Are We Married? | Ep.72 | What's The Juice? Podcast
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- čas přidán 25. 08. 2024
- the highly requested topic is finally here, marriage! “when will you guys get married?” “do you want to get married someday?” these are questions we get pretty often in the comments / DMs. this is an episode that we’ve been meaning to record for a while now, so here we are! we get into what we think about marriage, we went through all the stages and steps from falling in love with someone, dating, proposing, being engaged, and finally being married. we gave our personal opinions on each stage and honestly just had a great conversation about this topic.
we understand that not everyone is going to agree with everything we’ve said in this episode and that there’s many cultural differences all over the world so please don’t take anything we say as disrespect or anything like that. We just wanted to have an honest conversation and share our thoughts
hope you enjoy this episode! :-)
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When Yoni said that he looked at you and said ‘this is my family,’ I teared up. Beautiful.
What a plot twist you guys!! Congratulations!! I didn't have that many examples of healthy relationships growing up, so to see how you treat each other and how understanding, respectful, and loving you are to each other just warms my heart💛
I've always thought you two had soulmate vibes, even if i dont know you both personally, totally makes sense now knowing that you're married :')
I’ve been in a relationship for 7 years now and I totally agree that you don’t have to necessarily get married to call your partner “your family”. I think that for me, everything relies on the fact that I woke up every morning, I see the person next to me and I feel secure, happy and in peace✨
I’m actually shocked. But damn good for you guys!!!! And keeping it to yourselves!! Loved your story 🥰🫶🏻
Same here I wasn't expecting this🎉
I think this is amazing that the first episode I listen to is the episode I find out you guys are married😄
you guys this is one of my favorite episodes🤩.. I've struggled for sooooo long to verbalize this topic to my friends (the idea of being a family with my partner without the traditional big wedding) to the point of hiding it from fear of judgement. We also had a very intimate ceremony with only my partner's mom and some champagne after! "It's a feeling first" Yoni put it perfectly, thank y'all for constantly going against the grain :))
I had many people (older than me and my husband) tell us that everything is going to change and to get prepared... yet when we got married and now almost 2 years out, the one thing that stands out the most was having to refer to each other as husband/wife. Aside from that, our relationship has actually strengthened because we now consider ourselves as our own nuclear family.
Congratulations!! This is my favorite episode you guys! I share the same sentiment of how weddings are and should be!
omg im so happy for u guys. I got so sensitive after the moment you told about your marriage. my reaction was like MY BABIES ARE MARRIED WHAT???!!! idk how to explain it but I love you even more now as a family. you are not just a cool couple. you are the family that experiencing their happiest moments of love. thank you for sharing this with us. all the love guys xx
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helllooooooo from Brazil!!!!!!! very happy to hear you guys talking about our country!!! I wasn't expecting it, and now I'm even happier. I paused right at the beginning of the episode to write this message!
come here! summer is amazing
OMG you're married?! i love that so much for u guys
November 18th, great topic! Love your perspectives on marriage and happy that you guys are married!
Guys! Congrats!!! My partner and I been dating for 7 years and we do not want a wedding! We think it’s a waste of money and we’re both introverts so thinking about a wedding makes us anxious 😂 we prefer to just get married at a court house!! I personally don’t like being surprised so I don’t want a proposal! I’m happy to hear that not everyone wants a “traditional wedding” path
Congratulations! I’m happy for you two. Marriage can be a sacred ritual if carried out with good intentions and I can see the love between you guys, it’s beautiful.❤
Awesome! Congratulations! I am on the exact same wavelength as Alia when it comes to weddings/marriage. It can be hard when everyone in your extended family is a lot more traditional. Though, tbh, none of their marriages are happy/healthy.
best episode hands down, you guys are the first couple that agree with shit I agree with like whattttttt :0
love you guys !! love your wedding story!
Congratulations omg!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉 y’all got married on my birthday lol😂 I’ve been listening to the pod for over a year so it’s such a big shock but I’m so happy for y’all ahhh
“So now you agree that you wanna get married , so go get married right “, this part took me out! But I’ve been saying the exact same things you guys are sharing. People genuinely complicate relationships for no reason. You can’t be a different person before and after getting married. It just doesn’t make sense.
♥️I enjoyed this podcast ♥️
Nov 18th!!! This is so interesting because I felt like I was watching an episode about my life haha my partner and I are in the same boat, got married in 2020, not a lot of people know just super close friends and fam, no rings, it’s just a lot more intimate that way. So nice to hear your opinions on the topic. Loved this ep❤️
November 18th!! 🎉🎉🎉 so happy for you guys and your marriage! This was the best episode yet
Congratulations guys!! This makes so much more sense because you guys have always exhibited soulmates to me. I love how quiet you were about getting married, you guys made it so sacred and intimate, the way it should be honestly! Love you guys and I understand your sentiments regarding marriage and traditions. Great episode!
Regarding the idea of marriage I would like to add that it is also important how the wedding ceremony is perceived in Western societies compared to non-Western and/or religious societies. The secular view looks at a wedding as a social agreement while those who come from a more traditional background regard the wedding as a sacred union ceremony and therefore also very significant in their lives, and then there is also a change in the perception regarding the relationship and how one sees the partner afterwards... I hope I was able to clarify myself
And I'm interested in knowing why non-traditional people bother to get married? Because it is definitely a hassle in every way...Why not stay within the commitment you created for yourself independently? 😅
Cuties!! I loved hearing your opinions on marriage and the expectations set by the institution. Your story is such a wonderful example of how to do marriage on your own terms!!
Congratulations!! I was working while listening to this episode and I literally said out loud “what!” when you said you’ve been married 🫶🏼 I’m so happy for you guys. Also, my husband and I have the same perspective on marriage as you two. He proposed me after I took a trash out (he was waiting for me to open the door). It wasn’t what “people” think of proposal, but to me, I was so surprised and will never forget that moment 😂Then we got married after 8 months dating. We both had no desire to get married at first but I guess once you meet someone who you truly love, it just happens. We asked husband‘s co worker to be a officiant and had a tiny ceremony (only 7 people were invited), but it was the most beautiful day I’ve ever had. Love you guys 🤍🤍
November 18!
I knew this was coming hahha because of the "in this household/family" comments but congrats y'all! you both are literally such a good example of a healthy relationship that really look up to :))
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I feel so embraced when you guys talk about Brazil, the accent is in point
Brilliant episode. I loved your wedding story…couldn’t agree more with the way you did it. All the best 😊
Omg guys 🥺 I’m so happy for you. That’s the kind of relationship I want to achieve in my life, you’re so inspiring as a couple❤
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I love that you guys followed through by what you said about marriage. Most people just go the traditional way bc that’s society’s norm. Love your guy’s relationship with each other. I hope to have something like that someday!❤️
Omg 😮 i was shocked love it congratulations! Thats dope news 🎉❤
As someone who’s in there late 20’s, I agreee with everything y’all said! My husband and I got married at 22 years old, he wore a ring with me when we were engaged and I only wear a thin band(no Diamond) no wedding and we moved in together after only 3 months of dating. Also I appreciate how this podcast isn’t political like everyone else’s!
I’m so happy for you guys and love to see how healthy your relationship is 💗
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I watch your videos all the time since I discovered your channel 💗💗. Just discovered your podcast and I love it🎉❤!!
November 18th!!!! Love your guys' story and the way you think. Totally agree with what y'all said. All love
We just went to the town hall with our son and parents and got the certificate and that was that! Most perfect for us and I would always do it again.
Oh my GOD you two!!! Congratulations 💛💛 I was smiling so big listening to this. Also how crazy - we have the same wedding anniversary date!!! (different year) but wow!
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i love the handshake in the beginning
nov 18th!! i’m in literal tears!🥹
so happy for you guys!🫶🏻
Omg congrats guys- November 18! I def agree there are lots of expectations around marriage but at the end of the day you just have to focus on what is best for you. Even though sometimes it’s hard to tune out everyone else.
Agree with Alia, this is a ridiculous tradition that is teached to women to keep them just thinking in their wedding day. I'm married but never a ring, no proposal, we just decided to sign the paper after living together for a year. 😁
you two have such a beautiful relationship - congratulations
I watch your vlogs, first Pod cast ep I watched and I must say it was very well done and super entertaining!
Now that I know Yoni reads all the comments I’ll address them to him! It’s just easier cause Alia is my girl😝 from day 1 on YT❤
I just wanna say guys, THIS is SO DOPE. I love all your podcasts but this one is so relatable to my story and how I met the love of my life!
I know I’m watching this a couple days late but I really want to hear every second of it😅 I did see the second it went live and I clicked on it immediately,” like” I was your first view and like🥰
Ok, so my husband and I reconnect via Facebook! Years ago we met when we were teens and I had such a crush on him- saw him shirtless playing his guitar and I was smitten at 16😍
He would always message me online, and we would chat, we got along 💯 all the time! I always knew we would be the best partner cause our core values were right there! We laughed every time we talked and tackled the deep 💩
Alright so I’m in my early 20s working in NY, have a two year old son from a broken relationship and he’s out in California with his brother. I have a vacation off work(worked in the food industry) and I fly out to Cali for a week. 5 days in WE GET MARRIED! When they say u know, u know!
On day 3, after staying up late every night ,eating mangos and sleeping under the stars, he told me he loved me and from that moment I knew what love was and discovered a feeling I never felt before in my life! We said, that’s it! Let’s do this thing called LIFE! So there we were,in half a field of weed with donkeys all around us. Us and the good old ground beneath us, in a Biblical sense or as u say in a VERY intimate way! We have never looked back! Today we have 3 children together and it’s been a wild ride! Ppl ask us all the time about wedding and a ring, it drives us nuts we are married, this is us. No I don’t want a white dress, I don’t feel like I’m missing out! I got a committed man! We’re already past our 5 year mark and we haven’t celebrated our union yet, but we’re gonna one of these days…
My goal now is to get to your 3.5 wedding anniversary cause you guys are my tribe 💯
I love your tattoos too and the story behind them, trying to convince my man to get one but he doesn’t know what he wants stuck on him for life besides me🤣 and I LOVE that u guys call each other a family! That 💩 is real! Like legit everything u said is LOVE! Girls don’t need a fancy diamond ring, they need an adventure buddy that’s crazy for them! I agree, use that money go on an epic trip together! Make memories that will last a lifetime for you two, rather then go into debt on a wedding that lasts one day but adds YEARS of stress to the relationship, maybe that’s what changes after marriage the bill lol
I do disagree about one thing, I’m an advocate for PDA, haha, not in teenager/groping and grabbing kinda way, but I’m an Italian woman and I like to reach and be reached for in public, it’s a compliment 💥
Congratulations guys!!!
I knew that love was REAL ❤
This was the cutest episodes you guys! I love the fact that even both of you are creating content you haven’t used your marriage as an opportunity to create couple content. I have decided that I want a very small wedding with very few people and I was lowkey feeling guilty for thinking like that (I am from Greece and my boyfriend is from Spain) we need more people talking about that and normalising different perspectives on wedding ❤❤❤
P.s. we can feel your love through the screen. I am so happy you two exist in the internet
Nov 18th! I'm so happy for you guys hahahah such a great surprise. I loved the way you got married, it is such an intimate moment as a couple so I wouldn't imagine it other way💘
november 18th, super happy about this, always loved you guys and your relationship x
November 18🎉. I'm so so so happy for you guys. You guys made my day. Thank you for that. Love from India ❤
My thoughts on marriage, I like the idea of marriage because of love which I feel is the reason for having the ceremony and party afterwards. BUT I feel the government gets involved for the same reason that people got married in the old days, a shared benefit. Like I started truly thinking of marriage with my current bf was to have shared health insurance, and to grow our retirement and financials together.
YO i was behind with the podcast because i was finishing my semester at university and like WHAT!? you guys have been married for a while and the news has been out there for almost two weeks and i just find out?? Crazyyy but congrats u guys, i love you so much
🎉❤ congratulations to you both...😊 I've been watching Alia for a while now, first because you were in Seattle and I LOVE Seattle...but I really love and appreciate how solid, authentic and down to earth you both are...just wanted you to know...my first marriage was in 1971...I made my dress, we bought a plain gold band at a pawn shop in Pike Place Market, and got married in Volunteer Park (end of June)...we had close friends with us and neither had any family present...It's so much more important to prepare for the marriage than to plan a wedding....I wish only the very best for you both 💐🥰
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hahahahaha GUYS! I'm Brazilian and it is my first time watching your podcast and you're talking Brazil!!!! Please lets go there!!!
Agree with every word you said, cause nothing is matter except your feelings. Doesn't matter society and people who always asking/judging etc. This day is special just for you two and being selfish is absolutely fine. Amazing episode guys💛
November 18, 2021!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!! 🍾🎉 So happy for you both!!! Stay blessed!!! ❤
"if you want to get married, get married. If you already are, that's great! So are we" 😂😂🔥🔥🔥🥰🥰
November 18th🔥
YOU'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR OVER A YEAR?????? OMG i am still watching
Nov 18th! I'm shocked but in the best way possible. Wish you guys all the love and succes you desire AND more! Groetjes uit België
November 18th which speaks volumes about your podcast cos usually l can't concentrate for more than 15 minutes. Really enjoyed this guys
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Omg congratulations! Love this for you guys! November 18!
i LOVE that you guys did it YOUR way, because that's how it's supposed to be and I think a lot of times weddings and engagements get lost in the sauce and the couple have to focus too much on other peoples opinions and expectations! haha but I know one fun reason people stay engaged for a while ... FREE STUFF hahaha, celebrate your love and get free shit? why not hahah
i'm in South Africa, and its autum here, its really feeling like winter. 🌟🌟
Congratulations beautifuls, so happy for you guys and love that you did it YOUR way❤️
I think traditionally it’s been up to the man to purpose because typically women know they want to marry their guy before he does. Of course this does not apply to all cases, but I’ve heard of and seen this many times. Congrats to you two! I actually wasn’t surprised as the love you two share is palpable and inspiring ❤
That’s definitely interesting! I’m kind of late to give an opinion but here I’m just discovering that u guys have a podcast and I’M LOVING IT ❤
So for the engagement part i would like to explain it ( as a Moroccan Muslim girl 🧕🏼🇲🇦) when the couple got engaged is when they start knowing each other more and more and they kind of get the acceptance from their parents to hang out more so automatically when you’re engaged its literally the period of time when u do start planning your weeding or from another perspective a lot of girls get engaged so they announce that they are taken meanwhile they continue their studies it’s a THING for us Muslim girlies so every little casual «Traditional » step of the process means a LOT to .but u know it’s a whole religious perspective which we love and respect 🫶🏼
I have been watching you for years Alia! Congratulations! Happy for you guys! I’m just smiling bc you guys are so amazing. Wishing you a happy and love marriage! Nov. 18th!
feeling included with the brazil talk! whenever you guys plan a trip to brazil pleeease lets get coffee
Congrats yalllll!!! 😭🥲🥲🥲🥲🤍
You guys are fantastic. Congratulations 🎉
I remember when my husband and I were starting to talk seriously about engagement and he started asking me about rings, he asked me how much I had in mind how much he should be spending on the ring. I am someone who has never been into a diamond ring, I personally think they aren't unique and don't have personality. I told him probably like $300-$400 tops and I remember after we did get engaged he told me he was so relieved because he was thinking he would spend around like $1000-2000 which is a lot in our book. I just can't even imagine having that much money on my finger at all times. He got me a beautiful alexandrite ring that has a purple stone in it and I couldn't love my ring more, it is so unique to me.
You guys I’m so happy for you. May you be that much in love and even more forever and ever. Wishing only the best and great podcast by the way❤️🌼💛🧡
Oh wow I was literally just watching one of Alia’s vlogs and was wondering if her and Yoni might actually be married! Congrats to you both!
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november 18th 🤍 so happy for you guys and love u so much! thank u for the brilliant pod!
What Yoni said was absolutely correct it depends on cultures and religions. In some marriage is purely a form of social contract but in other cultures for example hindu, marriage is regarded as a sacrament as For such a sacred union to form, true and honoured companionship between individuals is necessary.
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Congratulations guys!!!! Nov 18 ❤
I love you so muuuuuucchhh, you are the most beautiful couple on the whole internet!!
Nov 18th, so happy for you guys.
YES, COME TO BRAZIL AND RIO!!!!!!! 🎉 You're gonna love it
I smiled so hard wow. You guys are just one more proof that our person is somewhere and it makes me so joyful ! Thank you 😭❤🩹 November 18th !
Just came here to say WHAT!?? WAS NOT IN MY 2023 BINGO CARD. Congrats yall!
Back to audio🚶🏾♀️
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November 18th,, loved how giddy Alia got after it was announced, so cute. you guys just single-handedly blew away all my unnecessary doubts and concerns about marriage/wedding expectations. this should be the norm, thank you guys for always keeping it real 🤍🤍🤍
OMG! If you guys go to Brasil, please let your audience know and we'll give you TIPS TIPS TIPS. Carnaval is the best!!!
It’s interesting how it’s different in other countries here the couple both decide the marriage and they both have rings
And they go ring shopping together. The simpler the rings and wedding is better and more blessed.
yay!!! omg, congratulations!!! :) You guys are the coolest.
Love you guys! One thing I want to point out is you’re associating marriage with this legal side but marriage can be the ceremony the celebration of marriage wedding and all that is what is meaningful the legal stuff I think most would not care to do and would probably skip if they didn’t have to. But idk!
The push for women to be married earlier then later is due to babies. The older women get it’s just harder and can be a health risk to have children. But I could be wrong but that’s just my guess!
Great topic! 💗💗
True!!! Thanks for sharing that! 💕💕
I love this. Thank you for sharing such a special moment with us. It's so nice knowing that my partner & I aren't alone when it comes to our "non-traditional" views on marriage & weddings. To share the same sentiments as both of you, no issues with others going the "traditional" route, but it's refreshing to hear people really emphasize what the meaning of a marriage means at its core. It's about you & your person. To mirror what most people have already said, it's great that you both did this in your own way! Endless blessings to both of you & your union 💕 💕
NOVEMBER 18!!
November 18th! Dayum guys im SHOCKED!!! So happy for you both, but totally just was not expecting this like ive kinda been thinking about it all day. I'm currently engaged & to be married in a month 😂 so it was great to know what your opinion is!! We're similar in some ways, for us its a spiritual choice to want to take that step together in our relationship, but we are keeping our elopement super small & intimate, i feel like thats the only way we could make the day (almost) no stress & actually about us as a couple!
Lots of love to you two 🥰
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LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS S**T!!!! guys, i knew that you guys are on podcast, and thought to myself, i'll check it out when I run out of content to consume on podcast platform (being honest) because I don't usually listen to a podcast where people talk and have a conversation on random topics in a casual manner. i'm not saying those kinds are bad, but i get that kind of content on CZcams, and have kept podcast to be a place for education vs. entertainment. you guys changed that though!! just subscribed your podcast on Apple... i don't know, i will just say i loved this episode. it's funny that CZcams finally surfaced a video from your Podcast channel after me following and consuming Alia's content for the longest time. and i'm sold immediately. i'm looking forward to binge-listening to your podcast. i'm going backwards from here -- just downloaded the 'over communicate' episode to listen to later tonight during my walk 🥰🥰🤩🤩
November 18 ✨🫶🫶 congratulations you guys!!!! 🥹
Congratulations. Loved the way u got married.
OMG i did what Yone did when thinking about who i'd marry when i was a kid :D
Congratz!!! Happy for you guys 😍
Love y’all 💕💕💕💕
i love you guys talking about brazil for real!
November 18th. Love your authenticity!!!
congrats on getting married! i do agree a lot with you guys, especially on the expensive rings, expectations etc. but to many cultures and religions marriage isn't just a piece of paper or a legal thing, to Christians for example it's a sacrament, i.e an "outward sign of Gods grace/goodness". its a spiritual bond per se. and usually engagements are just periods of time to prepare for the wedding especially when its a big event with tons of people. i guess those are the reasons why people are engaged for typically 6-12 months. just wanted to share perspective on that. hugs from Malaysia!
Whatttt? Congratulations you guys! I loved loved loved this episode and i really agree with what Alia said with all the gender stuff! I can see how much you both love each other and it's the cutest thing!❤
november 18th!!! WOW i loved this episode sm, love u guys
I loved this so much
This episode
November 18th. Love you guys! This podcast definitely resonated with me and how I feel about marriage. 🧃