Mindset Of Parents Regarding Property | How It Varies Depending On Children Gender| Family Series 06
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Sir, You are the only person on the earth who has the guts to show mirror to people with double standard,people intentionally or unintentionally are doing the same mistakes.
Old parents are the reason of family issues...they create differences between siblings
All girls who r capable should fight for their rights . Remember U r not against ur brothers but u are paving ways of equal right for ur brothers' daughters.
@THE ZOLDICS parents spent all most same expenditure to both gender..so..if they spent on dowary..they equally paid as gifts..to there daughter in law..in fact they will pay more to daughter in law by giving support in many ways...so no complaint...thanks
@THE ZOLDICS all should b fairly calculated ..... for both. very small calculation ... isn't it ? Dowry exits because girls do not get their share of heritage.
No Stamina to fight against them, No more expectations from them, No more hope, 😭 😔.
how can you compare property value with measly dowry sum...dumb lady
This is mostly impossible for most women as men in India are not so understanding it will make the relationship between her and her father/brother really bad when they face each other in court and in Indian mentality image and responsibility is only considered to be on women's shoulders.This is why women don't go to court.
I am lucky that my parents divided property equally among son and daughter. And even after marriage I live with my husband and kid in my ancestral home. My brother has no issues with it and my in-laws are very supportive to taking care of my parents responsibility during their last days.
Ashiana,Bhiwadi per ek video Bano Sir....wahan lena chahiye...budape ke liye
Parents ka agar ek ghar hai ...wahan ve apne ladke ke sath rehtai hain....usko bech kar behan ko dena mindset mein nahi hai.... parents ke baad bhi
@@sunitasuraj7569 acha yeh bhi hota hai ?
@@tejigill8062 ,I don't get your question
It's good that parents divided property equally among son and daughter.
Real question is that the daughter who received property from her parents ensured that her in laws property also got divided amou her husband's siblings 😂
Sir, I am 35 year old lady, last month my mother asked me to sign NOC on ancestor property.. It was so sudden I didn't have time to think. I signed and felt hurt. Though my brother was against it. But still .. Papers were signed.. it was so shocking, I never wanted anything from the property but the mere satisfaction of calling that my own home.. Now it feels like I don't have a father's home anymore..
I always wondered why senior citizens are not happy in this society, this video has given insight to what's happening in almost all the families. You have really hit the nail in the coffin 🙏
Very true. When parents discriminate on the basis of financial conditions of their children and give more to the weaker one it creates misunderstandings and harsh feelings towards parents. It should be divided equally.
As a jaat girl, I'm also facing this.In each conversation since childhood we r conditioned that girls who demand property share are bad girls.But after marriage we don't get anything in sasural readily or have to wait till your partner passes away( which is very unfortunate in itself).
Ab bad daughter bhi nahi ban sakte but rights ke liye nahi khade ho pane n rishton ko khone ka dard pareshan karta hai.
Kash Hume school bhejte hue parents ye na bolte ki tumme aur tumhare Bhai me hum koi farak nahi karte, tum dono barabar ho, kyunki hum kabhi barabar the hi nahi, na kabhi honge
Husband mostly in our culture take descision regarding purchase or sale of property on his own or with his parental family, wives are not included in such practice, even if she is contributing financially, isiliye lagta hai- har jagah dhokha hai apna ghar Kahan hai
At 37 years of age I bought my own apartment with hard money and lots of struggle. When I moved here with my daughter, first time in my life I realized what is the meaning of home..
Absolutely true...favortism of parents create bitterness among kids ...parents are the reason who create rift among kids
Seriously u are the social reformer..
Gender bias is deep rooted in North Indian society which needs to be questioned..
Great work..
These true hard facts r hidden under the carpet by our society. This is never discussed in our society .
Correct, that's exactly what most parents do; comparison, divide and rule, play dirty games, manipulation and abuse. My parents have treated me so selfishly and taken advantage of my kindness that I am shocked they have no self-respect. After going above and beyond, and providing for them financially, they still compare and had the nerve to say that they made a mistake by giving birth to a daughter.
As a result, I have developed hatred and resentment for my parents. They now talk about give me a share of their little property but honestly I don't want it because I don't want to feel obligated to do anything for them in the future.
Most Indian parents don't realize that they are their own enemies and the damage they cause to their children will have consequences.
Bold decision to make a video on this bitter truth. Most of the elders above 60 will not accept but actually they are doing it. Thank you Sir. Keep guiding us all
बहुत सही कह रहे हैं आप, मां बाप के गलत निर्णय बच्चों में बहुत क्लेश देते हैं
Sir let me tell you case of my family
My grandparents (both alive) has 5 children(2son ,3daughters)
My father started job at 18 but my uncle died at age of 30. He died unemployed. My grandparents spend all his wealth on marriages their daughters include selling of plot which purchase in their fertile time besides give more preference to my late uncle thinking my dad to be worthless but the contrary my fathers also handover all his savings from time to time(ie FD maturity and so on).
My father is now left with no wealth neither purchse any land to fulfill my grandparents lavish endeavours.
However my grandparent has their own house but we don’t. For now we are staying with them.
Now the dynamics is like
My father feed my grandparents
And in exchange grandparents let us allow to live in their house.
The sad part is that my father were able to create much wealth but due to his soft corner he let them all his money to grandparents and they foolishly spend and now say “we don’t aware of any money my father gave to them”
Sir This my longest comment ever .
One thing I must say your every suggestion and point raise is too the point.
I really feel blessed to get such learning in my early 30s.
आप सही कह रहे हैं ज्यादा तर माता पिता स्वंय ही बच्चों में भेदभाव करते हैं और झगड़ा पैदा करके ही जाते हैं।
Sach main
Definitely parents should not do family power dynamics.. . Elderly parents very rigid , stubborn. .
Equality should be the basis.. .
Jeevan ki Sacchai hai Apki baaton mein sir...
Wisdom ain't Correlated with Age, Sometimes elders too create blunders, which could have been easily avoided by clear thinking and sense of Justice & Equality among kids...
But still Koi na...
Upar wala sako de & Sabka bhala ho...
🙏🙏🙏
Very true Ishwar sab dekh raha hai
U r eye opener of our society...mazza agaya video sun ke...keep it up sir...accolades 🎉🎉🎉
Awesome 👌 you are really courageous and a true reformer.
Well said sir ji, regarding daughters share and old people stubborn mind set,pranam 🙏
I was planning to show this video to all the oldies of my house......fir socha gallian to fir mujhe e pdni hai.....kahenge aya bda hmko sikhayenge ab ye
Everyone talks about rights, no-one talks about responsibility
You are so true and honest. My in laws have sowed the seeds of bitterness between my husband and his brother only to favour and elevate my jeth's economic conditions. It's is bitter truth of society that younger generation is more mature , understanding and empathetic than the older one. Sometimes I realize that our older ones are more kalashi/ kalesh premi and they poison the relationship equation of younger siblings.
Right
So true!!
Yessss, veryyy true
Hats off to your guts sir! These videos are actually need of the hour. People feel if the daughter is claiming for her right, she is greedy, she don't care for her brother, she will not be welcomed in her "maayka" i. e.father's/ brother's house. These kind of mind set needs to be changed. And boy's mindset can be changed only if parents believe that all their kids are equal in every aspect.
Thank you for your contribution!
Yes sir u are right mare papa to betao ko hi respect karte h beti ko kuch nh diya bus achi shaadi kar di ab bete rakh nh rahe mare pass aa nh sakte kyounki beto ko sab kuch divide kr diy a soch soch kar mari health bhi theek nh rahti
So much clarity on such a complex issues… salute 🙏
Very good topic sir ,nobody wants to discuss on this aur ye ekdum sahi hai ki parents hamesha apne do beto ke beech barabari karne ki koshish karte rahte hai ye keh kr ki tumahare pass tih sari facilities hai uss bichare ke pass nhi hai hume ysse support karna chahiye aur agar hum ye baat kh de ki aap hamesha uska side lete ho toh hum hi bure ban hatehai.
Aaj ke parents ye family politics toh acche se khel rahe hain apne kgud ke fhar mein but wo ye kabhi nhi sochte ki humare samay mein hamara kya hoga inke pass toh do teen bachhe hai politics karne ke liye but humare time mein toh ek hi bachha hoga aur agar woh bhi parents ko chod kr chala jayega toh ,aur waise bhi aaj kl ki jo generation aa rhi hai sabko pehle se hi mentally prepared ho jana chahiye aane wale samay ke liye ki hume khus hi apna khayal rakhna hai,aur agar sab iss tarah sochne lge toh aadhi problm aise hi sopve ho jayegi ,zyada expectations krne se khud ko hi problm hoti hai,aur property matter ko le kr politics krna bahut hi galat hai.
True understanding of relationships, sir! Hats off to you !
Sir last concept I totally agree with you even in my family same thing happened to us . property distribution was improper by parents n younger brother of my husband inherited most part of property so there's all time bitterness in relationship of them.
Sir you have hit our society where it hurts the most
Aapki baaton ki shat shat pranam 🙏.Just awesome
Sahi kaha baccho me zehar parents hi bharte hai.... Unme bedhbhav karke.... Tabhi ladle beta - beti unko rulate hai...
Very valid video.Very brave of you to have touched this angle.Already working in this direction.
Correct girl child have to adjust n compromise everywhere... Good video 👍
Grate job sir , this is real problem of society, this is the reason girls suffer in-laws place but boys never suffer. Parents need to treat equally for both girls and boys.
You have good sense to understand deeper things and make translation in layman's language.. we all should appreciate his efforts
It's the preconditioning of our family system that actually ruins the bond . One has to take the initiative to learn and find out the changes that are much needed. But it's only few who understand them. And when one says it, they are pointed out very badly by all the members of the family.
Kudos for selection of the topic. Fully in agreement
Sir what u r doing is unique and life-changing... please continue to do this... 🙏
Sir, agreed that the girl should get equal share of property and law is also there. But nobody talks out sharing of parental responsibilities for example in a family there are three brothers one is married ,two unmarried studying in the college and two married sisters.
Situation developed parents fell sick and died after hospitalition. The expdr on treatment and all ceremonies linked with parents generally is borne by the son. In this case the eldest married one. After that brothers studies and their
marriage responsibility also fall upon him. Society does not expect sharing of this by sisters. And later also all familial social responsibilities also borne by the son only.
If the girls deserve equal share in parental property then she should also share these responsibilities. But nobody talks about it
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Itne bache. Aaj kal 2 hi hote hain
You being a son can claim your parents bank balance and their regular income that is enough for their care.. here the point is avout fixed assets that are supposed to be divided equally.
Right and duty should go hand in hand.
What a lame and idiotic reply@@SangoLifeSutras for a genuine question and thought.
AEK dam sahi ho❤
Thanks sir, for providing such valuable information.
Sir I listen to as My Father. THANKS A TONNE FOR YOUR EFFORTS! 😇❤🙏
Nobody except You is making such sensitive and enlightening videos on youtube. Keep on the good work. Regards Shekhar
Very needed discussion for parents.
My father has been no more since..2022 ... property is in My name only because I have to pay a loan emi of 60 since 2019...same type 2 Bhai ek behen....saari log ek khatta hokar...mujse gift deed maang rahi hain...is mein bhi favourite chal rahi hai..1aur property bhi hain woh papa ke naam par hain....maa abhi deed maang raha hi hai...Sab property ki..
Main far northeast se hun phirbhi aapka salah mujhpebhi aplicable hota hain sir...big salute...👏👌👍
You are the only person who is making videos on such important topics otherwise CZcams has billions of videos related to cooking, visiting places etc where millions of people subscribe without much value addition to their life
Very hard hitting content sir...awesome
💯 like & agree..... last line the best line..
..4 suits and and then say "I love you " 😀 shared it with many
Sir, dil se bolta hu - God Bless You 🙏
Very wonderful video.
Brilliant!! absolutely brilliant :)
Sir, you are bang on. Very eye opening topic. Keep making more videos on different topics.
I am a daughter having only one brother and no sister but my father did not give me a single penny in his will although I was only 26 years old when he died and mother had already passed away
Hats off to your reality check !!!
2 Bhai vala fuckin' true
Mere grandparents ne y kalesh sown Kari and end abhi tk nhi h iska...!
Tussi great ho bai. Fantastic topics you bring across. Lovely keep it going. Thanks
Great Great keep it up thank you God Bless u
I completely agree....just amazed to listen you
14.37 point se jo point aapne bola hai.That mentality of parents has been an age old problem with parents through many generations which is the seed of dispute on all families.I have seen this from my grandparents s generation and continue to see this even now around me in many families.
Very true , I salute you . Kuch father to aise hain agar Betiya apni kidney bhi donate kar de Apne father ke liye phir bhi wo apni property beta ko hi denge or beti ko struggle karne ke liye chor denge or kahenge ki tumari kismat hai kya kare .
Seema beta tum sahi keh rehi hoo aaisa he hota hai
Allah ka shukur hai meri 3 betiyan hain, beta nahi hai.
AAP ke sasural me kuchh n Mila aapko vaha aapne aapki nanand ko kuchh Diya?
Sir ,you have really nailed it....
Good and very useful tips in this video.
Great video really needed indeed
Very valid point is touched………. Actually people avoid talking about this important issue.
Thank you for this information. I have the same problem and trying to clear this property matters. My ideas have been clarified somewhat
Actually son maintains parents daughters don't maintain old parents this is the reason parents give property to son then daughter ..This is the law sirji if daughter wants half share in fathers property she has to maintain or share parents expenditure 🙏...then she can claim from father 🙏 ..marriage expenses are same for boy or girl for parents ... 🙏
The daughter will share the responsibility if she is confident that she will be given equal rights
@@ashoktandon4039right. Good reply
You are correct.. I like and agreed- I think more than 80% families are doing same -
As funny as it sounds, my in laws are more concerned about their daughter coz she stays in france and is super successful as compared to their only son as per their logic. And my husband is quiet and is not concerned about our child's future.
Success make proper
You have touched a very relevent and complex issue. Your viewpoint is absolutely valid. Kudos
Sir you're great. Thanks!
Hello Sangwan Sahab- Great video ..your video just popped on my CZcams ...and quite frankly last part seems to be affecting my family..I went to school with Ashima and you can do 2+2 ..I have met your parents few times.
Yes your attempt is nice
In-laws with their daughters ruin the life of their son and his family
You have practical ideas
Eye opener video.. Need of the hour
Great video
You are very right, very wise & logical. This way everyone will be happy. Sort out everything before you get too old to manage things. One should be wise & fair to distribute your assets.
Om Sai ram ji 🙏🙏 excellent vedio ji 👏 👏 great words 🙏🙏 society should be changed their veiw🙏🙏👏👏👍💐
This video i watched after a year of its birth... Thanks, I have started liking ur videos n like every video before starting to watch it. 😅😊😊
Thanks for all ur efforts ❤
Totally agree with you. Hard fact
This is so good
Bahut khub
I have forwarded this video to many people.
Videos on relationships and wealth creation and distribution and wise use of wealth are of great value and importance as most Miss to know how to handle these and hence make big mistakes and then regret
I agree with you💯From the very first video of urs ..i m stunned..we need more people like you🎉🎉🎉
Divide equally in 3 parts one for yourself
Great video sir.
Today parents can cheat their child also leave parents property if a parents snech child property what a child can do
Yes I fully agree I have faced all this in my life
Great Learning
Aap ko very thx h sir apne y msg logo ko dia ki girls k baare soche🙏🏻
Very interesting
100% True and scientific issue
Sir. You are right. Thanks lot.
Bless you sir
Sir ye sahi kaha kalesh ho jata hai same here in our family ❤️🙏
Absolutely correct interpretation Sir. Parents do falter in such issues.
Aapke sabhi points bilkul sahi hain sir.Reallly 360 degree view and not only that a 100 year life cycle view of each member of family.I would like to add to this..
1. The total property should go to all the children equally included the huge wedding expenses which are spent from the parents hard earned money.In consequence to this, all children should take equal responsibillty of parents at their end age.It may be mutually decided between siblings owing to their physical proximity.Some may contribute financially or physically.
Thanku so much Sir🙏 God bless you, 🙏👌👍👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌