

  • @Raven135
    @Raven135 Před 4 lety +6

    The criticize themselves out of existence. Profoundly true! So happy to watch your lecture here! Thank you for posting.🌻😊💜🎶🇺🇸

  • @floridasam4587
    @floridasam4587 Před 4 lety +6

    This man is immeasurably intelligent and wise. I just absolutely love listening to him explain my own behaviors and thoughts to me, and also tell me WHY I think and act in certain ways. He's amazing. No bones about it!!

  • @Contempoist
    @Contempoist Před 4 lety +6

    This guy has changed my life so profoundly it makes me wanna cry. 🐐

  • @feelingfeni4798
    @feelingfeni4798 Před 6 lety +11

    This man ripped me out of the drone level conscience last year, just by watching a hand full of videos. There were things that I was pushing to the side, unwilling to look at. I didn't have any teeth (metaphorically speaking). I was researching like crazy, aimlessly. CZcams recommended an INFJ video to me and I had no idea what that meant. As I watched, I thought, dam this is me. Then I saw that it was the least common personality type. So I took the MBTI test for the first time and it said I was an INFJ. I felt strong joy and was compelled to find out more about myself. I found SCOTT MORGAN via youtube and he shined a light on my out of control Fe function, which I knew nothing about. He helped me realize I was caught in a Ni Ti loop. He is an INFJ and a counselor. Imediatly I snapped into my head and let go of all the anxste that I was living in dayly. At this point I became the alchemist, able to change how I felt, or able to flip flop a situation around. I was so excited and for two weeks I was on the mad hunt for more. At the end of the second week, CZcams recommended a video from RALPH SMART. He snapped me into the wizard level consciesness via an Indigo video. I was, once again like, that's me! I watched several more videos. One of which he challenged me to make my own video content, even if I could barely talk. So I did and since 11/22/17 I have made 16 videos on my awakening. They start out rough, seeings how I had never videod myself before, ever. I have to mention the fact that I had so much anxste, I was dam near paralyzed on the daily previously. Now I am on top of the world even though I'm a broke 36 yo who just moved back in with mom. I sent a similar comment to Jordan Peterson's page yesterday. I just want to put my story out there in hopes of him seeing it. I want him to know how much I appreciate him. This is probably another shot in the dark, but he is worth my time. He reminds me of my grandfather WALTER M. EDGE. He was a sports article writer for the New York Times in his day. I'm going to check your channel out now, thanx for helping out lost souls like myself.. : )
    Sincerely, Jeff D. Hall

    • @charlotte8659
      @charlotte8659 Před 4 lety

      What is it like to move back home at your age? How did it happen? How do you plan to move forward?

  • @avared7512
    @avared7512 Před 4 lety +17

    I wish would be more Jordan Peterson man around and no media this days. Some common sense serves everyone well especially when is the truth, no agenda, just the truth about humans.

  • @suandorego370
    @suandorego370 Před 4 lety +4

    he described me so fast, so easily, so accurately.
    I hope I meet him some day. hug him, thank him...
    I just want to thank him.
    And talk some ideas.
    Happily, I became strong enough to be useful in the face of tragedy. My grandmother died two days ago, and I have become one of the people my father seeks for strength. To say the least, we've had a terrible relationship throughout life, I've always been the unwanted child, although I was planned, everything turned wrong, I turned to the wrong directions, I chose the wrong paths. Yet now I could be strong enough for all of this. I am someone who he searches for answer in the face of his tragedy, which is weird for me to witness. This is the only good thing I can say about myself now.
    And I am thankful for JP for also helping me see it.

  • @KristianHerdi
    @KristianHerdi Před 4 lety +7

    I'm so glad that he is doing much better and that his successful recovery is continued in my country of Serbia!

  • @looopaa9783
    @looopaa9783 Před 4 lety +8

    literally i struggle with the self criticism so much it’s so debilitating

  • @DavidP089
    @DavidP089 Před 6 lety +822

    The one girl could have saved a trip to the slaughter house and just gone to 4chan.

    • @dexterrity
      @dexterrity Před 6 lety +68

      I know it was probably just an edgy internet comment, but if you really think 4chan compares to real life experience - it only goes to confirming 4chan is a phase teenagers go through. It's akin to kids watching R rated films and thinking they are tough for it.

    • @DavidP089
      @DavidP089 Před 6 lety +27

      Dexterity So, since you took the time to respond to an "edgy comment," What does that say about you?

    • @dexterrity
      @dexterrity Před 6 lety +52

      I seemed to have hit a nerve in such that you can't defend against my argument but have to use a kids tactic: "what about you?"
      So I stand by my original comment.

    • @DavidP089
      @DavidP089 Před 6 lety +12

      Dexterity Ok.

    • @dexterrity
      @dexterrity Před 6 lety +16

      Ok.

  • @Diicto
    @Diicto Před 3 lety +1

    Do you want to be useful in the face of tragedy, or do you want to be pathetic?
    That question alone made me rethink most of my actions. What a great question.

  • @opus_X
    @opus_X Před 4 lety +5

    I can't believe that Jordan Peterson mentioned me by name in this video. He really talked about me!

  • @josephemmanuel6707
    @josephemmanuel6707 Před 4 lety +10

    sometimes he sounds like intelligent version of Michael Scott to me !! so genuine and concerned for his people !!

  • @TwoPlusTwoEqualsFive32
    @TwoPlusTwoEqualsFive32 Před 4 lety +10

    I work in a call centre that takes calls for advise from nurses, we just take the details and pass it onto the nurse so we maybe only spend 2-3 minutes getting details usually from a family member, sometimes the patient and even that can be rough.
    More often then not we get the call and the family member who is very calm, polite, patient and we take their details and ask what the situation is and they say their family member has died and it shocks me everytime because they are just so calm and collected the entire call.
    Then we take a call for a non palliative client and the customer is crying, distraught and raving and it's because a dog is barking next door.
    Humans are weird creatures.

  • @MyLateralThawts
    @MyLateralThawts Před 4 lety +9

    I am so looking forward to recording our dreams (we’re almost there, look it up) and being able to more thoroughly examine them, if only for the entertainment value. Oddly enough, as an occasional lucid dreamer, I once was lucid enough to recognize my late father in my dream and remembered that he was dead in real life. I asked him if he wanted me to tell mom anything? In his ever so typical manner he replied “Just tell her anything!” Mom agreed, that was just like him.

    • @shwetanavani480
      @shwetanavani480 Před 4 lety +1

      Actually its interesting because I've had dreams and they have come true in real life. It's like the weirdest deja vu ever so I would love to record my dreams and go over them again.

  • @Riicky.G
    @Riicky.G Před 3 lety +2

    What he said about criticizing yourself like crazy is true I’m always down bc every thing I do is never enough

  • @CJTAMBER
    @CJTAMBER Před 5 lety +4

    Just did his understand myself test and realized I'm high in openess 😂. It's so amazing how accurate he is

  • @Monavina92
    @Monavina92 Před 4 lety +5

    Speaking of dreams, I guess because I watched so many of his lectures lately and reading his book, I had a dream about J. Peterson. I got meet him and thanked him for all of his work :)

    • @mays_alpha
      @mays_alpha Před 3 lety +1

      Oh wow! I hope your dreams comes true! 😄

  • @kendraashcraft4450
    @kendraashcraft4450 Před 4 lety +2

    When he was describing who likes his lectures, he was spot on with me. 😲

  • @skoto8219
    @skoto8219 Před 6 lety +37

    Thanks for uploading!
    Also FYI: the slight jitteriness in the video is probably the result of reencoding with a different frame rate than the original. It looks like the original video was ~25 fps, so if this clip was done in 30 fps that's the cause of the jitter.

    • @PsycheMatters
      @PsycheMatters  Před 6 lety +26

      Thank you. I just looked the fps up, and you are spot-on. I'll try to adjust this with the next clip.

    • @stokesy887
      @stokesy887 Před 6 lety

      Damn it. I hadn’t noticed until you said that.

  • @administrador1626
    @administrador1626 Před 3 lety +1

    When I look for some answers , I watch or read Jordan Peterson, Man! What a waterfall of knowledge...

  • @FabianA-wh6og
    @FabianA-wh6og Před 6 lety +2

    Now I see how amazingly strong my mother was when her parents passed away. She was one strong SOB man.

  • @garciajaimes4895
    @garciajaimes4895 Před 3 lety +1

    I hope Peterson gets better soon we need him to keep spreading the knowledge that others in his field won't or can't

  • @Micmac358
    @Micmac358 Před 4 lety +2

    Damn the more n more lectures i watch the more insight i gain thank you Jordan

  • @FIoresful
    @FIoresful Před 4 lety +22

    I'm to prideful to ever have a therapist. A simple handshake with this hero would suffice.

    • @vivianwill9341
      @vivianwill9341 Před 4 lety +1

      I always feel worse after i tell people my problems. Thats why a therapist wouldnt work for me.

    • @josephbennett82
      @josephbennett82 Před 4 lety +2

      @@vivianwill9341 yh well maybe its shit you need to hear

    • @vivianwill9341
      @vivianwill9341 Před 4 lety

      @@josephbennett82 i dont like to burden people with my problems, even if it is their job.

    • @luanaalmeida809
      @luanaalmeida809 Před 4 lety +1

      @@vivianwill9341 Their job is not to burden other people's problems. Unless you wanna stand in your own way or feel satisfied where you at, make a therapist's years of study and hard work useful for both you. :)

    • @vetiverose128
      @vetiverose128 Před 3 lety

      True courage requires vulnerability.

  • @obliviateliv
    @obliviateliv Před 4 lety +2

    Im so jealous of those people sitting there , listening the him . I love this man.

    • @yamaha69x
      @yamaha69x Před 4 lety +1

      why? We are sitting at the leisure of our comfort and enjoying the same content :D

  • @roblena7977
    @roblena7977 Před 4 lety +12

    Never thought to ask what a character represented in a lucid dream.

    • @vilmiswow
      @vilmiswow Před 3 lety +3

      Most of the time in my teenage years I'd just go and have sex during lucid dreams

    • @unbearablyyours
      @unbearablyyours Před 2 lety

      @@vilmiswow bwahahahahaha😂😂😂same here😂

  • @cameron7441
    @cameron7441 Před 4 lety +2

    He perfectly described me. Smart, open, and self critical. I have crippling self doubt and hate myself yet I have skipped a grade and change my opinions based on evidence.

  • @everdayimhustelin
    @everdayimhustelin Před 6 lety +3

    Only a minute in and it's so relateable I feel like I don't even wanna finish it

  • @TheMOV13
    @TheMOV13 Před 6 lety +14

    Ha ha! I worked in palliative care in Germany for several years, now I'm a funeral celebrant! Never considered myself as tough, actually. 190 funerals last year.

    • @bybyrei1079
      @bybyrei1079 Před 6 lety

      Next Please When he said it I though it also depends on your views on death. I mean, if you keep in mind we're all going to die, helping people who are dying do it peacefully doesn't seem like such a traumatic job.

  • @Moppomutt
    @Moppomutt Před 6 lety +216

    I'm 17 and I've done 6 months of volunteering at a palliative care unit, and it really isn't as troubling as you think it is to constantly see people die.

    • @TheIcanntspel
      @TheIcanntspel Před 6 lety +12

      hakeem_shizzle What's it like to watch someone die?

    • @Moppomutt
      @Moppomutt Před 6 lety +113

      TheIcanntspel it feels very strange I must say, especially when you're alone with that person, since you're at that point technically the only person in the room and that's hard to wrap your head around when you're staring at what was just another living human being a few minutes ago. In the moment the gravity of the situation doesn't really dawn on you at all, to be honest they just look like they're sleeping, afterwards is when you start to really think about it. I guess the reason it hasn't troubled me as much as other people who see people die is because I'm always expecting it given the nature of the place I'm in. I can't even begin to imagine what it feels like to see someone die suddenly and unexpectedly though

    • @neilwilson5785
      @neilwilson5785 Před 6 lety +2

      Yes, I've been there. It was very different to what you would think.

    • @KD-vb9hh
      @KD-vb9hh Před 6 lety +67

      Seeing old and/or sick people die is not necessarily traumatizing. When my father died I was glad he was finally at peace. People have looked at me weirdly when I said I wasn't sad he was dead but they didn't see him during his illness.

    • @iwannabeanarwhal
      @iwannabeanarwhal Před 6 lety +67

      K D100 I once met a guy who worked at a morgue and he was talking about how he was trying to get another job because constantly seeing children and people his age(under thirty) dead every day was really messing with him. I think the really troubling part is thinking about how much life was taken away from a person.
      He also told us to *never* ride a motorcycle.

  • @VybesAtoshi
    @VybesAtoshi Před 2 lety +1

    It's so important that he continues to say what needs to be said, even though so many people don't want to hear it, if you possess any wisdom you can't deny that what he says is true.
    It's honestly very honorable and noble what Jordan Peterson does, not exactly the same ofc but he reminds me of Socrates.

  • @mohautshukudu8257
    @mohautshukudu8257 Před 4 lety +2

    Man this came at the perfect time! Been watching his lectures for 3 years now

  • @Alienrun
    @Alienrun Před 4 lety +4

    First 2 minutes hit HARD! I'm a Chatholic but nihilsitic stuff tends to pop up in my mind every now and then (probably cause I haven't got my life sorted out at all and I'm not doing much with it) I keep wanting to do creative stuff but immidiately shut it down due to being a perfectionist and feeling its "not worth it" or "I should be doing something else" but cause of my other problems don't do any of this stuff consistently...
    "They critisize themselves out of existence" indeed...
    Not sure what to do about this delima, but I'll hopefully figure it out...eventually...

  • @TheGhostie
    @TheGhostie Před 4 lety +1

    I’m 20 years old, my mother died 2 years ago next month, 2 weeks before I started my first semester of college, which I completed before deciding to take a year off.
    I pushed through it, moved out of the house of my stepfather of 15 years who found a new girlfriend within months, have found a reliable, flexible schedule job and am trying to go back to college during corona.
    The moment my mom died, I decided that it would be ME who comforted other people. So when I made all the calls to what little family we had in california, I made sure to be as supportive as possible, and to not show tears, but to be strong and show a glass half full mentality to those who I knew would be devastated.
    This video just completely shifted my own views of myself.
    I was just dealing with what was in front of me. I was just trying to do everything I could think of that would make the death of a mother, sister, daughter, and friend as easy as it possibly could be.
    “You have to be brutal to be useful in the aftermath of your parents death... so you kinda have to be some tough monster to manage that.”
    These words have just instilled something incredibly deep and powerful inside me. Very very ground shaking to hear that come from one of my role models, and my biggest life mentor.
    ...I sure do hope Jordan’s recovery is continuing to grow stronger.

  • @cmentz5000
    @cmentz5000 Před 6 lety +2

    Such an apt title for a succinct nugget of insight from professor P! Never have I listened to him and not enjoy what he lectures about.

  • @PsycheMatters
    @PsycheMatters  Před 6 lety +105

    As this is related to the video, I would like to let you know that Dr. Peterson and his colleagues developed the online program “Self Authoring” bit.ly/SelfAuthoring that helps you to analyze your past, to get your present life in order and to identify a more rewarding path for your future. It’s not free, but it has been proven to work in studies performed with university students. (Sorry, I make this sound like some toothpaste ad).
    Jordan Peterson Fan Channel is an official affiliate of the program, so if you follow the link through, you will not only support Jordan Peterson and his endeavors but also this channel in a small way - and most importantly yourself.
    Thank you and all the best!

    • @seewaldsja
      @seewaldsja Před 6 lety +11

      thank you for posting so many videos of this guy yesterday I decided to quit my addiction to my phone and all kinds of other things because he said The more you sacrifice the more potential that you have. and he also mentioned that people are addicted because they don't have something that is better than the addiction to replace it with. I've decided that my potential is what I will replace my addictions with then proceed to make the most out of my life.Thanks.

    • @jeej6965
      @jeej6965 Před 6 lety +7

      Steven Seewald Hey! 1 month ago i deleted all social media from my phone, it was tough but life is so much more relaxing now. Good luck!

    • @seewaldsja
      @seewaldsja Před 6 lety

      J E will do!

    • @playfreebird4735
      @playfreebird4735 Před 6 lety

      Oh yeah, And your link is a virus

    • @rea-lb6bu
      @rea-lb6bu Před 6 lety +1

      you lying lil shit

  • @OriginalZybeZ
    @OriginalZybeZ Před 3 lety +1

    Most concise lecture about the self I have ever seen.

  • @suandorego370
    @suandorego370 Před 4 lety +1

    I also have those dreams. THOSE dreams.
    I needed someone other than myself who could interpret them to help understanding them better.

  • @somiddhachowdhury1778
    @somiddhachowdhury1778 Před 3 lety +1

    Wishing him a speedy recovery..I hope he gets back in the game real soon.

  • @ToxicBastard
    @ToxicBastard Před 4 lety +2

    The thing with the mind is that it's like a machine, it needs to have a chance to cool down, be cleaned, fixed and recalibrated but it has to return to operating as full capacity, we too in the face of hardship need a time to break down, to cry and wallow in misery, lamenting the hands we are dealt, so we may flush our system, pull ourselves together and resolve to be strong in the face of this shitty hand, a clear and clean mind that has vented its frustrations is like a cooled off machine, ready to fight once again, not with metal and gears but with perspective, self esteem and work ethic.
    Feel your emotions and let them free so they don't drown you, then refresh and renew your determination, be useful.

  • @paublusamericanus292
    @paublusamericanus292 Před 6 lety +79

    I remember as a child watching my parents butcher chickens. You know the whole process. Well, now 70 years later, I watch these episodes and depending on what my psyche is contemplating, I see that being exposed as a child on a farm is important, and must be followed with dialogue between mother and child to be a healthy adult, and forms us into the creature we become, of saint and sinner in one. the god man creature.

    • @ditty88
      @ditty88 Před 6 lety +8

      You are right! I think we'd have a better relationship with life and death.

    • @randomthoughts1001
      @randomthoughts1001 Před 6 lety

      How many bodies in the basement 😣

    • @vociferonheraldofthewinter2284
      @vociferonheraldofthewinter2284 Před 6 lety +6

      I grew up on a farm and hunting. It does change your life perspective. At no point did anyone want to *hurt* an animal. We wanted to kill it and eat it. I wouldn't go so far as to say that we had reverence, but there was definitely compassion and appreciation for the process. Death was an unpleasant necessity of life.
      Young people now days are so sheltered that they can't cope with reality. That's not a healthy place to be mentally.

    • @Stephanieheyens
      @Stephanieheyens Před 6 lety +5

      I truly believe that the roots of many problems lie in the fact our society pulls people off of farms and into cities where urban living separates people from the cycle of life and death and insulates them from where our food comes from. I, too, grew up on a farm and commonly saw my dad slaughter rabbits for sale to a local butcher (and our dinner table). He also hunted and fished so I grew up knowing the sacredness of life - and of living.

    • @snowwhite7677
      @snowwhite7677 Před 6 lety

      Yup. I used to work with a bunch of guys that provided end of life services for lots of people...
      Mostly people in the Middle East...

  • @shaimaadoma
    @shaimaadoma Před 4 lety +2

    This resonates so much! Thanks for sharing it with us!

  • @jennifers.8255
    @jennifers.8255 Před 2 lety +3

    This video really resonated with me. My father died unexpectedly in February 2009. He was a tax accountant, and he had clients coming... that day... in less than an hour. I went to see him at the hospital and immediately went to his office and began making phone calls. It was almost like I had to compartmentalize my grief because there were things that needed to be taken care of immediately. I wanted to fall in a heap but couldn't. Although feeling "useful" isn't how I would describe that event, I felt numb and being driven by something that wasn't me. I don't know if that makes sense?

  • @remyali3693
    @remyali3693 Před 4 lety +3

    Every second of this hit me so deep that it’s unreal

  • @albcev1511
    @albcev1511 Před 6 lety +1

    I was just criticizing myself for something that did not warrant it. I love his talks, I feel like I'm getting to know myself better

  • @quintincastro7430
    @quintincastro7430 Před 6 lety +4

    The thing I like about him is how he talks about so much at one time like this could easily be renamed to Jordan p talks about death

  • @ggoat5883
    @ggoat5883 Před 6 lety +2

    Your channel is godsend. Thanks a ton

  • @milkmanswife93696
    @milkmanswife93696 Před 6 lety +37

    oh man, his last statement can so easily be misconstrued. the amount of suffering I endured for not allowing myself to be pathetic after my father died. to anyone who reads this, be prepared to let yourself grieve and be overwhelmed when the death of a loved one happens. it'll be very unhealthy for you if you don't.

    • @oDTRT
      @oDTRT Před 6 lety +6

      noted

    • @towhee7472
      @towhee7472 Před 6 lety +16

      Did he actually say you should not be mourning? Or did he maybe say: "You don't get to crumble and fall apart (..)". Overinterpretation on your side I guess. You can cry and feel pain and suffer, but also stay functional and overcome the tragedy, or, well, crumble and fall apart.

    • @milkmanswife93696
      @milkmanswife93696 Před 6 lety +18

      no, he didn't say you should not be mourning, but his words do carry a message of "weather the storm", and I think that that is easily mistaken for something unhealthy. that's why I called his statement easy to misconstrue.

    • @pofruin
      @pofruin Před 6 lety +3

      milkman's wife same here. I was actually lelous of the people who Can break down.

    • @TheTurinturumbar
      @TheTurinturumbar Před 6 lety +1

      Tow Hee Um, yeah. We all grieve in our own way and it's really not helpful to speak ill of one or another way. If you need to fall apart to get past it sooner or heal right then do that. Now, you can't really know what you need to do and other people can tell you even less about it but, falling apart I don't see as worse than taking a knee after a devastating blow and then getting back up. And that is the only thing that matters, getting back up. Not sooner than is right for you, just that you get back up at all. If you need to descend into insanity, substance abuse, homelessness and petty crime to stay alive for five years and then pick up the pieces and heal properly or by some miracle or curse keep slugging away but never really healing, never opening up again, becoming this, sad, severely damaged, bitter, lonely person for the rest of your life. I'd say go with the first option and let no one judge you for it. Not that either way is ideal.

  • @RocaSeba
    @RocaSeba Před 3 lety

    I just needed to hear this. Thanks so much.

  • @nupreznz
    @nupreznz Před 6 lety +1

    Damn. Jordan Peterson just spoke to me and gave me everything I needed to know within a minute of clicking the video.

  • @tackyman2011
    @tackyman2011 Před 6 lety +2

    Whenever I hear this guy, the term "ferocious intellect" comes to my mind.

    • @KD-vb9hh
      @KD-vb9hh Před 6 lety

      He's really got you right where he wants you. He tries very hard to sound impressive, but if you pay close attention you will find that he is often inaccurate, his logic is faulty and he is really quite a blow-hard.

  • @GrandChiefSmackaho
    @GrandChiefSmackaho Před 6 lety +1

    I'm glad to hear that part at the end about thinking about death. Usually when ever my mind drifts toward the subject of what I might do if a family member died, I always stop myself from thinking about it because I've gotten it in my head that it's an unhealthy line of thinking to have.

  • @pinkyi151
    @pinkyi151 Před 2 měsíci

    I just saw Dr Peterson last night! He was as funny and bright as ever! I felt so lucky to go watch him in person and I enjoyed his interactive conversation with the audience... I look forward to seeing him again !!! It was also my birthday ...What an amazing experience that was !!!

  • @legal_drug_user
    @legal_drug_user Před 4 lety +1

    it's very nice to hear that I'm high in openness since I've taken "discover your personality" test and the results showed that I'm very low in openness

  • @sbk09
    @sbk09 Před 6 lety +2

    Thank you for posting the source video, friend. ♣

  • @alexgerling3686
    @alexgerling3686 Před 4 lety +1

    There was a lot I wanted to say but drunk at 01:00 in the morning isn't the best time to collect my thoughts but JP is so insightful although I may challenge some of his opinions with debate out of curiosity.

  • @waggawaggaful
    @waggawaggaful Před 6 lety +14

    Is it tragic that I'm the only one who would show up at my parents' funeral since they've alienated all other family members and are so anti-social that they have no friends or loved ones? At least I don't have to worry about being useful at their funeral. I only have my own private existential pain to face.

    • @bybyrei1079
      @bybyrei1079 Před 6 lety +3

      Michelle I don't think it's tragic. They did have you and each other after all. And even if they didn't, things are only tragic to oneself when oneself states so. If they weren't sad about being alone, who are we to judge them.

    • @sleep3417
      @sleep3417 Před 4 lety

      Not like they could take that sentiment with them, really.

  • @fjosip1
    @fjosip1 Před 6 lety +4

    love this so much. spot on for me lol.

  • @awaismarwat2011
    @awaismarwat2011 Před 2 lety

    so loved it

  • @KhanivoreQniba
    @KhanivoreQniba Před 3 lety

    Straight, honest and resonating. Brilliant.

  • @thevintagepoet
    @thevintagepoet Před 4 lety

    You are amazing Jordan

  • @RCh.1
    @RCh.1 Před 4 lety

    Thank you 🙏🏻

  • @lazarusblackwell6988
    @lazarusblackwell6988 Před 11 měsíci +2

    When someone doesnt allow me to be creative i snap.
    I snapped like that at my mother who is so afraid of change of any kind.

  • @conordreelan211
    @conordreelan211 Před 4 lety +3

    "Undertakeing, it's a dying trade"

  • @KINGKROSBYSKINGDOM
    @KINGKROSBYSKINGDOM Před 6 lety +2

    This man is brilliant

  • @jessegandy4510
    @jessegandy4510 Před 6 lety +1

    Death is comforting cause we're all in this waiting game together. That makes me feel good for some reason.

  • @Contempoist
    @Contempoist Před 4 lety

    Why is this the video that triggers me so much to a point im in tears Everytime i watch it?? Especially the first minute?

  • @WarpathHatred
    @WarpathHatred Před 6 lety

    I really do love listening to Dr. Peterson. he does go off the rails but that's the best thing about his lectures. he plays with your imagination while trying to make you think. I can see how exhausting it is for him, and then doing a QnA. counting sheep helps you sleep because you're using both sides of your brain.

  • @helcurt2509
    @helcurt2509 Před 3 lety

    I watch this video now and then. My best prep talk

  • @ryanwilliamtempleton8387

    Wow. He really hit me perfectly. I reckon I'm really open and probably need to just get out and do something. Love em

  • @pamelaevans-schink8707

    Brilliant!!

  • @copytechful
    @copytechful Před 3 lety

    I try to implement as much as what Jordan Peterson teaches one step at a time. Key word try. Starts with cleaning my room which I never really did before hearing the importance from the big J.P. man.

  • @hairlessmonkeymedia7286

    This Human has helped me Greatly. Truly.

  • @Diseaseisreversible
    @Diseaseisreversible Před 4 lety

    Thank you Jordan Peterson

  • @michaeltoppo9794
    @michaeltoppo9794 Před 4 lety

    I just love you doc

  • @destinyofen-imu8502
    @destinyofen-imu8502 Před 3 lety +1

    Finally! A shout out.

  • @DickTrickleqt
    @DickTrickleqt Před 6 lety +81

    he's talking about me and the ones with smug anime girl profile pictures by the way

    • @Relbl
      @Relbl Před 6 lety +5

      Nah, he's talking about me - the Pepe loving shitposters of the world lol

    • @DickTrickleqt
      @DickTrickleqt Před 6 lety +13

      negative he's talking to the true alpha males of youtube such as DT (Dick Trickle) and all the smug anime girls
      we face the most adversity online

    • @nick8422
      @nick8422 Před 6 lety +4

      i love this comment

    • @itsukarine
      @itsukarine Před 6 lety +7

      represent

    • @DickTrickleqt
      @DickTrickleqt Před 6 lety +2

      +elegy yeah i still am randomly but i show up a lot now. most of the time in comment chains i still get hidden

  • @user-ns5hd2jo4s
    @user-ns5hd2jo4s Před 4 lety +2

    This made me cry

    • @user-ns5hd2jo4s
      @user-ns5hd2jo4s Před 4 lety

      The part about nihilism

    • @shaimaadoma
      @shaimaadoma Před 4 lety +1

      Me too! This is the kind of content I love listening to and actually need to hear. But I was grateful I wasn't sitting in the room ...
      I can't help feeling so different from people who don't get emotional over such topics.

  • @elvillivle
    @elvillivle Před 3 lety +1

    I've heard a lot of negative things about gim before I even listened to him. And so I dismissed him as the guy he's being portrayed as. Around 1 year later, when I'm less immature, I listened to him again, realized he's a guy worth listening to and now I've listened to a lot of his lectures.